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In this episode I'm diving into the brain fact of endorphins – and taking a look at the impact endorphins from physical exercise can have on neuronal development in the brain. Plus, just how EPIC the runners high is. If this doesn’t convince you to raise your heart rate once a day I honestly don't know what will! LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Buy DYFM Merch at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you rebuild your life when your marriage ends and your career feels like it’s stalling? John Kim (The Angry Therapist) has walked that walk, after he got divorced in his 20s, and his dream of being a screenwriter became something he didn’t want any more. After starting a masters in therapy, blogging his experiences on Tumblr, John’s life started down a path he never thought he’d end up on. RECOMMENDATIONS Check out @theangrytherapist on IG Listen to John’s podcast ‘The Angry Therapist Podcast’ at https://spoti.fi/48cWfxm . Listen to Alexis’ interview on John’s podcast at https://spoti.fi/48cWkkE . LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Buy DYFM Merch at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: John Kim Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find that you fall heeadd over heels with someone on a first date? Or even BEFORE the first date? Do you watch Rom-Coms and think Oh MY GOD that’s what I need. My beautiful bean you are confusing love with limerence. I’m going to take you through what limerence is, how it differs from love, why romantic movies are selling you a LIE and finally – how to chill and calm your farm when you’re dating. It might just help you find someone you’re actually compatible with! RECOMMENDATIONS Listen to my interview with Sabrina Zohar where we talked about Limerence at https://pod.fo/e/216a82. Read The Gottman framework for the 3 Phases of Love at https://bit.ly/gottman-love . Listen to my episode 48. Lets break down attachment theory / styles’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f8308 . LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Buy DYFM Merch at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we dive deep into the science behind Caffeine, the psychoactive substance found in coffee, tea, gels and other products. I chat about what it does to the brain, how it keeps you awake, why it’s a performance enhancer. Plus I explore how it interacts with dopamine within the brain to increase alertness as well as dopamine signalling in the brain. RECOMMENDATIONS Read ‘Caffeine: Cognitive and Physical Performance Enhancer or Psychoactive Drug?’ from Current Neuropharmacology Read ‘Neuroprotective Effects of Coffee Bioactive Compounds: A Review’ from International Journal of Molecular Sciences’ Listen to Huberman Lab podcast from Andrew Huberman and his chats about Caffeine https://bit.ly/huberman-caffeine . LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Buy DYFM Merch at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's been 300 WHOLE episodes of DYFM so my producer Elise put together some voice memos from you my beautiful beans! Plus I go through my favourite episodes of the pod (so far duh), where a new bean should start if you’re recommending the show to a friend, and what I'm manifesting for the next 300 episodes! RECOMMENDATIONS Listen to Arnold Schwarzenegger’s podcast Pump Club. Don’t know where to start with DYFM as a new listener? Check out these episodes below Ep 240 ‘Why Discipline is Your Ticket to the Life You Want’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-240 . Ep ‘137. Your Pain and Discomfort is the Ticket to the Life You Want’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f82eb . Ep 141 ‘Do this for 30 days and see what happens for you’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-141 . Listen to my Brain Fact on the woman who could smell parkinsons disease – starting at 1:50 at https://bit.ly/dyfm-240 . Listen to the Brain Fact on Water Intoxication starting at 1:28 in episode 147 at https://pod.fo/e/206882 . Listen to ‘7. Toxic Psychos and Red Flags’ episode at https://pod.fo/e/1f831c . LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Buy DYFM Merch at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode we’re going deep on my ‘ins’ and ‘outs’ for 2024 PLUS I read out your ins and outs! LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In part 2 of my Neuroscience episodes about antidepressants I’m diving into the Glutamate Hypothesis. I chat about the role of the glutamatergic system within the brain in helping us to better understand why some people don’t respond well to the first line of treatments, such as SSRIs. I’m also diving into treatment resistant depression, electro convulsive therapy (ECT) neuroplasticity and transcranial magnetic stimulation. LINKS: Listen to Part 1 of this series The Neuroscience of Anti-Depressants: The Monoamine Hypothesis at https://pod.fo/e/21783a . Read the paper ‘Glutamatergic System in Depression and Its Role in Neuromodulatory Techniques Optimization’ accessible via PUBMED https://tr.ee/glutamatergic-paper . Listen to episode 50. Stress on the brain and how to reverse its effects at https://pod.fo/e/1f8306 . Listen to episode 257 my episode on Ketamine as a treatment for depression here https://bit.ly/Dyfm-ketamine. Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

FOR 2024 I'm rebranding the Listener Question segment of the pod to be HEAD NOISE! Same content idea but with a new name. SO – in this first episode of Head Noise for 2024 I’m answering these three questions 1) Should I contact the ex-wife of a man who I was seeing but then suddenly ghosted be after he found out his ex-wife knew we were seeing each other. 2) I text my new partner all the time, at least daily, but they don’t reply to me very often. After listening to your episode with Sabrina Zohar I've been reflecting that maybe I’m anxiously attached. My partner says that I am overreacting by explaining that I’m not feeling like a priority when they take ages to reply to me or don’t incorporate me into their plans. How do I communicate to my partner that this is important to me, or am I letting him railroad me and it’s part of a bigger picture? 3) My anxious attachment style is getting in the way of my relationship with my introverted partner. I’m feeling like a burden because of my hyper fixation on his feeling and me being so hypervigilant and afraid of being abandoned by him. What can I do? LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like garbage by the time Sunday evening rolls around? Does the thought of starting on the "hamster wheel" of work on Monday raise your anxiety and dread?I wanna take you through what the Sunday Scaries are, why it happens and my 11 steps for overcoming it. LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s a lot of talk about the monoamine hypothesis of Depression, which is the theory that a reduced level of serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine in the central nervous system is what causes symptoms of depression, but is it the cause? In this episode we’ll find out what the evidence is, and what treatments work based on that hypothesis, and how they relate to the drugs that are currently on the market to treat symptoms of Depression. In the next episode we'll go into more detail about the glutamatergic system and how these drugs interact with the brain, and potentially new treatments that could potentially reverse the negative side effects of some of the existing treatments. LINKS: Listen to Part 2 of the Neuroscience of Antidepressants: The Glutamate Hypothesis at https://pod.fo/e/219f62 . Listen to my episode on Ketamine as a treatment for depression here https://bit.ly/Dyfm-ketamine. Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Podcaster and content creator Sabrina Zohar has been doing the work! The host of Do The Work joins the pod to talk about setting boundaries, living with anxiety and anxious attachment, and taking ownership of your life. Oh and also how to tell if someone is TOO attached to their parents to prevent awkward moments like them walking in on you having sex like it’s no big deal…. Sabrina’s podcast Do The Work is available on all podcast platforms. LINKS: Listen to Do The Work with Sabrina Zohar https://spoti.fi/3S2OhAQ . Check out @do.the.work.podcast on Instagram https://bit.ly/dothework-ig . Follow @sabrina.zohar on Instagram https://bit.ly/sabrinazohar-ig . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Sabrina ZoharExecutive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do tasks seem insurmountable? Are you finding your goals just SO unachievable? You might be looking at goal setting and ACHIEVING in general in a way that is setting you up to fail. I wanna talk to you about the theory of marginal gains, how little achievements move you closer to your goals, and how to improve your life with these little bouts of moving the needle. LINKS: Listen to my episode with a brain fact on L-Theanine in episode 205 https://bit.ly/dyfm-205 . Check on James Clear’s book Atomic Habits: Tiny changes Remarkable Results here https://bit.ly/jamesclearhabits . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Brain Fact episode I'm diving into the impact of fasting on the brain, its benefits, and how fasting is being researched as a potential easing of symptoms for Parkinson’s patients. LINKS: Read more about Ketosis from the Cleveland Clinic https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24003-ketosis . Read about Autophagy from the Cleveland Clinic https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24058-autophagy . Read Vasim I, Majeed CN, DeBoer MD. Intermittent Fasting and Metabolic Health. Nutrients. 2022 Jan 31;14(3):631. doi: 10.3390/nu14030631. PMID: 35276989; PMCID: PMC8839325. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8839325/ . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We had a bit of time at the end of our record for the previous episode so I asked Revie some of the questions you submitted via the DYFM Pod Instagram page. We jump all over the shop and have a silly fun time, so come along for the ride!If you want to learn more about Revie's journey check out her website https://reviejane.com/ and follow her on Instagram @reviejane. LINKS: Follow @reviejane on IG https://bit.ly/reviejane-ig and @reviejane on Tiktok https://bit.ly/reviejane-tt . Check out @alitahstate on IG https://bit.ly/alitahstate-ig . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Revie Jane Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we’re going to delve deep into the personal story of the wonderful and gorgeous Revie Jane. Revie is legend of a woman, mum, founder of activewear label Alitah State, partner and content creator. She also had a traumatic childhood where she was abandoned by both her parents, leading to her developing CPTSD and OCD. But she doesn't want her past to be an insurmountable weight that defines her, and shares how she is doing the work to live a steady and joyful life. If you want to learn more about Revie's journey check out her website https://reviejane.com/ and follow her on Instagram @reviejane. We’ll be discussing topics around her childhood trauma and abuse as well as suicidal ideation so please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 or online at lifeline.org.au if this raises any issues for you. LINKS: Follow @reviejane on IG https://bit.ly/reviejane-ig and @reviejane on Tiktok https://bit.ly/reviejane-tt . Check out @alitahstate on IG https://bit.ly/alitahstate-ig . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Revie Jane Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you look at people who are carefree and sigh thinking "that'll never be me". In this episode I’m diving into how to become carefree – and why your love of being in control may be doing you a disservice. LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alright beans I'm changing things up in the feed for the new year and I'm PUMPPPEDDD. My first brand new ep of 2024 is a solo brain fact, all about sleep cycles, REM, and whether or not napping is actually good for your brain. Going forward we're gunna have Brain Facts on Mondays, Usual episode topics on Wednesdays and I'm rebranding the Listener Question to be called Head Noise every Friday (along with guest interviews on Fridays too). GOOOOD TIMESSSSS! LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On my final episode of my Being Better Series I've got an activity for you/ For the next 30 days I’ve got four things I want you to try, like really commit to doing, and then see what happens in your life. Let me know in the Facebook group how you go – or if you end up doing it beyond the 30 days! LINKS: Hear my full episode ‘141. Do this for 30 days, and see what happens for you’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-141 . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you read the word 'Discipline' and go "ughhhh". Well my bean this episode is for you. I want you ton rethink how you see discipline, cause it may just be the ticket to getting the life you ACTUALLY want.LINKS: Hear my full episode ‘240. Why discipline is your ticket to the life you want’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-240 . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're going deep on the science of Sleep, what stages of sleep are important and how much can it impact your mood, your memory, your and your overall well-being; Plus exploring some simple tips and habits to incorporate into your bed time routine for the best possible sleep. Also a disclaimer for parents and carers before this episode that obviously some of my tips might not work when you’re waking up every few hours for feed etc, but there are stillsome really great tips in here for maximising the quality of sleep you DO get! LINKS: Get more detail science on sleep in ‘70. Science of sleep, and its effects on weight gain, mood disorders and memory’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-70-sleep . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s the difference between a boundary and a controlling behaviour? Well my beans, this episode I’m taking you through the difference, as well as how to set boundaries for yourself in a healthy respectful way. PLUS I touch on how to tell when someone is using “boundaries” to actually be manipulative. LINKS: Dive deeper into purpose with my episode ‘233. Boundaries VS Controlling Behaviour AND how to set healthy boundaries to improve your self love’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-233 . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With the start of the new year it's the perfect time to talk about your purpose. If you're feeling a little bleh, listless or rudderless then you might need this purpose pep talk. I’m going to talk you through how to figure out what your purpose is, focusing on connection and finding what it is you reallllly want. LINKS: Dive deeper into purpose with my episode ‘17. Finding Your Purpose Pt 1’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-17 . Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your imposter syndrome stop you from doing cool shit? Do you feel like you don’t deserve success when you get it? My beautiful bean you don’t have to live your life ruled by imposter syndrome. In episode 9 of my Being Better mini series let’s get into what it is, where it comes from and a tonne of tips on how to overcome it. LINKS: Listen to my episode '123. Imposter Syndrome Be Gone' where I go into even MORE detail on how to overcome it https://bit.ly/dyfm-123-imposter . Listen to my ep with Jemma Sbeg from The Psychology of Your 20s about Imposter Syndrome in your 20s at https://bit.ly/dyfm-269 . Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 8 of Being Better and let's talk AMBITION my beans. What is it, how to increase it, and how to stop self-sabotaging your own goals. LINKS: Listen to my episode '124 Ambition – What is it and how to increase it' where I go into a LOT more detail https://bit.ly/dyfm-124-ambition . Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's episode 7 of being Better and let’s talk habits. Is the way you’re setting a habit actually setting yourself up to fail? Is there a better way to do it? You bet your arse there is. We’re going through how to set up a new habit so it actually sticks around, why you struggle to stick to your goals, and how to start your new year’s goals with a bit of extra oomph. LINKS: Listen to my episode ‘How habits can transform your life’ https://bit.ly/dyfm-108-habits . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 6 of Being Better and I'm digging into heartbreak. I'm taking on some meaty questions like "What do you do when you mutually break up with someone and they instantly date their ex?", "How do you know when you should break up with someone" and "Should there be chemistry by the third date? I'm seeing someone who's a total catch on paper but there's zero flutter." Breakups SUCK but hopefully these tips take the sting out a little bit. Happy listening! LINKS: Listen to my episode about breakups and healing from heartbreak where I get into more of these questions https://bit.ly/dyfm-81-heartbreak . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s episode 5 of Being Better and today we’re talking regrets; how to live with them, understanding their purpose, and having the courage to tell them (politely) to f*ck off. LINKS: Listen to my episode about regret "Missed Opportunities: Becomign OK with the shots you didn’t take" on your pod apps or this link https://bit.ly/dyfm-ep253 . . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to episode 4 of Being Better and today we’re taking about honouring a commitment to yourself. Do you trust yourself enough to make promises you can keep? If you’ve ever broken a promise to yourself then this episode is for you. From learning how to trust yourself to knowing when to stop and when to pick up the pieces, I explain why keeping promises to yourself is one of the greatest forms of self love and self respect and why you should do it more often. LINKS: Listen to my episode where I chat all things keeping promises to yourself at https://bit.ly/dyfm-promises-244 . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you procrastinate more than you commit to doing what you need to do to achieve your goals? It’s episode 3 of my Being Better series to get your 2024 started with a bang. In this ep we’re talking soft action vs bold action – and how knowing the difference between the two is the secret to getting shit done! As a teaser: Bold Action is the thing that is crucial to deliver results. Soft Action is all the smaller, peripheral actions that contribute to the bigger picture. LINKS: Listen to my episode where I deep dive into Soft Action VS Bold Action at https://bit.ly/soft-bold-action . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In episode 2 of my Being Better series we’re talking new years resolutions! What are they, how to make a good one, and why it feels so good to set a goal at this time of year (and how to make one that'll last). LINKS: Listen to my episode on New Year’s Resolutions for a more in depth pep talk https://bit.ly/dyfm-34-newyears . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year BEANS! I want you to get your new year started right so for the next 14 days I’m bringing you bite sized pep talks and mindset tricks as part of my Being Better series. And cause it’s Jan 1 and I KNOW you're feeling a bit dusty today, let's kick off with wtf a hangover is, and how to minimise its effects. LINKS: Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel empowered when you’re single? Dating doesn’t have to be a total shit show and I want to teach you how. Whether you just want to have fun being single or want to find your person, this episode will teach you how to feel confident in knowing what you want, go out on dates without feeling anxious and even feel empowered to meet your person! LINKS: Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Merry Christmas and happy holidays my beans. Today can be a hectic one, so I wanted to give you a present for being a listener this year. I’m taking you through a meditation offered normally as part of the DYFM+ program, but for free! If you want to check out more of my meditations, you can find them as part of DYFM+ https://bit.ly/dyfm-supercast . Thank you SO much for all your support this year, it means so much to me. LINKS: Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My beans it has been a HUGE year – and sometimes we just burn and burn and burn through episodes without reflecting so I wanted to find out, what were your favourite brain facts this year? And my GOD the response was huge. So here they are, your three favourite brain facts of the year – dankeeee!!! LINKS: Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you live a life that’s true to your authentic self? In this episode I’m exploring the concept of the authentic self, what it means to be happy and how you can tap into it more effectively. I’m also jumping into the idea of self inconsistency and self conflict. Together these concepts will help you understand more about what it is that makes you happy, and how to live that life more authentically. If you’ve ever felt a little lost in life, this episode will show you how to get some of these tools to really help you feel like you are living on purpose with what you truly want to do. LINKS: Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My beautiful beans I’m joined by the amazing Jemma Sbeg, host of the podcast The Psychology of Your 20s. We’re talking all about quarter-life-crises, imposter syndrome, finding friends, and figuring your shit out. LINKS: Listen to The Psychology of Your 20s via https://linktr.ee/thepsychologyofyour20s Follow @jemmasbeg on IG Check out @thatpsychologypodcast on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Jemma SbegExecutive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A different kind of episode today! We're jumping into an interview I did with Antoinette Lattouff from The Weekend Briefing - where I make a pretty big announcement about something coming in 2024!! LINKS: Listen to The Briefing podcast https://spoti.fi/3R9E8C1 . Follow @thebriefingpodcast on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What actually IS burnout and how can you get through it/over it. I’m going to take you through my 8 steps to overcome it and how to differentiate stress from burnout. BRAIN FACT:The impact of alcohol on sleep and it’s interaction with your neurochemistry when sleeping. LISTENER QUESTION: A bean gets in touch with what sounds like a very unhealthy relationship, asking for my advice on whether they should stay together or go their separate ways. Given the info they’ve given me on their relationship I have some tough but important advice! LINKS: Check out Dr Matt Walker at https://www.sleepdiplomat.com/ Listen to Matt Walker’s podcast at Buzzsprout https://bit.ly/mattwalker-podcast . Try out my meditations at dyfmpod.com (these are part of the DYFM+ Membership) https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Renee Chagoury Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you rebuild your identity after a divorce? How do you find yourself after breakup with children? Renee Chagoury is one of my oldest mates, a single mum of two girls, a schoolteacher and the founder of Sole Sisters Run Club. Her journey of rebuilding herself after a breakup instils hope that there is something else out there that you can do from the inside out that will make you a better person. LINKS: Follow @solesistersrunclub on IG Check out @BarelyWorn_ThriftMarkets on IG Follow @renlsvb on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Renee Chagoury Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you make the best of the rest of the year? Today’s episode is all about how to feel like you have milked the last few weeks of out of life. There is so much that you can do in this final month of to really make the most of it. Brain Fact: The story of the woman who had a worm in her brain! The 4 ways you can get a parasite living inside you (skip ahead to around 11 minutes if you’re squeamish) Listener Question: I’ve come home from travelling and feel like I hate the life I’ve returned to. Please help! LINKS: Listen to my episode on Soft VS Bold action https://bit.ly/soft-bold-action . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This ep is a juicy one. I’m talking about getting comfortable because it’s easy, rather than challenging and pushing yourself toward a life you actually want. We’re talking about the signs you’re slipping into a pattern, living up to someone else’s ideals instead of your own, not knowing what you want, feeling lost and frustrated, and how to start to turn it all around. Listener Question: I’ve struggled to set boundaries my whole life and people often walk all over me. I've done a LOT of work on myself to unlearn these unhelpful beahviours including cutting out my toxic friends who took advantage of me. Recently an old friend has moved to my city but things feel different, and I can feel the blame creeping in from her that I am not doing enough in our friendship. Please help me before it blows up! LINKS: Listen to my episode on Sunk Cost Fallacy here https://bit.ly/46TyOJs . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does turning 30 come with so much pressure to have your shit together? I’m going to explore WHY we feel like we need to have our life sorted by 30, and how to get out of that comparison loop and just live your life no matter your age or stage. Listener Question:I'm from England but have established a life in Australia. My long distance boyfriend has put it to me that I should come back to England to start our lives together and I don't know what to do. Please help! LINKS: Listen to my episode with my cousin Giselle called “Shit Happens (Literally)” https://bit.ly/dyfm-giselle . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk reputation my beans: what it is, how you get one and MOST importantly how you can change your reputation if you've got a baaad one. Brain Fact: The Ceiling Effect in pharmacology . Listener Question:Me and an ex bestie had a falling out a few years ago but I still have to interact with them in group settings. It’s hard but I do it cause I don’t wanna miss out on group things with mates. It’s awkward but I get on with it. I’m getting married soon and feel like it’ll be awkward and dramatic if I don’t invite them because I’m literally inviting our whole friendship group EXCEPT them. On the other hand, this person has done nothing but been a bad friend and not a good person so I really don’t want her making things awkward on my wedding day. What do I do? LINKS: Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by the QUEEN of podcasting and social media and being hot and clever – Abbie Chatfield. I really wanted to dive into a chat all about being trolled on social media, navigating friendships, and how to talk to someone whose beliefs are SO different to your own. LINKS: Listen to It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield https://linktr.ee/itsalotpod . Follow @itsalotpod on Instagram https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Listen to Abbie’s podcast episode with her mum about the little cockroach https://bit.ly/3SBVwlc . Listen to Abbie’s interview with Bassem Youssef https://spoti.fi/3G7YQgd . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Abbie Chatfield Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're holding grudges in a relationship, if you're keeping score for when someone let you down, I want you to STOP. Here's how to stop grudges getting in the way of forming long lasting, meaningful relationships. BRAIN FACT:Nerve Growth Factor (NGF): A type of protein that places a key role in growth, development, and the maintenance of nerve cells in the nervous system. EXTRA READING Nerve Growth Factor Explained from Science Direct https://bit.ly/nervegrowthfactor . Watch ‘Response of Cells to Nerve Growth Factor’ (NGF) from University of Massachusetts YouTube channel - https://bit.ly/ngf-umass . LISTENER QUESTION: My mother has taken to undermining me in front of my partner and it’s really upsetting. I am worried about my partner leaving me because of how my mother treats me. DO you have any advice on what I can do? LINKS: Send your Listener question to [email protected] Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos and Nick BarrettDYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like Ru Paul said - If you can't love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else can I get an AMEN up in here?! In this episode I’m refreshing my tips for boosting your self-worth to live the bad ass life you deserve. BRAIN FACT:RBD: REM sleep disordered: characterised by the absence of normal muscle atonia during REM sleep EXTRA READING REM Behaviour Disorder explainer from Stanford Medicine: Health Care - https://shc.is/3u2wmSp . Read ‘RACGP - REM sleep behaviour disorder – more than just a parasomnia’ from RACGP https://bit.ly/remsleepdisorder . LISTENER QUESTION: My wife has asked for an open marriage, but I don’t feel the same way. WE have a child and I really don’t want to let this go. What do I do? LINKS: Send your Listener question to [email protected] Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos and Nick BarrettDYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My beautiful BEANS this episode we're diving into how to turn your desperation into true attraction; we're talking in romantic relationships, your career, your friendships. BRAIN FACT:How does local anaesthetic work? Did you know that cocaine was one of the first local anaesthetics discovered and used! EXTRA READING Read 'Basic pharmacology of local anaesthetics' from BJA Education https://bit.ly/3SqoRPA . Watch this explainer on how local anaesthetic works from Armando Hasudangan on YouTube https://bit.ly/localanaesthetic-explainer . LISTENER QUESTION: I broke up with my bf 2 months ago after I found out he had been reacting to other girls’ stories in Instagram and heart reacting to hot photos of other women. He was shocked. He's so distraught and I’m now feeling regret over the break up. How do I move on because I feel not good enough and wondering what he's up to. LINKS: Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on IG CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is Ketamine being used to treat depression and anhedonia? In this science-y episode I'm going through the neuroscience of Ketamine and the brain, the chemical makeup of the drug, and why it's being used in many trials to treat people with treatment resistant depression and anhedonia. BRAIN FACT:ECT therapy – what is It, how does it work, what type of mental disorders is it used as a treatment for. Read more about ECT from the Mayo Clinic https://mayocl.in/3sfPN9W . EXTRA READING Read Understanding Anhedonia https://bit.ly/anhedonia-explained . Mandal S, Sinha VK, Goyal N. Efficacy of ketamine therapy in the treatment of depression. Indian J Psychiatry. 2019 Sep-Oct;61(5):480-485. doi: 10.4103/psychiatry.IndianJPsychiatry_484_18. PMID: 31579184; PMCID: PMC6767816. LISTENER QUESTION:rr I’m doing my PHD and have realised I don’t think I want a career in the thing I’m studying. After listening to your episode on the Sunk Cost Fallacy (https://bit.ly/46TyOJs ) I’m looking for advice on whether or not I should finish the PHD or not. LINKS: Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you know if you are setting the bar too low for yourself, your relationships and your career / abilities? In this episode, I cover what happens when you do that, and why it is important to turn that around so you can start expecting and receiving more out of life. Brain Fact: Explaining Urbach-Wiethe disease. of people who don't experience the physiological aspects of the fear response. Urbach-Wiethe disease on Wikipedia https://bit.ly/urbachwiethe . Koen N, Fourie J, Terburg D, Stoop R, Morgan B, Stein DJ, van Honk J. Translational neuroscience of basolateral amygdala lesions: Studies of Urbach-Wiethe disease. J Neurosci Res. 2016 Jun;94(6):504-12. doi: 10.1002/jnr.23731. PMID: 27091312. LINKS Send your Listener question to [email protected] Join DYFM + https://bit.ly/dyfm-membership . Subscribe to the DYFM 6 week course https://bit.ly/dyfm-course . Follow @dyfmpodcast on Instagram Follow @alexispredez on Instagram Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @listnrentertainment on Instagram CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adult friendships can be harrrrrd – and being in business with a mate is even harder. In this episode I’m joined by two friends who seem to have it figured out! Steph Claire Smith and Laura Henshaw, founders of KIC – the wellbeing and lifestyle community that’s an app and a podcast (kinda like us!). They talk all about the friendship, their relationships with their bodies, and how they got to where they are today. PLUS Steph and Laura are offering my beans 1 month FREE on the KIC app using the code DYFM. Sign up at https://kicapp.com/ select the monthly subscription and enter DYFM to redeem. The Code will only work via the website, then once you have an account, download the app and Log in to enjoy! LINKS Use code 'DYFM' to get one month free on the KIC app (sign up via website https://kicapp.com/ ) Listen to KICPOD with Steph and Laura Follow @laura.henshaw on IG Check out @stephclairesmith on IG Follow @kicpod on Instagram https://bit.ly/ig-kicpod . Play the DYFM Card game https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez Guests: Laura Henshaw and Steph Claire Smith Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices