Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

“We are all sex workers.” Let that one marinate. “If you can’t do for you then you can’t do for others.” How does that question apply to sex? In this week’s episode Dr. Dom and Terri dive into that first statement and answer the previous question. Plus, so much more! Today on Cultivating H.E.R.Space, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Nenna Joiner. From sexual trauma to elder sexual pleasure to selling sex toys to sex workers to porn. The complexities of this conversation are representative of the depths in which our relationship with sex can exist. Nenna drops lots of gems so get ready for the lessons.Quote of the Day:“There's a form of sex or intimacy that you must have with yourself to bring your visions to life.”— Nenna JoinerPriorities for Healthy Sexual Expression Good mental health Positive body image Disconnecting from the worldWhere to Find Nenna:Feelmore510Feelmore AdultsIG: FeelmoreTwitter: FeelmoreFacebook: FeelmoreTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, do you love only one person at a time? Most likely the answer is, no. If you love more than one person, you are, by definition, polyamorous. Say what now?! Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about love with multiple people on the romantic level. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Kenya K. Stevens of the Progressive Love Academy to debunk some of the misconceptions about having multiple loves. This is a real conversation about the facts, nuances, and complexities of navigating romantic relationships. The Progressive Love Academy has something for everyone.Quote of the Day:"I reserve the right to love many different people at once, and to change my prince often"-Anais NinWhere to Find Kenya:Progressive Love AcademyIG: Kenya K. StevensTwitter: Kenya K. StevensFacebook: Kenya K. StevensYouTube ChannelTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

WARNING: Explicit Content. Not suitable for sensitive ears or the faint of heart. We are talking about sex, vaginas, penises, etc. and use other colorful descriptors for our body parts. Now that we have warned you, lady, today Dr. Dom and Terri dive into Jazmine Sullivan’s new album...Heaux Tales. If you have not listened yet we suggest checking it out and then coming back to the episode. Or...you can play it as you listen to this episode. This entertaining and informative exploration of the album is sure to bring up experiences familiar for you or someone you know. Thanks to Jazmine Sullivan for telling the world about our complex relationship with our bodies and sex.Quote of the Day:"The thing is, dudes can’t handle if a woman takes the same liberties as them especially with regards to sex. Like our society teaches men to be so wrapped up in themselves and their own conquests that they forget we’re sexual beings as well. Plus, their egos are often way too fragile to ever handle a woman who owns and has any real agency over her body. And we’re to blame as well…’cause we’re out here telling them the p*$$y is theirs, when in actuality, it’s ours."-Antoinette’s Tale from Jazmine Sullivan’s Heaux TalesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For this first installment of our 2021 Sexy Self-Love Series, we discuss qualities of a good partner. My love, what qualities are you bringing to the relationship table? Would you date you? What are you doing to make sure you are a healthy happy person? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri explore some of the complexities around discovering the impact of our presence in relationships. While the tips mentioned are not an exhaustive list, they are a great start to a self assessment. As you tune in to the episode, be sure to scroll down to keep up with the tips.Quote of the Day:"In order to maintain a positive and secure relationship and to become a better partner, one should focus on becoming a better person."-Shamyra Howard-Blackburn, sex and relationship therapist7 Ways to be a Better Partner: Have a solid sense of self Heal from any trauma or past experiences Learn to communicate honestly, openly, and clearly Listen Show, don't tell Be considerate Accept your partner for who they areTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What have you done to achieve your goals? Are you willing to make sacrifices, shifts, and changes to get what you want? Having a visceral reaction to the word sacrifice? No, well maybe we’re projecting, lol. Is it possible to be happy while you are sacrificing? How do you know if it is worth it? In today’s episode, join Terri and Dr. Dom as they reflect on their perceptions of sacrifice and their journeys to achieving great things.Quote of the Day:"Conviction and Convenience Don't Live on the Same Block."-Lisa NicholsQuestions we can ask ourselves in the pursuit of our goals: What am I willing to sacrifice to achieve my goals? What am I sacrificing and who is it for? How do I know when my sacrifice is in vain? How do you know when a sacrifice is bad?TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you have been watching the news then you know 2021 is already trying to test us. Well, no worries. Lady, here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space...we got you! At the time of our recording we did not know how important and timely this conversation would be for our community. In today’s episode we are going to build up our armor. Dr. Dom is going to guide us through a visualization to help us cultivate resilience. This is a time when you want to make sure you are in a comfortable distraction-free environment where you can freely pause, reflect, and make space to Cultivate Healing. Empowerment. Resilience.Quote of the Day:“Resilience allows us to tap into deeper resources in ourselves we didn’t even know we had, not just to overcome the obstacles but to be transformed by them.”-Arianna HuffingtonTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to 2021! Have you ever started something (a relationship, job, hobby, etc.) and after a while was no longer interested or things were no longer working in your favor? When those moments come up, what did you do? In January 2019, Terri and Dr. Dom launched the Healing Empowerment Resilience Podcast and have released a new episode every Friday. Now, after two years we are closing the doors on one chapter to make room for another opportunity. As you listen to this episode Dr. Dom and Terri will share with us situations they have walked away from and the new and exciting things in store. This is definitely an episode you want to listen to all the way through.Quote of the Day:"Although my plans may change, I will stay committed to my purpose.”-Season 8 mantra5 Signs It Is Time to Walk Away You’re always exhausted and no longer have interest in it/them When the only reason you haven’t quit is you’re worried about what other people will think When the only reason you are sticking with it is because you do not know who you are without it/them You are not able to visualize a positive outcome You are no longer clear on your whyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we made it! It is the last Friday of 2020! Let’s celebrate! What do you and your girls do when you gather? Drink? Smoke? Eat? Laugh? Cry? All of those are on the table for this Girls Night In. Join Terri and Dom with your beverage and snack of choice where we are playing a game of What Would You Do?. As with most Girls Night In conversations, any topic is up for discussion and we approach each topic with love, positive vibes, and pure intentions.***Be sure to subscribe to Patreon to get access to our juicy Aftershow where we'll keep this conversation going!***Quote of the Day:"Not all girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. Some girls are made of sarcasm, wine, and everything fine.”-UnknownTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you follow her on social media, then you have been inspired, empowered and enlightened by the daily quotes from our guest today, Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis. Perhaps you remember when she was a guest on Season 3 Episode 12 in a discussion about healing intergenerational trauma. Or maybe you have listened to her Homecoming podcast. Well, today Dr. Thema returns for a much-needed conversation about mother-daughter relationships. Our mothers are individual adult beings and sometimes no matter the status of our relationship, it may be difficult to acknowledge mom’s identity outside of motherhood. In this powerful interview, Dr. Thema provides us with insight on navigating a healthy mother-daughter dynamic and how to have a difficult conversation. Get ready for the beautiful gems and ah-ha moments.Quote of the Day:"As your clarity grows, you recognize sometimes it's not about releasing but instead acknowledging what's already gone or what was never there"-Dr. ThemaHow to have a healing conversation with mom: Identify what you want Role Play and Practice Seek consent to engage in the conversation Naming the hurtful actions/events Share how they made you feel Ask for what you want Be open to feedbackWhere to Find Dr. Thema:IG: @dr.themaTwitter: DrThemaDrThema.comTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, do you feel like you are enough? Do you believe you are worthy? Who are you when you are not producing or doing something? The socialization of being in competition with one another and the negative social comparison is stealing our joy. While we are “stomping down the street like majorettes in the parade with no boots on and pulling the whole community behind us,” do not let anyone say you are not worthy. YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri engage Dr. Jannis Moody in a riveting conversation around acknowledging our #BlackGirlMagic and cultivating affirming self-definition.Quote of the Day:"You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody"-Maya AngelouDr. Jannis MoodyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pandemic, death, divorce, natural disaster, addiction...grief and loss is something we have all experienced. How we define and experience the loss varies. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us understand ambiguous grief. Lady, if you have experienced the physical loss of someone or something while still experiencing them psychologically or the inverse then this episode may give you the language you need to define your experience. Hopefully, this complex conversation between Dr. Dom and Terri will help cultivate the healing you need.Quote of the Day:"I wanted a perfect ending. Now that I've learned the hard way, some poems don't rhyme and stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what's going to happen next."-Gilda RadnerTips for Navigating Ambiguous Loss: Utilize “both, and” thinking (ie., opposite of black/white, either/or) Set aside time to not think about the loss Reassign family roles Family therapy/interactions Community/group therapy/interactionsTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Romantic relationships can be complicated. Or maybe not. Are you a single woman hoping to find the love of your life or currently dating and not sure if they are the one? Perhaps, you are involved with someone and the relationship is lacking compatibility. Well, today’s guest will provide you the insight you may be seeking. Relationship coach, Alison Wellington joins Dr. Dom and Terri to discuss healthy romantic relationships. From identifying non-negotiables to lessons learned from previous relationships to being honest about who you are and what you bring to the table. Have your pen and paper ready to take notes. Also, share this with a girlfriend you know could benefit from hearing all these gems.Quote of the Day:"Stop shrinking yourself to fit within places you have outgrown!"-Alison WellingtonTips for Moving On: Accept that the relationship is over Not allowing them back in Get rid of their things Get off of their social media Take care of yourselfWhere to find Alison:Move on Sis!Align with AlisonIGFacebookYouTubeTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you considered leaving your life to pursue a different quality of life in another country? In today’s episode Terri and Dom are joined by Nikhol Rei. She takes us on her incredible journey of self exploration growing up on the East Coast of the United States to deciding to leave the US and learning how to live like a local in Honduras and Costa Rica. Along the way she dispels some of the misconceptions about moving to the tropics and shares info on how to make the move as an unprivileged person living off the land. If that were not enlightening enough, Nikhol Rei gives us an informative introduction into the power of shadow work.Quote of the Day:"Only in a severely unnatural environment would you have to keep constant tabs on your evolution and be punished for merely EXISTING."- Nikhol ReiWhere to find Nikhol Rei:YouTubeIGWebsiteTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, what are you planning? Are you aligned with the process? How are you keeping hope alive during the process? If you started listening to H.E.R Space from the first episode then you know the work Dr. Dom and Terri have invested into the podcast. What you may not know is some of the behind the scenes struggles. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom share with us the milestones for the podcast but they also share some of their personal accomplishments and what it took to achieve them. The testimonies in this episode will hopefully motivate and inspire you. Thank you for riding along with us on this journey!Quote of the Day:"Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you’re appreciating, you are planning… What are you planning?”- Abraham HicksTips and lessons for manifestation: Let go of control Act as if Practice patience Be optimistically realistic Be intentional about your support teamTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

S.A.D. The Standard American Diet. Lady, what do you eat? Is it actually food? Well, if we are what we eat then how does your diet correlate with your health? If we want to address our health we have to address what we are taking into our bodies. There is a science to the who what when where why and how of eating and the impact on our health. In today’s episode, we open up H.E.R Space to master herbalist Djehuty Ma’atra to share with us his path to healthy eating and healing his body. In our westernized socialization, some of today’s conversation may be hard to figuratively digest. We invite you to join Dr. Dom and Terri, in this judgment free zone, as they lean into curiosity to gain a different perspective on the impact of our diets on our paths to healing.Quote of the Day:"Disease did not come out of a bottle so the healing for the disease will not come out of a bottle."-Djehuty Ma'atraTop 5 Vitamins for Black Women: Red Raspberry Leaf Sarsaparilla Wild yam root Red Clover Squaw VineDjehuty Ma’atra HerbsTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What is microeconomics and what is its role in our daily lives? It is not always directly about money. If you think about the access you have and cost of your healthcare, food, employment, and housing, then you are familiar with microeconomics. From family leave policy to double work day to maternal health to childcare to wealth gap we learn how the pandemic is really having a devastating economic effect on the Black community. This conversation is a start in connecting the dots and learning the language of microeconomics. Join Terri and Dr. Dom as they lean into curiosity to learn about this topic from microeconomist, Britni Wilcher.Quote of the Day:" A race that is solely dependent upon another for economic existence sooner or later dies. As we have in the past been living upon the mercies shown by others, and by the chances obtainable, and have suffered there from, so we will in the future suffer if an effort is not made now to adjust our own affairs."-Marcus GarveyTips for Changing Our Economic Outlook: Advocacy in healthcare Retooling ourselves for jobs in the future Hold policy makers accountable for what we needTwitter: @britniwilcherTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week in H.E.R Space, Dom and Terri are joined by Milah and Erica, the hosts of Good Moms Bad Choices podcast, for a juicy conversation around the impact of the father-daughter relationship. What is/was your relationship with your dad? What role does that relationship play in your life now? In this episode, we hear four different father-daughter experiences and the resulting effect on the daughter. It is a complex relationship that is important to unpack and understand to have healthy romantic relationships. This is a reflective episode sprinkled with fun and laughter.Quote of the Day:"They're Called Daddy Issues Because Your Dad Had Issues."- Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGTTips for Addressing “Daddy Issues”: Forgiveness and Compassion Writing Grieve Therapy Individual Family Couples IG: @goodmoms_badchoicesFacebook: @goodmomsbadchoicesPatreon: goodmomsbadchoicesGood Moms Bad ChoicesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today you are in for a special treat. Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Dr. James Wadley to talk about sex. This is not the “birds and bees” talk you may have had with your parents. In a judgement free zone Creativity. Pleasure. Fun. all take center stage here. From discovering your erogenous zones and how to communicate with your partner, today’s episode provides insight on how to have some of those uncomfortable conversations about sexuality at any age. Dr. Wadley also share tips on how to develop sex positivity and healthy sexuality in children.Quote of the Day:"The best of sex is the best of you."-Dr. James WadleyEncouraging Body/Sex Positivity in Kids: Use medically appropriate language Understand the value of consent Discuss physical and identity changesIG: @phdjameswTwitter: @phdjameswDr. James WadleyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can Black people be racist? NO! However, Black people can be agents of white supremacy and anti-Black. Due to how we have been socialized chances are there are times when we may experience internalized racism. Throughout our socialization there have been systems in place to move us closer to whiteness and as a result, shunning people who do not align with white supremacist heterosexist classist patriarchal ideologies. While some of us have found ways to break free from some of these ideologies, others have doubled down in fully aligning with whiteness. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss those who may look like us but are not for us.Quote of the Day:"Souls that inhabit white bodies can be allies and accomplices in the fight against oppression, in the same way that black folks can be agents and accomplices in promoting, promulgating and protecting white supremacy. As my grandmother once said, conjuring Zora Neale Hurston, “All your skin folk ain’t your kinfolk.” Meaning that you can inhabit a black body and be an agent of white supremacy."- Professor Lawrence WareQuestions that need answers: What do we do about skinfolk that ain’t our kinfolk? How do the real Black people unite? What does it mean to be Black? How do we hold Black celebrities and officials accountable?TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We don’t need to bear witness to the event to know it is real and feel the effects. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Dr. Candice Nicole for a conversation about the psychological and physiological effects of racial trauma and ways to heal. Would you believe your health conditions are related to racial trauma? Have you thought about how you have been socialized into anti-Blackness? This episode is sure to be one that is validating and informative. #BlackIsBeautifulQuote of the Day:"Black people don't need video evidence to know"-Dr. Candice NicoleTakeaways:Strategies for Healing Joy as Resistance Self Affirmations Therapy Physical Wellness Community Collective Care Sensual MomentsTwitter: @DrCandiceNicoleFacebook: @DrCandiceNicoleInstagram: @DrCandiceNicolewww.DrCandiceNicole.comwww.CenterForHealingRacialTrauma.comhttps://blackliveslouisville.org/TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, how do you remain positive when everything around you is negative? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom reflect on times in which their peace has been disrupted and explore what they do to remain in a higher vibration when they are being pulled into negativity. The discussion around the coping tips is one that will build up our armor in managing the negativity. The real life examples are sure to be ones that sound familiar. Quote of the Day:"Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be."-Dr. Wayne DyerTakeaways:Tips for Protecting Your Peace 1. Don’t take it Personally 2. Find/Create a Sacred Space 3. Practice Gratitude 4. Create Positive Affirmations 5. Be Conscious of Your Thoughts 6. Journal 7. Set Boundaries 8. Find a Support System TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, how do you navigate the world of work? Are you focused on a career or job? Is your purpose aligned with what you are currently doing? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by Dr. Dom’s friend and mentor, Dr. Kimberly James to discuss navigating careers. From learning how to strategically manage your career...to distinguishing between a mentor and a sponsor and why both are important...to identifying what to focus on when you have been laid off or trying to change careers. The gems that are dropped in this episode are truly priceless.Quote of the Day:"Rent your title, own your character."-Thasunda DuckettTakeaways:Tips for Strategically Managing Your Career 1. Goal Setting 2. Managing Tasks 3. Securing a Mentor AND a Sponsor Tips for Playing the Game 1. Doing Your Job Well 2. Having Allies 3. Improving Your Skillset 4. Network 5. Self-care 6. Don’t Shutdown When Faced with Obstacles Dr. JamesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, what has your experience been with white people? Are you accustomed to being the only Black person in a space? Do you have very little interactions with white people? Most of us have experienced racism, microaggressions and other forms of racial trauma. Being Black in America can be exhausting despite how much joy you see. In the current racial climate some of the white people in our lives have been reaching out to engage us. In today’s episode Terri and Dom describe some of the uncomfortable conversations we may have with white people and how we can navigate those conversations with our best interest at the center. Quote of the Day:“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” -James BaldwinTakeaways:Tips for Having Uncomfortable Conversations with White People 1. Know your audience and context 2. Be open-minded 3. Think ahead regarding consequences of words and actions 4. Set ground rules or use safe words 5. Keep the focus of the conversation away from comforting the other person 6. Have a purpose or goal in mind 7. Use “I” statements 8. Lean into curiosity 9. Pour into yourself before and after the conversation Rachel Cargle TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResourcesMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, who is telling your story? The points provided encourage us to think critically about how media tells our history. Are we being fed the truth? What is the real message? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom dive into how the information we take in shapes how we see, think, and feel about ourselves. How do you define yourself and other Black people? Who told you to define us in this way? Remember, we can take control and own our narrative.Quote of the Day:“Until the lions have their own historians, the history of the hunt will always glorify the hunter.”-Chinua AchebeTakeaways:How to Consume Media in a Healthy Way 1. Know your sources 2. Ask questions 3. Limit news and social media TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, how are you feeling? We are eight months into 2020 and it is not anything we expected when we started this year. The universe has consistently tested our ability to “trust the process”. There are so many major “once in a lifetime” moments that have happened. Both horrific and extraordinarily wonderful. There is a duality in this year 2020. In this episode, Terri and Dom review some of the major events that have occurred and share ways in which we can continue to cope in healthy ways. Quote of the Day:“Note to self: every time you were convinced you couldn’t go on, you did.”-Unknown Episodes referenced:S5E1: Clearing your vision in 2020S511: The Coronavirus and More: Surviving and Thriving in Uncertain TimesS6E1: How to Maximize Your Time & Self-care Routine While Practicing "Social" Distancing S6E10: Dear Black People This Will Not Be Our UndoingS1E8: How to Find Your Own Self Care Routine Takeaways:3 Coping Tips 1. Suspending judgment of yourself and others 2. Prioritizing self care 3. Focusing on what you can control TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you living with A.I.M.-Authenticity, Intention, and Masterful execution? Not sure? No worries. You know Terri and Dr. Dom have your back. In this week’s episode, the ladies are joined by Farah Bernier, Human Resources professional and Founder & Principal Coach of Living Fabulously Fierce. Farah is a dynamic woman who is passionate about empowering women through executive coaching. No matter your current position, from entry level to CEO, there are tips and insight Farah provides that benefit us all. Grab your coffee/tea, pen, and paper to begin the work of upleveling your career and journey of self-discovery.Quote of the Day:"...In the choices we make, is the sweet spot of brilliantly arriving at the recognition of the truth that we are fearfully and wonderfully made..." -Farah BernierTakeaways:3 pro tips for the workplace 1. Give people permission to give you feedback 2. Take the feedback 3. Arming up IG: Farah BernierFacebook: Livingly Fabulously FiercePodcast: Living Fabulously Fierce Living Fabulously Open: Dr. DomLiving Fabulously Transparent: TerriTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, have you seen Black is King? Whether or not you are a Beyonce fan, this visual album is a work of art and art is meant to generate conversation. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom provide an overview of the commentary and controversy. While we acknowledge there are many themes that can be explored, Dom and Terri pride themselves on staying in their lane and will leave certain topics to the experts and your own research. But fear not, if you have been listening to H.E.R Space you know the ladies emphasize lifting up Black women. This episode will focus on highlighting some of the amazing Black women creatives involved in the project to make sure we know their names. Quote of the Day:"We have always been wonderful. I see us in the world's most heavenly things. Black is King. We were beauty before they knew what beauty was."-Yrsa Daley-Ward (Yersa)co-writer of Black is King and author of "bone" and "the Terrible"Takeaways:Creatives to follow:Zerina AkersTiwa SavageJenn NkiruYrsa Daley-WardWarsan Shire TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, what is your relationship with money? How did that relationship form? In today’s episode, the Debt Demolisher, Sophia Melone, joins Terri and Dom to share with us how she transformed her “dysfunctional” relationship with her finances. If you listened to Season 5 Episode 2 with Constance Carter at the beginning of the year, and you have not made any changes...then this episode may be the inspiration you need. Sophia goes even deeper into examining our relationship with money, identifying the various barriers and how to get additional support to make changes. No matter your income level there are strategies (i.e, HABITS) that will help you make the changes you desire. Remember, this is a journey that is not about how much money you make but what you do with it. Quote of the Day:" the real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money"-author unknownTakeaways:Sophia’s Tips:CutAskAcquireProduce 1. Face the reality of the situation 2. Establish a budget 3. Pay yourself first Sophiamelone.comSmashdebt.comIG: IamsophiameloneTwitter: IamsophiameloneFacebook: Iamsophiamelone TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you living your life like a diversified portfolio? What makes you extraordinary? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Thasunda Brown-Duckett. From her role as mother to banking executive, she is the embodiment of living her life with purpose and owning her character. Using banking terms we learn why work/life balance is a myth and how to be more intentional with our time. Thasunda drops so many powerful quotes that will help us gain perspective and remind ourselves of who we are. After listening, scroll down for some of Thasunda’s tweetable quotes.Quote of the Day:"If you give all of your energy, commitment and passion to your life, you will almost certainly have a fulfilling professional and personal life journey." -Thasunda Brown-DuckettTakeaways:Thasunda Duckett’s Quotes:“I rent my title but I own my character”“Your character transcends your ego”“Ordinary person trying to do extraordinary things”“Live your life like a diversified portfolio and over time you will outperform this thing called life”“This is on the chest is not Superwoman...it’s Spent”“Three things you should never sacrifice: your health, family and character” Diversifying your portfolio:Write down what matters to you and allocate itIn the moment give 100%Permission to respond as the conditions change knowing over time you will outperform Otis and Rosie Brown FoundationExtraordinaryis.orgIG: Thasunda Duckett TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you in control of your life? In today’s episode, Jasmine Green joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us how we may not be in alignment with our purpose and steps we can take to get into alignment. No matter how your journey started, as we hear from Jasmine, does not have to be the route you continue to take. The internal experience of the entrepreneur we see is a powerfully vulnerable story and Jasmine shares with us how to transmute our energy. Through visualizations and personal examples we learn concrete steps to manifest the life we deserve.Quote of the Day:"You can only receive what you're actually ready for AND... You will only allow yourself to have what you believe you deserve."- Jasmine P. GreenTakeaways:Three phases of ManifestationTrue manifestation is when you master being it vs wanting it 1. I want it because I recognize what I don’t have 2. Close your eyes and visualize where you want to be ”this is mine” 3. Whatever you believe you deserve you can have- you have everything you need to get/receive it. FB: JasminePaigeGreenIG: JasminepgreenTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

LADY! Today you are in for an extra special treat! In case you have not heard, our very own Terri Lomax is releasing her book, How to Glow Up as You Grow Up on July 21, 2020. In this episode, Terri is in the guest seat as Dr. Dom guides her through sharing her story with us. If you think you know Terri...whew! This episode is guaranteed to reveal things none of us knew. The significance of 7/21. Her real name. Childhood Trauma. No matter your background there is some piece of Terri’s story that will resonate with you. Be sure to have a glass of your favorite beverage and the tissues as this episode will feel as though you are truly sitting on the couch having a ladies night in with H.E.R Space. Quote of the Day:"Grow through what you go through." -Terri Lomax Takeaways:How to Glow Up as You Grow UpTerri LomaxIG: TerriLomaxYouTubeTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, what are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Are you living the life you want to live? No? Perhaps it is time to take inventory and make some changes. Today, King Ashley Ann shares with Terri and Dom the valley she was in and the measures she took to achieve the level of success she currently embodies. She drops specific tips on calculating her business worth so be sure to take notes. If you are not trying to start a business, this episode still has something for you. King Ashley Ann paints a clear picture and drops fun facts about our spending power. What are our demands of major corporations who depend on our dollars? This is an episode you want to pay attention to and share with other Black women. Quote of the Day:"The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it."-Rafiki in The Lion KingTakeaways: - Know your worth - You cannot be everything to everyone - Free99 leads to Paid99Blackdollarblacklives.comIG: KingAshleyAnn TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, whether you are tuning in for the first time or have been rocking with us since day one...THANK YOU!!! The mission of H.E.R Space has been to create a space for Black women and it has blossomed because all of you are tuning in and sharing. The support has been humbling and encouraging. In this episode Terri and Dom reflect on the last six seasons- the growth, the feedback, and some of the lessons learned. Dom and Terri also share new beginnings for the new season including new questions for the fun “Oh, You Clatchet?” segment. Quote of the Day:Season 7 Mantra: I am not limited by any past thinking...I choose my thoughts with care.Takeaways:Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!Sign up for our Patreon account to get access to extra content TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Audre Lorde speaks about walking into a room full of Black folx and not knowing whether her skinfolk are really her people. That is what the episode this week is about. More specifically, this episode is about making space for Black Trans people. This week Terri and Dom are joined by one of Dom’s former students, Eryn Scott. They are a BIPOC LGBT advocate, freelance researcher and cultural worker. There is a lot many of us do not know and this conversation is an opportunity for us to open our minds and hearts to learn how to affirm the Black Trans folx in our lives. Take a listen. Share with your friends and family. Engage in the difficult dialogue. Quote of the Day:"It's annoying because I feel like the conversations I'm having with white people about the right to life for black people are the same conversations I'm having with black people about the right to exist for trans people." - Londoner Nic https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/33ab8fbd-792f-44ee-85de-5dd3894f60bfTakeaways:Organizations to donate to:ForThegworlstheokraprojectBlack Aids InstituteAudreLordeprojectProjectQDonate to Local Trans People!!!TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are the dreams and the hopes of our ancestors. On this day let us take time to reflect on one of the biggest lessons our ancestors could have ever imparted: finding joy. For centuries Black folx have experienced cruelties that are beyond what any human should ever have to endure. However, we have always found ways to celebrate us. In this episode, Terri and Dom explore the meaning of Juneteenth and ways in which we can continue uplift ourselves. Quote of the Day: "Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise. I rise. I rise." -Maya Angelou Takeaways: Links to resources mentioned in today’s episode: https://www.apartmenttherapy.com/shop-black-owned-businesses-36759922 https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/black-owned-beauty-companies-to-shop https://www.juneteenth.com/history.htm https://thehoneypot.co/ https://aalbc.com/bookstores/list.php TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it mean to be a Black woman in America today? America has never been a safe place for Black women yet somehow we are truly the backbone of this country. We are the givers and doers. #SayHerName and the current buzzword, Intersectionality, were both brought to our attention by Dr. Kimberle Cresnhaw- a Black woman. How many other contributions have Black women made that many do not know about? We will no longer be invisible. In today’s episode, we say the names of Black women who were killed by the police. We also say the names of a few of the many Black women who have contributed to the advancements of this nation. Lady, we want you to know showing up and being your authentic self is possible. Make note of the tips provided and let’s all use this time to uplift one another. Quote of the Day: “Black women's lives have never been shown any value in America." - Patrisse Cullors, co-founder of Black Lives Matters Takeaways: As Black women what are ways we can show up for one another: Support Black women-owned businesses Hold each other accountable with public shaming Random acts of kindness Compliment Black women you don't know Invisible No More Little Leaders: Bold Women in Black History TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we are in distress and we have had enough. As if the current pandemic were not enough, our nation is facing another moment of reckoning. Violence against Black people persists. Racism and white supremacy are ceaseless. Racial trauma is real. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom name what is happening; identify what we may be feeling; what we can do to take care of ourselves; and what roles each of us can play in the revolution. Quote of the Day: "Revolutions are the responses of people in distress." - Rachel Cargle Takeaways: How We Fight the Black Plight: Political Workers Light Workers Investors and Funders Grid Protectors Hawks Teachers and Researchers Next Steps: Researching grassroots movements in your area Advocating for defunding police to fund local and community safety efforts Holding businesses and organizations accountable Make sure your cup is overflowing Do your own research Black Lives Matter Meditation Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome Unapologetic Guide to Mental Health TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s episode is from our Zoom Live recording on Memorial Day 2020. Terri and Dom were joined by a few amazing ladies in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary to discuss the Quote of the Day and what it means when Black women come together to uplift one another. In this episode, the ladies experience “in the moment” technology issues and we see how they adjust along with receiving tips on how we can all deal with the frustration that comes when technology won’t let us be great. Shout out to the special guests...all the amazing ladies that stepped into the sanctuary with Dom and Terri. Quote of the Day: “When women affirm women it unlocks our power. It gives us permission to shine brighter.” -Elaine Welteroth Takeaways: Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Frustration: Recognize the moment of frustration Investigation Use breathing techniques Have a backup plan "Now that you have some clarity about what you want, it’s time to challenge yourself to view your predicament in a more optimal way. In other words, it’s time to shift your perspective of the situation and choose to view your frustrations as an opportunity or challenge to do things better. Your first objective is to identify what exactly has been working for you. There must be something that you have done well. Identify what that is and then also figure out the mistakes you might have made along the way. Now view those mistakes as helpful coincidences and use them as an opportunity for positive change." Shift your perspective Think flexibly and creatively TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, how are you feeling about your partner? Has the pandemic caused you to reconsider some things? Why are you with this person in the first place? Is your relationship bigger than how you are feeling about your partner at this moment? If the answer is yes, then today’s episode will offer you guidance on how to keep your relationship healthy. Today, Terri and Dom are joined by Teleshia Delmar who goes in depth on her top 5 traits that have kept her marriage going for almost 20 years through the good and bad. Quote of the Day: "Because we didn't quit when times got crazy hard, even when there were no feelings of love and respect for one another, our marriage is stronger than ever!" -Teleshia Delmar Takeaways: Top 5 Traits for a long lasting healthy relationship: Communication Conflict resolution- fix the friction Expectations Intimacy and sex Trust https://loversbond.com/aboutus/ https://loversbond.com/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE-C7uN56dU TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Realistic expectations and radical acceptance. For who? Your parents. Yes. Them. Those people who hurt you that you have been spending all of your adult life trying to understand. Those people who will never see you no matter how many hoops you jump through trying to please them and earn their love. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. The ladies dive into how to identify the traits; the impact it has on you; and how to heal. This is sure to be a conversation you want to give your undivided attention. There are so many quotable gems and “Ah-ha!” moments that will cause you to pause and reflect. Quote of the Day: “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up.”- Dr. Ramani Takeaways: 5 Tips to Recover from Being Raised by the Narcissistic Parents: Realistic expectations Radical acceptance Minimize your engagement Stop personalizing Therapy Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

No more Zoom meetings!!! No more Zoom meetings!!! Lady, if that exclamation resonates with you then you are among so many of us who are exhausted from all of the online meetings and gatherings. So many of us are longing for an opportunity to engage that does not involve staring at a screen. However, for the foreseeable future, a lot of our usual physical engagement will continue to be limited. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer up five realistic tips we can all implement to prevent Zoom fatigue and stay engaged. Quote of the Day: “Imagine if you go to a bar, and in the same bar you talk with your professors, meet your parents or date someone, isn’t it weird? That’s what we’re doing now.“ –Gianpiero Petriglieri Associate Prof at Insead Takeaways: 5 Tips to Combat Zoom Fatigue: Use a different device and/or platform for school/work and social Center social activities around an activity Be intentional about scheduling Set a time limit Take a break in between and during meetings Camera covers Microphone plug: https://amzn.to/2SMjEBK TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we are not okay. You. Me. We. Us. How do you address your mental health? How does your family address it? How is it addressed in your community? Is it working? Why are we still doing what we have always done? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Rheeda Walker to discuss how we can develop psychological fortitude. Dr. Walker provides us with actionable steps that will allow us to function at our highest capacity. Not just individually but on a nationwide Black community level. This is a real conversation our community needs to have so we can all do the work to heal ourselves. We all we got! Quote of the Day: “You will have to continually evaluate whether what you are doing is working for you in life or you will find yourself in a rut that is hard to escape.” -Dr. Rheeda Walker Takeaways: Ways to Cope During This Time: Document this time What is it about this situation that is stressing me out the most What can I do about this situation? Identify what is within your control Give ourselves some slack Listen to our bodies and do what makes sense Identify a small project in the house to achieve a sense of purpose Register for Terri's free podcasting masterclass here. The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health: Navigating an Unequal System, Learn Tools for Emotional Wellness, and Get the Help You Deserve (Paperback) (Kindle) Website: Dr. Rheeda Walker Twitter: @RheedaWalker TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bodies. Black bodies. Black women’s bodies. In a world that is constantly telling us that we are not enough...how did you view yourself during adolescence? How has your body image changed over the years? What are the beauty standards you strive to fulfill? How have those standards evolved with societal trends? In today’s episode Terri and Dom dive into body image for Black women. The ladies discuss their personal journeys of developing a healthy body image. Listen in for tips on ways to love your body. Remember...You.Are.Enough. Quote of the Day: "I was built this way for a reason, so I’m going to use it." - Simone Biles Takeaways: Ways to Love on Your Body Have private parties with yourself (cue India Arie) Keep things in perspective Give yourself the same compassion and admiration that you give that cute cuddly baby or pet Affirmations Being healthy- whatever that means for you... Compare yourself to you and no one else TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Anything you love on will grow.” Whether we are talking about hair, business, or relationships, it takes love for that thing to grow and flourish. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri are joined by entrepreneur Sharie Wilson. This insightful woman from South Central LA was told she would not amount to anything. Fast forward to 2020 and Sharie has MULTIPLE business ventures. Listen in as she shares her story, the love she places in growing healthy hair and drops some real gems along the way. Quote of the Day: "Once you master your subconscious mind anything is possible." -Sharie Wilson Takeaways: Dream Girls Hair Salon IG: Iamshariewilson IG: Dreamgirlshair Sharie Wilson TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Where you started is not where you have to finish.” Lady, how willing are you to shift and pivot into something different? In today’s episode, the ladies are joined by the dynamic Jenn Hammock. She appears to do it all...mommy, wife, first lady of the church, writer, coach, solopreneur, etc. How does Jenn manage it all? Listen in as she shares what it takes to prevent over-functioning and experiencing “mommy guilt.” Terri and Dom ask her some of the questions we all have that may be barriers to us answering our why. Quote of the Day: “Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.” -Oprah Takeaways: Support group for female entrepreneurs IG @Jenn_hammock Dream ChaseHer podcast Jenniferhammock.com Book: The Emotionally Healthy Woman Wigs: https://bit.ly/terrisfavwigs TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope in the midst of turmoil. Lady, no matter what your current circumstances let’s take some time to assess what wholeness means to you. Over the last few weeks, most of us have shifted to “staying at home to stay safe.” In the adaptation to your new (and hopefully temporary) normal, the pull to be perfect and/or busy are real. Well, Terri and Dom are here to tell us that working on being whole may mean letting go of perfection and busyness. Listen in as the ladies share their perspectives on how to utilize this time to pour into ourselves. ***If you are or someone you know is in need of assistance regarding partner violence please use the resources below: The National Domestic Violence Hotline RAINN National Network to End Domestic Violence Suicide Prevention Lifeline Quote of the Day: “The challenge is not to be perfect...it’s to be whole.” -Jane Fonda Takeaways: Self Care Be Still When is the last you did something for yourself? Describe what your 15-year-old self thought life would look like at this moment? How different is your current state? What do you want to change? What should stay the same? What are the things you are grateful for and why? Goal Setting Brain dump What am I optimizing for? Goal mapping workbook: https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Free podcasting masterclass: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/terrilomaxpodcasting Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA Sticky notes https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 Journal https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Sign up for our IG live on April 10th at 5PM PST: bit.ly/herspacenewsletter Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, this first quarter of 2020 has been way too much in some not so good ways. However, in this season of the podcast, Terri and Dom guided us through a theme of personal development with the foci of mental, emotional, relational, financial, sexual and physical health. Dom and Terri brought in some amazing guests including the first male guest to add their expertise to the conversation. Listen in as Terri and Dom read some listener reviews and share some questions they receive that have sparked ideas for future episodes. Moving into the next season, lady, we invite you to engage more with Dom and Terri through the H.E.R Space Sanctuary, TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom, and Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri. Takeaways: TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, more than likely you will be at home for the next few weeks. Before you begin catching up on all of the missed episodes of the podcast, take a trip down memory lane with us. For those of you who were coming of age around the 99 year 2000, this is an episode for you. Join Terri and Dom as they dive into some of their fun memories from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. From music to food to TV shows and so much more! Shout out to our New Orleans families and Philly natives! Be sure to join us on Instagram to share your memories, @HERspacepodcast. Quote of the Day: "Recalling days of sadness, memories haunt me. Recalling days of happiness, I haunt my memories." - Unknown Takeaways: Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Seasons 1-3 https://amzn.to/3cGDw1L Gullah Gullah Island: Season 1 (3 Discs) https://amzn.to/2Izp9ys Relevant Episodes: S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry S4E7: Myths and Beliefs We Need to Unlearn Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you worried about COVID-19? Are there other things in life you are so focused on, it seems hard to think about or do anything else? If so, then this episode is for you. Listen as Dom and Terri provide practical tips on how to cope when life seems uncertain. Then scroll down to access the tips and links to helpful resources that will not only help you survive but THRIVE during these unpredictable times. Quote of the Day: “What consumes your mind is what controls your life.” - Anonymous Takeaways: Keep things in perspective Focus on what you can control Exercise Connect to a bigger purpose Get the facts Communicate with your children/family Keep connected Seek additional help Sources: https://www.apa.org/helpcenter/pandemics https://theconversation.com/5-tips-for-surviving-in-an-increasingly-uncertain-world-125294 A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (Oprah's Book Club, Selection 61)- https://amzn.to/3aLj9yj An exercising yoga mat https://amzn.to/3cKMFpR Resources: CDC WHO Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode. Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest Takeaways: Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You’re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. How to make the change Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers The Self Compassion Deck Relevant Past Episodes: S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.