Sex With Emily

Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones. I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to navigate conversations about spicing up your relationship Understanding boundaries around threesomes How to handle narcissistic tendencies in relationships Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: Promescent(Visit the link for 15% off, or go to promescent.com/emily) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex. I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner about having another child and what it means when you cry after sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How honest, heartfelt conversations about intimacy can reignite connection and strengthen emotional bonds with your partner. Techniques to overcome sexual conditioning and experience pleasure in new ways through mindfulness and open communication. The importance of exploring sexual fantasies with clear boundaries and how they can evolve as part of a healthy sexual journey. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: LELO (Use code “SEXWITHEMILY” for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, I’ve brought my Mom back on the show to dive into a range of topics from the hilarious to the profound. We reminisced about growing up as women in an ever-changing world, trying to date and have sex! Our conversation covered the early passionate days of relationships to the mundane, finding time for sex and reviving your libido. I also had some fun quizzing my mom on modern dating slang. Her take on each word made me laugh. I think you’ll love hearing about the many stages of sex from my mom's seasoned perspective. Exploring dating terms with my mom was a fantastic way to demystify modern relationships! I asked her about breadcrumbing, DTR, red flags, situationships, ghosting, pegging, and rizz, aka…charisma. Learning points from the episode: The evolution of relationships from passion to domesticity. The impact of menopause on intimacy. The many layers of modern dating terms. Insights into maintaining a long-term relationship. Tune into these articles: I Asked My Mom 5 Things About Sex, Sexuality and Aging: Here’s What She Said 8 Most Common Sexual Struggles for Couples (& How to Solve Them) This episode is brought to you by Solaray. If you're seeking a healthier cycle or mood support, you have to check out these products. For 15% off your entire order, go to: www.solaray.com/sexwithemily Solaray Disclaimer: The FDA has not evaluated any of these statements, and these products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Additionally, I've personally had a great experience with Solaray, but each woman’s experience is unique. The Solaray "HER LIFE STAGES" formulas shared in this episode are not intended to address every symptom or concern mentioned, but they are designed to provide powerful life-stage support. SMARTSX: I'm thrilled to announce SmartSX, an exclusive membership that's revolutionizing the way you will approach sexual wellness. Last week, I kicked off this exciting journey, inviting you to join a community that's all about transforming your sex life. Whether you're looking to deepen connections or explore new kinks, SmartSX is your gateway to all things sexy and insightful. Embrace your pleasure potential with an open heart and mind. As a member, you'll embark on a journey to discover your unique desire style and boost your Sex IQ. You’ll gain invaluable tools for a healthier sex life through engaging discussions, expert guests, and direct interactions with me. Each month, we'll dive into themes based on my 12 Universal Truths About Sex and Pleasure, starting with 'Sexual Connection is a Skill Set.' CLICK HERE TO JOIN Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So your partner is great… but you want them to bring the heat, and don’t know how to ask for it. Now what? On today’s episode, I answer calls about how to ask for exactly what you want, or conversely, don’t want. I also give advice about how to achieve orgasm without relying too heavily on porn or toys, what to do if your partner’s penis is too big for anal, what to do if YOU like giving oral but your partner isn’t as down to receive, and how to enjoy casual dating. In this episode you’ll learn: How past negative experiences can impact your current reactions to physical affection, and discover strategies to rebuild a positive relationship with touch. Understand the importance of transparent dialogue with your partner about your needs and boundaries, and how to approach these conversations constructively. Explore the challenges of casual dating and the significance of self-awareness in identifying what type of relationship dynamic suits you best. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, pleasure seekers! I'm super excited about today's episode. I always encourage you to discuss sex with your friends, so I've invited Amy Friedlander, my CEO and brilliant friend, to join this conversation. We're both fed up with the pleasure gap, a topic The New York Times highlighted in a recent article, "The Orgasm Gap Isn’t Going Away for Straight Women." Today, Amy and I are actively seeking ways to bridge this gap. We're sharing our sexual histories, addressing the pitfalls of faking orgasms, and talking about negative sex-pectations set by porn and extreme media portrayals. We're talking about methods to prioritize pleasure and close the orgasm gap. Tune in to be part of this change and close the gap with us! You deserve a richer, more fulfilling sex life. We're sharing our sexual histories, addressing the pitfalls of faking orgasms, and talking about negative sex-pectations set by porn and extreme media portrayals. Together, we're talking about methods to prioritize pleasure and close the orgasm gap. Tune in to be part of this change and close the gap with us! You deserve a richer, more fulfilling sex life. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the Orgasm Gap Persists: We'll unpack how inadequate sex education continues to widen this divide. The Dangers of Faking It: Discover why being authentic in expressing your sexual needs is essential for true pleasure. The Role of Media: We'll debunk harmful myths and foster a healthier dialogue around sex. Also, don't miss our discussions on whether sleeping apart can enhance your sex life and how Kegel trainers can lead to more intense orgasms. Tune into these articles: Does Sleeping Apart Help Your Sex Life? Kegel Trainers for Bigger, Badder Orgasms More: Try the LELO SILA CRUISE Today. Link here! Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE 💖 SMARTSX ANNOUNCEMENT 💖 Today, September 10th, 2024, we're thrilled to launch SmartSx, our membership platform where pleasure meets education. Join our community to transform your intimate life, whether you're deepening connections or exploring new kinks. SmartSx is your gateway to all things sexy and insightful. Embrace your pleasure potential with an open heart and mind. As a member, you'll embark on a journey to discover your unique desire style and boost your Sex IQ. You’ll also gain tools for a healthier sex life through engaging discussions, expert guests, and direct interactions with me. Each month will feature themes based on my 12 Universal Truths About Sex and Pleasure, starting with 'Sexual Connection is a Skill Set.' CLICK HERE TO JOIN Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Emily welcomes her friend and fellow Michigan native, Ophira from The AstroTwins, to discuss their new book, The Astrology Advantage, and their revolutionary I*AM system. This unique system or framework blends astrology with the Enneagram and Meyers Briggs to unlock insights into your personality-- your buttons, skills, passions, and life path. As a bonus, Ophi reads Emily's chart, revealing how the I*AM system shapes her career, sex, desire, and goals. They explore the Authority, Innovator, and Maven archetypes, offering a fresh perspective on understanding yourself through astrology. Tune in to learn how astrology influences desire and sexuality and how to align with your authentic sexual self. Get your copy of The Astrology Advantage to dig deeper into your I*AM archetype! Ophi describes the I*AM System as “an astrological personality test” and “Atomic Habits meets The Wisdom of The Enneagram.” You need this book! I could not put it down. Purchase: The Astrology Advantage More about The AstroTwins What You'll Learn: The I*AM System Explained: Discover how the Authority, Innovator, and Maven archetypes correlate with the 13 planets in astrology and your chart. Astrology Meets Enneagram: Learn how each IAM archetype connects with the 12 zodiac signs, offering a new lens to understand your personality, desires, and behavior. Sex, Shame, and Kink: Understand how your I*AM archetype influences your sexual expression and how to overcome shame or embrace kink through astrological insights. Body Confidence and Sexual Fulfillment: Explore how aligning with your archetype helps you feel more comfortable in your body as you pursue pleasure and intimacy. Sexual Authenticity: Learn how your sexual style—whether you're an Innovator, Authority, or Maven—affects how you engage with partners and express desire authentically. Also, SmartSx, my new membership, launches on September 10th. Please join me and this incredible community of open-minded pleasure-seekers! Here's a sneak peak of what you'll experience when you sign up: SmartSX is a community and app for individuals prioritizing pleasure and sexual well-being, helping members explore desires and create a fulfilling sex life. Great lovers are made, not born: Anyone can learn how to have the best sexual experiences of their lives. SmartSX members can directly interact with her and ask questions in the community. Inclusive membership: SmartSX caters to everyone—whether you're a beginner or experienced, single or partnered—focusing on understanding, giving, and receiving pleasure. Members will uncover their unique desire style, increase their Sex IQ, enhance sexual communication, and gain essential tools for a healthy sex life through discussions, special guests, and experts. Each month features a theme based on Dr. Emily's 12 Universal Truths About Sex and Pleasure, starting with Sexual Connection is a Skill Set. GET ON THE WAITLIST: CLICK HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you always have sex on the the first date? Do you always swipe right on people who aren’t good for you? What are your bad dating habits – and how can you break them? I asked you to tell me what negative dating patterns you’re trying to change, and you all delivered! On today’s show, I’m addressing your top dating problems so we can solve them together. Having sex too soon, trying to “fix” less-than-ideal partners, fear of asserting yourself, having misaligned expectations, the tendency to audition people for the role of life partner – we’re covering it all, so you can feel empowered with new partners and have an amazing time with existing partners. In this episode you’ll learn: How to Identify and Break Negative Dating Patterns The Importance of Assertiveness in Dating Strategies for Building Self-Confidence in Dating Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Shopify.com/swe The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's explore the world of sex parties! Are you curious if this scene is for you? This episode is your go-to guide for everything about sex parties. We'll cover the various types available, from kink-centric gatherings to more relaxed swinging events. I'll guide you through finding these parties, understanding the etiquette, and what to expect when you arrive. We'll discuss how to mingle effectively and, importantly, what to wear to blend in or stand out. So join me at this podcast, Sex Party! Don't forget to join the waitlist for SmartSX, which launches on September 10th, 2024. This incredible membership will offer you access to exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Smart SX: join our waitlist! FetLife Feeld #Open Kinky Rabbit Club Just Thrive (code BOGOSWE) Shop With Emily! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Read this week's Articles: How to Have Vigorous Sex | How to *Actually* Dirty Talk Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we’re diving into the questions you've been too shy to ask out loud—yes, those. Remember, shame has no place here, especially when it comes to your sexual curiosities and concerns. We’re all in this together, exploring the complex yet exhilarating world of sex, so let’s break down those barriers and talk openly. In this episode you’ll learn: How do I handle rejections for sex from my partner when they masturbate daily? If their “porn” type looks different than my body type, does that mean they may not be attracted to me? Is it normal to think about someone else during sex? How do I get my partner to understand I’m not a porn star…Yes, I’ll try things, but…I’m not that kinky. I’ve never squirted. Is that normal? How can I get myself to squirt? Can too much use of a vibrator desensitize or burn my clitoris? How can I get a clitoris orgasm by mouth without it taking hours? I don’t like to masturbate in front of my partner because it's hard for me to focus. Is something wrong with me? Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts. What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men. In this episode you’ll learn: About the wide range of orgasms people can experience and why each is unique. Why libido levels vary between individuals and how this impacts sexual relationships. How pornography can shape unrealistic expectations and affect real-life sexual experiences. Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want to try Promescent's Delay Spray or Arousal Gel? Visit Promescent.com/emily for 15% off your order! Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.) We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!). In this episode, you’ll learn: How to Improve casual sex Insights from the LGBTQ+ Community Tools for talking to your kids about sex Show Notes: More Justin Lehmiller : Website | Instagram | X | Podcast | Book Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide Try the ENIGMA™ Cruise Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, I’m joined by psychological astrologer and returning guest Dr. Jennifer Freed. We answer your questions on how to spot a sensual lover, useful tools for addressing low libido, how to pursue a threesome or open relationship, how to easily create intimacy in a relationship, what your Zodiac signs say (or don’t say) about compatibility with your partner, what to do if your hookup buddy wants a relationship (but you don’t), and the mind-blowing effects of EMDR therapy. We also share our top methods to build erotic tension and why focusing too much on your partner’s desire can hold you back in the bedroom. As an added bonus, we walk through ways to reach your ‘power yes’ in sex, the effects of toxic masculinity, and how to communicate as an invitation—not a confrontation. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to identify and attract a sensual lover through astrology and self-awareness. Tools and techniques to address low libido and build erotic tension in your relationship. Practical advice on navigating open relationships, threesomes, and understanding compatibility through Zodiac signs. Show Notes: More Dr. Jennifer Freed: Website | Instagram Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide EMDRIA.org: Resources for EMDR therapy SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just like going to the gym improves your body, going to therapy improves your mind. And bonus: couple’s counseling can radically improve your relationship and your sex life. So why do some people absolutely refuse to go? On today’s show, I’m giving you the therapy low-down, so you can decide whether you should try it – or, if it’s the right call for you and your partner. I’m talking: signs it’s time to look for a therapist, pros and cons of solo therapy vs. couple’s counseling, whether sex therapy is right for you, what to expect from a typical therapy session, and how to find therapy that works for you – including budget-friendly options. Plus, I take your therapy-related questions on porn addiction, sexual trauma and what to do if you tried to improve your sex life with your partner…but they cheated anyway. In this episode, you’ll learn: The Importance of Addressing Sexual Trauma The Power of Open Communication in Relationships Seeking Professional Help is a Sign of Strength Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you build a sex room, they will come. That’s the idea behind the Netflix show “How to Build a Sex Room,” and on today’s episode I’ve got designer Melanie Rose here with me to discuss her real-life erotic renovations. From a rock n’ roll dungeon to a high-end sex spa, Melanie has all kinds of decor ideas you can steal: spanking benches, wall-mounted handcuffs, soundproofing wall art. All of these are client-approved sex innovations, but the show has a touching side too. You get to see all kinds of clients, from suburbanites to polycules, parents to long-distance couples, discuss their fantasies and sexual desires – some of them for the very first time. And you know I’m all about that. In this episode, you’ll learn: Insights into how Melanie Rose creates sex rooms that are both functional and sensual Practical advice on managing bodily fluids during sex How designing a personalized sex room can empower individuals and couples to explore their sexuality more freely Show Notes: More Melanie Rose: Netflix show | Instagram | Website | Pinterest Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. In this episode, you’ll learn: Discover the positive reasons to explore anal play on your own, regardless of your anatomy. Learn the truth behind common anal myths and misconceptions. Get detailed tips on toys and insertion techniques, from beginner to advanced levels. Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide Try the LELO SORAYA Beads Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to get in the mood for FaceTime sex and tips to help yourself feel more comfortable on-screen Answers to listener questions, such as how to spice it up and how do you end a sexting session How to position your camera and what to actually say in the moment Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags. So on today’s show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations. In this episode, you’ll learn: Being upfront and honest in a new relationship is very important Lowering your expectations for a one night stand or a situation-ship When someone tells you who they are, believe them Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breakups. They can be a painful experience. Trust me, I know. After spending time considering your partner to be such an important aspect of your life, losing them can be like a mini-death. If you have decided your relationship is over and are struggling to know what to do next, this episode is for you. I give my top tips for how to cope and answer all your questions. In this episode you’ll learn: How to cope with a breakup Tips for giving better oral sex Tools for communicating your needs Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tune into this conversation with the incredible Dr. Josh Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist fellowship-trained in sexual medicine and specializing in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. Dr. Gonzalez has been featured in Vogue and is a medical contributor to Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan, among others. He is a sexual health expert who has built a following on TikTok and Instagram, where he uses social media to educate on sexual and reproductive health. He is also the co-founder of Popstar, a men’s supplement addressing semen health. I loved talking with Dr. Gonzalez. I can’t wait to share his incredible work with you. In this episode, you’ll learn: That 50 percent of infertility cases are related to male factor infertility. That’s half of the cases, but somehow, we default label infertility as a female issue. How oral contraceptive pills cause an elevation in a protein called sex hormone binding globulin in women. This is a protein you don't want large amounts of in your body, as it binds up all of your hormones. When the hormones are bound, they can't be effectively used. About the groundswell of men coming into Dr. Gonzalez’s office requesting vasectomies after the overturning of Roe v. Wade. How you can easily test your sperm with at-home collection kits. For not much money, you can freeze your sperm, too. Show Notes: More Dr. Josh Gonzalez: Instagram | Website | TikTok Try the Popstar Volume & Taste Supplement & Popstar Fertility for Men Today! Save 20% with code "EMILY" at popstarlabs.com/emily Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. In this episode you’ll learn: How to make eye contact during sex What to do about sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep) How to talk to your partner about not having much sex experience Show Notes: Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want to try Promescent's Delay Spray or Arousal Gel? Visit Promescent.com/emily for 15% off your order! Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that nipple sensations for vulva-owners ignite the same parts of the brain as clitoral stimulation? Today, we’re unlocking all of the overlooked erogenous zones including nipples. ALL genders can potentially have more pleasure and orgasms through nipple play—you just need the proper tips and tricks. We hear from a masseuse who is exploring the reality of “happy endings” as well as a couple who’s interested in perfecting the “g-spot orgasm” and closing the orgasm gap. (I like to call it the “g-area”... Find out why!) In this episode you’ll learn: How to have a nipple orgasm Ways to help with the orgasm gap How to respond to a partner who you feel may not be sexually attracted to you Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits. In this episode you’ll learn: How to find your fantasies and how to talk to your new partner about them What to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it) Show Notes: The Yes! No! Maybe? List! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order More Elle Chase: Website | Instagram Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what YOU want…and not just what your lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships: what to do when you’re filled with old resentment? Is there a new conversation you could have with your partner? How about when you want to open up…but your nesting partner is scared of you having new lovers? We’re venturing into uncharted sex territory today, but don’t worry—we all come out on the other side, with fresh ways forward. In this episode you’ll learn: Steps to getting back into dating How to talk to your partner about their kinks What to do when you want your relationship to be open, but your partner doesn't How to talk to your kids about Sex and Sexual Wellness Show Notes: Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? Well folks, we are getting a kinky education today! On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But because kink is play, I’m also giving you some specific ideas for how to explore these fantasies IRL – and, bonus, I’m taking all of your kinky questions. In this episode you’ll learn: Various sexual fantasies, including submission, domination, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and consensual non-consent The importance of excellent communication, trust, and consent when exploring fantasies How to explore fantasies practically and safely, emphasizing that kink is a form of play meant to enhance relationships and understanding Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE Shopify.com/swe Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s throwback episode, I’m taking your Sex With Emily hotline calls and answering your questions. Remember, you can always call and leave a voicemail with your question at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). In this episode you’ll learn: What to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man) How to determine if birth control is tanking your sex drive How to communicate with a partner who won’t share their desires Show Notes: Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you found yourself fascinated with what's masculine or feminine, especially in the bedroom? On today's episode, volleyball star, Gabby Reece, redefines the modern day versions of these roles and explains why it matters in her marriage. In this episode you’ll learn: Gabby's definition of masculine & feminine in her marriage Why younger generations may not be having as much sex Which sex toys Gabby is into Show Notes: Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! More Gabby Reece | Instagram | Website | Podcast SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order. Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever dated a mind reader who just gets you? …Chances are, probably not. Unfortunately for us, deep connections need deep communication skills. I mean, how can your partner know your needs if you don’t tell them? I know it’s not easy, though, and that’s why today’s throwback is all about articulating what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics and hotter sex. You’re welcome! In this episode you’ll learn: What to do if you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had How to deal with an emotionally detached partner Why you have to communicate to get the kind of touch you need in bed Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Try the LELO DOT Travel Today! Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Volleyball legend and podcast host Gabby Reece takes the hot seat and reveals all her secrets to being a successful athlete, wife, parent and business owner with her famous surfer husband, Laird Hamilton. In this episode you’ll learn: Sex rules to keep your man happy How to play farmer and flower to have a long lasting relationship Gabby Reece's biggest turn on, it's not what you think it might be Why being kind is better than being nice Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! More Gabby Reece | Instagram | Website | Podcast SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure that your sex life follows suit. In this throwback episode, I’m sharing my steamiest ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. If you’re ready for a Hot Girl Summer, this ep’s for you. In this episode you’ll learn: How to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties Where to (safely) have sex in public How to navigate a friends with benefits situation Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered how culture has molded your sexuality? My guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabury, dives deep into this topic on today’s throwback ep, revealing how societal norms have conditioned us to suppress our true desires, cheat ourselves, and live inauthentically. But here's the twist: radically authentic love and desire are within reach! All it takes is confronting the myths we've been fed and making a conscious choice to live freely. Ready to break free and embrace your true self? Tune in. In this episode you’ll learn: How to rethink marriage as a model for growth All about monogamy and why it’s the societal norm (and if it’s even natural…) How to replace societal conditioning with worthiness Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Dr. Shefali: Instagram | Website Podcast: Parenting & You with Dr. Shefali SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Try the LELO SONA 2 TRAVEL today and get 25% when you use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout. Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

QUESTION: If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? I say absolutely! Even if it feels like you’re navigating a minefield, and even if your own parents left you in the dark (because let’s face it, they probably did), I get it – finding the right words can be trickier than solving a Rubik’s Cube. That’s why today’s episode is your ultimate guide, packed with tools, scripts, and resources to help you tackle this touchy topic with confidence and maybe even a little humor. In a couple years, your kid will thank you! In this episode you’ll learn: Why should you talk to your children, and teens specifically, about masturbation The truth behind masturbation myths Specific verbiage to make these uncomfortable sex talks a little easier Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! The Communication Guide (And Other Guides) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) For a limited time, you can save 20% off sitewide at Justthrivehealth.com with promo code: SEXWITHEMILY The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been so in love that you lost your mind? I totally get it, and so does today's guest, sex therapist, author, and host of the podcast Diagnonsense, Todd Baratz, who joined me to chat about all things relationship and why dating can be such a struggle today. In this episode you’ll learn: How oral sex can make or break your relationship What to do when you date men who don't know how to connect emotionally Why we need to stop diagnosing everyone Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that the lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety and depression? How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Ever since the pandemic, many of us have been touch-starved, but now it’s time to feast. On today’s throwback show I’ll share how to satisfy your skin hunger and bring more touch and intimacy back into your life. In this episode you’ll learn: What questions to ask yourself to figure out if your relationship is where you want it to be How to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom How to get back into the dating scene Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Pleasure Planner + Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Shop Promescent for 15% off your order! Shopify.com/swe The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is it that vulva owners are the ones tasked with preventing pregnancy? That’s the burning question we’ve all been thinking about since 2017. On today’s throwback show, we’re diving into this hot topic with Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the mastermind behind a viral thread and the book, Ejaculate Responsibly. Joining us is my dear friend, anthropologist, and author, Dr. Wednesday Martin, to help unpack this loaded discussion. In our post-Roe world, Gabrielle—mother of six and a devout Mormon—is fiercely advocating for the importance of women’s lives and their pleasure. Get ready for an eye-opening conversation! In this episode you’ll learn: How society pressures vulva owners to become mothers Why MORE sex ed leads to LESS unwanted pregnancies How to talk to young penis owners about ejaculating responsibly Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Gabrielle’s Viral Twitter Thread Ejaculate Responsibly SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's face it: sex isn't just a switch you can flip on and off. It's more like a whole playlist of tension, arousal, body exploration, playful antics, and steamy teamwork — there’s a lot more than just the main event. So, what do you do when you're ready to get it on, but your body keeps hitting snooze? In today’s show, I’ll show you my favorite tips and tricks and address even the most perplexing arousal questions. In this episode you’ll learn: My special trick for giving oral sex with a gag reflex How to deal with vaginismus Why communication can fix (almost) every sex problem Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine: You've got that special someone who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The trust is there, the connection is solid. But sometimes the fire just fizzles out when it comes to sex. I get it. When the routine starts feeling a bit too...routine, it's time to switch things up and rediscover what really gets your engine revving (and sometimes, it’s not your partner!). On today’s throwback we're diving deep into the world of sexual attraction - what it is, how it's different from romantic love, and most importantly, how to use that knowledge to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Because at the end of the day, switching it up never hurt anybody. In this episode you’ll learn: Why sexual attraction can feel so distinctly different than long-term love What to do when you and your partner are both submissive When you should hang onto your friend with benefits – and when to let them go Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Sex and Psychology SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s throwback show, I talk to the one and only Shaun T, host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but, as you’ll learn in the episode it took a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. But hey, if he can do it, you can too. Trust me: if you’ve been looking for inspo to feel yourself in the bedroom, this convo is an absolute must. In this episode you’ll learn: How Shaun and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids Why you have to do the work to heal from trauma – and why it’s so rewarding Shaun’s genius sex and arousal hacks Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! What’s Your Arousal Type? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) This episode is brought to you by: Bathmate (Use code EMILY10 or visit the link for 10% off) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s face it: casual sex often gets a bad rap. It’s thought of as just another swipe, a fleeting moment, a reflection of society’s current hookup culture, or something disposable. But hold up! It doesn't have to be that way. When you bring a little intention and mindfulness into the mix, casual sex can be the spark that reignites your erotic energy. In my opinion, the secret sauce is all about knowing yourself and being crystal clear about what you want from your casual encounters. This episode, I’ll be teaching you how to dive into casual sex with purpose and channel your inner Samantha Jones. In this episode you’ll learn: All the different types of casual sex out there How to know if casual sex is right for you (because it isn’t for everyone!) When it’s best to turn down a potential partner Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! 7 Myths of Non Monogamy Friends With Benefits: A Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) LOKI WAVE 2 The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I had the pleasure of talking to the “Scientific Carrie Bradshaw”, a.k.a Amy Chan, the revolutionary mind behind Renew Breakup Bootcamp, to talk about all things relationship. We chat about how her heartbreak helped in creating Breakup Bootcamp, why being present during dates is hard but necessary, and why dating outside of your comfort zone might be the key to finding the one. If you’re sick of swiping left and tolerating toxicity, this one’s for you. In this episode you’ll learn: How to measure your chemistry compass Why it’s important to date that short person (even if they aren’t exactly your type!) How to spot the “green flags” in a relationship Show Notes: Attend Dating Bootcamp! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eager to transform your hottest sexual fantasy into reality? Then today’s throwback Ask Emily show is for you! I'll be taking calls about fantasies and offering concrete tips on how to actualize them. However, it's essential to recognize that this journey is a blend of creativity and strategy. You must embrace your sensual desires, visualize intensely passionate — and perhaps even forbidden — scenarios, and explore what genuinely excites you! Lucky for you, I’ve given you tips on how to do just that. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery… In this episode you’ll learn: How to go about finding a “third” if your partner’s been hinting at cuckolding The 411 on play parties (and how to stay safe if you go to one!) What to do if you’ve been craving a sexual fantasy, but your imagination’s been letting you down Show Notes: The Yes, No, Maybe List Fetlife Feeld #Open SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s my favorite month of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s throwback show, I’m honoring the month of self-love and giving you a brief history of the celebration, the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys and lubes for bringing you pleasure this May and all year long. In this episode you’ll learn: What to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator Why masturbation can help you have orgasms during sex with your partner Signs that you’re masturbating too much Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE SEX WITH EMILY VESPER SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I continue my conversation with my friend, YouTube personality, public speaker, and author Matthew Hussey. We chat about his latest book, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily No Matter What, Matthew’s texting skills, and why it’s best to follow your path and not your feelings. And if you were wondering about the texting cliffhanger from Part 1, it’s answered in today’s show. Enjoy! In this episode you’ll learn: Why “avoiders” can be more of a red flag in relationships than liars When to make things work and when it's not worth it Why speaking your truth is sexy Show Notes: Find Your Person & Lead Your Love Life w/ Matthew Hussey Pt. 1 Matthew’s New Book: Love Life LELO Tor 3 (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to sex, a lot of us find ourselves getting in our head about the way it “should” go down. “I should look a certain way.” “They should kiss me a certain way.” “We’ll both orgasm at the same time.” In other words, we expect things to be straight out of a movie… But here’s the real deal: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s throwback show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your senses. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, I’ve got sensory tools you can use to remove mental blocks and seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O. In this episode you’ll learn: Why you’re dissociating during sex and how to stop Ways to talk dirty without swearing How to bring back an MIA orgasm Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide or use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout!) Come As You Are - Dr. Emily Nagoski SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen in on my conversation with my friend Matthew Hussey. You may know him as the inspirational YouTube personality, author, and public speaker who has revolutionized the world of dating advice with his amazing methods. We chat about emotional journeys, what Matthew has learned in his experience as a relationship coach, and ways to take charge of your love life. If you've been in a dating slump, this is the episode for you. In this episode you’ll learn: How to take charge of your love life Why reflecting on your instincts is a game changer The value of valuing yourself first Show Notes: Matthew’s New Book: Love Life More Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Youtube SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I continue my candid convo with my friend Falguni, answering all your hottest and most personal sex questions. From my experiences in threesomes to my favorite positions, no question goes unanswered. If you’ve ever wondered what the mile high club is like or how to tell your partner they could step up their sex game, tune in. Trust me, this is an episode you won’t wanna miss. In this episode you’ll learn: Why penetration alone might not always give you an orgasm How to take control of your orgasm Why communication is the most important part of your threesome Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO DOT Travel (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy 4/20! While direct research is still in development, there's no denying the potential benefits of cannabis for enhancing your sexual experiences. Researchers theorize that the plant can unlock a world of heightened eroticism, tranquil minds, and pain-free sex. On today’s show, I chat about ways cannabis might light up your sex life, my favorite products and delivery methods for the occasion (I’m a huge edible fan!), and how to figure out if cannabis is right for you. In this episode you’ll learn: How cannabis can affect sexual performance How to decide if you should bring cannabis into the bedroom My fave product recommendations for 4/20 fun Show Notes: 6 Ways to Use Cannabis for Sex: A Guide The Journal of Cannabis Research Study SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide until 4/30/24) For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Buckle up: Today’s show is one you’ve all been waiting for…and spoiler alert, it’s all about me! I sat down with my good friend Falguni to flip the script and spill the tea on what sex with Emily is actually like (pun intended)! Tune in to hear me get up close and personal about my sexual journey, why I faked my orgasms until my 30s, and sex trends that I see making a comeback in the near future. In this episode you’ll learn: How I stopped having performative sex How to push past the pleasure thieves for fulfilling sex My go-to positions and products for the best orgasms Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s gut-busting episode I dive deep into the tango between your belly's bacteria and your sexual wellness. And who better to guide us through this intestinal intrigue than Tina Anderson, the gut guru and CEO of Just Thrive, the brand whose mission is to reboot your microbiome. Prepare to have your life changed as Tina spills the beans on how bacteria in your gut really calls the shots, influencing everything from your mood swings to your mojo. Buckle up, lovers and health hackers, as we explore the steamy science that'll have you rethinking your next date night dinner. In this episode you’ll learn: What low libido, keeping the spark alive, erectile challenges, and gut issues all have in common How hormones and the gut biome each affect each other in a bi-directional system Why the 3 pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) also impact our general health and wellness Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide at checkout!) Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s 2024, and there’s no denying that everybody has sexual needs. However, it can be really difficult to articulate them and share them with your partner. On today’s throwback Ask Emily show, I’m here to help you take that vital next step and get your needs fulfilled. From those who’ve never had an orgasm before to those who just want to communicate with their partners better, I’ve got you! Just remember: for every sex problem, there is a path forward. In this episode you’ll learn: How to communicate your sexual needs (even if your partner shuts down sex convos) Techniques to give your partner a crazy orgasm What to do if your partner desires things you might not be sure about like swinging Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Promescent.com/Emily (Use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout!) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I revisit my conversation with Dolly Josette, the PleasureMuse who turned the world of breathwork into the ultimate erotic adventure! Imagine unlocking a treasure chest of sensations and full-body orgasms you never knew you had with the work of meditation.. Dolly isn't just any guide on this journey; she's the Gandalf of sexual enlightenment, hailed by the high councils of Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines as a pioneering Sexological Bodyworker. But what truly sets her apart isn't the accolades; it's her magical ability to awaken the dormant erotic energy within women and couples, guiding them from numbness to dizzying heights of orgasmic bliss. So, if the idea of exploring the vast, uncharted territories of pleasure sounds good to you, Dolly Josette is ready to lead the way! In this episode you’ll learn: How to hack your nervous system for better sex Why so many vulva owners are trained to numb from the waist down (and how to fix it!) How to become a great masturbator Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! More Dolly Josette - The Pleasure Muse SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices