Wellish

If you’ve ever been like “why is my brain doing this” this episode is for you.Today I’m talking with author and mental health advocate Brian Sachetta (Get Out of Your Head®) about what anxiety and depression actually feel like from the inside… and what helps when you’re trapped in the all consuming spiral.We get into the difference between feeling anxious vs. identifying as an anxious person, why “just think positive” can backfire (especially if you overthink), and Brian’s IRA framework for getting unstuck: Interrupt the spiral → Reframe the threat → Anchor back into calm.We also talk depression as hopelessness + helplessness, how to rebuild agency when you’re at zero, why progress isn’t linear (and what counts as “getting better” even with bad days), and the truth about self help: you’re not looking for a silver bullet, you’re building a toolkit that actually fits you.If you’ve been stuck in your head, consider this your reminder: you can’t fix your life from inside the spiral.

We need to talk about the bare minimum and not in a lazy giving up nothing matters kind of way. In this episode, we’re breaking the stigma around doing less and redefining what your personal bare minimum actually is. Because if your self improvement plan only works for the most motivated, confident, well rested version of you it’s never going to get you the results you wantI’m sharing how to:Stop operating from the land of constant “shoulds”Separate high standards from unrealistic expectationsCreate self improvement plans that work for the whole you not just your best selfStay consistent without being mean to yourselfBuild self trust by actually following through on what’s realisticThis is about learning how to grow in a way that feels compassionate, sustainable, and human. You don’t need to become a perfect version of yourself to improve your life, you just need a version of your habits that still works when you’re tired, anxious, unmotivated, or overwhelmed.Your bare minimum isn’t failure. It’s your foundation.

Instead of sharing my confessions for this week’s short I’m sharing yours!! I asked you three questions about performative wellness, proving your worth, and the “bare minimum” expectations you secretly hold yourself to and the answers were SO REAL that this episode is basically a group therapy session lol. We’re talking about the difference between supporting yourself vs. performing wellness, why so many of our standards are actually survival mechanisms, and how to stop trying to earn rest, peace, and self-worth. No fixing. No perfection. Just honest confessions and a reminder that you don’t need to prove anything to deserve feeling good.

Feeling stuck, unmotivated, emotionally drained, or like you can’t become the version of you you know is in there? This episode might be the plot twist you need: maybe you’re not the problem—maybe it’s your space.In this episode I’m joined by Lisa Morton—designer, feng shui master teacher, creator of the Intuitive Home Method, host of Feng Shui Living, and author of Aligned at Home. And no, this is not about having a spotless Pinterest-perfect house. Lisa is a recovering perfectionist, so we’re talking about creating a home that supports your nervous system, your energy, your habits, and your next era—without turning “alignment” into another thing to be perfect at.We get into:The signs your home isn’t aligned (hello: irritability, stagnation, can’t sleep)Why “HGTV pretty” can still be draining youThe command position and why it instantly calms your bodyThe bagua map (aka energy centers of your home) and how it connects to love, career, creativity, health, wealth, and moreWhy decluttering is really releasing, not just cleaningSmall “love on your home” resets that cost $0 and actually stickHow to design for authenticity instead of perfectionismAnd my rapid fire Kinda Toxic, Kinda Well game at the end 🤭If you’re ready to romanticize your life, build momentum, and make your home feel like it’s on your side… this one’s for you.

Have you ever tried to “get your life together” — new routines, new mindset, new habits — and it lasts for like… three days? And then you crash, spiral, or quietly abandon it because it feels exhausting?This episode is for the person who wants to change their life… but deep down knows they’re doing it from a place of “I need to be better to be worthy.”Because here’s the truth: you’re not becoming “unrecognizable” because you’re not failing. You’re not becoming unrecognizable because you’re performing wellness.Today we’re breaking down:the real difference between performative wellness vs authentic wellnesswhy performative wellness can feel “responsible” even when it’s secretly self-punishmentthe clearest signs you’re using self-improvement as control, proof, or armorand how to stop performing growth so you can finally become the version of yourself that feels grounded, aligned, and actually sustainableThis is the Wellish definition of unrecognizable: Not a brand new person… but a person who stops negotiating with her worth.If you’ve ever felt like your wellness journey turned into a self-improvement prison, this episode will change everything.⭐ Rate, review, and subscribe — and tell me: what’s one “healthy habit” you’ve been doing more to prove something than to support yourself?

I literally just learned my attachment style two days ago… and it hit me that my goal isn’t to be perfect — it’s to be secure. Because “healing” isn’t never getting triggered, never overthinking, or never needing reassurance… it’s learning how to feel safe inside yourself even when you’re uncomfortable.In this mini episode, I’m sharing the mindset shift that made everything click: secure attachment isn’t about being flawless — it’s about self-trust, self-soothing, and recovering faster instead of spiraling harder.If you’ve been chasing perfection in your relationships (or trying to be the chill girl when you’re actually just anxious), this one’s for you.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed and secretly taking it as proof that you’re “bad at life,” this episode is your permission slip to stop making it mean something about you.Today I’m joined by Corrie LoGiudice (leadership coach + speaker, former SVP) and we’re reframing overwhelm for what it actually is: a sign that something in your life or your current strategy isn’t adapted to your reality anymore. Not a flaw. Not a moral failure. A signal.Corrie breaks down her 5 Overwhelm Culprits (the real reasons ambitious women get stuck in burnout cycles), why “just slow down” advice can feel like a joke when everyone relies on you, and how to build clarity, boundaries, and systems that support you on your worst days — not your best. We also talk about the difference between being “busy” vs. being misaligned, how perfectionism keeps high achievers stalled out, and a simple 5-year vision exercise that helps you stop looping and start moving.If you’re living in the “I’m fine” era, this one’s for you.

Wellish besties… if you’re exhausted from trying to improve yourself 24/7, I need you to listen to this.Because fixing yourself can feel like healing… but honestly? Sometimes it’s just your brain trying to keep you safe. It gives you a mission. A checklist. A sense of control. And even though it feels productive, you never actually feel the relief you’re chasing.Today we’re talking about the compulsive need to fix yourself, why it doesn’t work, and how to shift from living in a mental battlefield to living in a sanctuary—where you can finally hear your intuition and make clear, confident choices.Peace isn’t the reward. Peace is the weapon.

We’re leaving the advice for Mondays — Fridays are for our chaotic minds.In this Wellish Short, I’m confessing something I’ve been unlearning in real time: my need to problem-solve everything. The feelings, the conversations, the discomfort, the silence — all of it.This isn’t a how-to episode. There are no steps, no solutions, no fixes. Just an honest reflection on why some of us default to “fixing,” how it keeps us from being present, and what it looks like to let things be messy without rushing to repair them.If you’re the friend who always has the answer, the one who carries the emotional weight, or the person who feels responsible for making everything feel okay — this one’s for you.Welcome to Wellish Fridays. No advice. Just awareness.

Anxiety, depression, emotional heaviness… what if they’re not proof that you’re broken, but red flags trying to get your attention?In this episode, I'm sitting down with licensed mental health counselor Nichole Eaton, host of the Rock Your Comeback podcast and author, to talk about using your “bad feelings” as information instead of an identity. Nichole shares how she pulled herself out of postpartum depression, why diagnoses can quietly become personality labels, and how to treat anxiety and sadness like your personal check-engine lights instead of life sentences.We get into tuning back into your body, shortening the gap between spiral and reset, building self-trust through tiny promises (like literally just drinking your water), and designing a life that doesn’t constantly set off your nervous system. If you’ve ever like there is just something wrong with you, this conversation will lovingly call you out and invite you into your comeback era.

We all romanticize our “new life” when we set a goal. We imagine the healed, disciplined, unbothered version of ourselves who never slips, never spirals, never skips, and somehow turns effort into identity overnight. But real growth doesn’t look like flawless execution. It looks like being human, messing up sometimes, returning to yourself, and still choosing to keep going.In this episode of Wellish, we’re breaking down why perfection based goal setting keeps you stuck, how unrealistic expectations destroy self trust, and what actually helps you build the life you said you wanted. You’ll learn how to create realistic systems, show up imperfectly, repair instead of restart, and build deep self-trust so your growth actually lasts.If you’ve ever quit because you “messed up,” felt frustrated by your inconsistency, or believed you needed to be perfect to be successful this episode will help you breathe, regroup, and keep moving toward the life you want.

Bad things happen. We make mistakes. We stay too long. We ignore our intuition. We get hurt.But those moments don’t have to define you — unless you let them.In this episode of Wellish, we’re talking about how to take the hardest things that happen in your life — the breakups, failures, regrets, and “I should’ve known better” moments — and use them to your advantage instead of falling into a victim mindset.This isn’t about pretending it didn’t hurt or blaming yourself for what happened. It’s about taking accountability without shame, extracting the lesson, and letting it change who you are and how you move.We’ll cover:The difference between victim energy and advantage energyHow accountability actually accelerates growth (instead of keeping you stuck)Why your dream self is built from experience — not perfectionHow December is the perfect time to integrate lessons before the new yearA simple framework for turning pain into identity-level changeNothing that happened to you was wasted — unless you choose not to use it.

If you’ve ever felt chronically “off,” overly influenced by other people’s opinions, or like you’re living a version of your life that doesn’t actually fit you — this episode is for you.So many of us think we’re being ourselves, when in reality we’re operating from survival patterns, old identities, and external conditioning we never consciously chose. People pleasing feels like personality. Perfectionism feels like character. Overfunctioning feels like ambition. But none of it is who you actually are.In this episode, we break down what it really means to become the person you actually are — not by changing yourself, but by revealing yourself. We talk about why feeling anxious, misaligned, or dissatisfied is often the first sign you’re outgrowing an old identity, how to recognize false selves you’ve been living from, and how to reconnect with your core self beneath the noise.You’ll learn how to stop outsourcing your worth, stop absorbing everyone else’s energy, and start building an internal compass that makes confidence, boundaries, and aligned decisions feel natural — not forced.This isn’t about becoming a “better” version of yourself. It’s about finally coming home to the real one.If you’re ready to stop living by default and start living in alignment, press play.

This one’s for my Wellish friends who feel drained, stuck in their own head, or looping a story about themselves that just…isn’t true anymore.In this episode, I’m joined by Barbara Savin—Reiki master, energy healing specialist, clinical hypnotherapist, life coach, and host of The Spiritual Warrior Coach podcast. Barbara grew up feeling “crazy,” shut down her gifts, got sick, ignored her intuition… and then rebuilt her entire life and identity from the inside out.We talk about how childhood wounds, other people’s words, and absorbed energy quietly script who you think you’re allowed to be—and what actually happens when you stop being the victim of your past and start being the author of your story. We get into:how to tell if the anxiety you’re feeling is even yoursvictim mentality vs. radical acceptance (without bypassing the pain)what really happens in hypnotherapy and subconscious worksimple energetic hygiene practices to stop absorbing everyone else’s sh*twhy affirmations aren’t “woo-woo” and how to use them so they actually landAs we close out the year, this conversation is an invitation to integrate: to look honestly at what happened, shed the old stories that are still running your life, and reconnect with the version of you that feels like your soul, not your trauma.If your 2025 self feels tired, depleted, or stuck in an identity that doesn’t fit, this episode will help you step into 2026 as your magnetic, glowing, in-control (but still imperfect) self—with your energy protected, your story in your hands, and your humanity fully intact.

What do you do when the story you built your whole life on suddenly… doesn’t exist anymore?In today’s episode, I’m talking with abstract artist and former Air Force critical care flight nurse Cheri Carandanis, whose entire identity was built around being “the capable one” — the nurse, the helper, the perfectionist, the strong one. After two brain injuries and a sudden, traumatic loss, that version of her was gone. No more ICU, no more hospice leadership, no more “Cheri the nurse” everyone called for answers.What came next wasn’t a perfectly curated glow-up. It was panic, grief, depression, EMDR, spiritual wrestles, and a cardboard “canvas” covered in kids’ paint that somehow cracked her open to an entirely new self.We get into:What an identity collapse actually feels like when you’re in itThe difference between performing a role vs. actually being yourselfHow creativity, intuition, and “soul glow-ups” helped her move from left-brained perfectionism to right-brained permissionLetting go of the girl you thought you had to be — and meeting the woman you’re actually becomingAuthentic vulnerability vs. performative vulnerability (and how your body tells the difference)Learning to talk to your past and future selves, and letting your next chapter write youIf you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know who I am without this job/relationship/identity,” this one is going to hit home. This is your reminder that your storyline is not fixed, your identity is allowed to change, and you don’t have to be “that girl” anymore to be worthy of a beautiful life.

Real healing isn’t pretty. It isn’t a 5 a.m. routine, a perfectly lit yoga flow, or a tidy before-and-after. It’s messy, textured, human — and sometimes it starts with ripping up old love letters.In this episode, I sit down with mixed media artist and Soul Portrait creator Devorah Brinckerhoff, whose 30+ years as an artist and very real journey through childhood trauma, family estrangement, and her children’s abuse led her to a completely different way of healing. Instead of talking about your story, Devorah guides people to literally work with it — using old letters, photos, journals, and legal documents to disassemble, rewrite, and re-name who they believe themselves to be.We talk about:How creativity can reach places therapy and talking sometimes can’tWhy your “not enough” wound and mean-girl memories still run the showThe myth of aesthetic healing vs the reality of sitting in the raw, unpolished partsWhat happens when you stop trying to transcend your humanity and start witnessing it insteadDevorah’s Soul Portrait process: ripping, gluing, painting, and energetically reclaiming your storyHow externalizing your pain (letters, photos, artifacts) helps you build self-trust, self-compassion, and a new identityIf you’ve ever felt haunted by old memories, stuck in a story about yourself you didn’t exactly consent to, or terrified to look at the “worst thing that’s ever happened to you” — this conversation is your invitation to see your mess as material, not a life sentence.

If you're exhausted by people trying to sell you silver linings, same. Today we’re talking about the kind of plot twists that blindside you, crack your identity open, and force you to choose who you’re going to become next.This episode is your no-b.s. guide to turning the chaos you didn’t choose into the character development you actually need. Because yes, life hands out golden tickets disguised as breakups, failures, endings, and detours… but most people don’t take them. It’s uncomfortable. It requires accountability. It demands growth.But you? You’re one of my badass Wellish b*tches. You’re here to evolve.Inside, we break down: Why your “failure” is actually an initiation How plot twists are the universe editing your life in your favor The difference between failure self-talk and messy-growth self-talk How to choose the narrative that actually helps you move forward A simple, straight-up guide for turning what you’re dealing with into fuelIf you’re in a messy middle, an unexpected detour, a heartbreak, or a full-blown identity rewrite… this episode will help you stop spiraling, start reframing, and actually take the golden ticket.Because the plot twist isn’t ruining your story — it’s shaping you into who you've always wanted to be.

What if the version of you you’re meant to be is already here — she’s just waiting for privacy, honesty, and imperfection to let her breathe?In this episode of Wellish, Sarah peels back the layers between the person you are in private and the one you perform for the world. We talk about the quiet truth of identity — the moments you can’t post, the thoughts you censor, and the parts of yourself that only come out when no one’s watching.You’ll learn how to close the gap between your inner voice and your presented self, why real self-expression requires privacy and imperfection, and how to start living from the inside out — not the outside in.If you’ve ever felt like you’re playing a role, this episode will help you reconnect to your real story, reclaim your authorship, and finally feel aligned with the person you’ve always known you could be.Listen to this when you’re ready to stop performing and start becoming.

We talk about glow-ups like they’re visible — new wardrobes, better apartments, a life that photographs well. But the kind of transformation that actually changes your life happens in silence. In this episode, Sarah explores the difference between the algorithmic glow-up — the one everyone can see — and the soul glow-up — the one only you can feel. It’s about learning to like yourself in private, trusting the growth no one notices, and redefining what transformation really means.

You can’t “heal” perfectly. You can’t “manifest” perfectly. And you definitely can’t “surrender” perfectly — but that doesn’t stop so many of us from trying.In this episode, Sarah breaks down the hidden perfectionism that’s taken over modern spirituality — the pressure to meditate daily, feel high-vibe, never spiral, and always “trust the universe.” She explores how this obsession with getting it right actually blocks connection, intuition, and meaning.Instead, she offers a gentler, truer path: one rooted in embodiment, intuition, and imperfection as spiritual practice. You’ll learn how to release the pressure to perform your growth, find the sacred in your everyday life, and reconnect with spirituality in a way that actually feels real.Because the most spiritual thing you can do isn’t to transcend your humanity — it’s to live it.

What if the real transformation isn’t about doing more—it’s about finally slowing down enough to ask why you’re doing it at all? In this soulful convo, Sarah sits down with writer and author Ashley Jordan (Unhappy Achiever) to explore what happens when success stops satisfying, self-improvement becomes another mask, and “becoming” quietly turns into self-rejection. Ashley shares the moment her biggest career win felt…numb, how grief cracked her open, and why the path forward is an unbecoming—peeling back perfection, releasing the “good girl,” and choosing a life that feels aligned over one that only looks the part.You’ll hear the messy, human side of healing: friendship fallouts, dating from dignity (no more accepting leftovers as love), redefining success as love and aliveness, and how to build a life from the inside out. If you’ve checked every box and still feel that quiet ache of “Is this really it?”, this episode will feel like a deep breath.We cover:The moment achievement stopped working—and what came afterWhy chasing “better” can be a subtle form of self-abandonmentUnbecoming vs. becoming (and why the ego can’t drive)Grieving old identities without hating your past selfCommunity, sisterhood, and finding alignment in everyday ritualsConnect with Ashley: Website: ashjordan.com Instagram: @missashjordan Book: Unhappy Achiever: Rejecting the Good Girl Image and Reclaiming the Joy of Inner Fulfillment (Amazon + wherever books are sold)If this episode hit home: share it with a friend who’s tired of performing wellness and ready to feel well-ish. 💫

You don’t manifest signs by chasing them — you receive them by softening.In this episode, Sarah explores the energy shift that makes synchronicities start showing up everywhere. You’ll learn how to move from control into receptivity, rebuild trust with your intuition, and understand why signs appear only when you’re finally open enough to notice them.This isn’t about magical thinking — it’s about getting quiet enough to hear what’s been whispering to you all along. When you stop gripping and start trusting, life starts reflecting your alignment right back to you.

What if your higher self isn’t someone you’re chasing — but someone you’re remembering? In this reflective Wellish compilation, Sarah revisits past guest conversations that reveal what becoming your higher self actually looks like in real life: the breakdowns, the surrenders, and the quiet shifts that turn healing into transformation.Through raw, soulful clips and her own reflections, this episode explores the subtle art of self-evolution — how to live as your higher self now, without waiting for perfect.

You know that fantasy where you wake up one morning as the “new you” — glowing, healed, unbothered, journaling at sunrise? Yeah… that’s not how it actually works.In this week’s episode, I'm calling BS on the myth of the overnight transformation. Real change doesn’t come from a lightning bolt moment, it comes from a thousand tiny, unglamorous choices you make when no one’s clapping for you. The nights you say no when you want to say yes. The mornings you show up when no one’s watching. BUT, while you may have to be patient to see grandiose transformation, I'm filling you in on how you can feel like your most aligned self NOW. I'm sharing her own messy, non-linear glow ups, the psychology behind slow change, and why chasing “instant results” is the fastest way to stay stuck. Consider this your reminder that becoming that girl isn’t about perfection, it’s about patience, proof, and choosing yourself in the most boring moments.Because the truth is: the quiet work is what makes you radiate transformation..

In this Wellish conversation, I'm sitting down with Erica Bonham — licensed professional counselor, somatic and attachment-focused EMDR trainer, and author of Always Enough, Never Done — to explore why healing can’t be thought into existence.Together, we're dive into the messy, liberating truth that self-criticism and overthinking don’t create transformation. Instead, real healing asks us to trust the body’s wisdom, practice radical self-compassion, and make peace with imperfection.This episode unpacks:Why your brain alone can’t heal trauma — and what the body knows that the mind can’tThe neuroscience of emotional regulation and why self-criticism backfiresThe dance between self-reflection and self-compassion in personal growthBoundaries that connect vs. boundaries that isolateThe impact of ancestral trauma on both individual and collective healingHow to hold space for pain without getting stuck in toxic positivityWhy embracing uncertainty and mystery is central to growthIf you’ve ever felt like you’re “bad at healing” because you still get triggered or spiral into old patterns, this conversation is here to remind you: healing doesn’t require perfection — it requires compassion, embodiment, and being just wellish enough.Resources:Poly Vagal Nerve ExercisesSigned Book Always Enough Never DoneWork with Erica!

We’ve all had those breakthrough moments — the hidden narrative clicks, you realize you’re done with the old story, and you declare your new one. So you listen, watch, and read all of the things so you understand how to become your new narrative. But no matter what you do, nothing feels different. Why? Because awareness isn’t embodiment. Your knowledge to skill gap is too large. In this Wellish conversation, I break down why knowing your patterns isn’t enough, and how to actually become the person in your new narrative. We’ll talk about:Why your brain resists change (and how that’s not a failure, it’s biology).The gap between thought and identity — and why affirmations alone don’t work.Micro-actions that build proof for your new story.Rituals, anchors, and daily practices that move awareness into your body.The messy middle of change — how to keep going when you slip into old patterns.If you’ve been stuck in awareness mode, this episode is your roadmap to embodiment. Because transformation isn’t about thinking your way there — it’s about living a little more like her every single day.

Perfectionism, comparison, and waiting for validation can keep us trapped in old stories. In this Wellish conversation, I’m sitting down with Brandon Keith Osborn—filmmaker, photographer, writer, and founder of For Real Life—to explore how rewriting your narrative creates room for authentic growth.Brandon shares his story of creative ambition, addiction, and identity struggles, and how fatherhood and therapy pushed him toward honesty, sobriety, and sustainable success. We dig into the cultural narratives of “tortured artist” and hustle culture, the shame of letting people down, and the identity work required to believe a new story about yourself. Brandon also unpacks how he shifted from running away from pain to moving toward purpose, why starting small matters more than perfection, and the “three wins a day” mindset that keeps him grounded.If you’ve ever felt like your potential was trapped under self-doubt, comparison, or messy mistakes, this episode is proof that your lowest lows can become the notes you draw from to create something real, resilient, and yours.Topics: narrative reframing, identity work, authenticity, addiction & recovery, perfectionism, comparison trap, creative growth, self-compassion, storytelling for healing, small wins habitResources: Brandon Keith Osborn — IG: @forreellife • forreel.life

In this episode of Wellish, I dive into what I’ve been learning about how our thoughts create our reality—and how I’m putting it into practice in my own life. I open up more than I ever have about my past relationship, the dynamics with my ex, and the deep-rooted beliefs about myself that I’m actively healing.Through raw stories and everyday examples, I show how the narrative we tell ourselves doesn’t just stay in our head—it shapes our entire experience. This isn’t about “magical thinking.” It’s about realizing that your thoughts are the starting point, and your reality follows. By shifting the way we interpret moments—whether it’s how we interpret a rainy day, how we show up socially or our deep rooted beliefs about ourselves and what we deserve—we can start creating the life we actually want.If you’ve ever struggled to believe that changing your thoughts could change your life is something that could feel real and doable, this episode will help you bridge that gap. I share my personal take on how rewriting your inner story can reshape your present, heal your past, and open the door to a different future.

Letting go heals faster than trying harder. In this Wellish conversation, I am sitting down with Alisha Kapani, a mind–body mentor and quantum health coach, to unpack why hyper-control and hustle can keep you stuck. Alisha shares her story of depression and social anxiety, how “giving up” softened her resistance, and the moment she followed intuition into mind-body medicine and theta healing. We dig into the biology (fight-or-flight vs. parasympathetic), the feminine energy first approach to processing emotions, and Alisha’s 3-step A.B.C. Tool—Awareness, Breath, Conscious Choice—for nervous system regulation you can use today. We also talk self-abandonment, unconditional self-love vs. conditional fixing, manifestation detachment (yes, my feather story), and how the mirror neuron effect accelerates growth when you learn from embodied expanders. If you’ve been doing “all the things” and still feel stuck, this episode reframes healing from forcing to aligned action, so your body can do what it’s designed to do: heal.Topics: surrender vs control, emotional processing, identity & beliefs, intuitive guidance, trauma healing, depression recovery, nervous system regulation, quantum healing, feminine/masculine balance, practical practices for everyday life.Resources: Alisha Kapani — IG: @alisha_kapani • alishakapani.com (FREE mind–body tools and theta healing info)

When you hear the word “manipulation,” you probably think of toxic exes, narcissists, or evil a**holes. But the truth is we all may be more guilty of manipulation that we realize, and it’s often happening without us even knowing it. In this episode of Wellish, I'm breaking down the subtle, everyday ways we manipulate (and get manipulated), why it’s rooted in fear, and how these patterns quietly make life harder. From people-pleasing to guilt trips to fishing for reassurance, you’ll learn how to recognize the signs and start showing up with more honesty and less control.

In this special episode of Wellish I’m putting myself in the hot seat! Think of this as an unfiltered get to know me - the stories, quirks, confessions you don’t hear in the self improvement episodes to help you get to know me outside of the personal growth talk!

What does it actually mean to be good enough? It's something we battle with and hear constantly, but when I sat back with that concept I realized I didn't even really know what that meant to be "good enough". What I did know is I allowed the constant need to feel good enough to play too much of a negative role in who I was and how I was showing up in my life. In order to make any progress on a certain area we first need to understand what it is, where it came from and why it's happening. That is what we are covering in this week's episode. I break down all of the areas we have been exposed to throughout our lives that have contributed to our feelings of not enoughness and the psychology that plays into the topics. I cover self esteem vs self worth, perfectionism, and research from child psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott. And of course we discuss how to flip the question of "am I good enough?" to something that stops us from constantly auditioning for worth. If you've ever wondered when you'll finally feel you're enough, this conversation is for you.

Living alone (or just being alone) comes with both freedom and frustration. In this episode I explore the good -- the grounding, the independence, the chance to build a life on your own terms -- and the bad --the boredom, the lonliness, the temptation to fill every quiet space with distractions. Then we'll dive deeper into the real question: are you using this time alone to connect with yourself, or just waiting for it to be over? Because if you don't learn how to befriend yourself now you'll risk abandoning yourself the second someone else walks into your life.

On Wellish, we’re not here to blindly follow every self-improvement trend — we’re here to question them. This week, I’m diving into TikTok’s newest obsession: monthly curriculums.Are they a genius way to learn, grow, and add structure to your life — or just another self-optimization spiral dressed up as self-care? I’ll break down what the trend is, who it’s for, and why people love it… but also where it can go wrong.I’ll share how I’ve been running my own journalism curriculum (and the surprising ways it’s boosted my confidence and creativity), and most importantly: how to keep this trend Wellish approved. No grades. No pressure. Just curiosity, growth, and the freedom to make it your own.

You don’t have to hustle yourself into the ground to create the life you want—but you also can’t just wait for it to magically fall into your lap. In this episode, we're exploring the sweet spot between toxic productivity and hopeless surrender, and how to close the gap between your current self and your dream self without burnout or perfectionism.We’ll break down the psychology behind why we get stuck (hello, learned helplessness), the nervous system science that explains why more motivation isn't the answer, and the identity shifts that make change stick. From identifying what stage of change you're currently at to expanding your window of tolerance, this conversation will help you step into your desired reality with more calm, clarity, and confidence—one aligned action at a time.If you’ve ever thought, “I know what I want, so why am I not doing it?”, this episode is your permission slip to build a life that fits you, not the other way around.

What if you stopped performing for love? In this raw and deeply relatable episode, I'm cracking open the fear of stillness, the pressure to be impressive, and the subtle ways we perform just to feel worthy. From spiraling after a chill weekend to curating confidence after heartbreak, this one is for the overthinkers, the perfectionists, and the ones who secretly feel like they have to "earn" their place in someone’s life.Whether you're healing from conditional love, navigating post-breakup identity, or just trying to feel okay doing nothing—you’ll walk away feeling seen. It’s not about willpower. It’s about believing you’re enough, even when you’re not impressive.📌 Plus: a juicy listener question about a “slow burn” or an emotional support situationship you need to weigh in on.

Just because you’re not being fake doesn’t mean you’re being real. This week, we’re untangling the difference between comfort and authenticity—and why the truest version of you might not feel natural at first. I’m sharing stories about showing up loudly, being labeled “scary” (aka confident) by men, and realizing that what I thought was growth was actually just survival mode.We’re breaking down:The myth that discomfort = inauthenticityHow nervous system dysregulation can make confidence feel impossibleWhy confidence isn’t polished—it’s raw, messy devotion to your real selfWhat to do when the version of you you’ve always fantasized about finally shows up—and feels fakeThis is your permission to stop calling your loud, vibrant, too-much self “too much.” She’s not fake—she’s free.PLUS: I answer a listener’s question on how to tell the difference between healing solitude and accidental isolation.

This week’s episode is a full-blown spiral turned breakthrough.First, I’m breaking down the friendship anxiety no one talks about—the kind that doesn’t hit during the hangout, but after, when you’re stuck replaying everything you said and wondering if you were too much.Then, we’re talking about what it really means to be “too loud,” “too emotional,” or “too sensitive”—and how being told I’m too much my whole life made me start shrinking myself without even realizing it.Finally, I’m sharing the secret formula I’ve been using to create a life that actually feels full—without burning out or trying to become a brand-new person overnight. (Spoiler: it’s called the D.A.T.E. method and it might change your life.)This one’s messy, honest, and low-key healing. If you’ve been feeling like you're spiraling, shrinking, or just going through the motions… this one’s for you.

I’m moving out of my healing den and into my new city life (!!), but before I pack up, I had to sit down and record a mini-episode with three mindsets that are seriously saving my sanity lately. If you’ve been overthinking your future, spiraling after social plans, or stuck in your feelings — this one’s for you. We’re talking:Living in the short term and how to let your calendar hold the weight of your futureGiving yourself permission to get it wrong — in friendships, healing, and everyday lifeWhy motion (not reinvention) is the real cure for spirals and sadnessIt’s messy, real, and recorded mid-life-shift. Come hang out for a quick dose of self-compassion, mindset shifts, and the chaotic cozy energy of your favorite bestie who’s figuring it out right alongside you. 💌

You don’t need more willpower. You need a new story.In this episode, I’m breaking down why so many of us feel stuck—even when we’re trying—and how your identity, not your discipline, is what’s really running the show. I’ll share the brain science behind why we repeat the same patterns, the tiny identity anchors that helped me stop tying my worth to productivity, and how to finally shift into the version of you you know is in there… without forcing it.This one’s for the girl who’s trying, but still feels like she’s failing. You’re not. You’re just focusing on the wrong thing.

If you’ve been spiraling about whether you’re making the right moves, doing enough, or working hard enough to finally live the life you want—this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it actually means to surrender when it feels like doing nothing could cost you everything.From control as a trauma response to the magnetic power of full receiving mode, this episode walks you through the art of letting go without losing momentum. You’ll learn how to soften your grip when panic hits, how to stop chasing alignment and start attracting it, and why the most powerful thing you can do sometimes… is nothing.Let this episode be your permission slip to stop forcing it, just for today.

You’re doing the mindset work. You’ve got the vision. You know who you want to be. So why does it still feel like something’s blocking you?This week on Wellish, we’re talking about what really keeps you from becoming your ideal self and why it has nothing to do with effort, productivity, or motivation. It has everything to do with your nervous system. If your body still thinks you’re unsafe, it will do everything it can to protect you from change... even if that change is becoming the most expressed version of yourself.We’ll unpack how Good Girl Syndrome gets wired into your nervous system, why mindset work isn’t enough on its own, and how real self-concept work begins in the body. Your ideal self isn’t someone you need to perform your way into, it’s someone you reclaim by making safety your baseline.

This week on Wellish, I’m breaking down what I’ve learned in the first 6 days of my 30 day magnetism experiment and spoiler alert: magnetism isn’t about being hot, loud, or liked by everyone. It’s about self worth, self trust, and having standards high enough to reject what doesn’t align.I’m sharing the real moment I proved this to myself: turning down an “almost perfect” apartment because it didn’t feel right energetically and how that one choice brought me the exact space I was actually looking for. We’ll also talk about the difference between being magnetic to people vs. outcomes, the misconceptions most of us have about attraction, and how to stop chasing and start receiving what’s meant for you.If you’ve ever wondered how to become more magnetic, start here.

Are you understanding, empathetic and low maintenance or are you abandoning yourself?We’re unpacking the subtle, sneaky ways self abandonment shows up in your everyday life. From lowering your standards because it's more comfortable to convincing yourself you're being the bigger, emotionally mature person you might be betraying yourself without even realizing it.I’m breaking down seven signs that you’ve been disappearing on yourself in the name of peace, perception, and protection. This isn't a lame self improvement listicle, it's real life examples that indiciate you could be holding yourself back from living your ideal life as your ideal self all because you are not showing up in authenticity. And if you were quick to reject that could be you...you're abandoning yourself right now!! If you’ve been feeling off, stuck, or resentful but can’t figure out why, this one might be your wake up call.Let’s talk about how to stop ghosting the version of you that’s begging to be chosen.

Are you healing… or hiding? In this episode of Wellish, we’re calling out the sneaky way self-improvement can become a full-blown identity crisis. Healing is powerful—but it was never meant to be your whole personality. If you’ve wrapped your sense of self around your trauma, your therapy speak, and doing everything “right,” this one’s for you.We’ll talk about how easy it is to over-identify with the healing era, confuse insight with action, and use emotional growth as a shield from actually living. You’ll learn why your self-awareness doesn’t have to come at the cost of your fun, bold, chaotic, magnetic self—and how to finally graduate from your healing arc into your main character one.Because you’re not broken anymore. You’re becoming.✨ This episode is your permission slip to stop clinging to self-help and start trusting who you’ve become.

What if your emotional reactions weren’t something to fix—but something to understand? In this unapologetically honest episode, we’re talking about what happens when you confuse healing with becoming more “chill,” more digestible, or more likable—and how that mindset is quietly killing your self-trust.This one’s for the woman who’s done doing everything “right” and still feeling off. Who’s tired of trying to be soft, silent, and selfless in the name of growth. We’re exploring what it means to stop shrinking and start showing up—even when it makes people uncomfortable.Because maybe the most healed version of you… is the one who finally stopped watering herself down.You’ll walk away with:A bold mindset shift around what emotional maturity really looks likeThe freedom to stop overexplaining yourselfA renewed sense of power in your boundaries, reactions, and realnessThis episode is the permission slip you didn’t know you needed. Tune in, take notes, and tag @wellishpodcast when you feel the fire come back online

Do you ever feel like life is forcing you to toughen up—whether you want to or not? In this episode of Wellish, we’re talking about the art of staying soft in a world that tries to harden you. If you’ve felt jaded, guarded, or disconnected from your true self, this is your permission slip to come back to your softness without losing your power.We’ll unpack:Why softness is actually a form of strength (not weakness)How to hold your boundaries and keep your heart openThe small daily rituals that protect your emotional resilienceWhy staying soft is essential for true healing, connection, and self-worthThis conversation is your reminder that it’s possible to protect your peace without shutting down who you are. Vulnerability is magnetic—and today, you’ll learn exactly how to keep yours alive, no matter what life throws your way.

In this birthday episode, I’m not just reflecting on the past year—I’m sharing the 27 empowering choices I’m making this year to step into the woman I’m meant to become. Rather than dwelling on what I’ve learned, I’m focusing on intentional decisions to shape my future.I start by toasting the past versions of me that got me here, flaws and all, so we can appreciate how far we've come. Whether you connect with my choices or create your own, I hope this episode inspires you to think about what you're choosing for your future self.In this episode, you’ll hear about:The importance of embracing past versions of yourselfHow to make intentional, empowering choices for growth27 choices I’m making to step into my highest potentialHow to begin your own journey of self discovery and choiceThis episode is for anyone ready to take control and make the choices that lead to personal growth. Listen now, and join me in choosing the life we deserve.

Control doesn’t just disappear when we start healing — it adapts.In this episode, we’re unpacking the sneaky ways control can morph into perfectionism, over-performing, emotional over-responsibility, and even the need to be understood — all while looking like empowerment.If you’re still feeling stuck, anxious, or frustrated after “doing the work,” you’re not broken — you’re facing the next layer of growth.Let’s break it down and talk about how to spot control in disguise and step into real emotional freedom.

In this episode of Wellish, we’re slowing down the hustle of self-improvement to talk about something real: the human side of healing. This is your reminder that needing reassurance doesn’t mean you’re weak—and feeling your feelings doesn’t make you less evolved.I share what often gets lost in the race to become “better”—like rest, softness, and the right to have an off day. If you’ve ever felt like you’re supposed to be more unbothered, more healed, more sure of yourself by now, this one’s for you. You’ll walk away feeling seen, soothed, and reminded that your growth doesn’t have to be perfect to be real.Whether you're in the middle of a spiral or just need to exhale, hit play. This episode is here to validate your humanness—no fixing required.