Wellish

I wanted to answer the commonly asked question of why we can feel we don't stick with our self care routines. I talk about 3 areas that you could shift your thinking in to help you better incorporate self care into your life consistently and not feel like you are have an on again off again relationship with taking care of yourself.

On this week's episode I sat down with women’s personal growth coach, speaker and author of the book Lady and the Tribe, How to Create Empowering Friendship Circles, Brenda Ridgely. Brenda's mission is to help women find and build deep connections with other women and create a Tribe of support. She discusses her blueprint for reconnecting and becoming whole. She shares applicable tips and tactics to create friendships in our lives as adults, how to weed out the friendships that aren't meant for us, how to take control of our own friendships without just leaving them up to fate, and strengthening our ability to be selective in our friendships and not letting anyone flow in and out of our life. Brenda also shares a FREE copy of her book "The Lady and the Tribe: How to Create Empowering Friendship Circles". You can access that at https://www.brendaridgley.com/freebook

On this week's solo episode I am celebrating my 26th birthday by sharing 26 of my biggest life lessons. The 26 things I list here are what I regularly use to get me through my life, the advice I give to others on a consistent basis, and now what I found most impactful to share with you. Consider this 26 tips to get through your 20's and hopefully beyond. From practical tips like making some quick extra cash, beauty secrets, and advice for when you're drunk to personal development and feeling like your best self, if you are just trying to make it through your 20's in a way you will feel satisfied with this episode is for you.

On this weeks episode I wanted to bring a little science and research to why the h*ll we can't seem to reach happiness. Turns out we have been focusing on the wrong things. I used my Coursera course "The Science of Wellbeing" and the book "Think Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman for the studies and research provided in this episode. I review the most common things we think will make us happy, but don't and the proof it doesn't work. I end the episode reviewing why they don't make us happy and the one thing we do have control over that can help us work towards happiness, so we can stop wasting energy on what doesn't. If you are tired of working hard to be happy and feeling you consistently lack results this episode is for you.

Hi friends. I ditched ya'll last week and I apologize. The reason was this right here. I just haven't been mentally 100% at my best. A lot of overthinking, a lot of self depreciation and I just didn't have the mental capacity for an episode. I decided, even though I still wasn't at my best by the time I recorded this episode, that 1) I wasn't missing two weeks in a row and 2) this is what Well ISH is all about. No matter how many tools you have in your self improvement tool belt, there are still mental lows we go through and you are not a failure because of it. Hang out with me and let's get back to our best selves at our own pace <3P.S. if you are having consistent feelings of overwhelming and heavy emotion Call 988 or Text 988 or Chat 988lifeline.org/chat for the Suicide and Crisis Hotline.

On this weeks episode I am discussing a fear that is very close to home, but in today's social media era not uncommon. Many of us work hard to not settle constantly being exposed to more of people's highlights in their life than they are to real life experiences. We are living in a time right now that if you follow the traditional path you feel like you are at risk of not living a fulfilled life. I want to show you in this episode how this fear is causing that to happen simply by having it more than it would if you allowed yourself to let it go, give yourself permission to be okay with your life, AND what you need to do in order to not feel like you are living a life that you don't like. If you are constantly trying to level up but never feel good enough or like you're doing it right this episode is for you.

This week I sat down with relationship coach Bethany Nic0le to discuss people generosity to feed their own validation, sense of worthiness, coerce you to do something you're not comfortable with, not allow you to set boundaries etc. we discuss how to cope with people who use generosity as a means of controlling you through validating themselves,, a means of preventing you to set boundaries, and ensuring you behave in a specific way. We also discuss how to ensure you do not behave this way, and if you do working to move away from it and not feel shame by it. We also discuss how to keep these people at bay when you cannot just cut them out of your life. If you are someone who has felt people do things just to get something out of you, this episode is for you.

On this episode I wanted to talk about something that you may not realize when you begin to really heal. How many issues come up in several relationships in your life and for a variety of reasons. You don't realize the correlation between your healing and why your connections with other tend to struggle. It can leave you feeling alone, confused, like you're not good enough, like you're doing something wrong, pushing against your healing efforts even further. If you feel like you have been experiencing push back in your relationships lately, this episode is for you.

On this week's solo episode I walk through the Elite through several indicators that are telling of whether or not you're settling in your relationship. From subtle to obvious red flags you will not finish this episode without knowing in your heart whether or not you're settling in your relationship even if you're not ready to admit it to yourself yet. While you may feel upset and disappointed this episode WILL NOT make you feel like you are doing something wrong for still being in the relationship and pressure you to leave immediately. This episode is solo for awareness in order to become the best version of yourself and create a life you love. Whether you want are unsure and in denial, single and want to know what not to allow in a relationship, or you just need validation this episode is for you.

On this solo episode I dive into my most highly requested episode: how the hell did you have the courage to start posting on social media? SO many of the Elite want to know how I started, why I started, and what steps I took to create my podcast and have the courage to post on social media. I tell you guys my story from very beginning up until the creation of my first episode and lessons that I have learned since episode 1 in effort to help you see similarities between the two of us to highlight your own capability of creating something of your own. Throughout the episode I provide insights on what I think works best, how I overcame my fears, the best strategies I have found, and my step by step process in getting started including the actual equipment, programs, and websites I use to make Wellish possible. I end the episode with my best advice in overcoming the fear of posting online and guidance to help you find value in your content that is more than just money or following that will drive you to make content without worrying about the fear of other people's opinions. If you want to create ANYTHING not just a podcast or content online, but don't know where to start or feel afraid to start, this episode is for you.

No body, no matter how self improved they are is perfect. Even more, you typically have to experience some pretty toxic thoughts and actions to learn your lesson and get to a healthier spot because you know you did not like how that felt. Today, I wanted to bring you to the toxic side of Wellish and let you in on my cringiest regrets. I am telling you 4 stories that to this day make my skin crawl because of how embarrassed I am by the way my toxic brain chose to operate at that point in time, to help you learn from my mistakes and hopefully help knock some sense into you before you engage in some cringe city behavior. I follow each story up with the lesson I learned and how my self improved brain interprets the reason I acted out of pocket. If you need validation for your radical behavior or just an entertaining story time this episode is for you.

For the final episode of the 28 Days of Self Love I wanted to elaborate on the importance of putting intention towards self love and how it is the back bone of becoming your Elite self. I discuss how if we lost everything else, but had self love we would still be able to rebuild our self love, the most common mistake most people make in regards to self love on their journey to becoming their best self, and what self love will provide for your life. If you are in a vicious cycle of trying to become your best self and think that once you do you will love yourself this episode is for you.

I wanted to give you tools to carry with you for a long time after the series ends. Self soothing tools to make your feel safe. Tools to help your racing mind find a place of ease so you can think with more clarity and gain control of you overwhelm, overactive mind, high emotions, or whatever you are experiencing. No matter how far along you are in your self love journey you will benefit from these tools because even the "most healed" person (if that even exists) experiences negative emotions. While these tools will not solve your challenges, they will allow you to make clear decisions that you feel good about leading to you living a life of your choice. If your mind gets the best of you all the time or just once in awhile this episode is for you.

As we come to the end of the 28 Days of Self Love series, I thought it would be really impactful for our last speaker of the serious to prove to the Elite that it is truly possible to go from a really low place to a place of self love. Shannon McBride describes her path to self love. For years she battled with mental illness, became a mother unplanned at 19, faced huge amount of anxiety, relationship problems, mental health crisis and post-natel depression. Shannon expresses how nobody around her really knew what she was experiencing. "I hated myself, my life and being a mother and I felt like if I told anyone what was really going on I would be judged or people wouldn't believe me or if they did my kids would get taken from me." She goes on to explain her breakthrough that cause her to turn her whole life around. She explains how she worked to cut out toxic people and habits, grow her self confidence, quit university and set up her business of double award winning mindfulness coaching. She discusses how she is a much better, more present and happier parent, her improved health and energy and the her gratitude for life. If you are looking for a sense of hope that it is possible that you too will get to a place of self love, this episode is for you.

On this episode I thought it would be fun to give you guys some action steps to focus on if you are wanting to take your self love just a little further. While it isn't necessary to grow your self love like the other topics we've discussed throughout the series it is something that will only take your self love another step further. Using Dr. Gary Chapman's concept of "Love Language" I thought it would help to focus the 5 love languages on ourselves. I walk you through the meaning being the 5 different love languages and they ways you could apply them to yourself for an extra boost of self love. If you feel like you could be doing more to love yourself this episode is for you.

For this episode I wanted to give the Elite a wake up call. Our society always alludes to perfection. If we do more if we work harder we will finally step into these best versions of ourselves. We will be fully healed. We won't be the sucky wimp that we are right now. And it works! Because we always have room to improve! So, it's not very hard to convince us that if we just bought their program or followed their social media we could potentially get the result we want. And it's worth a shot right? So if we can't be perfect what does healed look like? If you feel you work your a$$ off to become the best version of yourself and you always come up short this episode is for you.

On this episode I wanted to walk you through one of the major pillars of self love. One that a lot of the time we don't even correlate to self love and one that we may not realize just how much we may lack. I start the episode by explaining what self trust truly is, because my philosophy is if you aren't 100% clear on what it is it's going to make it that much harder to attain it. I then elaborate on several of the most common ways we can lose our own trust to help bring awareness to all the areas you may be causing or have caused your own distrust with out even realizing it. I end the episode with a series of ways you can work to gain in back in a realistic attainable, and relatable way. If you are constantly questioning yourself this episode is for you.

On this episode I walk the Elite through indicators that you are more resistant to your own evolution than you may be ready to acknowledge. It's one of the most mind blowing revelations especially for us personal growth folk because we believe so deeply in being open and receptive to whatever is thrown our way. We have growth mindsets and want to continue to develop. But, we really aren't able to develop as much as we feel we really should be. Somehow we are mentally so much farther than we are physically. We are discussing allowing ourselves to evolve when we want to and when life forces us to. I provide you some self soothing tools to allow you to create a life you are obsessed with as soon as you start embracing your own evolution. If you are someone who works towards your own growth, but hasn't progressed as much as you feel you should, this episode is for you.

Leaning how to rid yourself of your negative thoughts is something people have been trying to figure out forever. It is one of the most commonly asked questions how to cultivate a more positive mindset. And because self love is definitely not having negative thoughts it is important how to learn how to minimize them as much as we can. On this episode I explain to you the reason why we have these negative thoughts because knowing why makes it a lot easier to understand and even love that we have them and then I give you my 3 step process to eliminating the negative thoughts with enough practice and time. If you are someone who's mind seems to always drift back to the negative, this episode is for you.

A topic that continues to surface in our discussing about self love is making sure our needs are met. Today I want to talk to you guys about learning what your needs are. That way, you can begin to bring them into your life as consistently as possible and finally reach your full potential of self love that you can achieve and step into the best version of yourself you know you are capable of becoming. We seem to really forget to remember to sus out what our needs are. This episode will trigger that awareness and reflection in your everyday life and tell you exactly what to keep an eye out for. If you feel you are often unhappy and unfulfilled or at least could have more happiness and fulfillment in your life, this episode is for you.

On this episode, I sat down with Dr. Jane Tornatore, a self-love expert and therapist, and discussed the importance of self-love and its impact on mental health. She explores the process of helping individuals attain self-love by identifying and clearing blocks that hinder it. They also emphasized the need to unlearn negative self-perceptions that emerge from unmet needs in childhood. Dr. Tornatore provides several mind-blowing mindset shifts that will open up even someone with the most negative mindset to the possibility of loving yourself. No matter where you are on your road trip to self love this episode will open your eyes to the ways you could express self love even further.

The idea of this sounds crazy on the surface. Especially because we are always taught to stop comparing ourselves to others. And I agree! It is a bad habit. But, the bad habit isn't comparison itself, it's comparison leading to negative feelings about ourself like jealousy, putting ourselves down, and feeling inadequate. All comparison is is assessing similarities and difference and that can also lead to feelings of neutrality or even inspiration. On this episode I talk to the Elite about how to use comparison to their advantage in self love because most of the time comparing ourselves to others is an automatic reaction. But choosing what to do with that reaction is our choice. If you struggle with measuring your value when comparing yourself to others this episode is for you.

This is a topic that I believe is not talked about often enough in regards to self love. While self love is developed internally we cannot deny the ways that our external influences impact us. It is going to be a hell of a lot harder to love yourself if there are people in your ear making you feel like you aren't good enough, are putting you down, make you feeling you can't be your authentic self etc. It's also not going to be helpful if you are putting yourself in positions of discomfort, like continuously showing up for things you hate, not getting yourself in a financially stable situation, maintaining a clear house. If our enviroment is unstable it's more likely than not that we will be to. You can only build you self love so much in these circumstances and you will not be able to truly flourish to your full potential. If you feel your ability to love yourself may potentially be stunted by your surroundings, this episode is for you.

I don't want to contradict yesterday episode by empowering you to say no, but it is equally as important to push yourself out of your comfort zone and start saying yes. I am very adamant on not ever telling the Elite to do anything because they thinking they "should" or because they're "supposed to" and allow me to promise you that is not changing for this episode. I provide insight on two different areas for why you should be saying yes to more things in your life. One, to help you better align with the best version of yourself and two to live a life you authentically love. I then dive into all of the ways saying yes will enhance your life. But, don't worry I will never tell you to do something you do not want to do. If you have a hard time pushing yourself out of your comfort zone this episode is for you.

Saying no is a very common thing people struggle with and I am no exception. I still find it uncomfortable to say no when I have to because I have this underlying feeling like I am being rude and have a deep rooted old habit of people pleasing. On this episode I walk you guys through some other options to say no, but spend a majority of the time letting you guys know why it's okay to say no. I am giving you guys the prompts that I have found bring me the most success to tell myself in my head when I am feeling afraid of saying no. This episode will empower you to live more aligned with your ideal life. If you are someone who often feels afraid when they have the opportunity to say no this episode is for you.

I don't think there is enough information about there about HOW to actually build self worth. It mostly consists of letting us know that it's something we should already have. As one of the pillars of self love and on a day like Valentine's Day that we get so worked up over our worthiness, I thought it would be beneficial to provide you guys with tangible steps you can complete in order to begin building on your self worth. I start by explaining what self worth it, because it's easier to incorporate it into your life when you truly understand what it is, and then dive into several different ways that you can improve upon it. If you often feel like you aren't good enough this episode is for you.

I think confidence has a lot of misconceptions surrounding it creating almost a god like, perfect, intimidating persona around it making it seem really unachievable. On this episode, I wanted to break down what confidence is NOT in order to create a better understanding of what confidence is. I end the episode with the truth behind what confidence really is and a relatively easy way to begin to attain confidence in a way you never have before. If you have always wanted to be confident, but feel you're never totally there, this episode is for you.

For this Monday's episode I wanted to discuss the difference between loving yourself when you're single and loving yourself in a relationship because there is a difference. I sat down with relationship expert Bethany Nicole Barton and we discussed the importance of self-love in singlehood, the societal pressure to be in a relationship, our personal experiences and beliefs about relationships, understanding and communicating personal boundaries, and the importance of happiness and compatibility in relationships. Bethany emphasized the necessity of taking time to understand oneself, finding a compatible partner who supports growth and transformation, and maintaining personal happiness and individuality within a relationship. If you feel you often sacrifice yourself in relationships, want to prevent yourself from settling, or want to feel empowered as a single person or a relationship person, this episode is for you.

Whether you're too afraid to speak up or you often contribute to conversation, but say nothing of value or don't ever share your authentic thoughts and feelings this episode is for you. I start the episode explaining the fear, why we have it, and what needs to happen in order to overcome it. I then walk you through 5 tactics that will help you begin utilizing your voice in everyday conversation in an effort to cultivate more self love. The episode ends with motivation and reasons that you are perfectly capable of accomplishing this.

Standing up for yourself is one of the most important skills you can learn to improve yourself love. If you often find yourself being afraid standing up for yourself will cause aggression or drama or you're afraid of confrontation I walk you all the through overcoming that fear so you can feel capable of advocating for yourself. I provide tips on how to execute this in a very doable way as well as motivation to get this done. If you feel you do not advocate yourself as much as you should this episode is for you.

For a very saturated topic I didn't want to just talk to you guys about the importance and how different your life would be if you just talked nicely to yourself. Even though that's true, we've all heard that advice and it still doesn't make you talk any nice to yourself when bad shit inevitably pops up in your life. Today, I wanted to talk to you about how I do not believe in positive self talk. I believe in something different, more realistic, easier to actually do, easier to believe in and overall will cause you to begin speaking in a way to yourself that makes you feel confident and like you love yourself. If your mind is tuned into the negative radio frequency most of the time and you would like to change to the self love radio frequency this episode is for you.

I believe that the opinions of other people play a really big role in our ability to love ourselves. A big reason for that being that we are constantly given these ideas of what's right and wrong like we discussed in episode 6 and that is how we determine whether or not we're worthy of our own self love. On this episode I discuss the three areas we typically internalize people's opinions (family, friends, and significant others), why that is and how to begin to put their opinions lower on the totem pole than our own opinion. If you are constantly basing your self worth on the opinions of other people and haven't found a way to "just not care" like everyone tells you to, this episode is for you.

One of the biggest and most important lessons in my personal self love journey was learning how to validate myself internally and not needing to rely on external results in order to feel genuine validity. I never resonated with anything I read or listened to because I needed to learn how to do it for myself specifically. This episode is meant to inspire ideas of how you can validate yourself in your own way through tips of how I have learned to validate myself in several circumstances throughout my life naturally and authentically. I discuss the steps that I needed to take in order to learn to love myself and real life examples of what validating myself looks like. If you are someone who often seeks their self worth and good enoughness from outside sources this episode is for you.

On this episode of the 28 Days of Self love we are bringing awareness to all the areas in every corner of our life that we have created mindsets, perceptions, and thoughts were not created from our own minds but from what we have been exposed to. When we understand that our thoughts are not ours it is easier to decide what to do with the ideas we have been given in our life and decide what we would like to use to our benefit and what we would like to let go of since it was never ours to begin with. If you struggle with your place in the world and feeling like you can't fit in, aren't good enough, or never meet the image of yourself you have created in your mind this episode is for you.

To honor our typical Monday release during the 28 Days of Self Love, Sarah and Heather engaged in a conversation about the significance of body image and the role of somatics in healing. They discussed the impact of external messages on body image and self-worth. They also explored the role of exercise and healthy eating in maintaining a positive body image. Heather and Sarah discussed the importance of self-worth and body image, and how external appearance does not determine self-worth. They also explored the complexities of body image issues, the importance of self-esteem and how to improve your confidence when it comes to body image. If you are someone who struggles with loving themselves because they don't like what their physical appearance is yet this episode is for you.

I promise this episode will not be butterflies and rainbows and telling you how you just need to accept who you are as you are. I understand more than anyone else that you want to continue to become a better version of yourself. There is this subconscious idea that if we accept who we are that we no longer will be working on ourselves and that is not true. We need acceptance and surrender in order to authentically love ourselves. We will not authentically love ourselves when we reach this image we have created in our head. Listen to this episode to find out what will get us closer to unconditional self love.

In order to authentically love yourself you need to know who you love. But knowing who you are can feel like such a daunting concept to dig through. It can feel overwhelming and confusing. This episode is not going to help you define who you are, but feel at ease doing it. Sarah finishes the episode solidifying you knowing of who you are by connecting it back to self love.

Did we love ourselves as children and then as life began to pile on we stopped loving ourselves? Or did we have to learn what self love is all along? The only emotion we have known the entire time we were conceived is love. But when we only have known love to show up for us from an outside source compared to cultivating it from within us it's a pretty hefty expectation to have that just happen compared to us having to take action to make that happen. Most of the time when we realize we need to work on ourself love it's because bad sh*t is happening or in other words, there's a lack of love in your life. Including from yourself. All you're left with is society telling you that you should love yourself and you're doing something wrong because you don't. Now, alongside everything else going on in your life, you're beating yourself up for that too. If you are wondering what it would be like to deeply and authentically love yourself this episode is for you.

To kick off the 28 Days of Self Love I felt it was important to take a step back and actually take the time to understand WHAT self love is. Because self love is such a highly discussed topic we assume we know the true meaning of self love. Especially because at face value it sounds pretty digestable. Self love is loving oneself. But to actually begin to attain true self love you have to understand it at a deeper more specific level. When we fully understand what self love is instead of just focusing on how to do it it makes the how come at lot more natural allowing the self love to be genuine and to stick in your life for the longer term. If you have always wanted to love yourself or you like yourself enough but want to explore the idea of you loving yourself more than you could ever imagine this episode is for you.

On this weeks solo episode Sarah describes metacognition and how understanding how to develop the skill of metacognition will skyrocket your ability to become the best version of yourself. Using science to help explain why emotions happen and what happens in your body that causes us to experience our emotions in the way that we do. Even better, she discusses how to develop the ability to choose a response that will put us in the drivers seat so we don’t feel like a slave to our emotions and start to feel we truly are our Elite selves.

On this weeks episode Sarah and Sharon discuss their experiences of feeling disconnected from their authentic selves and the importance of rediscovering oneself through mindfulness and intentional living. They also discuss the power of positive thinking and the concept of manifesting a desired life. The conversation shifts to handling difficult situations like a high-risk multiple myeloma diagnosis and the importance of self-love, positive thinking, and resilience. They touch upon the societal pressure to please others and the importance of self-compassion. The discussion then moves to the power of thought control and its impact on one's reality. Sarah and Sharon discuss the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance, the challenge of balancing self-improvement with self-acceptance, and the importance of authenticity. They end the podcast discussing self-reflection, mindset, and personal growth.

We have over come the battle of just looking at others and feeling jealous wanting to have what they have. I guarantee you will not have even been presented with the 4 things I discuss in this weeks episode as to ways you are still comparing yourself to others. The biggest take away I want the Elite to get from this episode is how to stop living for other people and how to start living for yourself. If you are someone who never feels satisfied with their own life and who they are no matter how hard you try this episode is for you <3

On this episode I sat down with Sarah Armstrong, vice president of global marketing operations at Google, who has mentored women and men her entire career and avid “good divorce” proponent and the author of The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce: What to Think Through When Children Are Involved,” whose personal mission is offering insights and tips to moms – and dads – about how they too can have a “good divorce.” We discuss how to choose happiness despite hardship, the role children play in a role form both the perspective of the parents and the child and determining what your life will look like post relationship. Sarah provides tips on how to cope when you are the one going through the divorce as well as if you effected by a divorce during, but also after the heavy emotions take their toll. If you want to feel validated about any roll you have in seperating from a serious significant other from being the person in the relationship to being a child of divorce to being in a situation where two parents are not together, this episode is for you.

On this weeks solo episode we are leaning into the social norm of creating New Year's resolutions. There's nothing wrong with capitalizing on a surge of motivation, so let's set the goals, but let's do so in a way that we can actually get a win instead of feeling like whatever we set the intention to do eventually fades away. I am giving you guys concrete ways to actually feel like you are completing your resolution and becoming the best version of yourself. Including a guided exercise at minute 21:47! Here's to 2024!

We all handle stress differently, but everyday stress is so much different than holiday stress. We have to make time to connect with so many people, we have money anxiety and are stressing to find the perfect gift, we have to see our family, potentially a significant other's family, and Christmas just donesn't feel they way it used to. Sarah addresses not just holiday anxiety, but the ways we can so quickly sacrifice ourselves for the happiness of others because that's what you're supposed to do at this time of year. If you are a people pleaser that is easily overwhelmed by the chaos the holiday brings, this episode is for you.

On this week's Q&A episode Sarah is answering the Elite's questions. From friendship issues to how to validate yourself to no longer identifying with your old self Sarah is providing best friend advice to help you with your self improvement progression. If you are feeling stuck on your journey to become the best version of yourself and like you have tried too many self improvement things but have had very little clarity this episode is for you.

This list of signs that you are too hard on yourself is a bit more subliminal. Sarah discusses the way she never used to claim the identity of being too hard on herself out of a deeper, and quite honestly, kinder, self awareness that she is hard working and has a strong work ethic. She begins to peel back layers to reveal some things that we may not even realize we are doing that could indicate you are being too hard on yourself. Do you think that could be you?

On this weeks solo episode Sarah gets into a topic that she finds incredibly challenging. She speaks from the place of the beginner in this new journey closer to becoming her best self compared to a place of mastery. Over explaining, talking to much, and giving people more justification than they may deserve is a bad habit she is working hard to break, so Sarah has listed out the 3 mindset shifts that she has taken in her own life to shift away from being so bothered by people and events out of her control and towards and more calm, cool, collected, and confident way of handling issues. If you are a person who has ever been called "too sensitive" or just wants to stop feeling like outside circumstances have so much control over your emotions, this episode is for you.

On this week's solo episode Sarah walks the Elite through 6 pieces of self improvement advise that not only are unhelpful, but actually have the opposite effect you intended the self help to have. Without awareness, it can cause you to build a mental checklist that you use as ammunition against yourself making you feel like even more of a failure than you started off feeling like. Sarah explains how it is what you do most of the time that matters and you have to do what works for you, not what works for someone else. If you feel like you are always trying to improve but never feel like you're the best version of yourself this episode is for you.

This week Sarah sat down with Miriam Ortiz y Pino, Certified Professional Organizer (one of the first in the world), Simplicity Expert & Money Breakthrough Business Coach to discussed her systematic solution to cleaning your space for the long term. Sarah and Miriam discussed the ties between personal development and organization and how organizing helps you not only gain control and freedom of your life, but can teach you who you are. They explain how to use intentional decision-making and habit-building as a technique in organization and the impact of organizing on productivity and well-being. They also touched on the difficulties of distinguishing needs from wants in modern consumer culture and the reminder that personal worth is not determined by possessions or the perfection of one's surroundings. If you are someone who’s ideal self has a clean space but you find yourself living in a vicious cycle of cleaning up after yourself and it never staying clean like you vowed it would this episode is for you.