Sex With Emily

On this show, I’m joined by relationship and life coach, author, and YouTube personality Matthew Hussey. We discuss whether or not “casual dating” actually exists, why rejection is actually a GOOD thing, how dating apps have changed the dating world (and how to actually meet people IRL), and the root cause of problematic dating patterns. Plus, Matthew shares his exclusive three layers of confidence and tools to build your self-esteem. After all, who doesn’t find confidence in hot AF? We also talk about how we can use relationships to learn about ourselves, why it's important to feel embodied while dating, how much you should invest in a potential partner, why falling in love quickly can be a red flag, and the importance of therapy and mentorship. P.S.Make sure you subscribe to hear Friday’s part two of this interview. Things get even juicier... For more Matthew Hussey visit matthewhussey.com howtogettheguy.com YouTube Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, I’m joined by psychological astrologer and returning guest Dr. Jennifer Freed. We answer your questions on how to spot a sensual lover, useful tools for addressing low libido, how to pursue a threesome or open relationship, how to easily create intimacy in a relationship, what your Zodiac signs say (or don’t say) about compatibility with your partner, what to do if your hookup buddy wants a relationship (but you don’t), and the mind-blowing effects of EMDR therapy. We also share our top methods to build erotic tension and why focusing too much on your partner’s desire can hold you back in the bedroom. As an added bonus, we walk through ways to reach your ‘power yes’ in sex, the effects of toxic masculinity, and how to communicate as an invitation—not a confrontation. Show Notes: Episode: Sex Up Your Love Language EMDRIA.org: Resources for EMDR therapy Yes, No, Maybe List For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever had sex with an ex? Or tried to be friends with your ex? On today’s show, I am joined by MY real-life ex-boyfriend and opening up about our past, including our favorite (sexual) memories. We discuss the evolution of our relationship from falling in love, to why we broke up (“the ass is always greener”). For the first time, we talk about what we both learned from the relationship and our regrets. We share practical advice for how to become friends with your ex based on our experience. Hint: you have to want the same thing. Plus, I answer your questions! I discuss ways to hook up and date someone new after a breakup, tools to initiate a difficult conversation, and how to heal insecurities and heartache after separating from your partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everyone wants to feel loved. But what if there was a way to give love, that could also lead to hotter, more connected sex? On today’s show, I share how to crack the code on the 5 Love languages to amp up the connection in all of your important relationships. Plus, I answer your questions like: what to do if you have a different love language than your partner (which is more common than you think), how to show love in a long distance relationship and specific ways to express yourself sexually based on you and your partner’s love languages. Then I answer your questions about what to do if you accidentally give your partner feedback on his penis when he didn’t ask and what to do when you are no longer sexually attracted to your girlfriend. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: More Information on The Love Languages Je Joue Mimi Soft Bellesa Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, I’m throwing it back to a question on everyone’s mind: how to have multiple orgasms. Yes, it is possible! I share in-depth tips for how you can prep your body and mind to make this goal a reality. Plus, I discuss how to make initiating sex an equal playing field while in a dom/sub relationship, ways to transition your sexting relationship into real life, what to do after getting caught having sex in public (by your parents!) and how to get your needs met when your partner is sexually selfish. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Magic Wand Womanizer Je Joue Uma Mimi Ami kegel set Dame Kip B-vibe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Best of episode, I’m explaining how to spot red flags when you’re dating someone new, healthy ways to address conflict, and actionable tips to amp up a low sex drive. I also take your calls about getting past jealousy in an open relationship, what to do when you want more sex than your partner, and how squirting can happen even without an orgasm. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Episode Bedroom Goals & Relationship Roles with Lisa Bilyeu For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Ask Emily show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex. I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner about having another child and what it means when you cry after sex. Show Notes: Yes No Maybe List Fetlife #Open Feeld For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s throwback show, I’m discussing the ins and outs of a fantasy that has become a lot more popular: cuckolding or “hot wifery”. I share tips to bring up your fantasy with your partner, why people enjoy it, how you can navigate FFM and MMF threesomes, and what to consider before you dive into your next sexual fantasy. I also take your calls and answer questions like how to get over the jitters when you want to go to the strip club with your husband for the first time, and what to do when your partner has extreme separation anxiety when you leave town and why writing your own erotica can be incredibly hot (and even help with initiating sex). For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men during quarantine, how to make the post-pandemic “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what. Find Serena here: serenakerrigan.com Instagram Facebook Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party, and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn? Find Jacky St. James here: jackystjames.com Instagram Twitter Find Ana Foxxx here: OnlyFans Instagram Twitter Show Notes: Bellesa Erika Lust For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We get into how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you! Show notes: Yes No Maybe List Pleasure Planner Episode: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Episode: Am I Normal w/ Dr. Maria Uloko For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the #1, most-common fantasy: threesomes. I explore why threesomes can be hot and lay out some ground rules for making a threesome work. We talk about everything you should discuss with your partner before adding a third into the mix and the importance of aftercare (what happens after your threesome). I also share my personal threesome experiences, both the satisfying one and the one that didn’t go as planned. I describe what steps you can take to try and maximize everyone’s pleasure while indulging in this fantasy. Plus, I answer your questions about the hottest moves to try when penetration is off the table, what to do when you’ve gotten too involved with your neighbor’s 19-year-old son, and how to get the most out of masturbation using CBD, ethical porn, and fantasy. Show Notes: FetLife Feeld #open For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who is ready for a hotter, wetter summer? Today, I’m joined by squirting expert, author, and educator Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot (or g-area) anatomy. Deborah and I discuss the difference between squirting and having an orgasm, a step-by-step guide to tapping into your squirting potential, where the G-spot (aka female prostate) is located and how to find it, and the best sex position to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm. We answer your top questions about how to squirt and what ejaculate consists of, and the best ways to make sure you and your partner can relax and experience all the pleasure and release of a full-body orgasm. Find Deborah Sundahl here: https://deborahsundahl.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure your sex life follows suit. In this episode, I’m sharing ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. I also answer your questions, like how to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties, where to (safely) have sex in public, how to navigate a friends-with-benefits relationship, and what to do with penis anxiety if your partner plays with a toy bigger than you. Show Notes: Yes No Maybe List Je Joue Mimi Soft Vibrator Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator Emily’s Vesper Vibrating Necklace Je Joue Mio Penis Ring b-Vibe System Jo Lubricants Foria: Premium CBD Products Dame Hands-Free Eva Dame Finger Vibe Episode: Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex w/ Dr. Ian Kerner Bellesa Ethical Porn Feeld Dating FetLife #Open For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva. Show Notes: Bellesa - Ethical Porn Yes No Maybe List Je Joue Uma G-Spot Vibrator Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator Glass Dildos at Good Vibrations For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m taking more of your most pressing questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We’re covering what to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man), if your birth control is tanking your sex drive, why bisexual men are often shamed, how to bring back intimacy after a baby, and what to do if your partner won’t share their sexual desires. Inspired to ask for my opinion? Call and leave a voicemail with your question! You can reach me at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, I am joined by activist, author, and queer commentator Jeffrey Marsh to discuss all things gender. Regardless of how you identify, Jeffrey’s radical self-acceptance will help you to gain a new perspective, have a different understanding of yourself and allow you to stop any negative self-talk. Jeffrey breaks down the difference between confidence self-acceptance, how fearlessly demanding respect from others frees you up to fully be yourself, and their experience as the first openly non-binary person on television. We share the basics of gender pronouns, the difference between being trans and non-binary, how gender differs from sexual orientation, and how parents can support their children regardless of their identity. We also dive into Jeffrey’s book How to Be You, what happens during meditation and self-care journeys, and why learning to ask for what you need is crucial for healthy relationships. For more information about Jeffrey Marsh (they/them), visit: http://jeffreymarsh.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Best of episode, I am joined by renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love, Dr. Helen Fisher. We discuss whether love at first sight is possible, how our personality traits shape our attraction to others and the way our biology influences who we love. We dive into the parts of your brain responsible for your sex drive, romantic love, and deep attachment. Dr. Fisher also shares findings from studies she has done with Match to answer the question: why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? We also explore the best age to marry, why orgasms create connection, the importance of space in a relationship and why casual sex is not really so casual (hint: catching feelings is real). You can take Dr. Fisher’s personality test to learn about how your personality impacts who you love and how you bond. Take Dr. Fisher’s Personality Test here: https://theanatomyoflove.com/relationship-quizzes/helen-fishers-personality-test/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it! Your questions include: what to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible. You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe List https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Article: How To Have Sex in a Full House https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-have-sex-when-youre-in-a-full-house/ Logan Ury Episode: https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-not-die-alone-w-logan-ury/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.) Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others. A special thanks to our interns, Maria and Erica, who helped produce this episode. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares the ways that sex is similar to meditation, the importance of following your intuition, how to foster true positive change, and the best ways to maintain a gratitude practice. For more information about Light Watkins, visit: https://www.lightwatkins.com/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the most wonderful time of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s show, I’m honoring a month of self-love by giving you a brief history of the celebration (no, I didn’t make it up), the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys for bringing you pleasure all year long. Plus, I’m answering your questions like what to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator, why masturbation may be your key to success if you keep orgasm blocking yourself in the bedroom, signs that you’re masturbating too much and how to get rid of religious shame surrounding masturbation. Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ The Psychology and Shame of Masturbation: https://sexwithemily.com/psychology-and-shame-of-masturbation/ Je Joue Mimi Clitoral Vibe, G-Spot Vibe, Bullet Vibe, & Mio Penis Ring: http://www.sexwithemily.com/jejoue Magic Wand: http://bit.ly/2UqVf38 Tenga Egg Masturbators: http://bit.ly/2hNwnDe Foria Lube: https://bit.ly/3rJFggP For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit https://sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date. Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny can be like being drunk, and why your flaws DON’T make you a bad person. Show Notes: Pat Allen - Getting To I Do Kink.com Bellesa For more information about Nikki Glaser, visit: nikkiglaser.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner. We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.” Show Notes: Yes No Maybe List For more information about Dr. Megan Stubbs, visit: sexologistmegan.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by board-certified urologist Dr. Edward Karpman to talk about virtually every penis topic there is and explore how overcoming your penis challenges can boost your sex life. He even shares some cautionary tales about penis fractures when your partner is on top. We discuss the most common penis challenges (low testosterone, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction) and ways to work through them, how to get your brain on board when you’re dealing with performance anxiety, and how a penis implant actually works. Dr. Karpman also breaks down the pivotal role testosterone plays in your sex life, how his patients think about their penis size and the benefits and drawbacks of pills that treat erectile dysfunction. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m joined by the fabulous and entertaining hosts of The LadyGang; Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jac Vanek. We set intentions together and give recipes for feeling sexy after the pandemic, ways to give a killer bj (without it feeling like well, a job), and the different kinds of desire. Plus, I share the best ways to clean your sex toys, my most common listener questions, and what happens when TSA pulls your bag full of vibrators. I also answer your questions about alleviating pain during sex, how to let your partner know you have been faking your orgasms, and what’s actually happening when you squirt. Show Notes: UVee Home Play Strokers Magic Wand System Jo Flavored Lube For more information about LadyGang, visit: theladygang.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom. for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Best Of roundup, I break down attitudes about oral sex, the oral double standard, the evolutionary significance of oral sex, how to overcome vibrator intimidation, tips for alleviating delayed ejaculation, ways to combat sexual insecurities, and what to do when you’ve given up on having an orgasm (hint: don’t give up). I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners. Show notes: FAQ: How Can I Get Better at Oral Sex? 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph.D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So, Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. We cover a lot in this interview including what has changed in his last 20+ years as a practicing sex therapist. Hint: erectile dysfunction in younger men is real. Dr. Kerner (“the man who made oral sex into an art form”) walks us through his latest book and explains how you can decode and rewrite your relationship’s sex script and bring your erotic self into the bedroom to transform your sex life. We discuss the importance of psychological arousal, what happens to your body during the honeymoon phase, when to challenge the monogamy script, what to do when there is a “desire discrepancy” in a relationship and so much more. “When it comes to sex and relationship problems, many of us are leading lives of quiet desperation. Sometimes you can be lying in bed next to someone and feel a million miles apart. Talking about sex and relationships is hard, but self-silencing can be even harder in the long run.” – Dr. Kerner Show Notes: Ian's New Book: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex Getting Cliterate w/ Dr. Ian Kerner Rosemary Basson Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. The Kinsey Institute For more information about Ian Kerner, visit: IanKerner.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels, the importance of quality cannabis, our OWN relationships to weed+sex, and how “sex magick” can transform your life. Plus, we answer your questions about whether or not marijuana can improve orgasms, cottonmouth (not fun for oral), and how to shift your energy out of your head and into your body. For more information about Lizzy Jeff, visit: lizzyjeff.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by four guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor, WTF is up with menopause, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shares the benefits of getting to know your (or your partner’s) vulva, the relationship between insecurity and porn, solutions for painful sex, and of course, squirting. Next, we have MaryEllen Reider, from Yarlap, who joins me to talk about the importance of the pelvic floor muscles. Did you know that stronger pelvic floor muscles can make stronger orgasms? It’s true! Finally, the founder of Tabu, Natalie Waltz, and her mother, Ouhoud Dabbas help me demystify menopause and discuss how masturbation can help increase your libido. For more information about Dr. Sherry, visit: drsherry.com For more information about MaryEllen Reider & Yarlap, visit: yarlap.com For more information about Natalie Waltz & Ouhoud Dabbas, visit: heytabu.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost. You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful, and easy to learn exercises you can use right away –– because a big, healthy brain is always sexy. For more on Jim Kwik visit jimkwik.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner. We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex. For more information about Dr. Ina Park, visit: inapark.net For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After a year of social distancing, many of us have forgotten how to flirt and date IRL. The good news: with a little practice, you’ll be stronger and sexier than ever before. In this episode, I cover the lessons we’ve learned from a year of isolation and digital dating and I also take a look at what might be in store for us in the year ahead. I walk you through how to regain confidence, uplevel your flirting skills, and important questions to ask yourself before jumping back out there. I also answer questions about what to know when considering a “friend with benefits” arrangement, how to prepare for sex after a dry spell, getting back with an ex, and dating post-divorce. Show Notes: Love Language quiz For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the euphoric bliss from an orgasm was captured in other moments of your daily life? Whether you’re eating a meal or spending time outside, prioritizing sensuality helps you start to experience what today’s guests like to call “orgasmic living.” I’m joined by the creators of Afrosexology, Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo who join me to discuss the power of this life-changing concept. Their mission is to empower, educate and explore Black sexuality and self-improvement through sexual liberation. We discuss their journey into creating Afrosexology, the importance of embodiment, the power of centering pleasure and being intentional in the present moment. We also demystify different aspects of kink, polyamory, and compersion, so that you can see if any of these are things you’d want to add to your sex life. Plus, we answer your questions about prioritizing your pleasure as much as your partner’s and feeling more connected during and after sexual experiences. For more information about Dalychia Saah & Rafaella Fiallo , visit: afrosexology.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million times: there should be a bottle of lube (or more) on every nightstand. I mean, seriously just a few drops can transform your sex and amplify the amount of pleasure. But, it can be difficult to know what kind of lube is best suited for you and your needs. On today’s show, I break down the best lubes for masturbation, anal, penetrative, and oral sex. I share the results of our Better Sex Survey sponsored by Pjur Lube. I cover products that are safe for a vagina’s PH and some household items that are better kept in the kitchen than inside of you. I also discuss what your wetness really means, the transformation lube can have with discomfort during sex, how sex increases intimacy between you and your partner, and how penis size can change with an erection. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones. I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex can get stale but today I focus on ways to keep it fresh. In this Best Of episode, I share some sex hacks that bring back spontaneity in easy and creative ways. I share new uses for pillows, ideas for games you can play anywhere, and tricks to make doggy-style even better. I answer your questions about how to know if you should end a long-distance relationship, why prostate orgasms feel so good, and what to do if your partner’s porn habits lead to problems in the bedroom. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram. I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes. Show Notes: Podcast with Justin Lehmiller Dating apps: Craigslist, Feeld, OkCupid, FetLife, Adult Friend Finder, #Open Yes, No, Maybe List Tips For Better Communication Free Guide For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Quarantine has caused many of us to experience a “starvation diet” of physical touch and now it’s to feast. The lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety or depression, on today’s show I’ll share how you can find more touch and intimacy in your daily life. I also answer questions about how to get back out there and date while newly sober, how to bring the excitement back in a sexless relationship, and how to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom. Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe list Pleasure Planner Frequently Asked Sex Questions Womanizer For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his new book Your Brain is Always Listening. We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. I also answer your Rapid Fire questions covering everything from tips for hotter shower sex to bring up your kink to a partner. Show notes: Find out which dragons you have here: KnowYourDragons.com Order Dr. Amen’s latest book Your Brain Is Always Listening here: YourBrainIsAlwaysListening.com For more information about Dr. Daniel Amen, visit: danielamenmd.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your masturbation class is in session. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. I answer your questions about how to try masturbation when you never have, which sex toys to use, and the magic of mutual masturbation. I get into the tricky relationship between shame and fantasy and discuss how often you should masturbate in a relationship—it’s probably more than you think! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Sex With Emily best of, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach John Wineland to discuss the driving force behind attraction, sexual connection, and desire. We discuss the polarity of masculine and feminine energy, what symbolic aspects of anal make it so hot, how to build attraction from the inside out, and give tools to enhance connection. We also get into your questions like why the urge to have an affair can be so strong, how to know if there is enough sexual chemistry to pursue a second date, and what to do to bring sex back into your long-term relationship. For more information about John Wineland, visit: johnwineland.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you remember your first time? It could be your first date, first threesome, first orgasm, or your first time experimenting with a new position. No matter what it is, any “first” experience can feel intimidating, but I’m here to help eliminate any fear that might be holding you back. I answer questions about how to navigate first-time experiences: having sex, getting on a dating app, performing oral sex, trying anal play, and other adventures. Whether it’s your first time or you want to expand your sexual repertoire, this episode will encourage you to try something new and sexy. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever want to know what really goes down in your girlfriend’s group chat? Today you’ll find out when I’m joined by Chelsea, Glynn, and Sade, the hosts of the popular much talked about Black Girls Texting. We explore sex dreams, what it’s like to have a threesome with your best friend, and the art of sending nudes. We answer questions and discuss cultural stereotypes, manscaping, pre-gaming sex, and the power of setting sexual intentions. For more information about Black Girls Texting (Chelsea, Glynn, Sade), visit: blackgirlstexting.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breakups! They can be painful. Losing a partner can feel like a mini-death, especially if you’ve spent time planning a future together. In this episode, I give my top tips for how to cope with a breakup and reground yourself. If you are struggling to move on after a breakup, following even one of these steps will help you recover. I also answer your questions with tips for giving better oral sex, sexy gift recommendations for long-distance relationships, and communication tools for expressing your emotional and sexual needs. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wonder why you’re not having more sex? Well, wonder no more. This episode identifies the 6 most common roadblocks to sex. Whether you’re too stressed to get too turned on or too self-conscious to get naked, we all have barriers that hold us back from sex and pleasure. In this episode, I’m sharing specific tips so you can overcome the most common sexual barriers. I also answer your questions including what to do if your wetness level is inconsistent during sex, the relationship between OnlyFans and cheating, how to handle a jealous partner, and what to do if your partner has a fetish but lockdown has made it more challenging. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works and looking for sex after a life of not having any, each of these people has taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend won’t communicate openly with you about your sex life, how to be more confident rocking the cowgirl position, and what to do if mismatched libidos are making you feel insecure in your relationship. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices