Man Within Podcast

Today's episode explores a bizarre story from Genesis 30 that uniquely demonstrates the power of focus. Somehow, the things we concentrate on flavor what we produce. This is important in recovery, as many get too bogged down in the struggles, relapses and challenges, often leading to more difficulty. Adjusting your focus is the name of the game and as you fixate on growth, healthy, and recovery, it begins to flavor your decisions, actions, and thoughts. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Whether it's God, a spouse, colleague, sibling, parent, friend or acquaintance, there are always 4 concepts that determine the quality of the relationship. Today's episode explains why emotional connection, transparency, understanding and humility are critical for success and health in each and every relationship, offering practical ways to establish each one. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Any man would agree that getting free of porn would catalyze greater self worth and confidence. While many eagerly away getting free so they can see these improvements, the reality is that pursuing these improvements is that leads to freedom. Today's episode explains what it looks like to pursue stable self-worth. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Brad & Lisa Valencia had a normal marriage – kids, cars, a house, and regular church attenders. Ten years in, it became clear that their marriage was anything but normal as a text intended for Brad's mistress was sent to his wife instead. Divorce looked like the only option until God intervened, leading Brad and Lisa into a journey of radical reconciliation. Another 10 years later, they have built Unrelenting Pursuit – a ministry that serves other couples looking to restore hope and strengthen their marriages. In today's interview, Brad & Lisa open up about the in-depth details of the affair and how they healed through it. They also discuss what it was like having sex again after the affair took place, why weekly rhythms like date nights go a long way long-term, and why going vertical in your relationship with Jesus first is the key to success in just about any area in life. Listen to Unrelenting Pursuit podcast Follow Unrelenting Pursuit on Instagram Visit Unrelenting Pursuit on Facebook Contact them at [email protected] Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

Inspired by a recent client's decision to 'break up with technology', today's episode explains the basics of attachment theory, why we are always forming attachments whether we realize or not, and how to change your attachment with something in your life that is problematic. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

Boredom is often mistaken as not having anything to do, when in reality boredom is having an unmet desire to do something. While boredom leads to many slips, for the self-aware man, boredom is an invitation to better understand self. Today's episode explores this concept in great detail, while offering practical ways to handle those tricky moments of boredom. Episode 203 - The Surprising Link Between BLTs & Porn Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)

A continuation from Episode 277, today's episode dives into the armor of God concept from Ephesians 6, going part-by-part while offering a practical application in the context of sexual integrity. Being able to execute this critical piece of scripture will allow you to win the spiritual aspect of recovery and walk into the fullness God has for your life. Episode 277 - How To Win The Spiritual "Battle" For Sexual Integrity Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Healing from parent wounds is a critical part of lasting freedom. Today's episode explains why, using a personal example, and the difference between healing and reconciling. While healing is necessary, reconciling is optional and often case-dependent. If you know that addressing wounds from your parent relationships will be necessary for a full recovery, this episode is for you. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

Ray De La Nuez is a men's life coach, speaker, writer and host of the Becoming Men Podcast. He is an active duty Marine Corps Officer with more than a decade of experience in leading and helping men around the world become more authentic, confident, disciplined and faithful. In today's interview, Ray explains the wake up call he got early in marriage that caused him to mature spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. He also explains how one mentor quite literally changed his life and why everyone should get a mentor themselves. Lastly, Ray dives deep into real self-control from a Biblical (and militant) perspective. Sign Up for a FREE Coaching Call With Ray Follow him on Twitter and Instagram @raydelanuez Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Too many men make the mistake of sharing ONLY relapses with their wife while they recover. In reality, transparency includes both the highs AND lows of recovery. Today's episode explains why your wife must be let in on the small victories and improvements, in addition to relapses, while you recover so that she receives an accurate picture of your journey. This improves your relationship in the process, but it also enhances your recovery by solidifying the inner stories you tell yourself. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Many questionable conversations happen in male-centric environments today. This episode explains the clear boundaries you must draw in the conversations and content you engage with while you are recovering, and at what point you can consider 'participating' in locker room talk. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode talks about the spiritual aspect of recovery including why this is not a battle, the supernatural realities of porn addiction, and why hyper-focusing on your connection with God will always be the plumbline for lasting freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

It seems that on a weekly basis moral failures are surfacing from some of the world's most respected Christian pastors and leaders. A few in particular recently have caused Sathiya to re-think local church ministry as a whole, and explore why so many trusted leaders continue to fall despite demonstrating godly character throughout their careers. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Keith and Sheila Gregoire have a passion for marriage and healthy sex, and debunking common misnomers around them in a Christian context. Sheila is the author of The Great Sex Rescue and Keith is a well-respected pediatrician. Together they impact thousands of lives on a regular basis. In today's interview, Keith & Sheila do a deep dive into their latest findings, which includes data from a survey of over 25,000 people. They discuss why frequency of sex is a surface-level indicator, the similarities between an abuse victim and a woman who feels obligated to have sex with her husband, and proven keys to having a healthy and fulfilling sex life. If you are looking to improve your sex life, or intend to have a healthy sex life when the time comes, this episode is for you. Check Out The Gregoire's Website for more updates Follow Sheila Gregoire on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter Read Dr. Keith's Book - The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex For Sheila's book - The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

Cravings and appetite are often used interchangeably. When we experience either, we simply say that we are "aroused", "triggered", or "turned on". The reality is that appetite is biological, cravings are psychological, and a majority of our sexual experiences are the latter. Today's episode delves deeper into this concept, and offers practical ways to handle with cravings that may arise as you pursue recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Attraction is God-given, but where is the line? Is all attraction simply innate? What about a pedophile who is drawn to children? What about a Christian man with same-sex attraction? Today's episode explores the multi-faceted nature of attraction, provides some clear parameters for when attraction goes too far, and offers Beauty and Honor as the lenses that we are to view humanity through to ensure we manage our attraction in a godly way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle

A typical issue men run into as they pursue freedom is distrust from their partner, even though they are healing and changing as a person. Today's episode explains why this dynamic exists, and practical ways that you can win back her trust AS you heal and AFTER you recover. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovering from addiction is about self-discovery. This is why you must be weary of cookie-cutter solutions and unidimensional strategies. The better you understand yourself, the more effectively you can employ strategies and solutions for long-term recovery. Today's episode provides guidance on how to carry this out whether you are just beginning your recovery journey or well on your way to permanent freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 13 years. In his personal battle he has overcome same-sex attraction, low self-esteem, anxiety & a broken marriage. He's passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by their addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them. In today's interview, Stephen details his story of developing same-sex attraction, living a gay lifestyle, finding healing, getting married and now helping other men experience freedom. We explore a variety of subjects including how to reparent yourself, the power of spiritual intervention in the healing process, and why our attractions and arousals do not tell the full story about our identities and orientations. To know more about Stephen Thomas, visit his website https://www.stephenthomasconsulting.com You can email him at [email protected] Follow Stephen Thomas on Facebook Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

With the world constantly changing, the parameters for success and health also seem to change. But in reality, if you look at what has enabled people to live healthy, fulfilled lives over the years, there are usually just a few things they share in common. Today's episode explores three things every person will need in the next 20 years to thrive in their life: focus, consistency and contentment. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Science has become supremely valued in our society, so much so that we will do irrational things that contradict our own intuition simply because of a study. Today's episode explores the difference between science-based and science-bound and why knowing the difference is so critical for someone who wants to rid themselves of an addiction, change a habit, or enhance their quality of life. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Having standards is an important part of manhood – without them, our lives become mediocre and aimless. But is there ever a good time to reduce your standards? Today's episode explores the one circumstance where reducing your standards is not only acceptable, it's encouraged. If you find that you are too hard on yourself, or that you are overwhelmed by the standards you have set, this episode is for you. Check out my CTV Your Morning Interview Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

You may be wondering if your situation is really "that bad" when so many others around you have it worse. While it's easy to justify minor amounts of dysfunction or addiction, today's episode explains the three indicators that you have a porn addiction. If you know you have an addiction, this episode will provide some empowerment for finding a path to freedom as well. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Jason Vallotton is the founder of BraveCO – a global men's movement - and overseer of the Bethel Transformation Center. He has helped thousands of men and women discover their God-given identity, find freedom, and walk out their true calling. His personal testimony, insight, and wisdom have brought powerful breakthroughs to difficult situations for both leaders and families. In today's episode, Sathiya and Jason deep dive into the role of a father in a home and society at large, how men can heal if their fathers were absent, a practical way to deal with pain in a manly way, and the importance of leaving a legacy by instilling a sense of identity in the people around you. Visit BraveCo's Discipleship Program Check out Jason Valloton website for more updates Follow @braveco.men and @jasonvalloton on Instagram Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Being decisive is a learned skill. Instinctively, we fear failure, disconnection, making the wrong choice, and missing out. Today's episode explains why being decisive is so valuable, how it can change your life, and practical ways to overcome the typical obstacles we face in this area. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

"Blue Balls" (epidydymal hypertension) is a common physiological response in the PMO recovery journey. Today's episode breaks down the primarily physiological cause of blue balls, which gives profound insight into how you can craft your own solution to combat its effects. If you intend to get free one day, you will likely encounter blue balls – this episode will prepare you for when the time comes. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode focuses on the importance of running to God when you least feel like it. During times of mistake, shortcomings, and shame is the best opportunity you get to experience unconditional love. Using personal stories and a bit of nostalgia, this episode will give you powerful insight into the breakthroughs that come when you invite God into your mess. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

We know that sobriety and freedom are not the same thing. Sobriety is behaviorally focused, freedom is inner focused. One can be sober, but not free. Yet one who is free will eventually become sober. But when you start to have some success – how do you tell if you are sober or free? Today's episode answers this question in-depth while providing markers that indicate which side you have landed on as you pursue healing and recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Helen Taylor is the Vice President of Impact for Exodus Cry, an organization committed to abolishing sex trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation. They are known for their award-winning documentaries and wildly successful activism campaigns against exploitation in pornography. On today's episode, Helen and Sathiya discuss the intrinsic link between pornography and sex trafficking, detailing 4 specific ways that even the slightest porn consumption feeds sex trafficking around the globe. They also discuss the importance of protective legislation, especially for children and women, and redefining consent in today's modern era of smartphones, tablets, and 24/7 internet access. Sign The Petition To Protect Children From Porn Make A Donation Find our more about Exodus Cry Get a FREE copy of my bestselling blueprint for porn addiction recovery, The Last Relapse

Many men who want to be free of porn also simulataneously enjoy it. In this odd paradox, many men accuse themselves of being "perverted" or "messed up", when in reality, this is a very normal experience. Today's episode explains WHY this dynamic exists and how embracing it can actually lead to healing and strength along the way. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

In a culture and social climate that is daily conditioning us for instant gratification, we are finding it harder and harder to embrace the uncomfortable and inconvenient. Today's episode explains the less-discussed underbelly of instant gratification and the way it is wreaking havoc on our overall quality of life. It also outlines a very simple practical step you can exercise on a daily basis that will re-condition your mind to delay gratification and make better decisions. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

We know that the enemy lies and accuses us to pull us away from the truth. We know that he regularly bombard us with thoughts, schemes, and reasonings that oppose the truth of God. So instinctively, we try to identify the inciting events and heal from them. This may be trauma recovery, inner healing, etc. Today's episode explores why sometimes we can heal from traumas of our past, have moments of breakthroughs, and then fall back to where we were before. The secret sauce is in the text of Ephsians 6. Enjoy! Check out my interview on CTV Your Morning! Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

In today's episode, Sathiya gives rare insight into how he vets clients for DeepClean, including a question he typically asks applicants that often evokes a strong emotional response – including tears sometimes! While it is an evocative question, it must be answered if you are a man who is serious about overcoming compulsive sexual misbehavior. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Tamara Rosier, PhD, is the founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, where she and her staff work with individuals with ADHD (and their families) to learn strategies and develop new skills to live effectively with ADHD. Dr. Rosier is also the president of the ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO). Her book, Your Brain’s Not Broken, discussed strategies for managing the emotional aspects of ADHD. In today's interview, she discusses the inextricable link between ADHD and addiction, why you must slow down and become emotionally aware before you begin the healing process, and insight into how someone with ADHD experiences Church (absolutely fascinating). She also provides practical steps that you can take if you think you might have ADHD or if you have ADHD but are still struggling to regulate it. If you're looking for more guidance, I highly recommend checking out Dr. Tamara Rosier's book, Your Brain's Not Broken. For more updates, visit her website https://www.tamararosier.com/ Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Relational conflict is an inevitability – as long as there are people on the planet, there will be conflicts too. Building skills to resolve conflict is one of the most preventative ways to quit porn. Many men choose to watch porn because they cannot resolve conflicts in their key relationships. Other times, it is simply the distress of ongoing on conflicts that drive compulsive sexual behavior. Today's episode explores these dynamics, and explains why resolving conflict with the intent to let the other person know how you feel is a futile endeavor. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

The million dollar question for most Christians today is, "What's my purpose?" This episode is designed to give you an overarching concept of how to define purpose, and three critical questions that will help you acknowledge or refine the call God has placed on your life. This is a challenging subject for many, but one that must be addressed head on to experience fulfillment and freedom in life. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

You may have heard the statement "Everything happens for a reason" as consolation for a difficult experience or to provide some optimism that things will work out even though they look bleak. While this statement is typically made from a good place, it implies intent, usually on God's part. This is not only a dangerous way to think, it is wrong, and it can often leave parts of our past unresolved. Today's episode explores an alternative way to settle difficult moments and why it is so critical in furthering your recovery journey. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

If you grew up with rigid rules around your behavior, you have likely been conditioned to avoid, suppress, and ignore anything that is "bad" or "negative." While this can effectively curb behavior, there is no joy in the process and the fruit of such an endeavor is often minimal. Today's episode uses a recent case study to examine the power of giving someone with a rigid upbringing permission to watch porn and how it empowered him to choose against it. If your solutions so far have been will power, white-knuckling, and denying porn as an option, you will find some liberating truths in this episode. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Samuel Abraham Perez is a former gay stripper turned whole hearted follower of Jesus. After being involved in a homosexual lifestyle and experiencing severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, God found Samuel and his life has never been the same. His mission is to preach his testimony and experiences of his life in the LGBTQ community to believers and non-believers, hoping to inspire others that the love of God is transformational and correcting. Today's interview is absolutely loaded with Samuel's testimony, learning how to manage same-sex attraction (SSA) while being a Christian, whether or not someone with same-sex attraction can get married, and many other subtopics around this subject. If you struggle with SSA, this interview is for you. If you do not struggle with SSA, this interview is for you too. There is lots to learn as Samuel unpacks his testimony and recants how God has helped him live fully devoted to him while still working out his sanctification. Visit Samuel Perez website for more updates Follow Samuel Perez's Instagram Account @samuelabrahamp Watch and Subscribe to Samuel Perez's YouTube channel SamuelPereztv Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

While it may be easy to chalk up Will Smith & Chris Rock's Oscar incident to celebrity shenanigans, the reality is what took place exposed parts of our society that must be addressed. Today's episode explains the importance of men appropriately stepping into the role of protecting loved ones, and why violence never solves the problem. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

The word "love" is thrown around all the time, but have you ever wondered what it really means? How can you love your wife and also "love" Doritos? Today's episode deep dives into the 4 kinds of love, the difference between giving and receiving love, and why showing up in a relationship for love is very different than showing up from love. Discover Your Love Language Profile (No Charge) Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Have you ever found yourself wide awake at night even though your body is tired and you knew you needed sleep? This phenomenon is becoming commonplace for many with the rise in stress levels and screen usage amongst our many devices. Today's episode provides a novel way to condition your brain for rest on a regular basis, and why lighting control just might be the missing link in your nighttime routine. For night time routine, listen to Episode 62 - Winning The Night Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Communication is one of the best indicators of relationship quality. When the communication is happening often and in a healthy manner, the relationship itself is typically healthy. The same is true for miscommunications or a lack thereof. Today's episode explores healthy communications patterns in arguably the most important relationship of all – the relationship with self. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Richard and Brittni have been married for six years. They are parents, pastors, authors, and co-founders of LoveAlwaysMinistries.com - a ministry that helps people find freedom from porn while pursuing purity of heart. On today's interview, they sit down to talk with Sathiya about S-E-X. The good parts, challenging parts, and everything in between. Specifically, the conversation talks about what it was like for Richard to process Brittni's past as a porn star, how he explained the relationship to his Christian parents when they started dating, and keys that have helped them have a healthy sex life in their marriage. They also get into purity culture and the value that is often overlooked when the word "purity" comes up. Visit LoveAlways Ministries Website for more updates Learn LoveAlways Ministries Single and Porn-free Courses Listen To Let's Talk About Purity Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Today's episode continues from yesterday's Episode 243, detailing the importance of loving what you create, based on the creation story in Genesis 1. God loved what He created because He loved himself. The more you and I learn to love ourselves, the more we will love what we produce. This episode ends with a humorous story of Sathiya crying on a plane at the absolute worst time and an expert tip for the creative process. Listen to Episode 243 - Creativity For Men, pt 1 Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

We have made a huge mistake in our society of reducing creativity to artistry. The reality is that all are naturally creative, but few are creative naturally. Today's episode explains why this disconnect exists, and some practical ways to tap more into your creative potential. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Introspection is a beautiful thing. It allows us to understand ourselves better, piece together parts of our past, and ultimately grow. But as history often shows, you can have too much of a good thing. Today's episode explains the catch 22 of introspection – we must use it to facilitate our recovery process, yet it can hinder our recovery if it is overdone. Beware of this balancing act as you embark on the recovery journey. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

In the early years of adulthood, hobbies are more or less built into our lives. But as careers develop and families begin to grow, without intentionality hobbies typically fall to the wayside. This is a huge travesty, as hobbies provide cushioning between stimulus and response, and conditioning to create separation between responsibilities and roles in our live. Both of these are vital for long-term freedom, and today's episode explains why (while offering many examples of a hobby you could begin today). Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

Matt Dobschuetz is a bestselling author and the host of Porn Free Radio, a top-rated self-improvement podcast with over 2 million downloads. He regularly coaches men from around the world through issues concerning business, relationships, and of course, porn addiction. In this unique interview, Matt and Sathiya take turns interviewing each other, going back and forth about their recent experiences of writing and publishing books, the importance of loving your creative works, business building, and a random tangent about music from the 90s. Visit Recovered Man Website for more updates of Matt Dobschuetz. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.

The value of hard work cannot be overstated in today's hustle culture. We know that hard work yield great results. But hard work alone is rarely enough. If you work hard climbing the wrong ladder, it doesn't matter how hard you worked – you won't get the desired outcome. Today's episode explains the importance of discerning the "right" ladder to climb in the recovery journey, to ensure your efforts are well spent. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse. Join DeepClean Inner Circle, a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you.