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Best of: Doggy Style Tricks & Performance Tips

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Let’s cut right to the chase: doggy style is hot-looking, but is it hot-feeling? I can’t tell you how many questions I get about this position, mostly from people who are confused…wondering if they’re doing it wrong. You’re not! You may just need to tweak it a bit, to make it work for your body. So on today’s show, I give you my favorite doggy style hacks, because let’s be honest — no one wants a broken penis. Let’s avoid the ER, and give you the hot doggy style sex you deserve. Plus, I take your questions! Is polyamory more natural than monogamy? What should you do if you catch feelings for your friend-with-benefits? Is it really cheating if you have a no-sex kink session with an old flame? And finally — body dysmorphia of the vulva. Do you have it? Friends: let me help you love it! Don’t buy the hype, by which I mean false standards. I tell you exactly how to make your vulva a MUCH-deserved object of your affection. Show Notes: Skyn Condoms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 21, 202230 min

Talk Tantric Sex To Me

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Here in the 21st century, we’re fascinated by something that was invented in the 7th century: tantra, and more specifically, tantric sex. But it’s also one of the most misunderstood practices around, starting with: it’s not just about sex! Tantra is an entire world of spirituality, intimacy, breathwork and presence, which is precisely why I have Barbara Carellas, founder of Urban Tantra, on the show with me today. A pioneer in the world of tantric healing practices, Barbara gives us the real deal on these sacred techniques – and shows us how we can use them in the modern world, for full body pleasure, higher states of consciousness, and a radically deeper connection with your partner. Plus, I take your questions! How do you stay in the present moment during sex, and not disassociate while it’s happening – or, get so nervous that you block all the pleasure? I’ve got some thoughts on that. For More Information on Barbara: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Show Notes: Emily’s Shop Page Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 19, 202239 min

Take Your Sex Life from Stale to Sexy, Part 2

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When it comes to sex in longterm relationships, why do they start hot, then go lukewarm? Why does our eroticism go dormant, once the newness of a relationship wears off? And what are some specific strategies for bringing back the heat we desperately long for? It’s part 2 in our Best Of special on taking your sex life from stale to sexy, and I can’t wait to let you listen in on my conversations with John Wineland and Esther Perel, and a bit of wisdom from Tom Bilyeu. John is a relationship coach specializing in polarity and embodiment, and for this show, I’ve selected his most potent advice on hot sex. According to John, getting in touch with our masculine and feminine energies – regardless of gender – has the power to transform the way we show up in bed. Next, I talk to Esther Perel, well recognized couples therapist, author and fellow podcaster, who explains how a couple’s sex life loses its passion. Our partners become reliable and safe, which is great for a relationship, but according to Esther…not always great for sex. So how do we revive the mystery, the risk, and a sense of adventure with our partners? Listen for the sensual techniques she uses to help couples get back in touch with their hungry side. Finally, Impact Theory’s Tom Bilyeu dishes on desire – and why attraction for other people is not death for a relationship. Show Notes: John Wineland | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Esther Perel | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Tom Bilyeu | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 14, 202255 min

Take Your Sex Life from Stale to Sexy, Part 1

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It’s the #1 question I get as a sex educator: “our sex life is stale, how do we make it hot again?” For long-term couples, this issue is so common it’s almost a cliche. “Once you’re married, say goodbye to your sex life! Haha!” Except, it’s not funny, right? It’s actually pretty painful, once the new relationship energy wears off, and we no longer have that magical chemical cocktail running through our veins. That’s why I am so pleased to be doing a two-part, Best Of special on this precise topic, kicking things off with sex educator Ian Kerner, author of the iconic book “She Comes First” and his latest, “So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex?” I’m also sharing advice from Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute, who have led some of the most comprehensive studies on successful couples, and the key ingredients of their success. (Which includes a great sex life, of course.) I’m pulling out the best-of-the-best of their advice and techniques, so you can try them yourself, and create your own “arousal runway” to bring excitement back into your relationship and the bedroom. Show Notes: Ian Kerner | Website | Twitter | Books The Gottman Institute | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 11, 202251 min

Your Guide to Squirting

Squirting during sex: how, exactly, does it happen? Which body part controls it? And what the hell is it made out of? For vulva owners, squirting is a thing of mystery - but it doesn’t need to be. In this special Best Of episode, I’m giving you my tips and firsthand experience with squirting as well as highlights of my conversation with sex educator Deborah Sundahl, who teaches us exactly how to squirt -- and I mean, step by step. For example: did you know, vulva owners, that you have a prostate? That’s the g-spot, despite headlines you see every few months questioning its very existence. Also: did you know that clitoral orgasms and g-spot orgasms are two different things? Finally, with time and practice, did you know that EVERY vulva owner can squirt? It’s not magic -- it’s anatomy! Plus, I take your questions on squirting, from how to start, best positions to do it, and how to communicate to your partner what you want them to do. Show Notes: Deborah Sundahl: Website | Book Fascinator Throw Ejaculation blanket Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 7, 202236 min

Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags

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We’ve all heard of red flags in relationships, but let’s be honest: sometimes, they can be terribly hard to spot. Especially when you really want a relationship to work, or, if the other person is super hot. (Am I right?) That’s why I’m bringing you a special episode today, focused on all things red flags -- and green flags -- with my two favorite voices on the matter, psychologist and author Dr. Ramani, and YouTube’s (and probably the world’s) favorite dating coach, Matthew Hussey. Dr. Ramani and I take a deep dive on narcissism, and talk through things like love bombing, devaluation, and the different types of narcissists out there -- as well as the personality types who tend to fall for them. And if you’re thinking, “I wouldn’t possibly fall for that nonsense,” think again! These folks are master manipulators, and at their core, deeply insecure. Next, Matthew Hussey walks us through our own less-than-ideal tendencies, such as: why we keep going for aloof and unavailable people, how we repeat painful patterns from our childhood, and how we ignore someone’s inconvenient truth. But Matthew also tells us what to look for when we’re dating someone new, such as curiosity, equal investment, and consistency with words and actions. If you’re dating right now, listen to this episode -- twice. Show Notes: Dr Remani: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 4, 202255 min

Sexy Self Improvement

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Anything worth having takes time, whether that’s a better sex life, a deeper relationship, or an awesome relationship with your body. But staying consistent is hard: we get bored, we get rebellious, we want to cut corners. We’re human, after all! That’s why, if we want to meet goals - ANY goal - we have to create rituals. And the key to sticking with them? Identifying your “why.” So on today’s Best Of show, I’m talking to Max Lugavere, host of The Genius Life podcast, and Jennifer Cohen, host of Habits and Hustle, to give us the lowdown on sexy self improvement. Max gives me the scoop on food addiction (and its similarities to porn addiction), how daily sunlight improves our health, and how processed food short circuits our satiety signals. Jennifer tells me the three habits successful people all have in common, how to get your partner on-board for working out, and the correlation between exercise and sex drive. Get out your grocery lists and gratitude journals, because after this episode, you’ll be totally inspired to start small habits for big self-growth. Show Notes: Max Lugavere | Website | Instagram | Facebook | Youtube Jen Cohen | Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 31, 202140 min

The 10 Hottest Moments of 2021

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2021, we hardly knew ya. Just kidding, we totally did, and we’ve got the FaceTime sex to prove it. All year long, we’ve been saving up the very best moments of Sex With Emily, so you can walk into 2022 more sex-wise than ever. From squirting to sex dreams, Nikki Glaser to Esther Perel, we’re doing a hot flashback of YOUR most talked-about episodes. On this show, we’ve banked the top pieces of sex wisdom from hands-down incredible guests. Discover your dating style, locate the g-spot once and for all, and build your sexual confidence with some of the smartest (and funniest) voices out there. Before you create your New Year’s resolution list, be sure to listen to this one – because I guarantee you, their advice will elevate your 2022. Show Notes: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner To Find Your Chronotype Female Ejaculation & The G Spot by Deborah Sundahl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 28, 20211h 25m

Boys, Sex and Masculinity w/ Peggy Orenstein

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Where do men get their earliest messages about sex and intimacy? Why do they talk about banging / pounding / hitting it (like they’re at a construction site), and how does this conditioning affect your sex life – no matter your gender? Peggy Ornstein is the author of several iconic books on teens and sex, but on today’s fan favorite episode, she joins me to talk about Boys & Sex: a fascinating account of young men as they navigate hookups, porn and relationships, as told by the boys she interviewed. In this episode, you’ll learn how even in the shadow of #MeToo, boys are still confused about having mutually fulfilling sex, while still being a “man.” Listen - when it comes to masculinity, Peggy is an expert. She explains why she doesn’t love the term “toxic masculinity.” She recognizes that men get a confusing message: be dominant, but don’t be too aggressive. Reporting from the front lines of bro culture, Peggy reveals the sex conundrum that men so often find themselves in, and ways we can all evolve to have relationships that are more interesting, more erotic, and more emotionally intelligent. For More Information on Peggy Orenstein: Website | Instagram | Twitter Boys & Sex Girls & Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 24, 20211h 8m

Body Confidence, Bisexuality & Better Sex

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To get our needs met, we first have to be able to articulate our needs – and be brave enough to share them out loud. But it’s easier said than done! We get worried about what the other person will say, or we don’t have the words to express what we want, so we bury those longings and wait for a better time. Then before we know it, years have passed, and that better time never arrived. We’re sexually frustrated and resentful, because we never had the sex talk that was crucial to our happiness…until now. On this show, we’re leaning into discomfort, so we can come out on the other side sexually satisfied. In other words: we’re learning how to have a sex talk! Even when it’s just with yourself. How do you cultivate positive self-talk, when everyone around you affirms your hotness - but your brain just doesn’t buy it? Or how about when one of you wants to have sex every day, and the other doesn’t: how do you communicate your way through mismatched desires? Finally, let’s get into improving the quality of your sex life with a partner: when the sex itself has become rote, routine, or just plain boring, how do you revive it? The first step is an open conversation, and on this episode, I’m giving you scripts and tools so you can get over those fears, and get into mutually satisfying pleasure. Show Notes: The Sex with Emily Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 21, 202145 min

Best of: Women, Lust & Infidelity w/ Wednesday Martin

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“Women cheat for emotional connection, men cheat for sex.” “Men are horn dogs, women are frigid.” Heard any of this before? Did you know these are factually untrue? In this fan favorite episode, cultural anthropologist and bestselling author Wednesday Martin joins me to talk about female sexuality research findings, now that more females are entering the field of sex research. Believe me when I say: her revelations will change your life. Wednesday’s book Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free was a major conversation starter. Today, we’re more open to alternative relationship models, and a huge part of that is because of Wednesday. In this conversation, she debunks the lies we’ve been told for decades about female sexuality, including: men just want to spread their seed, while women want to protect their precious eggs. Wrong! Turns out, monogamy is pretty rough on female desire. How about this one: women cheat because they crave emotional care. Nope! Sometimes, women just want sex with someone new. Finally, how did these lies get started in the first place? Wednesday walks us through the faulty science that got us here, and how accurate measures of female desire are radically changing the way we understand sex – for all genders. For More Information About Wednesday Martin: Website | Instagram | Twitter Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust and Infidelity is Wrong Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 17, 202143 min

So You Wanna Have a Threesome

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Welcome to the wide world of alternative relationship models. Opening up, threesomes, and swinging are increasingly becoming more mainstream, so naturally, we’ve got questions. Some of us do better with monogamy, but some of us thrive with a little variety - and no matter where we land on the spectrum of relationships and sex, we can always gain vocabulary to explore our desires, and act on our pleasure. So on today’s show, I take your questions on open relationships and we get into it. First, we tackle open relationships when we’re already partnered. How do you establish the ground rules? What do you do when your partner has a date but you don’t, and you feel that jealousy coming on? Next, threesomes and swinging: how do you practice safe sex in a group sex situation? Finally: when you’re the third party, what’s the best way to talk to the partner of your partner? In this case, and truly all others, the key is becoming a grade A communicator – because if there’s one thing you can count on in an alternative relationship, it’s lots and lots of talking. Show Notes: Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 15, 202151 min

The Deal with Divorce w/ Laura Wasser

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You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases. Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show. For More Information on Laura wasser: Website | Instagram It’s Over Easy: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 10, 202157 min

The Secret to Better Sex: Trust

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In order to feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. And that’s the funny thing about trust: once it’s broken, it has a way of quietly shutting us down, so that our relationships aren’t as deep, our curiosity is blocked, and even our self-sex takes a hit. But there IS hope: trust can be healed. Neuroplasticity is a beautiful thing, and if we compassionately work on ourselves (possibly with a partner), we feel worlds better - more secure, and definitely more sexy. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take some of my favorite calls on trust, and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, to the point where sex feels sorta gross now? Or how about if you were the cheater, and your sex life just isn’t the same? (Two words: couples therapy.) How about this one: you’re in a partnership, and things are basically fine - but the spark has completely worn off, and you don’t know how to talk about it? Or, what if you tell a new partner you love them, they don’t reciprocate, and THEN the sex takes a nosedive? In both cases, I’ve got answers. Finally, when you’re “too picky” of a dater, is it really because they’re all duds? Or, are there some underlying trust issues there, that are keeping your sexuality safe, cool, and totally dormant? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s episode, we’re helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom. Show Notes: Ian Kerner’s book - So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. Our Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 8, 202135 min

Best Of: The S(ex) Factor w/ Sheila Kelley

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Sheila Kelley is a moment, a mantra, and the founder of S-Factor: a feminine movement practice that offers classes in strip, pole dance, and erotic dance. “We live from the armpits up, and get trapped away from our bodies,” Sheila says. So her passion is to free people through movement, so they can return to their bodies, and have more energy to move towards what they want. This is a gem-filled conversation that you’re going to want to pause several times, so you can take in Sheila’s explosive wisdom...and apply it immediately to your daily life. Plus, I take your questions! We’re all venturing into brave new worlds today, and need advice. What to do when you’re dating as a grown woman, with kids in their 20s - but the men you’re matching with are young adults too? Is that a problem? We discuss. Next: is it possible to get “orgasm addicted” to porn? I talk you through it. And finally, beginnings and endings: how do you begin your anal sex journey? How do you end a marriage as you knew it? As Sheila says, it’s all an incremental journey of self-investment and growth -- and by the end of this episode, you’ll have done a bit of both. Find more about Sheila Kelley here: Twitter @theSheilaKelley Instagram: @SheilaKelleyS sfactor.com Instagram @s.factor Twitter @skelleysfactor Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 3, 202153 min

What’s Your Sexual Fantasy?

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So you’ve got a sex fantasy...and you’re ready for it to become reality. That’s great! But let me be the first to tell you: this process is part art, part science. The art? That’s your erotic self. Closing your eyes, imagining hot -- possibly taboo -- scenarios, and taking the time to discover what turns you on. But the science? That’s where we have to get tactical and think with our heads -- as well as our loins. On today’s Ask Emily show, I take your calls on fantasy and give you practical advice on how to fulfill them. Let’s say your partner has been hinting at a cuckold scenario: how do you go about finding a “third,” and how do you manage expectations for all involved? We get into it. What if you don’t have any fantasies, but you want some? Is there a way to get more creative? Yeahhh there is. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery. Show Notes: FetLife Feeld #Open Ok Cupid Yea No Maybe List Book: Coming Together by Celeste And Danielle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 1, 202129 min

Best Of: Sexy & Self-Aware w/ Lewis Howes & Lisa Bilyeu

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I like to think of Lewis Howes and Lisa Bilyeu as leaders in the self-awareness world, especially when it comes to relationships. Both Lewis and Lisa are incredibly successful: she went from housewife to cofounder of a billion-dollar business, he went from picked last for dodgeball to pro athlete, New York Times bestselling author and uber successful podcaster. But here’s the thing: success is empty if you don’t learn to like yourself, and both are intimately familiar with that truth. On today’s Best Of episode, I’m pairing these two voices to bring you the most powerful advice on self-love and fulfilling relationships. We hear from Lisa, who tells the story of radically changing her role in her relationship, and Lewis, who tells the story of radically hustling for respect (and getting it) -- only to realize he needed to learn how to respect himself. In this show, you’ll learn how to ask your partner for exactly what you need, how to break the habit of “testing” partners, how to identify the masks you wear for the world, and why sex transforms after you’ve taken the time to understand who you are - and love yourself, no hustle required. Find Lewis Howes here: LewisHowes.com Instagram @lewishowes Twitter @lewishowes TikTok @lewishowes Find Lisa Bilyeu here: lisabilyeu.com Instagram @lisabilyeu Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 26, 20211h 5m

Ready to Get Naughty?

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It’s frustrating but true: sex isn’t a button that we can automatically turn on and off. In fact, “sex” is a catch-all term for arousal, body exploration, play, and erotic collaboration—not simply penetration. So what do you do when you want to get naughty, but your body isn’t on-board? On today’s Ask Emily show, we’re taking a look at the body’s response to sex, and figuring out what to do when it shuts down. Say you’ve got a gag reflex around oral: does that mean no blowjobs? Nah - I’ve got a trick for that. How about vaginismus, when the vulva clenches so tightly at penetration, that sex is super painful? I’ve got advice! Finally, let’s talk about your partners: is it kosher to use old toys with a new lover? How do you broach the subject? And when you’re newly married, but the sex has serious problems, where do you turn? At the root of good sex is good communication, and on today’s episode, we challenge everyone to articulate their needs, and listen to their partners. Show Notes: Clean your toys with Uvee San Diego Sexual Medicine Dr. Sherry's She-ology Dilators System Jo Lubricants Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 24, 202134 min

Sexual Spark and Relationship Arcs

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Before we’re experts at anything, we’re all humble beginners. And whether we’re learning how to date, learning how to talk about sex, or learning how to pleasure a partner, it can all seem pretty intimidating — enough to make us second-guess ourselves. “Do they just like me as a friend?” “Am I weird for wanting more lovers?” “Will I teach my child the right things about sex?” On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what YOU want…and not just what your lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships: what to do when you’re filled with old resentment? Is there a new conversation you could have with your partner? How about when you want to open up…but your nesting partner is scared of you having new lovers? We’re venturing into uncharted sex territory today, but don’t worry—we all come out on the other side, with fresh ways forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 20, 202138 min

Maximize Your Orgasm w/ Dolly Josette

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Everyone is talking about breathwork these days. But for PleasureMuse Dolly Josette, breath opens an entire world of erotic sensation -- and it’s a world you (yes, you) already possess. So if full-body orgasms sound like fun, you’ll love this conversation, because guess what? Dolly shows us how to visit that pleasure-filled world, all on our own. Dolly’s been recognized as one of today’s most innovative Sexological Bodyworkers by Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines, but more importantly, she helps women and couples navigate their sexual evolution, wake up from numbness, and live more orgasmic lives. In this episode, we cover a ton of ground, including how to hack your nervous system for better sex, how to become a great masturbator, what exactly *is* somatic sex therapy, and why so many people, especially vulva-owners, are trained to numb from the waist down. (Spoiler alert: her clients definitely aren’t numb anymore.) Find Dolly online: pleasuremuse.com Learn about orgasm vs. climax Get Dolly's 25-minute Vulva Hug Meditation - use code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off Instagram @pleasuremuse Show Notes: Find certified sexological bodyworkers in your area at sexologicalbodyworkers.org Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 17, 20211h 6m

Trust vs. Lust

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Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations. Show Notes: Episode: First Date First Orgasm First Threesome Find out about EMDR therapy at EMDRIA.org Book: For Yourself By Lonnie Barbach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 13, 202147 min

Jealousy and Juicy Phone Sex w/ Menace

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You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, Pete Davidson, and self-image. What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication. Find Menace here: What's New Podcast The Woody Show Diego Hot Sauce Instagram Twitter Show Notes: Try my free Yes, No, Maybe List We-Vibe Moxie, Bond (Cock Ring) and Touch Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Promescent: Better In Bed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 10, 202137 min

Strengthen Your Sex Muscles

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When you hear the words “pelvic floor,” what comes to mind? A visit to the OB-GYN, maybe? The truth is, the pelvic floor is a hidden superstar of sexual pleasure, for vulva AND penis owners. We all have a pelvic floor, but the problem is, we don’t always know how to take care of it. That changes today because you’re about to hear from the pelvic floor expert herself, Dr. Patricia Wallace. In this episode I talk to Dr. Wallace about “living your best life in your best body,” and how focusing on the pelvic floor can unlock our feel-good potential. We discuss the intricacies of orgasm because guess what? When you strengthen the pelvic floor, your orgasm contractions get more intense, and tiny muscles you didn’t even know you had amplified your pleasure. We can also heal pain and prolapse through pelvic floor rehab, and vulva owners will find a lot of relief hearing Dr. Wallace's thoughts on aging and hormones. Turns out, you can nurture your hormonal health well into menopause, without scary side effects! Leave it to a doctor to put our minds (and our vulvas, and our penises) at ease. Find out more about Dr. Wallace here: pelvichealthwellness.com Facebook Instagram Find out more about Emsella treatments here: bodybybtl.com Facebook Instagram Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 6, 202139 min

Sex Positions Made Easy

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Sex is play, but certain sex positions feel more like work, right? Whether it’s reverse cowgirl or 69, you might feel a bit awkward...you don’t exactly know what you’re doing...you’re trying not to throw your back out. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep doing the same, safe positions over and over again! That’s why today’s show is all about helping you experiment, and making the most challenging positions feel smooth and easy -- no physics degree required. Learn how to make reverse cowgirl less confusing and more sexy, how to execute the Kivin Method on a vulva owner, how to 69 without feeling like you’re multitasking, and how to have steamy, sexy shower sex without breaking anything. Plus: we reveal the most-searched sex positions by U.S. state! Pennsylvanians love their oral, and those Texans are pretty dexterous, y’all. Show Notes: Episode: The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr. Evan Goldstein Try our free Pleasure Planner Episode: Sex Goals For The Win Article: How to Master These Awkward Sex Positions Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Je Joue Mimi Ditto Anal Plug Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 3, 202140 min

Top 5 Sex Myths Debunked

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Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts. Click Here to Subscribe. What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Dame: Practice Your Pleasure Promescent: Better In Bed Show Notes: Episode: Lube It Or Leave It Episode: Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair B-Vibe: Anal Training Kit & Education Set Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 29, 202137 min

Relationship Reset

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who can read your mind, anticipate your needs 24/7, and fulfill them perfectly? Yeah...me neither. The truth is, deep relationships require deep communication skills, and the most important skill is this: being able to articulate what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics. Click Here to Subscribe. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I give you communication tools to put in your back pocket, so you can improve your relationship one talk at a time. How about when you’re tired of hookups and want a relationship with real depth? Or maybe, you want more than one relationship? I talk you through ways to approach both. What about when your partner is emotionally detached, or you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had? We get into it. Finally, we talk through getting the kind of touch you need in bed because let’s face it - sometimes pain is fun, and sometimes it’s just painful. With the right communication, you can find just the right sweet spot. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Dame: Practice Your Pleasure Show Notes: System Jo Lubricants Pjur - Sensitive Lube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 27, 202147 min

Sex, Love & Gwyneth Paltrow

You know Gwyneth Paltrow: actor, CEO of goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now, Gwyneth’s got a new show on Netflix called “Sex, Love & Goop,” where she hopes to spark another conversation: how couples can save their sex lives, through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place. Click Here to Subscribe. In this show, I talk to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series, like sexological bodywork and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why goop created a beautiful, “sculpture-like” vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded, and how nutrition healed her hormones after Covid quarantine. Gwyneth’s accomplished a lot in this life - now, she wants to conquer a taboo, by making sex talks more mainstream. And on my show, that’s exactly what I like to hear. For more information about Gwyneth Paltrow, click below: goop.com Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Womaness We-Vibe Bond Good Vibrations: Your Trusted Source For Quality Toys And Accessories Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 23, 202134 min

Connected Sex

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When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma, to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with your partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration. Click Here to Subscribe. What do you do when you’re “spectator-ing” yourself during sex, and battling against mental chatter? Or you’ve got a religious past, that makes sex a bit triggering for you? In both cases, I provide mindfulness techniques that help you quiet the mind, and feel into your pleasure. What about when it’s a block with your partner, when you’re just not on the same page about your desires? I’ve got ideas to normalize sex talks, and help you communicate your needs. How about when you crave a certain type of power dynamic, but aren’t sure how to explore it? I give you ideas for approaching it safely and consensually, with a play partner. This episode is all about self-exploration, and helping you reclaim your full sex potential. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring System Jo Lubricants Show Notes We-Vibe Nova Instagram: The Holistic Psychologist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 20, 202148 min

Foreplay Everyday

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To lots of folks, “foreplay” is shorthand for...hand stuff. But foreplay - or outercourse, as I call it - is actually way more about emotional intelligence, than anything having to do with your fingers. On today’s show, I dive into the psychology of foreplay and intimacy, a fascinating study on the difference between a good’ and ‘bad’ sex life, and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. Click Here to Subscribe. We also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner isn’t so keen on exploring new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay...after you give them all sorts of pre-game love. Plus, I answer your questions! I share what to do if you find yourself fantasizing about a past crush (while in a committed relationship), and give tips for how to have an orgasm… for the first time. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand We-Vibe Bond Show Notes: Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Download my Yes No Maybe List System Jo Lubricants Article: 6 Tips For Being A Better Kisser Foria Sex Oil We-Vibe Bond and Moxie b-Vibe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 16, 202142 min

More Pleasure, Please!

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There are wants, and then, there are needs -- sexual needs, to be precise. On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone has that one need that they’re longing to satisfy...they just don’t know how to do it. Good news: the sex expert has arrived, and I’m here to help you take that vital next step. Click Here to Subscribe. If you’ve never had an orgasm before, but desperately want to, I’ve got some ideas for that. Or if you want a hotter sex life, but your partner shuts down around sex convos, I’ve got communication tips. How about when you want to give your partner a crazy orgasm, but don’t know the right techniques? Yep, we talk about great ones. And finally, if your partner desires sexual experiences like swinging, but you aren’t sure, what in the world do you do? Answer: you listen to this episode! Because I promise, for every sex problem, there is a path forward. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Good Vibrations: Your Trusted Source For Quality Toys And Accessories System Jo Lubricants Show Notes: Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn Book: Curvy Girl Sex The Liberator Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Sportsheets b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 13, 202139 min

Your Top 5 Sex Questions, Answered

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When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top five sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one. How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: We-Vibe Promescent: Better In Bed Womaness Show Notes: System Jo Lubricants Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Guide: Three Ts of Communication Guide: Edging Yes No Maybe List Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Book: She Comes First Episode: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 9, 202149 min

Everybody Loves Oral

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It’s the holy grail of sexual connection -- a quality oral sesh. Or...is it? On this best of mashup episode, I’m sharing some top shelf advice on how to up your oral game: both giving, and receiving. Sometimes, hot oral comes down to technique, like the Kivin Method: we talk about why this is so delicious for vulva owners, and how you can execute it. But other times, good oral is more about lip service - no, not that kind, the communication kind. How do you ask for more oral from a partner who’s hesitant? How do you ask for LESS from a partner who’s a little too enthusiastic? And man oh man, what about when you desperately want to give - but your partner has some blocks around it? We get into all of it, alongside my guest Sadie Allison: sexologist, relationship expert and author, who has some A+ hacks to make your next oral sesh super sexy. For more Sadie Allison, click below: Website: www.TickleKitty.com Twitter Facebook Show Notes: Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 6, 202142 min

Communication Is A Lubrication

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Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot freer. Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe List Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 1, 202148 min

The Gottmans on Compatability, Conflict & Conversation

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No one goes to relationship school, so Dr. John & Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships work. As today’s guests (and partners for over 30 years), the Gottmans talk about their iconic research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship, and what is UP with pheromones and attraction. Yep: we’re talking t-shirt smell test. We’re also taking a research-based approach to conflict, and finding out how curiosity and conversation can help you navigate it. Finally, we discuss the Gottmans’ book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and take your Instagram questions about vulnerability, attraction, and how to stay sexually connected -- even when you’re exhausted. For more information about Drs John and Julie Gottman, visit: gottman.com Show Notes: Book: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach App: Gottman Card Decks For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 29, 20211h 0m

Introducing Sex w/ Emily

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Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/askemily. For more sexy fun, including blogs, photos, videos or to stream this show, visit sexwithemily.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 25, 20214 min

Sex w/ Comedians

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Comedians are paid to be funny, but on today’s throwback show, four of my four guests are getting real about sex - while, of course, being hilarious. Dean McDermott talks chemistry, porn versus Fleshlights, and how he and wife Tori Spelling keep things sexy with five (five!) kids. Nicky Paris is trying to bring down his walls around intimacy, and avoid having his head pushed down for oral. I applaud both. Margaret Cho deems herself a lifelong submissive, and talks about the contours of sexuality and BDSM, all while being bisexual and radically open to different ages. Finally, Adam Ferrara joins me to discuss negative self-talk, effective tools he uses in his marriage, and helps me answer your calls on everything from sexual compatibility to bedroom communication. Come for the laughs, stay for the sex. For more information about Dean McDermott, visit: Instagram Twitter For more information about Nicky Paris, visit: Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about Margaret Cho, visit: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about Adam Ferrara, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 25, 202148 min

Don’t Google This, Ask Emily

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On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine? Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges. Show Notes: We-Vibe Rave Je Joue Uma Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn Book: The Body Knows The Score Episode: It’s All In Your Head w/ Dr. Anadel Barbour Womaness For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 22, 202139 min

Arousal & Erotic Energy w/ Pamela Madsen & Court Vox

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Most of us think of arousal and desire as spontaneous, even a little mysterious. But on today’s show, I’m joined by the incredible Pamela Madsen, founder of Back to the Body, and sex & intimacy coach Court Vox, who myth-bust that assumption entirely. When you’re ready to go from erotically numb to erotically alive, they know exactly how to get the sexual energy going again. In this episode, they talk about low libido (and its likely culprit: high boredom), how to create a new relationship with your body, and how the right touch can unleash both deep desire...and deep healing. Pamela and Court also talk to us about their retreats (two words: pleasure demos), plus: we answer your questions! We talk to you about how to feel more confident in the bedroom, whether it’s ok to pleasure a partner when you yourself never orgasm, and how to have your best curvy girl sex. For more information about Pamela Madsen, MS, CSB, visit: http://backtothebody.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 18, 202151 min

Where Did My Orgasm Go?

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Attention: the orgasm has left the building. What does it mean when you can orgasm with one partner, but not another? Or when you can squirt, but not climax? How do we create those delicious sensations, without getting too up in our head about it? On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re talking all about orgasm and how to unlock it. I answer your questions on how to orgasm for the first time (at any age), what to do when you’re unable to orgasm with a new partner, how overall health affects your ability to climax, and how to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Je Joue Mimi Soft Episode: Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms. Episode: Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Dame Pom is great for exploration. Eva for a couples toy We-Vibe Nova II for internal and external pleasure Pjur Lube For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 15, 202152 min

Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller

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Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.) We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!). For more information about Dr. Justin Lehmiller, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 11, 202157 min

Hotline Calls: Micropenis, Deal Breakers & Sexsomnia

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So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. We’re also tackling a case of sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep), and how to make eye contact during sex (when you’re awake). If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes:Episode: First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome Find an EMDR therapist: EMDRIA.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 8, 202144 min

Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump

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On today’s throwback show, I’m joined by Sal, Adam, and Justin from the Mind Pump health and wellness show. We discuss how your mindset can get you into the best shape, common misconceptions about fitness training and testosterone, ways to naturally boost your libido, and the difference between self-image and body image. Plus, we explore how your physical health impacts your sex life, and the guys dive into the fascinating relationship between libido and physical activity. Trust me when I say the bedroom and the weight room are more connected than you think! I also answer your questions about how to confidently have sex on top, what it means if you feel physically “off” after masturbating and why we should send some love to an often-overlooked erogenous zone. For more Mind Pump, visit: mindpumpfree.com New Book The Resistance Training Revolution: The No-Cardio Way to Burn Fat and Age-Proof Your Body―in Only 60 Minutes a Week YouTube Instagram Facebook Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Promescent: Better In Bed Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 4, 202146 min

Turn Yourself On w/ Esther Perel

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Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating thinkers today on issues of desire, sex, and relationships. As an author and psychotherapist, she helps therapy patients (and the general public) understand the complexities of love and desire with provocative questions. How do you turn yourself on? How do you balance your need for safety and security, and on the other hand, your need for adventure and novelty? Can you want what you already have? As the author of the iconic “Mating In Captivity” and another bestseller, “The State of Affairs,” Esther is reshaping society’s views of sexuality and eroticism -- and arguably, healing them. In today’s episode, we talk about the difference between sexual and emotional needs, how you can calibrate your expectations of marriage, and why people in happy relationships still cheat. We also discuss her new game “Where Should We Begin,” answer a listener’s question about how to handle anxiety in relationships, and her number one piece of advice for having better sex. For more Esther Perel, visit estherperel.com Show Notes: The Pleasure Planner For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 1, 202154 min

Sex Tips I Wish I Knew In College

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Do you remember the sex you had in college? Or maybe you’re just now embarking on this exciting adventure and have no idea what to expect? While college is an *amazing* time for independence and exploration, it also comes with uncharted territory and first-time sexual dilemmas. Today, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about sex in college. I’m sharing what I wish I knew before my first year and some of YOUR hottest college hookup stories. Plus I answer your questions about how to make one night stands more pleasurable, how to know if it’s time to break up with your long term partner for new sexual experiences, what to do if your asexual identity or virginity makes it harder for you to connect with potential partners and how to find partners who value more than just casual hookups. I also talk to certified health coach Katrina Wright about how she has transcended during her time at college into a healthier relationship with herself and her romantic partners. Show Notes: Magic Wand System Jo Lubricants Sex Tips I Wish I knew In My 20s Ask Emily: How Do I Get More Comfortable w/ Dirty Talk Je Joue Mimi Soft Dame - Eva For more information about Katrina Wright, visit: thesculptyou.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 28, 202159 min

Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair

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Are you curious about anal play, but don’t know where to get started? It’s Anal August, so we’ve invited certified sex educator and B-Vibe CEO Alicia Sinclair on the show to break down all things booty. In today’s episode, we talk about how to experiment with beginner butt play, avoiding common anal mistakes, progressing your anal play (from analingus to penetration), and the best products for anal training and butt orgasms—yup, they’re real. Plus, we answer your questions about the best ways to prep and unwind after engaging in any sort of butt stuff, how to actually find your prostate, how to let go of shame and replace it with glorious anal pleasure. Show Notes: Woo More Play Article: Anal Massage: Master the Best Anal Foreplay Techniques OHNUT Pjur Lube Aneros Alicia's last appearance on Sex w/ Emily: Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair For more information about Alicia Sinclair, visit: bvibe.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 25, 202148 min

The Lies of Monogamy w/ Dr. Shefali

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How has culture shaped your sexuality? According to my guest Dr. Shefali Tsabury, culture has conditioned us to suppress, cheat, and lie to ourselves. But radically authentic love and desire IS possible if we’re willing to confront common myths and make the conscious decision to live free. In this fascinating conversation, Dr. Shefali talks about how to rethink marriage as a model for growth, whether monogamy is natural (or not), and how to replace societal conditioning with something more wild, interesting, and frankly pretty sexy: worthiness. For more information about Dr. Shefali, visit: DrShefali.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 21, 202144 min

Hotline Calls: How to Have the Sex You Really Want

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So your partner is great… but you want them to bring the heat, and don’t know how to ask for it. Now what? On today’s episode, I answer calls about how to ask for exactly what you want, or conversely, don’t want. I also give advice about how to achieve orgasm without relying too heavily on porn or toys, what to do if your partner’s penis is too big for anal, what to do if YOU like giving oral but your partner isn’t as down to receive, and how to enjoy casual dating. If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: O Nut Yes, No, Maybe List b-Vibe - Anal Kit For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 18, 202151 min

It’s Okay to Be Kinky w/ Mistress Justine Cross

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Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies. We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics. For more information about Justine Cross, visit: losangelesdominatrix.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 13, 202143 min

Hotline Calls: Breakups, Oral & Honeymoon Sex

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On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children). You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Massage Candles at Good Vibrations b-Vibe Beginner Anal Kit Fin by Dame System Jo Lubricants Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Audio Erotica: Quinn Yes, No, Maybe List For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 11, 202150 min

Chemistry, Attraction & Connection w/ Matthew Hussey

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It’s part two with one of the world’s most sought-after dating and relationship experts, Matthew Hussey. We continue the conversation and dive into how to build chemistry (and how that differs from connection), signs that someone is actually invested in you, ways to foster attraction without losing a sense of yourself, and the drawbacks of what Matthew calls ‘the one day wager.’ We also discuss the importance of consistency in your actions and words, the difference between healthy romance and love bombing, common red flags (and why they so often get ignored), when you should first sleep with someone, and whether or not Matthew Hussey believes in ‘the one.’ Missed part one of my interview with Matthew? Listen to it here. For more Matthew Hussey visit MHChallenge.com Matthew's 9 Texts YouTube Instagram Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 7, 202140 min