Man Within Podcast

In this thing called life, you will likely encounter a difficult season ever now and then. Today's episode talks about how we can survive difficult seasons, using James 1 as a guide text. You must not make the mistake of rushing through trial, lest you lose on the opportunity to grow character, perseverance, hope and patience. Rather, it is about learning to count it joy in all things that enables us to turn trials into fantastic victories. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Using the story of David & Goliath, today's episode explores why it is so important to find a solution that fits you. When we try to wield the weapons of others, we often become ineffective and incapable of reaching our goals in life. While it takes a bit of trial and error, when you find the right weapons, you become unstoppable. Ready to conquer whatever the Goliath may be in your life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

We've seen a lot of men make a lot of different mistakes over the years in recovery. If you are still pursuing full freedom, today's episode will help you avoid 5 of the most common mistakes that men make in this area. 1) Doing it alone 2) Monitor progress on the insignificant 3) Failing to focus on the internal 4) Getting ahead of themselves 5) Poor problem-solving Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Where there is no vision, the people perish. Today's episode explains why having a vision for your life when you're porn-free is imperative for you to stay on track throughout the rather tumultuous recovery journey. Using specific examples, this podcast will help you better understand why it is so easy to lose sight of the things God has called us to, and how we can keep it our central focus no matter what recovery throws your way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Laura Howe is a registered Social Worker with 13 years experience as a frontline social worker offering therapy, advocacy, and addictions counseling to some of the most marginalized, ill and incredible people in her community. She started an organization called Hope Made Strong to equip the church to better address mental illness and to bridge local communities with the local church. In this conversation, Laura and Sathiya discuss: -Why the church has been slow to discuss mental health openly -Thoughts lead to feelings which lead to behavior -The definition of burnout -How to prevent burnout -Handling church hurt -7 ways to build resilience Find Out More About Hope Made Strong Mental Health Sunday Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Continuing from Episode 484, today's episode talks about residual habits and the dangerous role they play in our recovery. Our habits, rhythms and routines must always serve a purpose. However, as seasons change, sometimes habits become irrelevant or unnecessary but we continue them without realizing it. It is important to regularly take inventory, evaluate, and assess our rhythms to ensure that our practices are aligned with the priorities of the season we are in. Without this process in place, we risk maintaining habits that ultimately dwindle our momentum in recovery. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

In recovery, it is easy to get caught up in the tools, tactics and techniques necessary to reach a place of freedom. While they are important, often times it is the intangibles that make the greatest difference. Today's episode explains why momentum is EVERYTHING in recovery, and why you must steward it appropriately in order to reach your goals. Sometimes it may involve what some consider to be "extreme" measure, but when you view these measures in the context of pursuing momentum, not only do they become reasonable, they become necessary. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Flatlining refers to a period of recovery where you feel numb, apathetic and lethargic. It is often time a part of the earlier phases of recovery when you begin to go longer than usual without a relapse. Today's episode explains flatlining in more detail, offers insights into what is taking place in the brain and body when it takes place, and provides you with useful ways to "leverage" what is an otherwise difficult part of the recovery journey. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

In today's episode, Sathiya throws stones at the phrase "God loves the sinner, but hates the sin" While this statement certainly has truth to it, its usage comes with a lot of risks. Two in particular are addressed: 1) Using this to justify the continuation of sin in our lives 2) Implying the identity of a sinner, rather than that of a saint Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

After years of struggling in isolation to overcome pornography and coming to realize the power of peer-based support, Chandler Rogers founded Relay — an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. Chandler, 25, graduated from BYU in Business Strategy and Computer Science and lives with his wife in Salt Lake City, UT. In this discussion, he and Sathiya discuss: -Why community is so important for recovery -The reason communities are becoming more digital in today's age -The wisdom required to involve phone apps in your recovery journey -Shame-free accountability -The importance in being accountable for behaviors beyond the addiction itself -The development of Relay app and why it is having such an impact Check Out Relay App Follow @joinrelay on Instagram and TikTok Email Chandler Rogers at [email protected] Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Today's episode is for both singles and those in relationships. While some loathe Valentine's Day, the reality is that they matter. You will learn how to approach valentine's day in a health way, while learning how NOT to handle his holiday based on a epic fail Sathiya shares from his personal life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

We know that working through trauma is an important part of the recovery journey. But what happens when no matter what you try, you can't seem to move on? Are you just hopelessly stuck with trauma forever? What if the traumatic situation is ongoing? Today's episode addresses both matters while providing 3 things you can do immediately to change your situation. 1) Give It To God (the right way) 2) Try Something New - You can't expect different results doing the same things 3) Be Patient - Trauma recovery can take 5-10 years Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

February 2023 marks 7 years that Sathiya has been clean from porn! In today's episode, he outlines 7 lessons he's learned that not only helped him get free, they have helped him stay free. 1) The power of close friends 2) The power of community 3) Act first, analyze second 4) Do the hard things first 5) Don't be afraid to ask for help 6) Pay experts for their expertise 7) Never stop giving thanks Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Teaching out of Matthew 5, today's episode breaks down what constitutes lust, why we beat ourselves up unnecessarily when it comes to how we view women, and why it is the intent of the heart that matters most. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Jo Robertson is a qualified sex therapist who has completed her Master of Science in Medicine, with a focus on international consumption rates and impacts of porn on adolescents. Jo has trained health professionals, sexual health and sexual harm services, Police and Corrections staff and school communities on research based porn industry insights, the impacts on young people and navigating healthy conversations around porn. Her TEDx talk ""Why We Need To Talk About Porn"" in 2019 amassed almost 300k views and she regularly speaks on the topic of “youth and porn” In this conversation with Sathiya, they discuss: -Why the man is so influential in helping his wife/partner heal from betrayal trauma -The reason the porn industry targets children as part of their marketing strategy -The interplay of current events and mainstream porn content -Why filters will never be enough to help kids develop sexually -The importance of teaching kids how to think critically about sex -The improvements of ethical porn and why it has strengths -The downside of ethical porn and why it is still an issue -Jo's predictions on how the porn industry changes over the next 20 years Work With Jo Follow Jo on Instagram Resources For Youth Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Friendships are the plumbline of life. This episode explains how to establish and maintain quality friendships that stand the test of time. Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Edging is a neurobiological process that any man pursuing freedom must guard against. Today's episode breaks down edging, explaining why it is so dangerous, and offering practical ways to mitigate its effects to reduce and prevent relapses. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Without a clear understanding of what a feeling is, we actually further our emotional dysregulation and dysfunction. Today's episode explains the importance of defining a feeling so that we do not make the mistake of justifying behavior, attitudes or actions because "that's just how I felt." How you feel matters, so long as what you are communicating is in fact a feeling. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

If you are interested in someone or currently dating, you have probably wondered when the right time is to have "the conversation" with your significant other. Today's episode provides a framework to bare in mind for assessing the correct timing of these conversations AND to ensure that they are done in a way that is positive for the relationship itself. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Larry Hagner is the founder of The Dad Edge, a movement of fathers around the world who are striving to be better for themselves, their wives, and their kids. Larry is known for providing tactical approaches that help men create communication, connection and intimacy in their relationships, while enhancing their overall quality of life in the process. In today's episode, Larry and Sathiya talk about: -Whether it's worse to have an absent father or the presence of an abusive father -The moment as a father where he realized he had become a monster -Healing from father wounds incrementally -The power of acknowledging your mistakes in front of your kids -Why generative questions create psychological safety -Why you need to turn off ""Dad brain"" to protect connection with your kids -Why your wife should give you bold feedback -Quitting porn gives you time to re-invest back into your family Check Out The Dad Edge Free Courses & Resources from The Dad Edge Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Focus continues to be the name of the game for the modern man looking to make a difference in this world. Today's episode is a friendly reminder, using personal examples and stories, to guard your focus and make every effort to protect it at all costs. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

At some point in recovery, you will experience anxiety about a relapse, especially as you make progress. Today's episode outlines 2 areas you must address when experiencing relapse anxiety. The first is the real reason for the anxiety. Typically we resort to "fear of losing progress" or something of that nature, but if you dig a bit deeper you often find other areas that need more attention. Secondly, we want to "fear-set" any anxiety we experience, especially when we make progress. What is the worst case scenario? How would you respond? Would you survive? Often fear-setting is exactly what is needed to give us a lift past the obstacles we're facing. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

With the first month of the year coming to an end, it's about time for a check-in. Today's episode explores 3 areas to assess your progress in 2023 so far – metrics, activity consistency, and relapse response. If you have a clear picture of where you stand in these 3 areas, there's a good chance you'll be able to course correct accordingly to ensure 2023 is the year you kick porn once and for all. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Faking it til you make it has little to no value in most behavioral psychology circles. While it is easy to throw out the concept, today's episode explores some of the hidden truth that can be applied to a recovery context. Calling yourself a "free man" doesn't make you free, but asking questions like "What would a free man do in this situation?" and acting accordingly can begin to shape your thinking until you become the person you long to be. Today's episode explains this dynamic in more detail while offering some examples for you to follow. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Today's special episode features Sathiya's wife, Shaloma, on the podcast for the first time! Shaloma has quietly supported Sathiya behind the scenes, but today you get a chance to hear from Sathiya's far-better half. In this interview/discussion, Sathiya & Shaloma talk about: -What it's like to be married to a former porn addict -Why enduring so much hardship during engagement was a blessing in disguise -How trauma played into health challenges -Why upholding firm boundaries during dating/engagement was so valuable -How wives/women should handled hearing about their partner's struggle with porn Listen To Seasons EP by Shaloma Sam Follow @_shalomasam on Instagram Get Your FREE Copy of The Last Relapse Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

The porn-addicted brain often asks "what can I get away with?" We are used to towing the line and playing with fire. Today's episode explains why we must become intolerant to anything that is remotely dangerous to our recovery, otherwise we risk it developing into something that derails our progress and dominates our lives. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Recovery starts as a seed. While many wait until they hit big milestones, the reality is that every moment you are in recovery is PROGRESS. Today's episode outlines 8 improvements you can expect "instantly" once you begin to quit porn. While some of these changes are in seed form, the point here is that we are not to wait until we hit landmarks to deem our recovery "commendable". The minute you begin you must steward the 'seed' form of the benefits that are coming your way. Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Anyone who has had a struggle with sexual misbehavior wants to change things not only for themselves, but for their lineage. Using his own parents' example, Sathiya explains in this episode that sometimes leading by example is the best way to ensure your lineage walks in the freedom you want for them. Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Sometimes, recovery doesn't work out the way we intended. Either we make progress but not the progress we intended, we find ourselves in the same situation as when we started, or we find our situation worse than when we started. Today's episode explains what to do in each of these situations, and how to know when to stop and when you need to keep on going. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Heidi is a therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma. She is especially passionate about addressing the specific needs of trauma unique to sexual and relational betrayal. Heidi's work with partners of addicts translates across the spectrum of addiction: chemical and process addictions including sex, drugs, alcohol and gambling. Additionally, Heidi works with depression, anxiety, addiction and transition and with clients from youth to later adulthood. If you are in a committed relationship and struggling with a sexual issue, this episode will give you tremendous insight into what your partner is experiencing and what will be required for your relationship to be completely restored. In today's episode, Heidi and Sathiya discuss: -What is ""betrayal trauma""? -The importance of a weekly check-in -FANOS method and why it significantly improves intimacy and connection -Appropriate boundaries for sex and conversation about the addiction -The imperative value of safety -The best part about going through the healing and recovery process Check Out Nova Counseling Email Heidi Directly Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

It's one thing to set priorities for your life, it's another thing to execute. Today's episode explains 4 things to consider when you are looking to set new priorities in your life habitually, including: 1) The importance of integrating with pre-existing routines 2) Starting with the one thing that will have the greatest impact 3) Keeping it small and building up 4) Evaluating longevity Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Today's heartfelt episode is a "letter" to the wife of a struggling husband. Sometimes, men do not have the words or the right skills to explain our side, to bring understanding and ultimately provide hope to our loved ones. If you are a man that has been struggling for a long time and you are sick and tired of hurting your spouse with your struggle, this episode is something you should listen to for yourself first and then share with your spouse. This episode provides empathy and understanding to the wives, an explanation of the man's side and why he cannot quit even though he wants to, and recovery indicators that a wife can search for in her husband's situation. Book A Time With Sathiya's Team More Resources For Wives

Effective solutions are always measured by their philosophy/approach to recovery. A challenge many face is choosing something that appears different, when in reality it is the same dogma packaged differently. Today's episode explains what to look for in an effective solution, highlighting different examples of what NOT to do when you are looking for something new. Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Vulnerability is the name of the game when it comes to healing the heart, but what happens when you put yourself out there and feel naked and raw afterwards? Today's episode explains how to go about vulnerability with wisdom, and an easy way to recover/debrief after you choose to be vulnerable. Listen to Episode 12 - Man's Secret Weapon (on journaling) Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Sara Makin is the founder & CEO of Makin Wellness, Pennsylvania's #1 rated online counseling company. Under her leadership, Makin Wellness has established a proven track record of successfully shaping the mental health market & driving mental health transformation by executing on their mission of helping millions of people heal & become happy again. She has been featured in major media outlets including NBC, ABC, FOX, The CW, International Business Times, The Scientific Journal and hundreds more media sources internationally. In today's comprehensive interview, Sara and Sathiya discuss: -The prevalence of anxiety since COVID-19 -Simple ways to resolve relational conflict -The importance of being able to label your emotions -How to pick the right counselor/therapist (and how to avoid the wrong ones) -How to know identify a narcissist Find A Therapist at Makin Wellness Listen to Stuff My Therapist Says Call 833-274-HEAL Get Your Copy of The Last Relapse

A common concern among those struggling with sexual sin is whether or not God is holding things back due to their struggle. Blessings, increase, reward, favor, etc. Today's episode tackles the subject head on, using scripture to explain that "acquiring" God's blessings is not conditional upon our behavior, but our ability to sustain them is. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

While there is no such thing as a quick fix in recovery, there is such a thing as concentrated seasons of growth and breakthrough. Today's episode explains how to approach these short term bursts/seasons that often expedite the process, and specifically explains why these 3 things are the easiest way to do so: 1) Cold showers 2) Talking to someone 5 mins/day 3) Eliminate distracting input Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

It may not always feel like it, but the reality is that putting in the work to accomplish ANYTHING, recovery included, is worship unto God. Today's episode dives into the scriptural connection between work and worship, reminding us that in all things we do, we are to do it as unto the Lord. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Regular check-ins are incredibly valuable if you long to make progress in any area of your life, recovery included. Today's rare episode is a check-in to see how you are really doing with recovery so far in 2023 while offering some prompts that may help address any challenges you're experiencing so far. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Seth Dahl is a writer and worldwide speaker to adults and children. He is known for his powerful wisdom communicated through a contagious joy and childlikeness. Seth loves to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. In this interview today, Seth and Sathiya cover: -How to change your lineage and future generations no matter how badly you've messed up -The difference between discipline and punishment -What it really means to "honor your father and mother" -Why it's easier to raise healthy kids than repair broken adults -The power of hassle time to deal with temperamental children Check out Seth Dahl's New book: Designing God's Home (comes with masterclass) Visit sethdahl.com Sign up for email at his socials @sathdahl on Instagram & Facebook Subscribe to his YouTube channel @TheDahlHouse Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

It is impossible to sin apart from believing a lie. Today's episode explains why our faith in the TRUTH is incredibly powerful and ultimately what drives us to live in a way that is pleasing to God. If you find yourself stuck in sin or unable to make progress, it is likely because a lie has infiltrated your belief system. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Typically when people quit porn or other sexual misbehavior cold turkey, the brain begins to edge. This process refers the brain seeking other ways to experience dopamine/pleasure without 'crossing the line'. Today's episode explains whether or not this counts as a slip, and practical ways to deal with edging in the heat of a moment. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Today's episode explores the concept of having a 'Word for the year' – essentially, a theme that the year will focus on for you. While it is easy to immediately resort to your own desires, wants and needs, the best way to accomplish this practice is by seeking God's insight and counsel. Using a personal experience with God that took place in the night, Sathiya details a process for identifying your word of the year and why this can be so impactful as you pursue your goals. 12 - Man's Secret Weapon Journaling Prompt 1: "What do you have in store for this year?" Journaling Prompt 2: "What is your word over my life for 2023?" Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Your goal should not be to start 2023 clean. That is too easy. The question is how do you FINISH the year clean? And while this require a bit more thought, it just might be the question that unlocks unbelievably clarity on what is required for you to finally quit porn for good in the year ahead. While everyone's journey looks different, today's episode explains that your solution must involve 2 elements: A proven system and consistency over long periods of time. If you only have one or the other, you simply delay failure. Listen to Episode 438 - New Year Resolution Hack: Start Now Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

DeAngelo Moss is a man on a mission to deliver a message of freedom to his generation. Known for his fearless and uncompromising approach to God’s Word, DeAngelo believes that the understanding and practice of biblical principles is the key to living a successful life. DeAngelo is founder of Free By Truth - a ministry dedicated to providing biblically based solutions for overcoming the use of pornography. In today's interview, DeAngelo and Sathiya talk about: - Why how you identify is critical for recovery -The dynamics of freedom -The value of walking in the spirit -Why counting streaks is irrelevant -The unmistakable value of a truth-based mindset Follow DeAngelo on Instagram Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Using a recent example in his own life, Sathiya explains in today's episode why trusting the gentle whispers of the Holy Spirit can open doors that you wouldn't ordinarily be able to open. This is a great reminder to never ignore the gentle prompts of the Holy Spirit, no matter how unorthodox or unordinary they may be. Buy Porn No More Course Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

In today's episode, Sathiya explains why he only read one book for the whole year, and the dramatic improvements he experienced in several areas of his life as a result. In the age of information overload, practices like these sometimes are necessary to consolidate the information intake, otherwise we risk an imbalance of information and implementation. While many believe knowledge is power, the truth is that knowledge is potential. Knowledge with action is real power. 231 - Why I'm Only Reading One Book This Year (Other Than The Bible) Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Identity is commonly thrown around in recovery circles. We know that if your identity shifts, then your attitude and behaviors will follow. But no one talks about WHY identity shifting is so powerful. Today's episode explains how identity shifts cause changes in perspective, and there in lies the "secret sauce". When your perceptions begin to change, that's when you can be confident that the decision-making processes and behaviors will follow. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Christmas is not wonderful for everyone, but whether you are loving this season or dreading it, today's episode will help you ensure you get the most out of the time the lies ahead. Specifically we focus on 3 practices: 1) Planning for difficult situations that we know we'll encounter 2) Maintaining regular rhythms as best as possible 3) Scheduling time to have meaningful conversation Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraq Combat Veteran, and the founder of Order of Man. Ryan was raised without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has negatively impacted society. His podcast, Order of Man, has been downloaded over 20,000,000 times, he has a social media presence of over 500,000 men, and thousands of men have successfully completed his online and live workshops, courses, and events. In today's interview, Ryan and Sathiya talk about: -Why men are starved for community -The difference between being a man and being masculine -How to turn seemingly negative masculine qualities into strengths that better society -The importance of leadership as a man -Why mentorship and connection are critical for a man's success in this day and age. Listen to Order of Man Podcast Read The Masculine Manifesto by Ryan Michler Apply For The Iron Council Get Your FREE Copy of The Last Relapse Book A Time With Sathiya's Team