Man Within Podcast

Hopelessness is a common experience of the recovery journey (and life in general). Today's episode explores 2 components of hopeless: anxiety about the future and unresolved pain in the present. The better these two components are understood, the more quickly you can reach a place of hope again. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

He who masters his emotions masters life. The better you understand, control, and inform your emotional responses, the more effective you will be in your relationships, careers, and calling. Today's episode explores effective ways to deal with emotions real-time while providing guidance for when a situation requires more attention beyond the moment itself. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode explores the unusual link between trauma and wisdom through a neurobiological lens, and why the presence of emotion often indicates how far along we are in the healing process. While we all have challenges from our past, wisdom is the byproduct of working through those things until the emotion has subsided. If the emotion is still there, healing is still in process. Listen to Episode 321 - Why Writing Your Goals Increases Their Likelihood of Happening soon. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Humility is one of the most misunderstood concepts in the church today. This episode redefines humility, while offering a biblically controversial approach for acquiring it. Many would suggest that God humbles you, when in fact Scripture makes no reference to God humbling anyone. Rather, it is our responsibility to humble ourselves. While this is counterintuitive, it is great news, as it puts us in a position to acquire humility on a DAILY basis - a practice that we recommend to anyone who is in recovery. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's interview features Cody Cottle, a young serial entrepreneur that has a wild story of overcoming unimaginable adversities – including an addiction to alcohol and porn, getting arrested at the age of 20, and growing up with a father who has been imprisoned for as long as he has been alive. The aim of today's episode is to provide you inspiration that all things are possible, no circumstance is too great to stop your purpose, and if you set out to do something, by God's grace, it WILL be done. Check out Cody Cottle's Website for more updates! Follow @iamcodycottle on Instagram, Tiktok and Facebook For more information email [email protected] Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Often times the 1 week barrier in recovery is the hardest. If your relapses tend to occur every 5-10 days, this episode will help you understand WHY and a few practical steps you can take today to break the barrier into lasting freedom. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

This episode is inspired by Tom Bilyeu, who famously said "Fulfillment is being happy with yourself when you're all by yourself." This quote has layers to it, many of which are relevant in a recovery context. There is a difference between feeling happy and being happy. There is a difference between being happy with things and being happy with self. And there is a difference between being happy with yourself when you're with others versus when you're all by yourself. The better you grasp true fulfillment in life, the clearer your path to freedom will be. Listen to Episode 312 - Why Quitting Porn Makes Your Dreams Come True Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Porn kills dreams. It ruins confidence, makes us feel unworthy, and ultimately prevents us from fulfilling our callings in life. Today's episode shows you WHY your dreams become possibilities when porn is removed, and a few practical things you can do to get the ball rolling. Apply For DeepClean's Closer Position Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

It is inevitable when you are pursuing major change in your life – at some point, you will experience a lack of motivation. Today's episode explores how to handle yourself in these moments so that you move quickly through the apathy and rediscover your motivation and desire again. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya

Today's interview is a special one as we dive deep into a recent recovery story that has taken place in the DeepClean community. Stories like these are important for all of us to hear – it reminds us that God is on the move NOW and that freedom is possible for everyone. Leshan and his wife were fighting daily, sometimes going days without speaking to each other, and even getting into physical altercations. His patience was thin, temper was high, and porn was driving much of his problemed behavior. Getting professional help felt risky and as he shares in today's interview, Leshan had his doubts, but he knew that something had to change. With each lesson and session, hope began to rise, until one day his wife remarked that he wasn't short with her the way he usually was. That's when he realized the tide was turning. Six months of freedom later, Leshan and his wife have never been happier, and he feels confident that he will be able to walk further into God's calling on his life. Watch Leshan Katapodi's Testimonial Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

A surprising number of people argue in favor of porn, suggesting that it is a tool for expressing one's sexuality. Today's episode lightly touches on this argument, offering an explanation for why people reach this conclusion and whether or not there is validity to the claim. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

It's never a fun time to wake up with morning wood, or worse - a midnight erection. Today's episode explores a few practical things to help you deal with nighttime surprises that 'arise' during recovery. Get My One Pager For Handling Temptation Here's my social accounts, you can follow: Facebook, Instagram, & Tiktok Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Today's episode explores the unique counter-play between emotional danger and psychological safety. Often we find comfort in the familiar, even when the familiar is toxic and working against us. Sometimes the reason that evoking positive change in your life is so challenging is because it poses as a threat to what we are comfortable with. This irony can often cause us to stay in what's comfortable, even though it is problematic. However, when you become aware of the dynamic, you can find a much better option to handle the changes that come with recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Today's episode is a continuation of Ep 304 (it is highly recommended you listen to this episode first). The first moment you act on intuition is often quite powerful, but never enough to form a good habit. It is the second moment that matters most. In this episode, you will learn how to confront opposition that arises as you form good habits and why is the moments that ensue after an initial breakthrough that have the greatest downstream impact. Listen to Ep 304 - Turning Instincts Into Habits, Pt.1 Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Kutter Callaway (PhD, Fuller Theological Seminary) is associate professor of theology and culture at Fuller Theological Seminary and Co-Director of Reel Spirituality. He is the author of several books including Theology For Psychology & Counseling. Prior to teaching at Fuller, Callaway served in pastoral ministry for nearly a decade, focusing primarily on young and emerging adults. In today's interview, Kutter and Sathiya discuss why scientific research is not absolute, a healthy way for integrating theology and academia, and why good psychology will always enhance one's theology and vice versa. The interview ends with a segment where Sathiya poses a commonplace term like "community" and Kutter explains the concept through both a theological lens and then a psychological lens. This episode will provide you with a deeper understanding of why many practices in psychology have spiritual significance and some guidance on how to properly perceive academic research in a society that supremely values it. Learn more about Kutter Callaway Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

While you may think that forming good habits requires brute force, driven-ness, and fighting your inner desires, the truth is that we all possess intuition that has the potential for great habits. If we ignore this intuition, its voice becomes quiet and our bad habits are reinforced. As you heal your heart and learn to value yourself, you will become more sensitive to your own intuition, providing ample opportunity to develop good habits. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Many times, we justify our current situation with optimism, positive thoughts, and spiritual jargon. While it can serve a purpose, these guises often stop us from acknowledging the truth – that we cannot accomplish anything significant or great on our own. We need each other, we need support, and we need help. If you need some inspiration and encouragement, this episode will remind you of just how powerful you can be when you step outside of your comfort zone and get the help you deserve. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

The goal of recovery is not to simply "make the right choice" when confronted with a temptation. The goal is to get ahead of the curve, preventing those forks in the road from arising in the first place. Today's episode breaks down the FASTER Scale - a useful tool to identify indicators that you might be heading towards a relapse. This is a profoundly insightful tool that is guaranteed tool that will enable you to regularly position yourself for good decisions and lasting freedom. Get Your Copy of the FASTER Scale Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

The Gospel truth is what makes the world go round – providing us security, comfort, and unconditional acceptance. Today's episode explains why porn is a pseudo-gospel, and how this reality offers us a unique insight into the recovery journey. If we can truly grapple and grasp the Gospel, our hearts reform and we begin to heal. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Sam Tielemans is a licensed marriage and family therapist that specializes in helping couples overcome the effect of pornography addiction in their relationship. After working with couples for over a decade, he has developed an approach to help couples restore their marriage, rebuild trust, and improve their sexual intimacy after betrayal. In this in-depth interview, Sam and Sathiya discuss the necessary elements for restoring a relationship after porn addiction. Sam explains why getting free of porn is never enough, what women really want in the recovery process, and the nuts and bolts of handling these conversations throughout the recovery journey. If your marriage has been affected by porn, or you intend to be married one day, this interview is for you. Listen to Couples Healing Podcast Work With Sam for Relationship Help Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

While many pursue programs, podcasts, teachings, and prayers to become more self-disciplined, scripture suggests that we are self-disciplined by default. Today's episode explores this subject in greater detail, extrapolating from 2 Timothy 1:7. Self-discipline is not something to be attained or acquired, rather it is something to be revealed. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Using a different type of addiction as a contrast, today's episode explains why sobriety and freedom are so impactful. It's not just the relationships or the confidence, it is the brave and bold authenticity that results. When we are able to make courageous choices to handle insecurities, discomforts, and difficulties of life (without the aid of a substance), we are the most powerful. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

How do you maintain intimacy with friends you don't share about your struggle with porn? Should you cut them off? Or try to share anyway? Today's episode talks about how to handle friendships of all kinds while you recover, including a few rookie mistakes you should avoid along the way. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Today's episode addresses a vital skill for joy and success in life: Knowing Your Season. While it is not a commonly discussed concept, the innate ability to know your season can help identify priorities, thwart comparison and criticism, and provide confidence as you step further into the calling God has placed on your life. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries International, author of two books, and an ordained minister with the Christian and Missionary Alliance. After facing his own addiction to pornography, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through the counseling and group ministries of Pure Desire. Today, Nick continues to believe that the Church can become a place of healing and that Pure Desire is leading the way. In today's episode, he details his recovery story as a third-generation pastor, why his pride left him stuck in a binge-purge cycle for years, how he confessed to his church his struggle (while pastoring), and the forgiveness revival that materialized after. He also explains why community changes people's lives and the importance of the local church in the future of porn addiction recovery. Join a Pure Desire Group and Check Out Pure Desire Resources Watch Sexual Integrity 101: A video course for men, women, parents and leaders Follow Pure Desire on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, Nick Stumbo on Twitter Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

While obtaining freedom from pornography is incredible exciting, it can be anxiety inducing as well. Today's episode explains why this dynamic exists, and what can be done to thwart the anxiety that often comes as you pursue freedom. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Today's episode breaks down the surprising link between your financial well-being and freedom from pornography. Porn affects many areas of your life – relationships, spirituality, mental health, etc. But few address the financial implications of a porn addiction. You may think watching free content means there has been no financial impact, but a closer look reveals that a porn addiction is VERY costly in ways you may not expect. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Patric Young had it all – popularity, money, and women at his beck and call. He knew it wasn't what God called him to, but at least he wasn't as far gone as his peers. The thrill of his lifestyle came to a grinding halt when he found out the woman of his dreams considered pornography to be cheating! This 'come to Jesus' moment made him realize that something had to change. In today's interview, Patric shares about what it was like learning to experience God as an unconditionally loving father, healing from past traumas, and letting people in to create a much healthier life for himself. He's finding himself apart from athletic performance, detaching from sexual misbehavior, and set to get married in just a few short months. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

If I could offer you a lifeline that would guarantee a solution, answer and outcome every time you encountered a problem, would you take it? We all long for a 'magic pill' or 'lifeline' that secures a resolve in every situation, and while it may sound like a far-fetched pipedream, the reality is such a lifeline exists. Today's episode explains why an emotional, dynamic connection with God is the world's greatest lifeline that will see you through all of the ups and downs of recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 24 years of experience helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, and partner betrayal trauma. He is also the the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity" and the host of the weekly recovery podcast, "From Crisis to Connection" In today's episode, he and Sathiya discuss the healing journey from start to finish for a couple where at least one member is struggling with pornography. From disclosure to betrayal trauma to complete restoration, this interview addresses each step of recovery in a relational context, how to support your partner while they work through betrayal trauma, and the unreal power that a marriage has on the other side of healing. Listen To From Crisis To Connection Podcast Buy Rebuilding Trust Course Follow Geoff on Instagram @geoffsteurer Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

After coming under fire for some of his views on accountability, in today's episode Sathiya explains why traditional accountability systems fail while offering a novel approach that has proven to be more successful in the long run. If you are looking to get others involved in your recovery process, this episode is for you. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Today's episode explores a bizarre story from Genesis 30 that uniquely demonstrates the power of focus. Somehow, the things we concentrate on flavor what we produce. This is important in recovery, as many get too bogged down in the struggles, relapses and challenges, often leading to more difficulty. Adjusting your focus is the name of the game and as you fixate on growth, healthy, and recovery, it begins to flavor your decisions, actions, and thoughts. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Whether it's God, a spouse, colleague, sibling, parent, friend or acquaintance, there are always 4 concepts that determine the quality of the relationship. Today's episode explains why emotional connection, transparency, understanding and humility are critical for success and health in each and every relationship, offering practical ways to establish each one. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Any man would agree that getting free of porn would catalyze greater self worth and confidence. While many eagerly away getting free so they can see these improvements, the reality is that pursuing these improvements is that leads to freedom. Today's episode explains what it looks like to pursue stable self-worth. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Brad & Lisa Valencia had a normal marriage – kids, cars, a house, and regular church attenders. Ten years in, it became clear that their marriage was anything but normal as a text intended for Brad's mistress was sent to his wife instead. Divorce looked like the only option until God intervened, leading Brad and Lisa into a journey of radical reconciliation. Another 10 years later, they have built Unrelenting Pursuit – a ministry that serves other couples looking to restore hope and strengthen their marriages. In today's interview, Brad & Lisa open up about the in-depth details of the affair and how they healed through it. They also discuss what it was like having sex again after the affair took place, why weekly rhythms like date nights go a long way long-term, and why going vertical in your relationship with Jesus first is the key to success in just about any area in life. Listen to Unrelenting Pursuit podcast Follow Unrelenting Pursuit on Instagram Visit Unrelenting Pursuit on Facebook Contact them at [email protected] Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

Inspired by a recent client's decision to 'break up with technology', today's episode explains the basics of attachment theory, why we are always forming attachments whether we realize or not, and how to change your attachment with something in your life that is problematic. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Boredom is often mistaken as not having anything to do, when in reality boredom is having an unmet desire to do something. While boredom leads to many slips, for the self-aware man, boredom is an invitation to better understand self. Today's episode explores this concept in great detail, while offering practical ways to handle those tricky moments of boredom. Episode 203 - The Surprising Link Between BLTs & Porn Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

A continuation from Episode 277, today's episode dives into the armor of God concept from Ephesians 6, going part-by-part while offering a practical application in the context of sexual integrity. Being able to execute this critical piece of scripture will allow you to win the spiritual aspect of recovery and walk into the fullness God has for your life. Episode 277 - How To Win The Spiritual "Battle" For Sexual Integrity Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Healing from parent wounds is a critical part of lasting freedom. Today's episode explains why, using a personal example, and the difference between healing and reconciling. While healing is necessary, reconciling is optional and often case-dependent. If you know that addressing wounds from your parent relationships will be necessary for a full recovery, this episode is for you. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Ray De La Nuez is a men's life coach, speaker, writer and host of the Becoming Men Podcast. He is an active duty Marine Corps Officer with more than a decade of experience in leading and helping men around the world become more authentic, confident, disciplined and faithful. In today's interview, Ray explains the wake up call he got early in marriage that caused him to mature spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. He also explains how one mentor quite literally changed his life and why everyone should get a mentor themselves. Lastly, Ray dives deep into real self-control from a Biblical (and militant) perspective. Sign Up for a FREE Coaching Call With Ray Follow him on Twitter and Instagram @raydelanuez Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Too many men make the mistake of sharing ONLY relapses with their wife while they recover. In reality, transparency includes both the highs AND lows of recovery. Today's episode explains why your wife must be let in on the small victories and improvements, in addition to relapses, while you recover so that she receives an accurate picture of your journey. This improves your relationship in the process, but it also enhances your recovery by solidifying the inner stories you tell yourself. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Many questionable conversations happen in male-centric environments today. This episode explains the clear boundaries you must draw in the conversations and content you engage with while you are recovering, and at what point you can consider 'participating' in locker room talk. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode talks about the spiritual aspect of recovery including why this is not a battle, the supernatural realities of porn addiction, and why hyper-focusing on your connection with God will always be the plumbline for lasting freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

It seems that on a weekly basis moral failures are surfacing from some of the world's most respected Christian pastors and leaders. A few in particular recently have caused Sathiya to re-think local church ministry as a whole, and explore why so many trusted leaders continue to fall despite demonstrating godly character throughout their careers. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Keith and Sheila Gregoire have a passion for marriage and healthy sex, and debunking common misnomers around them in a Christian context. Sheila is the author of The Great Sex Rescue and Keith is a well-respected pediatrician. Together they impact thousands of lives on a regular basis. In today's interview, Keith & Sheila do a deep dive into their latest findings, which includes data from a survey of over 25,000 people. They discuss why frequency of sex is a surface-level indicator, the similarities between an abuse victim and a woman who feels obligated to have sex with her husband, and proven keys to having a healthy and fulfilling sex life. If you are looking to improve your sex life, or intend to have a healthy sex life when the time comes, this episode is for you. Check Out The Gregoire's Website for more updates Follow Sheila Gregoire on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter Read Dr. Keith's Book - The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex For Sheila's book - The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

Cravings and appetite are often used interchangeably. When we experience either, we simply say that we are "aroused", "triggered", or "turned on". The reality is that appetite is biological, cravings are psychological, and a majority of our sexual experiences are the latter. Today's episode delves deeper into this concept, and offers practical ways to handle with cravings that may arise as you pursue recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Attraction is God-given, but where is the line? Is all attraction simply innate? What about a pedophile who is drawn to children? What about a Christian man with same-sex attraction? Today's episode explores the multi-faceted nature of attraction, provides some clear parameters for when attraction goes too far, and offers Beauty and Honor as the lenses that we are to view humanity through to ensure we manage our attraction in a godly way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle

A typical issue men run into as they pursue freedom is distrust from their partner, even though they are healing and changing as a person. Today's episode explains why this dynamic exists, and practical ways that you can win back her trust AS you heal and AFTER you recover. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovering from addiction is about self-discovery. This is why you must be weary of cookie-cutter solutions and unidimensional strategies. The better you understand yourself, the more effectively you can employ strategies and solutions for long-term recovery. Today's episode provides guidance on how to carry this out whether you are just beginning your recovery journey or well on your way to permanent freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 13 years. In his personal battle he has overcome same-sex attraction, low self-esteem, anxiety & a broken marriage. He's passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by their addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them. In today's interview, Stephen details his story of developing same-sex attraction, living a gay lifestyle, finding healing, getting married and now helping other men experience freedom. We explore a variety of subjects including how to reparent yourself, the power of spiritual intervention in the healing process, and why our attractions and arousals do not tell the full story about our identities and orientations. To know more about Stephen Thomas, visit his website https://www.stephenthomasconsulting.com You can email him at [email protected] Follow Stephen Thomas on Facebook Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse