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This week I brought on two of my close girlfriends to discuss the highs and lows of female friendships and what goes into having a genuine friendship with a woman that you can rely on. We dive into this unspoken desire to be apart of a friend group and how we so often find ourselves tying our self worth to and how it tends to be the relationships with fewer people that are deeper than surface level connections. We then move into the reason women can be so close compared to male friendships, understanding your friends love languages and how it's important to incorporate them into your relationship. We then discuss loyalty in the sense of excluding friends, how to handle it and when to tell your friend when someone doesn't have your best interest at heart without being hurtful. The episode ends with friendship break ups. How to know it's time to move on from a friendship and how to execute the ending of a friendship in the best way possible for you.

Do you want your New Years resolution to ACTUALLY last longer than the next few weeks? I am going to tell you how, but news flash! You're the same person on Jan. 1 as you were Dec. 31st! While the new year is a great opportunity to reset and create a new goal for yourself, don't beat yourself up for not becoming a brand new person right out of the gate. Becoming the best version of yourself is all about the process and it takes time to ensure your new habits incorporate themselves into your life for the long term.

This week I am diving into a number of toxic behaviors that I believe should be given the green light in relationships. Or at least a yellow light. Using my own personal experiences and several of yours who wrote in I narrowed down some of the most popular toxic behaviors that we need to stop being shamed for acting on, especially when most of the time there is an underlying reason for the behavior.

Using Miguel Ruiz's book The Four Agreements as a guide, I have found myself having a really difficult time being impeccable with my word towards myself and others. Speaking with kindness is something that society so effortlessly expects, but using the power of word in the highest regard is so much deeper than just not sh*tting on yourself or gossiping about others. On this episode I walk you through my interpretation of being impeccable with your word breaking down each part of Ruiz's first agreement "Be Impeccable With Your Word" and elaborate both on what I find challenging, and what I do to try and relieve myself of the issue.

On this week's episode I am joined by Doctor of Veterinary Medicine Dr. Elizabeth Dale. She walks us through what it looks like to achieve the dream job she had been working towards since she was just a little girl all the way up to today where she now works for the largest general veterinary practice in the country. Even though Dr. Dale has saved countless animals, she is no exception to the limiting beliefs that run ramped through so many of our minds. We discuss imposter syndrome and perfectionism, the truth behind what it takes to achieve your dream job, the struggles that she faces on a daily basis with the way so many pet owners treat their animals and the mental toll it takes on her not being able to save as many animals as she could if people would prioritize spending their money to treat their pet even when it's as little as $18. Dr. Dale is a great example of someone who seems to have everything together while still combating intrusive thoughts and consistently working to overcome them.

I wanted to talk to you guys about a few different scenarios that I have been in and will hopefully help those of you that have too. I tend to paint a picture or map out an exact plan of how my life is going to go and shockingly (that's sarcasm btw) it doesn't go exactly as planned. AND EVEN BETTER I make that my own fault. It's a really fun vicious cycle I put myself through. I begin with setting too high of expectation for the direction of your life using my life altering decision to most to the east coast & how so far, it hasn't been exactly what I thought I then give you guys some tips about how to navigate attending someone else's Thanksgiving with the holiday coming up because your girl's been ran around the block in some less than desirable situations when it comes to interacting at family parties. So hopefully I can help save you some awkward interactions and families lashing out at you whether you're attending your own crazy family or someone else's crazy family's dinner. Lastly, we are getting into some deep crevices of my sex life and the fears that come with it. Most of which I have never even discussed with any partner I've ever had.

Last week I was NOT doing well mentally, which led me to want to talk to you guys about how easily our emotions can be manipulated, how impermanent they are, and how essentially, we can adapt into any version of ourselves we like by surfacing the emotion that best represents our desired character as frequently as possible to achieve our desired self. I first walk you through my garbage week and how I came to this conclusion, then through what I needed to do to better understand what was going on inside of my brain, and finally, of course, give you all TANGIBLE realistic things that you can add to your life as you see fit to use your inevitable emotions to prevent the familiar past from becoming the predictable future.

This week Sarah strips the barrier of judgment that surrounds not being able to live life alone and be "independent" while promoting the regular practice of solitude to instill confidence and break down the barriers the fear, depression, and anger executing life's activities can bring on. The episode begins with the reason we, as humans, can feel so much resentment towards being alone and the benefits that come from leaving our comfort zone and spending time with ourselves. It then takes listener's through Sarah's experience executing the most common biggest fears of activities to do in solitude by Wellish listener's. Finishing off with real and tangible tips that you can utilize to try and incorporate experiencing life alone into your own life to make it a bit less scary.

This week Sarah navigates how to still be a good friend and not blow people off when a better offer presents itself. She talks about the current issues in her own life that have led her to this topic, how she handles it, and shares the best ways to get what you want while tending to your relationships for the long term, compared to caving to the instant gratification of the newest itinerary option.

Sarah is joined this episode by her friend Sarah Bochnik who's long term relationship with her high school sweetheart has come to an end and not by any decision of Sarah's. The duo discuss the feelings that come with the ending of a long term relationship and how to deal with relapsing and running back to a situation that is less than ideal. The girls then get into expectations placed on us by society from the pressure of dating online to the expectation of having children. If you are in any stage of a breakup, sit back, hang out with us, and find ease in the knowing that you are not failing for feeling any of the feelings that come with change.

This week Sarah walks through the first steps of regaining what caused her self trust to be depleted in the first place, realizing what caused the leak. She walks through patterns from her childhood that have become a clear pathway to current self trust issues for decision making skills in her adult life. She then discusses what she has done to rebuild her trust in herself and practices that can help you rebuild yours.

Strap in for episode to and maybe turn your mic volume down just a tad because we are DONE allowing our emotions to guide us through out lives. Sarah describes her newfound way of bringing the life she desires into her current reality and shares what she found most helpful as she began to stop allowing her entire life to be run by fear. She goes on to explain how we cannot be instantly gratified these ideologies become the elevated version of ourselves because we would have no experience in being able to continue the habits that must be set in place to obtain this desired human experience. We must find solutions now that make up the long term versions of ourselves. Sarah wraps up the episode with her take on how motivation will never get you anywhere close to success and shares what will instead.

Follow along journalist and fitness and personal development coach, Sarah Ritondale as she dives into the transparent details of her life. In her 20's, she exploits the f*ck out of her life letting you in on how what you see glimpses of, from those around you and on social media are never completely accurate. You can expect to eliminate the barrier of getting everything in your life "right" here on WELLISH.