Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Today’s episode is from our Zoom Live recording on Memorial Day 2020. Terri and Dom were joined by a few amazing ladies in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary to discuss the Quote of the Day and what it means when Black women come together to uplift one another. In this episode, the ladies experience “in the moment” technology issues and we see how they adjust along with receiving tips on how we can all deal with the frustration that comes when technology won’t let us be great. Shout out to the special guests...all the amazing ladies that stepped into the sanctuary with Dom and Terri. Quote of the Day: “When women affirm women it unlocks our power. It gives us permission to shine brighter.” -Elaine Welteroth Takeaways: Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Frustration: Recognize the moment of frustration Investigation Use breathing techniques Have a backup plan "Now that you have some clarity about what you want, it’s time to challenge yourself to view your predicament in a more optimal way. In other words, it’s time to shift your perspective of the situation and choose to view your frustrations as an opportunity or challenge to do things better. Your first objective is to identify what exactly has been working for you. There must be something that you have done well. Identify what that is and then also figure out the mistakes you might have made along the way. Now view those mistakes as helpful coincidences and use them as an opportunity for positive change." Shift your perspective Think flexibly and creatively TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, how are you feeling about your partner? Has the pandemic caused you to reconsider some things? Why are you with this person in the first place? Is your relationship bigger than how you are feeling about your partner at this moment? If the answer is yes, then today’s episode will offer you guidance on how to keep your relationship healthy. Today, Terri and Dom are joined by Teleshia Delmar who goes in depth on her top 5 traits that have kept her marriage going for almost 20 years through the good and bad. Quote of the Day: "Because we didn't quit when times got crazy hard, even when there were no feelings of love and respect for one another, our marriage is stronger than ever!" -Teleshia Delmar Takeaways: Top 5 Traits for a long lasting healthy relationship: Communication Conflict resolution- fix the friction Expectations Intimacy and sex Trust https://loversbond.com/aboutus/ https://loversbond.com/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE-C7uN56dU TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Realistic expectations and radical acceptance. For who? Your parents. Yes. Them. Those people who hurt you that you have been spending all of your adult life trying to understand. Those people who will never see you no matter how many hoops you jump through trying to please them and earn their love. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. The ladies dive into how to identify the traits; the impact it has on you; and how to heal. This is sure to be a conversation you want to give your undivided attention. There are so many quotable gems and “Ah-ha!” moments that will cause you to pause and reflect. Quote of the Day: “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up.”- Dr. Ramani Takeaways: 5 Tips to Recover from Being Raised by the Narcissistic Parents: Realistic expectations Radical acceptance Minimize your engagement Stop personalizing Therapy Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

No more Zoom meetings!!! No more Zoom meetings!!! Lady, if that exclamation resonates with you then you are among so many of us who are exhausted from all of the online meetings and gatherings. So many of us are longing for an opportunity to engage that does not involve staring at a screen. However, for the foreseeable future, a lot of our usual physical engagement will continue to be limited. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer up five realistic tips we can all implement to prevent Zoom fatigue and stay engaged. Quote of the Day: “Imagine if you go to a bar, and in the same bar you talk with your professors, meet your parents or date someone, isn’t it weird? That’s what we’re doing now.“ –Gianpiero Petriglieri Associate Prof at Insead Takeaways: 5 Tips to Combat Zoom Fatigue: Use a different device and/or platform for school/work and social Center social activities around an activity Be intentional about scheduling Set a time limit Take a break in between and during meetings Camera covers Microphone plug: https://amzn.to/2SMjEBK TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we are not okay. You. Me. We. Us. How do you address your mental health? How does your family address it? How is it addressed in your community? Is it working? Why are we still doing what we have always done? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Rheeda Walker to discuss how we can develop psychological fortitude. Dr. Walker provides us with actionable steps that will allow us to function at our highest capacity. Not just individually but on a nationwide Black community level. This is a real conversation our community needs to have so we can all do the work to heal ourselves. We all we got! Quote of the Day: “You will have to continually evaluate whether what you are doing is working for you in life or you will find yourself in a rut that is hard to escape.” -Dr. Rheeda Walker Takeaways: Ways to Cope During This Time: Document this time What is it about this situation that is stressing me out the most What can I do about this situation? Identify what is within your control Give ourselves some slack Listen to our bodies and do what makes sense Identify a small project in the house to achieve a sense of purpose Register for Terri's free podcasting masterclass here. The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health: Navigating an Unequal System, Learn Tools for Emotional Wellness, and Get the Help You Deserve (Paperback) (Kindle) Website: Dr. Rheeda Walker Twitter: @RheedaWalker TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bodies. Black bodies. Black women’s bodies. In a world that is constantly telling us that we are not enough...how did you view yourself during adolescence? How has your body image changed over the years? What are the beauty standards you strive to fulfill? How have those standards evolved with societal trends? In today’s episode Terri and Dom dive into body image for Black women. The ladies discuss their personal journeys of developing a healthy body image. Listen in for tips on ways to love your body. Remember...You.Are.Enough. Quote of the Day: "I was built this way for a reason, so I’m going to use it." - Simone Biles Takeaways: Ways to Love on Your Body Have private parties with yourself (cue India Arie) Keep things in perspective Give yourself the same compassion and admiration that you give that cute cuddly baby or pet Affirmations Being healthy- whatever that means for you... Compare yourself to you and no one else TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Anything you love on will grow.” Whether we are talking about hair, business, or relationships, it takes love for that thing to grow and flourish. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri are joined by entrepreneur Sharie Wilson. This insightful woman from South Central LA was told she would not amount to anything. Fast forward to 2020 and Sharie has MULTIPLE business ventures. Listen in as she shares her story, the love she places in growing healthy hair and drops some real gems along the way. Quote of the Day: "Once you master your subconscious mind anything is possible." -Sharie Wilson Takeaways: Dream Girls Hair Salon IG: Iamshariewilson IG: Dreamgirlshair Sharie Wilson TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Where you started is not where you have to finish.” Lady, how willing are you to shift and pivot into something different? In today’s episode, the ladies are joined by the dynamic Jenn Hammock. She appears to do it all...mommy, wife, first lady of the church, writer, coach, solopreneur, etc. How does Jenn manage it all? Listen in as she shares what it takes to prevent over-functioning and experiencing “mommy guilt.” Terri and Dom ask her some of the questions we all have that may be barriers to us answering our why. Quote of the Day: “Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.” -Oprah Takeaways: Support group for female entrepreneurs IG @Jenn_hammock Dream ChaseHer podcast Jenniferhammock.com Book: The Emotionally Healthy Woman Wigs: https://bit.ly/terrisfavwigs TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope in the midst of turmoil. Lady, no matter what your current circumstances let’s take some time to assess what wholeness means to you. Over the last few weeks, most of us have shifted to “staying at home to stay safe.” In the adaptation to your new (and hopefully temporary) normal, the pull to be perfect and/or busy are real. Well, Terri and Dom are here to tell us that working on being whole may mean letting go of perfection and busyness. Listen in as the ladies share their perspectives on how to utilize this time to pour into ourselves. ***If you are or someone you know is in need of assistance regarding partner violence please use the resources below: The National Domestic Violence Hotline RAINN National Network to End Domestic Violence Suicide Prevention Lifeline Quote of the Day: “The challenge is not to be perfect...it’s to be whole.” -Jane Fonda Takeaways: Self Care Be Still When is the last you did something for yourself? Describe what your 15-year-old self thought life would look like at this moment? How different is your current state? What do you want to change? What should stay the same? What are the things you are grateful for and why? Goal Setting Brain dump What am I optimizing for? Goal mapping workbook: https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Free podcasting masterclass: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/terrilomaxpodcasting Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA Sticky notes https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 Journal https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Sign up for our IG live on April 10th at 5PM PST: bit.ly/herspacenewsletter Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, this first quarter of 2020 has been way too much in some not so good ways. However, in this season of the podcast, Terri and Dom guided us through a theme of personal development with the foci of mental, emotional, relational, financial, sexual and physical health. Dom and Terri brought in some amazing guests including the first male guest to add their expertise to the conversation. Listen in as Terri and Dom read some listener reviews and share some questions they receive that have sparked ideas for future episodes. Moving into the next season, lady, we invite you to engage more with Dom and Terri through the H.E.R Space Sanctuary, TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom, and Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri. Takeaways: TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, more than likely you will be at home for the next few weeks. Before you begin catching up on all of the missed episodes of the podcast, take a trip down memory lane with us. For those of you who were coming of age around the 99 year 2000, this is an episode for you. Join Terri and Dom as they dive into some of their fun memories from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. From music to food to TV shows and so much more! Shout out to our New Orleans families and Philly natives! Be sure to join us on Instagram to share your memories, @HERspacepodcast. Quote of the Day: "Recalling days of sadness, memories haunt me. Recalling days of happiness, I haunt my memories." - Unknown Takeaways: Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Seasons 1-3 https://amzn.to/3cGDw1L Gullah Gullah Island: Season 1 (3 Discs) https://amzn.to/2Izp9ys Relevant Episodes: S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry S4E7: Myths and Beliefs We Need to Unlearn Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you worried about COVID-19? Are there other things in life you are so focused on, it seems hard to think about or do anything else? If so, then this episode is for you. Listen as Dom and Terri provide practical tips on how to cope when life seems uncertain. Then scroll down to access the tips and links to helpful resources that will not only help you survive but THRIVE during these unpredictable times. Quote of the Day: “What consumes your mind is what controls your life.” - Anonymous Takeaways: Keep things in perspective Focus on what you can control Exercise Connect to a bigger purpose Get the facts Communicate with your children/family Keep connected Seek additional help Sources: https://www.apa.org/helpcenter/pandemics https://theconversation.com/5-tips-for-surviving-in-an-increasingly-uncertain-world-125294 A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (Oprah's Book Club, Selection 61)- https://amzn.to/3aLj9yj An exercising yoga mat https://amzn.to/3cKMFpR Resources: CDC WHO Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode. Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest Takeaways: Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You’re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. How to make the change Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers The Self Compassion Deck Relevant Past Episodes: S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we know that Black History IS American History 365 (well, 366 if it’s a leap year, lol). Today Terri and Dom are joined in conversation with historian, Dr. Candice Harrison. The ladies discuss what fuels Candice’s passion for history; the work she is doing at the University of San Francisco; where we can find accurate information about our history; how she processes all the trauma and beauty of history; and who are the unsung heroes we should acknowledge. Grab a glass of your favorite beverage (Hello sweet tea! We see you wine!) and join the ladies on the couch for this laughter-filled informative conversation. Quote of the Day: "You can tell a great deal about a country and a people by what they deem important enough to remember, to create moments for — what they put in their museum and what they celebrate." - Lonnie Bunch, Founding Director, The National Museum of African American History and Culture Takeaways: Ancestry DNA kit https://amzn.to/380niN3 23 and Me DNA kit: : https://amzn.to/2T52iR3 Dr. Candice Harrison: [email protected] Ancestry.com Genealogybank Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Myla Bennett, a board-certified plastic surgeon in Georgia. She is not your typical plastic surgeon. Dr. Myla is “pro doing things to make you feel good but anti ignoring what is going on inside that is affecting what you want to do on the outside.” Your mental health is an important factor in your decision to have plastic surgery. Dr. Myla shares with us the “dark and dangerous” side of plastic surgery, the surgeries people regret and the impact it has on the individual and their romantic relationships. What are the red flags you need to avoid in a plastic surgeon? What do you need to consider in your life before having surgery? Listen in to Dr. Myla’s answers to those questions and more. Quote of the Day: "Anytime an opportunity comes along and it violates unleashing a woman's inner and outer beauty, I'm not going to do it." - Dr. Myla Bennett Takeaways: Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem https://amzn.to/31iRLV2 A Book of Daily Positive Affirmations https://amzn.to/32l11bS DrMyla EderraBella Prettyskinrx Relevant episodes S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence S1E8: How to Find Your Own Self-Care Routine Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back into H.E.R Space for a much-needed conversation. In this week's episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics. Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions. Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous Takeaways: Dental Dams Female Condom Relevant Episode: S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper thedrjoy Our Culture Care California residents: send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG… keyword “ourculturecare” Toast by Kofee Anybody by Burna Boy Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, today is a special day in H.E.R. Space. We have opened the doors to invite our first male guest. Listen in as Terri and Dom engage Zo Williams in conversation about relationships. This dialogue is much more than men vs. women. Get ready to hear some insightful ways to reconceptualize your understanding of heterosexual relationships; the roles each of us play; how we got to a certain place in our relationships; and how we can change if we desire to do so. Be sure to have your favorite note-taking device handy as Zo drops some gems on us. Quote of the Day: "As long as people in stepping-stone relationships are committed to serving each other instead of misusing each other, there is no inherent harm in stepping-stone relationships." - Zo Williams Takeaways: Zo’s books: Holographic Relationship Relationship Dismount Iamzowilliams.com Voice of Reason Radio DashTalk X Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, today we are diving into an important conversation about the complicated feelings of grief. While most of the conversation centers around hearing about the news about Kobe Bryant’s death, his daughter Gianna and the seven other people on the helicopter, Dom and Terri also have a larger conversation about the other thoughts and feelings that come up when someone dies. How do you respond or how are you supposed to feel when someone who assaulted you dies? How is the family supposed to feel? How are those who are aware of the situation supposed to feel? What will it do to their legacy? Do you forgive them? Do you protect them in their death? Listen in as Terri and Dom help us think through how to process our complex feelings of grief. Quote of the Day: “It’s uncomfortable to raise the worst thing someone has ever done when that someone dies, and when they are beloved. And I suppose it matters that I write this as someone who thinks that very, very few of us are all good or all bad; few of us are saintly, even fewer irredeemable. We can admire aspects of a person’s talent without erasing the ways in which they also did irreparable damage. We can be horrified and angry by what someone did without writing them off as worthless, without seeing them go away — to jail, to the grave — and saying “good riddance.” We can — we must — assess the ways in which the rich and famous are able to exploit our admiration of their talents to pound into the ground anyone who might threaten their fame and reputation, how they so often bypass accountability and we just let them because, well, they’re so talented, or so attractive, or their politics line up with ours, or they handle a ball so well.” - Jill Filipovic Takeaways: Smudging Kits On Death and Dying book feel all the feelings...they are all valid be kind to yourself...no judgments step away from social media set boundaries with those around you to get what you need utilize resources like therapy Relevant episodes S3E10: A Fresh Perspective on Death You Need to Hear Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, today is a powerful episode. It may bring up strong emotions and some of you may be able to relate to Terri’s story. As you are listening, know there are resources available to help. Scroll to the bottom of this page for more information. If you are in the process of healing recognize the importance of your internal dialogue. Words have power. In today’s episode, we learn how to use words to heal, empower and build resilience. ***If you or someone you know is being abused please see the resources below to get help.*** Quote of the Day: "If someone overheard your internal dialogue, what would they think? How you talk to yourself and how you talk about yourself is impacting the way you show up in the world. Put some respect on your name." - Terri Lomax Takeaways: Be accurate and factual Allow your support system to support you “No one is 100% one hundred percent of the time.” -Queen Latifah Create positive affirmations Keep a thought record Write in a journal National Domestic Violence Hotline Child Welfare Information Gateway Resources: 1. Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem- https://amzn.to/2ZmoYxI 2. Break Up With Procrastination https://terrilomax.lpages.co/break-up-with-procrastination/ 3. Sticky notes for affirmations https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 4. Journal to keep track of thoughts https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you provided reviews or given professional feedback and wondered what they are really thinking about what you shared with them? Being behind the mic can be difficult to navigate the balance of privacy and openness. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri share their process with wrestling with some specific feedback they received from a listener. Through this process, Terri turns the interview tables on Dom and we find out if she has any “clatchet” in her. As you are listening to the episode if you want to know more about Terri and Dom be sure to connect on social media or email via the website. Quote of the Day: “Trust the process.” -Dr. Dom Takeaways: 1. Trust the process 2. Listen with an open heart and mind Relevant episodes 👂🏽 S1E1: Welcome to HER Space Podcast S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry S2E9: So What's Therapy Like Anyway? Resources: Their Eyes Were Watching God Are You There God, It's Me, Margaret? Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our relationship with money has an impact on our quality of life. Having a million dollars in the bank does not automatically make us happy nor does being “poor” equal unhappiness. This week we have a special guest that will help us all think about what changes we need to make in our lives to not only get our finances in order but shift our family dynamics to what best serves us. Constance Carter, the CEO of Catalyst Real Estate Professionals joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us her journey to healthy financial wellbeing. This is not your ordinary interview about finances. Lady, we guarantee there is some aspect of Constance’s story in which you can relate. Quote of the Day: "When you say things like, “I’m broke” you're telling the universe to keep you in the state of lack and you’re programming your mind to keep you there. Your words are powerful and prophetic, and what you say becomes real. If you want to have more, you have to speak it into existence." - Constance Carter Takeaways: Constance’s tips on changing your mindset: GTS: Google That Sh*t Just Do It Laugh Lavish in the journey Find the good in everything “Balance is a myth but harmony is a must.” -Lisa Nichols Relevant episodes: S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion S2E12: Oh You Bougie, Huh? Resources: Constance Carter’s books recommendations: 1. The Secret to Breaking the BROKE Code: 5 Steps to Growth, Abundance & Overflow https://amzn.to/2Sn0XW0 2. Keeping Score: What You Need to Know to Make Your Credit Score Grow https://amzn.to/2Zt3n6N 3. Secrets of a Millionaire Mind https://amzn.to/36pIsV0 Where to Find Constance: Website: Constance Carter Weekend of Wealth Retreat Facebook: Nobodyworksharderthanconstancecarter Instagram: AskConstanceC Twitter: AskConstanceC Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is the start of a new year and decade. What comes up for you? Where were you 10 years ago? What has/has not happened? How do you feel about where your life is now? As we embark on this next year and decade, what are the things you want to focus on? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri share some of the goals they have had over the last decade reflecting on how some of those things have unfolded...or did not unfold. Listen in as Terri and Dom share with us how to establish our vision with the important questions to ask yourself and the tools to visually map it out. Be sure to scroll all the way down to check out ALL the resources available to you. Terri’s Mantra for the Year: Flow Dr. Dom’s Mantra for the Year: Slow Down Quotes of the Day: "As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around." - Oprah Winfrey “If it’s truly meant for you, it will happen when you are ready.”- Dr. Dom “When you find the why and you’re committed, everything else will fall into place.”- Terri Relevant episodes Season 1- Episode 3: How to Overcome Procrastination and Make Progress Fast S1E11: How to Create a Dream Team For Your Life and Business S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion Takeaways: Goal setting/Vision board planning questions If you fast forward life to December 2020, how would your life be different? What is one word or phrase that will be your mantra for the year? Identify 5 people who can help you reach your goals Identify 10 people you can build up Goal mapping workbook https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Whiteboard with markers https://amzn.to/2PoSHCX https://amzn.to/2LZW7dn Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA Cardi B song- Get Up 10 https://amzn.to/2QkwQgz Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we have made it to the end of Season 4, 2019, and the first year of H.E.R Space podcast. THANK YOU and YOU and YOU!!! We could not have made it this far (over 225 thousand downloads) without your support. In this season Terri and Dom start off the season with a series of episodes that address health-related topics, including a discussion of fibroids. Following those episodes, the ladies offer us a series of healing episodes. Of course, the ladies could not end the first year without also addressing fake friends. Be sure to tune in to learn more about all of the exciting things coming from the ladies in 2020! Continue to download, share with others, and be sure to connect with us on social media by leaving us a message. Takeaways: New adventures in 2020… Ask Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, can you believe 2019 is almost over? You have made 365 trips around the sun! Have you made any changes? Have you achieved the goals you set at the beginning of this year? No worries if you are feeling stagnant. This episode is an opportunity to engage in self-reflection. Listen in as Dom and Terri guide us through a series of questions to help us reflect on the past year. Be prepared to stop and start many times along this journey as you dive into answering the questions authentically. Not sure how to answer the questions? No worries, Terri and Dom answer the questions on air so you can see the range of emotions that may come up and the themes that emerge. Trust the process. ***Subscribe to the new H.E.R Space YouTube channel. Once we get 100 subscribers, we'll post a video we recorded for you!*** Quote of the Day: “The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination… until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” – Iyanla Vanzant Takeaways: 13 Questions to Ask If you had to describe the past year in 3 words, what would they be? What was a high point? What is the scariest/challenging thing you’ve done this year? Which of your personal qualities turned out to be most helpful this year? What was your most common mental state this year (i.e. stressed, at peace, excited)? Who hindered you? Who can you thank for their love, light, support or encouragement this past year? Did you make a mistake that you haven’t forgiven yourself for? What do you need in order to forgive yourself? How did your overall outlook on life evolve? What do you deserve a pat on the back for? What was the most important lesson you learned this year? What was the most surprising thing you experienced this year? What is your number one goal for next year? Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“From fibroids to fake friends…” The ladies have discussed fibroids so listen in today as they address fake friends. Lady, how many people in your life can you truly call friends? How long have you known them? Are they acquaintances or “ride or dies”? Many of us call the majority of the people in our life friends but all friendships are not equal. In this episode, Terri and Dom help us understand the different types of friendships and give us real-life examples of their highest level of friends and how to let go of the people whose friendship is no longer healthy. Quote of the Day: "An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.” – Buddha Takeaways: 4 levels of friendship: Level 1. Acquaintanceship Level 2. Casual friendship Level 3. Close friendship Level 4. Intimate friendship How to spot a fake friend in your life: Fake Friends Are Selfish Fake Friends Thrive on Gossip and Drama They mock you and compliment you at the same time because…passive-aggressive. They gossip endlessly about others. They only see you as a means to an end. Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Linda Leu, the Executive Director of IMPACT Bay Area. In Spring 2019 Dom and Terri participated in IMPACT’s first self-defense class specifically for women of color. Linda led that course. In this conversation, the ladies reflect on that experience but more importantly, Linda shares information about self-defense techniques beyond the physical skills. She also explains what happens to many of us who experience the freeze response and how we can work our way through it. This is definitely an episode you want to listen through to the end. Quote of the Day: “If you don’t respect her, you obviously don’t deserve her.” Takeaways: “The best fight is no fight” 5 Best Practices for Self Defense Listen to your intuition Use your voice Practice using tools before having to use them Practice setting boundaries in small ways Do what you have to do to be comfortable Resources: Website: Impactbayarea.org Instagram: @impactbayarea Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, do you ever wish that some of the things you do in life could be simplified? Yes? Us too. In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom share with us some of their favorite life hacks. From managing your meals to your appearance, listen in as the ladies break down each time saver and the practical ways in which they are used. Trust us when we say some of these life hacks are guaranteed to make your life easier. Quote of the Day: "Life is really simple. We insist on making it complicated." -Confucius Takeaways: Life Hacks Meal prepping A travel set of basic necessities Create a packing list for travel Scheduling self-care at the beginning of the month Picking out your clothes the night before or at the start of the week Wear your hair in a way that saves you time and money Natural colors when getting your nails done Get a fanny pack Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s episode is one that all of us experience but few of us actually talk about...jealousy and envy. Homegirl at the office stays winning. Your bestie in another city is getting closer to someone else. Which one is envy? Which one is jealousy? What other feelings come up? Often times they are used interchangeably and incorrect. Terri and Dom help us clarify what each term means. Then they walk us through multiple real-life examples to help us parse out what each word looks like when played out. What are the questions we need to ask to navigate each situation? Scroll down for some helpful tips. By the way, shout out to Meg Thee Stallion for those bomb-ass knees :) Quote of the Day: “True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy; when you know you are great there is no reason to hate.” -unknown Takeaways: Acknowledge the feelings Evaluate the situation with an open mind Identify the roadblocks (internal and/or external) What can you control? Remember to practice self-compassion Kill it with kindness Get support from community and/or therapy Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, were there things you were taught as a child that now as an adult you wonder why you believed it? Yep. Us too. Oh, wait. That’s not you? What about as an adult? There was nothing you have questioned? Still not you? So, no pyramid schemes? Certain religious beliefs? “Old wives tales”? Virginity/Hymen Testing? Today we invite you to listen with an open heart and mind as Terri and Dom provide us with an opportunity to reflect on what we have learned and question the messaging we have held to be true. What do I believe? Why do I believe it? In this episode, Dom and Terri explore why some of these myths or “lessons” came into being and how the messaging may have harmful lasting psychological effects. “As life continues to evolve how we address situations need to evolve as well.” -Dr. Dom Quote of the Day: “Unlearn.” -John Singleton Takeaways: Do your own research Ask questions Previous episodes that address healing from some of the myths and messaging: S2E1: Let's Talk About Sex with Eliza Boquin S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis S3E13: Who Taught Us to Deny Our Sensuality? with Free the Cheeks Founders Breezy and Bobbi S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you ready? It's the holiday season 2019 edition. How do you usually feel around the holidays? For some of us, it is not the time of joy and merriment that seems to emanate from everything around us. In this episode, Terri and Dom give us some important signs to look for if we are experiencing the holiday blues. They also provide us with six healthy coping strategies and give examples of what it looks like in real life. Of course, infused throughout the episode Dom and Terri share with us some of their fond (and not so fond) holiday memories. Make sure to join in the conversation on social media and share with us what you’re grateful for and any of your holiday memories that may help someone else experiencing the holiday blues. Quote of the Day “'Tis the season to be jolly But how can I be when I have nobody” - What do the lonely do at Christmas? by The Emotions Takeaways 6 ways to manage the holiday blues 1. Volunteer 2. Maintain as much of your normal routine as possible 3. Find healthy ways to cope with a recent breakup 4. Let yourself feel the feelings 5. Set boundaries and be true to yourself 6. Be open to new traditions Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, can you believe it’s November? That means the holidays are upon us. It also means a new year is approaching. Here in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary, we believe that now is a great time to challenge ourselves to be thankful for all of our blessings. In this episode, Terri and Dom take us back down memory lane to share with us the lessons they received about gratitude. They also break down why gratitude is important and the benefits we can derive from incorporating it into our daily lives. Scroll down to access the article Terri mentioned on the seven ways gratitude can change your life. For the entire month of November be sure to follow us on Instagram and share with us your daily gratitude Quote of the Day: "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have then you'll never ever have enough." - Oprah Winfrey Takeaways Article: 7 Crucial Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life Gratitude activities: Gratitude jar Daily gratitude journal Thank you cards/letters Gratitude videos Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does relaxation look like for you? We know there are levels to this but we are talking about the relaxation that involves letting go and not thinking or stressing. Have you ever actually had this experience? Maybe? No? Don’t worry. For all our Type A people this episode is for you. Know that relaxation is not sitting down watching a documentary or using your day off to organize your closet. Relaxation means that you are truly taking the time to bring your energy fuel tank from E(mpty) to F(ull). What does that look like? Listen in as Terri and Dom walk us through how to take notice when we are carrying stress or tension and strategies we can implement to engage in authentic relaxation. Quote of the Day: "The most productive thing you can do is relax." -Unknown Takeaways: Be intentional about what you take in (e.g., comedies) Laughter Bubble baths Meditation Focus on whatever it is that will help you decompress Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, if you have been listening to the podcast for a bit, you know in our introduction we mention we discuss topics ranging “from fibroids to fake friends." Today Dr. Joy Cooper joins us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary to drop her "TED Talk" on fibroids and its impact specifically on women of the diaspora. In this episode, Dom and Dr. Joy share their personal experiences with fibroids that many of us could either relate to ourselves or know someone who can. In this candid conversation with Terri and Dom, Dr. Joy dispels some of the myths about our gynecological health and encourages us to make informed decisions about our fertility. This is definitely an episode you will want to listen to and share with others. Quote of the Day: “I think the number one thing Black women and all Black people should be paying attention to is our health.” -bell hooks Takeaways: Advocate and seek a second opinion Do no harm Know your normal Your network determines your net worth Instagram: @thedrjoy Daughters of the Diaspora Culture Care Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Quote of the Day: “To anyone out there who’s hurting—it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. It’s a sign of strength.” - Barack Obama National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1800273TALK Lady, have you ever felt like whenever you try to take two steps forward you get sent three steps back? At times it can feel really hopeless. Did you reach out for help? Was there someone or something that gave you hope? In today’s episode, Terri shares with us when she contemplated suicide and the obstacles she’s faced this year. On this journey in life, it’s okay to pull over on the side to pause, call for help, and keep your eye on your vision. Today the ladies help us build up our resilience muscle. “You don’t know how strong you are until being strong is your only option." “If you can look up you can get up.” - Les Brown Takeaways: Ask for help Take mental health days Keep your eyes on your vision Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Quote of the Day: "Connection: the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." - Brene Brown Welcome to Fall and Season 4 Lady! As we embark on the last quarter of the year one thing that comes to mind is the approaching holiday season. For many of us, that means work parties, family gatherings, charity events and all of the things that involve interacting with a crowd. If you are in school that means the end of the semester presentations and group projects. Did you hold your breath or feel your pulse quicken or maybe even a tightening in your stomach at the thought of any of those activities? Do you dread doing any of those activities for fear of judgment or ridicule? Then you may have social anxiety. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to differentiate between being shy, introverted, having a common response to a social situation, and social anxiety disorder. Terri and Dom share some of their personal experiences and provide some tips for how to face your social anxiety. Takeaways: 3 Tips for conquering social anxiety Set Small/specific Measurable Achievable Relevant/realistic Time-based goals Get an accountability partner Reward yourself 13 Useful, Expert-Backed Tips For Dealing With Social Anxiety Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Just as we are (hopefully) saying goodbye to summer, Terri and Dom are wrapping up Season 3 this week. Join the ladies as they discuss the highlights of this season, from the dope women who appeared as guests, the lessons they learned, and the tech issues to the personal losses Terri experienced. This season also had a couple of great achievements. Not only did we have 20,000 downloads in July alone but by the middle of September y’all showed up and showed OUT with the downloads crossing the 125,000 mark for total downloads! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Continue to download, share with others, and be sure to connect with us on social media by leaving us a message. Takeaways: ***Don’t forget to enter the Wedding Dress Giveaway. Deadline is Monday, September 30th*** Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, what were you taught about sexuality and sensuality? Are you ready to relearn what you thought you knew? This week Terri and Dom are joined by dynamic sister duo Breezy and Bobbi (the founders of Free the Cheeks) and they take us to Twerk Church. This discussion dives into what’s really up with what women are taught about sex and sensuality. A lot of us were taught about respectability politics and socialized into participating in the patriarchy based on the traumas of our ancestors. Today the ladies name the ways that we can subvert the patriarchy. We will hold space and celebrate our wombs. Breezy and Bobbi share with us how they teach women about discovering the freedoms of their body and where they learned to respect and appreciate feminine bodies. Feel the joy. Feel the community. Get back to yourself. Regain your power. Create that vibration...free your cheeks! Quote of the Day: "If any female feels she needs anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency" -bell hooks Takeaways: From Niggas to Gods The Heart of Trauma Freethecheeks.com @wehealdifferent Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Surviving is not the same thing as living.” Lady, how many times have people commented on how strong you are? How many times have you felt like you were falling apart on the inside but you refused to let others see it so you would not be perceived as weak? Take a moment and think about where you learned that pattern. Chances are you are living out a narrative that is not your own. You may be operating in a space conditioned to protect your wounds...shield you from your trauma. Trauma that was caused by someone behaving in reaction to their own wounds. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis, a licensed psychologist, ordained minister, and sacred artist. She encourages us to think about our pain in ways that many of us have never considered but will definitely bring us closer to healing. Gift yourself the time to sit and do nothing else but listen to this episode as Dr. Thema drops so many quotable statements. Your wounds will be so glad you did. Connect with Dr. Thema: Website- https://www.drthema.com/ The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema I Dance with God: A Cojourney in Prayer Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, when did you decide whether or not you wanted children? Were you socialized to tie your womanhood to being a mother? Have you thought about what you really want? Do you know what influenced that decision? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom discuss their decision on having children and what factors led to their choices. More importantly, the ladies dive into a conversation that many women experience but until recently have not openly shared. Infertility. Miscarriage. Let’s not be silent on these issues. If you have ever experienced any type of fertility and/or gynecological issues, know that you are NOT alone. As you are listening, if you have any questions scroll down as there is a list of resources that may help you. As a community, we want to be here for one another so please be sure to reach out to us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary. Quote of the Day: "I just think, as women, we have to give ourselves room to be individuals. So when a woman makes a decision for herself, we as women shouldn’t set those hardcore boundaries for another woman. Just like we don’t want men setting hardcore boundaries for us.” -Jada Pinkett-Smith Takeaways: Below are links to information on all the major terms mentioned in today’s episode HSG Unexplained infertility PCOS IUI IVF DNC Egg freezing Resources: Ovia https://www.oviahealth.com/ What to Expect https://www.whattoexpect.com/mobile-app/ Bare with my doula http://www.barewithmeduo.com/ The sacred doula https://www.instagram.com/sacredbirthdoula/?hl=en Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, we know you are reading the title of today’s episode and probably took a pause. What are the thoughts and feelings that come up for you? Fear? Unease? Are you ready to click out of this episode? Remember, when Dom tells us to trust the process? This is one of those times. TRUST. THE. PROCESS. We acknowledge this is a heavy topic and invite you to dive into this with us. Stop what you are doing and be present for this discussion. The first lesson: Live in the moment. Death is a fact of life for all of us. What can we do to honor ourselves and others while we are living? Listen all the way to the end to learn about the very special way Terri contributes to the legacy of herself and her family on a regular basis. But wait... There’s more! At the end, Terri reveals the details for a special giveaway. Quote of the Day: “Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment you breathe is a gift.” – Oprah Winfrey Takeaways: https://mochagirlspitstop.com/when_a_blogger_dies/ Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What are you most afraid of? Have you shared that with anyone? What have you done to address the fear(s)?  No worries, if you have not taken any steps. Hopefully, listening to this episode will motivate you to take action. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Guryan Tighe. Guryan is Founder and CEO of, Fourage, that's courage with an F. As an Executive Coach who specializes in helping people address their fears, Guryan joins Dom and Terri to discuss fear and communication. Each of the ladies opens up about something they are afraid of and Guryan utilizes her expert coaching skills to facilitate the discussion and offer best practices. Then Guryan provides tips on how to engage in healthy communication with partners and parents. Some of her tips may surprise you and you will definitely want to take notes. Let’s make fear our greatest teacher.    Quote of the Day: "FOURAGE is courage spelled with an F. We believe your fear is the gateway to your courage." - Guryan Tighe Takeaways: Guryan’s general best practices: On having a conversation with your partner about setting boundaries with in-laws Get curious What do you want more of? What do you appreciate? What does an ideal scenario look like with the in-laws for you and your partner? Establish a safe environment where both people feel supported  Listen to listen/understand to create a shared agenda   Communicating about something annoying or unfulfilling your partner does Note that it may be more indicative of something happening internally Bring curiosity inward What are you feeling?   Toxic parents and having conversations about their bad behavior What do you feel lost around? What are you missing? Apply compassion to self and parent(s) Get your needs met in other places Connect with Guryan:  Fourage.io [email protected] Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, have you ever had times where you’re sitting with a mentor, big sister, or someone you look up to and their presence just makes you feel at peace? Makes you want to ask ALL the questions and share ALL your business knowing there will be no judgment and you’ll be guided into making healthy choices?Well that’s what it was like for Terri and Dom this week as they were in conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford. If you’ve been a part of the sanctuary for a while then you're already familiar with Dr. Joy.She is a licensed psychologist, speaker, and host of the wildly popular Therapy for Black Girls podcast. Listen in as she talks with Dom and Terri about her passion for improving the lives of Black women and their mental health; the importance of sisterhood; how she manages it all; and what song always gets her on the dance floor. Pour up your favorite summertime beverage, relax and join the ladies in the sanctuary for an enjoyable conversation you didn’t know you needed.  Quote of the Day:“Sometimes therapy is hard work." -Dr. Joy Harden BradfordTakeaways:The Short and Tragic Life of Robert PeaceYou can find Dr. Joy via:Twitter: @therapy4bgirlsInstagram: @therapyforblackgirlsFacebook: @therapyforblackgirlsEmail: [email protected]:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black GirlsPsychology Today Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week finds us in the aftermath of multiple mass shootings due to domestic terrorism. To be clear, these instances are fueled by hate and a result of white supremacy. Today Terri and Dom are joined by Rachel Cargle, an activist, writer, lecturer, and entrepreneur. Rachel’s work focuses on unpacking White feminism, confronting White supremacy and educating people on how Black women are frequently shut out of feminist spaces. The ladies discuss White supremacy by defining it; how it pervades multiple aspects of our lives; and its relationship with White feminism. Lady, as always, we hope after this episode you know you are not alone. Be sure to check out Rachel’s website for resources on navigating this racist society we live in.    Quote of the Day: "I don’t want your love and light if it doesn’t come with solidarity and action." - Rachel Cargle   Takeaways: For women of color...YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.  Notes for White allies and accomplices  "What are you without racism? Are you still good? Are you still strong?” -Toni Morrison It is never the job of the oppressed to educate the oppressors If love were the answer…  Black people love the hardest so we would’ve loved our way out of a lot of things by now.  We would never walk into an orphanage or homeless shelter and say “you should’ve loved your way into new parents or a new home." Love and words are not enough. Take ACTIONABLE steps!   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a world that encourages and supports engaging with others on a constant basis, is there understanding for those of us that prefer to be alone? When you hear the word introvert how much does this describe you? Before you make that decision listen in as Dom dispels the myth of equating an introvert with shyness and answers whether social anxiety and introversion are equals. When, where and how you derive your energy clues you in to your introversion status. Not sure how that really applies to you? Terri and Dom will explain what the introversion/extroversion spectrum looks like and provide examples from their lives of where they fall on the continuum. Lady, you think you know Terri and Dom, but you might be surprised by how they rate their level of introversion. Stay tuned for information that you can reference for later use and tips on how to navigate being an introvert in an extroverted world. If you are more extroverted, this episode will help you understand your introverted sisters and remind you to not dim your light for the comfort of others. We are dynamic and varied in how we show up in this space. There. Is. Room. For. All. Of. Us.   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Assertiveness. When do you use your voice? How do you use your voice? What does it look like when you assert yourself? Where did you learn to use your voice? The answers to each of those questions gives you insight into how you express assertiveness. If you have listened to previous episodes on boundary setting and confidence then this week’s topic will add to your arsenal of being a woman living in authenticity. Terri and Dom will explore examples of assertiveness and also distinguish from assertiveness, aggressiveness, passiveness, and passive-aggressiveness. Asserting yourself may require risk but it will benefit you and everyone around you in the end. Be sure to scroll down to learn how to navigate situations that require assertiveness.  Quote of the Day: "I think of the next girl who is going to come along who looks like me, and I hope, 'Maybe, just maybe, my voice will help her.'" -Serena Williams Helpful resources mentioned: Tips to improve assertiveness identify the behavior; the impact; your feelings and what you want changed use "I" statements speak loudly and clearly avoiding pauses and "ums" own what you need aim for positivity and collaboration https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a28209579/serena-williams-us-open-2018-essay/  From Psychology Today: "Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication, while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others. There’s no question of where they stand, no matter what the topic. From a cognitive standpoint, assertive people experience fewer anxious thoughts, even when under stress. From a behavioral standpoint, assertive people are firm without being rude. They react to positive and negative emotions without becoming aggressive or resorting to passivity. Individuals who are high in assertiveness don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others to see their side. They are also open to both compliments and constructive criticism. Assertiveness is often associated with higher self-esteem and confidence. People can improve their assertiveness through practical exercises and experience."   https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/black-women-leaders-approved-for-assertiveness-in-the-workplace.html See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This was week was a rough one for Dom and Terri. Terri found out that her grandmother passed away and had to abruptly leave San Francisco to head home to Philadelphia. It was still very important for them to produce an episode but they ran into quite a few challenges.   Despite the technological struggle, they had a quick conversation about stress, anxiety, and setting boundaries when life comes at you fast. Stay tuned because they'll have more in-depth conversation about these topics in the future.     Quotes of the day: "It's not stress that kills us, it's our reaction to it." -Hans Selye   "In times of stress the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers." -Mr. Rogers     Hans Selye's General Adaptation Syndrome: Step 1: Alarm Step 2: Resistance Step 3: Exhaustion   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today General Adaptation Syndrome    Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are more than halfway through 2019. Have you accomplished all of your goals for the year? While some of us use June and July to re-evaluate goals and resolutions we set in January, know that it is okay to establish new goals and hit reset at any time in the year. What about your life goals? Do you have things that you are passionate about? What gives you purpose? In today’s episode, listen in as Terri and Dom share their journeys to discovering their passions. What you hear is sure to enlighten you but it may also resonate and inspire you along your own path. One thing for sure is, like you, Dom and Terri have not had straight paths. If you are looking for ways to clarify your purpose or are just starting on a journey, check out the tips below to you started.   Quote of the Day: "Don't confuse who you are with where you are on your journey." Takeaways: Step 1- Have a vision and write it down Step 2- Identify your why Step 3- Find a source of inspiration and restore often Step 4- Sow where you want to go Step 5- Create a roadmap or find one   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ayyyyeee!!! Today is a special day...It’s our anniversary! One year ago today Terri and Dom met for dinner and decided H.E.R Space podcast needed to happen. Check out this bonus episode with clips that got left on the editing room floor.    Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Season 3 of the H.E.R Space Podcast! The beginning of Season 3 also coincides with National Minority Mental Health Month. One of the ways in which our mental health is impacted is by our relationship with sleep. Lady, are you someone who has trouble falling asleep? Or maybe you fall asleep easily but can’t stay asleep? What’s your relationship with sleep? In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom explore what their various sleep habits are and whether they have good sleep hygiene. Dom walks us through some of the causes of sleep issues- the good and the bad.  Then Terri and Dom provide tips on how to adjust our sleep routines which will, in turn, improve our overall physical and mental health.     Quote of the Day: “The only time I have problems is when I sleep.” -Tupac   Takeaways: The National Sleep Foundation   Tips to improve sleep: Create a space that supports sleep Only use bed for sleep and sex Have a good mattress and pillows Establish bedtime routine Meditation/prayer Deep breaths Taking a bath Reading  Gratitude journal No caffeine or alcohol Turn off bright overhead fluorescent lights Turn off the tv Put your phone away   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2019, where have you gone? We are halfway through the year which means we're at the end of season two. This season brought us guest co-hosts who are experts in sex, sexuality, sexual orientation and queer identity. It also showed us to trust the process as the order of the episodes, while most were not intentional, all built upon one another. In this week’s episode Terri and Dom recap all of the previous episodes of this season, share some of the behind the scenes conversations and how Dom and Terri may be personally influenced by the topics. Lady, thank you so much for rocking with us and be sure to join us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary on Facebook.  Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.