Sol Movement & Ritual

In this episode, we had the honor once again of discussing different aspects of intimacy with the incredible Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She uses her extensive knowledge and wisdom about the subject of sexuality to help us navigate many different situations, such as when partners differ greatly in their level of desire for each other, how to journey through betrayal trauma, and she even gives tips on how to have a healthy relationship with your own sexuality while you are single.Related EpisodesHow to Own Your Own Desires & the Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-FifePutting Connection With Our Spouse FirstHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastThis episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

How do you handle expectations? Are you a rule follower? A rule breaker? Do you do better when someone else expects you to do something, or are you motivated by your own expectations? We draw from Gretchin Rubin’s Four Tendencies and use that information to help understand yourself and what motivates you. As you discover this, it allows you the freedom to know how to get the things you want in life. You can learn to stop fighting your own nature and instead learn to learn what works.The book that inspired us:The Four Tendencies // Gretchin RubinRelated EpisodesHabits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big ResultsFour Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any ProblemHabits for High PerformanceHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastThis episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We dive into a wide range of listener questions today! We start by exploring what the solitude of 2020 brought into our life, how to come to peace with our inner landscape and find connection where we can. We spend time on a deep dive into one of our most asked questions, dealing with our kids aggression and when they hurt other kids. We can remain calm, lean into emotions AND not become attached and let their emotions control ours. Our children's lives are intimately entwined in ours; this reveals itself in our third listener question about dealing with situations when our kids won't tell us their secret feelings or share their emotions. And finally we explore friendships in mothers, types of friends we need and how to deal with the loss of friendship that is no longer serving you or your child. Related EpisodesFinding Wisdom in ChaosSusan Stiffelman on Remaining Present While ParentingGuidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastThis episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Power is not finite, join us as we dismantle this perception with co-founder of Bravery Magazine Elyse Beard. In this episode she shares the stories of incredible women throughout history who have shown exceptional bravery, ingenuity, and intelligence. She offers tips to use the tapestry of history as a way to change the way we approach our own lives, and how to help our children face their own fears and follow their dreams.You can find more about the Bravery Magazine below:Braverymag.comInstagram: @bravery_mag Email: [email protected] Episodes:The Power of Beautiful WordsTeaching Our Daughters to Live Wholeheartedly Raising Boys Part 1Raising Boys Part 2Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the Podcast App Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

This week we explore the ideas of Lawrence Cohen. We often think of play as a secondary, optional activity. For kids, exploring the world through play is part of their healthy development. We dive deep into the science of play and discuss how to harness it for powerful connection.Books that inspired us:Playful Parenting // Lawrence CohenRaising Lions // Joe NewmanRelated Episodes:Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style Make Your Morning Routine Happen!Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power HourDiscovering YOUR Life EssentialsLinks We Promised:Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app, Scroll to the the bottom of the page, rate and review, and push send:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

There are so many jokes about New Year’s Resolutions. We have all seen how full gyms get for the first two weeks of January, only to empty again after that. So many of us choose goals and have big plans to revamp our lives on January first, only to make no lasting changes. In this episode, we share our personal approach to the new year, and how we look at it from a place without overwhelm. We use January as a time of self reflection, and save our accomplishment goal setting for spring time, when the whole world is waking up:). We give you lots of easy tips to make the beginning of your year inspiring and introspective without being overwhelming.Books that inspired us:Atomic Habits // James ClearThe Miracle Morning // Hal ElrodRelated Episodes:Staying Open to the Present Make Your Morning Routine Happen!Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power HourDiscovering YOUR Life EssentialsLinks We Promised:Rachel Hollis episode: This Daily Practice Changed My Life and BusinessMy Intent Bracelet Maker Kit: Taralyn uses this with her kids to let them make jewelry with the words they choose for the year.Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Our Sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Most of us want to be respectful, gentle, loving parents. However, many parents are held back by the way they were raised. It can be difficult to break the mold of generations before you. In this episode, we talk about how to do just that—how to take unhealthy parenting habits we experienced as children and rewriting the script for our own parenting style. This includes getting new information, as well as being aware of the molds we have been operating with in order to be free of them.Books that inspired us:Elevating Child Care // Janet LansburyGifts of Imperfection // Brene BrownA New Earth // Eckhart TolleRelated Episodes:Staying Open to the Present Hone Your Morning Routine Feeling lost? How to Cultivate Meaning Links We Promised:Big Little Feelings instagram You can find more about Tessa and her wonderful shop, Argilla by Lucia on Etsy and Instagram Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenOur Sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money than if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. Check them out @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

There are many voices competing for our attention. People we know, books we read, the news we listen to all are voices that fill our heads as we navigate what to do with our lives. In this episode, we explore how to create space in our lives for listening to our own intuition first, and how that serves us. We all have access to this incredible tool, and it is an eye opening experience to learn how to really tap into the power of intuition. We offer tips on how to cultivate and trust the intuitive process.Books we mentioned:Conversations with God // Neale Donald WalshYou Can Heal Your Life // Louise hayBecoming Mrs. Lewis // Patti CallahanThe Artist’s Way // Julia CameronHappiness Project // Gretchin RubinLeft to Tell // Immaculee IlibagizaRelated Episodes:Staying Open to the Present Tapping Into the Abundance Inside UsOur Daily Meditation Hone Your Morning Routine Feeling lost? How to Cultivate Meaning Links We Promised:Felica’s favorite kid shoesBaby MoccasinsThe podcast episode with Joe Rogan and Matthew McConaugheyHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.This episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature. In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience.You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website: https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissicist here.Books we mentioned:Parenting with Presence // Susan StiffelmanParenting without Power Struggles // Susan StiffelmanLoving What Is // Byron KatiePlayful Parenting // Lawrence CohenRelated Episodes:Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every DayThe Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of ParentingStaying Open to the Present Tapping Into the Abundance Inside UsJanet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.” Victor FranklWe all want to feel like our life has meaning. It is a deep human need that creates a void when our life feels like it lacks purpose. This desire for meaning crosses through every life station, regardless of economic status, life condition, or level of adversity. Whether you spend your days caring for children, struggling to stay alive from health issues, or have a bustlin EVERYONE wants meaning.In this episode, we explore how to intentionally cultivate meaning in our life. We dive into Dr. Victor Frankl’s advice of finding meaning through deets, experience, and even suffering itself.You can listen on iTunes here or many other platforms here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-dinner-meaningful-uncomplicated-claire-tansey/id1448424341?i=1000500833088Related Episodes:When You Feel Like You’re FailingFinding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every DayThe Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of ParentingFinding Compassion in the Current ChaosStaying Open to the Present Tapping Into the Abundance Inside UsHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Simply search Find the Magic Podcast on iTunes, scroll to the bottom of the page, rate and review us, and push send:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We all have to eat to survive--it’s part of life. Often, the task of feeding an entire family every single day is overwhelming. The sheer recurring quantity of the task can be daunting to the most ambitious of us, and yet, the task remains. How can we as parents create a dinner table that is both fulfilling for our families and doesn’t drain the life out of us as parents?There is so much fascinating research out there about how eating family dinner together helps predict positive outcomes in children’s lives. We all know it’s something to strive for, yet we are often met with roadblocks to accomplishing such a task. Fortunately, in this episode, dinner expert and author Claire Tansey walks us through each roadblock to successful family dinners and gives amazing tips and strategies for overcoming them.She shares incredibly practical advice about how to meal plan in a way that actually works for you, and gives lots of helpful information about how to make dinner preparation and the eating of food satisfying and enjoyable for everyone involved.Related Episodes:HOW TO Eat with IntuitionCultivating Joyful Eating Habits / Deep Dive into Feeding our KidsFrench Kids Eat Everything (and so can YOURS!)You can find Claire’s books below:Dinner, Uncomplicated: Fixing a Delicious Meal Every Night of the Week // Claire TanseyUncomplicated: Taking the Stress out of Home CookingYou can also connect with Claire on Instagram @tanseyclaire and on her websiteClairetansey.comHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for your kind reviews! Just search Find the Magic on iTunes and scroll to the bottom of the page to leave one:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Raising children in today’s society has lots of opportunities and challenges. In this episode, we explore the ones that are specific to raising girls. This is an exciting time to be a woman, and there are many things we can do as parents to help our girls truly embrace the gifts this time in history offers us while rejecting the limiting messages that are simultaneously given to girls.We address topics like body image, power, and joy. We all have such an incredible opportunity for influence for the girls in our lives, and the ideas we delve into this episode will hopefully spark a dialogue for you. We can all do better.Related Episodes:Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same Seeing Ourselves Clearly in the Role of MotherParenting Boys Part 1Parenting Boys Part 2Books that inspired us:Untamed // Glennon DoyleLoving What Is // Byron KatieIntuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschLove Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon DoyleFor the recipes we mentioned for banana pudding and acorn squash, visit our website, findthemagic.co, episode 101Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews on iTunes:)! You can leave a review here:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

“Feelings are for feeling. All of them. Even the hard ones.” Glennon DoyleThis is our 100th episode! In this landmark episode, we explore what it means to step into our own power. There are lots of things we are told as we grow throughout childhood and into adulthood. Many of those things are wonderful and they serve us in creating a life that is true and beautiful. However, there are also things that we learn that simply don’t serve us. One of the joyful realities of adulthood is that we actually have the power to identify what we have learned and CHOOSE which things are true and beautiful, and which are not for us.We discuss the work of Glennon Doyle in her new book, Untamed, and discuss the deep topics that she brings up. She challenges the way we look at ourselves, and truly helps us see what dialogues we are having with ourselves because of society’s pressures, and walks us through how to authentically connect with who we truly are. We cover topics like how we cannot selectively numb our feelings; to lean into one, you must learn to lean into them all.Related Episodes:How to Own Your Own Desires and The Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-FifeBooks that inspired us:Untamed // Glennon DoyleIntuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschLove Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon DoyleHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.Thank you for the kind reviews! Click here and scroll to the bottom of the page to leave a review: Find the Magic in the podcast app This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Physical intimacy is an important aspect of our lives, and yet it is also an area that for many people, can be a space that is complicated, difficult, and even emotionally or physically unpleasant. In this episode, we have a conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology.In this conversation, we discussed this important topic and specifically address how you as a woman can own your own desire in a positive and empowering way. We address how developing yourself as a whole person, making room for yourself, and belonging to your own desires instead of only belonging to others and sacrificing yourself for their desires and needs are all key components to owning your own sexuality (and your own life).Intimacy takes courage. It means you are willing to be knowable--even the flaws and the scary parts. Sexuality is just a part of intimacy, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife beautifully addresses how we can bring our full selves unapologetically to our partners, and as we learn to do that, we can learn to fully bring ourselves unapologetically to the world. We can show up as a whole, flawed and glorious person in our own lives. As we acknowledge and validate our own desires, we are able to own them. Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s words are both empowering and inspiring.You can learn more about Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and her course offerings at her website, https://www.finlayson-fife.comRelated Episodes:Putting Connection With Our Spouse FirstHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenThis episode’s sponsor:Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

So many of the life hacks that we use in our lives every day to make it easier came from other people sharing them. In this episode, we answer several listener questions, including our very favorite life hacks that are saving us right now, from laundry and cleaning life savers to hair and easy morning breakfast tricks.We also address issues about helping toddlers adapt to quiet time (one of our most frequent questions asked), preparing your older children to welcome a new baby into the family, and we discuss the important difference between systems of earning and rewards, bribes and punishments.Books we mentioned:Entitlement Trap // Richard and Linda EyreFairplay // Eve RodskyLinks we promised:Taralyn’s hair curlers that she and Katelin sleep in. She now likes the first link best started with these ones, which are fabulous as well.Felica’s black socks she uses for her boys.Taralyn uses the KB no show socks (she and her 4 kids wear all just wear the same size for simplicity. You can buy a big pack from costco or a smaller pack from Amazon).For the overnight breakfast recipes Taralyn, go to our website, findthemagic.co, episode 98.Related Episodes:Running a Household Without ResentmentSystems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallenHow to leave a review on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Society has often put the role of motherhood either on a pedestal or in a cage, and both are small spaces from which to thrive. Few roles combine such responsibility and power with such possibility for shame and unhelpful pressure. Because of this, the topic of seeing our own role as mother clearly and with curiosity is an important one.Something that every single one of us have in common is the fact that we have a mother. Some of us know our mothers, while some of us have never met her. Our relationship with our mother might be simple, joyful, complicated, toxic, or countless adjectives in between. Every situation is different, and regardless of what that relationship looks like, we can find wisdom as we address that relationship.In this episode, we discuss the fascinating work of Harriet Lerner and explore how it is possible to learn from the things our own mothers did or didn’t do with a combination of both clarity and grace. According to Lerner, addressing that relationship in our own mind and heart is something that is helpful to us as we approach our life and our own parenting. As we gain clarity with this relationship, we are able to see ourselves more clearly and truly learn to find the magic that we can access in this powerful role.Books we mentioned:Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters: Breaking the Patterns that Keep You Stuck // Harriet Lerner https://amzn.to/2HzsGPIRelated Episodes:Guidance for the Changing Seasons of Motherhoodhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000466525358The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parentinghttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000471366626Keeping Our Personal Identity While Parenting https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=100045781826Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. You can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastThis episode’s sponsors:Shine Cosmetics: for amazing products with an inspiring message, go to https://shinecosmetics.com and use code findthemagic at checkout for a discountBlublox: For the products to help your light Hygiene to improve your health and sleep, go blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout for a discountParasol Diaper Subscription: for eco friendly, healthy, convenient diaper products for the kids, go to https://www.parasolco.com and enter findthemagic at checkout for a discountDon't forget to sign up for our email HERE for recipes, book and podcast recommendations and more! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior.In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special.From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year!Books we mentioned:Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor MateThe Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard EyreFood Nanny Rescues Dinner // Liz EdmundsThe recipes we talked about are on our our website under Episode 96: www.findthemagic.co Related Episodes:Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family ConnectionsHere is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastHow to leave a review on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

A good night’s sleep is an elusive goal we simply dream about but rarely attain. We all know the benefits of quality sleep for us and our children, but we find ourselves at a loss for how to improve it. In this episode, we have a fascinating conversation with Andy Mant, founder of Blublox glasses. He shares loads of helpful research regarding how the light we expose ourselves to throughout the day and especially in the hours after the sun goes down impacts our sleep quality and overall health, including our brain focus power and maintaining a healthy weight. With only a few simple changes in our habits surrounding light, we can quickly reset our circadian rhythms to a healthy pattern.He addresses how this light hygiene affects babies’ sleep cycles, children’s learning and behaviour, and even fertility. He gives an entire spectrum of ideas to help you circadian rhythm, from the simplicity of watching the sunrise, to the options for changing the EMF and light environment in your home.To read more articles on this subject, or to try their amazing products, go to blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout and enjoy 15% off your purchase! You can also get more information on their youtube channel as well.Also, check out Restoring Vision, an amazing charity organization that blublox is currently partnering with to donate glasses to people in need.Related Episodes:Habits for High Performance Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound Into Big ResultsHere is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.comHow to leave a review on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SENDThis episode's sponsors: Shine Cosmetics: go to https://shinecosmetics.com and use code findthemagic at checkout for discountBlublox: For the products we talked about on this episode, go blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout for discount This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking. Books that inspired us:Atomic Habits // James ClearDeep Work // Cal NewportEssentialism // Greg McKeownGetting Things Done // David AllenThe Power of Habit // Charles DuhiggOur Related Episodes:Habits for High Performance Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family ConnectionMake Your Morning Routine Happen!We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes:* Open podcast app* Search for Find the Magic* Click on episodes* Scroll to the bottom of the page* Click on write a review* Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)* Hit SENDThank you!Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)This week's sponsorsAmazing makeup removing clothes, brow pencil and more of our favorite Shine Cosmetics favorites HERE - https://www.shinecosmetics.com/?afmc=FINDTHEMAGIC This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Our child’s resistance to cooperate or push back against our wishes can be alarming. However, it is possible to actually welcome the resistance instead of desperately trying to control it. In this episode, we collaborate with Hannah and Kelty, cohosts of the parenting podcast Upbringing and explore the concept of resistance and how we as parents can respectfully and emphatically create and hold boundaries while still honoring our childrens resistance.Hannah and Kelty are certified coaches in Simplicity Parenting, Positive Discipline and trained in the respectful parenting approach, RIE. They have an abundance of parenting knowledge and they share with us their wonderful parenting tips which include their Freedom Model, and the RESIST technique to help you know exactly what to do as you come up against your childrens’ resistance. We talk about leaning into our child’s resistance as we work to recognize our triggers and grow up beside them!You can find more about Upbringing on their website, Upbringing.co, where you can find their shop, their podcast, and their helpful models. You can also find them on instagram:)Books that inspired us:Nonviolent Communication // Marshall RosenbergElevated Childcare // Janet LansburyOur Related Episodes:Parenting with Unconditional Love How to Embrace Childhood Putting Connection First Guidance for the Changing Seasons of MotherhoodHolding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes:* Open podcast app* Search for Find the Magic* Click on episodes* Scroll to the bottom of the page* Click on write a review* Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)* Hit SENDThank you!Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We can all use a little less screen time in our lives and the lives of our kids. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming to know exactly where to start when attempting to set boundaries and help our families become less dependent on entertaining technology to get us through the day. After a particularly inspiring conversation with Collin Kartcher a few weeks ago (see link below to listen), we have, in this episode, taken the conversation even deeper and walk through how to apply the principles in real life. We discuss how screen boundaries have worked in our own homes with hacks and tips that we have found to be immensely helpful in keeping technology in the place of a useful tool instead of the master it has become in so many of our lives. We address not only how to find freedom from technology, but how to also foster the antidote to this dependence: connection with real humans, in real life.Want to motivate yourself a bit more? Try plugging in your own daily screen time into the following equation. Pull out your phone, check your daily screen time (or, look at your daily social media time, or gaming time--whatever you feel like is just kind of fluff screen time). Then plug in that number of hours into this equation:Daily Screen time X 365 (days in the year) X 50 (years) divided by 5,840 (awake hours a year, if you sleep 8 yours a night) = the amount of years of your life you will spend looking at your phone if you do the same amount for 50. (For people who average 5 hours per day, it is around 15 years total!)Motivation? Found. Your welcome:)Books and links that we mentioned:Digital Minimalism // Cal NewportAtomic Habits // James ClearGabb PhoneTick Talk WatchOur Related Episodes:Saving Our Kids and Ourselves from Screens & Social Media with Collin Kartchner Finding Solitude Through Digital MinimalismCurbing Your Screen AttachmentTantrums, Screen Time, and Breaking Out of a FunkWe would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes:* Open podcast app* Search for Find the Magic* Click on episodes* Scroll to the bottom of the page* Click on write a review* Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)* Hit SENDThank you!Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Small daily practices often compound into large scale change in our lives. As parents we tell ourselves we "don't have time". Our conversation with Brooke Snow today will challenge that belief. Of all the life changing habits in the world, meditation is right at the top of the list for us at Find the Magic. In this episode, we have an inspiring conversation with author, meditation instructor and advocate Brooke Snow. We also discuss how meditation can help improve all aspects of your life, from your ability to parent with patience, to your ability to handle what life throws at you.Brooke initially discovered the life-saving power of meditation unintentionally while struggling to breathe with blood clots in her lungs in a life-flight helicopter. It wasn’t until later, while living with the PTSD (that can accompany near death experiences) and simultaneously raising her young children, that she truly began to understand what meditation could do.Brooke gives us some wonderful tips on how to incorporate visualization into our practice, as well as how to use the floors and ceilings technique to truly dial in meditation as an easy non-negotiable habit. Find more about Brooke at:Her book // Living in Your True IdentityBrooke Snow Podcast Brookesnow.com @iambrookesnowOur Related Episodes:Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.Make Your Morning Routine Happen!Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with TaralynHone Your Morning Routine with FelicaMore Resources:Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes:* Open podcast app* Search for Find the Magic* Click on episodes* Scroll to the bottom of the page* Click on write a review* Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)* Hit SENDThank you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever driven in a city that isn’t well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the initial time and thought investment pays back tenfold as their city runs much smoother as it grows. In this episode, we talk about using this theory of infrastructure in our own families. It takes some time upfront, but in the long run, it makes our family run sooo much more smoothly and makes parenting easier, while intentionally aligning it with our values.We discuss the systems that we have tried out in our own homes over the years that have proven themselves to be priceless.Books we mentioned:The Entitlement TrapSecrets of a Happy FamilyHold on to Your KidsMiracle MorningLinks We PromisedSerendipity Parenting Episode from Linda an Richard EyreRelated Episodes Discovering Your Life Essentials How To: Create Pockets of PeaceWe would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes:* Open podcast app* Search for Find the Magic* Click on episodes* Scroll to the bottom of the page* Click on write a review* Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)* Hit SENDWe LOVE reading your words and your kindness often brings us to tears! Thank you!Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast : https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Collin Kartchner is a social activist and champion of giving childhood back to our children. The research is coming in fast about the giant social experiment of putting the pocket-sized computers into the hands of young children and teens, and the results are…alarming, to say the least. Collin helps us to understand the direness of the situation concerning kids and their internet consumption, specifically social media and online gaming. These platforms are designed specifically to give our minds dopamine hits providing the false sense of connection that kids are craving. This can create a vacuum in their minds that may lead to depression and lack of connection to people around them. Although this information at first paints a bleak picture for childhood, we discuss the beautiful antidote that is at all of our fingertips: connection. REAL connection with actual humans in our lives. Collin offers concrete advice about trying out a family screen detox, and gives us lots of inspiring suggestions on how to increase the connection in our own home with the people we love. He will truly inspire you to make a difference in your child’s life (and model freedom from screen dependence yourself! Books We MentionedGlow Kids: How Screen Addiction is Hijacking our Kids—and How to Break the Trance // Nicholas KardarasGood Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids // Kristen A. JensenGood Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds // Kristen A. JensenDigital Minimalism // Cal NewportCollin uses a Gabb phone with his kids. Here is their website.Related Episodes Curbing Your Screen AttachmentFinding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes: Open podcast app Search for Find the Magic Click on episodes Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SENDWe LOVE reading your words and your kindness often brings us to tears! Thank you!Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)The amazing parenting program by Dr Mary Wilde (Listen to her episode with us here) can be found here - https://compassionparenting.com/membership To learn more about Dr. Mary Wilde: https://drmarywilde.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In her book, Chasing Slow, Erin Loechner describes how sometimes, in our search for more, we add things to our lives. We buy more things, add more tasks, take on more. However, often, what we need is actually less. In this episode, she shares with us her insights on living with the lion inside of us, the one who always is whispering to us that we must do more, have more, BE more. What do we do with this voice when we are different phases of life? Some phases require more stillness, and others have space for more goal reaching, and there is beauty in all of these phases.This embracing of each phase of life that Erin embodies led her to search for and then create, along with child development professionals and educators, a beautiful homeschool curriculum called Other Goose. It is built on these three pillars of education: connection through nature, community through stories, creativity through play. It offers flexibility to parents of younger children and is a wonderful resource for any of you out there who are considering homeschooling this year.Erin Loechner has been an online educator, homeschool advocate, and author for over 10 years. Her all-in-one homeschooling plan for the early years, Other Goose, has been used by over 25,000 students worldwide, and includes daily literature, creativity, foundations, outdoors, relationships, language, math, rhythms, logic, and habit lessons for kids ages 2-7.To find out more about Other Goose and take the assessment go here.Chasing Slow is her fabulous book and you can find it here.Other Goose on Instagram: instagram.com/othergooseErin on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinloechner/Her blog is https://designformankind.com/Related EpisodesEpisode 44: Making Education AwesomeEpisode 85 Homeschooling and Trusting Your Ability to Teach with Jen Lumanlan We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes: Open podcast app Search for Find the Magic Click on episodes Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SENDWe LOVE reading your words and your kindness often brings us to tears! Thank you!Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Sometimes, it takes facing death to really help us realize what we truly want out of living. In this episode, author and entrepreneur Heather Chauvin shares her story of how her experience with stage 4 cancer did just that. We found our conversation with her to be truly liberating in so many ways.Heather debunks the unconscious belief that so many parents have that exhaustion is simply a defining aspect of parenthood. What??? Doesn’t that just give you energy, knowing that you don’t HAVE to be drained all the time? She challenges us to look at our own life, really tap into what we truly desire, and then go after that feeling. She gives step by step instructions on how to create the life we want, NOT by doing it all, but by distilling down to doing the things that matter.You can find our more about Heather at her website, http://heatherchauvin.com/media, and watch her inspiring Ted Talk here:)Books we mention:The Desire Map // Danielle LaporteHere is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We are so excited to dive into wholehearted and respectful parenting and what it means with Minimalist Moms Host Diane Boden. This discussion will help you get to the heart of a wholehearted parenting approach by simplifying what you DO to get to the relationship you hope to have with your kid. We discuss how to both acknowledge parental emotions and needs and your child's emotions/needs and meet in the middle in a peaceful place.This episode is a combination of two separate conversations we had with Diane. In these discussions, we give a breakdown of our favorite tips on discipline as well and how to create an environment of teaching over punishment and reward. We touch on creating rhythms and routines, setting calm boundaries and responding to sibling conflicts. In true minimal fashion we also discuss how to PARENT and talk less and get more results.If you enjoyed today’s episode we would love for you to share it with your friends and leave a review! Spreading the word helps more parents find us and helps us grow so we can bring you amazing guests and topics!Books we mentioned:Simplicity Parenting // Kim John PayneCalmer, Easier, Happier Boys // Noel Janis-NortonElevating Childcare // Janet LansburyRaising Lions // Joe NewmanHere is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)To find out more about Diane or listen to her podcast find her here - https://www.minimalistmomspodcast.com/Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Our podcast logo was designed by https://instagram.com/mrstaylordoyle?igshid=wxljtnhf9r1b This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

So many of us are facing a big decision this Fall, will we be teaching our kids at home? Or maybe we have no choice at all. So many of us are being thrown into the role as teacher and parent. This week Felica is interviewing Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo. Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed., and hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting. In each episode she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children. She lives in California with her husband and daughter. Jen brings us wisdom backed with immense research (her specialty!) on why we should trust our ability to teach, our child’s ability to learn (and lead their own education through their own interests!) and the process of homeschooling.We touch on why we can let go of the perfect curriculum, standardized tests, and we discuss the value of play in education, socialization and explore the concept of pandemic pods. We hope that this wide ranging conversation helps any of you choosing (or maybe without the choice) about your child’s education this Fall feel more confident.If you would like to learn more about Jen you can find her on her website https://yourparentingmojo.com/If you would like to learn more about Jen you can find her here.You can listen to her podcast here.Here is her blog post on socialization in schools and her blog post on schemas is here, and she has some wonderful information on the Pandemic Pods 'in a box' course here. You can find is Jen’s course to help you decide if you’re ready to homeschool here.Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):Find us on Instagram @findthemagicpodcastp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We ALL make mistakes. Every single one of us. Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we hurt people. Although many of us are over apologizers for unnecessary things, we often become non-apologizers when it comes time to truly say we are sorry. We buffer it with defensiveness or ego, and our attempts at apologies fall flat. Our relationships suffer when this happens.In this episode, we address how over apologizing is unhelpful and give tips on how to avoid it, and then we delve deep into what makes a true apology, and how to get out of the way of our ego enough to truly make amends in our relationships.This topic is so beautiful because it really gives us space in our relationships to admit when we do wrong, listen without defensiveness, and truly heal.Articles and authors that inspired us:Harriet Lerner // Why Won’t You ApologizeMaja Jovanovic // Sorry to bother you, but do you say “sorry” too much? What to say instead.Interview with Harriet Lerner on ElleOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):Find us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/Katelin: https://instagram.com/katiejeangabriel?igshid=10enisvpit8up.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In this special episode, we welcome a new host onto our show! Katelin is Taralyn’s sister and Felica’s sister-in-law, and we are so excited for you all to get to know her better.For many of us, this is a time when our current reality does not match our expectation of it. Even without a pandemic, sometimes our career, our relationships, or our health doesn’t line up with what we think it should be. In this episode, we talk about the wisdom from authors that we are personally leaning on during this time, and which books are really helping us the most.We have found comfort in the wisdom that has transcended time from the philosophers of the past such as Socrates and Plato, and modern thought leaders such as Ryan Holiday and Eckhart Tolle. As we talk about these different philosophies, we explore the idea that when we feel like we are losing ourselves because the outer circumstances that we have learned to define ourselves with change or disappear all together, it is actually an opportunity to truly find ourselves. We are more than our circumstances; we are not our thoughts. It is a quite liberating realization!Books or authors we mentioned:Stillness is Key // Ryan HolidayThe Obstacle is the Way // Ryan HolidayA New Earth // Eckhart TolleOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/Katelin: https://instagram.com/katiejeangabrielp.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

What do you do when you find in a circumstance that you don’t like? Do your thoughts make your situation feel better or worse? The concept that I have control over my thoughts and feelings, and therefore my actions and results was a mind blowing philosophy when I was first introduced to it years ago, and I have found this philosophy help me in so many situations since.This week, I had the chance to interview Robin Davis, a Certified Life Coach from The Life Coach School. I have LOVED using the model they teach there for years, and have used it in self coaching with a lot of success. In this episode, Robin breaks down the model to apply to any situation in your life, and then takes the time to coach me with a personal dilemma I have been having.Happy listening!Love, TaralynMore Info:If you’d like to have a free coaching session with Robin, call or text her at 801.529.5885Robin is certified through the Life Coach School, founded by Brooke Castillo. Here is the website for that organization.Books or authors we mentioned:Loving What Is // Byron KatieLaw of Attraction // Esther and Jerry HicksBreaking The Habit of Being Yourself // Joe DispenzaOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Hey everyone! It’s Taralyn today. It’s no secret that I LOVE words. I love talking; I love writing; I love reading. I feel so much of who I am and how I think is a result of the ideas and philosophies I have read or heard over the years. Words have the power to change the world! I have found that memorizing beautiful words from the masters who have come before me to be a powerful way to have those ideas at my fingertips when the need arises. I have also been pleasantly surprised at how fun it has been to introduce my kids to poetry and great literature and how easy it is to have them memorize these words.In this episode, I talk about different categories of words that my kids and I memorize: historical documents, poetry, inspiring leader quotes, and scripture. I explain the benefits of such a practice, and give you lots of easy tips and tricks to have you easily incorporate some literature love into your parenting.Links:My favorite quote book: Great Quotes from Great Leaders // compiled by Peggy AndersonRainer RilkeWilliam BlakeWilliam WordsworthNorton Poetry Anthology ( more of an investment, but has great info)Karl, Get Out of the Garden!: Carolus Linnaeus and the Naming of Everything // Anita SanchezGreat kids’ literature lists: https://goodandbeautifulbooklist.com and http://litkidz.comHistorical documents: archives.govOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Hey! It's Felica! I am solo this episode to share Wes' birth story! I am also sharing some of my favorite tips for regaining a feeling of peace, finding your why and some concrete systems you can implement in your home after you have a new baby.Hopefully this episode brings you some doable takeaways that you can try (or not!;).In this episode I discuss: My go to breathing techniques as a starting point to regaining. How you can slowly build up your self care routine after having a new baby. My strategy for reintroducing morning time. How to recognize what is truly important to you, say no to other things and strategize with the help you have to prioritize. ROUTINES & rhythms and why they are crucial. How to set and hold boundaries even when you feel like you should give in because of the new addition to your family.The cleaning system I mention - https://cleanmama.com/blog/Food prep resource (Utah) - https://www.citruspeardinners.com/My newborn / postpartum essentials list HEREOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

With all the change and emotional upheaval of the last few months, it is easy to feel a bit unmoored. In this episode, we take a nice big breath and go back to what we know for sure—our core pillars of wholehearted parenting.Whenever we find ourselves having specific issue with one of our children (or any relationships for that matter!), or we are feeling a bit overwhelmed with any aspect of life, we find ourselves returning back to these four basic pillars over and over, and they have served us well.Our foundational recipe is connection, unconditional love, being present, and setting healthy boundaries. We have found these to be not only crucial and useful, but liberating. We address each one with fresh examples to hopefully give you some tips as you navigate the important situations in your life.Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coALL the books that inspired us are here:)Find us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Communication is always an important space, and now more than ever, we are loving the communication philosophy developed by Marshall Rosenberg called Non-Violent Communication (NVC). The ground breaking assumption of NVC is that ALL human beings have the ability to connect with each other and have needs, and that our needs don’t conflict, but it is simply our strategies for meeting those needs that create problems. These conflicting strategies are what lead to violence or causing harm to each other. This is deep, powerful philosophy that can change the way each of us interact. Whether you are talking to your children, your spouse, your neighbor, your boss or those across cultural lines using appropriate and clean communication tactics will open doors and hearts. The steps to nonviolent communication involve observing, describing emotion, identifying needs, making specific requests, and clarifying understanding. If there ever was a time for this clarification, it is now. We hope you find it helpful in all important relationships in your lives.We recorded this episode before the history-making events of the last week surrounding civil rights here in the United States, so although we don’t apply the principles directly to this subject, we look forward to hearing how you apply the concepts in whatever you are currently facing.The Book That Inspired Us:Nonviolent Communication // Marshall B. Rosenberg // Audio and hardcopy versionsFelica’s High Five inspiration: Clean MamaOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/Katelin: https://instagram.com/katiejeangabriel/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We loved this melting pot of rapid fire questions from all of you! Remember to leave a review with any questions you’d like us to answer. In this episode, we answer a bunch of different questions on a wide variety of topics that apply to many parents out there. We talk about our own bedtime routines (aside from our children—we need good sleep too!), what to do when your child is having a dispute at the park playground, and teaching a love of poetry to our kids. We also share a bit about creating an affirmations routine with your kids, and we explore the idea of not projecting our own needs onto our children, along with other topics. Links to things we mentioned:Sign up for our email at findthemagic.co for the poems we referred to:)Taralyn’s favorite sleeping earbuds If you have a newer iPhone, you’ll also need this connector for it them to plug into:)Blue light blocking glasses to wear before bed to improve sleepTaralyn’s Favorite sleep track from itunes: “Slow Wave Sleep Delta Waves” by Kelly HowellHose bib safety lock to keep toddlers from turning on the water (this one locks the whole thing completely). Felica uses this regulator which isn’t a lock, but prevents her youngest kids from turning on the hose.Here is the link to our episode that includes information on age appropriate choresOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Sleep. Blessed, sometimes elusive sleep. Sleep is such an important issue that parents of babies and toddlers often find themselves desperate for it, and it is surrounded by so many emotions. We questions ourselves constantly. Are we doing it right? How can we sift through all the information out there? How can we meet both our needs and the needs of our child? In this wide ranging conversation we discuss and tease out ideas on infant sleep that we hope will be eye opening for all of you!In this episode, we bring in a professional to address one approach to sleep. Kim Hawley is a Certified Certified Holistic Sleep Coach, and she has a Master’s of Public Health, Maternal and Child Health, and a Master’s of Arts Cultural Anthropology from George Washington University (along with many other certifications you can find on her website). She shares many tips regarding sleep, and she offers wonderful advice on how to filter through all the information out there.Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89ZjYou can find Kim Hawley here:Website: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/ If you want to sign up for her free intro call:https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/getting-startedYou can sign up for her newsletter at the bottom of most pages on her websiteFacebook page: https://m.facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

For many parents, it can be difficult to respectfully parent while still holding strong boundaries. However, sometimes, as we try to avoid being an authoritarian tyrant, we go too far the other way and become permissive lambs without boundaries and our children are left with too much power, which in turn makes them feel unanchored and insecure.In the last few decades, our society has witnessed an upswing in number of children who are, diagnosed or not, dealing with many behavior difficulties. Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions, has spent his career helping these children. He has found a pattern that has helped countless parents and teachers find that balance between being an authoritarian parent and an overly permissive parent.While his book is geared towards dealing with children with mild to severe behavior problems, we have found his tools to be unbelievably helpful as parents to all children.The book that inspired us:Raising Lions: The Art of Compassionate Discipline // Joe NewmanOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Does anyone else out there find yourself reaching for an entire box of Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (insert your kryptonite here) when you are feeling the big feelings that most of us are experiencing on a daily basis? During times of high emotions, boredom, and overwhelm, we have found ourselves grasping for something to hold on to. In this time, we have found that Gretchin Rubin’s strategy of using healthy treats to care for ourselves has been truly a life saver.Most of us love the idea of good habits in our lives. In her book, Better Than Before, Rubin describes a strategy of using healthy treats to care for ourselves, which actually increases our ability of keep good habits in our lives. When we deprive ourselves of things that we look forward to and bring us pleasure, we can end up feeling depleted and burned out. This often leads us to abandon our good habit pursuits and can lead us to un-healthy treats or numbing (which can bring us pleasure momentarily, but often derail our long term goals and habits).Healthy treats are so wonderful because they are things that both make you feel good in the moment, and feel good after you are finished with them. On the other hand, unhealthy treats are enjoyable in the moment you indulge in them, but often make us feel worse later (think eating an entire chocolate cake to escape feeling a negative emotion, skipping your workout to mindlessly scroll YouTube, over drinking, or any addictive behavior that you feel sabotages your wellbeing).In this episode, we discuss how to really use the strategy of healthy treats as a fun way to give more to yourself, which in turn allows you to actually stick with your goals and habits. We give our lists of healthy treats so that hopefully you leave the episode with a long list of your own healthy treats you can lean on throughout the day to help you feel both taken care of and motivated.The book that inspired us:The Happiness Project // Gretchin RubinBetter Than Before // Gretchin Rubin (in this book, she really expands the idea of healthy treats)Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

There is no way around it, our stuff affects our lives. Minimalism is a philosophy that invites us to find freedom and simplicity. We all know that minimalism applies to our material things, which is important, and today we discuss how we can apply minimalism to the way we parent. In this episode, we interview Diane Boden, host of the Minimalist Moms Podcast, and a mother of three kids who lives with the goal of thinking more while doing with less.She gives us wonderful tips we can all apply to our lives in a very doable way, and we hope it will leave you inspired to simplify your own life so you can do focus more on what’s truly important to you.You can find Diane on instagram @minimalistmomspodcast, and on her website, http://www.minimalistmomspodcast.com/, where you can find her podcast and other social media platforms.Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

This is a time of self reflection, a slow down presented to us by COVID-19. It isn’t ideal; however, ultimately, it has the potential to lead to a new level of self awareness. Finding your true self and acknowledging who you are fully can be scary and can challenge some of the long engrained thought patterns we all have. GUILT if we want more than caring for children at home. LONGING for something outside of our “good life” when we should be content with that good.Do you find yourself offering yourself at the alter of parenting? Were you shown examples of martyrdom that were praised as being a “good mother or father?” Conversations we have heard have inspired us to explore this joust between care of others and care of ourself. How can we find the dance that will inspire our own happiness and acknowledge the happiness that caring for others brings? How can we respect those we love while holding a space of respect for ourselves?We have broken down four concrete steps that help us recognize, layout, and act on the inspiration to do more burning inside us while opening our awareness to our needs and the needs of those around us.The main Conversation that inspired us:Glennon Doyle and Brene Brown on Untamed: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/glennon-doyle-and-bren%C3%A9-on-untamed/id1494350511?i=1000469313957Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We are honored this week to have a special guest on the podcast this week, Dr. Mary Wilde. She has amazing tips for all of us about how to meet our children’s needs while still meeting our own and remaining whole. She shares useful analogies that will help us all improve our parenting, and help us find peace as we navigate these unique times with our children.Dr. Wilde is a board-certified pediatrician, author, and mom of eight who has created Imagine Pediatrics Behavioral Health & Wellness to address child behavioral health needs in her area and beyond. She has special training in mind-body medicine to help kids build skills of self-regulation and coping through guided imagery and focused practice. She specializes in helping kids who struggle with anxiety and has created the “Overcoming Childhood Anxiety” online course series for youth and parents. Dr. Wilde utilizes the best of modern medicine, while being open to evidence-based holistic & integrative solutions. She advocates prevention & healthy lifestyle choices and is the creator of the “Whole & Healthy” Virtual Health Fair. (Information from her website: https://drmarywilde.com )Other helpful links:Article about meeting your kids “at the bottom of the slide” (letting go but still being there): https://redtri.com/meeting-them-at-the-bottom-of-the-slide/Her online course for kids/teens & parents addressing childhood anxiety from a mind/body/spirit standpoint: https://drmarywilde.com/anxiety-coursesFree ebook "Your Road to Calm: Stress Detox for the Modern Family": https://drmarywilde.com/ebook-optin5-day strength-based ADHD challenge with Dr. Mary Wilde & co-host Dr. Lara Honos-Webb, author of "The Gift of ADHD": https://drmarywilde.com/ADHD-challenge (bonus session on optimizing the home learning environment for kids with ADHD during the pandemic)MANY links and resources for parents during this time of COVID-19 including my favorite websites, articles, blogs addressing the pandemic, resources for free meditations/imagery exercises, and list of ideas on how to safely serve others even during the time of social distancing: go to https://drmarywilde.comParenting book by Dr. Mary Wilde: Faithful Nurturing: Mothering from the Heart to the Heart https://www.amazon.com/Faithful-Nurturing-Mothering-Heart/dp/1534625186Connect with her on:FB: https://www.facebook.com/imaginepediatricsstgeorge (FB live with Q&A every Friday at 12:40pm)Instagram: @drmarywildeYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD9v8BVE0hmyg5SFwxq30PAOur Find the Magic Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Do any of you have children who seem to turn up the squabbling and fighting when they are in close quarters? With schools being cancelled throughout the world, many families are finding themselves with all their children home under one roof all day, and although that presents us with many opportunities, it also has many parents pulling out their hair as their children seem to take sibling rivalry to new heights. In this episode, we address the questions that many of you have asked about how to navigate the concept of siblings fighting. We give tips on how to successfully implement quiet time (which is a life saver during quarantine time!), and how to help your children use this unique situation as a time to help strengthen their connection with each other and with you instead of reeking havoc on their interpersonal relationships and causing the temporary insanity of their parents. You can do this! Books that inspired us: Hold On to Your Kids // Gabor Mate and Gordon Neufeld Siblings Without Rivalry // Adele Fabre and Elaine Mazlish Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Amid the current events of the COVID-19 pandemic and other natural disasters, we have had so many listeners reach out about how to cope as parents during this time. In this episode, we discuss the balance of feeling and processing our own emotions authentically, while not overburdening our children with the full force of our fears. This allows them to also feel all of the big feelings that will come up for them during this time as we offer them a safe space to experience them.We also share with you strategies that are helping us in our daily lives as we have adjusted to the new changes that has accompanied school cancellations and social distancing. Whether you are currently fully isolated or distancing from others, this pandemic has created unrest in our homes. We have tips for you on how to manage homeschool and being together 24/7!We can do this together! Thanks for all of your wonderful support; we have a pretty fabulous worldwide community, and we are so grateful for you!Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Wow world! As we live this beautiful life alongside the current events of our world (you know, like the pandemic we have happening), we have a really wonderful opportunity to deepen our compassion practice to help make the world, and inside our own hearts, a better place. We discovered the power of a practice called Tonglen from Pema Chödrön’s book, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, and we have LOVED incorporating it into our lives! It is a practice that helps you process negative emotion (anyone feeling any of those right now?:) in an amazingly loving way.In this episode, we walk you through the practice, and share how we have found it helpful in our own lives. When it is often so challenging to melt together compassion and kindness that we feel personally into the anxiety of every day. It is so powerful, and we hope you love it as much as we did.If you’d like summary of the steps taken from Chödrön’s book to refer back to after listening, here is the link to our website: https://www.findthemagic.co and click on episode 65.Books that inspired us:When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times // Pema ChödrönGifts of Imperfection // Brené BrownFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/Lastly, here is the link to the Gentri music video that opened Taralyn’s eyes to actually SEEING the need in homeless people without turning away. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Sometimes in life, but especially in parenting, we just feel like we don’t measure up—at all. We can end up feeling like we are failing at one of the most important things we have ever done, and it is disheartening, to say the least. This episode is for all you parents out there who, at the end of some days, have worried that you aren’t enough as you wrap yourselves in blankets of worry and overwhelm.In a world full of beautiful and helpful (and also some not so great) advice, with countless books on every subject, it is possible to sometimes have our efforts to become better parents simply feel too hard, too much.In this episode, we use one of our listener’s example of having a toddler not behaving (hitting, in this case) to explore the path that leads to parent shame, and how we can turn away from that path and find inspiration and peace instead.Books that inspired us:Gifts of Imperfect Parenting // Brené BrownPower of Showing Up // Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We all know that habits are a huge part of any amount of success. In his book, High Performance Habits, Brendon Buchard shares what habits he has found to be the highest contributors to success of all kinds in life during his career as a high performance coach and from studying countless high performers.We have adopted several of his habits in our own life, and we have found them to be immensely helpful. In this episode, we give you an overview of Buchard’s game-changing findings, and share with you which of his habits we have found the most beneficial to us. Some of them are so small, you will be able to immediately work them into your life and hopefully see the profound shifts that follow.Books that inspired us:High Performance Habits // BRENDON BuchardStillness is Key // Ryan HolidayLinks to things we mentioned:-High Performance Habits Planner- Podcast on sleep we loved with Dan Harris and Dr. Matthew WalkerOur Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Many of us often hear the well meant advice to “enjoy every single second because it all goes by so fast!” Although there is so much wisdom in this advice, sometimes it makes us feel guilty when we are in moments that seem at best a drudgery and others that are downright miserable. This episode we hear a listener question about what do when our dreams seem to be deferred while we are in certain seasons of life. Parenting young children is a season that seems to be fraught with many of these dilemmas and questions.In this episode, we address these questions and talk about how to incubate and still develop our dreams WHILE we slow down in the caring for young children. Also, we talk about how to feel the moments of pain, allowing them to flow through us so we are also able to fully embrace the moments of rapture and fulfillment that also come. Both sides of this emotional spectrum are part of every season of life, and there is a courageous beauty to staying open to all that life brings.Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Do you approach the dinner table with hesitation, anxiety or perhaps even dread? Food is an integral part of our lives. We feed our kids multiple times a day and yet it is often a source of contention for many families. We hope this episode can alleviate some of the stress surrounding mealtimes. We get into our favorite tips for cultivating a beautiful, joyful relationship with food. From our daily routine to tips and hacks that have helped our kids become willing and happy eaters. We have a listener question that I am sure all of our listeners have experienced with keeping our kids at the table and we breakdown our theory on food introduction to infants! We hope this deep dive can further guide you in what seems like a simple daily task but can weigh on us so heavily!Books we mention:French Kids Eat Everything // Karen Le BillonIntuitive Eating // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschHere is a link to the baby food website we love to use to introduce our babies to many different flavors: https://babyfoode.comOur favorite recipe is this one:Ingredients3 medium sweet potatoes1/2-1 cup canned coconut milk – full fat1/4 tsp corianderInstructionsHeat oven to 400 degree. Line a baking sheet with tin foil or a silicon mat.Prick sweet potatoes several times with a fork and place on baking sheet. Roast in oven for 45-50 minutes or until tender when priceked with a fork. Let cool to touch.When cool, peel away skin and add sweet potato meat to a blender or food processor.Add in 1/2 cup coconut milk and coriander to the blender and puree for 1-2 minutes or until smooth. If puree is too thick, add in additional coconut milk or water in 1/4 cup increments until you have reached your desired consistency.Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):Find us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In part two of our discussion about raising boys, we review the four pillars of connection, getting outside, sleep, and nutrition, and we tackle the challenges and opportunities that boys face at school and learning. We also address the research on screen time and boys’ brains, and give you all sorts of tips to make screen time a pleasant activity with boundaries instead of an unlimited source of distraction and dependency. We have such an AMAZING opportunity as parents to really create a community where they can thrive with their own natural strengths, and we can help create a world where boys are taught to have emotional intelligence and access their internal world with confidence and love. Thanks for joining us for this conversation!Books that inspired us:Calmer, Easier, Happier Boys // Noel Janis-NortonBoys Adrift // Leonard SaxWild Things // Stephen James and David ThomasLink to resources we mentioned:Wim Hof Method: https://www.wimhofmethod.comTim Ferris’s interview with Wim Hof: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-tim-ferriss-show/id863897795?i=1000351593298Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books):https://www.findthemagic.coFind us on instagram:Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe