Sex With Emily

Is it okay to get turned on thinking about my partner with someone else? How can we maintain intimacy amid financial stress? Is it possible to be a feminist and also want to be submissive in the bedroom? Should I be honest with my partner that I’ve never had penetrative sex before? You all ask the best questions, and I’m here to answer them in today’s juicy Hotline Call episode. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to create new fantasies, when you always have the same one How to watch porn creatively with a partner How to prioritize pleasure, even during your busiest weeks See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Opening Up: Amazon | Barnes & Noble The Ethical Slut: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Insight Timer Breathe App Where Should We Begin? Card Game SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some sex and relationship advice is better than others. Today, Producer Erica and I review some of the most trending sex and relationship advice from TikTok this year, from “how to make them fall in love with you” and love bombing, to when you should sleep with someone or if the “bird test” will tell you whether you should stay with your partner or not. While reviewing all this advice, we’ll let you know if we agree or disagree. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to maintain sexual tension in long-term relationships How to avoid “mothering” your partner Whether it’s possible to make someone fall in love with you See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Use a Penis Pump Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we’re diving into a topic I know you all love: sex positions! Today, I’m answering your juiciest positions questions before breaking down the top 3 sex positions, giving you the pros and cons of each one and adaptations to make them even better. Sex positions are often the first things people ask me about when looking to spice up their sex lives - so I’m giving you some options! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to feel confident on top Why pillows are the secret weapon to upleveling sex positions Pleasurable positions for curved penises and tilted uteruses See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Why You Should Try Anal (& How to Do it the Right Way) How to Use a Penis Pump Je Joue Gift Sets (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) 6 Ways to Upgrade 69 We-Vibe Rave LELO Loki Wave SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Hotline show, I take your calls about having sex talks like: How to relax into oral sex and give your partner tips to make you scream. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. And how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this Best Of episode, and see if your next sex talk is a little bit easier. In this episode, you’ll also learn: All about the Kivin Method Whether age gaps really matter in relationships How to share sex toys safely See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Sexy Stocking Stuffers & How to Use Them Why You Should Try Anal (& How to Do it the Right Way) FirmTech (bundle the Tech Ring with a 1:1 consultation and save $230 with code EMILY) Best Of: Oral Sex Master Class Everybody Loves Oral Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Sex With Emily Vesper Vibrating Necklace SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo sex is an integral part of being sexually healthy. But how do you spice up your masturbation routine? And how do you get rid of shame surrounding solo sex? I get into all this and more in today’s Best Of episode, including: the health benefits of masturbation, common masturbation fantasies, and whether or not your vibrator is desensitizing your clitoris. In this episode, you’ll learn: How often the SWE community has solo sex How to practice mindful masturbation How to establish a healthy masturbation routine See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Find the G-Spot Sexy Stocking Stuffers & How to Use Them Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (45% off sitewide, code EMILY for an additional 15% off) Edging 101 & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever felt like orgasming with a partner is like solving a Rubik's cube blindfolded? Well, you're not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I dive headfirst into this problem with a few tricks up our sleeves. Next on the agenda: how to tell your loving partner you want to be humiliated in the bedroom. I give you the tools to help your partner feel more comfortable with the idea. Then we discuss the ever growing debate: is masturbating with a cam girl considered cheating? Stick around to hear my two cents. And finally, we're talking about masturbating, even when you've got a willing partner on standby. We'll weigh the pros and cons, and why solo sex deserves just as much love as partnered sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: About core erotic desires The benefits of masturbation (by yourself and with a partner) How to communicate your fantasies to a partner See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69 How to Find the G-Spot Magic Wand Micro SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From cheating to sexless marriages, we’re back with another juicy Am I the Asshole? episode. Today, Producer Erica and I let you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships, answering questions like: AITA for wanting to leave my partner after he cheated, when I cheated first? Or AITA for not wanting my fiancé to talk about sex with my best friend? Tune in to find out and let me know what you think in my socials! In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you should practice new positions after a sex session How to navigate mismatched libidos The importance of establishing new goals for a relationship after infidelity Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69 VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all about fantasies. Specifically, the ones you, the Sex With Emily community, shared with me! From threesomes to cuckolding to CNC - consensual nonconsent, I break down each one and also answer your top fantasy questions. What if you have a hard time visualizing your desires? What if you’re nervous to try sex acts you’ve already done with previous partners? I get into all this and more. In this episode, you’ll learn: The psychology behind our top sexual fantasies How to accept your fantasies, even when they feel like the most shameful Success stories from listeners who turned their fantasies into realities See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Holiday season is near, and the Sex With Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here! We’re all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones’ lives (and your life!) this holiday season? Today, Producer Erica and I discuss our favorite, pleasure-filled gifts. Plus, we discuss: How do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy? And how do you gift one to them? Stay tuned. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: At what point in a relationship it's appropriate to gift someone a sex toy How to introduce sex toys to a new partner My top gift recommendations for your loved ones Hottest Gift Guide Ever: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide The Giftables Collection by Plus One (30% off orders over $50, 30% off sitewide on Cyber Monday) The Rose by PlusOne VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Magic Wand Micro Je Joue Couples Collection Playground Mood Maker Je Joue Mimi OSEA Essential Hydrating Oil Brooklinen Super-Plush Bath Towels Bearaby Weighted Blanket Contigo Stainless Steel Travel Mug Sex Toys for Penises by Arcwave LELO LOKI Wave (code EMILY10 for an extra 10% off existing sales) Omala Skin Balm Candle HigherDose Red Light Face Mask Morgasm CBD Arousal Gel Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

‘Tis the season… for more sex! Today, Producer Erica and I dive into the reasons why people have more or less sex over the holidays, how to maintain intimacy when you’re staying with relatives, and my top discreet toy recs. We also get into relationship dynamics over the holidays: Should you break up before or after? Should you bring them home to meet the parents? Should you hang out with your holiday hookup? And so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Why sex drives peak and decline over holiday breaks The best places to have sex while home for the holidays Things to notice in a partner while traveling See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever Je Joue Mimi, G-Spot Bullet Vibrator & More LELO Dot Clitoral Vibrator Womanizer Premium 2 Suction Toy SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Hotline is ringing, and we’re answering! Producer Erica and I answer all your juicy questions, from discomfort around a partner’s sexual history to how to find a third for a threesome. We also discuss prioritizing solo sex during stressful times like divorce, as well as how to manage premature ejaculation when you’ve started foreplay outside the bedroom. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to send sexy texts with confidence, even if you’ve never sexted with your partner before Suggested steps before bringing someone else into the bedroom Navigating age differences in relationships See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever Feeld.co/Emily for 30 Days of Free Majestic Membership Promescent.com/Emily for 15% off sitewide Podcast: Sex Party 101 SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the most important pillars of sexual intelligence is embodiment. Today’s guest knows a thing or two about connecting with your body for a better life and better sex. Bestselling author and wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh, also known as “the Body Whisperer,” teaches us how to listen to our bodies, simple exercises to reduce pain and heighten orgasms, how to work with changing hormones, and so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to do a reverse kegel How posture and gait can affect our sexual performance All about fascia – the “WiFi” of our bodies! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Orgasm During Missionary VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Awaken the Power of Your Pelvic Floor - Join the Waitlist! Aligned Life Studio (code EMILY30 for 30% off your first subscription) More Lauren Roxburgh: Instagram | YouTube | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Confidence is something we all struggle with at times, particularly in our sex lives and relationships. From feeling insecure about our bodies, to not thinking we’re “good enough” in bed, messages from society, past partners, and our own shame can affect how we show up in the bedroom. In this Best Of episode, I’m giving you my top tips for boosting your sexual confidence. I also answer your questions like: how do you help a partner boost their confidence? How can you hack your brain to feel confident while naked? How can you fully let go in bed, so that you can experience maximum pleasure? And so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: Specific exercises for building body acceptance Sexual communication tips How to explore sexually, even if you feel less experienced See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Triple Stimulation Masturbation How to Orgasm During Missionary FirmTech (code Emily20 for 20% off) Feeld SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I get asked all the time: what makes great sex? Well, today’s guests would argue that the best sex is shameless sex. Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the dynamic duo behind the Shameless Sex podcast, join me today in answering all your juicy questions. From learning to identify what you really want in bed to how to take hot vulva pics and deciding whether an open relationship is right for you, Amy and April share their top tips for becoming a better lover. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to feel more present and embodied during sex What “shameless sex” really means How to improve your sex life with old and new partners See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Triple Stimulation Masturbation Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Magic Wand We-Vibe Podcast: Orgasms, Squirting & The Year of Anal Licking Pre Order Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For Shameless Sex Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts Shameless Sex Socials: Instagram | TikTok | YouTube | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies How to work through ultimatums in relationships Why your sex life should evolve over time See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. Show Notes: Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Flavored Lubes Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does dating ever feel like a second job? You’re not alone. Today, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid of the popular U Up? podcast share tips to hack your dating life so you can make genuine connections while enjoying the process. Known for reading between the lines and giving their listeners the straight-up advice they need (but may not always want to hear), Jordana and Jared help me answer all your questions, from what makes a great dating profile to how people’s definitions of “casual sex” can vary. They also help me answer your questions about hooking up with a friend, long-distance relationships, the “ick” and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: What to know before meeting up with a date in person How to create a profile that sparks genuine conversations How to combat dating app fatigue See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

([TW // mentions su*c*de] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through 47:00-48:00.) Do you (or your partner) start fights over nothing? Do stable relationships feel unsettling? Today, holistic psychologist, podcast host, and author Dr. Scott Lyons shows us how some of us may be more addicted to drama than we think. From attachment styles to toxic partners, Dr. Lyons explains how unresolved trauma can show up in ourselves and our relationships. We also talk about the desire to have rough sex, why makeup sex feels so good, how trauma lives in our bodies, and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to work through jealousy in relationships How addiction to drama affects our sexual pleasure How to identify and sit with uncomfortable emotions See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva Magic Wand Micro SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this Best Of episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity. In this episode, you’ll learn: The history & evolution of relationship structures Reasons people have affairs How to rebuild trust after infidelity See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel Podcast: Turn Yourself On w/ Esther Perel SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. In this Best Of episode, I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why masturbation is important for your overall sexual wellness The truth about porn addiction How to incorporate toys into solo and partnered sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help Je Joue Amour, Duet & Vita (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, this episode’s for you. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions, starting with: how do you tell your partner you’ve been faking orgasms without breaking their heart? Next: is it normal to be dating for MONTHS without penetrative sex? Let’s find out, as well as how to talk about sex with a new partner before you've had it. Looking to explore anal play the right way, after years of uncomfortable attempts? Let’s do it. And finally, we dive into the world of bisexuality. Do you have to tell your partner that you’re bi? How do you incorporate your sexuality into your relationship? From communication tips to sex hacks, I’ve got you! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Missionary is a tried-and-true classic. It’s the position many of us think about when we think about sex… which is also why it gets a bad rap. Haters say it’s boring and vanilla, I say it’s an underrated favorite. In today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you upgrade your missionary game from “meh” to “mind-blowing.” We'll debunk myths about missionary and dive into ways to spice it up, from subtle tweaks to full-blown transformations that’ll keep you (and your partner) coming! Struggling to reach the big O? I've got position hacks to enhance clitoral pleasure, especially for vulva owners who might not feel the stimulation they crave in typical missionary. Speaking of “typical” missionary… Who says missionary can't be kinky? I reveal some of the hottest ways to incorporate bondage, dirty talk, and even some BDSM elements to transform missionary into your new go-to position. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Magic Wand Mini Massager We-Vibe Chorus Article: Missionary Sex Position – New and Improved Podcast: High Pleasure: Cannabis + Sex SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all experience sexual highs and lows, but what do you do if your “low” is a literal low libido? And your “high” might result in a penis injury? Let’s find out. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions. Starting with anal rimming: what if your partner has expressed interest in receiving… but feels conflicted about wanting it? Next up: chastity play - it is "Lock-Tober," after all! But could wearing a penis cage set you up for long-term injury? After that, sex that’s gone from vanilla to straight-up boring. When you’ve tried everything to fix it, what now? What does it mean if your body goes numb during oral sex? Finally, you’re fresh out of a long-term relationship, and your sex drive has completely evaporated. How do you get it back? I’ve got a few ideas. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Awkward sex: it happens! People lose their erections. Oral sex gets ouchy. Orgasms are MIA. Don’t panic -- you’re in the judgment-free zone! I’m here to help you turn these moments into erotic opportunities. First, I give general mindset tips for sex before sharing your funniest awkward sex stories. Orgasmed so hard you farted? I call that a win. Next, I take your awkward sex questions. How do you play off queefing? What do you do when you’re nervous and keep losing your erection? How about getting too wet? If it makes you self-conscious or interferes with pleasure, how do you deal? If you’ve got a small mouth, and your partner has a large penis, where do you go from there? All this and so much more in this awkward sex recovery episode. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) All Vulvas Are Beautiful SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant Playground Lube Feeld Dating App SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Orgasms are learned skills. So says bestselling author and sex expert Susan Bratton, who teaches couples and individuals to have more collaborative, orgasmic intercourse. Today, Susan and I answer your questions about being a better lover, erasing sexual shame, and, of course… having tons of orgasms. First: how do you help a partner who never orgasms during sex? Susan and I have ideas. Next, how do you train your G-spot for internal orgasms? We give you specific techniques to train your vaginal canal, and help make the area more engorged and responsive. How about Doggy Style – can the receiving partner orgasm more easily in this position? Susan talks through the Glissando Technique to help you out. We also talk through female ejaculatory pleasure and squirting, delayed ejaculation and much (much!) more. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) BetterLover.com More Susan Bratton: Instagram | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many of us follow a sex script that’s been handed to us. But is that script actually serving you? In this popular Best Of episode, I give you permission to let your favorite sexual behaviors lead the way, with tons of spicy ideas to play with. Sex isn’t just about P-in-V (penis in vagina) penetration. Yet, that’s what we often mean by “having sex.” Listen – penetration is great! But I have ideas for mutual masturbation, sensual massage, hand play, elevated oral and so much more. Play this episode, make a list of your favorites, then tailor your next sex session around your authentic desires. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) 4 Ways to Close the Orgasm Gap First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered how often happy couples have sex? Or the little-known key to sexual satisfaction? In today’s Sex In The News episode, I reveal new research that answers both of these questions and a surprising new finding on who says “I love you” first. First, my Producer, Erica, and I look at a study on sexual frequency and the number of times per month couples have sex. Is it this often for you? Next, we dig into research on men saying “I love you” -- do you agree with our takeaway? We then get into amazing new research on mutual masturbation and give you easy ways to try it. Finally, we explore a study on sleep health and sex. Turns out, an orgasm might be more effective than sleeping pills. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Mutual Masturbation & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are your sexual fantasies? No matter how unique (or not) your fantasies are, they teach us something about our needs. On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re exploring fantasies and partner dynamics so we can get our needs met shame-free. First, cuckolding: when a partner, typically male, asks their partner, typically female, to have sex with another man. What if your partner wants it… but you’re not so sure? Next, living with your ex -- if you’re still not over them, how do you successfully connect with others? Later, when you’ve got a unique kink or fetish, how do you talk about it with your partner, especially if they’re freaked out? Is there any way to get that need met? Finally, when a partner says they’re not sexually attracted anymore, how do you call it quits and find the sex you deserve? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to "Am I The Asshole?" for sex and relationships! New to Sex With Emily, we weigh in on your AITA questions. First up: their marriage is on the rocks, but he wants a threesome. Is she the asshole for shutting it down? Next, his partner says she’s in pain during sex. Is he the asshole for not believing her? After that, she’s not into anal…but her partner really wants it. Is she the asshole for refusing? Next: mom just revealed she’s in a 24-hour BDSM relationship with dad. Is their daughter the asshole for freaking out? I answer these questions and more today with my producer, Erica. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating contemporary thinkers on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist and two-time bestselling author, she’s the host of the “Where Should We Begin?” podcast, which takes you inside the therapist’s office and lets you listen in on her sessions with clients. Esther is noticing some important changes in sex and relationships. Non-monogamy is becoming more common as a relationship model: why? And is it right for everyone? How about ”family-alization” – when couples start looking at each other like siblings or roommates, how do you bring the sexual spark back? Especially if you’ve never had it in the first place? Finally, how do we revive our sensual selves when we’re immersed in technology? Can we use it to turn each other on instead of numbing ourselves? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life Where Should We Begin? Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Where Should We Begin? Card Game Mating in Captivity: Bookshop The State of Affairs: Bookshop More Esther Perel: Website | Instagram | Twitter SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex toys have exploded in popularity in the past few years, but there’s one situation where they still tend to be forgotten: sex itself. Using a toy with a partner can feel intimidating. That’s why I’m devoting this episode to beginner-friendly toy play, with ideas for oral sex, intercourse, and even anal play. Listen, you don’t need all the bells and whistles to get a lot out of sex toys! So I kick things off with two essential toys and all the versatile ways you can use them: bullet vibrators and penis rings. Next, I talk you through three sex positions and how to use a toy in each one: missionary, spooning, and cowgirl/cowboy. Finally, I answer all your sex toy questions, including when it’s harder to climax after giving birth -- which toy and techniques can bring your O back? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Magic Wand Mini Massager SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Grand Bullet by Le Wand We-Vibe Tango X Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Touch X Clitoral Vibrator Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant We-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring Screaming O Two-O Double Pleasure Ring Hot Octopuss ATOM Plus Vibrating Cock Ring We-Vibe Chorus Wearable Vibrator Article: Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy Sex With Emily: Home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Low self-worth makes authentic sex impossible.” So says bestselling author Tara Schuster, who broke out with her runaway bestseller Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies and released the life-affirming page-turner Glow In The F*cking Dark this year. On this episode, Tara opens up about hating her body, having sex exclusively in the dark, and how she rewired her brain to love herself (and her body). Tara and I also take your listener questions, where we discuss dating burnout, sexual triggers, and solo sex as self-care. When you’ve just gotten out of a toxic relationship, how can you feel more confident when you go out in public? When dating is one long string of disappointments, what gives? And finally, how do you have exploratory sex when you don’t have a partner? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina Glow In the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble Glow Getters Journal Club More Tara Schuster: Instagram | Twitter | Website EMDRIA Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Is My Penis Normal? How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever TOR 3 from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Dildos on Shop With Emily Prostate Toys on Shop With Emily Plugs on Shop With Emily The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy Is My Penis Normal? 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) We-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring Dame Fin Vibrator Ohmibod Lovelife & Rev Finger Massager Le Wand Grand Bullet Vibrator The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom Is My Penis Normal? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) System JO Flavored Lube System JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Limited Edition System JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Neapolitan Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Amazon Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon “The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory “Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory Polyamory in BLACK! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Prostate Play: The Comprehensive Guide 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is how an orgasm works. It’s a symphony of mind, nervous system, blood flow and muscle spasms, all syncing up to give you oh-so-wonderful sensations. But what if you’ve never had an orgasm before? Or what if you do experience them – but want them to be better? In today’s popular Best Of episode, I explain the science behind orgasms and how to make yours amazing. I tell you what to do if you’ve never had an orgasm before, give you tricks for elevating your orgasms, and even share a few unexpected erogenous zones where you can orgasm (nipplegasms, anyone?). I also take your orgasm questions including: when the sex is great, but you just can’t climax with your partner, what gives? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks How to Train Your Vagina SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks Dual Stimulation Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69) Insertion Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Yes, No, Maybe List, Tips for Communication & Other Guides Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women. See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: The 6 Best Masturbation Toys 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex Podcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All The Menopause Manifesto, Dr. Jen Gunter: Bookshop | Amazon @ABlackGirlsGuidetoMenopause Menopocalypse, Amanda Thebe: Bookshop | Amazon Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Show Notes: The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have The 6 Best Masturbation Toys SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Playground Lubes: Love Sesh | Date Night | Mini Escape | After Hours Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Touch ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bored in bed? It happens. Sexual boredom doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – but it is a cue that you’re ready for novelty. So save this episode because it’s an entire guide to spicing up your sex. First, I start with the when and where: how does the time of day affect your arousal? And where can you do it besides the bedroom? Next, we make your favorite sex positions more interesting and exciting with tweaks you can try right now. Finally, I give you beginner-friendly kink with sensory deprivation, temperature play and hurts-so-good pain play. Right this way to easy kink and tons of low-lift ways to play. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Je Joue Massage Candles Le Wand Crystal Wand Le Wand Stainless Steel Hoop Firefly Glass Dildo System JO Flavored Lubes Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your sleep affects your sex drive: we know this. The bottom line: if you know the right sleep hacks, you can have much better sex. In this fascinating Best Of episode with Dr. Michael Breus, we dive into the science of sleep and how to leverage it for sexual arousal. Starting with the four chronotypes, your body’s natural disposition to be awake or asleep, we help you figure out how to work with your body (not against it) for sexual arousal. We also discuss snoring – why it happens and how it affects your sexual connection. “I’ve saved more marriages as a sleep therapist than I ever would have as a marital therapist,” says Dr. Breus. In this episode, you’ll learn how to work with your unique circadian rhythm for better sex and communication. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Hello Again Suppositories (code EMILY25 for 25% off orders over $50) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Chronoquiz.com More Dr. Michael Breus: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! On today’s episode, I’m talking through all the positive reasons to explore anal with yourself, no matter what genitals you’ve got. I’m also busting common anal myths and giving you step-by-step tips for exploration based on your anatomy. I’m talking all things toys and insertion for beginners to advanced anal players. Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) b-Vibe Vibrating Jewel Plug b-vibe Anal Training Kit Aneros Mgx Syn Trident Prostate Massager LELO Loki Wave Prostate Massager Vibrator Lumen LED Pleasure Plug Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide Lubricant Article: Double The O, Double The Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you? Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do your meals affect your sex drive? Are your hormones interfering with your pleasure? And real talk…does alcohol make it harder for you to orgasm? Dr. Will Cole hosts the podcast The Art of Being Well, and on today’s show, he explains the connection between what you eat and how you feel – both in and out of the bedroom. We discuss sex-supportive nutrients and how to fill your plate for better sex, the real deal on HRT and hormone fluctuation, shame-flammation, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered how certain foods help or hurt your sex life, this one’s for you. Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Emily on The Art of Being Well Podcast: Website | Apple Podcasts | Spotify Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole More Dr. Will Cole: Website | Telehealth Consult | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to turn ons, we’ve all got our preferences. Maybe you love a deep, sexy voice. Maybe a wicked sense of humor. But there are five sexual arousal styles that apply to most people: you can think of them as the five love languages for sexual excitement. They are: conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure. In this popular Best Of episode, I break down the five styles and how to identify your top one. I share tips for harnessing your arousal, with date ideas and behaviors to spark your sexual curiosity. I also help you understand the key difference between arousal and desire, and take your arousal questions, including: what do you do when medication is numbing your genitals? And when you’re more excited for solo sex than partnered sex – is that a problem? Show Notes: Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

([TW // mentions SA, r*pe] If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 21:30-22:25, 51:30-52:05.) Porn gets a bad rap – for very understandable reasons. Today, I’m breaking down the reasons why with Dr. Wednesday Martin, and also playing devil’s advocate and giving you a new way to approach it. Can you learn legit sex skills from porn viewing? In this episode, I’m going through all the reasons porn might be triggering for some, so you know how to incorporate it into your relationship or your solo sex in a healthy way. Next, I give tips for how to watch it with a partner, and identify your personal turn-ons. Finally, I talk through edu-porn, audio erotica and other contemporary porn platforms that get you aroused…and sexually educated. Show Notes: 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life LELO F1S V2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Study: Pornography does not cause violent sex crimes Make Love Not Porn (Cindy Gallop) Erika Lust Dr. Wednesday Martin on SWE: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All | It’s Open (Relationship) Season | Best of: Women, Lust & Infidelity Wednesday Squirts for the First Time with Kenneth Play & Whitney More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices