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This week Kat is diving into how being authentic and being vulnerable became more than just a road toward freedom within our own stories. These days, authenticity and vulnerability for some people... are marketing strategies. How did we get here and how do we tell the difference between what is actually authentic authenticity versus performative... well this week's episode is a good place to start. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your boss a narcissist or are they just a jerk? If you’re asking yourself this question than this week’s episode is calling your name. Honestly, these days the word narcissist is thrown around so much that it is almost losing it’s true me meaning. The good news: Kat is on a mission to help us understand what is just mean and harmful behavior and what it actually looks like to be in a relationship (specifically at work) with someone who might fit the criteria for malignant narcissism. disclaimer: This podcast is not a replacement for mental health services and does not have the ability to diagnose or treat any person for mental health needs. This episode specifically does not and can not serve as means to help listeners diagnose or treat others or themselves with narcissistic personality disorder or any mental illness. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat answers a question regarding what to do when a parent continues to react in irrational ways when you spend time with them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Justin Baldoni (@justinbaldoni) on the show to talk about some of the harmful messages that our culture's idea of masculinity creates. Justin recently came out with a book titled, Man Enough and has started the Man Enough Podcast in an effort to further undefine masculinity and offer freedom to those who have been hurt by the current popular beliefs of what being a man looks like. In this episode you will hear about some of those beliefs and gain a better understanding of why we need to start shifting how we view masculinity. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat reads an email from a listener asking how to approach a friend who has been giving feedback that feels invalidating. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Dylan Murphy RD, LDN joins Kat for the second time! Dylan Murphy is a registered dietitian and founder of The Free Method. She also happens to be one of Kat's friends :) In this episode Kat and Dylan talk about the 75 Hard challenge and why it really isn't that different than all the other "challenges" aka undercover diets. They also talk about some of the weird social media trends that made Dylan do a little eye roll as a dietitian. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt from Lori Gotlieb’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, where Lori discusses the ability to separate forgiveness from compassion. In times like these, we often look to find the “right” answers. We focus on what we feel like we should do rather than what we believe is right for us. And Kat leaves us with some questions and thoughts to help move listeners into a space where we can discern those things better! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

​​Today’s guest is Erin S. Lane. Erin is a writer, theologian, and someone other than a mother; which is also the title of her new book. Erin holds a bachelor’s degree from Davidson College and a master’s degree from Duke Divinity School, both with a focus on gender studies. And she is freaking amazing. In this episode we are decoupling a woman’s purpose from her reproductive role. Any woman who even hints she is maybe questioning if she wants to have kids has heard some form of these cultural scripts we discuss in this epsiode. In Someone Other Than a Mother: Flipping the Scripts on a Woman’s Purpose and Making Meaning Beyond Motherhood, Erin S. Lane asks if it is it possible to do something more meaningful than mothering? We always hope that You Need Therapy Podcast continues to provide an opportunity for listeners to discover more than just one way to live a desirable and good life - and this conversation does just that. Follow Erin on Instagram: @heyerinlane Erins website: https://www.erinslane.com/ Purchase Erins Book HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about some new boundaries she is setting for herself when it comes to instagram, and answers a listener question around how therapists maintain their ability to be good at their job when they are also going through personal issues themselves. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on the show Dr. Shona Datta-Thomas and Kat talk about the importance of acknowledging our hormone health as the inevitable aging process happens. In our culture - we try to do anything but age- but when it comes down to it… it’s happening every second. So, what do we need to know and why? How do sleep and exercise playing a role in hormone balance and how does that change as we age? Shoma is a kind soul with a heart to have informative conversations with the patients she works with. It can be tough to find enough time to talk to your doctor about some of these issues in the normal 15 minute windows we are given during appointments so… let this be a starting off point to get you thinking about the questions you may want answers to as you age. Moushumi Shoma Datta-Thomas, MD is a Johns Hopkins trained board-certified aesthetic gynecologist with fellowship specialization in advanced pelvic and vaginal surgery. More than 10 years of experience treating complex GYN conditions has shaped her philosophy to tailor treatment to your individual needs as a woman, combining cosmetic appearance with optimal genital, urinary, and sexual function. she currently serves as the head of Wellness Medicine at Modern Age. Disclaimer: Everyone’s health journey is different so by no means does this podcast serve as medical recommendations for listeners. ● LinkedIn: Shoma Datta - Thomas ● Instagram: @shomadattamd ● Twitter: @dattamd3 Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat addresses a instagram reel/tiktok video that a listener sent in and asked her opinion of. The video stated that therapists are unable to remain neutral when in comes to their work and that you should not only ask your therapist her views but also leave them if your views aren't the same or they won't share their views. Sound controversial? Well, listen to this episode to see just how Kat feels. . . Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you ever write a 10 page paper in college just to have your computer crash as you were clicking save? Well, we had the equivalent happen while recording this week's episode... 59 minutes of content (QUALITY CONTENT) gone in a fLaSh!! So, we are pivoting and using this space to practice asking the question, "What does this make possible." Listen to Kat and Amy Brown talk about how they are learning to make the best out of shitty situations! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat is talking about where the ”line” is when it comes to aesthetic things we do to our bodies. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is answering all those questions that you really wannnntttt to ask your therapist but you’re just a little bit too scared to. Do they like you? What are you writing down? Would you care about me if I wasn’t paying you??? We know you want to know so listen this week and find out! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to [email protected]. This week, Kat addresses why it’s not as easy as it sounds to go from restricting foods to eating them normally with ease.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is taking a break from all things serious and talking seriously about finding pleasure! A life well lived includes a balance of both meaning AND fun. However, often we feel guilty engaging in things just for the heck of it or we can’t even identify what things we like to do just for the sake of doing them. How do we find pleasure? How do we make it a priority? Listen to this week’s episode and grab some of the tips Kat throws in at the end!    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions you send to [email protected]. This week Kat answers 5 different questions with the help of her colleague, Staci Buford.  1. What growth made you most proud of a client? 2. Do any of your clients listen to the podcast? 3. How do you feel about all of the online therapy options? 4. Should you see your therapist for your couples therapist? 5. How much should you be talking in a therapy session vs your therapist?  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is breaking down the 4 reasons she believes diets are not helpful and also just flat out dangerous. There is so much conflicting information in the world about what is healthy, what is unhealthy, and what you should do in order to live the most optimal life you can. So much information, that it is hard to know who to believe. Because of this, Kat is giving you front row tickets to the perspective of an eating disorder therapist. And the truth is, there are many ways that you can choose to "love your optimal life" but we don't think going on a diet will be one of them.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat shares an email from a listener that reminded her of Monday’s episode: Orthorexia + The Whole30. Then Kat talks about how you know when it is time to end therapy or start going less frequently! Breaking Up with People Pleasing Purpose, Passion, and Curiosity    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Orthorexia in its simplest terms means an obsession with healthy eating, and for people who are not immersed in this field, that may not sound like a bad thing because eating healthy isn’t bad. So, this week, Kat is diving into the topic to bring light to what becoming obsessed with the health and quality of the food we consume can do to our mental health. Someone who develops orthorexia most likely doesn’t start out being obsessed but things can take a turn pretty fast not just due to reasons associated with the individual. This issue is very much connected to our culture and the messaging companies and brands use to attract and illicit business and the manipulation involved in how diet culture sells their ideals and products. So, sit tight and get ready to hear how some of the most popular diets and diet buzz words have created a rise in some of the most stealth disordered eating patterns we are currently seeing today.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about appropriate ways to share feedback and or observations with others and when if ever it is appropriate to tell someone that they have an insecure attachment style.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has a VERY special guest on the show to help dip our toes into the world of open conversations about sex. Nicoletta Heideggar, LMFT is here to teach us why talking about it matters, what we gain when we feel permission to learn about our bodies and our sexuality, and how not talking about these things produces unnecessary shame. Nicoletta is a licensed therapist who specializes in sex therapy (what is that? Well we answer that question don't worry!), has a masters in human sexuality, and is pursuing her Ph.D in human sexuality as well! She's about as expert as they come when it comes to this topic… and after this conversation we couldn't be more excited to get her back here for round two!  Follow Nicoletta on instagram: @therapywithnicoletta & @slutsandscholars Learn more about her HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions you send into [email protected]. This week, Kat answers a question about how to best best approach exercise when you are trying to find recovery from an exercise addiction and an eating disorder.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What makes something a cult? And wait a second... are cults all bad? Also, how does someone decide to join a cult? The coerced...are they brainwashed? These were the questions that Kat has been asking the past couple of months and this week, they are the questions she is answering on this episode.  To learn more, check out the articles below Kat used for this episode PLUS Cultish By Amanda Montell Does Brainwashing Exist? What is a cult? What Makes a Cult a Cult?   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat continues the conversation that was started on this past Monday’s episode: Single Adults Aren’t Second Class Citizens. She reads some of the worst dating advice that listeners reported receiving and then offers an alternative approach to supporting someone who is struggling in the dating/relationship realm.     Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most content available around singleness involves either tips and feedback around how to find a relationship, or how to find satisfaction in your life until you find a relationship. It sends the message that your time as a single person is just a waiting period to the life you want. Well, with the continual steady increase of single adults,  Kat thought it was time to create content that postured the idea that – singleness may in fact be a desirable way to live for people.  Single Nation: Why Americans Are Turning Away from Marriage The escalating costs of being single in America The American economy punishes single people. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mother’s Day is supposed to be a positive day that helps us celebrate the women who have raised us and loved us well. And while there is nothing wrong with that, not everyone feels celebratory on Mother’s Day. Some people are grieving, some are hurting; and even if you are a mom who is being celebrated, this day can still be tough. Mother’s Day can be especially challenging when you have a mom who has been neglectful, abusive, or toxic. So this week, we are offering 8 ways to cope with Mother’s Day if you have struggled with an abusive or toxic mother. These tips come from an article written by Peg Streep in which you can find HERE.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've all heard the term, “defense mechanisms” before. You have probably even used this term before. The question is, do we really know what they are and why they even exist? This week, Kat is going to help us figure that out. In this episode, you will learn about the development of defense mechanisms in the field of psychology and get a deeper look into some of the most common ones we see today.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat reads a listener email expressing gratitude for how the podcast helped her feel less alone in a tough part of her life. Then, Kat answered one of her most popular questions: How do you know if your therapist is right for you? And, spoiler alert that should not surprise any of you: the answer isn’t as black and white as we all probably hope.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are millennials lazy? Or are they branded with the toxic hustle culture mentality? Is it true that no one wants to work anymore or is the system we’ve been encouraged to work in, not working? These are the questions, and this week, Kat is trying to find some answers. There has been an increasing negative reputation associated with the work ethic and general mindset of millennials over the past couple of years and as a millennial herself, Kat has started to get tired and confused by it. If we are lazy, she wants to know why and if we aren’t, she wants to know where this conclusion came from. So this week we are diving straight in with some help from two articles that we HIGHLY suggest you read:   Why Are People Pretending to Love to Work by Erin Griffith  How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Helen Anne Peterson   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special Q&A episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every wednesday where listeners can send in questions to [email protected]. This week Kat tackles the highly debated hot topic: What is the difference between a therapist and a coach. With so many self proclaimed “experts” on the internet these days it's hard to tell who to go to for help. It’s confusing, the answer to this question is confusing, AND there is a difference - we promise. Both can be good, both can be helpful, and they are NOT the same.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way.  In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch aTalks is the special bonus epsiode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat talks about  why she is stepping away from teaching indoor cycling and what the hardest part about becoming a therapist was for her! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever heard someone (in particular a therapist) say something like, "Well, what if both could be true at the same time?" For example, you can be both joyful and angry all in the same moment; or you can be grieving the loss of something and be looking forward to a new experience in unison. This week, Kat is breaking down the beliefs behind both/and thinking. This language tool is derived from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which is based on dialectics or the idea that two opposing thoughts or feelings can be true at the same time. Listen this week to learn how something that doesn't make sense can help you make better sense of your experiences, relationships, and feelings.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks a listener through her fears around going back to school and "starting over" in a new field of work after already establishing a successful career in a field she lacks enjoyment in. If you are someone who is on the fence in any kind of situation that might involve "restarting" this episode is one you will want to listen to ... maybe more than once :)  Work Life Blend with Jonathon Fields   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult transitions in their lives. In this conversation you will also hear Shauna and Kat talk about the complexities of setting boundaries for and with yourself so you can live the life you actually want rather than a life that may look "impressive" to others.Follow Shauna on Instagram: @sniequistOrder Shauna's new book: I Guess I Haven't Learned That YetFollow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week, a listener asks if Kat's thoughts on getting therapeutic "advice" from TikTok. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has Heartbreak expert Guy Winch on the show to talk about why broken hearts hurt so freaking much. Guy is a licensed psychologist, author of multiple self help books, cohost of Dear Therapist Podcast, and a keynote speaker with 3 viral Ted Talks. In this conversation, you will hear what happens in your brain as you move through a break up and what Dr. Winch believes is the most effective way to heal the pain of heartbreak. You can learn more about Guy Winch HERE Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat talks about when the appropriate time is to share vulnerable details about yourself to someone you are dating. And she offers a little trick she recently used in her own life to help build some of the foundation needed to create a safe space for intimacy to grow. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is is diving into the ins and outs of closure. Have you ever heard someone say the only person that can give you closure is you? Do we believe this...? Maybe. Or does having concrete answers help us find peace and move on. That is what we are trying to figure out this week. And there may or may not be a plot twist at the end...Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about how to deal with toxic coworkers that make work often, unbearable. She also dives into the difference between comfort and safety and how to use intentional dialogue to engage in healthy confrontations. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week, we are back talking about attachment styles. A listener wonders if her avoidant attachment style may have led her to a relationship where emotional intimacy is hard to come by.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we are spending some time with two Kat's friends and fellow fitness instructors, Shawna Neel (@shawnaneel) and Rose Coppola (@rosebudbody). A couple weeks ago Kat posted something on instagram that caught the attention of A LOT of people in the fitness world. So, she decided it needed to be a conversation. Kat, Shawna, and Rose together discuss what being a fitness instructor really means, how to find empowerment vs. shame and fear in the fitness community, and what to look for when trying to find safe spaces to exercise. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks this week is a bit different. Kat takes a moment to sit in the reality of what is going on in Ukraine and feel the emotions attached. For some of us, that may feel unbearable because of the helpless feelings that tend to come alongside. However, Kat offers a different perspective and ways in which you can help in these very tragic times. Kat's Ukranian friend nailsbykatya.tn, offers ways in which we can help support those being affected by the brutality at play right now. We also suggest giving her a follow on instagram as she is constantly posting reliable news sources so we can stay informed and updates on how we can continue to help... even in ways that may seem small to you!“Stand with Ukraine” general info:https://ukraine.ua/news/stand-with-ukraine/https://how-to-help-ukraine-now.super.site/Fundraiser to help Ukrainians, wounded civilians, and children:http://tvoya-opora.org/help-ukraine-no-warUNICEF helping children and families in Ukrainehttps://www.unicef.org/emergencies/conflict-ukraine-pose-immediate-threat-children?utm_source=instagram-stories&utm_medium=general&utm_campaign=ukraine_crisisAdditional fundraiser: https://fundly.com/m2/help-ukraine-Humanitarian care packages to Ukraine:https://us.meest.com/news/company-news/escalation-of-war-in-ukraine-operational-updateUkrainian army:https://bank.gov.ua/en/about/support-the-armed-forcesIf you'd like to directly donate to Katya to add to her donations to friends, family, and volunteers in Ukraine you can send that to @Katya-Osadcha on Venmo and type "Stand with Ukraine" in the note! Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

this week @kat.defatta has Dr. Emily Anhalt on the show to talk about emotional fitness. Dr. Emily Anhalt, Psy.D is a psychologist, emotional fitness consultant, and the Co-Founder and Chief Clinical Officer of Coa, an online gym for mental health. She is the leading researcher into the 7 traits of emotional fitness and in this episode you will find out what those are along with how to start doing “push ups” for your mental health. Dr. Anhalt goal is to make going to an emotional fitness class as accessible and normal as going to the gym … and we couldn’t love this mission more! learn more about Coa HERE. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat welcomes Scott Erickson to the show to talk about how the death of a dream lead him to a meaningful life. Scott is a touring painter, performance artist and creative curate who mixes autobiography, aesthetics, and comedic narrative to create experiences that speak to our deepest stories. He is the author of Say Yes: Discovering the Surprising Life Beyond the Death of a Dream. Together, Kat and Scott take a little walk through some of the messiness that life throws at you in order to shed some light on what it really is that feeds our souls. P.S. If you make it to the end of the episode you make get a chance to hear what it really sounds like behind the scenes of the making of this podcast...Learn more about Scott HERE. Follow Scott on Instagram HERE. Get your copy of Say Yes HERE. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.