UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Do you worry about the future? Do you stress and plan for a hundred different “worst case” scenarios in the hopes that doing so will make you more “prepared” for what’s to come? Humans evolved to fear uncertainty above all else, which kept us safe from starving to death or being eaten by a predator…but now, it’s a recipe for crippling anxiety. Tune into today’s podcast to learn how to solve your uncertainty problem so you can transform your fear into peace and acceptance.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/193

On today’s episode, you’ll get to meet Hannah Berner, a hilarious stand-up comedian, host of the “Berning in Hell” podcast, and a member of Bravo TV’s “Summer House.” As someone who is not connected to the life coaching/self-help field, Hannah will offer a new perspective on how thought work plays a role in her life and her experiences. Our conversation will help you understand the messaging that women absorb from society that keeps them doubting themselves and their value, and how to use coaching tools to feel happier in your professional life and your personal life (no matter what your goals are).Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/192

Most of us believe we’re at the mercy of things that we feel triggered by. We blame them, we avoid them, and we even avoid thinking about them. But what if the kindest thing you could do for yourself was to lean in and get curious about them? In today’s episode, you will learn how to use coaching tools to turn intense negative emotions into opportunities for growth.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/191

Sure, we all want to have a better body image…but what does that actually look like in practice? In this week’s Listener Q&A episode, you will get concrete advice on how to use coaching tools to improve your relationship with your body. Tune in to learn why your weight is NOT an accurate barometer for your health, how to let go of old stories that have kept you feeling powerless around food, how to use coaching tools to help with symptoms of PMS or other hormonal imbalances, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/190

Tune into this episode to learn: 1) How you are way more creative than you think you are, 2) why you have to ACCEPT your current reality in order to change it, 3) what self-love REALLY means (spoiler: it doesn’t require feeling blissed-out and in love with yourself 100% of the time), and 4) what you’ve gotten wrong about human nature (and why that’s actually a good thing).Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/189

What do a feminist life coach and a Mormon life coach have in common? A lot, it turns out, when it comes to thought work. On today’s episode, you will meet Jody Moore, mother of four, friend and colleague, and the most influential Mormon life coach in the world. Tune in to learn about the history of our unlikely friendship, how coaching has enabled us to have difficult conversations with people who have beliefs that conflict with ours, why it’s imperative to step out of black and white thinking in order to achieve any goal, and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/188

Have you ever struggled to forgive someone? You’re not alone, but thought work can help. Tune into this week’s Greatest Hits podcast episode to learn how your resistance to forgiveness is harming YOU, and then learn a simple process that will allow you to forgive anyone (including and especially yourself).Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/187

Is the current online accountability discourse a productive, meaningful, and proportional response to systemic injustice? Or is it a punitive expression of a carceral mob mentality? In the second part of this special two-part series, I invited three of my colleagues and advanced certification students - Master Coach Brenda Lomeli, Master Coach Brig Johnson, and Clutch Coach Amber Taylor - to have a nuanced discussion about why so many women fear being “canceled,” how online accountability conversations emerged from restorative justice practices, and why it’s so important to unpack any strong reactions you are having to the concept.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/186

Whether you call it call-in culture, consequence culture or "cancel culture,” you likely have an opinion about the current online accountability discourse. On this special two-part series, I invited three of my colleagues and advanced certification students - Master Coach Brenda Lomeli, Master Coach Brig Johnson, and Clutch Coach Amber Taylor - to discuss the range of actions and conversations that get lumped together, sometimes unhelpfully, in this movement. Join us for the first part of the conversation in which we explore accountability in the context of white supremacy, racial and social justice, online social dynamics, and psychology.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/185

Do you believe that you have to quit your job in order to take any action on starting your dream business? That you can only be happy if you have a very specific kind of life? That you have to cut someone out of your life because they did something you dislike? These are all examples of black and white thinking, one of the most pervasive - and limiting - ways of looking at the world. Tune in to learn how embracing shades of grey will open up your life and expand your impact in the world.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/184

Do you have a phobia or fear that you want to get under control? Do you want more out of life, but struggle with indecision and confusion about how to change? Have you ever wondered why some people thrive in certain environments, while others have to coach themselves a ton just to make it through the day? In today’s Listener Q&A episode, I’ll explore these questions and more.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/183

Are your efforts to challenge sexism, racism, and other oppressive systems leaving you frustrated, overwhelmed, and burnt out? Tune in to this week’s Greatest Hits episode to learn how to use coaching tools to create social change without draining yourself or feeling angry all the time. When you learn how to liberate yourself from fear and judgment, you create endless energy to liberate the world.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/182

Because discussions about abortion tend to be so polarized, it can be difficult to unpack your thoughts and feelings about the decision, even though more than 1/3 of Americans will have an abortion in their lifetime. This week, I’m joined by Amanda Kingsley, a Certified Life Coach, Doula and host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast, to explore the prevailing thoughts many women have about their abortions - and how to let go of unnecessary pain and suffering around the decision.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/181

Do you ever feel shame scanning the self-help aisle of the bookstore? Do you roll your eyes when you see life coaches offering self-help courses on your IG/FB feed? It may surprise you, but the embarrassment or shame you feel toward self help is 100% internalized patriarchy. In today’s episode, you will learn why self help has more in common with ancient philosophical traditions than with self-indulgent spa trips, and why your own self-help practice is so important.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/180

Do you tend to make rejection mean there’s something “wrong” with you? Have you ever wondered how to know when a relationship is “toxic”? Do you struggle with a partner who is more extroverted than you are? In today’s Listener Q&A episode, I’ll answer some of your most burning relationship questions and share the role thought work can play in common relationship issues.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/179

You may think you aren’t close to achieving a goal until you’re 99% of the way there and the finish line is in view. But actually, the biggest distance you can cover is in taking your first few steps toward your goal. Going from inaction to action is INFINITE growth. Once you’ve done that? You can just repeat the process until you reach your destination. In this Greatest Hits episode, you will learn how minuscule steps create exponential growth.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/178

Do you torture yourself on the way to a goal, in the hopes that you’ll feel different when you “get there?” Do you think of goals as shiny gold coins to collect in order to feel better about yourself? Do you undermine or discount your accomplishments? Tune into this episode for some mind-blowing wisdom from a live event I hosted earlier this year. You will learn how to reframe everything from your relationship to goal-setting, and learn how to develop the single most important skill to uplevel your growth.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/177

Want to learn what thought work and tarot have in common? In this week’s special episode, I have invited my friend, philosopher, writer, and tarotist Jessica Dore onto the podcast to discuss all things thought work and tarot...and to give me a mini-reading! Jessica has a background in cognitive and behavioral therapy, and uses the art of mysticism to help her clients gain a deeper understanding of themselves.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/176

Do you feel pressured to have a “life goal” or to discover your “calling” in life? Do you struggle with defensiveness when receiving negative feedback at work? In today’s Listener Q&A episode, I’ll answer some common questions about work and entrepreneurship, and share the thoughts I used to scale my business from $50k to 1 million, and beyond.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/175

We live in a society that teaches women to put themselves last, and the more marginalized identities you live in, the more ways you are told you’re not good enough or worthy of taking up space. For those who live in marginalized identities, self-love is a radical political act that enables us to claim our worth and challenge oppressive belief systems. Tune into today’s Greatest Hits episode to learn how to cultivate radical self-love and how to use it to transform the world.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/174

Do you lay awake at night obsessing over why a new date or partner took 3 hours to respond to your text instead of their usual 30 minutes? Or maybe you start to feel avoidant when a new partner wants to hang out too much, and worry about losing independence in a relationship? Whatever your attachment style, this Greatest Hits episode will help you discover how it may be affecting your relationships - and how to use thought work to feel secure in your relationships.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/173

Do you tie your self-worth to how productive you are? You know the signs: Never feeling like you’re doing enough, criticizing yourself for being “lazy” or “unmotivated.” If you feel stuck in a cycle of burnout and self-criticism, this episode’s for you. On today’s podcast, I join business coach Simone Seol to explore cultural beliefs about productivity - and how shifting your own beliefs about productivity can help you compound your results.Get full show notes and more information here:https://unfuckyourbrain.com/172

Do you believe that if you just got that new job title, got married, or achieved any other fill-in-the-blank-accomplishment, you’d be happy and confident? And then do you create unrealistic plans to achieve that goal and abandon them entirely when you inevitably stumble in the execution? Tune into this Greatest Hits episode to learn how your perfectionist fantasies are holding you back - and how to build integrity with yourself (and accomplish your goals) by letting them go.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/171

It’s no secret that I am an anti-diet coach. On today’s podcast, I’ll introduce you to my dear friend - and wildly successful weight loss coach - Corinne Crabtree. We’ll dive into our shared qualms with the diet industry, explore how Corinne holds space for unconditional self-love and body diversity in how she teaches weight loss, and discuss the top three lessons we’ve learned from each other.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/170

There are a lot of misunderstandings about life coaching out there - that coaching is about gaslighting and spiritual bypassing, that it’s about learning how to “fix” yourself on your own, that it’s only for privileged people. In today’s podcast, I break down the 5 biggest misconceptions about mindset coaching to reveal what coaching is really about: taking control of your experience of the world and generating more love and compassion for yourself and others.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/169

Most women feel immense pressure to be “normal.” We evolved to conform for our literal safety, and patriarchy has socialized us to fit in, to defer to the needs of others, to not challenge the dominant social norms. But in order to create an extraordinary life, you have to learn how to leave normal behind and be YOURSELF, fully, weird and wonderful as you are. Learn how in today’s episode.Get full show notes and more information here:https://unfuckyourbrain.com/168

Why is it so valuable to set audacious goals, and how would it feel to have full confidence you could create exactly what you want this year? Find out in today’s podcast with Master Certified Coach and holistic nutritionist Brenda Lomeli, who has changed lives and shattered glass ceilings on the way to accepting herself fully. We’ll share 3 things we’ve learned from each other, how diversity benefits the entire coaching industry, and why it’s sometimes good to feel nauseous.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/167

Are you a perfectionist who wants to do something big? Most of the tools life coaches use to help their clients go after big goals don’t take perfectionist thought patterns into account, which sets you up to fail before you’ve even started. Tune into today’s episode to learn how to work WITH your brain and blow your f*cking mind.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/166

The year is almost over, which means a lot of people are making ambitious resolutions that they will fully abandon by February 1. Tune into today’s bonus podcast to learn how to use the concepts of constraint and massive action to break the cycle of abandoned resolutions and achieve any goal you make for yourself this year.Get full show notes and more information here:https://unfuckyourbrain.com/make-keep-resolutions/

Do you agree to do things you’d prefer not to because you’re worried it would be rude or uncomfortable to refuse? Whether you take on extra obligations at work or make subtle concessions at home to “keep the peace,” your discomfort with saying no is likely impacting every area of your life. Tune into today’s episode to learn how you can say YES to yourself by getting better at saying NO to others.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/165

This week, I invited fellow life coach, friend, and sales savant Stacey Boehman onto the podcast. Stacey is a Master Certified Coach who teaches other coaches how to sell and make money. Tune in as we explore the top three lessons we’ve learned from each other, where security and safety come from, and Stacey’s history of deer-related trauma (yes, you read that right).Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/164

Do you get attached to the things you love? Many people wear their attachment as a badge of honor, thinking that loving something deeply means fearing its loss. In this episode, I’ll teach you why loving lightly - without attachment - is so revolutionary. You will learn how to love others lightly by committing to your OWN happiness, knowing that you will always love yourself and your life, no matter what.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/163

What happens when two coaches fall in (platonic) love? You’ll find out in this episode, where I’ll introduce you to life coach - and best friend of mine - Rachel Hart. You’ll get a window into how our friendship has transformed both of our lives, and find out the three most valuable lessons we’ve learned from each other.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/162

If you have insomnia, do you spend so much energy dreading the possibility of waking up at night that you literally can’t fall asleep? This is a perfect example of anticipatory stress, the stress we feel in anticipation of anything we label “bad.” It’s also the main source of our suffering in any situation we dread. Tune in to learn four simple steps you can take to feel calmer even if what you fear comes to pass.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/161

Do you define yourself by what you have or haven’t achieved in the past? If you’re in debt, do you think of yourself as someone who’s bad with money? If you’re perpetually single, do you think you aren’t capable of love? Most of us judge ourselves because we want to change - but doing so actually PREVENTS us from changing. If you want to change your life, you have to start by changing your beliefs about yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/160

How often do you look at someone else’s behavior and think, “If I were them, I’d do that differently”? This may seem like an innocent habit, but it can wreak havoc on your relationships and stagnate your growth. In today’s episode, learn how to let go of your judgments and generate curiosity, compassion, and love for those around you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/159

Do you ever notice a low hum of discomfort and anxiety when you do things that someone, somewhere along the line, told you that you shouldn’t do? Like, say, eat carbs or take a nap. In this episode, I’ll teach you a simple brain hack that will instantly dissolve your guilt and discomfort. Get ready to take control of your life and experience WHATEVER you choose with more ease, relaxation, and pleasure.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/158

Are you feeling anxious and worried about the upcoming US presidential election? Our brains are wired to fixate on anything in the future that they perceive as a potential “threat,” but you don’t have to let your fear consume you. In this episode, I’ll teach you how to wrangle your brain when you are spinning out about the election (or any other future-focused event you’re stressed about).Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/157

A lot of people think that “your thoughts create your feelings” means they should blame themselves if they’re struggling, even if they’re dealing with the effects of trauma. Listen to this episode to learn how to ACCEPT what you’re feeling rather than judge it, and why applying this radical acceptance to your life will set you free.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/156

Do you know how to solve your own problems? Resourcefulness is one of the most important qualities you need to live an incredible life, but many of us have brains that just throw up their metaphorical hands and want to die whenever the smallest hurdle arises. Learn why resourcefulness is so important, and how you can develop this critical skill, in today’s episode.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/155

Is your brain haunting you? Most of us experience ghosts of old anxious thought patterns even after we’ve used coaching to feel more confident and secure. In today’s episode, I’ll teach you why these sparks of anxiety are so persistent, and what you can do the next time you experience a “haunting.”Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/154

You would never go to a toy store for a gala dress, so why do you stay with someone who’s afraid of commitment, when you’re looking for a life partner? Why do you seek validation from a parent, when they’ve never once approved of your choices? In this episode, I’ll teach you how to stop seeking validation, love, and approval from people who will never give it to you - and how to give it to yourself, instead.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/153

Are you feeling hopeless, afraid, despondent, or angry at the recent passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg? In today’s podcast, I will teach you how to take hopeful action even when you aren’t FEELING hopeful, by using the coaching model to generate feelings of commitment. Hope feels good when it happens to arrive, but commitment will create a revolution.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/152

Do you wish your life looked more like those minimalist Instagram homes full of light and clean lines and constraint? In today’s podcast episode, you will learn about the patriarchal underpinnings of minimalism and why I embrace MAXIMALISM instead. Tune in to get a taste of what life could look like if you stopped restricting yourself and gave yourself permission to be as colorful, loud, and abundant as you wanted.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/151

Women are socialized to compromise our needs and happiness behind the needs of family, friends, even strangers. At the same time, we’ve also experienced situations where compromise is helpful and growth-promoting. In this podcast episode, you will learn a few simple questions to ask yourself so that you will always know when to compromise and when to stand firm.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/150

Most of us are so steeped in fatphobia that we don’t even realize it exists…and yet it impacts every aspect of our lives, from what we think about our bodies to what our doctors tell us when we are sick. Listen in to learn how I used thought work to overcome my own internalized fatphobia, and how you can set yourself free, too.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/149

Listen in this week to discover why the framing of intuition as something you use to categorize an experience doesn’t serve you, how it gets confused with feelings of anxiety, and the role of cognitive bias here. You need to examine the assumption that you should act on something without question if it’s coming from your intuition, and I’m guiding you through this process today.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/148

Listen in today to get a taste of what it’s like to join The Clutch where I coach every single week on topics like body image and thought work. I’m doing a listener Q&A to coach on some of the most frequent questions I get sent. If you’re loving what you’re learning here and want a chance to have your questions addressed, come join us there!Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/147

Listen in this week to discover if you might be using thought work against yourself. There are two main ways that I see this play out very commonly, and I’m showing you why using thought work within these contexts can sometimes bring you awareness, but ultimately they are longer paths to getting to that point.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/146

Join me this week as I show you what mental flexibility is and why this skill is crucial in thought work. I’m outlining the irony that exists in resisting being challenged or in trying on a new contradictory thought, and why accepting, allowing, and holding space for two conflicting beliefs is what will help you move into alignment with the thing you want to become or have.Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/145