Perfectionism Rewired

Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizing and what to do with all those feelings inside (it's not AT ALL what you think).If you're ready to experience the amazingness that comes with being an empowered perfectionist and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you belong inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the Full Episode To Learn:What happens when you get a sucky setback surprise and how to empoweringly rise to the occasion.How to move forward without turning into a robot or constantly beating yourself up over what went "wrong"Where all your power is and how to skip the ruminating about the past or catastrophizing about the futureWhy You want to focus on moving THROUGH your feelings, instead of fixating on what's causing them or why they are thereStrategies you can start using today to stop beating yourself up + handle setbacks with expert-level skillsReferenced In the Episode:How Perfectionistic Brains Work (Ep. 193) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-lifeEp. 206 TimeStamps00:00-When Everything Goes Wrong Despite Your Best Efforts02:02-Understanding Why Your Inner Critic Calls03:20-Accepting Life As A Human = Embracing Adaptability Over Rigid Planning04:39-Ruminating + Futility of Dwelling on Your Past05:32-Power of Living in the Present06:47-The Doritos Analogy: Choosing Better Responses07:39-Debunking the Cause-and-Effect Fallacy08:29-Taking Responsibility for Your Choices09:11-How to Handle Emotions Constructively10:06-Staying Present to Rise Above Challenges11:17-Overcoming the Self-Criticism Trap12:56-Embracing Mistakes and Perfectionist Humanity Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple tool that shows you how to calm your mind from overthinking. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish.On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do or PRESENCE with your family, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:The best tool for how to deal with anxiety and overthinkingHow to stop ruminatingA tool that helps your mind chatter slow down, so you're no longer anxious and overthinking SOURCES + CITATIONS FOR EP. 205Russell, J.L. Stuck on repeat: Why do we continue to ruminate?. Synthese 199, 13143–13162 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11229-021-03370-7 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

You're used to being the go-to person, who's always happy to help and yet..why is it so freaking hard for you to ask for support? Discover how perfectionism isn't an excuse, it's an explanation and how to advocate for yourself on this empowering episode.If you want to have the capacity, courage & certainty to seek support and leverage it, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for high-achievers with perfectionistic tendencies Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the Full Episode To Hear:The 2 ways perfectionists accidentally self-sabotage + how to rise above them immediatelyHow to deal with internal judgment and awkwardness when you're used to being the person people go to for supportWhat to do if you're caught up in "shoulds" and feeling like you're not where you should beResources Mentioned In This Episode:Meeting Yourself Where You Are Not wheere you think you should be (Ep. 187)Holding Two Truths At The Same Time (Ep. 143)EP.204 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Perfectionism as Self-Advocacy01:22-The Awkwardness of Seeking Support02:08-Learning to Meet Yourself Where You're At04:33-Identifying Areas You'd Secretly Love Some Support06:17-Finding Your Path to Rewire Your Perfectionism Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you tired of white-knuckling it? Ready to move beyond relentless people-pleasing and pretending to be calm? Discover the real reason you're not overcoming perfectionism (it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying) and how to stop settling for a life of miserable meh as a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism Leveraged client Whitney courageously shares her story of being tightly wound mom of 3 young girls, addicted to control, teetering on burnout in a prison yard of her own making and magnificently frustrated. Hear how she found the willingness to experiment, let go of control and rewired to become a powerhouse, present parent who's daughters are SO proud of their mom.If you want to make sure crippling perfectionism NEVER CONTROLS YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator fast-track. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why you want to find a playground for your perfectionism to come alive.What Whitney did step-by-step to go from a warning label to become a shining example to her 3 kids through redefining her relationship with perfectionism + reconnecting with playRefreshingly practical questions to ask yourself to go from enduring to enjoying your own perfectionistic tendenciesResources Mentioned:Your Resilience Zone™: Part of proprietary EPIC method combining Embodied neuroscience, Presence somatic, Interoceptive Connection, proven to permanently rewire perfectionism and increase playfulnessPerfectionism Leveraged: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge of their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you're designed to be.Episode 203 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-From Enduring to Enjoying Your Perfectionistic Tendencies01:48-Overcome Perfectionism Feel Good Way02:53-The Never-Ending Need for Play03:18-Neuroscience and Play in Adulthood04:35-Reconnecting With Your Playful Self05:41-Steps to Create Your Perfectionism Playground06:03-Case Study: Whitney's Journey with Perfectionism07:38-Impact of Perfectionist Parenting on Children09:15-What Cooking + Rewiring Perfectionism Have in Common10:58-Seeking Help to Uncover YOUR Perfectionist Playground11:48-Benefits of the Perfectionism Rewired AcceleratorSciencey Credible Citations Referenced In This Exciting Episode:‌‌‌Kiverstein, J., & Miller, M. (2023). Special Issue: Experiencing Well-BeingPlayfulness and the meaningful life: an active inference perspective. Neuroscience of Consciousness, 2023(1). https://doi.org/10.1093/nc/niad024Parkin, S. (2017, January 4). How Video Games Satisfy Basic Human Needs. Retrieved January 28, 2024, from Nautilus website: https://nautil.us/how-video-games-satisfy-basic-human-needs-236347/Siviy, S. M. (2016). A brain motivated to play: insights into the neurobiology of playfulness. Behaviour, 153(6-7), 819–844. https://doi.org/10.1163/1568539x-00003349 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy...

You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING. Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without getting bogged down by other people's emotions. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewireListen to the full episode to hear:The crucial distinctions between caring for people and carrying their load Why an overactive sense of responsibility impacts your peace, presence and growthHow to be empathetic. (the healthy way)Practical tips you can use (today!) to lighten your load and enhance your emotional intelligence Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Episode 202:Bohns, V., Newark, D., & Boothby, E. (2018, October 8). When do We Feel Responsible for Other People’s Behavior and Attitudes? https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327854931_When_do_We_Feel_Responsible_for_Other_People's_Behavior_and_AttitudesBarrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.Sugiura, Y., & Fisak, B. (2019). Inflated Responsibility in Worry and Obsessive Thinking. International Journal of Cognitive Therapy, 12(2), 97–108. https://doi.org/10.1007/s41811-019-00041-x‌Tangney, J. P., Burggraf, S. A., & Wagner, P. E. (1995). Shame-proneness, guilt-proneness, and psychological symptoms. In J. P. Tangney & K. W. Fischer (Eds.), Self-conscious emotions: The psychology of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride (pp. 343–367). Guilford Press.Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover why compulsively seeking more information to solve perfectionistic problems is actually self-sabotage and how you can upgrade obsessively finding the right answers to playfully pursuing the correct ones FOR YOU. Plus how to know when searching for the perfect way to fix yourself is secretly holding you back and the 5 hidden dangers all driven high-performers want to be aware of.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you decide to rewire your perfectionistic tendencies through private 1-1 coaching, you gain the EPIC SKILLS that LIBERATE you from intrusive thoughts, self-sabotage and put you back in charge. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesSneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:Costumes procrastination and self-sabotage wear when you’re a perfectionist or high performerMy high-performance strategy for effectively absorbing and implementing vital new informationWhy accumulating more information kills your progress + potential for growth Featured On Episode 201:7 Signs Your Striving Is From Insecurity Instead of Power (Episode 80)Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)Maybe It's Not Your Fault (Ep. 3 Self-Advocacy Series)7 Signs Your Striving Is From Insecurity Instead of Power (Episode 80) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 201 Timestamps:00:00-Letting Go of Obsession with Finding the Right Answers01:38-Iceberg Analogy of Perfectionism02:10-Limitations of a Checklist Approach To Fixing Yourself03:03-The Pitfalls of Overvaluing Knowledge04:06-Procrastination + Self-Sabotage in Disguise05:01-Integrating + Implementing Wisdom06:10-The 3X Approach to Consuming Information07:25-Mindful Consumption of Knowledge09:18-Redefining Your Core Identity10:15-Overcoming Self-Sabotage Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:Arnold, M., Mascha Goldschmitt, & Rigotti, T. (2023). Dealing with information overload: a comprehensive review. Frontiers in Psychology, 14. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1122200‌Middlebrooks, C. D. (2017). Selectively Distracted: Divided Attention and Memory for Important Information - Catherine D. Middlebrooks, Tyson Kerr, Alan D. Castel, 2017. Retrieved January 14, 2024, from Psychological Science website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797617702502‌Solms, L., Koen, J., A.E.M. van Vianen, Theeboom, T., Beersma, B., Anne, & Matthijs de Hoog. (2022). Simply effective? The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions in a self-coaching writing exercise. Frontiers in Psychology, 13. <a...

What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how to playfully let go.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) get customized 1-1 coaching + the EPIC SKILLS that LIBERATE you from intrusive thoughts, self-sabotage and put you back in command. Discover your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services Featured On Episode 200:courtneylovegavin.comPower of Paradox ep. 143Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)Medical Gaslighting + Misdiagnosis (Ep. 3 Self-Advocacy Series)How To Let Go Of Perfectionism (Shame Avoidance) ep. 145 Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 200 Timestamps:00:00-Striving becomes Self-sabotage04:15-Once Upon A Perfectionist named CLG6:06-Black and white thinking10:38-How to stop overthinking12:22-Embodied Presence Interoception Connection (E.P.I.C. Framework™)13:20-Shifting from Shame Avoidance to Satisfying Success14:42-Practice Makes Permanent15:51-Intrusive Thoughts17:27-Enjoying your perfectionism instead of enduring20:43-Fixed Mindset25:00-How To Feel Good NOW Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:Boon Chong Ng. (2018). The Neuroscience of Growth Mindset and Intrinsic Motivation. Brain Sciences, 8(2), 20–20. https://doi.org/10.3390/brainsci8020020Dorevitch, B., Buck, K., Fuller‐Tyszkiewicz, M., Phillips, L., & Krug, I. (2020). Maladaptive Perfectionism and Depression: Testing the Mediating Role of Self-Esteem and Internalized Shame in an Australian Domestic and Asian International University Sample. Frontiers in Psychology, 11. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01272‌Dweck, C. S., Walton, G. M., & Cohen, G. L. (2014). Academic Tenacity Mindsets and Skills that Promote Long-Term Learning. Retrieved from https://ed.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/manual/dweck-walton-cohen-2014.pdf‌Jung, C. G. (1957). The transcendent function.Montano, L. T. (2023). The Relationship of Perfectionism and Peace of Mind: The Mediating Role of Implicit Theories of Intelligence. Psychological Studies, 68(3), 447–462. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12646-023-00739-1‌Moser, J. S., Dougherty, A., Mattson, W. I., Katz, B., Moran, T. P., Guevarra, D. A., … Kross, E. (2017). Third-person self-talk facilitates emotion regulation without engaging...

