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I’m on holidays beans! For some listening to fill your ears check out some of your favourite episodes below; 'Why discipline is the ticket to the life you want' 'Chase change, don’t let change chase you' '10 things I learnt in my 20s' '10 ways to show up for yourself' 'Motivation, Purpose and Body Image' 'Self love – finding your worth' LINKS Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can spend your whole life thinking about a bad decision that you mad . or the opportunity you didn’t take, or mistakes you made. In fact most people do! It can be crippling, so I want to take you through the ways you can live a life without regret, and reclaim contentment in your decisions. PET LOVE: Watch 'Lupin' on Netflix https://bit.ly/lupin-trailer . SBS Podcasts ‘Learn a Language’ https://bit.ly/sbspodcasts-language . BRAIN FACT: Some of the ways you can inherit a genetic trait from your parents, basically an explainer on Dominant Vs Recessive genes (and how they impact your genetic makeup). LISTENER QUESTION:How do I get over the heartbreak of someone who was perfect for me but the timing was wrong. AND they were a stunning traveller who made me realise that Aussie guys are just boring in comparison. HELP! LINKS: Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we struggle to be aware of ourselves? It’s hard to turn the lense on yourself, particularly during the bad shit. I’m going to take you through how to practice self awareness and level up your life (and how to stop being the kind of person to throw blame instead of apologise).Pet Love: Listen to The Dream Podcast https://bit.ly/thedream-podcast . Brain Fact: Exploring Corpus Callosum https://bit.ly/corpus-callosum . LINKS Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I'm diving DEEP into your questions beans – and there's a breakup theme coming through! These are the topics/listener questions I’m covering; How to commit to breaking up with someone who doesn't take you seriously when you try to break up with them Feeling regret over ending a relationship once an ex has a new partner Going through a difficult break up An unhealthy sister-in-law relationship LINKS Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overthinking? Me? Never (lol absolutely yes). I’m going to take you through what’s happening in your brain when you’re overthinking. Plus I’ll give you some steps for how to overcome it and get out of that overthinking spiral. Listener Question: I’ve repeatedly been excluded from group gatherings of my boyfriend’s friends. Is this normal? And how do I figure out if I’m being left out on purpose or if it’s just a misunderstanding. LINKS Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Listen to Ep 184 on Epigenetics https://bit.ly/184-epigenetics . Send your Listener question to [email protected] Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The phrase Sunk Cost Fallacy is going to help you stop wasting your time on shit that doesn’t work. In this episode I’m explaining this concept where you keep putting money and time and effort into something that isn’t working, but you don’t want to quite cause of all the effort you’ve already put in. Brain Fact: Cyclooxegenase and reducing pain and inflamation in the body Listener Question: I have been cheating on my wife for 7 years, and the woman I was cheating with recently broke up with me. How can I get over that heartbreak while not telling my wife about the affair because I don’t want her to leave me. LINKS Send your Listener question to [email protected] Read 'How susceptible to the Sunk Cost Fallacy are you?' from Harvard Business Review https://bit.ly/sunkcost-fallacy . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Oscar Gordon DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello my beautiful beans! In this episode I’m gunna talk you through how to get closure in your life; primarily about romantic relationships but you could also apply a lot of this to friendships or even losing a job or opportunity. Brain Fact: Borderline Personality Disorder Listener Question: My ex has said they want to keep the door open on our relationship now that we've broken up. What should I do? LINKS Send your Listener question to [email protected] Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Oscar Gordon Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What makes someone a narcissist? What's the difference between a covert and overt narcissist? and how, oh HOW, do you handle a relationship with a narcissist - particularly narcissistic parents and in-laws; This is what I'm diving into in this episode. Then I get into a listener question about whether or not to move cities to be with a partner when being mid-way through tertiary study. Specifically how to tell if you actually want to move for yourself and not just because your partner is somewhere you aren't. LINKS Read more about Narcissistic Personality Disorder from National Library of Medicine https://bit.ly/dyfm-narcissistic-pd . Read 'Covert narcissist: Traits, causes, and how to respond' from Medical News Today Medically reviewed by Karin Gepp, PsyD — By Aaron Kandola https://bit.ly/covert-vs-overt . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperExecutive Digital Producer: Oscar Gordon DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaAdditional Imaging: Nat MarshallManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lying is normal, but lying pathologically is NOT. I got a listener question specifically around dealing with a liar so I'll jump off with that and then get into the episode of today. Brain fact: Photobleaching your rods (what happens when you suddenly go into a bright light) Read about Rhodopsin https://www.britannica.com/science/rhodopsin See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the episode of today I'm explaining HPD or Histrionic Personality Disorder. And I answer 5 of your questions covering a difficult mother in law relationship, a sister who betrayed trust, assessing a relationship as co-dependent and how to readjust, struggling to move on from an ex-fiance who cheated - when you have a kid together, and finally is it worth telling your friend you're crushing on them when they have a partner. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is all about how to make a commitment to yourself and stick to it, and why you're setting yourself up to fail (and it's not necessarily your fault). Brain Fact: Troxler's Fading https://bit.ly/troxlersfading-dyfm . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I talk about why you should limit the amount of people that owe you. Why feeling that someone owes you something can be very detrimental for your happiness, self love and productivity and what you can do to stop feeling this way TODAY. Brain Fact : Lateral Inhibition (AAANNNDDD a fun optical illusion for you to try) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about dating apps. I asked you guys what you thought about them, the good and the bad. I pulled all this information together to had a chat about where dating apps fall short and why to not get too invested in them and how to not feel so hurt by them when things don't go well for you. I also go over your best and worst dating app situations and some of them are seriously F*****D!! Brain Fact : Why fast sequencing tv shows are detrimental for young children and their development of executive control. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this ep I go over the difference between problems that are 'joint' and 'individual' in a relationship. How to let go of the guilt of leaving a relationship and how to feel more empowered to make the right decision around leaving or staying in a relationship. Brain Fact : Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Okay time to talk about all things discipline! Why you need it, why it will make your life so much better and more fulfilling and why it will increase your self love and improve your relationship with yourself exponentially! Brain Fact : Joy Milne, the woman who can smell Parkinson's See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode goes over a bunch of green flags to lean into to improve your overall happiness, productivity, relationships and peace of mind. Brain Fact : Hangovers on the brain See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's ep I go over what it means to be the bigger person, when it is good and when it is not helpful to your own peace of mind or mental health. Sometimes being the bigger person may mean keeping the wrong people in your life just to 'save face' and this could mean your boundaries keep getting crossed and you struggle to see growth in your healing journey. So let's go over when it is okay to NOT be the bigger person and how to go about it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I cover how to deal with feelings of retroactive jealousy and overthinking in a relationship, and how overcoming these feelings will improve the quality of your relationship not only with your partner but with yourself. When you master this, you will feel more confident within yourself and happier in your skin. (Encore episode) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I break down the difference between perceived value and actual value. How to stop letting other people determine your value and how to use the idea of value exchange and the principal of effort + sacrifice to turn everything around and start determining your own value. Brain Fact : Zahavian signal See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode I talk about my favorite statement and one I try and live by all the time. How to become someone who is adaptable and resilient to change and loss and how to gain so much more along the way. I will talk about how to become someone who takes control of the changes in their life, instead of leading a life where you are only reactive to the things that happen to you and end up feeling powerless to external situations. Brain Fact: The link between oversleeping and health problems See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode I break down what drive is compared to self control, how to know where your strengths are and where you weaknesses are and then I give you tools to help create a balance between the two. Brain Fact: Changing your surroundings to improve your focus See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is so much to talk about on today's episode! I have two main categories. How to know the difference between a boundary and a controlling behaviour (and how to know if it is being done to you) How to be able to set boundaries while keeping your walls down and in turn, helping you increase your self love + confidence Brain Fact: Reverse Psychology See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello! Today's episode is all about how to change things up and feel back on track and kicking goals when you are feeling a bit flat or like everything has plateaued in your life and doesn't excite you like it used to. I give you some tips and ways to approach things differently. Brain Fact : Noise induced hearing loss See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I take you through a five step process to help you get your anxious or spiralling thoughts under control, so your emotions don't end up controlling you and your day. Brain Fact : Carbon monoxide poisoning See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode dives deep into dealing with fearful emotions around if your partner is ever going to fall for someone else, or cheat on you or flirt with someone else. I will go into how to process these thoughts, and what to think about when this happens to make it feel less threatening. And then of course I talk about your own relationship with yourself and how that impacts these feelings of fear. Brain Fact : Ketogenic diet as a treatment for Epilepsy See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I go over 4 ways to understand how tapping into your purpose and understanding what that is can completely transform your self esteem and significantly improve your relationship with yourself. Brain Fact : The Reflex Arc See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I dive into all kinds of scenarios and give you advice from toxic parents, unbearable heartbreak, how to not be so anxiously avoidant when in the dating scene and MORE. Thank you for all the listener questions sent in! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I talk all about self empowerment and how to take control of situations NOW to feel like you have more of a say in your future. I give 5 simple things to do each day to start to feel more empowered. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I go over 6 steps to help you go from thinking you 'COULD' do something to actually doing it. There is so much already at your disposal and for one reason or another you just are not maximising your abilities. This ep aims to change that for you. Brain Fact : Munchausen Syndrome / by proxy See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an encore episode of ep 147. One of my all time most useful episodes. Every week I touch on the importance of your relationship with your self and how to improve it, and this episode encompasses so much of what I touch on in most episodes. Also, it has one of my all time favourite brain facts. Brain Fact : Water intoxication See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this ep I talk about when you feel down on yourself, and feel like something is lacking or that you are 'not enough'. when this happens you start to feel more self critical in all areas in your life not just the one area that caused you to feel this way, and this can then affect your own relationship with yourself. I go over 6 points to start feeling like you are enough, and you can start to action these today. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this ep, I am going to break down what I like about the low dopamine morning trend (all over Tiktok and blogs) and what I disagree with, and what the science says instead. I then give suggestions of what you can take from this trend and what you should do instead of some things that are suggested. Brain Fact : Barbiturates See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is all about knowing how to chose your inner circle friends and how to chose those that you like having around but are not going to be closest to you. I will go over warning signs of unhealthy friendship behaviours and healthy signs of a good friendship, and lastly, I will talk about the friendship you have with yourself. Brain Fact : Anti-epileptic Drugs See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I talk all about self forgiveness when someone wont forgive you. What to do when you have apologised and are not forgiven, how to move past that, how to be kind to yourself and truly get to a point of forgiveness to yourself. I also cover how to forgive yourself for how you have treated yourself in the past. Brain Fact : Vertigo (Vestibular System) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I go how you can be giving the best of you to YOURSELF and ways to do that as often you end up getting the leftovers of what you have to offer. This episode also helps you improve those relationships that are most important to you. Brain Fact : Neurofibrillary tangles See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode covers 4 key ways to help you know what you want in all areas of life, and goes into why we struggle so much with knowing what we want in the first place. Brain Fact: Epidural and Spinal anaesthetic See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I go over 5 ways to learn how to become more empowered with your life circumstances and situations so you feel more in control with where you are headed instead of feeling like a victim to your circumstances. Brain Fact : Amyloid Plaques See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode we look at 4 things you can implement to feel less disappointed and to feel like you are more in control of your life. Brain Fact: CJD and Mad Cows disease (Bovine Spongiform Encephalopathy) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lets go over the 10 things I learnt in my 20s. (there may need to be a part 2 to this one) Brain fact : Morning light and its positive effects on mood disorders and ADHD See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is one of my most shared episode of all time. In this ep I give 4 simple things to do every single day. If you can stick to it for 30 days, you will notice some great changes in your life! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to follow your instinct better! This episode helps you pull apart the feelings of anxiety vs the feelings of a gut instinct telling you not to do something or to go for something. If you normally suffer from anxiety this will hopefully help you feel less fearful in making big decisions. Brain fact: Ozempic - diabetes drug (now commonly used for weightloss) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my favourite episodes ever. Talking all about the good things to look out for in a partner. This is also great for you to look at your own behaviour and see how many green flags you are brining into your relationships. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I answer a bunch of GREAT listener stories and give my advice on what to do if you are being pushed out of a friendship group for no good reason, if your partner doesn't communicate with you for days or even weeks after a fight and SOOOO much more. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today is an encore episode of one of my all time favourite topics. Assertiveness. I will give you a whole bunch of tips on how to increase your assertiveness no matter who you are speaking to! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lets talk about all the ways that people take advantage of you (intentional and intentional ways) and how to know yourself better so you can respond to these moments, so you don't feel stuck or caught up in what someone else is saying or doing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I talk about how to navigate a situation where either you ended a relationship with someone or they ended it with you and now they want back in. How do you know if you want them back? or how do you keep them out? do you owe them anything? all this and MORE Brain Fact: EPO - blood doping See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lets talk about our limitations. There are ones you cannot change, and others that are temporary where you can do something about it. In this episode I talk about the importance of being able to identify where your limitations are to be able to help you move forward and progress in certain areas of your life, and how this can help you and not hinder you. Brain Fact : Serotonin Syndrome See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I go over a whole bunch of tools to take with you when entering a difficult conversation. It doesn't matter if you are breaking up, asking for a pay rise, talking to your parents about a sensitive topic, ANYTHING. This will help you feel more comfortable and confident approaching these kinds of conversations. Brain Fact: Monoamines and MAOIs as a treatment for depression See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lets talk about the ICK! What is it, how to know if it is an alarm bell for a red flag or just something small you can move past. I also go over a WHOLE bunch of 'Icks' send through to me by you beans. HILARIOUS. Brain Fact: Why smells trigger such strong memories. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

FOMO! What is it? why does it consume you so much? This episode will go over why you feel this way, even when you don't want to go out, and how to start getting over FOMO. It also goes into dealing with people who have it, and how to navigate those conversations. Brain Fact - L-Theanine See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices