Man Within Podcast

Self-love has become a mainstream term, often referring to prioritizing one's well-being to avoid compassion fatigue, burnout, and low self-esteem. Today's episode challenges this concept with a deeper layer of the subject: Self-like. While we can all learn to love ourselves in principle, learning to like ourselves is a much deeper level of self-approval, but it also requires much more work. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Roughly 10% of men and 14% of women admit to having same-sex attraction, yet only a small percentage of each group identifies as gay/lesbian. Today's three-way conversation with Shane O'Neill (Proven Men Ministries), Drew Boa (Husband Material) and Sathiya talks about experiencing same-sex attraction as a heterosexual man, why our binary approach to sexuality often creates a lot of confusion in Christian circles, and why sexual fluidity and hetero-fluidity are necessary concepts for us to truly make sense of our God-given attraction. Regardless of your sexual orientation, this episode is worth a listen if you want to better understand your own attractions, curiosities, and thought life with a Bible-based and research-backed lens. Listen to: Episode 147 - The (Broken) Link Between Sexual Interest and Orientation Follow Husband Material, Proven Ministries, and Sathiya on Instagram Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Classic psychology has taught us to encourage positive behaviors with reward and discourage negative behaviors with consequence. While this will forever hold true, today's episode offers a secondary dimension to this principle - rewarding and discouraging mindsets through the same means (reward and consequence). All behaviors are the results of thoughts, if you can focus on mindsets first and behaviors second, you will become more powerful in your execution and more agile in the many seasons of life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

While it takes tremendous courage for someone with an addiction to step out and ask for help, it is only one half of the equation when you're married. Often our partners suffer in silence or believe they do not need the help since they are not the ones with the problem. Today's episode explores avenues for healing that are available to partners of addicts, outlining the realities of betrayal trauma and why marriages often are much healthier when BOTH partners receive healing. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Temptations are like fire alarms - you can take the batteries out of the alarm, but it doesn't put out the fire. Our response to temptations matters more than anything else. While traditionally, Christians have been taught to suppress and deflect temptations as they pop up, the stronger response is to lean in and understand why it's there in the first place. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Life has its shares of interruptions – some are welcome and enjoyable, others are stressful and unplanned. Today's episode talks about why it is important to keep recovery momentum at all times, regardless of the interruption. Having a mindset that is geared towards momentum allows you to LEVERAGE the interruption to propel your recovery, while ensuring the interruption itself is still looked after. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Jeeva & Sulojana same spoke for a grand total of 15 minutes before deciding to marry each other. Eight days later they were officially married. Thirty-nine years and three children later, they are sought-after marriage coaches helping husbands and wives around the world heal and grow. In today's live interview, Sathiya gets a chance to ask his parents in-depth questions about how their marriage came to be, what we can learn from the arranged marriage model in a society that has increasing divorce rates, why trying to be "the one" is better than trying to find "the one", common pitfalls that couples run into, and solutions for any and every marriage to be healthy and thriving. Get a copy of The Unbreakable Marriage: How to stand in unity and withstand adversity Follow @Marriage_Mentors for more updates Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

We all have an ethnic history that has shaped the person we have become. In recovery, these elements have likely provided challenges in our development mentally and sexually, while also providing positives in our sense of community, values, and belonging. Today's episode explains why we must eat the meat and spit out the bones when it comes to working through our ethnic identity during recovery. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

It's not every day that you get to paraglide off a mountain in the Swiss Alps. Today's episode explains what this wild experience was like while offering a few profound insights on the concept of fear that you can apply to your life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

In our excitement to achieve goals like recovery, sometimes we make the mistake of rushing in without thinking things through. This usually causes bursts of progress and excitement, followed by frustration and disappointment once the results taper off. Today's episode explains why doing things right is always better than doing things twice, and specifically what it means to do the recovery process "right". Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovery has its classic withdrawal symptoms, regardless of the addiction. But porn addiction also has unique withdrawal symptoms that are not commonly discussed. Today's episode provides 3 obscure withdrawal symptoms that we have observed in our client base. If you are in recovery, the more prepared you are for these, the better off you'll be. Withdrawal symptoms include: 1) Nocturnal emissions 2) New Addictions 3) Physical reactions Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Cole Zick is passionate about seeing the church come together to be effective and thrive in every area of life. He and his wife Caitlin currently serve as directors of Moral Revolution in Redding, California. With fifteen years of marriage and ministry experience, they openly share their story and first years of sex in marriage hoping to start a healthy conversation and ultimately see others find freedom through their experience. In this interview, Cole deep dives into the healing process he and Cait went through when sex was unenjoyable the first 6 years of their marriage, including an 18 month abstinence period. He also discusses why pornography is the biggest disaster of the 21st century, practical ways parents can talk to their kids about sex (even if your children are adults now), and what it will take for culture to value sexuality through a biblical lens again. Cole Zick has been working on "Date Well Men" which is still in production phase, for more details visit Moral Revolution's website Follow @moralrevolution on Instagram Subscribe to his Youtube channel @moralrevolutioninc Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode explores 6 class mistakes that men make when recovering. Avoiding these mistakes along will put you in the top 1% of people recovering and significantly accelerate the healing journey. These mistakes are: 1) RELY on internet filters 2) Try to do it alone 3) Hoping you'll magically wake up one day and be free 4) Setting the bar too high too quickly 5) Streak counting 6) Bragging about your progress too soon Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Anger is the emotion men are given the most permission to express. While anger is in fact a healthy emotion, we must ensure that we are handling it appropriately, specifically in a way that is neither domestic nor docile. When anger is processed, it usually involves something personal (journaling, creative arts, talking to someone, etc) and something physical (working out, going for a walk, massage, etc). Today's episode unpacks this concept with several examples to give you a handle on your experience of anger. Listen to Episode 58 - Anger Management 101 Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

One of the greatest learning experiences from trauma of the past is preventing future traumas from having the same impact. Today's episode explains practical steps that we can take to prevent present and future traumas, specifically the importance of ignoring the voice of fear and taking counterintuitive action as soon as possible. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Some research suggests that up to 50% of our memory is fabricated. Why? Because we feel the need to insert details that will evoke the same level of emotional response we had in the initial incident. These dynamics can make healing from trauma more tricky. Today's episode explores these elements in greater detail, while explaining that even if a memory is primarily fabricated, if it had an impact on you it must be addressed. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Harry is a former varsity swimmer turned mental health advocate and the host of The Mental Corner Podcast; a podcast where he brings on guests from all walks of life to discuss the good, the bad and the inspiring in the world of mental health in hopes of educating and reassuring listeners that (as cliché as it sounds) you really are never alone in your struggles. Today he joins Sathiya to talk about his tumultuous history with mental health and how he managed to find a place of peace and well-being. Topics include: defining suicidal ideation, why his first 6 attempts at therapy were terrible, how one friend changed the trajectory of his life, body dysmorphia, athlete pressure, comparison culture, and his love-hate relationship with technology. Listen to Mental Corner Podcast Follow @thementalcorner on Instagram and Facebook for more updates Email Harry Potvin for inquiries Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Vulnerability has two dark sides: fake vulnerability (where someone shares "vulnerably" but it doesn't actually cost them anything) and over-vulnerability (where someone shares at a level that is inappropriate for the situation/relationship). Today's episode explores this dynamic in greater depth while explaining that the environment and the relationship should always be the determinants for the degree of vulnerability a situation requires. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's podcast explains the mindset that is required to pursue recovery without getting caught up in some of the common pitfalls like streak counting. When you prioritize resolving root issues, the focus shifts from external measures to internal progress. While it is harder to quantify, there are certain signposts and indicators that you can monitor to ensure you are on the right track to making a full recovery. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode talks about the beauty of Imago Dei and what it means for us in our personal development. In some seasons, we get to know God more and in the process discover more of ourselves. It's the inevitable result when you pursue the God whose image you are made in. Alternatively, other seasons we discover more of ourselves, and learn more about God in the process. Regardless of which season you are in, this episode will inspire you to embrace it to the fullest. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Inspired by a recent client's question, this episode outlines some basic concepts and parameters to consider when discussing sexual brokenness with your loved ones. This is a complex aspect of recovery with many moving parts, and it is important to do it well for your own well-being and the sake of your key relationships. It is highly recommended that you seek professional counsel concerning this matter. Listen to Episode 290 - Geoff Steurer on Proper Disclosure Protocol, Helping Your Partner Work Through Betrayal Trauma, and Why Restored Marriages Are So Powerful Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Shannon Ethridge is a million-copy best-selling author, international speaker, certified life coach, and advocate for healthy sexuality with a master’s degree in counseling/ human relations from Liberty University. She boldly speaks to high school and college students, single adults, and married couples about embracing a lifestyle of sexual integrity, overcoming past sexual & emotional baggage, cultivating genuine intimacy in marriage, and instilling sexual values in young children. In today's episode she and Sathiya talk about how to interpret sexual fantasies, and why they may not be as detrimental as you think. In fact, Shannon makes an argument that if you truly understand the origins of your sexual fantasies, you can leverage them to strengthen your sexual experiences whether you're single or married. Shannon also shares about whether not masturbation is a sin, several case studies of former clients who were able to heal from sexual trauma and have thriving sex lives, what women really experience when they are engaging in sex, and necessary paradigm shifts the church must make to truly enjoy sex again. To know more about Shannon Ethridge, you can visit her website and read her books. For individual and couples coaching, you can schedule your session here Here's how you can join her 4-day intensive workshops for women and couples Follow @officialshannonethridge for more updates! Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Peace is one of the most underrated subjects in the Kingdom of God. This episode explains why Biblical peace is one of the greatest resources we have access to and if stewarded properly, can increase on a regular basis. Whether you are stressed up to your ears or live a relatively simple life, this episode will help you walk in a greater measure of peace. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Hearing God's voice is a paramount component of the DeepClean methodology. Today's episode explores some of the finer details concerning the concept and what it looks like practically to "hear" the voice of the living God on a regular basis. It is highly recommend you listen to episode 343 before listening to this episode to have more context. Listen to Episode 343 - Why Journaling Literally Changes Lives Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

The reason most fail to recover from porn addiction is not because of a lack of knowledge, resource or execution – often times it is because of a lack of hope. Somewhere along the way, we become convinced that our efforts aren't enough, the solutions we've picked won't work for us, and we wonder if anything will ever work. Today's episode provides 5 indicators that reveal you are on the right track in your recovery efforts. This list is not comprehensive, but should give you a decent idea of whether or not you have good reason to feel hopeful as you progress to lasting freedom. 1) Better responses to relapses 2) More comfortable engaging inner life 3) More comfortable sharing inner life with others 4) Improved confidence 5) The presence of joy Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovery whack-a-mole is when you try one solution for a while before bouncing to the next one, then the next one, and so on. Today's episode is an exhortation to stop playing recovery whack-a-mole and instead dial in on a solution that is going to properly tackle the root issues and resolve the addiction once and for all. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode features two DeepClean coaches, Henry Brown and Stuart Harrison, who spend time every week helping men resolve the root issues of porn and masturbation. In this interview we discuss common mistakes men make recovering (including many mistakes that we made ourselves), the solutions that are clearly working the most effectively today, and practical ways someone can get started on the journey. The conversation then shifts to discuss the role of the local church in all of this, as Henry & Stuart currently are local church pastors. This interview includes stories, knowledge, and practicality, all guaranteed to leave you inspired, hopeful and equipped to experience lasting freedom. Enjoy! Listen to Husband Material Podcast Listen to Pure Desire Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovery requires both skill acquisition and character development, however both are acquired through different means. Skills are taught, which means anyone can develop the necessary abilities to make a full recovery. Meanwhile character is caught, in other words, it is most developed by being around people of good character (ref 1 Corinthians 15:33). You must be certain that your recovery approach does not confuse the two – skills are not caught, and character is not best taught. Ideally, your recovery solution will involve a conglomerate of both – learning skills while being surrounded by men of character that are able to push you in both areas. The episode ends with an opportunity to assess which of these areas requires more attention in order for you to move past your current barrier into the next layer of freedom. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

A follow-up to Episode 347, today's content deep dives into why we must have both the memory of an elephant and a goldfish if we want to make a long-term recovery. The memory of an elephant allows us to be conscious of our strengths, to learn from our past mistakes, and to ensure that we stay wise. The memory of a goldfish allows us to avoid regret and to ensure that no mistake of the past lingers. Using Steph Curry as a case study, today's episode will show you how to harness the power of your memory in a way that launches you towards a place of lasting freedom. Listen to Episode 347 -Elephants and Golfish - A Trip Down Memory Lane, pt. 1 Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovery has obvious elements like developing self awareness, heart healing, identity formation, etc. But many of the long-term success stories are marked by intangibles, one of which is memory. Today's episode explores the impact of memory in both addiction development and recovery, and how we can manage our memories in a way that allows us to move forward. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Few spiritual practices are more useful than discerning the voice of God. God is always talking, the question is - are we listening? Today's episode explores a simple 3-step framework for hearing God's voice, offering examples and practical insights. While the idea of hearing from God may be taboo or strange to some, if you are genuinely interested in growing in intimacy with God, this episode will help you tremendously. Listen to Episode 99 - The Value of Hearing God's Voice In Recovery Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Shane O'Neill is the Editorial Director from Proven Ministries—a non-profit that creates resources for sexual integrity. Shane is also the host of The Naked Gospel podcast. He has a graduate degree in apologetics and is working on another degree in counseling. Shane is married to Kaylee and they live in Virginia. On today's podcast, Shane opens up about developing multiple addictions to cope with life challenges as a young man, what it looks like to practically become more like Jesus, and why exhibiting vulnerability regularly is so much more work (and more rewarding) than doing it occasionally. Listen to Naked Gospel Podcast Visit Proven Men's Website for more information Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Focusing on Romans 12, today Sathiya breaks down the biblical response for handling those that mistreat and demean us. We know that life is not perfect, and that every day we are working with imperfect people. Regardless of what has been done to you, or how you have been treated, today's episode offers a way out to come through the experience stronger than ever. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

We highly recommend you listen to the previous episode (Episode 342) before listening to this. As a follow-up from how to perceive and process emotions, today's episode explains why journaling is one of the most powerful ways a man can process. Specifically, journaling is two-dimensional processing because you are both thinking and writing it and journaling offers you a safe environment to completely transparent without any risk of judgement or rejection. This episode will help you grow in emotional intelligence and offer a practical way to start processing pent-up emotions. Episode 99 - The Value of Hearing God's Voice In Recovery Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Our pull towards binary thinking often leads to black-and-white terms. Hot or cold, yes or no, free or addicted, positive or negative, etc. In some contexts, this thinking is useful, however, when it comes to emotions a new paradigm is required. Today's episode explores the gamut of emotions that a man will experience in his life while offering practical ways to perceive and process them. Feel Wheel Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode offers a spiritual viewpoint on the tension between Jesus coming "any day" without becoming complacent. We must be judgement ready because we do not know the day or the hour, but we do not want fear to drive our desire to get free either. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Mike Signorelli is the founding pastor of V1 Church, the fastest-growing church in America according to INJOY Stewardship Solutions. He is the founder of a college, a marriage support network, emotional intelligence equipping for leaders, and Operation Impact - a non-profit that spreads radical generosity through partnership. On the podcast today, Mike does a deep dive into the deliverance aspect of pursuing freedom. Using a sound theological approach coupled with the experiential power of the Holy Spirit, Mike provides practical and principled insights into tackling the spiritual roots that often undergird sexual sin. We talked about the difference between free and free indeed, a biblical model for repentance, and why not everything bad in our life is caused by demons. Pastor Mike will have a new book out called "From Chaos To Clarity" for more details visit Mike Signorelli's website Follow @Mikesignorelli_on Instagram Subscribe to his Youtube channel @mikesignorellinyc Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

If you are not yet married and desire to, there is nothing you can do better at this stage than rid yourself of any sexual sin in your life - your future spouse will thank you for it! Today's episode explores three benefits of recovery that translate well into dating. If you are married already, this episode will still provide some insights into useful by-products of recovery that will improve your marriage. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

While our human nature tends to avoid pain, conflict and difficulty, the truth is that our innate desire for character, integrity and right-standing cannot exist without them. Today's episode explains why trials necessitate persevering, and how it is in our ability to persevere that we obtain character. If you are on any kind of journey in your life, this episode is a reminder that as long as you don't quit, you win. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

For years we have all heard that we are to handle life "like a man" – whether it's pain, hardship, or leadership. Today's episode explores where these ideas come from, why they have become problematic in our society, and what it really looks like for men to handle pain in a useful way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode is inspired by the example of a well-known Christian leader whose wife recently passed away. Often time we learn the most about people amidst trials and difficulty. Today's episode is a great reminder that surrender evokes the greatest level of change in the life of the believer. If you have hit a wall or are finding it tough to gain breakthrough, surrender just might be the secret sauce missing from your solution. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Dr. Bruce & Dr. Toni Hebel are co- authors of Forgiving Forward: Unleashing the Forgiveness Revolution and founders of Forgiving Forward Ministries, leading hundreds of thousands of people through the revolutionary power of forgiveness. In this interview, the Hebels explain why forgiveness can reverse trauma, wounds of the past, and deep pain in a matter of minutes, why Jesus was so adamant about forgiveness, and why forgiveness is NOT a process. Whether you are having a hard time forgiving yourself, forgiving others who have harmed you, or even forgiving God, this interview will provide you with a framework for releasing years of pain in a matter of moments. Check out Forgiving Forward's Website for the Gift of Forgiveness Guide! Follow @ForgivingForward on Instagram and Facebook For more information email [email protected] Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

We often believe that materialistic goods provide authority – media appearances, large followings, cars, money, etc. The truth is, nothing breeds authority like authenticity. We all long for greater authority in our own lives and the domains that God has called us to – walking in authenticity on a regular basis will help you get there faster than anything else. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Have you ever told yourself you "can't" do something? Sathiya explains why this kind of thinking and phraseology often leads us to limiting beliefs, small thinking, and stagnancy in life. Offering a poignant personal example from Sathiya's worship leading days, this episode will open up your mind to new ways of thinking, new opportunities, and newfound inspiration to pursue the goals set before you. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Every human has insecurities – it's how we handle them that truly matters. Today's episode explores the unique dynamics men often encounter with person insecurity while offering practical ways to begin dealing with them. The more secure you become as man, the better you will lead your life. The more men become secure in general, the better we will lead society. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

The Christian life is not easy, often requiring us to trust God in ways that span far beyond anything we could have asked or imagined. Today's episode explains why failing to trust God often leaves us without his protection, and why issues trusting God are often accompanied by smaller more significant issues around fear, expectations, and traumas. If you are looking to grow in your ability to trust God, this episode is for you. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode is a pilot project between Shane O'Neill (Naked Gospel Podcast), Drew Boa (Husband Material) and yours truly. These bi-monthly collaborations will feature candid conversations exploring sexual health and integrity through a biblical, clinical, and anecdotal lens. In this episode, the gang discusses what seems to be working these days in the recovery space, ways that the local church can step up in the future, and a few practical gems that go a long way in the recovery journey for handling fantasies and building self-confidence. Listen to Naked Gospel Podcast Listen to Husband Material Podcast Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle

In a time where people are exhausted, skeptical, and polarized, there has never been a greater need for blessing. Speaking words of blessing over ourselves, friends, family, and enemies is a vital part of fruitfulness as a Christian. This episode provides practical ways to do this, including a few real-life examples. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Humans are visual creatures. While this has given rise to magnificent innovation, art, and technology, it can also be the gateway for sin and sexual misbehavior. Today's episode talks about the power of visual stimuli, offering practical ways to handle it in a godly and healthy way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Failure is a part of life, but how they are framed is make or break. While many see failures as setbacks, they are simply learning opportunities. Today's episode is a stark reminder that if you purpose to learn from your mistakes and use them to devise preventative measures moving forward, they can accelerate the recovery journey. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse