The Angry Therapist Podcast

Today, John challenges traditional relationships-- exploring relationship anarchy, living apart together, and co-creating love without labels. He also redefines the meaning of autonomy, mindfulness, and the ever-evolving nature of connection. Find out more about John’s six-week intensive writing course HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Lair explore the theme of being "unfinished" in life, touching on personal vision, manifestation, and the pursuit of authenticity. They discuss male loneliness, the importance of emotional vulnerability, and the need for deeper connections. They also dive into navigating modern masculinity, the role of humor in processing emotions, and how literature and content creation can support personal growth and healing. Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Vanessa speak with the best selling author of Codependent No More, Melody Beattie. They define codependency, its roots in childhood experiences, practical steps for recovery, emphasizing the significance of understanding one's feelings and setting boundaries, and more. Melody Beattie is the best selling author of Codependent No More. Since its first publication 36 years ago, it has helped heal over seven million readers and continues to sell 100,000+ copies a year. Updated for the first time, with a new chapter on trauma and anxiety, and Melody’s personal story revealed for the first time, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. You can find her book HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tpday, John shares a transformative experience from a men’s group gathering at Justin and Emily Baldoni’s home. Using the striking metaphor of “burning down the house,” John explores what it means to shed past identities, embrace new beginnings, and lean into the discomfort of true emotional growth. Find out more about John’s six-week intensive writing course HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his journey of finding happiness at 51 after years of struggle and self-discovery. He reflects on his life experiences, including his marriage, fatherhood, and the loss of his home to a fire which became a catalyst for writing his first memoir. Find out more about John’s six-week intensive writing course HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the themes of navigating life's uncertainties, the power of awakening through adversity, and the importance of finding calm amidst chaos. He also emphasizes the inevitability of suffering, the necessity of embracing uncertainty as a path to spiritual growth, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the tension between risk and regret, challenging listeners to rethink their fear of failure– because in the long run, it's regret that haunts us. He encourages taking small but meaningful steps toward the life we truly want and shares insights on how to break free from the illusion of safety. Find out more about John’s six-week intensive writing course HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his reflections on moving to Costa Rica with his family. He discusses the challenges and joys of adapting to a new environment, travels and lessons learned, and the importance of community, and the value of embracing new experiences and the beauty of simplicity. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John dives into the complexities of parental influence on adult relationships, particularly focusing on 'mommy issues' in men. He reflects on his own experiences with his parents, discussing how the emotional dynamics with his mother and father shaped his understanding of love, connection, attachment, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Lair discuss the implications of vulnerability for men, the experience of living in Costa Rica, and the societal pressures surrounding masculinity and shame. They talk about how men often struggle with expressing their emotions and the societal pressures that contribute to this, and emphasize the need for compassion towards oneself and others to foster deeper connections. Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the allure of chaotic relationships, the transition to stability, and the need for growth in love. He also discusses the complexities of love and relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding our past experiences, how they shape our romantic lives, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John reflects on the illusion of permanence in life, the necessity of letting go, and the invitation to love and live bravely. He emphasizes the urgency of embracing change, pursuing authenticity, recognizing the fleeting nature of time and to act on their desires without delay, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the often misunderstood aspects of relationships and intimacy, emphasizing that while the initial spark is exciting, true intimacy develops over time through curiosity, emotional closeness, and embracing discomfort. He challenges listeners to cultivate a 'slow burn' in their relationships, focusing on continuous exploration and connection rather than chasing fleeting highs. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores procrastination beyond its traditional association with laziness. He examines how it can serve as a tool for self-discovery and personal growth, offering a fresh perspective on how to integrate it productively into our lives. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John speaks with Adi Jaffe, PhD, to discuss his new book, Unhooked, complexities of addiction, and the necessity of building resilience in relationships. They emphasize how shifting one's perception can lead to a more positive outlook on life, the importance of embracing challenges as transformative experiences, the often-overlooked concept of success addiction, and much more. Find out more about Dr. Adi Jaffe HERE Read Dr. Adi Jaffe's new book, Unhooked, HERE Find freedom from addiction with IGNTD HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the complex relationship between creativity and suffering, the impact of addiction on creativity, the influence of generational patterns, and the importance of healing. He also emphasizes that creativity can thrive in a state of aliveness rather than chaos, advocating for a shift from crisis-driven creation to one rooted in curiosity. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John Kim talks about grief, community support, and the emotional challenges that come with big life transitions. He reflects on the importance of grounding oneself in everyday activities and how technology alters our perception of reality. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses how trying to suppress thoughts can often lead to their resurgence and offers practical strategies for managing intrusive thoughts. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging thoughts without judgment and provides actionable steps to help listeners navigate their inner thoughts more effectively. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the connection between love and the nervous system through the lens of Polyvagal Theory. He discusses how understanding the four states of the nervous system—ventral vagal, sympathetic, dorsal vagal, and play—can enhance emotional connection and emphasizes the importance of co-regulation, self-care, and creative actions to foster a deeper bond with partners. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his personal journey following the devastating loss of his home in a fire. He discusses the challenges of life after loss, finding temporary housing, and new life directions. He reflects on the importance of authenticity in rebuilding one's life and the necessity of processing your emotions. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John hares the three key principles that have significantly impacted his life: seek nectar, love hard, and resist nothing. He emphasizes that joy is something we must actively produce in our daily lives, love is a powerful force that should be extended beyond ourselves, and resistance often indicates the areas where we need to grow. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his insights on what to look for in a partner, emphasizing the importance of 'ability' in building a meaningful relationship. He discusses the significance of creating a safe space for differences, building trust, the necessity of evolving together through life's challenges, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Lair explore the evolving concept of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, emotional processing, and the need for male friendships. They also discuss the challenges men face in expressing emotions and the societal pressures that often lead to unhealthy competition, isolation, and more. Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his personal experience of losing his home to a devastating fire. He reflects on the significance of home, not just as a physical space, but as a representation of his journey and the memories created within its walls. He also expresses deep gratitude for the support he received from friends and strangers alike, highlighting the strength of human connection in the face of adversity. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about how daily life things (such as traffic or getting a tooth pulled) can set you down a negative thought spiral. He discusses the importance of gratitude, the power of intentional thinking in everyday challenges, and how to reframing negative thoughts. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks with Yue and Julie, hosts of the podcast 'Datable' and authors of the book 'How to Be Datable,’ about the complexities of modern dating, how cultural differences come into play, and the evolution of relationships in the digital age. They also dive into evolving definitions of love, the challenges of healthy relationships, share practical advice for becoming more dateable, and much more. Learn more about Yue and Julie and their new book How to Be Datable HERE Listen to their podcast Dateable HERE or anywhere you get your podcasts. Follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @dateablepodcast and dateablepodcast.com You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John answers a listener's question: what should I be doing if I'm going through a break up I can't get over? He discusses the significance of looking inward, building a life beyond relationships, the value of social connections, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares his personal journey of transformation and the lessons he has learned along the way. He emphasizes the importance of trusting one's body and encourages listeners to find calm and fulfillment in the present moment, rather than chasing after specific desires. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about the four stages of a relationship: the honeymoon stage, discomfort, swimming past the breakers, and growth and healing. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these stages to navigate relationships more effectively and highlights the significance of self-awareness and personal growth within the context of love and connection. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John interviews good friend, therapist, and mindfulness coach, Dené Logan. They talk about how Dene moved through her divorce, moving through anxiety, understanding our addictive patterns, communicating more effectively in our relationships, and much more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Vanessa discuss the complexities of relationships, focusing on communication, attachment styles, and the importance of maintaining individuality. They touch on the dynamics of 'runners' and 'grabbers' in relationships, the significance of co-regulation, and give practical tips for sustaining a healthy partnership. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John Kim explores the concept of feeling incomplete and the importance of reparenting oneself to heal fragmented parts of our identity. He emphasizes the need for self-compassion, curiosity, and nurturing our inner child to create a sense of wholeness and alignment with our desires. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John does a deep dive with Sean Cardinalli about sex, love, and porn addiction. They discuss the signs of what this looks like, how to address addiction, how to heal from it, and much more. Sean Cardinalli is a coach, writer, and activist who returned to coaching on sex & love addiction. Sean earned his local certificate through Linda Bark’s holistic coaching methodology and is pursuing his ICF certification and a degree in social work. Beyond sex & love addiction, Sean’s practice focuses on intimacy, relationships, divorce, dating, and the creative process. Connect with Sean HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app and attend Sean's live classes HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the concept of silent disagreements in relationships, emphasizing how unaddressed conflicts can lead to resentment and distance. He discusses the importance of open communication, the need for partners to express their expectations and desires, and the value of creating a safe space for dialogue. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the concept of a relationship agreement, emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding, conflict resolution, and personal responsibility. He highlights the necessity of fighting fair, taking ownership of one's actions, and navigating the delicate balance between control and invitation in relationships. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John reflects on his journey as a father, discusses the challenges and joys of parenting, his personal growth, and the legacy he wishes to create. Through candid reflections, he explores the complexities of fatherhood, the importance of connection, and the desire to be a better parent than his own father was to him. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the roots of hurt and the need for compassion, explaining that hurt often stems from unresolved personal issues. He provides insights on supporting partners dealing with depression, advocating for understanding and patience while navigating past relationship residues, and how boredom is a sign of disconnection from oneself. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John asks thought-provoking questions to help examine your own narratives and beliefs in the New Year. He also emphasizes the need to awaken from autopilot living, embrace change, and pursue personal goals without the fear of failure. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In part two of The Unfinished Man Series, John and Lair explore the complexities of fatherhood, identity, and emotional health. They discuss Lair's personal experiences growing up without a father, the impact of that absence on his adult relationships, the challenges of transitioning into fatherhood, and much more. Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts HERE You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the themes of self-discovery, alignment, and personal growth. He discusses the subtlety of alignment in everyday life, encouraging listeners to notice and trust their organic feelings and desires as they navigate their paths. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses the significance of timing in breakups, the need for healing, and how his current relationship with Vanessa has provided him with a corrective love experience. He emphasizes the importance of honesty, self-discovery, and the lessons learned from both healthy and toxic relationships. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John discusses how the environment we grow up in shapes our sense of self and emotional intelligence. He emphasizes that those who have endured hardships often emerge as empathetic and creative individuals, possessing a unique resilience and capacity for growth, and encourages listeners to recognize the strength within their stories. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this first episode of a five-part series, John and Lair Torrent (LMFT) explore the foundations of healthy relationships, the evolving role of men, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. They also discuss the importance of vulnerability, expressing emotional needs, reconnecting with one's authentic self, healing your inner child, and more. Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts HERE You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Brian Reeves do a deep dive into the depths of men's work. They discuss the impact of fatherhood on masculinity, the significance of rites of passage, men seeking connection, retreats, and more. Join Bryan's biweekly classes just for men in the SOP app HERE Find out more about Bryan HERE Follow Bryan on Instagram HERE Find out more about Elevate 2025 (An Initiation Journey For Men) HERE You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about the necessity of repairing ruptures in relationships and how anxiety can serve as a marker for personal growth. He also discusses the importance of openness in relationships, particularly when addressing issues like intimacy and connection, and more. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the concept of closure, challenging the traditional view that it is a definitive end. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance over resolution, self-generated closure, the messy, non-linear nature of healing, and provides actionable steps to take. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares a client story about a couple, Kayla and Mark, who faced a stagnant marriage. John explores themes of transformation, co-creation, and the cyclical nature of relationships, emphasizing that allowing a relationship to 'die' can lead to a stronger, more authentic partnership. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John addresses two significant questions from his Single On Purpose community regarding dating and relationships. He discusses the challenges of putting oneself out there after a long period of being single, the anxiety that often arises in relationships, particularly around the six-month mark, and emphasizes the importance of self-connection and personal growth while single. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the concept of co-creation in relationships, emphasizing the importance of collaboration, mutual respect, and adaptability. He critiques traditional relationship models that rely on outdated dynamics and predefined roles, and concludes that the best relationships are built through intentional co-creation, rather than simply found. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores the concepts of healthy and unhealthy love, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, communication, and personal growth in relationships. He also discusses the evolving nature of love and the complexities involved in navigating relationships, ultimately highlighting that love can be both challenging and healing. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices