UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Join me on the podcast today as I show you when it’s useful to think about other people’s models, when it’s not, and why. Making your mental and emotional state contingent upon what other people might be thinking, feeling, or doing is useless and a waste of energy, and my goal is to show you that you never have to know what someone else is thinking to decide what you are going to think.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/144

Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/143

Join me today as I share the nuances that come with being an overactor and an underactor, and the antidotes for each type of behavior. Both types are self-critical and often feel miserable about their goals, and I’ll be showing you how balanced action is the key to your own growth and appreciation for the journey, no matter what you may be working on.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/142

Join me today as I show you what true closure is and how to get it. I’m outlining two things that many people believe will bring them closure if they had it, why these things are just lies our brains feed us, and the only thing that is really in your way of being happy right now.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/141

Join me on the podcast today as I show you why you have to sell yourself and commit to watering, nurturing, and growing the new thoughts you’ve planted in your brain to make your visions and dreams come true. You’ll inevitably have mixed results along the way, but that’s just part of the process.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/140

Today I'm showing you how thought work can be used in various scenarios to improve your sex life and your physical experience of sex. It’s not all biology, your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/139

Listen in this week as I share a technique that I’ve found effective in connecting to your sexuality by embodying your own desire. This can feel uncomfortable and it may bring up strong emotions for you, and that’s totally okay and normal. The great thing about this work is that you can take it as slow as you want, without anyone else being involved.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/138

Join me today as I show you what is actually happening when you feel defensive, and how shame feeds into this feeling and prevents you from consciously digging into your thoughts. Anxiety, shame, and defensiveness are signals for you to get curious, and cluing yourself in and asking the right questions will allow you to see where you might be out of alignment and make changes.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/137

Join us today as Erika shares her experience of navigating racism and her own journey of finding her voice to speak up and have difficult conversations as a black woman. You’ll hear how learning the coaching tools has impacted her life, and she illustrates the nuances of how she uses thought work to process her experiences, allow her emotions, and take action.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/junebonus2

Listen in today to discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/136

Today I'm sharing two big reasons why you need to embrace the suck. We’re going to experience it at least 50% of the time anyway, so why not accept that and move through the world knowing that it sometimes sucks to be a human? There is no perfect way to do this, and willing to stay present is a skill that will help you embrace the other 50% that is full of joy and happiness.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/135

This week, I want you to hear from some of my Clutch students who have used thought work to change their relationship with money. I love that they each bring a unique perspective on this topic, coming from various fields and industries, and every single of them has used what they’ve learned in The Clutch to create a more abundant financial mindset.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/134

This week I illuminate the importance of this work in feeling secure in your moral value and worth, and why you, as a human, have inherent and intrinsic value just for existing. It’s no surprise that women tend to experience a lot of emotional drama when it comes to financial conversations or discussing their economic worth, and I’m untangling all of this on the podcast today.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/133.

You can experience pleasure whenever and however you want, without permission from anyone else. I’m diving into how women don’t spend time on things we truly love, and why we’re not encouraged to take real pleasure seriously. Taking the time to create and experience pleasure is the best thing you can do for yourself, and I’m showing you how today.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/132

Kara and Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School explore how the Covid-19 outbreak is presenting a unique opportunity for us to level up our thought work skills. Learn why loneliness, fear, and misery are not inevitable reactions to the crisis - and how to shift your thinking to get relief.

Listen in this week to catch Marissa and Deb share their experience around dating, breakups, social justice, and how The Clutch has helped them shift their perspective. This is such a rich and interesting conversation, and I know that the discoveries they’ve made throughout their time in The Clutch will show you what is truly possible for you too.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/131

I know all of you will be able to relate to having moments where your brain seems to go to worst-case scenarios; where you imagine all the horrible things that could potentially happen in your life, or what I call a “what-if parade.” Even though I’ve dedicated my life to the practice of thought work, I’m no exception, and today, I’m showing you why this is normal and what you can do when this happens.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/130

Listen in today as I show you how opportunities are available to you right now if you choose to see this crisis through a new lens. If you’re not currently living the life you want, I’m sharing some reasons why all of us humans tend to turn away from what’s possible for us, and finally, what it takes to create the life of your dreams.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/purpose-peace-11

Join us on the podcast this week as The Clutch members, Bessie and Elizabeth, share their lessons learned and the best thought work they’ve done to transform their lives. I’m so excited for them to show you what’s truly possible when you learn how to manage your mind and I know that they’ll inspire you to do the same.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/129

Join me on this episode as I show you why humans tend to want to believe that our lives will start in the future, or that it will start once we have achieved something, whether that’s weight loss, finding a partner, or anything else. Putting your life off until things get back to ‘normal’ is preventing you from experiencing the freedom and happiness you could be having right now if you embraced your current situation, and I’m giving you the tools to help you do that today.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/your-life-peace-10

This is a time of questioning and being curious of your patterns, belief systems, and actions that you’ve been able to escape from before the pandemic, and you’re going to see how it shows up for three of my clients. We’re addressing questions around living your best life right now, health anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, and getting things done in quarantine.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/live-coaching-peace-9

Join me this week as I talk through what boredom actually is, whether it’s a problem, and how you can handle it better. Letting boredom just exist in your body can feel extremely uncomfortable, but you’ll be surprised at how much growth and new insights you’ll discover on the other side of it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/128

Listen in today as I offer you three tools that I have found to be very helpful in my own life and with my clients with their health-related anxiety. Acknowledging the reality that you are mortal is the first step in finding peace with our current situation, and I’m walking you through how you can use these techniques to stay out of frenzy and anxiety.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/health-anxiety-peace-8

Listen in today as I show you why you can create value and money right now during a pandemic. Just because this is our current reality doesn’t mean you don’t have any control over your mind or the kind of results you can create anymore. I guarantee that taking ownership of your thoughts and choosing intentional thoughts around money will help you feel empowered and create any amount of money or value you want.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/money-anxiety-peace-7

Listen in this week as I show you how your brain creates mental habits, and how cognitive bias is a crucial element to understand in changing them. This concept is applicable everywhere in your life, at any time, and the two ways I’m offering to you today of how to prevent your cognitive bias from running wild is going to give you so much more control over your mental and emotional experience.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/brain-habits-peace-6

Join me this week as I break down what it means to want something, the fundamental motivation for why you want something if you have an unmanaged mind, and two exercises you can use to determine what you actually want. I’ll also be diving into how women especially use thought work against themselves in deciding what they want for their lives.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/127

In the midst of what feels like chaos and frenzy, most of us are seeking some stability and familiarity. Staying focused and productive in some area of your life and feeling connected to other people are two ways of doing this, and I’m offering my recommendations of how you can do this reasonably and realistically.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/productivity-peace-5

Join me on this episode as I highlight why your mental health matters the most right now. You’ll discover what is possible for you when you prioritize this over your physical state, and how undermining it is actually deteriorating both your body and mind.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/mental-health-peace-4

Join me as I walk you through the difference between your thoughts and your feelings, and how to identify what a feeling is. From there, you’ll be able to start the process of intentionally creating emotions that you want to feel, and at the same time, you’ll be able to allow emotions that feel uncomfortable in your body without resisting them.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/feel-better-peace-3

Discover exactly why we get sucked into believing that we can control other people and external circumstances, and why letting it go is the only path to true freedom. Any feeling you want to have can be achieved by relinquishing the belief that you can or should be able to control anything outside of yourself. To do this, I’m offering a set of questions you can ask yourself that will focus on the things you can control.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/126

Too often, we believe that the thoughts we have are unchangeable, and so we try to control everything outside of us to try to feel better, which is impossible. Instead, what I’m offering you today is a technique called neutral thoughts that will guide you in actively choosing thoughts that serve you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/neutralize-peace-2

Join me today to gain a deeper understanding of what is going on in your brain right now. This first step is crucial to changing the state of panic that you might be experiencing. I’ll also be highlighting how the news and social media can feed into the frenzy that your mind is going through.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/pandemic-peace-1

Join me this week to discover how you might be disempowering yourself by not embracing the agency you have over your own life. There is no right or wrong, failure or success. You can have any adventure you want, and there is no wrong story to write.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/125

Join me as I share some tools that you can practice to help you see why you might be feeling fear right now, as well as some reminders about the news and social media and the role it plays in your mental health. Acting out of fear will always feel terrible, and so I’m sharing my pandemic mission statement and some affirmations that you can use too, to help you be in control of your brain and manage your thoughts.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/pandemic-panic/

Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, I’m showing you how to start creating true transformation in the long-run.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/124

Discover the true impact of patriarchy on our brains through the concept of heuristics. I'm giving you the basics of how our brain unconsciously absorbs the messages we’re taught and creates reasoning shortcuts, and then how that ties into the patriarchy and our experience as people socialized as women.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/123

As you learn about thought work and start using these tools to change your life, it’s only natural to want to speed things up, change all of your beliefs, and start getting the results you want right away. Something I’ve seen every single one of my students do at some point is ‘silver-lining’ their thoughts to feel better, and today I’m showing you how this isn’t conducive to the process and why it doesn’t work.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/122

Join me this week to discover how practicing the skill of managing your mind can be the greatest gift you can give yourself. I’m now more kind and compassionate to myself in moments of intense suffering and negativity, and you too will get to see the transformations that are truly possible if you apply this work.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/121

Join me this week to see if you can identify with some of the limiting beliefs I was holding onto around family and romantic relationships, and see how you could free yourself of thoughts that aren’t serving you. Make sure to tune in next week as I dive into friendships and other social relationships too!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/120

On today’s episode, I’m diving into my relationship with my body image, work, and money mindset, and how that has shifted over the years of doing this work. A lot has changed since I first started in 2015, and I’m sharing the progress I’ve seen in those areas, as well as the habitual thought patterns that occasionally still show up.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/119

Listen in today to gain a new perspective on why it’s so hard to fundamentally understand that other people have totally different thoughts to you, and how you buy into the assumptions you have about what’s going on in their brain. If you don’t know what a model is, I’m giving you the basics to help you understand this concept better, and I’m also sharing my interpretation of what empathy really means.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/118

Listen in as I take a deep dive into entitlement, how it shows up and why, and a new way to start thinking about the results you want that will save you time and energy, instead of sitting in entitlement, which drains all of your resources and leaves you in emotional drama.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/117

This week, we’re talking about the past and how you think about it in terms of forgiveness and blame. As most people are looking to the future now that 2020 has begun, I’m taking it back so you can start seeing your future in a new way and release yourself from the suffering you might be experiencing.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/116

I’ve received questions on podcasting and how to be a credible host, what I think draws people to coaching and how to be a coach people are drawn to, and my thoughts on carrying your clients’ emotions as you coach them. I’m also responding to some questions you guys had on confidence and my best advice on how to be successful.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/115

This week, I’m diving into the basic premise of desire and why changing how we think about it can be so transformational. We tend to want to push this feeling away when we can’t have something, or rush to acquire the object of our desires if we can have it, but I want to suggest a new way to approach this feeling.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/114

I hope my answers are helpful in getting you into the new year with a well-managed mind to create all the results you want. I’m sharing my thoughts on unrequited love and whether it’s a problem, the basis of libido and sexual attraction, and how to ask better questions when it comes to creating anything that you want in your life.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/113

Join me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/112

I’m answering work and self-worth related questions today, and I’ve seen a link across almost all the questions I’ve received. You might think these questions don’t relate to your specific circumstance if it’s not something you’re dealing with, but I’m sure you’ll find a common thread in your own life when you listen to my answers.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/111

This week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/110

Listen in today as I bring you a short and sweet episode, but one that is so powerful in changing how you perceive your story and what might be going on for you right now. Using this thought whenever you’re struggling will help you see that you can handle any emotion and that nothing has gone wrong.Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/109