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Tap to send me your reflections ♡My guest today is the wonderful Susan McCulley - always a joy to welcome her back to the podcast.During the show, she shares a line from a song: "To question is to grow". This feels like a beautiful summation of where our conversation took us.We explore the impact of the phrase 'Because I said so', going deep and wide. Taking time to understand the essence of the meaning we may have been interpreting from what we've heard from authority figures in our life - whether or not they used this specific phrase. And how it may have influenced us - in our inner & outer life.We discuss...What can sit behind the use of this phrase / the core message within itThe importance of our interoception and how we listen to and discern the cues and signals in our own bodiesHow the phrase is designed to shut down - and the impact that can have on critical thinking & how we trust our own feelings and judgementThe binary thinking / behaviour it can engender - perhaps instilling a belief that there's right or wrong and nothing in between Ways we can challenge the inner (and outer) voices mindfully We close with a quote from Lady Gaga:"The reason I don't want anyone to control me is not because I want to be in control. I don't want anyone to control me because I don't want anyone to control anyone".Well said.My final reflections on our conversation were that fundamentally, this is about being able to distinguish legitimate authority from authoritarianism. And remembering these messages are not necessarily passed on because of a conscious desire to control or limit others. Rather they can be an internal narrative that’s been passed down through the generational or systemic line. Our role then, as we reshape the patterns of our life is to embrace being empowered and love our sense of agency - unlearning what we may have (unwittingly) been taught by (loving) caregivers or authority figures.RESOURCES / REFERENCESA great article on interoception from the New Yorker: Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡We often learn that resilience is our best course of action. That it’s weak to turn back, to change course, to do something new.But, of course we all also know that having the courage to end something can be the wisest action we can take.So, today I’d like to explore what can get in our way of ending something - and what can help us find the courage to take the next step.Because, of course, for something to begin, something must end. And.When something ends, something else begins.RESOURCESTo explore this subject of endings further, have a listen to:S4E3 - Everything begins with an ending https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/everything-begins-with-an-ending/id1516813304?i=1000524217815S9E5 - Begin with Resonance, with Susan McCulley https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/s9e5-begin-with-resonance-with-susan-mcculley/id1516813304?i=1000597966616And, for an incredible true story of how we can find agency even in the darkest times, read:Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl https://uk.bookshop.org/a/8926/9781844132393 Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡“It is literally neurobiologically impossible to think deeply about things that you don’t care about” Mary Helen Immordio-Yang of the University of Southern California*.Of course.This statement feels SO obvious! (Like the truest things often are)If you’re like me, you’ll see so many situations where it applies - school, jobs, even the books we read.ANDWith this insight, we can see:To be able to think deeply about ourselves (and create change in our lives) we have to care ABOUT ourselves.Without that, it’s impossible to maintain our motivation for change.It’s why, for me, ALL change begins with self-compassion.*Thank you to my biggest big brother for sharing this gem with me!Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡I’ve been pondering the idea of ‘success’. What is it? What does it mean when we do or don’t achieve it? How does our perception of it change, as we change?When I consider what I used to consider being successful meant, and how I look at what I consider to be success today… there are marked distinctions. Though I expect that if I’d drilled in when I was younger, the things I feel are most important now would still have been there, at the centre of things, then.Connection with others.Self-worth.Good communication.A willingness to deal with difficult things face on.Compassion for myself… and others.These are all things that it would be hard for anyone to deny are important success factors in any life.And yet, we often devalue them in favour of other stuff.The article of this episode is also published through my LinkedIn page - to read it, come & find me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/henny-flynn/Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡At the most recent Journaling Gathering in June, one of the areas we discussed was how our journal can become a wise and trusted friend. Someone we can turn to in times of doubt, loss, crisis, pain - as well as times of energy, excitement, ambition, hope and joy.I work with my journal in much the same way I work with those I’ve asked to walk beside me at times in my life - coach, friend, therapist. And as I write that, I can also see the work I do, when I walk beside others, as being almost a speaking journal. A mirror to reflect back, a container to hold space, an intuitive voice to respond.I also find it useful sometimes to return to past journals and see what wisdom came through at the time of writing. A gentle - and often very appropriate reminder - of wisdom I already hold within, that simply needed refreshing.So, today, when I was considering what to share here, I turned to an old journal...Come along to the next Journaling Gathering, on Sunday Sept 24 at 11am - to book, click here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/580182761257?aff=oddtdtcreatorSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This season feels largely inspired by statements we may have absorbed as children & the impact they can have in our lives.This one (Too big for your boots) may sound like something you’ve heard in your time? Or maybe you recognise the essence of it in the judgemental things you have perhaps heard yourself say to your Self.It’s also tied to ‘pride comes before a fall’ (that’s one of mine) and ‘who do you think you are’ - so it’s also related to episode 3 of this season, where I explored my reflections after hearing a mother say ‘how dare you’ to her child.Before we begin, it’s essential to frame these explorations in compassion. Recognising that phrases like this can be an expression of profound love - a learnt means of trying to keep a loved one safe from harm.And.And exploring them, recognising how they may have influenced us in our lives can be a profound expression of self love - an acquired means of helping ourselves grow, outside of what may have confined us in the past.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡How dare you?I overheard someone saying this to their child the other day.You can imagine the tone of voice, the outrage, anger, shame and blame that filled the words.I say this without judgement on that parent. I suspect it was something she had heard said to her as a child - normalised through conditioning, it had become something that felt like ‘something parents say’.Often we repeat the things we received, heard, experienced as children. We might not even see them as something that hurt us or caused us pain at the time… and yet, when we look a little closer, when we stand in the shoes of our younger selves, we can perhaps see that there could (perhaps) have been another way.In this episode we explore how we can reframe 'limiting' phrases that we may have absorbed in our younger years...Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Here’s a slightly alarming statistic - 40-60% of women will struggle with sleep during menopause.This statistic is something we shared in a piece of work I’m currently collaborating on. It’s part of the corporate work I do, delivering a whole range of menopause support into organisations - in this instance, a company that’s chosen menopause as a key well-being focal point for this year.One of our areas of focus has been sleep - because, as the statistic shows us - sleep is a major factor for so many women in peri-menopause. And it can be an ongoing factor throughout menopause and beyond. However, sleep can be something that challenges us all - regardless of age, gender or life stage.And, with the warmer nights of summer, it feels like maybe it’s a good thing to spend a little time exploring.Personally, I love the wisdom that sits inside the title for today’s episode: A good night's sleep starts in the morningIt feels to me like it’s wisdom that can we can apply to so many things. Everything begins far earlier than we realise - I often reflect that changes we make in our lives have been happening far longer than we might realise. That deep subconscious reshaping of what we believe it’s possible to change begins way way way before we have the conscious thought that something needs to change.And in the same way, when we shift our attention for a good night’s sleep onto the moment we wake, we begin to help ease some of the tension we might notice can build up just before sleep - especially if we’re assuming, predicting it’s not going to come.Keep listening for some really practical tips and tools you may find useful if you ever, like so many of us, find sleep hard to find.To explore sleep - https://drkatsleep.com/meet-dr-kat/For menopause support - https://mpowder.store/See Season 4 Episode 5 for the original interview with Dr Kat Lederle Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡When we are rigid, fixed in our thinking, we become immobile, stuck in our ways.When we are fluid, flexible in our thinking, we become open; more aware of the options available to us. And so change and growth become part of the natural order of things - rather than something to be feared or geared up for.This isn’t a new theme for us here. But it is a new reflection on it.The crux of this episode is seeing how we can extend our thinking, our reflecting, our considering out beyond the borders of what we previously believed.And, in that way, we become infinite in our capacity to change… and grow.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡A little bonus episode to bridge the gap from season 10 to season 11.A reflection on Wisdom from Within - on how we can tap into it whenever we need it - and a letter written from my wisest inner self.To explore your own Wisdom from Within, and meet your wise Inner Guide, take a look at this special ImageWork recording https://hennyflynn.ck.page/9ca85eeaafThis is something you can return to again and again, whenever you're looking for guidance.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡A foray into procrastination - inspired by a conversation, a realisation and a faltering intention.There is so much richness to be explored about the whole topic of procrastination and the friend I mention at the beginning of this episode is someone I'd love to bring onto the show, so she can share some of her reflections on it. To connect with Saranne - find her here https://www.instagram.com/thesaranneday/But this episode is about a tiny aspect of procrastination - something I have noticed in myself about what can get in my way when I FEEL I want to do something purely for myself but I THINK I need to do something else first.There is SO much more that can be explored here. This is a toe-dip into the topic. Maybe is sparks some reflection for you too.See you in series 11 - and in the meantime it would be wonderful to see you at...Wisdom from Within17 June '23 10.30-12.00 BST https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/623777383947 Journaling Quest Gathering 25 June '23 11.00-12.00 BST https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/580179060187Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This is a meander through a theme that connects three poems from My darling girl 2.The theme of being seen.But this is not about being seen by others (though that can feel vital at times), it's about seeing ourselves, as we truly are. In all our pain and our magnificence*.With love.*I owe credit for that phrase 'pain and magnificence' to my teacher Dr Dina Glouberman - have a listen to episode 7 of this season for more from her. She's definitely worth listening to!Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡I debated about whether to call this the art of forgiveness OR the art of SELF-forgiveness - and the second one won out… for reasons I’ll share.We’re often told as children that we have to forgive another child for hitting us, hurting us, taking the toy we really wanted.We’re taught we need to be the bigger, better person and RISE ABOVE the lowly behaviour shown by the other child.This is curious in many ways.Because embedded within that are SO many messages - not all of them that helpful. And I'll explore some of these as we go.And while we might have been taught we 'must' forgive others, there is also the view that the only place forgiveness is truly valuable is in forgiving ourselves.And that can be the hardest thing of all.Listen in to hear more about why it may not be our 'place' to forgive others - and how we can learn to forgive ourselves.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡My guest today is psychotherapist, writer, international trainer, and world expert in imagery based therapies, Dr Dina Glouberman. The co-founder/director (since 1979) of Skyros Holistic Holidays, Dina is also the founder/director of the Aurora Centre in Southern Italy; training therapists, counsellors, and consultants in ImageWork.This is a frank and generous exploration of what led Dina to develop her pioneering ImageWork therapy - touching on painful stories from her past and revealing the transformation that can come from purposeful exploration of imagery and visualisation.Dina began her work as a psychotherapist in the early 1960s and continues to share her life-long learnings with others through her books, courses and the diploma in ImageWork - first run this year (2023).At the end of our conversation, Dina says: “We’re all in this together”. To me that feels like the most fitting phrase; it sums up the deep connection Dina offers those who work with her. And it speaks to our universal connection - with others and with our Self.I am so honoured to be sharing this conversation with you today. Dina is one of my own teachers and I have seen first hand the beneficial power of ImageWork, both with my own clients and through my own experience.If you’re curious to find out more, see Dina’s website - and if you’re a practitioner and want to learn how to use ImageWork with your clients, take a look at the Diploma course running in 2024. I have loved my own process of deepening my knowledge.*****CONNECT WITH DINAhttps://www.dinaglouberman.com/BOOKS BY DINALife Choices, Life ChangesThe Joy of BurnoutYou Are What You ImagineInto the Woods and Out AgainImageWork - a guide for practitioners and counsellors*****EXPERIENCE ImageWorkJoin my next live on-line event - June 17 '23 - 10.30-12 (BST): Wisdom from Within We'll be quietening the noisy chattering of the conscious mind and taking an inner journey to explore the transformativSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡At times self-compassion can feel like a hard thing to find.We may have been conditioned through our life experiences to see it as something unimportant or selfish and yet, our deepest wisest Self has an innate understanding that it’s something we all need.I’ve recently created a short course for the InsightTimer App that offers up 3 deceptively simple tools that I think of as ‘first aid’ - or ‘practical compassion’ in action.3 quick steps to help you access self-compassion when it feels needed or when it feels hard to find.And while each of them are simple to put into practice, they represent a profound choice: the decision to choose your own mental and physical well-being as being worthy of your attention. The decision to choose your Self, over any stories you may carry that might lead you in another way.And these 3 practical compassion tools are all things you can return to again and again in your day.Your body will never get tired of being given this kind of kind attention.Check out the InsightTimer course - with a fuller explanation of each of these tools, across 3 lessons, with mindful moments to accompany each lesson https://insighttimer.com/meditation-courses/uVlsX5hyGD020lmHVAstSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Today's episode is a romp through wordy things.Headlines are:We bandy words about and use them without thinkingWords can have multiple meanings - including ones we haven't been consciously aware ofThe words we use influence our behaviours and the choices we makeThe word 'should' is a shame-based word (maybe not always - but it's an interesting perspective)Replacing 'should' with 'could' opens us up to new possibilitiesOur unconscious usage of language can express our profound awareness of what we’re experiencing insideFreud said we ‘leak’ what we're experiencing under the surface of what we think we’re sayingAlways notice with loveAffirmations can be POWERFUL tools for change - positive language in the present tenseMy box of LoveWords© — I might share this one day - or make your own!And finally, I share a marvellous quote about words from Khalil Gibran. It's worth listening just for that!With love, alwaysHenny xSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Change lightly - it doesn’t mean don’t change or don’t change a lot, it simply means change with grace.Often when we embark on change it can feel like a heavy thingWe fill it with all kinds of rules and denials and strictures. It becomes a burden perhaps.In this episode, I share 3 things that can make us feel change MUST be DIFFICULT… Our tendency to see changes as problems rather than opportunitiesTaking on so much it becomes overwhelmingSeeing change as a hard-edged thingAnd in response, I explore this idea of changing lightly and how introducing the idea of grace can help us change how we see change, to become more compassionate, curious and courageous.I also share one of my favourite quotes - which relates so beautifully to the title for this episode.JOURNALING PROMPTWhat does change lightly mean to you?REFERENCESThe Heart of Change, by Henny Flynn https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/booksSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Sometimes we carry beliefs or stories we think belong to us. But sometimes we’ve picked them up from others along the way of our life. Perhaps inheriting them from care givers; adopting or adapting the stories and beliefs they, in turn, inherited from their care givers. And so we can see how things get passed down the family line. Each generation believing it (whatever ‘it’ is) belongs to them. Each generation picking up burdens that they could (potentially) just as easily put down. The curious thing about this phenomena is that it can relate to big things - beliefs about love, money, morality. Or small, on the surface insignificant, things that somehow can still have a big(ish) impact. I share a simple story of this from my own history to help illustrate how having a deeper awareness of what informs us can help us choose what we want to keep... and what we might want to return to those we learnt it from.In this episode, I also share a poem from My darling girl vol. 2 that touches on this theme.To order your copy from the very first print run of this brand new collection: https://buy.stripe.com/9AQ6rY5k825Gc5a14h LAST ORDERS 10 May 2023Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡By stepping away we create space for ideas to form.This is in direct contrast to the culture of HUSTLE, which can make us believe we HAVE to keep going. Keep up with the OUTPUT and never minding the INPUT. But that way not only exhaustion & burnout lie - also our creativity suffers.And that's what we're exploring today.I could have called this: Procrastination, percolation, avoidance & flow PART 2 - have a listen to episode 3 of season 8 for part 1!Today's episode also comes with a JOURNALING PROMPT:How could it help me to step away?Henny xPS: I tried to take a picture of my percolation board but the photo didn’t do it justice. You'll just have to imagine - or create your own!Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Today we're doing something a little different. And you'll hear I'm a little nervous!I have asked Susan to be my kind guide, to help me explore and share the source and meaning of the My darling girl poetry(ish).She asks questions that help uncover the deep sensitivities within these pieces of writing - and we explore how often the things we create don't feel like they come from 'us' at all.My darling girl vol. 2 is published May 30 2023Last date for pre-orders of this first edition 10 May 2023To order, go to https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/booksREFERENCESElizabeth Gilbert - TED talk: Your elusive creative geniusRam Dass - quote: "We're all just walking each other home"Emily Dickinson To watch on YouTube https://youtu.be/Rrq4zcEmyT4Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Today we return to an old, and never-ending, theme: Change. And embedded within that theme, we can often find our old friend: Fear.So, today I share an entry from my journal. Something I wrote several years ago, in an attempt to understand what I was going through at the time. It's a meditation on what it means to release our fear sufficiently that change becomes possible.As an unedited piece of writing from my journal, I hope it also shows how in the simple act of writing we can disentangle thoughts that may feel complex and messy. In the process of journaling we can begin to see through to the truth and wisdom we hold within.In the episode I also reference a story I first shared in the episode with Soulla - S6E6 - Making Your Soul Shine, with Soulla Demetriou. It's a beautiful episode and if you haven't listened, you may enjoy hearing what we discuss, as the two good friends we are.Sending you love - see you in Season 10.Henny xTo join the Journaling Quest for Compassion, sign up here: https://hennyflynn.ck.page/d2c3c25452Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡We all carry a set of beliefs about what the NORM is and about how we’re ‘meant’ to think, feel, act, look in order to fit in with that (possibly narrow) view. And these beliefs inform how we see ourselves.The challenge comes of course, when we see ourselves through a critical lens - which can (of course) be a far more critical lens than we would ever use to see another person.In the lyrics of the song by En Vogue*(more on that in the episode!), we hear:Before you can read me. You got to learn how to see meAnd so it is with ourselvesHence the title of today’s episode… Be self-kind & the love will followWhen we see ourselves through kind eyes, we’re acknowledging and accepting that every single part of us is welcome here. We are no longer ‘othering’ parts we might find more difficult - or feel could even be impossible - to love.And part of this practice of being self-kind is not trying to rush at creating a sense of self-love. We're not trying to force something that can feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar. Begin - again and again - with kindness.KEY THINGS COVERED IN THIS EPISODEOthering - and how we can ‘other’ parts of our SELFThe importance of feeling and being ‘welcome’The value of recognising and connecting with our inner parts, in a compassionate non-judgemental waySome of the common phrases the Inner Critic can throw at usThe risk of criticising our Inner Critic - how that can compound the effect of the self-judgementHow the words ‘should’ or ‘must’ or ‘ought’ can be a sign the Inner Critic is getting activatedRemembering that the path toward being self-kind may feel hard but is always worth itREFERENCES*En Vogue: Free your mind & the rest will follow - the cultural reference that inspired this episode title's play on wordsInternal Family Systems - trauma based therapeutic supportSchool of Life - useful resource for working with the Inner CriticSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Many of us feel we’d love to rid ourselves of the things we are afraid of… yet, often they’re the things we cling to - a foundational layer to our limiting beliefs, they often form part of what we believe makes us, US. And getting to know them - really seeing what they are, where they spring from, who we inherited them from or how they have built over time is a powerful part of deepening self-awareness WITH profound self-compassion, of course...In this episode I explore some of my own limiting beliefs and share how they can become conflated with other beliefs, leaving us in a knotty tangle.I also share 3 steps that can help us when our limiting beliefs feel like they're trapping us.Finally, I share the last words my own mother ever said to me - and how I see them as the universal words of maternal love. Not in the sense of mother / child but in the sense of universal love and how we learn to parent ourselves in our adulthood.There is a Journaling prompt with this episode: Untangling my limiting belief, with loveFor more on Journaling, explore the Journaling Quests https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/journaling-questSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Do you meditate? If yes, then it's very likely you've experienced the wandering mind. For me it's my almost constant companion when I meditate!The wonderful Tara Brach offers us guidance to simply say to ourselves: "thinking thinking", every time we notice our mind wandering. This episode was inspired by another technique (unfortunately I can't recall who it was who shared it!)Essentially it is to call out what KIND of thinking we’re doing. We’re often lost in rumination OR speculation - while the bit in the middle is the meditation. So I’m offering up a meditation practice today - an opportunity to feel into whether this expanded approach is useful for you too.I'd love to hear your thoughts. And if you know of another formal practice that uses this kind of technique I would LOVE to hear about it!Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡There are geographical places in the world where the distance between heaven and Earth collapses*. They are called 'thin places'. It's a term that comes from the ancient Celts and there may be places you have been in your life that have felt like a thin place - where you've felt that distance between heaven and earth contract. And for me, times of change often feel like the barriers we've erected between ourselves and the outer world get THINNER.AndThe barriers we've erected over the years between ourselves and our INNER world get thinner too.In my own life I’ve inhabited a number of thin places. Times when my sensitivity to the world around me - and the world inside me - has become heightened. It can feel challenging and vulnerable and difficult to manage.AndIt is part of waking up to our true selves.JOURNALING PROMPTWhat does a 'thin place' feel like to me? REFERENCES*Eric Weiner - Man Seeks GodSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Every year, Susan has a word. A word that accompanies her on her journey through the year. This year it’s resonance.It sparked a series of thoughts, because at the time she shared it with me we were both feeling into the new year. We were both also feeling bombarded by the often frantic demands of the emails and social posts telling us it was time to BEGIN, time for something NEW, time to throw out the old and leap into this new year.And we were both feeling exhausted by it - and for me it sent me back under my duvet to hibernate a little longer.So it feels interesting - and ALIGNED - to be recording this at the end of January & sharing it at the beginning of Feb. Not a time we ordinarily talk about beginnings. But this is about beginnings with RESONANCE. This is about beginnings that feel ALIGNED with who we really are, and where we are at.Through our exploration, we touch on five key areas...The connection between RESONANCE & BEGINNINGSThe paradoxes and contradictions in beginnings - resistance vs excitementLearning how to - and the importance of - 'begin again' The difference between the ACT of beginning & the STATE of being a beginnerIs there any such thing as a beginning? I also offer a couple of JOURNALING PROMPTS: Is there any such thing as a beginning?Is there any such thing as an ending?You'll also hear in the intro that I talk about the moon, and her natural cycles of beginning and ending. And there feels something particularly beautiful about releasing this episode on a Full Moon.Susan and I would love to hear your thoughts. What does this whole idea of Beginning with Resonance spark for you?Henny xPS: it wasn’t two and a half years ago that Anton turned 50 - he’s younger than I made him out to be!CONNECT WITH SUSANSusan J. McCulley Nourishing Mindful Movement Teacher / Artist / Writer susanmcculley.comFounder & Facilitator of The Age of Becoming Facebook Group Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Just as we can become 'nose blind', (made famous by those adverts that highlighted how we can stop smelling things we've been accustomed to), this episode is a canter through the idea that we can also become 'stress blind'.And that (sometimes) when we spend some time away from the source of the stress, we return and suddenly realise how dominant that sense of stress really is.Then slowly, slowly we become acclimatised again and that awareness of what's really impacting us slips into the background. And becomes once more unseen.The practice here is SEEING, and then with that INSIGHT, exploring what action we can take.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡My guest today is Katty Douraghy.Her memoir, The Butterfly Years: A Journey Through Grief Toward Hope, details her personal journey through grief. Katty is beautifully honest about the complexity of her experiences, and along the way, I also share some of the stories I told myself when my own mother died. It means this is another deeply tender conversation. And I offer my love and compassion to you as you listen.Self-compassion can feel particularly hard to access when we experience loss. But as Katty notes, 'we’re all going to grieve in our own way' and I love this recognition. We can even hold harsh self-judgment over the way we grieve (and how we see others' grief). Loving ourselves through loss is vital.​Journaling was the path that helped Katty as she moved through the phases of her experience, and helped her access a powerful truth: “Recognising what I still had, rather than focussing on what I had lost was a turning point for me.” And it is this practice of journalling that she shares to support others in their own journeys. CONNECT WITH [email protected] Butterfly Years: A Journey Through Grief Toward Hope“It is surprising how few books there are that deal with first hand accounts of grief, especially of a parent, when it is such a universal experience. The Butterfly Years fills that gap in a beautiful, honest way.” Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡"In any relationship, the outcome of highest service to each other - and the world around us - is authenticity and love. If we stifle one, the other is likely to falter."This phrase landed fully formed in my head in the middle of the night. I scrabbled for my phone to hold onto the words, lest they did what most midnight thoughts do… and drifted away or morphed into something unintelligible. Since then I’ve been reflecting on this and, well, it still feels true. It’s inspired this podcast episode and I reached out to my Instagram community to help shape where the episode goes. I asked some questions, and received some wonderful answers - some of which I share in the episode.Does this feel true to you too? Or does it feel untrue?Does it feel possible that we can always show up as ourselves with a compassionate heart? Or does ‘always’ just feel impossible?There are so many different types of relationships we all have with so many different people. And I'm deeply aware that it doesn't always feel possible to stand in that place of authenticity and love - and that part of doing so means having clear boundaries that enable us to be fully present and compassionate and stay safe (in whatever way is needed).I'd love to hear your thoughts xSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode is about how we can be drawn by things we think we want but they can sometimes seem impossible to attain.Like moving jobs - we might find ourselves often retelling the same story of how we 'should' be doing something else / hate what we’re doing / want to move on - but year after year find ourselves still working in the same way at the same place.And there’s an important point about that phrase ‘working in the same way’ - often the change that’s needed ISN’T about WHERE we work or even WHO we work with but HOW we work.And we may even find that learning to love where we are can become PART of our INNER WORK of learning to love WHO we are - seeing what it teaches us, how we can keep deepening our self-awareness until we understand WHY choices we’ve made in the past have brought ourselves to this place in our life.And from there, change can start to feel much more possible.Alongside this, there's the question of how we can access and harness our INNER FIRE in order to help motivate our actions towards what truly serves us. Understanding that the EXTERNAL DESIRE may not always be highlighting our own best path forward.I hope you enjoy this exploration. And, as ever, I'd love to hear your thoughts, challenges, additions, reflections. With loveHenny xSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡I can’t take credit for today’s title - it came from Anton, as he was listening to me reflect on something from my past. (He’s good with words!)The concept of SYSTEMIC behaviours, beliefs, attitudes etc is part of my training. They're something I look for to support clients in understanding what’s informing their experience of the life they live.Through coaching we can gain sight of the SYSTEMS we’ve been part of in the past / are still part of. And we can support ourselves in disentangling from the threads that bind us to the patterns we’ve adopted, inherited or adapted to - so we can make the changes we desire.This is a theme you may have noticed runs through many of these podcast episodes - overtly and discretely - so today, in the last of this series, I thought we’d spend a little time exploring the idea of the systems AND, specifically what Systemic Rebellion may mean to you.To join the Affirmation Practice event on 11 November 2022 3pm-4.15pm (GMT)https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/affirmation-practice-tickets-445311246927Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This one is a bit of meander through my mind! Sorry about that...It comes from something I noticed a long time ago, when I first began my own journey of waking up to who I was inside all the stories and beliefs I carried. There's often lots of focus on feeling unworthy / not enough - but it rarely seems we talk about what happens if you feel you’re too much.In the episode I share:My experience (hence the mind meander)The feeling of BELONGINGAll about how we perceive ourselves - rather than seeing the world through the lens of what we believe other people seeThe impact it can have on distorted body imagery The state of BELONGING is an INTERNAL oneSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode ended up being about lots of things. You'll hear I wasn't sure what the title was going to be until we were part way through. While our attention was broadly on the idea of 'ageing' - I wanted to keep the field wide open, to allow whatever arose. Perhaps unsurprisingly, the scope expanded as we went...Ageing. Regrets. Family. Grief. Love. Friendship. Community. Compassion (of course). And at times it became unclear who was interviewing whom. By chance we recorded it on World Menopause Day (October 18th) and you’ll hear menopause played a part too. I loved speaking with Nina. She is full of compassion and curiosity. I hope you love you listening.ABOUT NINA LOREZ COLLINS Nina is the Chief Creative Officer of Revel. Founder of The Woolfer and Board Chair of The Brooklyn Public Library. She is also manager of the Kathleen Collins estate - curating and promoting her mother's creative work.Amongst her many other skills, Nina hosts the Raging Gracefully podcast. A place for exploration of this topic of ageing and how women move into and through their second phase of life... into what I love to think of as our Second Spring.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode was inspired by two mistakes I made this weekend... and how compassion helps us through.And you might like to know that when I first loaded it up, I completely forgot to include the usual intro. It is human to err indeed!Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This Bonus episode was recorded live with a wonderful audience.FLOW Journaling is my preferred approach to Journaling and the approach I recommend for everyone embarking on this year's JOURNALING QUEST.We begin with a relaxation practice to help settle us, before we dive into the WHATs, WHYs and HOWs of FLOW Journaling. And we end with a journaling prompt to practice the process I'm guiding us through.You'll hear there are self-reflection questions throughout the episode - and the invitation is to have a pen and paper handy to jot down your own thoughts.I hope you enjoy this exploration. There are some rich observations from the group and I would love to hear your reflections as you listen and observe your own responses.To enjoy being part of a Journaling Quest, in your own time, at your own pace, find out more here:https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/journaling-questSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Another deeply personal episode.This time we're exploring fear. One of the truths we observe is that the FEAR itself is real, but the stories we attach to it may not be.I am transcribing this episode so please take a look at the podcast shownotes (on hennyflynn.co.uk or wherever you love to listen) for more of the detail and wisdom in what Susan shares with me.Connect with Susan and read her brilliant blog post https://www.susanmcculley.com/blog-posts/cloudsAnd... just for anyone watching on YouTube, there's a part at the end where we just sit chatting! I'd forgotten to switch off the recording... :-)Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Sherry Jibb is a yoga teacher, wise woman and the founder of the Happy & Healthy in Midlife Summit. We met this year when she invited me to be a speaker at the summit and in the course of our initial conversation it quickly became clear that she is a very special human.Early in this conversation, Sherry shares that her father is dying. She is at his home when we speak and the whole topic of connection is deeply resonate with her experience in these days.There is so much heart in this episode. I know you are joining me as I send our love to Sherry and her loved ones. And, as ever, I hope you find this exploration of connection in some way useful in your own lived experience too.These are some of the areas we cover. There were so many. A rich and powerful exploration of such an important topic.What gets in the way of connecting with others?How is this amplified / diluted as we grow older?What’s the impact when we hold ourselves - or feel - separate?Are there differences here for people who identify as male or female?How can we move through those blockers or resistance? Understanding what healthy connection looks like for us, as individualsHow does connection with others inform the way we connect with ourselves - and vice versa?There were two quotes I mentioned at the very beginning of the recording. One was from Rumi “Through love, bitter things seem sweet; through love, bits of copper are made gold”The second which I didn’t actually share but that you might like to read was from the inimitable Brene Brown“Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship”As ever, if this episode provokes any thoughts or reflections that you would like to share, please do so - either connect with me directly https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/ or come and join the 'living with compassion conversation at Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode begins with the reflection that... When I attach to the fear of what others might think of me I stop BEING. And start acting as I think I ‘should’This attachment to what I think others might think is an old, deep story for me and it can feel like it’s hard wired into our nature - as pack animals we need to have a degree of awareness of others in order that we can work together, live together, be together. It's part of what creates our moral code - and it's a vital part of creating a high-functioning social group.SoHow can we walk the line between the vital societal need of awareness of others... and constraining or inhibiting our true selves because of outdated beliefs or fears?How is it when we really let go?Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Have you ever found yourself doing something on a whim? And then a while down the line felt it may not have been the right step for you? Perhaps reflecting it wasn’t worth the effort, the money, the time, the energy?Or, have you ever found yourself NOT doing something... and a while down the line reflecting how doing THAT thing actually it could have been in your service in some way?I have DEFINITELY been there. And, I suspect, it's true for all of us at times.The confusing thing about all this is that the things we choose to do MIGHT be acts of procrastination. Or acts of avoidance. Ways of NOT doing something else that (for whatever reason) isn't drawing our energised attention. Or perhaps that delay we created could be an act of percolation, allowing something time to become clearer. Or maybe - just maybe - we're doing whatever we're doing because we're in a state of flow. And all is exactly as it need to be.How do we tell the difference?That's what we're exploring today.For new & bonus episodes delivered straight to your inbox - plus tips & tools on creating Practical Compassion in your life JOIN THE PODCAST MAILING LIST https://hennyflynn.ck.page/b488b090c7Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡By the time a thought has reached our mouth the SUBCONSCIOUS work that underpins that thought has actually been going on for some time.I find this idea immensely powerful - and empowering. I also find it deeply hopeful.It says to me that we are ALREADY far further along the path than we may at first believe ourselves to be.Have seen this play out on so many occasions, with clients coming to me and perhaps sharing that they find the concept of self-care so hard to access. Then we work together to help them see that simply choosing to invest in themselves (through coaching) IS an act of self-care. So, when we feel we’re up against things, or that the path feels too long, or that we’re not strong, or that we’ll never move forward... we can remind ourselves: I CAN because I ALREADY AM.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode could simply be called 'August didn't go as planned'!This is my reflection on what happened, and how I ended up realising everything was actually ok.Ultimately it brought me to the renewed realisation that...When we deepen our awareness of what we’re feeling RIGHT NOW and explore what sits behind THAT, behind the mundane; the stuff we often ignore or shove to one side. THAT is what helps us when life gets genuinely complicated. It's the act of turning toward ourself - with profound compassion - and seeing what’s activating the tiny parts of us. This is what builds the muscle memory that helps us turn toward (and hold with endless tenderness) the big (and maybe painful) parts that can feel so unwieldy and challenging when they most need our support. So, the upshot of all this is that my no-plan-plan was disrupted. By me. And the lesson I learnt was to come back into flow. To take up the offer of a one-off personal session to craft your own daily prayers (or affirmations or reminders or whatever you'd like to call them!), book here: https://calendly.com/hennyflynn/prayerSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Having a coffee this morning, I suddenly realised I didn’t want to drink any more or take another bite of my half-nibbled square of chocolate.So I put them both down.In the past I would have finished them. And even now that’s still an UNCONSCIOUS response I definitely see in myself.... continuing to consume, even though it’s not the thing that serves me. And that's part of my own continuing Work - to continue to learn to listen ever more deeply to myself.I'm writing this from my Covid recovery phase and I notice I am more aware of my body precisely because I have been so ill that I have been forced to listen to her. My reflection today is that there’s something about being ill that gives us an opportunity to reset. It feels this is an opportunity to release the resistance (that comes from years of conditioning) to hearing those cues my body sends me and to REALLY listen to what she says.So, that's the invitation today. To REALLY feel into our BODY and ask ‘what is it you need my love?’Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Welcome to the Henny Flynn podcast, the podcast that's all about deepening self-awareness with profound self-compassion. I'm Henny - an author, coach and retreat host - and I'm curious about our inner landscape. About what it is that shapes and drives our thoughts, feelings and actions. And I love exploring ways we can change our conditioned responses, behaviours and patterns, with endless tenderness.If you're curious too; if you, like me, wish to have an ever more open mind and open heart, then I hope these episodes will help spark your own reflections. And I would love to hear where they take you.Just search the Henny Flynn podcast on your favourite podcast app.I look forward to meeting you there.***Would you love to find A piece of quiet? Every Wednesday, take a moment to pause with this calming reflective practice and Flow Journaling prompt. A private podcast sent straight to you. Use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year.Join the mailing listSign up to stay connected - I'd love to welcome you to our community! Subscribe her to receive everyday compassion Tiny email reminders of self-love and presence, delivered (free) three times a week. See what’s on Explore free events and small group courses in a supportive space. Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty.Visit the libraryExplore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Free 60-minute Discovery Call Explore whether working together could support you in taking your next steps. ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡A reading from My Darling Girl, set to music (with credit for its sweeping beauty to Scott Buckley, details below).This piece is a love letter to those times when we feel we might be drowning in the doubts that swirl around us.It begins...Sometimes we cross the river of doubt with ease, skipping across the stepping stones, landing softly on the other side.And sometimes we stare at the raging waters, wondering how we ever thought we could traverse them.Close your eyes, and see where the words and music take you.With loveHenny xMy Darling Girl is available to order here https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/booksBeautiful Oblivion by Scott Buckley | https://soundcloud.com/scottbuckleyMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Once again, I'm back with the inimitable Susan McCulley. A wise woman with an enormous heart.Today, we're talking boundaries. - how we can create them- what makes us break them- how we can learn to keep them- how we can find ourselves treading on others'- what respecting boundaries really meansAND- the inevitability of feeling guilty when we hold our boundaries - and how that is part of the boundary process.Boundaries is something that comes up again and again in the work that Susan and I each do - even though our clients' needs and the way we serve may be very different, the need for boundaries is UNIVERSAL.This is a delicious conversation - of course! And it touches on some tender things. So, as ever, the invitation is to rest and listen and see what arises for you. We would LOVE to hear your thoughts - please share with us in the comments below - and don't forget to subscribe to the show!A couple of BLOG POSTS from Susan on boundaries include:- Building Boundaries — Susan McCulley http://www.susanmcculley.com/blog-posts/boundaries- Holding Boundaries — Susan McCulley http://www.susanmcculley.com/blog-posts/holdboundaries- and one about "softening" - something we discuss in the show -Space in Myself — Susan McCulley http://www.susanmcculley.com/blog-posts/spaceinmeSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡A few years ago - an idea for a book called ‘small pleasures’ came to me. It was intended as a collection of all the things that can give us a great sense of well-being, even though in themselves they might seem slight.The idea drifted about and occasionally I’d add another one to the mental list.But I couldn’t quite see how the book would look and feel, or how it would come into being.Then, over the past few months the idea has returned - though this time with much more clarity about the direction it needed to take. And though it’s changed shape - it feels like it is still very much connected to that original thought.And it's led to a whole new book, now making her way in the world.**All the ways I tell myself I love you**Self-love is far easier than we might think - even though it can sometimes feel a bit esoteric or nebulous or theoretical... ESPECIALLY when we’re not FEELING IT.And we can look at others who are expressing self-love and think ‘it’s ok for them, they haven’t got to deal with x y z’. But the reality is that we ALL have 'stuff' in our lives that can get in the way, and make self-compassion / self-love feel hard to attain. Which, of course, also means that we can ALL practice self-love, in whatever way makes sense for us.My ways of telling myself 'I love you' will be different from yours. But I hope with all my heart that this new book speaks to you, as the words and illustrations inside it spoke to me.Find out more https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/all-the-waysAs one client said: "It’s such a beautiful and simple but powerful book. I look forward to putting some of the affirmations to use!"Thank you for being part of bringing it out into the world.Henny xAll the ways I tell myself I love youThe little book of practical compassionHard cover, 62pp + cover, 148mm x 148mm, full colour illustrations throughout £13.99 + p&p (UK address)For more bonus episodes of this podcast, and access to the latest musings, join the mailing list, it would be wonderful to have you part of our lovely community.Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Today’s guest is the inspirational Udo Erasmus. He’s the founder of Udo’s Choice and author of the book Fats That Heal Fats that Kill, which has sold over 250,000 copies. And he’s shared the stage with people like Deepak Chopra. So, when his team approached me about him joining as a guest on the show I was intrigued to hear more.His personal story began with intense struggle as a young child during the Second World War and has taken him through studies in biochemistry, genetics, biology, and nutrition as well as a master’s degree in counselling psychology. And it has seen him take his health into his own hands when doctors couldn’t support him.This was a wide ranging conversation but at its heart was a single core theme.That peace resides WITHIN us and all around us. And if we wish to find it, our only act is to release our resistance.There is a strong spiritual theme to this conversation, though entirely non-denominational and I personally found it fascinating to hear Udo's thoughts, and to notice my own reflections that arose as we spoke.He shares much wisdom here, gathered over his 8 decades - and shares what has inspired him to keep learning.As he says, we are all a work in progress.It feels conversation also relates to episodes 1 and 2 of this series:S7E1 - The Artificial Grownup S7E2 - From Transformation to RevelationI hope you enjoy listening as much as I did and would love to hear your thoughts. Henny x*****If you'd like to connect further with Udo, take a look here: http://theudo.com AND! He has bSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡How do we connect memories with emotion that then influences our actions?If you remember the nursery rhyme about Dr Foster, you'll know that he went to Gloucester but because of one bad experience, involving a very deep puddle... he never went there again.My own realisation of how a 'bad' experience almost stopped me going to a garden centre again (I know!), helped me made a conscious decision (to go!), rather than having a subconscious emotional response (and stay home). This then helped me reflect on the way our beautiful brain can influence us and stop us doing things... even when the danger or risk has well and truly passed.This episode is about how our memories can influence us even in the every day, where we might not realise that we ARE being influenced by emotional responses we've had in the past. And, of course, if you extrapolate this idea it becomes easy to see why past trauma can affect our present behaviour so very very deeply. I also share how we can make connections between two things that may, on the surface feel entirely paradoxical. For example, both of my parents smoked for almost the whole of my life and so, I ended up associating the smell of cigarettes with the love I received from, and feel toward, my parents. And after my mother died I often would smell cigarettes when no one was smoking anywhere near me. An expression of my loving memory of her.The invitation, as always, is to explore what associations you are potentially making, that may be driving or influencing your own behaviours.Henny xTo connect and explore your own path: https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡Tanya came to her life work as a leadership coach after years in an outwardly successful but ultimately unsatisfying career in advertising. She suffered, a lot, from a myriad of “not good enough, not smart enough, not ready” beliefs. Any success she enjoyed she chalked up to someone else having made a mistake. She thought it was just a matter of time before they found out she was a fake. It took the passing of her mother to get her “unstuck”. After she left, she heard — really heard — her lifelong mantra for the first time: Don’t Postpone JoyIn this deep and broad conversation, Tanya unpacks Imposter Complex for us. She shares how it manifests and what can sit beneath it. This is a RICH and rewarding discussion. Tanya is passionate about her work and delivers it all with love and humanity.I truly loved speaking with her - and I think you'll love listening.To connect with Tanya or listen to her TEDx talk... TanyaGeisler.com https://tanyageisler.com/ TEDxTalk http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3Em-IIAQ6I&feature=youtu.beSupport the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★

Tap to send me your reflections ♡When we were kids at the school gate we all knew there were unwritten rules of which group you COULD belong to, which you’d ASPIRE to belong to and which you’d never want to belong to. We might not have always understood the rules - but we thought we knew that others knew them.Connecting with people who feel like a good fit for us - that's really what it means to find our tribe.And, as we move through life into adulthood, we might find we’ve surrounded ourselves with people who aren’t actually our tribe... or that those we THOUGHT were our tribe, no longer quite fit in the way they used to.There can be so many reasons beneath this but essentially, it’s ok to be choiceful about who and where we spend out time. Of course we can't choose EVERY person we spend time with - we may go to work, or spend time in our community or have complex family relationships but...Remembering our time is PRECIOUS is key.So who is in your tribe?Who nourishes you?And if you’re not sure that you’re spending your time with the people who really get you, what can you do to make that happen?Support the show*** A piece of quietYour weekly pause - a calming relaxation practice, every Wednesday. A few minutes to settle, a few minutes to write. First aid for the soul.Join here - use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year Let’s stay connected Sign up to hear more - and only receive what speaks to you. Join the list here everyday ♡ compassion Tiny reminders of self-love and presence, delivered three times a week. Subscribe here Free Events & Small Group Courses Explore the power of Flow Journaling, self-compassion and gentle change in a supportive space. See what’s on Solo Retreats at Bach Brook Rest, reflect and reconnect – fully supported in a place of deep natural beauty. Retreat with me Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Visit the library Free 20-minute Call Explore whether coaching could support what’s calling for change. ... ★ Support this podcast ★