UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Have you ever wondered when you should manage your mind versus when you should take action? Would you like to know the single question that will get you 90% of where you need to go in a coaching session? Are you curious about what my best piece of business advice is for new business owners?Tune in to this week’s episode as I answer these and more questions from coaches about business and coaching. You’ll find out why there’s no such thing as knowing your niche, how you can get your clients to take a different perspective, and how to know when to switch from offering 1:1 to group coaching.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/256

In this bonus episode, I dive deep into the perfectionist brain with my friend and coaching colleague, Dr. Katrina Ubell. Tune in to my conversation with Katrina to learn why not all coaching tools work for all brains, how perfectionist thinking can hold us back from reaching (or even setting) our goals and how it keeps us stuck in a cycle of allowing anyone but ourselves to be the authority over our own lives. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/perfectionism-katrina-ubell/

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our bodies simply don’t work the way we want them to. Maybe it’s an occasional occurrence for you or maybe it’s something you live with every day. We take on all sorts of messages about what health is (and what it’s not), how we get healthy, and how we stay healthy. But is all of the social messaging we absorb really helping us measure health? Or is it something that has been designed and packaged to tell us how to measure our own morality and worth?Tune into my conversation with two of my students, Deb Malkin and Michelle Kapler, to learn why health is so challenging for so many of us, how we try to control our health, and how (as usual) trying to control something we can’t control, can make everything feel worse. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/255

Self-confidence goes by many names - self-love, self-esteem, self-regard. But no matter what you call it, it’s important to dig deep and examine whether yours is conditional or unconditional. When you’re constantly looking to outside factors to feel good about yourself, that’s conditional self-confidence. Conditional self-confidence has a big impact on our relationship with ourselves, but what are the larger implications?Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn the impact conditional self-confidence has on the way we seek out security, how it can create unhealthy patterns in our relationships with others, and how you can start cultivating unconditional self-confidence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/254

Being a first-generation immigrant and experiencing dual socialization (of any kind) profoundly shapes how you experience the world. And that’s exactly what I talk about on the podcast this week with two of the coaches from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching, Ana Lopez and Cris Berlingeri.Tune in to learn how dual socialization can help you clearly see how our thoughts are subjective, why it’s important to define cultural traditions vs. non-cultural traditions, and about the power of thought work to help you create the kind of life you want to live. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/253

I get a lot of questions from people who are new to thought work that have to do with gaslighting themselves. It’s a totally normal concern and one that I’ve talked about many times on the podcast. But here’s why it’s so interesting. It comes from the assumption that your original unconscious thoughts are better or carry more importance simply because it is your original subconscious thought. Why are we giving more importance to the first thing our brains spit out than the thoughts we intentionally cultivate ourselves?Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why our original thoughts aren’t necessarily our most helpful thoughts and how the most real or ‘you’ thoughts can be the ones you choose intentionally.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/252

Do you worry about the future? Do you stress and plan for a hundred different “worst case” scenarios in the hopes that doing so will make you more “prepared” for what’s to come? Humans evolved to fear uncertainty above all else, which kept us safe from starving to death or being eaten by a predator…but now, it’s a recipe for crippling anxiety.Tune in to today’s episode to learn how to solve your uncertainty problem so you can transform your fear into peace and acceptance.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/251

Most coaching training teaches that all coaching tools apply to everyone the same. That coaching is black and white. But when you’re aware of different lived experiences, different identities and systems of oppression in the world? And you understand how to navigate those with your clients in ways that help them feel empowered? That’s coaching in technicolor.Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn more about my intersectional approach to coaching, why I think intersectionality in coaching is so important, and how you can learn my framework to bring this work into your own coaching practice. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/250

For most people who dip their toes into the world of thought work for the first time, there are usually some questions that come up around subjectivity and reality. “If all thoughts are made up in our brains - is anything really true? How do I know if something is true?” But the truth is, our brains are making things up all the time. We’re actually hallucinating all the time (and no, you haven’t been unwittingly dosed with mushrooms!).Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn about the way our brains create our realities, why accepting something as reality first can make it more difficult to change your thoughts about it later, and why you should decide what to believe on purpose.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/249

Twice a week I lift weights with a trainer. This way of moving, yes, strengthens my body, but it has also done wonders for strengthening my brain. So what is the connection between mind and body? And how do we unravel the internalized messages we receive about our bodies to find where true confidence really comes from?In this special release podcast episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the Thick Thighs Save Lives podcast to learn practical tips on how to grow authentic confidence (no actual weightlifting required!).Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/248

A lot of people want to become entrepreneurs to enjoy the freedom that comes with being able to call your own shots. But at the first hint of any of entrepreneurship’s hallmark instability, they usually take it to mean they’re doing it wrong. This inherent brain error of only fantasizing about the positive and rejecting the negative is one I see play out time and time again in all facets of life.Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn about the inherent brain error and how it can hold you back, and the incredible difference it can make when you accept the full experience of whatever you choose.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/247

Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/246

At first glance it may seem like it’s a ‘bad’ or ‘unhelpful’ thought that’s holding you back from finding your perfect partner, landing your dream job, reaching the next revenue goal in your business, or having the kind of friendships you’ve always wanted. But upon further inspection, you may find that this thought is actually doing important, protective work in the background - especially if it’s one that you’ve tried time and time again to shift with no success.Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn how changing your thoughts about your thoughts can be just as transformative as changing the thoughts themselves, what rejecting yourself ahead of time may be protecting you from, and the importance of looking at both sides of a belief. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/245

The mindset women have around money has been affected in no small part by how we have been socialized. At my Feminist Business Mastermind a few weeks ago, I shared three main money mindset lessons that all women - whether you own a business or not - should hear.Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why understanding the nuanced difference between asking and offering is so important, why women have been socialized to believe they’re bad with money, and the importance of making sure you’ve carefully chosen your thoughts before you make an offer. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/244

Some of you know that I was a reproductive rights activist, advocate, litigator, and academic before I became a coach. So I am sadly not surprised by this decision as the writing has long been on the wall. But here's what I have to say as a coach: The Supreme Court has overturned Roe v. Wade.How do we meet this kind of challenge, from a coaching/thought work perspective?Today is a day of mourning for anyone who cares about human autonomy and freedom. This ruling is a violation of the rights of anyone who can get pregnant, and in keeping with a long history of patriarchal control over women/childbearing bodies. As usual, the burden will be worse for people of color, disabled people, poor people, and anyone else living in a marginalized identity or a retrogressive state.Thought work is not about finding a “silver lining” in human rights violations. It is not about seeing oppression as “perfect” because it exists.It is about equipping ourselves to return to the fight.It is about increasing our own resilience, to show up for what we believe, even when we seem to be losing.It is about reclaiming our own ability to make meaning of our struggles and our lives, no matter what circumstances we live in.It is about power in the one place that no one else can control: The inside of our own minds.This work is about liberating ourselves from the inside out, so that we can continue to work to liberate the world.So allow those emotions today. Anger, sadness, fear. Cry, grieve, scream, howl.And when you’re ready, manage your mind. Choose what you want to believe – about this decision, about this world, about yourself, about your capacity to hold your experience, to find joy, to create change, to help others.Many terrible Supreme Court decisions have been overturned in time. It is worth continuing the fight.If we give up in our own minds, we are giving up on the world. That's how the patriarchy wins. Don’t give up. P.S. If you want more guidance: I recommend Episode 31, What About Sexism, and Episode 70, Clean v. Dirty Pain.P.P.S. The quickest thing you can do to help equalize abortion access in a post-Roe world is to donate to local and state abortion funds that will pay for women to travel to states where abortion is still available. You can google to find one close to home or you can donate to the National Network of Abortion Funds here: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/supportabortionfunds?refcode=nnafwebsite Here is another list: https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/abortion-funds-to-donate-to-how-to-help-1351451/ 

While it would be nice if we could sit back and wait for our incredible intelligence and value to be recognized and rewarded, that unfortunately isn’t the way things work, especially for people socialized as women.My guest on the podcast this week, founder and CEO of Squad Isa Watson, has masterfully navigated the white male landscapes of science, tech, and now startup, as a Woman of Color, and has used managing her mind to succeed in each of them.Tune in to learn how creating opportunities for yourself and discomfort go hand in hand, why learning to be your own hype person is so important, how managing your mind can help when going through proper institutional channels (like HR) fails, and the difference between mentorship and sponsorship (and why you should intentionally cultivate the latter). Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/243

Have you ever wondered if we (or the entire human race) would enter into total anarchy and violence in the absence of self-judgment, worry over other people’s feelings, or agreement on ethics or morality? More importantly, have you ever wondered *why* you think that would be the case? It all boils down to whether or not you think humans are inherently good or inherently bad - to what you believe the nature of humans is.Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why it’s so critical to examine and intentionally choose your beliefs about human nature, how women’s socialization adds an additional complicated layer to the way we view human nature, and the role our beliefs about human nature play into how we motivate ourselves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/242

Annual mile markers, like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays prompt us to reflect on the past year. The act of reflection helps us to cultivate appreciation and enjoyment from our past experiences, but doing it in thoughtful ways is actually a really effective way we can work to create our future intentionally.I recently celebrated my 41st birthday, a milestone in my business, and my anniversary with my partner, and took time to do my own little ritual of reflection by answering just four simple questions. Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn what the four questions are and how the answers can help you create a future so good, you can’t even imagine it right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/241

People socialized as women are particularly susceptible to suffering from the burnout our entire country seems to be dealing with. That’s because they’re taught from an extremely young age that they have to take care of everyone else before they take care of themselves.This week I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Ali Ryan and Marissa McKool, as we look closely at how we define burnout and uncover the roles patriarchy and productivity play in it.Tune in to learn how you can begin to heal your burnout by figuring out what your unconscious commitments are and by identifying thought patterns about your to-do list at home, and how changing your thoughts around rest (while it may feel terrible at first) can help you prevent future burnout. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/240

It would be nice to think we can leave capitalism at the office when we go home for the day. But the truth is, its reach goes far beyond just the way we make, sell, and buy stuff. It can affect the ways we place value on the actual human beings who do the work, which in turn can lead to burnout, hustle culture, and even ableism. In this episode I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching Students, Tina Koch and Rachèle Summers, as we discuss the tricky triad of internalized ableism, productivity culture, and capitalism.Listen in to learn how you can begin changing productivity-related tendencies by examining the ‘shoulds’ in your life, how the first step in changing your internalized ableism is to approach your thoughts around it with compassion, and how you can begin pushing back on hustle culture and build emotional resilience by learning to sit with cognitive dissonance. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/239

There’s been a lot of talk about the invisible load the last few years (especially through Covid when women were literally trying to do it all). Pushing back against the invisible load can look like “dropping the ball.” But “dropping the ball” isn’t always safe for those socialized as women who also belong to other marginalized identities.Listen to this interview with two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Amelia Pleasant Kennedy and Shawna Saumel, to learn how the invisible load is connected to your emotional and physical energy, the importance of negotiation in a relationship, and how living in other marginalized identities can exacerbate a woman’s drive to achieve and do more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/238

It’s natural to want to stay in our comfort zones, to hang out or work with people who think like we do, to feel like we belong. But if you feel called to be a change maker in this world, you may find that you’ll have your greatest impact by stepping out of your insular world and into one where people don’t believe the same things you do. You may also find that fear of rejection will kick in full force when you think about striking out on your own.Listen to this podcast episode to learn the truth about seeking out belonging, how belonging can keep us stuck, and how to navigate the tension between belonging and making change. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/237

Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!).So, if your brain is hung up on what other people are thinking about you, what can you do to get some relief? Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn the very thought I recently coached one of my colleagues on that can help you give less of a sh*t about what other people are thinking about you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/236

Marriage and money. Opinions on these two topics certainly run the gamut. But whether you’re currently married, planning to get married, or marriage is the furthest thing from your mind, women’s relationship to money can be a tricky thing to unpack. And there’s good reason for this: the patriarchy has had its hands in women’s relationship to money since humans have roamed the earth.So, how do we begin to understand some of the thoughts we’ve long held when it comes to money, and shift them if we want to? Tune in to this week’s episode as board-certified dermatologist and wealth coach Dr. Bonnie Koo and I take a look at prenups, the twofold reason women tend to make less money than men, the importance of contracts in marriage and money, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/235

Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive?Defensiveness can be difficult to shift because of this very reason! But it also blocks our growth, so it’s worth examining. It doesn’t come naturally and can take time to learn, but defensiveness IS a quality you can shift if you’d like.Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to identify defensiveness, what defensiveness has to teach us about our relationship with ourselves, and questions you can ask yourself to begin diffusing defensiveness now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/234

We’ve heard the word trauma used liberally the past few years, both in relation to shared global events (like the pandemic) and in relation to more trivial things (like someone cutting in line at Starbucks).When a psychological concept goes mainstream, it’s bound to be understood differently by different people. So, what IS trauma? What is NOT trauma? And if we want to change the relationship with our trauma and the way it makes us feel, how can we guide ourselves to think differently about it?Tune in to this week’s episode as podcast host, New York Times best-selling author, speaker, and spiritual leader, Gabby Bernstein shares about her own trauma treatment story and the role curiosity and compassion have played in it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/233

We all have personal preferences. Do we like a partner who’s tall or short? Do we prefer friendships with people who have similar jobs to ours? Do we like a house in the suburbs or a condo in the middle of the city?And there’s nothing wrong with preferring one thing to another, whether it’s in dating, friendship, or where we live and work. But it is always worth examining the reasons behind our preferences and, if we want to, working to dismantle any thinking that’s causing us to have them.Tune in to this week’s episode as celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman and I talk about changing biased preferences in dating or in any other area of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/232

We often hear platitudes like “if it’s meant to be, it will be easy,” or “if it feels hard, maybe it’s not meant for you.” And while these phrases are usually said to make us feel better about work, relationships, or whatever the situation is at hand, there’s a danger in them, too. The truth is, emotional growth often feels TERRIBLE, so if we find ourselves constantly shying away from resistance or difficulty, we may also miss out on opportunities for BIG growth. Tune in to learn how to discern what’s worth emotional difficulty and what’s not. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/231

What is the difference between therapy and life coaching? Are the two modalities at odds with each other? When might you want to seek a therapist vs a coach to support you? In this week’s podcast episode, therapist and life coach Mollie Birney joins me for an exploration of these questions and more. Tune in to learn more about both therapy AND coaching, and how both modalities can support your own mental health journey. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/230

Coaching is about more than affirmations and good vibes. If you’ve ever wondered about the neurochemistry of thought work, this episode is for you. In it, I will interview Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist and bestselling author who can speak directly to why cognitive coaching tools are so effective - and how they can transform your brain and life.Tune in as we discuss how to use cognitive neuroscience to tackle internalized oppression and create the life (and world) you want to be in. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/229

Are you a feminist who is sick of feeling burdened with an invisible workload in your relationships? In this special interview with Master Certified Life Coach and bestselling author Susan Hyatt, you will learn how to reconcile your feminist ideals with your real-world relationship dynamics… without feeling frustrated or bitter. Tune in to learn how to use coaching tools to liberate yourself from both patriarchy AND resentment in your relationships.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/228

What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how you want to live in the world? In this episode, you will learn the question I ask myself to instantly gain perspective and clarity on what matters most to me. Tune in to learn how this question can change your life, too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/227

Are you an entrepreneur looking to explore how you can infuse your business with coaching principles? Or maybe you’re simply curious what is possible when you bring coaching tools into the workplace?In this episode, you will learn about the impact of embracing thought work tools at work, especially as a manager. If you’re curious how coaching can be used to empower employees, this episode is for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/226

One of the most common pieces of advice that women receive is that they should build their confidence - but where does insecurity actually come from, and what does “building your confidence” look like in the real world? Is it all power poses and affirmations, as Pinterest would have you believe?In this special release episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the 51 First Dates podcast to learn practical tips on how to grow your confidence (no chanting in the mirror required!). Oh, and you’ll get all the juicy details about the worst date I’ve ever been on. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/225

There’s a common belief that being single is a lonely, dreary slog, especially for folks who are ultimately looking to partner up. In this week’s podcast episode you will learn how to love the f*ck out of your single life…whether you’re single by choice or are looking to change your relationship status.I’m joined by Shani Silver, podcast host and author of “A Single Revolution,” for a conversation about how to reframe the way you think about and experience single life. This episode is powerful even if you’re currently partnered, because the more you love your relationship to yourself, the happier you will be in your relationships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/224

Do you struggle with burnout? If so, you can thank our capitalist, patriarchal and puritanical society for that. In this special episode with Caroline Dooner - burnout expert and author of The F*ck It Diet and Tired as F*ck - you will learn how to use coaching tools to overcome burnout for good. (And no, this doesn’t look like just taking more vacation time!)Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/223

I recently wrapped an amazing 3-day virtual event on goal-setting and the breakthroughs were so good that I wanted to share them with you.Tune in to this episode to learn all about why you may be closer to achieving your goal than you think, why being wrong is the GREATEST thing, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/222

Society has a way of leading you to believe that the path laid out in front of you is unchangeable. But just because you see other people following the same path, doesn’t mean you have to follow it. In fact, embracing the power you have to create new ways of moving through the world is how you own your agency and create change in the world.     Today, I’m having a conversation with Trudi Lebron, one of my personal coaches, who specializes in diversity and inclusion work and creating just and ethical businesses.  Listen in as we discuss how you can create opportunities for yourself by claiming your agency, and how that can translate to creating business and institutions that treat people better.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/221

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a coach or work for one? Or, perhaps, how different your experience would be if you used thought work tools at work?In this episode, you will meet one of my employees - Elana McKernan - and learn how we use coaching tools and philosophies to build our company culture and shape our work experience.Whether you are in the coaching industry or not, you will leave this episode with a better understanding of how you can utilize coaching to level up your own work experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/220

Do you tend to put your self-development teachers on a pedestal, taking their words as absolute truth and feeling super stressed out if you ever disagree or anyone suggests they might be wrong?You’re not alone. Most people who are drawn to self-development are looking for The Answer To Everything. But the truth is, we’re all trying to make sense of this strange experience of being a human - and the more you defer to others as an authority in your own life, the less you are able to take ownership of your experience of the world.In this episode, you will learn how to relate to YOURSELF as the ultimate authority - and why doing so will impact everything in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/219

Have you ever achieved a goal in the hopes that it would make you feel more confident and less anxious, only to find yourself a week later, asking, “uuh…now what?” If you’re expecting your New Year’s resolutions (or any other achievements) to change how you feel about yourself, you are misunderstanding how your brain works and setting yourself up for disappointment.In this episode, Victoria Myers of the Nourishing Women Podcast joins me to discuss why you have to address the thoughts behind your resolutions if you want to create a new relationship with yourself. This is required listening for any of you who are considering setting big goals in 2022!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/218

The problem with most resolutions is that they hinge on the idea that when the clocks roll over to the new year, you will become an entirely new person. In this episode, Caroline Dooner of The F*ck It Podcast will join me to discuss how to establish REALISTIC, achievable intentions or resolutions for the New Year, so that you can create the mental infrastructure to make real, lasting change in your life (but only if you want to - we’ll also cover why the premise that you need to change at all is a flawed one!). Before you sit down to write your 2022 New Year’s resolutions, listen to this episode!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/217

You know that thing your kid (or anyone, for that matter) does that drives you insane? And how it sets you off every time? Have you ever stopped to explore why that “trigger” exists in the first place, instead of just trying to “fix” it? If you search a bit deeper, you'll find that it probably stems from your childhood, and how you were parented. Once you have the why, you can use it to uplevel not only your parenting but also your relationship with yourself.     Tune in as I talk with clinical psychologist, Dr. Becky Kennedy, and we discuss how triggers can serve an essential role in our overall system, why they exist, and what you can do about them.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/216

Your biggest obstacle to mind-blowing pleasure isn’t your partner’s inability to find your g-spot or your inability to find a partner or your limited drawer of sex toys...it’s actually your thoughts.If you find yourself stressing about your appearance during sex (solo or with a partner!), worrying about your partner’s pleasure more than your own, or feeling like your desire is dependent on whether someone desires you, tune in to this interview with August McLaughlin from Girl Boner Radio. In it, we explore some common orgasm-blocking thoughts, and how to rewire your brain so you can jump-start your libido.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/215

Do you think that you have to be mean to yourself to achieve your goals? Our culture conditions us to associate self-criticism with achievement, and to believe that if we’re kind to ourselves as we pursue our goals, we’ll never get sh*t done.Here to challenge that narrative is bestselling author, lawyer, syndicated daytime talk show host, and motivational speaker Mel Robbins. Tune in to learn about how Mel came to realize that her self-critical habits were harming her more than they were helping her, and how you can achieve more than you ever thought possible by motivating yourself with kindness.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/214

Coaching is like magic when you’ve identified a “problem” and want help creating something new in your life. But what about the times that you genuinely, truly, cannot figure out what the fuck is going on with your brain? When you’re feeling angry, sad, or lost and you can’t pinpoint why for weeks or months or even years at a time?Tune in to this week’s podcast to learn how to hold space for yourself even when you don’t understand what’s happening in your brain - and how to turn these experiences into an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/213

Many women have the sense that they’re not good enough or worthy enough unless other people think they are. Why? Because society has taught us that we need to put everyone else’s needs before our own, and so we develop some codependent thought patterns to evaluate our worth. Instead of learning to validate ourselves, we rely on outside approval to feel good about ourselves.This week, I’m talking to Victoria Albina, nurse practitioner-turned-life coach, about how this codependency affects our nervous systems and can impair our brains’ abilities to function. Tune in to find out how to regulate your nervous system, how to stop people-pleasing and seeking external validation, and how to believe that you’re already worthy - starting today.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/212

Have you ever set out on a journey of self-love only to find that the path wasn’t as easy or straightforward as you thought?In this week’s episode, I talk to clinical psychologist Dr. Shefali Tsabary about how to have a radical awakening (which happens to be the title of her newest book) that leads to uncovering the beliefs and patterns that you have today, so that you can move them out of your way on your journey to loving yourself.Tune in to find out why radical self-awareness without compassion for yourself is not *real* self-awareness, and how you can have a radical awakening of your own.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/211

How often do you find yourself obsessing over what another person is thinking? In this Greatest Hits episode, you will learn why focusing on other people’s thoughts and feelings is a losing game, and how to set yourself free by focusing on your own thoughts and feelings. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/210

Feminist coaching isn’t just for radical leftists or people who identify as progressive. In today’s episode, you will meet two life coaches who graduated from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching program and who identify as more politically and religiously conservative than I do. Tune into this podcast to find out how these coaches incorporated feminist principles into their coaching practices - and their lives - while remaining true to their personal beliefs (and how you can, too!)Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/209