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This week Kat is diving into the space we enter when relationships don't work out. Have you ever wondered what you could have done differently to make your partner stay? Or have you spent hours analyzing your ex partners imperfections to deflect from the pain you feel after the relationship is over? Chances are- you've been there. The term "red flag" has become a term you hear everywhere and all the time and in this episode we are talking about why that is. Plus, we are giving you something better to focus on in order to heal from those past relationships. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week, a listener asks Kat for tips on how to talk to the man she has been seeing for two years about commitment. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by another Three Cords Therapy therapist, Josie Oldham, LMSW. Josie specializes in body image, disordered eating, and eating disorders so Kat thought she would be the perfect guest to come on and talk about something that has been on her mind for a while now: The pressure to fit into certain "recovery minded" boxes perfectly. Recovery isn't linear, there isn't one way to do it. There isn't one belief system you have to have to live a life of freedom from diet culture. And whatever belief system fits with you- doesn't have to be perfect. We are so thankful that there are humans out there fighting the toxic beauty and wellness culture. . . AND we think it might be time that we start shifting the conversation so everyone just stops talking about our bodies :) Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, fellow Three Cords Therapy therapist joins Kat to talk about why sometimes what we see in the mirror when we look at ourselves isn’t actually reality. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered where to draw the line between striving to be your best self and accepting who you are? This debate can seem quite confusing because they seem to be contradictory yet struggle to remain as healthy guides when standing alone. Limitless thinking can be super helpful at times, AND we have to be careful because it can lead us into muddy waters with no boundaries. And this unboundried idea that we can be anything we want starts to sound like we should be everything. On the other hand, when we soley grab onto self acceptance, this lackadaisical almost surrender to our potential shows up that can move us to a state of not trying and thus not even being our true selves. So, join Kat this week as she walks through ways to hold both self improvement and acceptance at the same time. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt from Lori Gotlieb’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, where Lori discusses the ability to separate forgiveness from compassion. In times like these, we often look to find the “right” answers. We focus on what we feel like we should do rather than what we believe is right for us. And Kat leaves us with some questions and thoughts to help move listeners into a space where we can discern those things better! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult transitions in their lives. In this conversation you will also hear Shauna and Kat talk about the complexities of setting boundaries for and with yourself so you can live the life you actually want rather than a life that may look "impressive" to others. Follow Shauna on Instagram: @sniequist Order Shauna's new book: I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected] this week Kat answers a question about what kind of professional to turn to when struggling with disordered eating. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our nervous system needs to be activated in order to become resilient. We cannot become strong without first being tested. We have to have experience to gain experience. This truth is a wakeup call for all of us protective types, the people pleasers, and those who are afraid of the people they love experiencing pain. If we remove challenge from our lives and the lives of those around us- we also remove opportunity for them to grow strong, resilient and courageous. This week, Kat walks us through how some recent challenges and inconveniences have become opportunities for her to grow in a purposeful way. Shoutout to Kat’s: Wedding Photographer: @glenaigilbertphoto Wedding Coordinators: @simplyGoldenNashville Hair Stylist: @MargaretJaneBeauty Bagel Episode Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilley See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listener’s send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast. This week a listener writes in and asks how to start to acknowledge something that was traumatic when there is a part of them that doesn’t want to admit it was harmful. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we have one of Three Cords Therapy’s newest team members, Julia Langner, on to talk about something she is passionate about helping others heal through. Religious and spiritual trauma are two phrases that are being talked about now more than ever… and it’s not because it just now became a thing. It’s because we are finally opening up space for individuals to realize that it’s a thing. In this episode Julia helps us understand what religious trauma is, how to know if you’ve experienced it, and what to do if you have. And just like any other topic we cover here- it’s not as black and white as we all hope it to be… so we hope this episode serves as a starting place for you to create more agency in your life. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week a listener is asking Kat how to get out of a relationship with a narcissist when you feel like you’re already in too deep. Listen to Kat’s full episodes on Narcissism: Narcissism Narcissism at Work Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve learned that there is enough compassion for us all to validate and feel our own experiences. So, why then… are so many of us experiencing “compassion fatigue”? If compassion is an infinite resource then how do you run out of it? Well, this week Kat is trying to find an answer to that mystery. And it turns out… maybe it’s not compassion that we are exhausted of… If you are someone who has ever experienced compassion fatigue check out this episode to better understand what is really going on when caring for others starts to feel icky. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat answers a listener’s question about compassion fatigue and talks about burn out in helping professions. Our listener has been having a difficult time coping with work lately – she works with cancer patients trying to help them engage in meaningful leisure activities. The job is so rewarding but she is feeling drained. She’s finding a lack of motivation in motivating others and asks Kat for advice because compassion fatigue is real! Most jobs come with their struggles, you can have gratitude for the specific brand of “hard” that you get to deal with but also acknowledge that things are difficult, frustrating and there will be times when you are “over it”. Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is extra fun because we are literally talking about… fun. In this episode, Kat introduces us to “The Fun Scale” which helps to widen our view on fun so we can have more of it! Sometimes the fun of an experience isn’t in the experience at all- which may sound confusing to you but we promise once you listen to this epsiode it will all start making sense! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. Kat talks about going on a little Memorial Day vacation, but she decided to keep the trend alive by getting sick right before the fun started. She realized that she might be working herself up about something, that someone else might not even mind. She also dives into a listener question about 'breaking up' with their current therapist. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't figure out that one great passion that lights your soul on fire? Or do you find yourself feeling directionless and purposeless as you walk in and out of work each day? Well, this week, Kat, (@kat.defatta) is taking us down a road that many drive around in circles inside our heads. She is talking about passion and purpose and how we can confuse them sometimes and also put too much emphasis on one or the other. She also shares her take aways from one of the very best podcasts she has ever listened to. It was an Oprah Super Soul Conversation with Elizabeth Gilbert and she brings in a third contender to the passion & purpose conversation... curiosity. Listen this week to find out why this may just be the secret we have all been looking for in our lives. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week however, instead of answering a question Kat is bringing you some interesting information. In this episode, Kat walks us through a recent Psychology Today article that addresses 10 common beliefs that often hold people back from reaching their goals at work. You can read the full article HERE Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On May 1st of this year the surgeon general issued an advisory on our nation’s loneliness epidemic. In it, he states that the mortality impact of being socially disconnected is similar to that caused by smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. AKA… this is a big deal and we need to do something about it STAT. So, this week this is what we are talking about. Kat shares some of the shocking revelations from the advisory and shares some of her personal struggles with developing meaningful connection due to distractions like social media. Even if you are not someone who personally struggles with loneliness, this crisis of disconnection is finding its way to impact all of our lives… and not in a good way. This episode is a You Need Therapy community call to band together and work on small changes that can make a huge impact. If you want to share your ideas send them to Kat and she will share on a future episode: [email protected] Surgeon General Advisory Social Causes of Loneliness Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat makes a special announcement about her practice and gives feedback to a wife and mother who is contemplating when and if it's ok to leave her husband who has been struggling with substance abuse. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Y’all are in for a treat today! Mike Foster is joining Kat on the podcast, and if you’re an avid listener of You Need Therapy, you have heard him being referenced a time or two… or three or four. Mike is a counselor, a coach, a former podcast host, speaker, author and all-around amazing human. This week he is spoiling us with the knowledge and powerful insight he gained after the over 4 years of research that led him to writing his new book: The Seven Primal Questions. “The Seven Primal Questions” is described as a simple way of seeing your hidden programming, emotional needs, and supernatural gifts in a transparent way. With it you can stop being controlled by old wounds and patterns that sabotage your story. Think attachment theory mixed with the enneagram topped off with a big warm hug. This interview is going to leave you connecting so many dots and wanting to ask so many questions and we are SO excited to get to share it with you! Follow Mike on instagram: @Mikefoster2000 The Seven Primal Questions Learn more about Mike: Mikefoster.tv Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat shares 5 tips to help cultivate hope! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat welcomes back Luke Durham, CEO of Dream4, to talk all things leadership. In this episode, Luke talks to us about what all great leaders must possess, how to develop the skills that are crucial to leading a healthy team, and how ego gets in the way of the potential of great leadership. Follow Dream4 on Instagram: @dream4.co Work with Luke and learn more about Dream4: Dream4.co Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, a listener writes in to ask for help in managing conflict with their current partner who they are in a long distance relationship with. Kat talks about conflicting insecure attachments and the difference in feeling safe and comfortable in relationships. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Research tell us that living together before marriage increases the probability of a couple getting divorced by 50%. Yea, you read that correctly... you are MORE likely to get divorced if you live with you partner before you get married. So, does that mean you shouldn't do it? Kat isn't quite convinced that that should be the main takeaway from this information... This week, Kat dives into cohabitation before marriage... Should couples do it? And wait- what if someone doesn't want to get married ever- are they allowed to live with their partners? Apparently millennials are getting married later in life and realizing that life isn't just about creating the nuclear family we grew up watching on tv. . . so how is this effecting divorce rates? You'll hear about this PLUS Kat and her fiancé, Patrick Van Buren, talk about how their views on living with a partner before marriage have shifted throughout both their lives. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we get to have two guests! One you are familiar with and one you haven’t met yet, Tara and Omari Booker. Omari is Tara's partner and an artist who currently has a solo exhibit showing at Elephant Gallery In Nashville titled, Fifteen. (Showing through May 20, 2023) Fifteen marks a very important part of Omari's story, the end of his parole following a 15 year prison sentence. In this episode, we talk candidly about Omari and Tara's emotional, mental, and spiritual experience during this time. Within the last 15 years, Omari found both relationships and art to be two of the most valuable resources and healing agents in his story. Our conversation walks us through how he accessed hope in unimaginable circumstances and how he specifically used art to find freedom and liberation from prisons constructed both personally and socially. Learn about Omari and his work HERE Follow Omari on Instagram: @omaribooker Visit Fifteen at Elephant Gallery Read about Fifteen in Nashville Scene Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to [email protected]. This week: How do I address the future of my relationship with my boyfriend of three years without sounding pushy or like I am giving an ultimatum? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the fourth and final installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into stonewalling today. This week you will learn what stonewalling looks like, why it pops up, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to [email protected] Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Financial Feminist, Tori Dunlap, is joining the podcast this week!! After successfully saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing to fight for women’s financial rights. She now runs a multi million dollar company, hosts a top charting podcast, and is the author of a New York Times best Selling book, Financial Feminist. If you’re wondering... "Wait, what does money have to do with therapy?" Well the answer is very simple, literally everything. There are tons of emotions, narratives and plenty of trauma that shapes and directs how we view, talk about, and spend our money. In This episode Tori tells us how she is using her financial knowledge to help empower and elevate the voices of women around the world. If you are someone who thinks: "Oh, I'll never understand investing" "Money is for the men to handle" "I shouldn't spend money on expensive things I don't need." Or anything else of the sort - this episode is made for you! Follow Tori: Buy Tori's book: Financial Feminist Listen to Lori's podcast: Financial Feminist Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to [email protected] Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the third installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into defensiveness today… and it’s pretty safe to say— we’ve all been defensive a time or two. This week you will learn what being defensive sounds like, what it does, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to [email protected]. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat dives into **friendship** with Laura Tremaine. Laura is an OG blogger turned author who's latest book, the Life Council, is coming out on April 4th... and trust us, you want to get your hands on this book. Her book describes the 10 kinds of friends that every human needs and gives an in depth look at what Laura has learned about friendship though both the ups and downs of her own. In this episode, Laura and Kat talk about Laura's "Friendship Philosophies" that have helped ground and protect the friendships she currently has in her life. Listen to the full episode to find out what philosophy made Kat have to puttee book down, take a break, and do some serious self reflection. Laura is full of both wisdom and light hearted fun conversation and we are SO GRATEFUL to now call her a friend of You Need Therapy!!! Follow Laura: @Laura.tremaine Order The Life Council Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about tips to help when recovery seems to be getting harder when you think it should be getting easier, AND if you can still be a therapist if you struggle you your own mental health issues. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is joined by not one but two guests, Jolenta Greenberg and Kristen Meinzer. Jolenta and Kristen both consider themselves advice critics. They spent years living by and critiquing advice from self-help books for their podcast By The Book and now they’re ready to discuss wellness-related questions and help debunk all the self-help myths and promises in their new podcast, How To Be Fine which premiered on February 23rd. In this episode, Kat, Jolenta, & Kristen talk about their experiences- what they thought was all BS, what they learned, what worked, and what was just weird. Follow Jolenta: @jolenta_g Follow Kristen: @k10meinzer Check out How To Be Fine: @howtobefinepod Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat gives a Harry Potter update, shares helpful feedback from listeners about her recent less than satisfactory trip to the doctor, and answers a listener's question about doctor office waiting room etiquette. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the second installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into contempt. Contempt is often referred to as relational poison. And this is because there is no way for contempt to be helpful. This week you will learn what contempt sounds like, what it does, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the beginning of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are starting our series with Criticism, which is usually the horseman that shows up first when there is an issue in a relationship and sets the tone for how the conversation plays out. It can have the power to turn a bid for connection into an argument, which pushes us further from each other. The good news is that Dr. Gottman not only provided us with language for the problems, he offered us solutions or “antidotes” for each horseman. Listen this week to hear how to move from Criticizing your partner and creating more chaos to expressing healthy complaints and creating space to lean into our relationships. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week in honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, Kat answers 3 questions about eating disorders: 1. How can I handle the ups and downs between good recovery days and days I feel obsessed with food? 2. How do I express my concern to someone who I think might have an eating disorder? 3. What is the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, a week to spread awareness, hope and resources for and about eating disorders. Most people who learn that eating disorders are the second deadliest mental health disorder are surprised, so the reason there has been so much uproar in the last couple of years about diet culture and the harm it causes goes wildly misunderstood. In honor of NEDA week, Kat explores and describes the polarizing experience happening now between diet culture and the more recent anti diet culture movement. And because this week is about hope- she talks about a position on this spectrum that might be more helpful than the options it feels like people have today. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week on Couch Talks: Why all anxiety is not bad + Kat shares an experience she had recently at the doctor’s office when she asked not to see her weight. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker is back for another installment of “The Difference Between,” a series where we break down the difference between a mental health related topic and how it shows up in pop culture. This week we rolled it back to the basics and talked about what therapy really is versuses how some popular tv shows portray it. Spoiler: It isn’t just us nodding our heads and asking you how you feel and it also isn’t us telling you what to do! Then we breakdown why sometimes “No” is a complete sentence and why sometimes its helpful to offer more information when setting a boundary. It all goes back to the grey nuanced reality of what relationships really are- and there isn’t a right way that works all of the time!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week’s question: My roommate has a partner that I really dislike for many reasons. I love my roommate individually but when they are together, it feels like my roommate is a different person which has caused me to put more distance between us. How do you suggest tackling a tricky area like this?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is going solo to talk about one of those things that comes up in therapy all the timeeee. Motivation, and the possible lack of it. In this episode Kat explains why when people are searching for “motivation” they are often searching for the wrong thing. Plus, she gives 4 tips to help conjure up the energy that we may need to do that thing that we want to do! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to [email protected]. This week we have a more specific follow up to last week's question about therapists finding closure when clients terminate the therapeutic relationship. The three more detailed questions explored in this episode are: 1. How do you find a sense of closure when there is no final conversation to process ending a therapist-client relationship? 2. What is the best way to respond to an email when a client wishes to discontinue therapy for the time being? 3. Is there a way for early therapists to communicate that therapy is not only used to process negative thoughts and events, but also maintenance and process positive thoughts and events? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW. Courtney’s passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart. This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life. What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up??? You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn’t real." So good, right?? Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients. Follow The Collective on Instagram: @thecollectivenashville Follow Symmetry counting on Instagram: @symmertrycounselingnashville Follow Renewed on Instagram: @renewedsupport Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to [email protected]. This week’s question is: “As a studying therapist, I am finding terminations extremely difficult. What guidance can you give to me to not take it so personally and to find closure on my part?” Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.