The Teen Years Toolkit For Moms: Parenting Communication Skills to Calm the Chaos

Ever wonder why you end up yelling at the people you love most—and what you can do to finally stop?If you're tired of feeling guilty after another shouting match with your teen, you're not alone. In this episode, Jessica Stewart opens up about her own experience with "Mom Rage," explores why yelling feels so instinctive, and offers real-world strategies to help you stay calm and feel truly heard without raising your voice.You'll gain a deeper understanding of the emotional triggers behind yelling and how they show up in high-stakes parenting moments.You'll discover practical tools you can use today to pause, breathe, and break the cycle of yelling before it starts.You'll learn how to repair and strengthen your relationship with your teen by responding from a place of calm instead of chaos.Listen now to uncover simple but powerful steps that can help you shift from yelling to connecting with your teenager starting today.🎙️New episodes are released every Monday and Friday at 6:00 AM ESTHave a parenting teenagers question you would like me to help you with? Submit your question here and I will send you a voice recording with some coaching assistanceBook a free 1:1 coaching consult hereConnect with me at [email protected] This powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

How to Handle Your Teenager Not Doing Their Chores Without Getting Frustrated or AngryIn this episode of Finding Your Calm With Your Teenager, life coach Jessica Stewart addresses a common parental frustration: teens neglecting chores. Using a real-life example from a parenting group, Jessica explains how altering your thought process can reduce conflict and improve communication. She outlines strategies for 😌maintaining calmness 😡understanding the root of frustration 🗨️engaging teens effectively to achieve desired outcomes without anger. The episode offers practical coaching advice, emphasizing the power of mindset in transforming parent-teen relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Teen Frustrations 00:35 Common Frustrating Situation: Chores 02:07 Breaking Down the Situation 03:16 Understanding the Impact of Thoughts 06:02 Shifting Perspectives and Approaches 08:28 Practical Tips for Calm Communication 12:49 Coaching and Final ThoughtsBook a free 1:1 coaching consult here📨Connect with Jessica at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

One day I went to my son's room to look for something and I ended up finding a bunch of vapes and vape paraphernalia there. I will just say that I did not remain calm. I was livid. And it was fortunate that he was not home at the time because I needed time to calm down. Let's be real. I get triggered and need all the tools I teach here to help myself remain calm through these challenging timesIn this encore episode you will walk away with-the facts about vaping and smoking-how to talk to your teenager about it before they are offered it (ideally)-what to say to them after they have startedLook, I'm a respiratory therapist and could not prevent my teenagers from experimenting with vaping. Let there be some relief in that for you. Send any questions to me at [email protected] more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Is it time for your teen to learn how to drive? 🚗 Are you terrified of this? 🫣 This is the ultimate in literally letting go of the wheel 🛞 and finding ways to keep your CALM.  Let’s dive in or shall I say drive into this episode where I will share my best wisdom and life coaching tools to help you with this.I’m going to break it down into a few parts🛑➡️Before you even get into the car➡️While you are in the car➡️After you get out of the carReferenced in this episode Link to episode #43 How to Create a Thinking PlanE-mail me at [email protected] a free 1:1 coaching consult hereThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

We can talk about acceptance at many different levels, acceptance of situations, acceptance of other people and how they are, self-acceptance.  When I myself or anyone else talks about acceptance as in just accept it, I think sometimes we can gloss over the frustration of acceptance and just skip to the part where we expect to be or where we expect others to be.Today I want to talk about that messy middle part which is the frustration of acceptance.Here’s what I will cover here✅The best definition of acceptance✅Why it makes sense and why it necessary to be in the frustrating messy middle✅How acceptance alleviates suffering Connect with me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.ca Book a free 1:1 coaching consult hereThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Do you constantly worry about your teen’s every move? Find yourself checking their location, overanalyzing their tone, or assuming the worst when they don’t text back? If so, you might be experiencing **hypervigilance**—a heightened state of parental anxiety that can strain both you and your teen.In this episode, we explore: ✅ What hypervigilance is and why it happens ✅ How it impacts both you and your teen ✅ Practical strategies to shift from control to trust Take a deep breath—you’re not alone in this. Tune in for **practical steps** to ease the anxiety and strengthen your connection with your teen.What You’ll Learn in This Episode🧠 The root causes of hypervigilance (fear, past trauma, lack of control) ❤️ How hypervigilance affects your relationship with your teen 💡 Simple mindset shifts and self-regulation techniques to help you **parent with trust instead of fear**📌 Grab your cheat sheet for having BIG conversations with your Teen here📌 Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.ca📌 Have a question or topic suggestion? Email me at [email protected] you found this episode helpful, **please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another parent who needs to hear this!** 🎙️💙This powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

What is the best way to have the BIG talks with your teens?  We are often afraid to bring them up because we think it will make us uncomfortable or will cause them to engage in behaviour we don't want them to.  It does matter that we have these conversations and you want to be part of that conversation.Listen to this week's episode for 8 things to consider before you talk about sex, drugs, smoking, drinking and social media with your teenager.  I also have Cheat Sheet for this to make it extra easy to prepare for these super important conversationsGrab it hereBook your free 1:1 coaching consult hereLearn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Have you ever had one of those days where you just feel *done*? Like you've got nothing left to give, and parenting feels overwhelming? You're not alone. In this episode, we’re talking about that drained, burnt-out feeling that so many parents experience—especially when raising teenagers.I’ll walk you through why this happens, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how to shift your mindset so you can recharge and reconnect with your teen (without guilt). Plus, I’ll share practical strategies to help you reset when you’re running on empty.**What You'll Learn in This Episode:** ✅ Why feeling "done" is normal—and what it really means ✅ Simple strategies to try now✅ How to measure your success as a parent in a more achievable wayResources & Links:🔗 www.jessicastewartcoaching.caLet’s Connect!📩 Have a question or topic suggestion? Email me at [email protected]**If you enjoyed this episode, please:** ⭐ Subscribe & leave a review—it really helps! 🎙️ Share this episode with another parent who needs it This powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

 🎙️ Raising a teenager is a whole new world compared to parenting a young child. As your child grows, your parenting style needs to evolve, too. In this episode, we’ll explore the key shifts parents need to make when transitioning into this stage—so you can stay connected,  and keep your cool when things get challenging.💡 **What You’ll Learn in This Episode:** ✔️ The biggest mindset shifts needed when parenting a teen ✔️ Why your old parenting strategies may no longer work ✔️ How to understand your own emotions during this time ✔️ A new perspective on how to create a new relationship with your teen📩 **Let’s Connect!** Got a question or a topic you’d love to hear about? Reach out to me at [email protected] and learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caI work 1:1 with parents of teenagers in my 6 week coaching program.  E-mail me to schedule a free consultAnd don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode.This powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

I personally love to read self-help books.  Is this the better way to be? Not necessarily... I have found myself at times using concepts and tools against myself and make me feel like I'm not good enough.Listen to this week's episode for a deeper dive into this realm. How do you use personal development?  Do you use it for or against yourself?Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Do you want to know how to help your teen not to feel sad? Of course you do right? That's your job as a parent.  What if it was better for your teen to help them learn how to feel sad or feel any of the so-called negative emotions.In this episode I make a case for this as part of learning healthy emotional management and regulation.  Remember, nothing has gone wrong when we are feeling a negative emotion.  This also helps save energy trying to fix things or emotions in ourselves and in our teenagers that don't need to be fixed. Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caI am taking 1:1 clients currently in my coaching practise. E-mail me at [email protected] with questions or to schedule a free 1:1 consultThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Have you seen this on your social media channels? AITA?  It makes sense why we ask it but is it the right question to ask?  I don't think so and in this episode I will explain why.  There are much better questions to ask to create more connection in your relationships and to gain more insights from these "negative" interactions we inevitably have with our teenagers.Listen and let me know what you think.Reach me at [email protected] more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caBook a free 1:1 consult hereThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Ever found yourself snapping at your teen and wondering, 'Where did that even come from?' You're not alone.In this episode I discuss how being "triggered" is very normal, why our teens trigger us so much and what to do about it.Triggered a lot and need help?  I'm a life coach and I can work with you to help move through this process faster.  E-mail me at [email protected] to schedule a free 1:1 consult or click here to book a consultation nowLearn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

