UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Join me today to gain a deeper understanding of what is going on in your brain right now. This first step is crucial to changing the state of panic that you might be experiencing. I’ll also be highlighting how the news and social media can feed into the frenzy that your mind is going through.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/pandemic-peace-1

Join me this week to discover how you might be disempowering yourself by not embracing the agency you have over your own life. There is no right or wrong, failure or success. You can have any adventure you want, and there is no wrong story to write.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/125

Join me as I share some tools that you can practice to help you see why you might be feeling fear right now, as well as some reminders about the news and social media and the role it plays in your mental health. Acting out of fear will always feel terrible, and so I’m sharing my pandemic mission statement and some affirmations that you can use too, to help you be in control of your brain and manage your thoughts.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/pandemic-panic/

Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, I’m showing you how to start creating true transformation in the long-run.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/124

Discover the true impact of patriarchy on our brains through the concept of heuristics. I'm giving you the basics of how our brain unconsciously absorbs the messages we’re taught and creates reasoning shortcuts, and then how that ties into the patriarchy and our experience as people socialized as women.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/123

As you learn about thought work and start using these tools to change your life, it’s only natural to want to speed things up, change all of your beliefs, and start getting the results you want right away. Something I’ve seen every single one of my students do at some point is ‘silver-lining’ their thoughts to feel better, and today I’m showing you how this isn’t conducive to the process and why it doesn’t work.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/122

Join me this week to discover how practicing the skill of managing your mind can be the greatest gift you can give yourself. I’m now more kind and compassionate to myself in moments of intense suffering and negativity, and you too will get to see the transformations that are truly possible if you apply this work.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/121

Join me this week to see if you can identify with some of the limiting beliefs I was holding onto around family and romantic relationships, and see how you could free yourself of thoughts that aren’t serving you. Make sure to tune in next week as I dive into friendships and other social relationships too!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/120

On today’s episode, I’m diving into my relationship with my body image, work, and money mindset, and how that has shifted over the years of doing this work. A lot has changed since I first started in 2015, and I’m sharing the progress I’ve seen in those areas, as well as the habitual thought patterns that occasionally still show up.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/119

Listen in today to gain a new perspective on why it’s so hard to fundamentally understand that other people have totally different thoughts to you, and how you buy into the assumptions you have about what’s going on in their brain. If you don’t know what a model is, I’m giving you the basics to help you understand this concept better, and I’m also sharing my interpretation of what empathy really means.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/118

Listen in as I take a deep dive into entitlement, how it shows up and why, and a new way to start thinking about the results you want that will save you time and energy, instead of sitting in entitlement, which drains all of your resources and leaves you in emotional drama.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/117

This week, we’re talking about the past and how you think about it in terms of forgiveness and blame. As most people are looking to the future now that 2020 has begun, I’m taking it back so you can start seeing your future in a new way and release yourself from the suffering you might be experiencing.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/116

I’ve received questions on podcasting and how to be a credible host, what I think draws people to coaching and how to be a coach people are drawn to, and my thoughts on carrying your clients’ emotions as you coach them. I’m also responding to some questions you guys had on confidence and my best advice on how to be successful.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/115

This week, I’m diving into the basic premise of desire and why changing how we think about it can be so transformational. We tend to want to push this feeling away when we can’t have something, or rush to acquire the object of our desires if we can have it, but I want to suggest a new way to approach this feeling.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/114

I hope my answers are helpful in getting you into the new year with a well-managed mind to create all the results you want. I’m sharing my thoughts on unrequited love and whether it’s a problem, the basis of libido and sexual attraction, and how to ask better questions when it comes to creating anything that you want in your life.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/113

Join me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/112

I’m answering work and self-worth related questions today, and I’ve seen a link across almost all the questions I’ve received. You might think these questions don’t relate to your specific circumstance if it’s not something you’re dealing with, but I’m sure you’ll find a common thread in your own life when you listen to my answers.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/111

This week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/110

Listen in today as I bring you a short and sweet episode, but one that is so powerful in changing how you perceive your story and what might be going on for you right now. Using this thought whenever you’re struggling will help you see that you can handle any emotion and that nothing has gone wrong.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/109

Join me this week as I share the process I use when I feel triggered to grow and learn more about myself. I want this episode to act as a reminder that taking actions to move away from what feels bad isn’t a solution, and that there is so much missed opportunity when you do this.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/108

Listen in today as I give you a different perspective on the fear of uncertainty and how you can start to slowly let go of it. You don’t have to be terrified and let it stunt your growth. In fact, you can discover a whole new way of using thought work and stretch yourself in ways you never would have imagined.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/107

The questions I've received over the past week were so interesting and thoughtful, and I’m excited to address these topics on the podcast today.They range from how thought work aligns with the concept of mindfulness, questions about coaching others and how I facilitate coaching sessions, to whether there is a right or wrong reason to practice thought work.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/106

The topics I’m covering range from general questions on classic thought work issues to some more specific questions from life coaches that I think will be super helpful to all of you. From the importance of niches, the belief that external factors could make you happy, to letting go of your emotional childhood, I’ve got it all covered today.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/105

It can be absolutely crippling and produce more anxiety than necessary, especially when we preemptively think about how we’ll feel when we have to get out there and perform. So this week, I’m approaching this concept from a slightly different perspective to show you what it really is, how we often exacerbate this negative feeling, and how to start resolving it.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/104

If there are things you want to achieve in your life or business but you’re worried about the expense, or not having enough time, or whether it’ll all work perfectly the way you imagine, today’s episode is for you. I’m highlighting these thoughts that have been running in your mind day in and day out, to help you look at them, and decide if you want to keep them.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/103

In this episode, I’m outlining my beliefs on internalized biases. We all have them, whether we’re conscious of them or not, as we live in a society where people have explicitly or implicitly taught us certain biases. It can be difficult to accept the thoughts we deem to be wrong or ugly that we’ve internalized about ourselves or others, but rejecting them is far from useful.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/102

The human ecosystem is a concept that I developed early on in my own thought work journey when I was trying to change the behaviors I didn’t like in the people around me - especially my partner at the time - but keep the ones I did. Sound familiar? Today, I’m taking a deep dive into this concept to show you how it applies to anyone in your life, including yourself, or any circumstance you experience.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/101

Join me this week to discover how the infinite 1% tool can shift your mindset completely. The difference between not doing anything and doing something 1% is huge so I hope you embrace it and start implementing this in your life because you will see some amazing transformations.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/100

Join me this week as I break down the way we process the feelings of safety and danger. These feelings are no exception to thought work, and it’s something we need to work on to teach our lizard brains that our perception of our safety is our responsibility and can be managed.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/99

On this episode, I’m covering some really common themes that I see a lot. If you’re working on your social anxiety, if you’re struggling in your relationships, or having anxiety-producing thoughts in the middle of the night, this one is for you.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/98

Do you ever find yourself consciously committing to a new goal or habit and then failing at it? I think everyone can relate to, at some point or another, trying to do something new and it seemingly just not working out. This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I call unconscious commitments; understanding this is going to be life-changing in getting more clarity on why you sometimes have a hard time achieving your goals.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/97

This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I first learned in yoga – beginner’s mind. I’m all about growth and evolution, and as humans, we naturally want to advance in anything we do. With that in mind, I’m delving into why learning to cultivate the beginner’s mind is crucial to actually improving your skills and advancing in your abilities.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/96

We're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely looking them in the eye.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/94

Discover how you might be subconsciously sabotaging whatever problem you're facing. I'm sharing why this is actually normal and how you can start to solve it for good. Working through this is truly one of the keys to unlocking the possibilities of your own life.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/93

I've got two tools that are seemingly straightforward in helping you break any of your ingrained numbing habits, but it's going to require lots of practice in order to use them to your advantage. Breaking habituated patterns takes effort because most of the time it's happening unconsciously, and it often makes us feel anxious when we act against our own will, which is why these tools are going to be challenging but life-changing.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/92

Working on bringing awareness to compulsive behaviors means being able to enjoy these activities mindfully, without the end goal of numbing. I'm focusing on the distinction that exists, and why we feel the need to get a break from our feelings, which is totally normal. Stay tuned because next week, I'll be teaching you how to start changing these habits if you want to.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/91

This week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/90

This week, I'm helping you see why you're not getting as much done as you'd like and how to deal with the discomfort of having to actually practice focusing in your daily life.If productivity and multitasking are things that are holding you back, this episode is for you. It's not going to be easy, but try out my tips for focusing today and I can guarantee your life is going to be transformed.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/89

Join me today as I give you a short and sweet episode on the behavior of complaining, and why it's so detrimental to you both physically and mentally. I challenge you to try out this diet and see if the results make a difference in your life!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/88

Join me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/87

Today, I'm digging into the idea of PTSD and something you may not have heard of before - post-traumatic growth. I'm giving you a clear description of what trauma actually is and how you can help yourself get through it. There are some really important key points I'm sharing today that will help you work towards emotional resiliency to change your experiences going forward.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/86

Trying to find the balance in dealing with a child, while setting boundaries and expectations can be tricky, especially because you can't control their behavior - even if you think you can. Join me this week as I outline the three key points to consider when setting boundaries with your kids so you can be a parent without all the emotional drama that comes along with being one!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/85

Dr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, "I talk to myself more than I listen to myself," and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don't realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think. Today, I want to shed some light on how you can start to talk to your brain in a proactive way that will positively change the discourse in your mind.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/84

As we try to change our results, we often try thinking new thoughts. I'm exposing why just thinking a new thought isn't going to have the same effect as truly believing it, and why this is crucial to grasp when you're working on your thought ladder.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/83

Listen in to uncover how you can set out to create positive emotion from scratch. Applying this concept is going to give you a more embodied experience of your emotions and strengthen the connection between your thoughts and feelings!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/82

Join me today, my chickens, as I teach you some tools and ways of thinking about pain and chronic illness, or acute illness. I have some great resources to share that may be able to help you reduce or eliminate the physical pain itself once you stop believing that it means something is going wrong.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/81

On today's episode, I break down why judgment is not serving you, especially as you embark on your thought work journey, and how practicing curiosity instead will open you to a much richer experience. The difference between judging your thoughts and having curiosity is a huge shift: curiosity doesn’t assume to know the answer. Curiosity doesn’t evaluate if something is good or bad. Curiosity doesn’t have an opinion. Curiosity pays attention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/80

There is a downside to categorizing ourselves by personality tests and attachment styles. Before we learn to manage our thoughts and choose them on purpose, having a diagnostic of those thoughts can have a detrimental effect on our belief in our ability to change. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/79

Join me on this episode to discover how to start implementing the practice of truly allowing your negative feelings. Baby steps are crucial in working on your skeptical brain, and starting here is going to help you tremendously with your self-coaching.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/78

My goal of replacing my salary through coaching has shown me that even positive thoughts can keep you stuck, and plateaus can happen to all of us. Massive thinking is one of my biggest takeaways from this last year, and I'm exploring how up-leveling your current mindset has to happen at every stage of your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/77