UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

I get a lot of emails, Facebook, and Instagram messages from you guys. And although I love to hear from all of you, due to the sheer volume of these messages, I can’t respond to all of them directly. So today, I’m answering some of your questions and exploring the topics that you’d like to get coached on. For this episode, I’ve chosen questions and topics that many of you struggle with and I think all of you will learn from.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/42

On this episode, we take a look at the reality behind drama and who really causes it in your life. I explain why you should actually consider spending more time with people who you think affect your vibe and show you exactly what you need to do to totally escape drama and toxic people with only a small change.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/41

A bonus interview with Jami.If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit https://unfckyourbrain.com/the-society to learn more.

Are you usually emotionally exhausted by the end of the day? Do you obsess over whether other people are upset with you (even if there’s no actual evidence to support it)? If you can relate to any of the above, it’s a sign that you don’t have appropriate boundaries and you don’t have emotional resilience.  Discover whether you’re emotionally reactive to what’s going on around you and how it may be affecting your day-to-day.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/40

I believe that most people misunderstand what potential is and what it actually means. This is a deep topic that has a lot of ramifications for how we think about the past and the future and what we can achieve in our lives. Listen in as we take a look at the difference between being past-focused and future-focused and how each approach affects the results you see in your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/39

You probably already accept the idea that not all of your thoughts are true. With that in mind, what should you believe? On this episode, I explain why no one can tell you want to think and share a quite counterintuitive framework for evaluating thoughts and deciding whether you want to believe them. I then show you how you can come up with your own new helpful thoughts that are in line with your goals.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/38

Listen in as we take a look at three thought errors that are running in the back of your mind, holding you back from working on your emotional health and making progress. Join me as I show you how you can make a few simple mindset shifts that will deeply enrich not only your life but the lives of those around you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/37

A couple of weeks ago, we talked about perfectionism and how so many of us love to make unrealistic plans and never keep them or see them through to the end. This week, I want to take a deeper dive into the topic of perfectionism – the insidious trait that many smart people suffer from – and look at two powerful tools for managing it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/36

On this episode, I want to talk about why you should consider welcoming negative emotions that come up in your life and how this practice can help you live a rich and fulfilled life. Join me to discover how to develop a better relationship with yourself and enjoy a well-balanced human experience.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/35

So many of us go through life without really making decisions for ourselves or understanding the decisions we made. Then one day, we wake up and find ourselves surprised at how we got to where we are, not sure if we even wanted it for ourselves. So how do you break that cycle of living by someone else’s rulebook and getting the results you don’t want in your life?Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/34

I often see many of my clients trying to use a gratitude practice against themselves in a way that can be quite harmful to their mental health. In this episode, I want to talk to you about how to tell if you’re misusing gratitude or maybe even using it as a weapon against yourself.  Join me to discover what you can do to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start thinking about gratitude in a way that serves you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/33

This week, I want to teach you one of the best tools that I learned from my coach – the power of asking better questions. Join me as I explain how asking dead-end questions is affecting your brain and show you how to ask questions that stimulate your brain to find answers that will move you toward goals.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/32

On this episode, I talk about how your reaction to other people’s gender-based discrimination may be impacting your emotional state and creating unnecessary suffering and drama in your mind. I explain how judging, resisting or resenting others for their thoughts actually keeps you stuck in the constant loop of judging yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/31Download the Confidence Cheat Sheet. It's totally free! https://www.unfckyourbrain.com/podcastconfidence

On this episode, I explain why, no matter what ideologies you internalized over the years, you DO NOT have to earn pleasure and you’re 100% entitled to it. We also take a look at the important distinction between real and false pleasure and why neither should be a solution to any of your emotional problems.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/30Download the Confidence Cheat Sheet. It's totally free! https://www.unfckyourbrain.com/podcastconfidence

This week, I decided to give you a behind-the-scenes look at my annual review and share the important lessons that I learned along the way. Join me to hear 5 most important things that I've learned from going through the process of growing my business 5x times and find out how you can apply these lessons in your own life and business/career.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/29

On this episode, I want to explore why, contrary to the popular belief, being a leader is not about an attachment to a certain outcome and dependent on controlling others. Join me as I share what you need to do to become a great leader who is able to inspire and advocate for her ideas effectively.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/28

A bonus interview with Shira.If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit  https://unfckyourbrain.com/the-society to learn more.

In this episode, we explore what it really means to be busy and why we choose to inflict busyness on ourselves. We take a look at the two forms of the “I’m so busy” that we use in our daily lives and why both of them are highly unhelpful. Tune in to find out how you can stop using “busy” as a way to stress yourself out and find out how to never feel too busy to make real progress on your important projects and initiatives.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/27

A bonus interview with Nancy.If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit  https://unfckyourbrain.com/the-society to learn more.

Today, I want to give you a sense of what the deeper, second level teachings that we do in the UnF*ckYour Brain program look like and teach you an advanced level topic - taking responsibility for other people’s feelings (Emotional Adulthood 2.0). We take a look at how your prior programming is causing you to feel responsible for how other people feel and act, and why it is actually not a loving thing to do.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/26

Today, I'm going doing something a little bit different. As our flock grows, I know that some of you may not know much about me or my story - where I came from. So today I'm going to share with you a little bit about me. I'm sharing this with you so that you can see that where you are now, the heaviness you feel, the pressure, does not have to be your future reality.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/my-story-2

On this episode, we take another look at the real reason why, when presented with two or more choices, we often get paralyzed, unable to make a decision. From the questions you need to ask yourself to help you make a decision, to how to deal with the doubt, fear and regret, you’ll learn how to be a more decisive person, able to love the result of whatever decision you make. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/25

On this episode, we dive into the reasons why confusion is an indulgent emotion and why you actually like to stay confused. We also explore exactly where confusion comes from and why there’s no such thing as a right or wrong decision. I'm sharing a step-by-step process you can start using today to begin relieving confusion about anything in your life to make uncertainty, indecision, and fear a thing of the past.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/24

We are taught as children, that our parents are supposed to meet our needs – emotional and material. When we grow up, we are “supposed to” substitute other people, like friends and romantic partners, for our parents, who should also meet our needs.On this episode the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, I explain why this type of reasoning is insane and teach you one of my favorite tools for revolutionizing your love life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/23

On this episode, I want to talk to you about what actually creates lasting transformation. It’s an integral step in the process of unf*cking your brain that many of you miss simply because you’ve never been taught how to do it. Are you ready to see what you’re really capable of accomplishing?Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/22

This week on the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, we’re doing something bit different. On this episode, I want to teach you through a 2-way conversation – a 20-minute coaching call with your fellow listener, totally live an unscripted – on the topic of dealing with a difficult person in her work life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/21

This week's episode of Unf*ck Your Brain is going to blow your mind. I'm talking about something all of us experience that can be extremely detrimental to our well-being if left unnoticed and unmanaged but, once we understand it and learn to use it to our benefit, can also set us free! That concept is confirmation bias.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/20 

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Today on Unf*ck Your Brain, I'm talking about something I know all of you have felt at one time or another. In fact, it is such a universal part of the human condition, it has been called the "most human emotion" and that is shame. Learn how to question your shame and start building the skills to remove it from your life completely.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/19

This week, I want to teach you one of my favorite coaching tools for achieving tremendous results in any part of your life – taking massive action. Join me as I explain how this simple, yet powerful, tool can help you change your relationship with failure, eliminate doubt and fear, and allow you to get exactly what you want.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/18

Tune in to get your mind blow as I share my own personality theory that will challenge everything you think you know about the "type" of person you are... beginning with the question, "What if you don't have a personality at all?"Get full show notes and more information here:  https://unfckyourbrain.com/17

I know the topic of self-love feels a little confrontational for a lot of you, but I want you to stick with me today as I share how it's possible for you to see all of your best qualities, be compassionate about your shortcomings, and feel amazing about yourself... without becoming a delusional narcissist. So pop in those earbuds and get ready to learn how to love yo' self (no positive affirmations required) and get shit done!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/16

On this episode of Unf*ck Your Brain, I want to talk about why we constantly compare ourselves to others - even though it makes us feel bad - and the role two major societal systems have in perpetuating the issue, especially for women. Join me as I explain why constantly comparing yourself to others is a problem and how you can learn to stop.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/15

On this episode, I want to dig into the reasons why we have a poor relationship with money and share my personal story of how I shifted my money beliefs through coaching. Join me as I share the most important money mind shifts that you can implement to become more successful in your business and your career.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/14

Until the last couple of years, I hated having my photos taken, no matter where they were shot, what I was wearing, or how I looked.  All I saw in them were my flaws: my frizzy hair, double chin, belly rolls my height… you name it. The self-criticism was endless, and the family events and online dating were a nightmare.After using some of the tools that I will share with you on today’s episode, I am now able to genuinely see myself as photogenic without lying to myself. Join me as I share my favorite brain hacks for learning to love how you look in photos (as well as real life) and transform your life forever.Make sure to download the free Love Any Photo of Yourself Workbook to help you with this process!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/13

On this episode of UnF*ck Your Brain, we take a look at why our brain is so good at remembering and focusing on negative outcomes and not so great at conjuring up good ones and how that affects our mind chatter. Discover how you can begin rewiring your brain out of the deeply ingrained habit of focusing on the negative to focus more on the thoughts that serve you and move you closer to where you want to go.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/12

On today’s episode, I break down what stress really is and why it is not necessary despite the conditioning of society that says that stress is good for productivity, that it drives us, that it’s fuel for achieving greatness. Discover what your life could be and how you can open up space for intrinsic motivation by changing your thoughts about what role stress plays in your success.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/11

On this episode, we explore two powerful tools for keeping your commitments and reaching any goal happen 100% of the time. We also take a look at how choice overwhelm and decision fatigue hold us back and dive into the strategy that will help you achieve success in the new year and beyond.Get full show notes and more information here: http://bit.ly/2CaBIvK

In this short but important episode, I explain the immense benefits of investing in your mental and emotional health, why it's a feminist issue, and why you can’t afford not to begin this work in 2018.Get full show notes and more information here: http://bit.ly/2D4q2Lj

Today, I want to talk to you about settling – what it’s all about, why you do it, and the harmful effects of settling. Listen in to discover why you should consider putting an end to your stagnation and scarcity thinking and how you can stop settling and start living a full, extraordinary life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/8

No matter what your body looks like it IS possible to feel great with no clothes on; and on this episode, I explain exactly how you can get to that place.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/7

Today, we're talking about how you can get more things done in a given time and avoid unnecessary anxiety in the process. We also take a look at the reasons why you’re not getting as much done as you want or need to.Join us as I explain how you can create a clear system and organize your work and personal life to have more time, save mental energy, and eliminate overwhelm.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/6

Today, we’re talking about how to survive family time during the stressful holiday season. Join me on this episode as I share a powerful strategy to help you prepare for family time, skip the drama, and actually enjoy your holidays.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/5

This week, we're talking about how our society and upbringing has affected our subconscious (and conscious) thinking to constantly engage in people pleasing. Join us as I explain why we often choose to prioritize others’ wants and needs over our own and the detrimental effects this has on our personal and professional lives.Get full show notes and more information here: http://bit.ly/2AKodlm

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On this episode, we take a look at how most of us try to “fix” our lack of confidence and examine why trying to accomplish something external will never solve this issue. Join us as I explain how self-confidence really works and how you can begin creating it in your own life.Get full show notes and more information here: http://bit.ly/2A1Oxu7

In this episode, we take a deep dive into the topic of Imposter Syndrome and examine the roots of this damaging thought pattern.Join us for an exploration of how Imposter Syndrome is holding you back in your career and personal life and discover tips and strategies for overcoming this feeling and fear that you’ll be “found out” to be undeserving or unqualified, or revealed as a fraud.Get full show notes and more information here: http://bit.ly/2htgaBh

On this episode, we explore the process that causes the disconnect between our beliefs and actions, and exactly why you feel bad about it. Listen in as I share a step-by-step process to help you stop feeling like a “bad feminist” and actually practice what you believe in without anything holding you back.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/1

In this episode, I decided to share my story because I think many of you will identify with it and find it helpful to hear how I used coaching to change my own life. Join me to discover how I was able to apply coaching to my own life to help close the gap between intellectually understanding the feminist principles and actually living them.Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelawyerstresssolution.com/my-story/

On this episode, I want to talk to you about the two main reasons why we neglect advocating for ourselves in our work and personal life. We explore how your self-talk holds you back and how following internalized conditioning, and then criticizing yourself for doing so, creates a limiting force in all areas of your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelawyerstresssolution.com/self-talk-soundtrack/