I'm going back to basics.  I think it's worth making a case for the all that we can do to improve our relationships with our teenagers by working on what is going on within us.  There is tremendous power in learning how to remain CALM within ourselves.We don't need to have all the answers and know everything to help lead ourselves and our teenagers through these often challenging times.  By remembering to Connect, Accept, Love and Manage our emotions (as a good manager) we can equip ourselves with what we need to return to actual calm more easily.Having trouble Finding your calm? I can help. E-mail me at [email protected] for a free 1:1 coaching consultLearn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

The "perfect" holiday does not exist!  Does this statement relieve you or give you stress? We know this intellectually but actually letting ourselves enjoy the holiday season without the idea of perfection can be a different story.  Teenagers have a magical way of shattering our perfect holiday dreams like no other.This episode will help reframe the holiday season and embrace the chaos and reality of this often stressful time in our lives.  Listen for tips on thinking about them differently and maybe even creating more joy for yourself during this special time of year.Need help coming up with a plan? E-mail me at [email protected] for a 1;1 consult. Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Seeing our children at any age as "ours" seems reasonable right?  It makes sense why we see it this way but it is also very problematic from a standpoint of providing our teenagers with the autonomy they need to grow and become independent.This weeks episode explores this further and the reason why we do this and why it is not helpful for either our teenagers or ourselves.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me at [email protected] to schedule a 1:1 coaching consultThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

I know what you're thinking because I've thought it too. If I just accept things that means I like them, condone them or am not going to do anything about it?This is not true and in fact the reality is when something has happened that we don't like, we spend so much wasted time and energy resisting it.  This does not help.   How do I know?  So much time spent arguing against reality.In this episode I discuss how acceptance is not passive, how it helps us suffer less, save time and get to better actions sooner.  I also discuss the difference between passive acceptance and active acceptance.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me for a free 1:1 coaching consult at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Oh the moodiness of teenagers!! It's so frustrating! This episode will tell you why this happens and what you can do to help your teen and yourself through this time.I will also go over how to tell if there is something more serious going on.  Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caWant to coach with me? E-mail me at [email protected] to set up a free consult and initial coaching session.Links to books mentioned in this episodeThe Teenage Brain by Frances E. JensenBrainstorm by Daniel J. SiegelThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Texting and e-mail are super convenient and quick but not always the best mode of communication.  When is it best to use these and when is it best to have a phone conversation or a face-to-face?  This episode gives you some things to consider when choosing the best mode.  Use these strategies to foster good connection with anyone and especially our teenagers.  They need us to lead them on this.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

What's wrong with the thought "I Just Want Them to be Happy"?  It sounds like a great thing to think doesn't it?Well, it is laced with problems for you and for your teenager. In this week's episode I will tell you why and give you some questions to ask yourself to begin questioning this.Releasing this thought can help you release more anxiety around your parenting and focus more on the parts of the parenting job description that are actually achievable. E-mail me for a 1:1 consult at [email protected] more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.comThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Teen anxiety seems to be ramping up these days.  We are hearing about the increase everywhere.  How do we help our teenagers deal with this in the best way possible?  The best way is to be aware of your own emotional landscape and your teenagers will see you as a safe place.Anxiety is a normal part of our lives and it tries to help us but left unchecked and unexamined, it can begin to run our lives and our decisions. Learn how to help your teenager deal with this through some practical tips and insights and remember to start with your own anxiety. Learn more about me at www.jessicstewartcoaching.caE-mail me at [email protected] to set up a 1:1 coaching consultThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Parenting teenagers can certainly bring up anxiety in us.  If it didn't I doubt you would be listening to this podcast. Listen to this episode for some practical ways to manage the heightened anxiety that comes with the territory.Dealing with your own anxiety when it comes up is the best way to know how to deal with your teenager's anxiety.  Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me at [email protected] to set up a 1:1 coaching consultThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Anxiety is a constant companion for me so I'm going to focus on it for the next 3 episodes.  Parenting teenagers can increase anxiety in parents like no other time in life.  This episode focuses on what anxiety is and some perspectives on how to look at it and think about it a bit differently.  I've learned a few things having anxiety as my constant companion and I'm sharing it with you here.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me for a free 1:1 coaching consult at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Are you struggling to stop yelling at your teenager despite knowing it's not helping?This episode is for you.  In it I will discuss the very human reasons we yell at each other and what to do about it.  I will also delve into how to release shame about yelling and a strategy for turning your recent yell-fest into some gold that will increase your connection with your teenager.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me [email protected] to set up a 1:1 consult callHow to Stop Yelling at Your Teenager videoThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Have you watched the shows about these programs that claim to help teenagers reform?  There is good and bad in every industry but what does this say about relationships?  It's no wonder parents put their faith in this but there is something missing if a program you are looking at doesn't include both people in the relationship.  I can help you improve your relationship with your teenager by looking at just you.  You are the person you have the most influence with FOR SURE.Email me to set up a free consult call [email protected] more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

I have been seeing a lot of posts on the socials lately from parents struggling as their teens leave to go away to college for the first time.  What is the advice for how to deal with this? Do I get a dog?  Do I find a new hobby?  Before you do any of that listen to this episode.  You can do these things but you need to let your absolutely normal feelings about this be there and feel what you are feeling.  In this episode I offer some of my own personal ways that I dealt with this. I am a life coach and I work with clients on evenings and weekends EST.  Please contact me at [email protected] to schedule a free consultLearn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

Do you find yourself frustrated with your teenager because you have all the best advice but they just don't listen?  There is a principle rooted in health education called the "righting reflex" and we do it all the time as parents.Guess what? It doesn't work very well.Listen to find out what can work better and how it has you doing less as a parent.  I love a principle that can help me do less :)Email me to set up a 1:1 coaching consults at [email protected] more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

What happens if the other person in your relationship doesn't want to listen to the podcast or read the book on how to improve it?No problem.  There is so much that can be made better by JUST YOU doing this work.  I have real life examples from my own life that prove the other person does not have to change for your relationship with them to be better. I can help you improve your relationship by working with JUST YOU!  E-mail me at [email protected] to set up a free consult and to create a roadmap for where to startLean more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caTriggered by your teenager? Watch my video on how to manage this hereThis powerful podcast explores how  moms  and  parents  can navigate  anxiety,  overwhelm, and grief  while building resilience,  confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens  through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony. 

What if CALM is not somewhere we are trying to get to or strive for? I've been striving to be calm for awhile now and what I've come to realize is that our calm state is covered up by a lot of false thoughts that are disguising themselves as the truth. What if we can be like water and rest into calm. Allow ourselves to settle. The more we do this the easier it gets to come into that state of being.Think of a lake or an ocean. When is it actually calm like glass with no movement? Very seldom, so don't judge yourself either if you are not calm. It takes some practise and some removal of old patterns to rest into a calmer state. The times when we are agitated are perfect teachers to help us learn and really unlearn our old worried and fearful ways of thinking.This episode is all about that...... CALM waters ahead.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caEmail me for a free 1:1 coaching consult where we will develop your plan on how to navigate the teenage years and maybe even enjoy them :) [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Have you watched the movie Inside Out? I just watched it and I know it's not new but I want to talk about it! It should be required watching for all humans.Listen to find out why our job as parents is not to make our kids happy all the time or to keep them happy. As if that's even possible. This is the way our teenagers love to learn, by watching a movie. This is the perfect movie to learn about our emotions and the importance of them in all our lives.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me to set up a free coaching consult at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

What if you don't know how to handle a situation with your teenager? Does that mean you are not a good parent? Not even closeThis episode is all about releasing the pressure of needing to have all the answers and why our brain likes to tell us that we should. When we are open to the fact that we can't be everything to our children and also we can't know everything, there is an instant pressure release.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Does your teenager's heartbreak also break your heart?Teen heartbreak is rough on them but also on us. How do we deal with it? What do we do? What do we say?I'm not sure I can tell you what to do or say but I can give you some ideas on how to "be" with them when this happens as it surely will.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caE-mail me to schedule a free 1:1 life coaching session to try it out at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

I've been really ANGRY lately! I admit it and it took me by surprise. I haven't felt this way in quite some time and being faced with it was a good reminder about how important it is to make space for ALL of the feelings "good" and "bad".In this episode I will highlight why this is so important and how actually letting it be there can allow you to move through the emotion faster. Send me a message at [email protected] more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caEmail me to book book a free 1:1 coaching call at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Do you have perfectionist parenting tendencies? Do you think it helps or hinders you?I am a recovering perfectionist and here to share how perfectionism has increased my anxiety over the years, How about some thoughts that can help you become an anti-perfectionist? I've got you!!! Listen in and enjoy!!!Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caContact me to schedule a 1:1 coaching consult at [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

I just don't want them to fail! This thought makes perfect sense, yet it may be working against your teenagers and you as their parent.Today is the last episode of my Unhelpful Parenting Thoughts series. Listen in as I break it down and examine ways this is not helpful and what we could think instead. Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caDid you know I do 1:1 private coaching? Email me at [email protected] to set up a free consult and see what coaching could do for you.This powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Welcome to Part 3 of this series! I'm exploring some parenting thoughts I have had in my own life that I now recognize as leading to no good outcome. This week the thought is "This shouldn't be so hard!"I will explore why it makes sense that we think this, why it is NOT helpful and ideas about what to think instead.Changing one thought can be so powerful. Listen in to make some shifts today.E-mail me to schedule a 1:1 consult at [email protected] more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

This week we are looking at the thought "They should know better". Sounds like an OK reasonable thought but again we will be looking below the surface of this to see how it's working against you and your relationship with just about anybody you think this about.I will go through why it makes sense we think this, when we think this most often and some ways to come up with a slightly more helpful thought.I am a 1:1 life coach for parents of teenagers. Please email me if you would like to set up a free consult to discover how I could help you [email protected] powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.ca

There are so many thoughts we have as parents that were handed to us and sound like the truth. What if these thoughts are not helping us out as parents at all? Over the next few episodes I'm going to explore some of these unhelpful thoughts, how they could be hurting you and your teenager. I will also offer you some other thought options to help you with all relationships.Lost it on your teenager grab a helpful video hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

We've all heard about creating action plans, but what about creating a plan for how to think? I get it, I always want to know what to do in any situation. What I have found though is that it is more important for me to know what I am thinking about any situation that comes up. This can then lead to better outcomes because I'm taking action from a more managed emotional state.Here's the plan I talk about in this episode1. What is the situation that triggers you?2. How do you want to feel about this situation?3. What could you think about this that could lead you to feel this way?4. What actions would you be able to take if you were thinking and feel this way? How might these actions be better than those you have taken in the past. 5. How might this thought and feeling help you show up the way you want to as a parent?Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Why are my old ways of parenting not working anymore? What's happening now that I have a teenager that I feel like I've lost all of my parenting skills? You are not alone in this thinking. As our teenagers grow and change, so must we. It's not easy though and we can be so resistant to this. It makes sense that we resist it but it also doesn't help make our parenting journey any easier.In this episode I will share a helpful metaphor for this changing role and the reasons we may be revisiting this change. I will also share some things you can do right now to bring some awareness to this. Change is hard and it's hard for our teenagers and us alike. Take heart, you are both going through massive changes in your relationship with each other. Book a 1:1 coaching consult hereGrab your triggered by your teenager video hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Love yourself and others unconditionally they say..... This is simple in concept but harder in practical terms. There is so much that comes up in our brains when we are told to love ourselves. My hope for this episode is that you can begin to see a glimmer that this is possible for ourselves. We are usually the hardest people to love. Who else can be tough to love at times? Well, teenagers, I mean we love them but sometimes we don't love them, love them. If you want to practise unconditional love, your teenagers will give you plenty of opportunity to practise.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Why don't people come with an instruction manual? Especially our teenagers. Well they do, but the kicker is that we have made it up for them ourselves. We have ideas about everyone we interact with according to our own world view. In this episode I explain this concept and how it has helped me view and improve the relationships with all of the people in my life. Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Anger feels good sometimes. We usually don't continue doing things that aren't working for us in some way. This episode is looking at the ways in which we like to keep our anger and the ways anger helps us feel empowered sometimes.What about when it doesn't work though and it is harming our most important relationships? What do we do then. In this episode I teach you how to identify and work with righteous anger. We all have it and we all like to be right. I know I do but do we want to be right at the risk of the connection with our loved ones?Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caGrab your Lost It on Your Teenager Video hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Ever had somebody tell you to calm down when you're angry? Does it ever help? Never has for me that's for sure. Anger is normal, natural and universal and we wouldn't want to banish it from our lives forever. What happens when we are struggling with our anger and what are the best ways to deal with it. In this episode I share some perspectives on anger and a personal anger story of my own.This powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.Learn more about me at www.jessicastewartcoaching.ca Listen to Tara Brach's talk on anger referenced in the episode herehttps://insig.ht/3aiF1xYaGHbBook a free consult here

If you listen to my podcast, I'm sure you struggle with not being able to remain calm. I hear you and it's precisely why I'm sharing this work.In this episode we are going to look at our anger and some different ways to think about it. If we can reflect on the times we are most triggered and become angry, it will give us valuable clues about our emotions and why we get so triggered when it comes to our teenagers.Want to be a part of my 6 week coaching program for free? E-mail me at [email protected] more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caBook a free coaching consult hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Remember when they were little and cute? What happened? Where did they go and when are they coming back? I've thought these thoughts and I bet you have too. What emotion does this bring up for you? In this episode I talk about processing difficult emotions, why it helps and why we often don't want to do it.After listening you will be able to name the emotion that's coming up and have a framework for how to process it and allow it to be there. This is an amazing skill to have and one that can be learned.Please e-mail me if you would like to be a part of my Beta testing group for my new 6-week coaching program to improve your relationship with your teenager [email protected] more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Worrying is a habit that can absolutely be reduced. Do you describe yourself as a worrier who feels doomed to have to do it forever? Worrying is not necessary, helpful or inevitable but it does take some practise to reduce it.In this weeks episode I give you 3 steps to help reduce your worry adapted from Dr. Jud Brewer's work. www.drjud.comWant to be part of my 6-week free coaching program? E-mail me at [email protected] your "Lost it" video hereCheck out my other episode about worrying hereBook a free 1:1 consult hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

Being future-focused is great right? Well not always....Always living in the future can ensure that we miss what's happening right now, which is really all we ever have. In this episode I talk about how to use this concept to help with finding your CALM. Anxiety and worry abounds when we are trying to solve for a future that has not happened and we can't ever be certain about.Want to be part of my beta-testing for my new coaching program for parents of teenagers? E-mail me at [email protected] more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caGrab your video hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

How do you know when you are resisting what is happening in your life and why does it matter? In this episode I talk about the way you can tell you are in resistance and why this creates so much struggle in our lives.I will also give you some simple tips you can try today to practise the skill of acceptance. That's right!! Acceptance is a skill you can learn if you are willing and it is a shortcut off the struggle bus friends!Want in on my limited free coaching program spots? E-mail me at [email protected] to set up a consult for this free 6-week coaching program.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caGrab your video hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.

We moved house this past week and was it ever chaotic in my brain!! It got me to thinking about what is going on in the brains of teenagers as we navigate through this challenging time in our lives and in theirs.I want to snap my fingers and skip past these difficult times but they are a necessary part of growth and change in our lives. Listen to this week episode as I discuss how we can more fully understand and think about these transition times.Learn more about me here www.jessicastewartcoaching.caGrab your video here!Book a free 1:1 coaching session hereThis powerful podcast explores how moms and parents can navigate anxiety, overwhelm, and grief while building resilience, confidence, and emotional intelligence, offering tools for better communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries to foster trust, reduce yelling and punishment, de-escalate conflict and escalation, and strengthen relationships with teens through empathy, calm, and lasting harmony.