Sex With Emily

This is how an orgasm works. It’s a symphony of mind, nervous system, blood flow and muscle spasms, all syncing up to give you oh-so-wonderful sensations. But what if you’ve never had an orgasm before? Or what if you do experience them – but want them to be better? In today’s popular Best Of episode, I explain the science behind orgasms and how to make yours amazing. I tell you what to do if you’ve never had an orgasm before, give you tricks for elevating your orgasms, and even share a few unexpected erogenous zones where you can orgasm (nipplegasms, anyone?). I also take your orgasm questions including: when the sex is great, but you just can’t climax with your partner, what gives? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks How to Train Your Vagina SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks Dual Stimulation Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69) Insertion Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Yes, No, Maybe List, Tips for Communication & Other Guides Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women. See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: The 6 Best Masturbation Toys 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex Podcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All The Menopause Manifesto, Dr. Jen Gunter: Bookshop | Amazon @ABlackGirlsGuidetoMenopause Menopocalypse, Amanda Thebe: Bookshop | Amazon Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Show Notes: The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have The 6 Best Masturbation Toys SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Playground Lubes: Love Sesh | Date Night | Mini Escape | After Hours Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Touch ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bored in bed? It happens. Sexual boredom doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – but it is a cue that you’re ready for novelty. So save this episode because it’s an entire guide to spicing up your sex. First, I start with the when and where: how does the time of day affect your arousal? And where can you do it besides the bedroom? Next, we make your favorite sex positions more interesting and exciting with tweaks you can try right now. Finally, I give you beginner-friendly kink with sensory deprivation, temperature play and hurts-so-good pain play. Right this way to easy kink and tons of low-lift ways to play. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Je Joue Massage Candles Le Wand Crystal Wand Le Wand Stainless Steel Hoop Firefly Glass Dildo System JO Flavored Lubes Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your sleep affects your sex drive: we know this. The bottom line: if you know the right sleep hacks, you can have much better sex. In this fascinating Best Of episode with Dr. Michael Breus, we dive into the science of sleep and how to leverage it for sexual arousal. Starting with the four chronotypes, your body’s natural disposition to be awake or asleep, we help you figure out how to work with your body (not against it) for sexual arousal. We also discuss snoring – why it happens and how it affects your sexual connection. “I’ve saved more marriages as a sleep therapist than I ever would have as a marital therapist,” says Dr. Breus. In this episode, you’ll learn how to work with your unique circadian rhythm for better sex and communication. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Hello Again Suppositories (code EMILY25 for 25% off orders over $50) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Chronoquiz.com More Dr. Michael Breus: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! On today’s episode, I’m talking through all the positive reasons to explore anal with yourself, no matter what genitals you’ve got. I’m also busting common anal myths and giving you step-by-step tips for exploration based on your anatomy. I’m talking all things toys and insertion for beginners to advanced anal players. Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) b-Vibe Vibrating Jewel Plug b-vibe Anal Training Kit Aneros Mgx Syn Trident Prostate Massager LELO Loki Wave Prostate Massager Vibrator Lumen LED Pleasure Plug Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide Lubricant Article: Double The O, Double The Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you? Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do your meals affect your sex drive? Are your hormones interfering with your pleasure? And real talk…does alcohol make it harder for you to orgasm? Dr. Will Cole hosts the podcast The Art of Being Well, and on today’s show, he explains the connection between what you eat and how you feel – both in and out of the bedroom. We discuss sex-supportive nutrients and how to fill your plate for better sex, the real deal on HRT and hormone fluctuation, shame-flammation, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered how certain foods help or hurt your sex life, this one’s for you. Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Emily on The Art of Being Well Podcast: Website | Apple Podcasts | Spotify Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole More Dr. Will Cole: Website | Telehealth Consult | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to turn ons, we’ve all got our preferences. Maybe you love a deep, sexy voice. Maybe a wicked sense of humor. But there are five sexual arousal styles that apply to most people: you can think of them as the five love languages for sexual excitement. They are: conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure. In this popular Best Of episode, I break down the five styles and how to identify your top one. I share tips for harnessing your arousal, with date ideas and behaviors to spark your sexual curiosity. I also help you understand the key difference between arousal and desire, and take your arousal questions, including: what do you do when medication is numbing your genitals? And when you’re more excited for solo sex than partnered sex – is that a problem? Show Notes: Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

([TW // mentions SA, r*pe] If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 21:30-22:25, 51:30-52:05.) Porn gets a bad rap – for very understandable reasons. Today, I’m breaking down the reasons why with Dr. Wednesday Martin, and also playing devil’s advocate and giving you a new way to approach it. Can you learn legit sex skills from porn viewing? In this episode, I’m going through all the reasons porn might be triggering for some, so you know how to incorporate it into your relationship or your solo sex in a healthy way. Next, I give tips for how to watch it with a partner, and identify your personal turn-ons. Finally, I talk through edu-porn, audio erotica and other contemporary porn platforms that get you aroused…and sexually educated. Show Notes: 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life LELO F1S V2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Study: Pornography does not cause violent sex crimes Make Love Not Porn (Cindy Gallop) Erika Lust Dr. Wednesday Martin on SWE: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All | It’s Open (Relationship) Season | Best of: Women, Lust & Infidelity Wednesday Squirts for the First Time with Kenneth Play & Whitney More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. First, I’m talking prep steps: literally, how do you get in the mood for FaceTime sex and help yourself feel comfortable on-screen? Next, how do you position your camera and what do you actually say in the moment? Finally, I take your questions on FaceTime sex, including: how to spice it up and how do you end a sexting session? Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Get a Stronger Erection? 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz GQ Article: The Idol just gave us the worst sex scene in history Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated. On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention lately on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode. Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Get a Stronger Erection? Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Yes! No! Maybe? List Article: How to Make a Mess ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk teasing. Do you know how to build sexual tension? Maybe you’re dating and want to be a cute flirt. Or maybe you’re in a long term relationship and want to create a sexy vibe. No matter your situation, today’s episode teaches a lost art: the art of the tease. First, I talk focus and flirting: simple little hacks to put the spotlight on the other person with flavors of sexual play. Next, I talk body language: when to touch, when not to touch, and how to deploy a sexy sort of restraint – not desperation – to your interactions. Finally, I take your questions on confidence and seduction, including: how do you show interest on a date without coming on too strong? Show Notes: ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m introducing a new series today that you literally helped me create: Sexy Stories! You share your juiciest, most personal success stories with me, and I read them aloud on the show. Because sometimes the best way to learn about sex comes from other people and their experiences. First: parents who sent their kids away and tried pegging for the very first time. Hear how it went… from the husband’s perspective. Next, a married couple of 20 years have an unexpected night on the dance floor involving a chance meeting with a hot stranger – and then, their very first threesome. Finally, she orgasms for the first time during penetration, but you’ll never guess how she got there. If you have a Sexy Story you would like to share on the podcast, send it to [email protected] with “Sexy Story” in the subject line! Please only include information (such as names) that you are comfortable being read aloud on the podcast. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Good Little Sub ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free 2pc High Love THC Libido Gummy Sample Pack) More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex (out now at bookstores everywhere), I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Good Little Sub ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz LELO Soraya Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Remember Loveline? The call-in show hosted by Dr. Drew to get your love and dating questions answered? Well, it holds a special place in my heart because I used to co-host it! So today, in celebration of my career leading up to my new book Smart Sex (out today!), I’m inviting my dear friend Dr. Drew Pinsky onto Sex With Emily to help me answer your sex questions Loveline-style. First, what does it mean when you feel like your long-distance partner is following you to your next city? Next, a college guy wants to know: how do you find real connection amid hookup culture? Or what about moving on from a toxic sexual relationship: how do you claim your own desires, now that you’re single? All this and more with me and Dr. Drew. Show Notes: How to Make a Mess: Squirting, Face Ejaculation & Golden Showers Double the O, Double the Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) More Dr. Drew: Website | Dr.Drew.tv | Twitter | Instagram Opening Up Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships Crazy on the Inside: A Memoir of Nobody Special Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non Monogamy The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable? First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex. Show Notes: How to Make a Mess: Squirting, Face Ejaculation & Golden Showers Double the O, Double the Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free 2pc High Love THC Libido Gummy Sample Pack) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your 1st order) LELO SONA 2 Cruise (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Episode: Best Of: Best Blowjob Ever Episode: Best Of: Oral Sex Master Class Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did you discover who you were as a sexual being? Are you still figuring it out? Your desires, your sexual turn-ons, your overall attitude towards sex itself? Well, today, we’re doing something a little different: I’m answering all those questions and letting you in on my sexual journey. That’s right! I’ve got author, anthropologist, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin on the show today as we turn the tables and let her ask me how my career as a sex educator got started, the first time I had legitimately good sex, and how my relationship with sex has evolved. I also share the backstory behind this podcast, why I was so curious to launch a career in sex education in the first place, and how it's all led up to my book, Smart Sex. Listen in… it’s a juicy one. Show Notes: Your Guide to Mutual Masturbation How to Train Your Vagina ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Bookshop More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Good news: every vulva owner can learn how to squirt. But it does take practice, and on today’s Best Of show, I’ve got sex educator, author, and female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl here to walk us through it. First, Deborah clarifies the connection between squirting and the G-spot, and just in case you have any doubts about the G-spot’s existence, Deborah tells you how to find yours in the mirror. Next, we clarify what female ejaculate is – hint, not pee – and how this fluid builds up in your body. We also talk about the difference between squirting and orgasm, and finally, we take your top questions on how to squirt with a partner. Yes: there are step-by-step tips! Because, as I always say, the wetter, the better. Show Notes: Your Guide to Mutual Masturbation How to Train Your Vagina ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% OFF & a bonus play rag worth $25) Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot More Deborah Sundahl: Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Violet Benson started her now-famous Instagram account @DaddyIssues_ while working through issues of her own. On today’s podcast, she opens up about working through deep emotional struggles so she can create the sex life and relationships that truly work for her. No matter your background or life stage, I’m positive this conversation will liberate and inspire you to take the next step in your sex life. Violet, who hosts the popular podcast Almost Adulting, tells me about her decision to temporarily swear off penetrative sex, freezing her eggs, and how she quit playing games while dating. She also takes the Sex IQ quiz inspired by my upcoming book, Smart Sex! Listen to her results, then listen to both of us answer a listener question: when the sex is hot but they’ve got huge, emotional red flags, should you pursue them anyway? Show Notes: Sexy Summer Pack List: The Seven Essentials 5 Reasons to Add Anal Play to Your Masturbation Routine ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE FULL SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to [email protected] and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) LELO LILY 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) More Violet Benson: @daddyissues_ | Instagram Almost Adulting Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have fears around sex, whether we’re aware of them or not. Maybe you’re worried someone’s not going to like your body, or that if you and your partner try something new, it’ll be awkward or weird. Maybe you’re worried you’ll never have sex with anyone ever again. I’m here to tell you this: your sexual anxieties are completely normal. Listen in as my callers and I work through theirs and develop actionable solutions to take the next step. When you’re a vulva owner, and something comes out when you orgasm, are you peeing or squirting? When preparing for a threesome, how can you get over the fear that your partner won't want sex with just you anymore? When the sex has fallen off entirely, how do you start initiating again? All this and more in today's sexual anxieties episode. Show Notes: Sexy Summer Pack List: The Seven Essentials 4 Penis Problems and 4 Ways to Solve Them MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) VIIA Hemp Co’s Lowdose 2mg Delta 9 Microdosing Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free 2pc High Love THC Libido Gummy Sample Pack) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Author Elise Loehnen has thought a lot about women and desire. In her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, she breaks down the cultural forces that teach women to be desirable rather than desiring, and the shame attached to a woman wanting something: whether it’s sex, success, or a damn slice of pizza. Whether it’s lust, and the way we encourage women to police others' sexuality, or sloth, and the way women are encouraged to be their husbands' caregivers, these invisible expectations serve none of us. Instead, Elise talks about ways we can liberate ourselves in ways that improve our sex lives and beyond: how to balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships, how to shed sexual shame, and so much more. As Elise says, “Our bodies are portals; lust is the invitation to enter.” Please note that this episode includes discussions of sexual trauma. If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 19:35-25:13 41:36-43:03 Show Notes: 4 Penis Problems and 4 Ways to Solve Them What’s a Sexual State of the Union & Why Should You Have One? MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Yarlap Kegel Exercise Kit & System (code EMILY for $35 off) On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Bookshop More Elise Loehnen: Podcast | Newsletter | Instagram | Website | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can be difficult to meet new people and cultivate relationships, especially when looking for romantic partners. But don’t let that hold you back from trying: you might just need a new strategy. On today’s show, I take your calls on modern dating and how to solve the problems you’re running into. Let’s say you want to date an older woman but don’t have confidence in your communication - how do you improve your conversation game? When you’ve been single for years and fear rejection, how do you break out of romantic stagnation? Or what about breadcrumbing: when someone gives you just enough to keep you interested without outright ghosting you. How can you directly communicate without coming off as pushy? Finally, what are the signs of love bombing? One caller asks me if that’s what’s happening to her. Spoiler: yep. Show Notes: What’s a Sexual State of the Union & Why Should You Have One? MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your 1st order) Womaness.com/Emily (code EMILY for 20% off sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

All sexual fantasies have one thing in common: they trigger an arousal response inside our bodies, laced with erotic flavor. But how do you actualize your fantasy with a partner who’s wary of it? Even turned off by it? On today’s show, I’m taking your calls on this exact predicament. First up: when your partner wants you to drastically change your appearance for their pleasure, should you do it? Or when your partner wants to watch you with a third, how do you find that person? Next, if you’re not naturally dominant in bed, but your partner’s begging for it, how do you step into your power? I also get into urine fetishes (yep, like golden showers), how to introduce them to an otherwise vanilla sex life, and how to explore same-sex adventures in a hetero marriage. Show Notes: Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) SmartMouth FetLife Kasidie Feeld Womaness.com/Emily (code EMILY for 20% off sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You shouldn't have to be an Olympic gymnast to have sex. But let’s be honest – certain positions can be hard! So inspired by the Positions chapter in my new book Smart Sex, I’m bringing back this Best Of episode. You’ll hear quick tips to make ambitious moves easier and classic moves more exciting. First, I share the most-searched sex positions in the country: can you guess America’s favorite sex move? Next, we look at the much-hyped reverse cowgirl. I give suggestions to make it feel as good and sexy as it looks. As for oral: I talk you through the Kivin Method, which stimulates vulva owners' K-points, and how to make 69 more relaxing. Finally, don’t go to the emergency room from shower sex – just listen to my tips to keep it steamy AND stable. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Dom for Better Sex: 6 Essential Phrases Moms Deserve Pleasure Too: A Sexy Self-Care Guide MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: How to Master These Awkward Sex Positions I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When resentment builds up in a relationship, it compromises our sexual connection. We feel taken for granted, unappreciated, and unseen. Most of all, we feel emotionally unsafe, which makes it impossible to let loose and feel free in bed. So on today’s show, I talk through a study that connects the dots between a quality sex life and regular expressions of gratitude. Next, I take your calls: when long standing issues with your partner inhibit your desire, how do you break through that impasse? When your partner says you’re not meeting their sexual standards, how much of that messaging do you take in? And when you crave words of affirmation, but they just can’t seem to give them, is it time for new therapy or to respectfully end the relationship? Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Dom for Better Sex: 6 Essential Phrases Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) VUSH We Come First Couples Connection Kit (Kit is 30% off, Save an additional 10% with the code EMILYWCF) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all need to mix it up sometimes. Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? With creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life – and I’m here to tell you how. First, we’ll talk about planning a "sex-cation" with low-lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what’s left? I advise one caller on sexual teasing and how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing, and how to have more fun with casual sex if your current routine – even with new people! – is leaving you bored. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) LELO Tor 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex Article: The Best Masturbation Techniques to Try Tonight Quinn Audio Erotica Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered if there’s more to your sexuality than you ever realized? Or relationship models that challenge everything you’re used to? Men’s Health and Cosmo sex columnist Zachary Zane has been there. As a self-proclaimed “boyslut,” he’s radically open about his journey as a bisexual, polyamorous man and tells all in his forthcoming book: BOYSLUT: A Memoir and Manifesto. He shares how he came to understand his attraction to all genders, his experience living in a polycule, why it’s healthy for all of us to get used to rejection, and how bisexuality for men is gaining more visibility. He also helps me answer your questions on exploring bisexuality while in a long-term relationship, how to respond if you’re in a hetero relationship and your partner tells you they’re bisexual, and how to find casual, no strings attached sex. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto: Bookshop | Amazon More Zachary Zane: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, it’s true: I’m talking with my own mother today about sex. A ton of you have asked me how I got into the sex education business in the first place: now, you get to hear from the person who raised me! First, my mom and I talk about her sexual journey, coming up in a time when open communication around sex wasn’t normalized and female pleasure wasn’t valued. She also helps me your questions on sex and relationships, like how to give a partner feedback when they’re doing something that turns you off, what to do if menopause is tanking your sex drive, how to negotiate with your partner when you’ve got different definitions of cheating, and how to approach a partner who does NOT want to spice up your sex life – but you’re dying for some variety. Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your 1st order) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. MagBreakthrough.com/SexWithEmily (code SexWithEmily10 for 10% off) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment a better experience for all. When you’re the initiator, but want your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to them about it? We’ll also get into spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and as someone with responsive desire, I’ll share my routine for getting turned on for sex. Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one’s initiating, what’s the conversation you need to have? I advise a caller in this exact situation. Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) SmartMouth VUSH I Come First - Self-Connection Kit (Kit is 50% off, Save an additional 10% with the code EMILYICF) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. MagBreakthrough.com/SexWithEmily (code SexWithEmily10 for 10% off) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s holding you back from having good sex? Is it self-confidence? A problem with your partner? Are you under so much stress that it’s impossible to feel erotic and turned on? In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the 6 most common roadblocks to sex and how to move past them. I’ll talk you through how to navigate each of them and also take your questions on personal sexual roadblocks. For example, if you’re coupled, is it cheating to get on OnlyFans? What do you do if you’re not always wet for sex? And finally, what's the best way to work with a partner who’s prone to jealousy? All this and more on our roadblocks show. Show Notes: How to Use a Vibe With a Partner High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) LELO LILY 3 (code EMILY for 25% off sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a new day in the world of cannabis and sex. So many of you have asked me for this show! While wide scale research is still thin, there are many encouraging signs that cannabis can help you unlock more sexual pleasure, whether it's erotic arousal, help with erections, less anxiety, or less pain. But I get it: cannabis isn’t legal everywhere! And it’s also not right for everyone. So on today’s mini show, I’ll be discussing the latest research on cannabis and sex, how to know if it's a good choice for you, delivery methods like edibles and drinkables, and vetted product recommendations for sexy times, both partnered and solo. Show Notes: High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love – THC Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 20% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want. Show Notes: How to Use a Vibe With a Partner High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s a lot to be said for sex toys. For one, they stimulate nerve endings much deeper than hands alone can reach – and that’s true no matter what genitals you’ve got. But how do you incorporate toys into partnered sex? And which ones are right for your body to give you mind-blowing orgasms? On today’s episode, we’re talking all things sex toys so you can play in new and different ways. First, is it alright to always bring a vibe to partnered sex? One penis owner says “absolutely.” Speaking of penis owners, which toys are best for this crowd? I also talk about squirting with toys, how to change up your solo sex routine, and if there’s anything wrong if you can ONLY orgasm with a toy. Spoiler alert: nope! Show Notes: The Basics of Safe Sex Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide) Bellesa I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever used a “Yes, No, Maybe” List for sex? It’s a menu of sex acts that prioritizes consent and communication among sexual partners. It’s one of my hands-down favorite tools to explore new ideas and spice up sex lives. But how do you actually use the list and turn your choices into realities? On today’s show, I reveal my NEW and IMPROVED "Yes, No, Maybe" List, and show you how to use it individually or with a partner. I share new ideas we added to the list, like orgasm denial, bondage, and electrostimulation, as well as success stories from folks who have filled it out. Plus, we’ll talk about what to do if your answers differ from your partner's, and how a real couple worked through that sticky situation together. Show Notes: The Basics of Safe Sex Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Pleasure Planner, Tips for Communication & Other Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think about anal sex, what comes to mind? Does it make you feel turned on? Nervous? Like something you want to try or do more of, but you’re not sure about the best way to approach it? On today’s show, I help you get more comfortable with anal play by answering your top questions. How can you use foreplay and communication to relax into the experience? If you’ve tried anal play before but didn’t love it, what are some toys and techniques you can use to feel more pleasure? What’s the safest way to train with an anal toy, and can you hurt yourself by having too much anal? Bottoms up, because your anal education starts now. Show Notes: I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Get to Know The Clitoris and How to Pleasure It PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO LOKI Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you give incredible, life-affirming oral sex to a vulva owner? While every body is different, I’m here to tell you that these are the techniques you absolutely need. First, we’ll talk the art of the tease. I explain how to use your tongue to intensify sensations and encourage arousal. I also get into everyone’s favorite: the Kivin Method. Next, I show you how to help facilitate a G-spot orgasm by answering your top questions. For example, when you’re 100% down to give oral but your partner doesn’t like receiving, what do you do? When you’re the vulva owner and want to squirt, how do you get there? Finally, I talk overcoming insecurities when you’re the receiver, and how to make giving oral more physically comfortable. Show Notes: I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Get to Know the Clitoris (& How to Pleasure It) PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Podcast: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Article: Ask Emily: How Do I *Actually* Start Squirting? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to be sexually confident? In my opinion, it comes from a sense of security in who you are, what you bring to the table, and knowing that it’s OK to ask questions. It’s not having all the answers, because let’s be honest: sex would be boring if we knew everything already. But when your self-image takes a hit, how do you recover your sexual confidence and combat performance anxiety? I’m talking to callers with precisely that question. What do you do when your partner keeps talking about how hot strangers are, even when you told them it makes you uncomfortable? What happens when you’re not maintaining your erections, and it’s causing anxiety? How about when your partner is more sexual than ever – but not towards you? All this and more in today’s sexual confidence episode. Show Notes: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my opinion, masturbation is one of the healthiest self-care practices out there. But so many of you tell me how ashamed you feel about masturbating! Especially since the only pop culture examples you saw growing up were cringey. That changes today, as I take your calls on masturbation, taking time to explore your body, and unlocking different kinds of orgasms during solo sex. I also discuss masturbation frequency, and if there’s such a thing as too much. Speaking of frequency: is it possible for vulva owners to have multiple orgasms during solo sex? Let’s find out. I’ll answer your questions on group masturbation parties, jealousy toward your partner’s vibrator, and what to do when your partner can only orgasm through masturbation. Show Notes: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Emily x Christina Aguilera: HelloPlayground.com/Xtina CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator & Reverie (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide) OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50) LELO TOR 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show. Show Notes: The 7 Secrets of Making Out How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SmartMouth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear. Show Notes: The 7 Secrets of Making Out How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure FetLife Feeld #Open Kinky Rabbit Club Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode. Show Notes: Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Singles’ Survival Kit 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: Where is the Clitoris? Je Joue’s New Bullet Vibrators & Endometriosis Collection (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF everything) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Podcast: Everybody Loves Oral Article: 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show! Show Notes: Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Sexy Survival Kit PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Okay, What’s Really the Difference Between Kinks and Fetishes? Yes No Maybe List, Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides FirmTech Rings (code EMILY20 for 20% off sitewide) FetLife Kasidie LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a healthy balance. She’s worried her boyfriend depends on porn for arousal and isn’t attracted to her anymore: what now? He’s married and wants to watch porn with his wife, how should he broach the subject? Finally, her father was a porn addict and she’s worried her boyfriend might be too – I give her communication tips to ease the anxiety. All this and more on today’s porn show! Show Notes: How Do I Prep For Sex? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Article: So, Where’s the Porn for Women? Scarleteen XConfessions.com This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from the people right in front of you? When you’re married monogamously, but one of you starts flirting with someone else, is an open marriage the right move, or not so much? And when you’re in a heterosexual relationship, but want to explore your bisexuality, is bringing in a same-sex third a healthy fix? All this and more on today’s episode. Show Notes: How Do I Prep For Sex? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship? What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship? OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax. How can you still have numerous, deep orgasms? When you love anal play, but haven’t had an anal orgasm quite yet, how can you make it happen? And can all vulva-owners really have multiple orgasms? Find out all this and more on today’s orgasm show. Show Notes: Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. Karpman PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve. Show Notes: PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SmartMouth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices