Man Within Podcast

With the world constantly changing, the parameters for success and health also seem to change. But in reality, if you look at what has enabled people to live healthy, fulfilled lives over the years, there are usually just a few things they share in common. Today's episode explores three things every person will need in the next 20 years to thrive in their life: focus, consistency and contentment. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Science has become supremely valued in our society, so much so that we will do irrational things that contradict our own intuition simply because of a study. Today's episode explores the difference between science-based and science-bound and why knowing the difference is so critical for someone who wants to rid themselves of an addiction, change a habit, or enhance their quality of life. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Having standards is an important part of manhood – without them, our lives become mediocre and aimless. But is there ever a good time to reduce your standards? Today's episode explores the one circumstance where reducing your standards is not only acceptable, it's encouraged. If you find that you are too hard on yourself, or that you are overwhelmed by the standards you have set, this episode is for you. Check out my CTV Your Morning Interview Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

You may be wondering if your situation is really "that bad" when so many others around you have it worse. While it's easy to justify minor amounts of dysfunction or addiction, today's episode explains the three indicators that you have a porn addiction. If you know you have an addiction, this episode will provide some empowerment for finding a path to freedom as well. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Jason Vallotton is the founder of BraveCO – a global men's movement - and overseer of the Bethel Transformation Center. He has helped thousands of men and women discover their God-given identity, find freedom, and walk out their true calling. His personal testimony, insight, and wisdom have brought powerful breakthroughs to difficult situations for both leaders and families. In today's episode, Sathiya and Jason deep dive into the role of a father in a home and society at large, how men can heal if their fathers were absent, a practical way to deal with pain in a manly way, and the importance of leaving a legacy by instilling a sense of identity in the people around you. Visit BraveCo's Discipleship Program Check out Jason Valloton website for more updates Follow @braveco.men and @jasonvalloton on Instagram Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Being decisive is a learned skill. Instinctively, we fear failure, disconnection, making the wrong choice, and missing out. Today's episode explains why being decisive is so valuable, how it can change your life, and practical ways to overcome the typical obstacles we face in this area. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

"Blue Balls" (epidydymal hypertension) is a common physiological response in the PMO recovery journey. Today's episode breaks down the primarily physiological cause of blue balls, which gives profound insight into how you can craft your own solution to combat its effects. If you intend to get free one day, you will likely encounter blue balls – this episode will prepare you for when the time comes. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode focuses on the importance of running to God when you least feel like it. During times of mistake, shortcomings, and shame is the best opportunity you get to experience unconditional love. Using personal stories and a bit of nostalgia, this episode will give you powerful insight into the breakthroughs that come when you invite God into your mess. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

We know that sobriety and freedom are not the same thing. Sobriety is behaviorally focused, freedom is inner focused. One can be sober, but not free. Yet one who is free will eventually become sober. But when you start to have some success – how do you tell if you are sober or free? Today's episode answers this question in-depth while providing markers that indicate which side you have landed on as you pursue healing and recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Helen Taylor is the Vice President of Impact for Exodus Cry, an organization committed to abolishing sex trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation. They are known for their award-winning documentaries and wildly successful activism campaigns against exploitation in pornography. On today's episode, Helen and Sathiya discuss the intrinsic link between pornography and sex trafficking, detailing 4 specific ways that even the slightest porn consumption feeds sex trafficking around the globe. They also discuss the importance of protective legislation, especially for children and women, and redefining consent in today's modern era of smartphones, tablets, and 24/7 internet access. Sign The Petition To Protect Children From Porn Make A Donation Find our more about Exodus Cry Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

Many men who want to be free of porn also simulataneously enjoy it. In this odd paradox, many men accuse themselves of being "perverted" or "messed up", when in reality, this is a very normal experience. Today's episode explains WHY this dynamic exists and how embracing it can actually lead to healing and strength along the way. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

In a culture and social climate that is daily conditioning us for instant gratification, we are finding it harder and harder to embrace the uncomfortable and inconvenient. Today's episode explains the less-discussed underbelly of instant gratification and the way it is wreaking havoc on our overall quality of life. It also outlines a very simple practical step you can exercise on a daily basis that will re-condition your mind to delay gratification and make better decisions. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

We know that the enemy lies and accuses us to pull us away from the truth. We know that he regularly bombard us with thoughts, schemes, and reasonings that oppose the truth of God. So instinctively, we try to identify the inciting events and heal from them. This may be trauma recovery, inner healing, etc. Today's episode explores why sometimes we can heal from traumas of our past, have moments of breakthroughs, and then fall back to where we were before. The secret sauce is in the text of Ephsians 6. Enjoy! Check out my interview on CTV Your Morning! Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

In today's episode, Sathiya gives rare insight into how he vets clients for DeepClean, including a question he typically asks applicants that often evokes a strong emotional response – including tears sometimes! While it is an evocative question, it must be answered if you are a man who is serious about overcoming compulsive sexual misbehavior. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Tamara Rosier, PhD, is the founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, where she and her staff work with individuals with ADHD (and their families) to learn strategies and develop new skills to live effectively with ADHD. Dr. Rosier is also the president of the ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO). Her book, Your Brain’s Not Broken, discussed strategies for managing the emotional aspects of ADHD. In today's interview, she discusses the inextricable link between ADHD and addiction, why you must slow down and become emotionally aware before you begin the healing process, and insight into how someone with ADHD experiences Church (absolutely fascinating). She also provides practical steps that you can take if you think you might have ADHD or if you have ADHD but are still struggling to regulate it. If you're looking for more guidance, I highly recommend checking out Dr. Tamara Rosier's book, Your Brain's Not Broken. For more updates, visit her website https://www.tamararosier.com/ Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Relational conflict is an inevitability – as long as there are people on the planet, there will be conflicts too. Building skills to resolve conflict is one of the most preventative ways to quit porn. Many men choose to watch porn because they cannot resolve conflicts in their key relationships. Other times, it is simply the distress of ongoing on conflicts that drive compulsive sexual behavior. Today's episode explores these dynamics, and explains why resolving conflict with the intent to let the other person know how you feel is a futile endeavor. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

The million dollar question for most Christians today is, "What's my purpose?" This episode is designed to give you an overarching concept of how to define purpose, and three critical questions that will help you acknowledge or refine the call God has placed on your life. This is a challenging subject for many, but one that must be addressed head on to experience fulfillment and freedom in life. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

You may have heard the statement "Everything happens for a reason" as consolation for a difficult experience or to provide some optimism that things will work out even though they look bleak. While this statement is typically made from a good place, it implies intent, usually on God's part. This is not only a dangerous way to think, it is wrong, and it can often leave parts of our past unresolved. Today's episode explores an alternative way to settle difficult moments and why it is so critical in furthering your recovery journey. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

If you grew up with rigid rules around your behavior, you have likely been conditioned to avoid, suppress, and ignore anything that is "bad" or "negative." While this can effectively curb behavior, there is no joy in the process and the fruit of such an endeavor is often minimal. Today's episode uses a recent case study to examine the power of giving someone with a rigid upbringing permission to watch porn and how it empowered him to choose against it. If your solutions so far have been will power, white-knuckling, and denying porn as an option, you will find some liberating truths in this episode. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Samuel Abraham Perez is a former gay stripper turned whole hearted follower of Jesus. After being involved in a homosexual lifestyle and experiencing severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, God found Samuel and his life has never been the same. His mission is to preach his testimony and experiences of his life in the LGBTQ community to believers and non-believers, hoping to inspire others that the love of God is transformational and correcting. Today's interview is absolutely loaded with Samuel's testimony, learning how to manage same-sex attraction (SSA) while being a Christian, whether or not someone with same-sex attraction can get married, and many other subtopics around this subject. If you struggle with SSA, this interview is for you. If you do not struggle with SSA, this interview is for you too. There is lots to learn as Samuel unpacks his testimony and recants how God has helped him live fully devoted to him while still working out his sanctification. Visit Samuel Perez website for more updates Follow Samuel Perez's Instagram Account @samuelabrahamp Watch and Subscribe to Samuel Perez's YouTube channel SamuelPereztv Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

While it may be easy to chalk up Will Smith & Chris Rock's Oscar incident to celebrity shenanigans, the reality is what took place exposed parts of our society that must be addressed. Today's episode explains the importance of men appropriately stepping into the role of protecting loved ones, and why violence never solves the problem. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

The word "love" is thrown around all the time, but have you ever wondered what it really means? How can you love your wife and also "love" Doritos? Today's episode deep dives into the 4 kinds of love, the difference between giving and receiving love, and why showing up in a relationship for love is very different than showing up from love. Discover Your Love Language Profile (No Charge) Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Have you ever found yourself wide awake at night even though your body is tired and you knew you needed sleep? This phenomenon is becoming commonplace for many with the rise in stress levels and screen usage amongst our many devices. Today's episode provides a novel way to condition your brain for rest on a regular basis, and why lighting control just might be the missing link in your nighttime routine. For night time routine, listen to Episode 62 - Winning The Night Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Communication is one of the best indicators of relationship quality. When the communication is happening often and in a healthy manner, the relationship itself is typically healthy. The same is true for miscommunications or a lack thereof. Today's episode explores healthy communications patterns in arguably the most important relationship of all – the relationship with self. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Richard and Brittni have been married for six years. They are parents, pastors, authors, and co-founders of LoveAlwaysMinistries.com - a ministry that helps people find freedom from porn while pursuing purity of heart. On today's interview, they sit down to talk with Sathiya about S-E-X. The good parts, challenging parts, and everything in between. Specifically, the conversation talks about what it was like for Richard to process Brittni's past as a porn star, how he explained the relationship to his Christian parents when they started dating, and keys that have helped them have a healthy sex life in their marriage. They also get into purity culture and the value that is often overlooked when the word "purity" comes up. Visit LoveAlways Ministries Website for more updates Learn LoveAlways Ministries Single and Porn-free Courses Listen To Let's Talk About Purity Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode continues from yesterday's Episode 243, detailing the importance of loving what you create, based on the creation story in Genesis 1. God loved what He created because He loved himself. The more you and I learn to love ourselves, the more we will love what we produce. This episode ends with a humorous story of Sathiya crying on a plane at the absolute worst time and an expert tip for the creative process. Listen to Episode 243 - Creativity For Men, pt 1 Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

We have made a huge mistake in our society of reducing creativity to artistry. The reality is that all are naturally creative, but few are creative naturally. Today's episode explains why this disconnect exists, and some practical ways to tap more into your creative potential. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Introspection is a beautiful thing. It allows us to understand ourselves better, piece together parts of our past, and ultimately grow. But as history often shows, you can have too much of a good thing. Today's episode explains the catch 22 of introspection – we must use it to facilitate our recovery process, yet it can hinder our recovery if it is overdone. Beware of this balancing act as you embark on the recovery journey. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

In the early years of adulthood, hobbies are more or less built into our lives. But as careers develop and families begin to grow, without intentionality hobbies typically fall to the wayside. This is a huge travesty, as hobbies provide cushioning between stimulus and response, and conditioning to create separation between responsibilities and roles in our live. Both of these are vital for long-term freedom, and today's episode explains why (while offering many examples of a hobby you could begin today). Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Matt Dobschuetz is a bestselling author and the host of Porn Free Radio, a top-rated self-improvement podcast with over 2 million downloads. He regularly coaches men from around the world through issues concerning business, relationships, and of course, porn addiction. In this unique interview, Matt and Sathiya take turns interviewing each other, going back and forth about their recent experiences of writing and publishing books, the importance of loving your creative works, business building, and a random tangent about music from the 90s. Visit Recovered Man Website for more updates of Matt Dobschuetz. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

The value of hard work cannot be overstated in today's hustle culture. We know that hard work yield great results. But hard work alone is rarely enough. If you work hard climbing the wrong ladder, it doesn't matter how hard you worked – you won't get the desired outcome. Today's episode explains the importance of discerning the "right" ladder to climb in the recovery journey, to ensure your efforts are well spent. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

If you have dealt with any degree of self-hatred before, you will understand just how taxing the experience can be. Typically self-hatred is when we explain discrepancies, uncertainties, and shortcomings in life using inner measures. While we know that self-compassion, turning to God, and finding places of belonging are important, these solutions are often executed prematurely, having minimal effect as a result. Instead, you must first address the issue of control in the situation. Today's episode explains why, how, and the beautiful benefits of following this process. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode explores 2 case studies from the DeepClean community with one thing in common: A major breakthrough after nearly a year of being plateaued. Both clients were struggling to move to the next level of their recovery until something shifted recently. When asked what caused the shift, both had a similar answer: nothing. Learn what they meant, and why sometimes staying immersed in a program and culture long enough eventually elicits desired outcomes. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

As social media and search engines continue to rule the day, one thing we must beware of is Big Al. Whether we like it or not, algorithms rule the digital world. The better you understand how they work, the more effectively they will serve you, rather than you serving them. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Over the past 10 years, Drew Boa has helped hundreds of men achieve freedom from porn and heal all kinds of sexual brokenness. Drew is the founder of HusbandMaterial.com, where he offers community, courses, and coaching to Christian men outgrowing porn. He is also the author of Redeemed Sexuality and the host of the Husband Material podcast. In today's interview, Drew and Sathiya deep dive into the subject of healing from childhood trauma. In this far-ranging conversation, Drew shares about the basics of trauma, how childhood experiences shape our sexual development (positively and negatively), and practically outlines the process of healing from trauma. He also goes on to explain the glorious future that is unlocked when you experience healing from trauma. Join Husband Material Community Listen to Husband Material's Podcast Check out My Interview in Husband Material Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

The choice to sexually misbehave never happens alone – there are many factors that influence a decision like that, one of which is alcohol. While alcohol consumption can be totally innocent, for some, it is the gateway to a series of poor choices. Today's episode gives some guidance on how to engage with alcohol during the recovery process, even if you haven't had a problem with it historically. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Furthering yesterday's discussion, today's episode shifts gears to talk about how we can support those who are directly impacted by the Russia-Ukraine war. Everyone has a responsibility in times like these – even if it is very small. We must step up, offer support, and do all we can to help. Sathiya explains how to pull this off, along with a few silver linings that we can take into account as the war continues. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Cancel culture, political opinion, and algorithms seem to rule the day, especially in the midst of a global pandemic and wars. In today's episode, Sathiya shares a recent personal experience with this dynamic, and a few things he learned that might be useful for anyone trying to engage in this subject matter. While politics don't have a direct correlation to someone's addiction, often these topics can become triggering and leave you more vulnerable for slips. The better you can handle these conversations, the more effective you will be in recovery. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

In the days of information overload, Sathiya has chosen to read only one book this year (he usually reads 30 minutes/day) as many times over as possible. This episode explains why he is doing an information detox and which book he has decided to read exclusively in 2022. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Ben Bennett is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the Director of Resolution Movement – a global movement overcoming hurts and struggles and thriving in life with Jesus and others. He has faced addiction, trauma, and mental health struggles in his journey toward a wholehearted life. Through many mistakes, missteps, false starts and restarts, Ben discovered proven tools and principles that have helped him overcome the hurts and struggles that hindered his journey toward wholeness. For the past 11 years, Ben has partnered with world renowned therapists and ministry leaders, helping individuals young and old understand and work through the underlying factors driving the unhealthy patterns in their lives. In today's interview with Sathiya, he shares some of these insights while offering practical ways to apply them in day-to-day life. Follow Ben Benett's Instagram for more updates Read Free to Thrive: How Your Hurt, Struggles, and Deepest Longings Can Lead to a Fulfilling Life Listen to The Resolution Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

One of the challenging side effects of porn addiction is a contaminated imagination. The good news is that if you can learn something, you can also unlearn something – the question is how? Today's episode explores both the neurological and psychological elements of sanctifying your imagination so that it can be used in a positive, healthy manner. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Falling short of your standards on a regular basis may have caused you to wonder if the standards are too high. As a recovering perfectionist, I can relate. Today's episode explains how to uphold high standards without being too hard on yourself when you come up short, and why this is critical for long-term recovery. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

You may have heard (or even said) the statement that you have an "addictive personality." This episode breaks down the futility of this statement and addresses the sentiment that typically underlies it. 49 - Why You Should Be Careful With Personality Tests Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

At some point in the recovery journey, many wonder if masturbation is really that big of a deal. Today's episode talks about three "states" that a man finds himself in the recovery journey (listed below). With this framework in mind, Sathiya explains his stance on masturbation. 1)What can I get away with? 2)What can I tolerate? 3)What is the best for me? Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Jim is a sought-after speaker and internationally known podcaster whose passionate exposition of God's Word, relational humor, and epic storytelling skills will keep you riveted to the edge of your seat. He has written numerous books, including his Amazon #1 bestselling Strong Men Dangerous Times. In this interview, Jim shares about his new book – Guts and Manhood, an exploration into the subject of courage and the 4 requirements for each man who longs to be courageous. He and Sathiya also get into the importance of journaling, how to leave a multi-generational legacy, and why men must rise up and stand strong now more than ever before. Read Strong Men Dangerous Times Visit Men In The Arena website for more Information Listen to Men In The Arena Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode explores a statement that was recently made in the DeepClean community that perfectly articulates the recovery journey. If you can truly grasp this statement and apply it to your life, you will find freedom. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Are you planning to see a counselor? Good! This is one of the best things you can do for yourself and something we recommend for everyone to do in their recovery journey. Today's episode explains three criteria to consider as you pick your counselor: 1) Be specific about WHY you are seeing them 2) Are you comfortable with online sessions vs in-person? 3) Do you trust them more than you trust yourself? 67 - How Do I Find A Professional Who Can Help Me? Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode tackles whether or not you should be having sex while you are recovering from porn and masturbation. Some argue that sex activates the same neural circuits you are trying to rewire away from porn and sexual misbehavior, while others argue that engaging in healthy sex is actually an important part of the healing journey. While both are valid points, today's episode explains which argument is correct. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Nobody on this planet struggles with consistency. In fact, if you have any kind of addiction or compulsion with something damaging in your life – porn, masturbation, social media, drugs, alcohol, checking out girls, paying for sex etc. – it proves that you can in fact be consistent! The question is not how do you become more consistent, the question is why are you choosing to do something damaging on a consistent basis? Today's episode breaks down this concept in more detail and offers a practical exercise to tackle this issue in your own life. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Dan Studt is the President of Freedom in Christ Ministries-USA. Through being personally impacted by Freedom in Christ Ministries in the mid-nineties to teaching the biblical principles in churches throughout the years, Dan has not only utilized the Ministry’s materials to impact many, but also applied them personally. In today's interview, Dan talks about getting caught watching porn by his aunt, the long process of getting free of sexual sin, how Bondage Breakers changed his life, and where Freedom In Christ Ministries is heading in the future. Read RESTORED: Experience Life with Jesus E-book for Free! Check out Freedom In Christ Website for more information Make a Donation to Freedom In Christ Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.