UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

This week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/90

This week, I'm helping you see why you're not getting as much done as you'd like and how to deal with the discomfort of having to actually practice focusing in your daily life.If productivity and multitasking are things that are holding you back, this episode is for you. It's not going to be easy, but try out my tips for focusing today and I can guarantee your life is going to be transformed.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/89

Join me today as I give you a short and sweet episode on the behavior of complaining, and why it's so detrimental to you both physically and mentally. I challenge you to try out this diet and see if the results make a difference in your life!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/88

Join me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/87

Today, I'm digging into the idea of PTSD and something you may not have heard of before - post-traumatic growth. I'm giving you a clear description of what trauma actually is and how you can help yourself get through it. There are some really important key points I'm sharing today that will help you work towards emotional resiliency to change your experiences going forward.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/86

Trying to find the balance in dealing with a child, while setting boundaries and expectations can be tricky, especially because you can't control their behavior - even if you think you can. Join me this week as I outline the three key points to consider when setting boundaries with your kids so you can be a parent without all the emotional drama that comes along with being one!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/85

Dr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, "I talk to myself more than I listen to myself," and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don't realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think. Today, I want to shed some light on how you can start to talk to your brain in a proactive way that will positively change the discourse in your mind.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/84

As we try to change our results, we often try thinking new thoughts. I'm exposing why just thinking a new thought isn't going to have the same effect as truly believing it, and why this is crucial to grasp when you're working on your thought ladder.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/83

Listen in to uncover how you can set out to create positive emotion from scratch. Applying this concept is going to give you a more embodied experience of your emotions and strengthen the connection between your thoughts and feelings!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/82

Join me today, my chickens, as I teach you some tools and ways of thinking about pain and chronic illness, or acute illness. I have some great resources to share that may be able to help you reduce or eliminate the physical pain itself once you stop believing that it means something is going wrong.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/81

On today's episode, I break down why judgment is not serving you, especially as you embark on your thought work journey, and how practicing curiosity instead will open you to a much richer experience. The difference between judging your thoughts and having curiosity is a huge shift: curiosity doesn’t assume to know the answer. Curiosity doesn’t evaluate if something is good or bad. Curiosity doesn’t have an opinion. Curiosity pays attention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/80

There is a downside to categorizing ourselves by personality tests and attachment styles. Before we learn to manage our thoughts and choose them on purpose, having a diagnostic of those thoughts can have a detrimental effect on our belief in our ability to change. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/79

Join me on this episode to discover how to start implementing the practice of truly allowing your negative feelings. Baby steps are crucial in working on your skeptical brain, and starting here is going to help you tremendously with your self-coaching.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/78

My goal of replacing my salary through coaching has shown me that even positive thoughts can keep you stuck, and plateaus can happen to all of us. Massive thinking is one of my biggest takeaways from this last year, and I'm exploring how up-leveling your current mindset has to happen at every stage of your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/77

On a previous episode, I talked about the distinction between positive and negative motivation and action, and the way we're taught that negative emotions lead to positive actions. Many of us think our anger will motivate us to take actions, believing this will change things, but I'm hoping to share some insight that will shed a little light on why this is a mistaken thought pattern.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/76

If you're confused or frustrated because the steps you're taking aren't working or getting you any closer to your goals, I'm giving you the answer today. Discover where you might be going wrong in your endeavors to get what you want. What I'm sharing today may seem obvious, but you'll be surprised when you slip back and catch yourself relying on actions alone to create your results.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/75

Tune in as I reflect on the biggest gifts podcasting has given me and how I've worked on them to create a successful seven-figure business!Text your email (all lowercase) to 347-997-1784 and reply with "instagram" when prompted for the secret password to follow me on social media and get links to a couple of articles I wrote!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/74

Where you're most commonly going wrong in your thought work and why the answer to your questions never lies in simply choosing the right action to take.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/73To help you on your path to becoming your best selves, I designed a workbook called Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done! Text your email address to 347-997-1784 and then text "feelbetter" when it prompts you for the secret password.

I'm taking a slightly different route on the podcast this week, bringing you a metaphor that is going to act as an amazing tool for your thought work. Today, I'm using neuroscience to demonstrate the real power of your brain and why confirmation bias exists.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/72Text your email address to 347-997-1784 for a worksheet that you can use to help adjust the prescription on your skepticals. Reply with "skeptical" (all lowercase).

Get a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)

I see so many erroneous beliefs around the feeling of love and I'm going to clear them up on today's episode. What I'm uncovering on this podcast may be a little unsettling at first, but will really set you free in your relationships with others, whether they are someone you love so much you couldn't bear to lose them or someone you hate and never want to see again.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/71Get a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)

Discover the difference between clean and dirty pain, and how embracing this concept can diminish so much unnecessary suffering in your life. Emotional pain and misery are bound to come up, but this tool is going to help you flow through it with less resistance.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/70

On this episode, we’re covering topics of dealing with unsolicited advice from others, what to do when you’re someone who’s being “rude,” and body image issues.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfckyourbrain.com/69

Join me today as I break down the three elements of a regret thought pattern and share how you can start feeling better today by changing your thoughts. You don't have to change what happened in the past. You only need to change how you think about it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/68

You don't have to change your negative thoughts right away - it's okay to sit with them for a bit. I like to call this the Struggle Bus. You might be struggling with some negative emotion, but you're still moving forward. You're still showing up to do everything you need to do.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/67

On this episode, we’re diving into topics like addressing things that are outside of our control, social anxiety and insecurities, meeting your own needs, the five love languages, applying thought work to physical pain, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfckyourbrain.com/66

Join me this week as I answer questions about what I think about antidepressants and other medications, dealing with Trump supporters, boundary violations, thought work around “toxic” family members, people pleasing, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/65

Join me this week to learn how to believe new things harder. I share the three mistakes I see in thought work when people are not believing hard enough and how to get past them. Believing new things on purpose is work. It's going to feel like work. That's the good news. Because the good news is if it feels terrible sometimes, you're doing it right.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/64

Tune in this week as I talk about dealing with your past regrets, body image, speaking your truth, mending (or not) relationships, dealing with recurring thoughts, and much more!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/63

Let’s start this year off with a chat about self care as many of us will be making resolutions to take better “care” of ourselves... and then falling back into old habits 3 weeks later. Join me today as I break down what self care really is and why managing our minds is the ultimate self care practice.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/62

Tune in this week as I answer questions on the topics of managing “toxic” family members around your kids, thought management around physical touch, controlling your mind around uncontrollable circumstances, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/61

In this episode, I talk about the differences between jealousy and envy and how they relate to other emotions. They both hinge on the thought that you need something external - money, a certain job, a romantic partner, a friend - to be happy and that you will be unhappy without it. Join me today to hear why confidence alone won't solve issues with jealousy.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/60

Join me this week as I answer questions on the topics of self-love, people with intuitively-managed minds, changing go-to thoughts, finding love, dreaming about your problems, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/59

Understanding FOMO and taking the steps to work through your thoughts around your current or future circumstances can make a tremendous difference in the level of happiness and fun you’re allowing yourself to have in any given moment. Listen in to hear how!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/58

Listen in as we explore topics like handling criticism and feedback, intuition vs bad thoughts, managing intrusive thoughts, the struggle between choosing comfort vs growth, and more!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/57

Join me today for a tough look at how so many of us are letting our fears of shame and rejection keep us from putting ourselves out there enough to reach our goals. I can't tell you how many "no"s you need to hear but I can say that every no gets you closer to the "yes" you want and the only thing holding you back is your unwillingness to hear the no.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/56

A lot of us are paranoid about what other people think about us, especially in social situations. But just because your mental default is to worry about other people's opinions about you, doesn't make this a permanent state of mind.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/55

Join me as we get into topics like managing your mind under the influence of alcohol, mind over matter, cultivating confidence, managing thoughts of resentment, being around people with different religious beliefs than your own and more!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/54

This week, we have another installment of the Listener Q & As. In this episode, we dive into topics such as dealing with overwhelm, empathy vs compassion, fortune-telling, teaching thought work to young kids, relationships, boundaries, and more! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/53

On this episode, we take a deep dive into the topic of trust and explore the common misconceptions about it that are holding you back. After listening to this episode, I’d like for you to get curious about what trust really means for you and whether it’s necessary to have it for others at all.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/52

This week, I am back with another round of questions from all of you and my tough-love answers. Today, we’re digging into a number of topics such as dealing with ‘problem’ coworkers, letting go of shame around past mistakes, feeling more lovable, and helping others.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/51

Today, I want to teach you more in-depth about people-pleasing and why I think we should stop using that terminology. Join me today for People-Pleasing 2.0 and discover how this behavior sabotages your authenticity and perpetuates dishonest relationships. Plus, I share a couple of steps to ending this deceptive cycle. Awareness is key, my chickens. Notice your thoughts and you can change them!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/50

In this episode, I’ll talk about the assumptions most of us make about friendship and discuss why it’s important to refresh how you think about your friends. Listen in as I reveal how you might be blocking yourself from fully enjoying your friendships – then I’ll tell you what you can do to flip this script and appreciate the many friendships the world can offer you if you just know where to look.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/49

Join me this week as I answer more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from boundaries, relying on external validation, cultivating self-confidence, family and relationship issues and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/48

This week, I explain what a boundary is and why everything that you have previously known about boundaries is most likely wrong (or at least highly unhelpful). Join me as I show you what a boundary is not and how to tell if you’re ready to set a boundary and how to do it in a way that serves you and your emotional state.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/47

After the last listener Q & A episode, I got a lot of great feedback from you guys and have since received a ton of new questions. Today, I am answering more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from relationship advice and workplace issues to my morning and nighttime routines.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/46

Constraint is one of the mind management tools that has had a huge impact on my ability to achieve ambitious goals, and quickly and exponentially grow my business and podcast. And on this episode, I am excited to show you how you can properly use constraint in your life to create more time, hit big milestones, and level up any area of your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/45

This week, I want to talk to you about the concept of catastrophizing, or imagining all the possible future negative scenarios that could happen and emotionally reacting as if they were real. We take a look at why we do this and how it impacts the results we have in our life. I share three simple but powerful tools that will help you kick your catastrophizing habit to the curb.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/44

On this episode, we take a look at why restricting yourself from having or doing something that you want – whether it’s food, alcohol, or spending – does not work. Join me as I show you how to change your thinking from restriction mode to the type of thinking that will help you achieve the positive results you desire in all areas of your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/43

I get a lot of emails, Facebook, and Instagram messages from you guys. And although I love to hear from all of you, due to the sheer volume of these messages, I can’t respond to all of them directly. So today, I’m answering some of your questions and exploring the topics that you’d like to get coached on. For this episode, I’ve chosen questions and topics that many of you struggle with and I think all of you will learn from.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/42