The Angry Therapist Podcast

John shares his personal journey regarding sex, intimacy, early experiences, the shame he felt, and what he's learned from them. He also introduces the concept of co-creating intimacy with partners, emphasizing the importance of communication, mutual pleasure, adaptability in sexual relationships, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the emotional complexities involved in breakups, including the concept of secondary loss and the importance of understanding one's emotional responses. He also explores the transformative potential of breakups, emphasizing that they can serve as catalysts for personal growth and self-discovery. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses how most of our definitions of love are shaped by external influences leading to a disconnection from our true selves. He also explains how redefining our definitions, through personal experiences and emotional intelligence, will help advocate for a more authentic understanding of love and relationships in our lives. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John reflects on his upbringing in a family restaurant, exploring themes of generational trauma, cultural identity, and personal growth. He also emphasizes the importance of understanding one's parents' backgrounds, so they can shift towards a more empathetic and responsive approach in the current generation. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the dynamics of relationships through the lens of a client's story. He highlights common struggles couples face, and encourages them to co-create their relationship dynamics by moving away from traditional roles to find what works best for them. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the emotional turmoil of losing not just a marriage but the life he envisioned, and how this experience led him to a path of self-discovery and personal growth. He also emphasizes the importance of understanding different types of breakups, how they require tailored approaches to healing, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his reflections on gratitude, storytelling, and fitness. He emphasizes the importance of practicing gratitude, embracing one's life story, and discusses how his past experiences, including his divorce, have shaped his current perspective and practices. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John Kim reflects on the importance of authenticity in content creation that was inspired by Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard. He also dives into self-reflection regarding his own discipline, the significance of emotional intelligence, and the need for regular self-check-ins to ensure personal growth and alignment with one's values. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John reflects on childhood experiences, significant life events, and the impact of first impressions, while also discussing themes of sexual curiosity and shame. He also emphasizes the importance of exploring moments without judgment, how courage is often needed in difficult situations, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about a recent experience at a coffee shop that triggered him. He explores navigating defensiveness in relationships, the importance of personal accountability, and the concept of situationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his experience of a day falling apart and provides steps to cope with such situations. He emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel the frustration and anger, reframe the situation, and find a positive mindset. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares a client’s story about a woman, who after a long, unfulfilling marriage, finds herself drawn to a man from her past. As she navigates her feelings for him, she grapples with the reality of her emotional needs, the fantasy she has built around him, and how the experience became a catalyst for her personal growth and healing. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about his first experience using MDMA. He reflects on the emotional and physical effects of it, the highs and lows of his experiences, including the aftermath of using MDMA and the potential therapeutic benefits of psychedelics. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares a profound spiritual experience he had while driving to an event, triggered by a podcast discussion about bullying and masculinity. He reflects on his own experiences with bullying, the emotional weight of inaction, the desire to understand physical conflict, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the final episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa explores the difference between caretaking and caregiving. She discusses the repression of feelings, needs, and wants, and the challenge of knowing and expressing them. She also delves into the fear of loss of attachment, the need for control in relationships, addresses manipulative behavior, weak boundaries, poor communication, and more. Follow Vanessa on Instagram HERE Find out more about Vanessa HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the second episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa discusses various codependent tendencies and behaviors. She provides a laundry list of codependent tendencies, explains how these behaviors stem from a fear of losing attachment and a lack of trust in oneself and others, and emphasizes the importance of personal accountability and the need to develop a solid sense of self in order to overcome codependency. Follow Vanessa on Instagram HERE Find out more about Vanessa HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the first episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa Bennett discusses the concept of codependency and explains that codependency is not limited to romantic relationships but extends to all types of relationships. She explores the connection between codependency and attachment, provides a quiz to help participants assess their own codependent tendencies, and more. Follow Vanessa on Instagram HERE Find out more about Vanessa HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the second part of the Origin Story & Life Concepts series, John discusses three key concepts for personal growth and transformation: pulling from your solid self, returning what doesn't belong to you, and connecting to parts of yourself that you have disconnected with. He shares personal anecdotes and examples to illustrate these concepts, and emphasizes the importance of taking action and executing these ideas in daily life. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the first part of the Origin Story & Life Concepts Series, John shares his personal journey of rebuilding his life after divorce and how he found his authentic self. He discusses the importance of living in solid self, emphasizes the need to listen to one's authentic voice to build a solid life container, and talks about the challenges and consequences of choosing to be true to oneself. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about the practice of being present, the importance of setting intentions, and integrating these practices into daily life. He also discusses the power of unseen forces, reconditioning your nervous system, and the importance of injecting hope. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about the transformative power of relationships. He explores different stages of personal development, the lessons learned from past relationships, the importance of self-reflection and growth within relationships, as well as the healing potential they offer. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John does a deep dive on the importance of friendships in relationships. He talks about how fulfilling certain needs in friendships are essential, and emphasizes that there's so much more to life than just our romantic relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John does a deep dive on how the miracle of love lies in the process of working through activation, trauma, and honest conversations. He talks about the importance of seeking partners who can help us heal our wounds, the ability to create a safe space and hold capacity for others, and how healing is a byproduct of working through our issues and repairing ruptures. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John emphasizes the importance of giving yourself permission to revisit past events with exes, so you can gain new insights and perspectives. He also encourages listeners to be compassionate towards their past selves and to provide the support and understanding they needed but didn't receive at the time. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the topic of the nervous system reset and its impact on our overall well-being and relationships with Jessica Maguire. They delve into the role of relationships in regulating our nervous system, how our attachment styles can influence who we choose to love, the concept of corrective experiences and how they can help rewire the nervous system. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about how millennials are facing unique challenges due to their desire for a different life than their parents. He talks about how millennials are breaking old blueprints, investing in themselves through therapy, and have the courage and willingness to defy societal expectations that reshape the definition of adulthood. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares how his mantra shifted from 'who's coming with me?' to 'where am I going?' and the impact it had on his mindset and behavior. He also emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth and purpose, rather than solely searching for love. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

John does a deep dive on the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant. He also talks about how understanding our own attachment style, and that of our partner and others, is crucial for fostering healthier relationships and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John, Vanessa, and Taune explore the idea of sourcing safety within ourselves and how it affects our relationships and overall well-being.They also emphasize how building a sanctuary within is a lifelong journey that requires compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to explore our experiences, and much more. Use the discount code SANCTUARY to get $200 off of Vanessa and Tune's upcoming retreat "Finding Sanctuary ​Within: Embodied ​Awareness Retreat" September 27th-29th HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Meredith explore the connection between food and wellness, as well as the importance of home-cooked meals. They discuss the role of food in their lives and the connection between food and culture, and explore the emotional and nostalgic aspects of food, as well as the importance of self-care and conscious eating. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the importance of seeing life through new lenses and the need for inner journeys to gain new perspectives. He also explores the idea of success, the impact of relationships and community on personal growth, and how to trust oneself and dream big. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John reflects on the relationship he has with his mother and the dynamics that exist between them. He discusses the challenges of evolving and growing with family members and old friends, and the resistance that can arise when trying to create new tracks in these relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John reflects on his personal journey and the sacrifices his parents made as immigrants. He shares stories of their hard work, determination, challenges, setbacks, and emphasizes the importance of embracing and sharing our own stories. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John gives advice to a listener who is torn between wanting to get her family, but lacking sexual desire for her ex-husband. He explores the concept of customization in relationships and the importance of prioritizing self-connection before seeking a partner, the need to question old relationship models and create ones that feel honest, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John does a deep dive on marriage and explains how it has evolved and transformed, influenced by religion, societal norms, and the concept of romantic love. He talks about how marriage should be about creating a partnership that is based on choice, growth, mutual respect, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John gives advice on how to emotionally prepare to leave a long-term relationship. He emphasizes the importance of building a better relationship with yourself, and creating a program or structure for yourself during this transition, including having a support system, engaging in somatic experiences, setting goals, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the importance of looking at past memories through different lenses to gain a more accurate understanding. He also answers two listeners questions: how to know if you've done enough healing to be in a relationship? And how to accept that you and your partner may not be right for each other? Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, ​​John shares his personal journey of being single and finding his authentic self after going through a divorce. He emphasizes the importance of connecting to one's solid self, living a life that feels honest, the significance of having a sense of purpose before entering another relationship, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares 15 non-generic tips on how to be happy while being single which includes: creating a personal sanctuary, learning to enjoy solitude, practicing random acts of kindness, developing a daily ritual, engaging in a creative project, and much more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John answers three relationship questions: how do you know if a past relationship is worth revisiting? What holds someone back in a new relationship after a divorce? And how to deal with feeling insecure about a partner's past relationship? He discusses the need for self-work, healing after a divorce to avoid repeating unhealthy patterns in new relationships, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John answers three listeners' questions: 1) Should I take it personally if I saw my boyfriend's ex's nudes on his phone? 2) Is it possible to be too comfortable being single at 38? 3) What to do when we love each other on every level but are toxic when things are bad? He gives advice on each question, emphasizing the importance of healthy repair in relationships and the value of discomfort in personal growth. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the importance of finding joy in everyday moments and not putting too much weight on big things. He emphasizes the practice of rewiring oneself to focus on the present, appreciating the small things in life, and avoiding the trap of constantly wanting more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the importance of healing and allowing the past to die in order to create new experiences and rewire the body and mind. He also emphasizes the significance of giving oneself corrective experiences to reparent the inner child, how to create a sense of safety, and provides examples of how this can be done in relationships and everyday life. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Vanessa discuss various topics, including permission, late-night eating habits, ADHD, switching things up in relationships, and the concept of turning curses into gifts. They also explore the idea of self-acceptance, using their unique traits as superpowers, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Vanessa discuss five signs you may be settling in your relationship. They also touch on the importance of personal growth, the impact of friends and family on relationships, overcompensating in other areas of life, subtle resentment, rationalizing mediocrity, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John answers two questions from listeners, and gives detailed advice on what they should do. What if I have feelings for someone who is now seeing someone else? Should I tell them? And how do I move on from my ex if I'm still living with them? Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John interviews rad dads and talks about their experiences growing up with single mothers, the influence of male figures in their lives, the joys and struggles of being fathers, societal expectations and judgments surrounding parenting. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Vanessa explore the concept of repair in relationships, and the importance of understanding each other's needs. They dive into the dynamics of communication, the balance of power in repair, and the role of self-awareness in relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Vanessa answer questions from couples, and discuss the importance of open communication and intentionality in relationships. They emphasize the need for couples to understand each other's love languages, make intentional efforts to meet each other's needs, using curiosity to navigate conflicts / understand each other's perspectives, and so much more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss the value of fighting in relationships and how to fight without actually fighting. They emphasize the importance of understanding before trying to be understood, shifting from a combative approach to a more empathetic one, being aware of one's own triggers / reactions during conflicts, and so much more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices