You Need Therapy

Have you heard of a marriage pact? You know, the deal you make with one of your best friends that says, if you aren't married by a certain age, you'll marry each other. Why would anyone do this, you ask? That is one of the questions Kat is asking this week as she dives into the pressure many women experience in finding a partner in early adulthood. Maybe it has to do with the fact single men have historically been swooned over as "eligible bachelors" while women are labeled "old maids" and "spinsters. Or maybe it is because they were scarred by the plot of "My Best Friends Wedding." This episode invites you into the current conversation Kat is having with herself as she reevaluates the way her younger self idealized finding a husband. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat answers a listener question about her and her partners level of physical intimacy. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is diving into the world of shame and secrecy. In this episode you will get a refresh on what shame is, where it comes from, and what it feeds off of. Then Kat walks us through the role secrecy plays in our own shame. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week on Couch Talks Kat answers a listener e-mail asking for help navigating the diet culture ambush that comes at the beginning of each year. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy New Year!!!!!!! And on this New Year’s Day Kat is challenging us with a new way to approach New Year’s resolutions. Imagine walking into 2024 with the goal of becoming more of who you actually are versus trying to be who others expect you to be… sound enticing? Well, listen to this week’s episode to find out why this might be more beneficial than you may imagine and more important than you think! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that’s listeners send to [email protected] This week, Kat answers a question a listener sent in after listening to Monday’s episode. If people accept the love they think they can get, how do I start to believe I can get more? This turns into a conversation about the difference between self esteem and self worth and why we need to spend more time teaching others about self worth versus how to get self esteem. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is a special week because Patrick, AKA Big P, AKA Kat's boyfriend joins the podcast for the FIRST TIME (and hopefully not the last). Have you ever found yourself crying over something like mustard being put on your burger when you asked for ketchup or getting tots instead of fries? How about getting cream cheese on your bagel when you asked for butter? Chances are- you know exactly what we are talking about and this week Kat is walking listeners through the most recent time she cried over getting the wrong food order. Why do small inconveniences sometimes take away our ability to utilizes rational thinking and drive us to make these mountains out of molehills? What is underneath our inability to regulate our emotions in the moment? Kat talks about how she processed her "dramatic" moment and brings Patrick on to give his take on what he saw going on as it was happening. Learn how to gain information about your needs during experiences when it feels like your disappointment is someone else's fault. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode if You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected] week, Kat is ending the year with a round of rapid fire questions: 1. Process for setting new year goals?2. Dating advice for someone having no luck? 3. Favorite Harry Potter book & movie? 4. One daily non negotiable to live a healthy life? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW. Courtney’s passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart. This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life. What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up??? You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn’t real." So good, right?? Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients. Follow The Collective on Instagram: @thecollectivenashville Follow Symmetry counting on Instagram: @symmertrycounselingnashville Follow Renewed on Instagram: @renewedsupport Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode if You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener who doesn’t want to spend her last Christmas before she gets engaged with her partner’s family. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat discusses how and when humor fits into how we process trauma. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week a listener writes in about a difficult decision she recently made after discovering she was pregnant. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gift giving analysis paralysis is a real thing, and this week, Kat is talking about why the season of giving can be so stressful sometimes. Then, she shares a special mental health minded gift guide to help promote simple gift ideas that anyone can benefit and find joy from! Kat’s Amazon Mental Health Minded Gift Guide Giving Keys Bombas Socks Able Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, a listener writes to Kat about wanting to leave her current job but feeling stuck because of the guilt she has around what it would mean for her boss and co-workers if she left. Kat shares an impactful conversation she had with her boss when she left her job in 2016 and how it helped her to not take on unnecessary guilt and shame. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever decided just to go rogue and things actually turned out better than you could have planned for? Well this week, Kat is talking about a recent last minute (really last second) decision to change plans that worked out in everyone's favor. In this episode you will hear Kat talk about the importance of being flexible with plans and a small mindset change that has started to make a BIG difference in her life. In his book, The Infinite Game, Simon Sinek details the importance in playing to stay in the game versus to beat an opponent. And being that our current culture is obsessed with competition and comparison- Kat thought it may be helpful to talk about some of the brilliance she gathered from Simon's book and viral motivational talks. Watch the viral TikTok Get The Infinite Game by Simon Sinek Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week however, instead of answering a question, Kat offers 5 important reminders to consider before walking into your family Thanksgiving Dinner. You do not need to starve yourself in order to earn a Thanksgiving meal. Just because someone says something it doesn’t mean you have to accept it. If your stomach looks like you ate after you ate- it’s because you ate. If you get overwhelmed you can ask for what you need. Your Mother in laws comments about food/ bodies/ exercise etc are about her not you. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is bringing Amy Brown to You Need Therapy to talk about bachelorette party culture. It seems like the parties get more extravagant, expensive, and instagram worthy each year and in this episode we are discussing why that might be happening. Together, Kat & Amy reminisce on their own bachelorette parties and how to distinguish what is important when it comes to celebrating both yourself and your friends during these special events. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is talking to the founders of Willows Health and Recovery, Selena Phillips & Rhonda Bartine. During this episode they discuss how Ketamine is now being used to help those who struggle with Treatment Resistant Depression. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week a listener writes in with a crisis involving the intersection of therapy and religion. "How do we know if the things going on in our heads are due to the “battle of good and evil” or just a matter of chemical imbalance and how can we both work on our mental health and surrender to a higher power." The good news here is that believing in the power of prayer doesn’t mean you don’t believe in therapy and going to therapy doesn’t mean you can't trust that a God exists. In this episode Kat discusses how both can fit and work together versus against! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is helping us differentiate between having a heated debate and having a respectful conversation. Every human is going to find themselves in a conversation where they do not agree with some of the other parties involved. While that may not be fun or ideal— it doesn’t mean you have to fight them! In this episode you will learn how reframing the goals of your “disagreements” allows you to understand your peers, friends, and partners better and vice versa. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week we get an update from a previous listener and Kat offers feedback on getting back in the dating scene after going through a break up. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is inspired by the insanity that is, student loan debt in America. However, this episode isn’t realllyyy about student loan debt. This week is really about those moments where someone offers to help you but their goal isn’t really to help you, it’s to protect themselves. We are clearing up the space between only taking care of our own needs and ignoring our own needs to care for other people— the space where when we give we find that we also receive! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat responds to a e-mail about a listener who is feeling low after riding the high of her engagement and wedding season. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat talks about the power of our most painful moments. Inspired by her Spotify playlist: This is For Crying, Kat breaks down why and how sad songs (written by others) have been healing agents in her own life. When we feel connected versus isolated on our darkest days- we gain the opportunity to find hope. And when we heal from from our wounds we enter a cycle to be able to help others through similar moments in their lives. If you're in a storm right now. we hope this episode allows you to be present while knowing you don’t have to be there alone. And always remember: Our experiences are unique to us and also connected to others. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat gives her feedback to someone who witnessed their friend cheat on their fiancé on her bachelorette party. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week CEO and founder of Ready Nest Counseling, Emily Pardy, joins Kat to talk all things body image and pregnancy! Ready Nest Counseling is a practice that specializes in working alongside clients in the life stages of conception, pregnancy, postpartum, parenthood, infertility and loss. So much can come up around our bodies and how we view and perceive them as we move through some of these stages. Emily does a wonderful job in describing what is realistic to expect throughout the pregnancy process and how to show up for your unique experience as it unfolds (even if we don’t love how it’s unfolding!). Learn more about Ready Nest Counseling Follow Ready Nest on Instagram: @Readynestcounseling Follow Emily Pardy on Instagram: @EmilyPardy Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat replies to an email about someone who finds a box of their boyfriend’s ex’s things while cleaning his house. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s episode is one that Kat tried to avoid making… but eventually she had to join the conversation. For about the past year, drugs containing semiglutide (like ozempic) have been gaining popularity in doctor’s offices and in the media. So, is this what we have all been looking for? Did someone finally discover the cure for the “so called” disease that doctors are labeling as “Obesity.” In this episode, Kat invites her long time friend and colleague, Jamison Worley, to the show to talk about what semiglutide is, how it works, and what the current research actually says. Jamison is the founder of Worley Nutrition Group and is a licensed and registered dietitian that specializes in eating disorders, diabetes, and sports nutrition. This conversation is meant to offer more accurate information to listeners— not to tell them what to do— but to give them the opportunity to make accurate and informed decisions for themselves. Work with Jamison: Worley Nutrition Group (https://worleynutritiongroup.com/) Follow Worley Nutrition Group: @worleynutritiongroup Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat gives her thoughts on online therapy platforms like Better Help and Talk Space. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is going solo to talk about self compassion. Self compassion is something that has been heavily researched, defined, and broken down by Kristen NEFF Ph.D. In her research she discovered the three elements of self compassion and in this episode you will hear all about those three elements and how inviting them into your life can create healthier relationships not just with others but with yourself. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat takes a DEEP dive into the ever popular meditation and “health” guru, Joe Dispenza. In this episode, Kat talks about what separates real science from pseudoscience (fake science that tries to pass as science). The tricky part is, pseudoscience mimics real science by co-opting their terms and using them in a way that sets you up to want to believe it’s true. Here we will discuss how we can keep an eye out for the red flags that scream “SCAM”. And what does Joe Dispenza have to do with all of this? You’ll just have to listen to find out. 😉 Articles: Drawing the line between science and pseudo-science Eat, Pray, Lie: Hollistic Wellness Scams in the Age of Social Media From workplaces to politics to Instagram influencers, "cultish" language is everywhere The Rise is Fake Science What is Pseudoscience Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listens send to [email protected]. This week, Kat gives a tiny Harry Potter journey update, gives a sneak into a highly anticipated episode she is working on, and gives feedback to a counseling student who can’t seem to land an internship. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Who remembers their first time? This week, Kat, Josie, and Julia reminisce on the first time they ever went to therapy. And surprise! All of their experiences were a little bit different. Kat refused to speak in her session, Julia's may have told her therapist what she didn't like about her, and Josie was wishing her therapist was "cooler". Kat wanted to have a conversation that talked about what it is like to go to therapy for the first time and what you may experience yourself because doing new things can be super intimidating. While we can't tell you exactly what it will be like- we can give you three perspectives from three different therapists. In this episode we answer listener questions including: What happens if I don't know what to talk about in session? How many sessions will it take to know if your therapist is the right fit? What kind of questions does a therapist ask during the first session? As a therapist, how do you prepare for a new client and what are some ways you try to ease the discomfort of a first timer? How do you get over the fear of embarrassment knowing you will cry the whole time? AND MORE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat is doing something a little different because September is National Suicide Prevention Month. Death by suicide has increased by 36% between 2001and 2021 and is the second leading cause of death for people ages 10-14 and 20-34 in the United States. Kat brings Julia Langner (@theselfcompassioncounselor) on the podcast this week to talk about a recent instagram post she made that addressed one of the biggest misconceptions of suicide: That talking about it increases the likelihood of it happening. It is surprisingly the opposite! Listen to this episode to hear some tips about how you can start these conversations and more about why they are so crucial to have within our communities right now! Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 988 Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, licensed dietitian, Leslie Schilling, joins Kat on the podcast to talk about the sneaky ways Diet Culture infiltrates our most sacred and safest places (think school and even our places of worship!!!). Leslie Schilling is a Master’s level registered dietitian who specializes in disordered eating, sports nutrition, family nutrition, and weight concerns. She is a wealth of knowledge and you are going to have your mind BLOWN when you hear about some of the myths she is busting in her brand new book, Feed Yourself. In Feed Yourself, Leslie shares her expertise with the masses, guiding readers as they uncover the lies we’ve been told about our bodies. We are so grateful for people like Leslie who continue to fight the uphill battle in order to help those who get caught in the webs of disordered eating + eating disorders. There is hope and this episode is a great place to start. Order Feed Yourself Follow Leslie on Instagram Learn more about Leslie HERE Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat brings you the science behind why Pumpkin Spice Lattes are alllll the rage during the fall. What makes people want this $7+ coffee drink so bad?? Listen this week to find out! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way. In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected] This week, Kat talks about the difficulty in doing what feels right and wanting to please others around you. A listener writes in about a friendship dilemma. She asks Kat if she should tell her friend that she did something to support another mutual friend that she believes she will be upset about. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever had a consequence thrown at you for refusing to turn a blind eye? Or have you ever been punished for telling a secret that you never should have been asked to keep? If you answered yes to either of these questions you may have experienced being "scapegoated". This can happen when someone tries to bring order to a dysfunctional system. Doing so can throw off the sense of "order" within that system (even thought it's disordered). Having a scapegoat is a form of protection for that system. It allows them to push blame onto someone else so they can create the delusion that the system is healthier than it is. In this episode, we explore what that can look and feel like and what to do if you find yourself getting the shaft for telling the truth. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has one of her best friends on to talk about both of them watching each other develop unhealthy relationships with food and exercise. In this candid conversation both Kat and Kellie share what it was like to see the others behavior change. They talk about what was helpful about how the other responded and what they wish they would have known and said to their friend who was struggling. This episode is a GREAT resource for anyone who has wondered what to say and how to approach a friend or loved one that they think may also be struggling! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathrynyouneedtheapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about why we tend to rush into “defining the relationship” and what we can do to help slow the process down and be more present in the moment! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we are rounding out our 3 part series on addiction. We started talking about it from a clinical/therapist perspective, then moved to the perspective of a loved one, and now we have a human who has actually walked through the throes of addiction themselves here to share part of their own story. Mathias John is someone I met years ago through his wife–who actually happens to be a therapist. Through his recovery journey he decided to offer the community something that he wished he had, a story he could relate to; a story about a high functioning addict who hid from himself and others really well. So, he took his ACTUAL PERSONAL JOURNALS and created a book out of them. Yep. He is welcoming us into his real mind- his most personal thoughts- and sharing what it was like for him to move through his life as someone struggling with addiction and someone working towards recovery. AND to top it off, he actually writes this book alongside his own therapist, Ashley Boyd. In our conversation we talk about a lot. What I hope you hear in this is something we can all relate to, a story about someone who tried their hardest to run from the truth and eventually found out that telling the truth would set them free. AND a story about that being really freaking hard and possible at the same time. Mathias’ book comes out September 14th and you can learn more about it HERE! Follow Mathias: @mathiasjohn__ Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat talks about how to survive when you dread going to your job everyday AND you can’t just go get a new one. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is round two of our addiction series. In this episode, Tara Booker and Kat talk about how to live an addict well, what it’s like to be in relationship with someone who struggles with addiction, and where healthy boundaries lie in these scenarios. Nothing is black and white here, which may make things more difficult and less confusing at the same time. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week Kat talks about how to handle roommate drama… when the drama involves your bff that you’ve been dreaming of living with! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker comes back to help Kat break down the basics of addiction. Which, you might be laughing at because there is nothing basic about explaining and understanding addiction. If you’ve ever struggled with addiction or loved someone who has, you’ll resonate with the fact that it’s a very confusing experience to have and watch. The behavior often makes zero sense when looking at it with just our naked eyes. This is largely due to the fact that a lot of the dysfunction is tied to what’s happening in our brains. So, join Tara and Kat today as they begin to help us all gain a little more understanding so we can all bring more compassion and hopefully healing to those that struggle with this disease affects. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat takes a break from the questions and gives her two cents on all the drama and controversy surrounding the new Barbie Movie. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: [email protected] Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.