Man Within Podcast

The value of hard work cannot be overstated in today's hustle culture. We know that hard work yield great results. But hard work alone is rarely enough. If you work hard climbing the wrong ladder, it doesn't matter how hard you worked – you won't get the desired outcome. Today's episode explains the importance of discerning the "right" ladder to climb in the recovery journey, to ensure your efforts are well spent. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

If you have dealt with any degree of self-hatred before, you will understand just how taxing the experience can be. Typically self-hatred is when we explain discrepancies, uncertainties, and shortcomings in life using inner measures. While we know that self-compassion, turning to God, and finding places of belonging are important, these solutions are often executed prematurely, having minimal effect as a result. Instead, you must first address the issue of control in the situation. Today's episode explains why, how, and the beautiful benefits of following this process. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode explores 2 case studies from the DeepClean community with one thing in common: A major breakthrough after nearly a year of being plateaued. Both clients were struggling to move to the next level of their recovery until something shifted recently. When asked what caused the shift, both had a similar answer: nothing. Learn what they meant, and why sometimes staying immersed in a program and culture long enough eventually elicits desired outcomes. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

As social media and search engines continue to rule the day, one thing we must beware of is Big Al. Whether we like it or not, algorithms rule the digital world. The better you understand how they work, the more effectively they will serve you, rather than you serving them. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Over the past 10 years, Drew Boa has helped hundreds of men achieve freedom from porn and heal all kinds of sexual brokenness. Drew is the founder of HusbandMaterial.com, where he offers community, courses, and coaching to Christian men outgrowing porn. He is also the author of Redeemed Sexuality and the host of the Husband Material podcast. In today's interview, Drew and Sathiya deep dive into the subject of healing from childhood trauma. In this far-ranging conversation, Drew shares about the basics of trauma, how childhood experiences shape our sexual development (positively and negatively), and practically outlines the process of healing from trauma. He also goes on to explain the glorious future that is unlocked when you experience healing from trauma. Join Husband Material Community Listen to Husband Material's Podcast Check out My Interview in Husband Material Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

The choice to sexually misbehave never happens alone – there are many factors that influence a decision like that, one of which is alcohol. While alcohol consumption can be totally innocent, for some, it is the gateway to a series of poor choices. Today's episode gives some guidance on how to engage with alcohol during the recovery process, even if you haven't had a problem with it historically. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Furthering yesterday's discussion, today's episode shifts gears to talk about how we can support those who are directly impacted by the Russia-Ukraine war. Everyone has a responsibility in times like these – even if it is very small. We must step up, offer support, and do all we can to help. Sathiya explains how to pull this off, along with a few silver linings that we can take into account as the war continues. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Cancel culture, political opinion, and algorithms seem to rule the day, especially in the midst of a global pandemic and wars. In today's episode, Sathiya shares a recent personal experience with this dynamic, and a few things he learned that might be useful for anyone trying to engage in this subject matter. While politics don't have a direct correlation to someone's addiction, often these topics can become triggering and leave you more vulnerable for slips. The better you can handle these conversations, the more effective you will be in recovery. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

In the days of information overload, Sathiya has chosen to read only one book this year (he usually reads 30 minutes/day) as many times over as possible. This episode explains why he is doing an information detox and which book he has decided to read exclusively in 2022. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Ben Bennett is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the Director of Resolution Movement – a global movement overcoming hurts and struggles and thriving in life with Jesus and others. He has faced addiction, trauma, and mental health struggles in his journey toward a wholehearted life. Through many mistakes, missteps, false starts and restarts, Ben discovered proven tools and principles that have helped him overcome the hurts and struggles that hindered his journey toward wholeness. For the past 11 years, Ben has partnered with world renowned therapists and ministry leaders, helping individuals young and old understand and work through the underlying factors driving the unhealthy patterns in their lives. In today's interview with Sathiya, he shares some of these insights while offering practical ways to apply them in day-to-day life. Follow Ben Benett's Instagram for more updates Read Free to Thrive: How Your Hurt, Struggles, and Deepest Longings Can Lead to a Fulfilling Life Listen to The Resolution Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

One of the challenging side effects of porn addiction is a contaminated imagination. The good news is that if you can learn something, you can also unlearn something – the question is how? Today's episode explores both the neurological and psychological elements of sanctifying your imagination so that it can be used in a positive, healthy manner. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Falling short of your standards on a regular basis may have caused you to wonder if the standards are too high. As a recovering perfectionist, I can relate. Today's episode explains how to uphold high standards without being too hard on yourself when you come up short, and why this is critical for long-term recovery. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

You may have heard (or even said) the statement that you have an "addictive personality." This episode breaks down the futility of this statement and addresses the sentiment that typically underlies it. 49 - Why You Should Be Careful With Personality Tests Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

At some point in the recovery journey, many wonder if masturbation is really that big of a deal. Today's episode talks about three "states" that a man finds himself in the recovery journey (listed below). With this framework in mind, Sathiya explains his stance on masturbation. 1)What can I get away with? 2)What can I tolerate? 3)What is the best for me? Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Jim is a sought-after speaker and internationally known podcaster whose passionate exposition of God's Word, relational humor, and epic storytelling skills will keep you riveted to the edge of your seat. He has written numerous books, including his Amazon #1 bestselling Strong Men Dangerous Times. In this interview, Jim shares about his new book – Guts and Manhood, an exploration into the subject of courage and the 4 requirements for each man who longs to be courageous. He and Sathiya also get into the importance of journaling, how to leave a multi-generational legacy, and why men must rise up and stand strong now more than ever before. Read Strong Men Dangerous Times Visit Men In The Arena website for more Information Listen to Men In The Arena Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode explores a statement that was recently made in the DeepClean community that perfectly articulates the recovery journey. If you can truly grasp this statement and apply it to your life, you will find freedom. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Are you planning to see a counselor? Good! This is one of the best things you can do for yourself and something we recommend for everyone to do in their recovery journey. Today's episode explains three criteria to consider as you pick your counselor: 1) Be specific about WHY you are seeing them 2) Are you comfortable with online sessions vs in-person? 3) Do you trust them more than you trust yourself? 67 - How Do I Find A Professional Who Can Help Me? Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode tackles whether or not you should be having sex while you are recovering from porn and masturbation. Some argue that sex activates the same neural circuits you are trying to rewire away from porn and sexual misbehavior, while others argue that engaging in healthy sex is actually an important part of the healing journey. While both are valid points, today's episode explains which argument is correct. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Nobody on this planet struggles with consistency. In fact, if you have any kind of addiction or compulsion with something damaging in your life – porn, masturbation, social media, drugs, alcohol, checking out girls, paying for sex etc. – it proves that you can in fact be consistent! The question is not how do you become more consistent, the question is why are you choosing to do something damaging on a consistent basis? Today's episode breaks down this concept in more detail and offers a practical exercise to tackle this issue in your own life. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Dan Studt is the President of Freedom in Christ Ministries-USA. Through being personally impacted by Freedom in Christ Ministries in the mid-nineties to teaching the biblical principles in churches throughout the years, Dan has not only utilized the Ministry’s materials to impact many, but also applied them personally. In today's interview, Dan talks about getting caught watching porn by his aunt, the long process of getting free of sexual sin, how Bondage Breakers changed his life, and where Freedom In Christ Ministries is heading in the future. Read RESTORED: Experience Life with Jesus E-book for Free! Check out Freedom In Christ Website for more information Make a Donation to Freedom In Christ Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

It is no secret that there is an enemy and he is waging war against our souls. The question is how are we to respond? What does it look like to disarm the devil? Today's episode explains 3 primary ways the enemy tries to wreak havoc on our lives and society, each providing valuable intel on how to thwart his schemes in the first place. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Sometimes it can be hard to tell if a situation or circumstance in life is a temptation of the enemy or testing from God. Today's episode breaks down these two concepts in an easy to understand way, while providing insights on how to discern the difference. The good news is that no matter how many times you fail a test, the God of second chances will allow you to retake it until you pass. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

The Latin word for vulnerable is a derivative "woundable" – this gives us stark insight into just how sensitive and tender vulnerability can be. While it does require vulnerability to admit a struggle with porn and masturbation, this is really skimming the surface of real transparency. Today's episode is an explanation of how pain arises as we pursue freedom and preparation for how to respond accordingly when the time comes. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

We often throw around the term "let Jesus in" but what does that really mean? And when it happens – what can you expect? Today's episode breaks down this concept from a Biblical point of view while offering a direct application for the pursuit of freedom from pornography. When you truly let Jesus in, incredible things happen. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Jolene Winn is the wife of a former porn addict with a coaching practice for Christian women who have a spouse struggling with a pornography addiction. In today's episode she details her husband's unusual disclosure about his porn addiction, what it was like to suffer in silence, and how taking extreme ownership of her part in the situation eventually led to a healthy and restored marriage. If you are a man struggling and you long to understand the female side of the story, this interview was done for you. We also highly recommend this episode if you are a woman whose spouse is struggling. Follow Jolene on Instagram Listen to The Porn Addict's Wife Podcast Find out more about Jolene Winn at https://www.jolenewinn.com/ Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join our free community DeepClean Inner Circle

It is no secret that lockdowns, restrictions, and the rise of technology have changed the way we relate with each other – in some ways, this has been for the better. In most ways, it has been problematic. Loneliness is on the rise. But what about when you are surrounded by people and supported appropriately, but you still feel lonely? Today's episode addresses the loneliness epidemic and gives some insight as to why you might be feeling lonely EVEN IF you have lots of social interaction in your life. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join our free community, DeepClean Inner Circle

To celebrate the blazing launch of The Last Relapse, we are doing a mini-series featuring a few excerpts from the book. Today's episode focuses on the reward of pursuing intimacy with God – a mission critical concept for the recovery journey. The portion of The Last Relapse that we explore today will help you grow in intimacy with God the right way, while also featuring a rather humorous story to tie everything together. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

To celebrate the blazing launch of The Last Relapse, we are doing a mini-series featuring a few excerpts from the book. Today's episode focuses on renewing the mind and rewiring the brain – both the scriptural and scientific underpinnings of a healthy thought life. The portion of The Last Relapse that we explore today will dramatically improve your thought life. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

To celebrate the blazing launch of The Last Relapse, we are doing a mini-series featuring a few excerpts from the book. Today's episode focuses on a critical concept – balancing you emotional life. The blind spots men have emotionally often leaves them numb, disconnected and stressed. The portion of The Last Relapse that we explore today will help you hurdle those blind spots into a place of emotional fitness. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's interviewee is none other than yours truly, Sathiya Sam. Former Unleash The Man Within guest Shiraz Siddique switches seats with Sathiya to discuss everything about his new book, The Last Relapse, including why it was written, the writing process itself, who the book is for, the charitable component of all book sales, and why media outlets beyond the typical Christian outlets are interested in its content. Enjoy this rare opportunity to hear Sathiya in the hot seat! Find out more about Nalubale Social Center Order The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

With the launch of The Last Relapse today, this episode is a shake-up from our usual routine. Sathiya has chosen to give 10% of all book sales to a charity that is near to his heart. This episode features a mini-interview with Jonas Wall, the founder of Nalubale Social Center in Uganda. He explains why his ministry is different than typical missions organizations, how missions can effectively contribute to the local church and economy, and why his time as a semi-professional soccer player before becoming a missionary still comes in handy. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Do you have a hard time staying focused? Do you find yourself starting a task, only to get sidetracked only to realize eventually that you completely forgot about the initial task? We are more distracted than ever before, and the underlying causes are more closely related to porn addiction than you may think. Today's episode offers insights on why your brain is distracted and practical ways to stay focused. 30 - The Secret To Staying Focused 185 - The Reason It's So Hard To Focus During Sex, Work & Play Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Your journey to freedom MUST include three recovery pillars: Self-awareness, healing, and identity. Each of these pillars comes with a mantra – a useful statement that gives you the essence of the pillar in an easy to understand (and easy to remember way). These three mantras have radically changed the lives of hundreds of men around the world, each of them are revealed in detail in today's episode. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Today's reflective episode offers insight into how your emotional life can be an incredible catalyst for worship. This concept is not new, as King David displayed it time and time again. If you are struggling to get in touch with your emotions, unsure how to connect with God on an emotional level, or find yourself drowning in a sea of overwhelming emotion, this episode will practically guide you through a simple process for rapidly growing in this area. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Kelly is a Christ-Centered Certified Recovery, Transformation, and Life Coach, specializing in female sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. With an extensive background in the Human Services Field, Kelly’s coaching clients have extended from prisons to churches and everything in between. She currently resides in Alberta with her husband Deon, has 3 children 14, 16, and 25, and one amazingly cheeky granddaughter who is 2.5 years old. In today's interview, Kelly deep dives into her story of being raised by two fathers that had sex addictions, experiencing sexual abuse, having a child at 17 yo, finding Jesus, and dramatically changing her life. The years of dysfunction have paved a way for Kelly to craft a very unique framework for dealing with betrayal trauma and porn addiction with women. She explains these frameworks and provides practical steps for men who are yet to disclose their struggle with their spouse. This is a must listen for any man in a committed relationship! Work with Kelly Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

This question is often asked within our communities so we decided to answer it on the podcast today. The short answer is, no. It's not a good idea, especially as you are pursuing your recovery. Your significant other should absolutely be INVOLVED, but this episode explains why it is better for you to have someone else designated as your spotter (accountability partner) that is not your wife. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

By understanding the conditions that cause relapses, you can devise clever and preventative solutions moving forward. Today's episode explores the most common conditions for slips – BLT (Bored, Lonely, Tired) and practical things you can do to ensure they are not causing any more relapses. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

The biggest mistake you can make pursuing freedom from pornography is doing it alone. The second biggest mistake is pursuing freedom exclusively with others who are struggling. To truly experience freedom, you must surround yourself with "lions" – men who are fiercely pursuing and/or protecting their freedom at all costs. This will put you on the right path. Once you are surrounded, "training" then becomes the focus. This is how you expedite your recovery. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Making radical changes to your life comes with a cost. At some point, you will likely feel like quitting. Today's episode explains why this phenomenon exists and how to combat it as you pursue lasting freedom. Sometimes that extra push in hard times propels you into your next level of breakthrough and healing. Keep going – if you don't quit, you win. Follow Sathiya on Instagram Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Ron DeHaas is the founder and CEO of Covenant Eyes, chairman of the board of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation and producer of the "Dirty Dozen." He is wildly passionate about fighting pornography and sexual exploitation of all kinds, and is the leading pioneer in the recovery space. Many do not know that Ron birthed Covenant Eyes out of tragedy. After losing his wife and kids in a fatal car accident, Ron decided to use the settlement to fund a screen accountability software in 2000! In today's interview, Ron details the story, the difference between an internet filter and a screen accountability software, the power of transparency and why the world will one day view pornography the way we currently view smoking. Get Covenant Eyes (Use PROMO code "DEEPCLEAN") End Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) Call Covenant Eyes Phone Line: 1-989-720-8000 Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Eddie Capparucci is quickly establishing himself as a leading authority in the men's addiction recovery space. Fresh off the release of "Healing The Inner Child" which has impacted thousands of men, his newest book is titled "Why Men Struggle To Love." In this episode, Sathiya provides an overview of the book, focusing on a few areas that were particularly impactful. If you are looking for resources to accommodate your recovery, this episode will give you a better idea if Why Men Struggle To Love will be useful for you. Buy the book, Why Men Struggle To Love Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Modern churches are trumpeting 1 John 4:18 – Perfect love casts out fear. While this message rings true, especially for those learning their identity in Christ, is it complete? Today's episode explains while this concept is true, there are other dimensions that must be considered as well to fully understand the nature of God. A well-rounded understanding of the interplay between fear and love will position you to relate with God in a healthy way, becoming the man He made you to be in the process. Follow Sathiya on Instagram Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

When you embark on the recovery journey, you must push yourself out of your comfort zone. This dynamic in extreme form can lead to burnout, perfectionism, etc. The counterbalance is to give yourself grace, yet this is also has an extreme form which leads to complacency and enablement. Today's episode explains how excellence of the heart is the middle ground that you must strive for as you make pursue freedom. Listen to Episode 75 - Forming A Godly Identity Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse

Regardless of your relationship status, the truth is that we long to be attractive. We long to know we are worth of someone else's attention. Today's episode debunks the classic definitions of attractiveness, replacing them with a more Biblical definition and offering specific encouragement to live this out in your day-to-day life. Attractiveness is an attitude, not an attribute. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

In 2019 Carl launched Live Free Ministries and created the Live Free Community App to help bridge the gap between millions of men who want help but lack the safe and supportive community needed to find real freedom. In 2020 he also launched Live Free Wives, a free support community, for spouses who need help as well and in 2021 became the CEO of XXXchurch.com. In this interview, Carl talks about his new book, When Shame Gets Real, and talks about what finally inspired him to write it. He also talks about the early days of X3 Church and the unusual way he became involved in the organization before eventually starting his own thing, Live Free Community, which would eventually acquire X3 church. Carl also explains why he doesn't care about the future of the porn addiction recovery industry – his reasoning may surprise you. Pre-Order When Shame Gets Real Join a Live Free Community Live Free for Wives Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

At a recent mastermind experience, the phrase "Change your history" was coined by a consultant helping Sathiya with his business. The multi-faceted meaning of this expression has implications for you in your health and freedom. Pursuing freedom from pornography is about changing 4 different kinds of history: Browser history (clearing browser history is a real thing), addiction history, heart history and family history. Today's episode unpacks each of these in detail. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

Ethical porn is a term that surfaced a few years ago to describe pornography that was produced under appropriate and legally sound circumstances. Often used to justify porn consumption, today's episode explores the irony of ethical porn and why it is not in fact ethical at all. If something toxic is produced under ethical circumstances, it does not alter its toxicity. Read Producing "Ethical Porn" Is Impossible by Fight The New Drug Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

Commitment issues are on the rise, in large part due to cancel culture, loose ethical and moral standards, and a plethora of other dynamics in society today. So what does true commitment look like? What's the secret to really committing and having a healthy, long-term relationship? Today's episode explores the subject using a few profound stories that have reshaped Sathiya's perspective on long-term commitment. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

Today's episode was inspired by a client who recently felt challenged by his lack of a romantic relationship. His solution was to find a relationship so his life would be better. After further prodding it became clear that a relationship would not fix the problem – there was actually a deeper need that he was looking to get met. We explain what this deeper need was and why relying on romantic relationships to save you/improve your life is a very dangerous approach. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction

Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken Ministries and host of the weekly podcast, Pure Sex Radio. He has appeared on Oprah, ABC's Nightline, and has authored several books addressing the subject of sexual integrity. In today's episode, he discusses with Sathiya what it was like starting a podcast about healthy sex in 2005, the key to inciting heart transformation in someone looking to get free of unwanted sexual behavior, and where he sees the future of the recovery industry in the next 20 years. Follow BeBroken on Instagram Sign up for 40 Day Purity Program Listen to Pure Sex Radio Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com