Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey lady! It’s getting warm outside and you might be in the mood to mix and mingle. Before you welcome a handsome stranger into your life and begin the beautiful dance of getting to know them, we welcome you to some self-inquiry so that you can introduce your authentic self to your potential lover and not a mask of who you think you need to be. Terri and Dr. Dom explore the key conversations you should be having with yourself to prepare for the blessing of love and companionship should you so choose to engage. If you listened to Loving Ourselves Through the 7 Dimensions of Wellness, you’ll remember Dr. Dom discussing the wellness wheel. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri apply that framework and apply it to the most important relationship of all – the one with yourself. Have you checked-in about how you’re faring on the wellness wheel and are you having conversations about what you would like to improve or continue? Use today’s conversation as a guide that you can adapt to necessary conversations with your potential boo to keep you happy, healthy, and on track.   Quote of the Day: “In order to create the relationship that you’re dreaming of you need to first start from the inside and work your way out.”   – Dr. Jeanine Staples   Beducated offers expert-led courses designed to help you explore intimacy, pleasure, communication, and confidence, on your own terms and at your own pace. If you’re ready to learn more about your body and deepen your understanding of pleasure, check out Beducated here: https://beducate.me/pd2614-herspace.   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! We can be honest about the tenor of this year – even with personal joys – this year has an air of heaviness to it. We are collectively grieving so much and some of us are also grieving on a personal level as well. Grief is not something that we do well in this country, which is why this week Dr. Dom and Terri are excited to welcome Marisa Renee Lee, award-winning and bestselling author of Grief is Love and her book Waiting for Dawn, to discuss the levels of grief and how to navigate a challenging world with loads of self-compassion and care. Marisa shares how she has built a life around the grief that showed up in her late adolescence and has showed up in various ways despite building a high-achieving, ambitious life. She offers a grounded, authentic perspective about the levels and layers of grief and how learning how to live with it and give it space in your life can actually open up room for deeper love, deeper understanding, and a more connected relationship with life. Marisa’s journey includes profound loss and a new relationship with her body by understanding its needs after being diagnosed with chronic illness. Lady, grief is a real component of life. It is inevitable and unavoidable but knowing that there is a path through the grief and that there are tools to support the journey can make all the difference between a life of suffering and a life of self-discovery and self-fulfillment. Which path will you choose? Whatever road you take, lady, we’re walking right beside you towards our joy. Be well!   Quote of the Day: “Hard times are simply a part of life, and I think we all want to know how to do them well.” – Marisa Renee Lee   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Drive Boost for libido support. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Marisa Renee Lee: Website: Marisa Renee Lee Book: Waiting for Dawn Book: Grief is Love IG: @marisareneelee LinkedIn: Marisa Renee Lee   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! By now it is clear that we are living through an extreme backlash to the gains made by Black Americans, non-Black minorities, and women. The most glaring manifestation of this is the rollback of Affirmative Action and Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) programs across the country. Not only were programs built to uplift non-Whites completely eliminated but they were removed with a velocity that made many American’s head recoil from whiplash. Seemingly overnight companies united to align with the current regime’s warped ideal of what the American workplace should operate as. The thing is we, as Americans, have long moved past civil rights era workplace politics and practices. Black Americans have consistently demonstrated our aptitude and ability to be top contributors to the corporate workforce and that doesn’t have to stop despite this regime’s best efforts, according to Dr. Marissiko Wheaton-Greer, Assistant Vice President for People, Purpose and Policy at an affordable housing nonprofit and researcher on social identity, critical consciousness building, and leadership. Dr. Wheaton-Greer offers a balanced perspective about why this moment feels different and how you can navigate hostile, tenuous workplace situations. Tune in lady and have your Cultivating H.E.R. Space journal with you so you can write down a few of the scripts Dr. Wheaton-Greer offers. Her guidance will have you managing challenging scenarios with grace, dignity and the class you’ve already cultivated.   Quote of the Day: "We cannot talk about DEI in broad categories. In order to dive deeply and give people the competence they need to be good colleagues and stewards of this work, we need to be specific and engage in the unique experiences of various communities and identities." – Dr. Marissiko Wheaton-Greer   This episode is sponsored by VB Health, a woman-owned, physician-led supplement company creating doctor-formulated supplements that work. We’re featuring Soaking Wet (probiotics + vitamins for vaginal health and natural wetness). Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Dr. Marissiko Wheaton-Greer: Website: Greer Consulting IG: @marissiko IG: @greerconsulting LinkedIn: Dr. Marissiko Wheaton-Greer   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! This week Terri and Dr. Dom welcome back Tommi Vincent, chef and author of The Table for Life: Nourishing the Soul with Food, Love, and Faith to discuss how using the elements that your unique life has given you can become the ingredients for an incredible life story. Tune in for a recipe using resilience, strength, self-discovery, and joy to write the most beautiful chapter of your life, yet!   Quote of the Day: "A woman is a living masterpiece not painted in oils but in courage, compassion, resilience, and grace." – Tommi Vincent   This episode is sponsored by VB Health, a woman-owned, physician-led supplement company creating doctor-formulated supplements that work. We’re featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Tommi Vincent: Website: Tommi Vincent Book: The Table of Life: Nourishing the Soul with Food, Love, and Faith IG: @cheftommiv TikTok: @cheftommiv Facebook: Tommi V   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! This week’s episode is for all of the mothers out there holding it down to make sure their babies have the best in life despite all of the stigma, obstacles, and challenges that can come with being a single mother in America. Jamilah Lemieux, notable author and editor and Black Twitter media personality, joins Terri and Dr. Dom to discuss her new book Black.Single.Mother and her journey into wholeness as a woman, co-parent, and mother of a teenager. Jamilah has a real and relatable conversation about how she processed the dissolution of her relationship, came to terms with rejection, and moved into a healthy co-parenting dynamic that still honors her needs and boundaries but keeps the focus on her daughter and what is best for her development. Jamilah drops gems about the internal work she had to do to get to a place where she wasn’t recreating patterns based on her life experience. Some of the biggest work we will do as women is being able to become so full of ourselves – our light, our brilliance, our joy – that we are able to fill in the areas where we feel incomplete, broken, or unworthy. It is some of the most important work we can do if we want to raise healthy children that will walk into the world knowing their inherent worthiness and free from inherited feelings of lack. We want confident young people that grow into capable leaders and it starts with all of us – mother or not – freeing ourselves from shame and stigma. So, tap in and get some real love from Jamilah and the ladies of Cultivating H.E.R. Space and find out why being a present, loving “baby mama” is something to be proud of, not ashamed.   Quote of the Day: “Our people (and, really, the whole world) need a complete overhaul of their ideas about Black single motherhood.” – Jamilah Lemieux   Beducated offers expert-led courses designed to help you explore intimacy, pleasure, communication, and confidence, on your own terms and at your own pace. If you’re ready to learn more about your body and deepen your understanding of pleasure, check out Beducated here: https://beducate.me/pd2614-herspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Jamilah Lemieux: Website: Jamilah Lemieux Book: Black.Single.Mother IG: @jamilahlemieux Threads: @jamilahlemieux Twitter (X): @jamilahlemieux LinkedIn: Jamilah Lemieux Facebook: Jamilah Lemieux   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! Are you ready to go big in your love life? If you’re ready to make changes that reflect the woman you are today then you’ll definitely want to tune in because Terri and Dr. Dom are dropping gems and spilling tea to help you improve the way you vet your romantic prospects. Lady, by now you’ve heard “choose better” when attempting to find respect and companionship but do you know exactly what that means? Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven questions to ask while dating that will help you make your next decision from a grounded place. Whether you are looking for a good time, not a long time or ready to find your forever person, let this episode you guide you as you engage from a place of personal power, deep self-respect, and high self-regard. Now, you know this wouldn’t be a Cultivating H.E.R. Space episode if we didn’t help guide you into introspective work that will help you identify what you’re looking for in a partner and what you are bringing to the relationship. None of us are perfect and we’re all working on aspects of ourselves so head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop and grab a journal so that you can answer the questions that will help you clearly assess where you are in your process so that you can get the love you deserve! And, lady we promised you tea. Join Patreon so you can hear Dr. Dom and Terri spill it. It’s hot, hot, hot in the Aftershow!   Questions You Can Ask to Reveal Someone’s Character “What did your last relationship teach you about yourself?” “What does a healthy relationship look like to you?” “What are you currently working on within yourself?” “How do you typically handle conflict?” “What are your non-negotiables in relationships?” “What brings you peace in your life right now?” “What kind of partner do you want to be?”   Quote of the Day: “Every person you date reflects something back to you—not to judge you, but to show you where you’ve healed, where you’re still growing, and where you’re ready to choose differently.” – Unknown   This episode is brought to you by VB Health, supplements that work. Check out Soaking Wet for vaginal health. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1–2 weeks. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.