Big News: Website Is Back! After crashing on NYE and being down 6 days, courtneylovegavin.com is up and running! If you've been trying to get in touch about Perfectionism Leveraged 1-1 coaching, now's your chance! Go to courtneylovegavin.com/contactIf you want to hear all about the hard-earned truths in resilience from this digital dumpster fire week and what REALLY happens when your life goes up in flames but you were supposed to be doing all these other things and you're a perfectionist and you throw yourself a pouty party, listen to episode 200 of Perfectionism Rewired. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Listen in for an eye-opening episode with strategies for perfectionist self-advocacy, navigating the lethal landmines of mental healthcare, partnering with the right perfectionist practitioner for you in the face of medical gaslighting and getting the care you deserve NOW that sees you as a WHOLE person, not a stereotype with symptoms to suppress.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesRich Resources Mentioned In This Episode:Complete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coachingDoctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescriptionNavigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181) Positive Perfectionist Practices To Deal With Medical Gaslighting:Stop Settling For Subpar Support: Raise your standards, refuse to accept quick diagnosis, be criminally curiousSeek Holistic Practitioners Who Understand The Depth of Perfectionism Look for a wellness framework foundation, who seek to understand you as a multifaceted individual, who partner with you instead of their own egoChallenge Assumptions: Be very DISCERNING about diagnoses without a CURRENT factual basis. Ask for evidence and don’t continue to stay with a therapist bc you’ve already spent so much time with themFind a Clinician Who Welcomes Candid Conversations:You want .facilitative, empowering, intersectional and a professional who nurtures a non-hierarchical, inclusive, safe and transparent environmentOwn Your Capability: Recognize that your inner experience is VALID and advocate for the support and care you deserve. Make proactive moves to be the CEO of YOU and partner with practitioners who align with your values. Highlights inside Episode 199 of Perfectionism Rewired:00:00-Feeling Dismissed? How To Spot Medical Gaslighting02:13-Dangers of Deferring to External Authority02:43-At Risk: People of Color, Women, Non-Binary + Trans03:41-What does gaslighting mean for perfectionists04:42- Obstacles of Symptom Suppression for High-Functioning Perfectionists06:08-Illness vs. Wellness Frameworks + Holistic Approach09:53-Health professionals pathologize, causing hypervigilance and reactivity.10:43-Limitations of Medication in Treating Perfectionism14:22-How to Respond To Gaslighting14:34-IRL Gaslighting Examples: Life Coach School, Lizard Brain,...

Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people. Find out if you’re making decisions aligned with your values or loss aversion, sunk cost definition for perfectionists, tricks sunk cost effect plays on you, why its challenging to see your own sunk costs, IRL sunk cost fallacy examples and how perfectionists can stop falling prey to sunk cost suck-i-ness forever.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesPositive Perfectionist Practices for Removing Sunk Cost Fallacy:Identify Sunk Cost Fallacy: Recognize where you're holding onto investments, relationships, or decisions you would not re-choose for yourself today BC you’ve “already spent so much time, energy, money or effort”If You Want Your Future, Forget Your Past: Stop living in the prison of your past choices and exit to the playground of possibility. Dropping the black and white thinking that persevering = productiveMake intentional decisions that empower you for the rest of your life: Check your choices with your values and pivot away from unfulfilling situations or relationships.Practice Makes Permanent: To progress 100x faster, make the journey funner and strengthen your interoceptive awareness consider working with a perfectionism coachHighlights inside Episode 198 of Perfectionism Rewired:00:00-Perfectionists + Sunk Costs01:51-What is sunk cost fallacy03:26-Shedding the Weight of Sunk Costs04:56-Being Resourceful instead of limiting your resources05:36-Sunk Cost Effect in Unfulfilling Careers + Unhappy Relationships07:12-Why FEELS Smart To Continue Pouring Money, time, effort when you've already sunk09:18-Putting yourself in the victim drama triangle11:10-Sunk Cost With Example Baby Gucci Loafers12:03-Quick Correct Choices with Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection13:32-when to persevere and when to pivot14:36-Prioritizing your values over sunk costs15:50-No longer a victim to chronic overachieving18:17-Proud of yourself regardless of how much you accomplishRich Resources Mentioned In This Sunk Cost Episode:How I Lost 50 pounds by Being The Worst (Leveraging Perfectionism video)Perfectionist's Guide to Uncovering Victim Mentality (Part 1)Mamba Mentality vs Victim Mentality (Part 2)Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181)Starter Perfectionism Rewiring 1-1 Coaching Pack (steal of a deal)HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON SUNK COST REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:...

Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people. Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services Highlights inside Episode 197 of Perfectionism Rewired:00:00-Self-Advocacy When Support Falls Short02:22-Feel like a weirdo when your internal experience is icky and you're still doing phenomenally on the outside 04:00-A Fvck Down vs A Fvck Up06:10-Going Where Your Perfectionism Growth Area IS07:22-Empowered Responsibilty + Perfectionist Self-Advocacy IRL07:40-Perfectionism Leveraged Client Feedback08:11-Being a perfectionist in public09:29-What really matters when support fails you10:35-Two Questions All Perfectionists Need After They Encounter A Mistake11:05- Why endure perfectionism when you can enjoy it instead?HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE: Farmer, J. R., Mackinnon, S. P., & Cowie, M. (2017). Perfectionism and Life Narratives: A Qualitative Study. SAGE Open, 7(3). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244017721733‌Johnson, K. M., Slavin, S., & Takahashi, T. A. (2023). Excellent vs Excessive: Helping Trainees Balance Performance and Perfectionism. Journal of Graduate Medical Education, 15(4), 424–427. https://doi.org/10.4300/jgme-d-23-00003.1‌Steinert, C., Heim, N., & Leichsenring, F. (2021). Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Other Work-Related Mental Problems: Prevalence, Types, Assessment, and Treatment—A Scoping Review. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.736776‌‌‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Imagine steering a tiny dinghy in stormy seas. That's control. Now, picture yourself commanding a majestic yacht, gliding effortlessly over the waves. That's power. That’s this episode. In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the results you actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life. Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) inside Perfectionism Optimized you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedIn This Episode You’ll Learn:Parenting Insights: Essential tips for perfectionist parents on presence and power dynamics with childrenRecognizing the REAL reasons underneath your need for control and getting to the root of feeling safeUnderstanding the distinction between living in the present moment and being fixated on being happy the futureE.P.I.C. Framework: Introducing the Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection framework for perfectionists ready to live a calm, empowered and deliciously rich life. Ep. 196 Timestamps01:52-Understanding the impact of controlling perfectionistic tendencies on daily life03:11-Felt Safety: Why your environment doesn't determine your safety and what does05:53-Hidden motivations secretly fueling perfectionism anxiety09:00-Mindfulness Strategies for ending Control Loops10:42-Distinction between needing and wanting to do something13:14-Perks of living in Present Time + enhancing perfectionist productivity15:04-Being responsive instead of reactive20:20-Your EPIC Framework: Practical tools for perfectionists to tune in + build permanent resilienceTruth + Accuracy in this Episode Provided By: Barrett, L. F., Mesquita, B., & Gendron, M. (2011). Context in Emotion Perception. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 20(5), 286–290. https://doi.org/10.1177/0963721411422522Frankl, V. E. (1992). *Man's search for meaning: An introduction to logotherapy* (4th ed.) (I. Lasch, Trans.). Beacon Press.‌Hinton, A., McReynolds, M. R., Martinez, D., Shuler, H., & Termini, C. M. (2020). The power of saying no. EMBO Reports, 21(7). https://doi.org/10.15252/embr.202050918Lisa Feldman Barrett, Mesquita, B., Ochsner, K. N., & Gross, J. J. (2007). The Experience of Emotion. Annual Review of Psychology, 58(1), 373–403. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.58.110405.085709Mahler, K., McLaughlin, E., & Anson, D. (2020). Interoception across varying degrees of mental wellness. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 74(4.1, Suppl.). https://doi.org/10.5014/ajot.2020.74S1-PO9513Mahler, K., (2019). The Interoception Curriculum, Kelly MahlerMary Durand Thomas, & Bigatti, S. M. (2020). Perfectionism, impostor phenomenon, and mental health in medicine: a literature review. International Journal of Medical Education, 11, 201–213. https://doi.org/10.5116/ijme.5f54.c8f8‌‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge...

When you stop trying to get people to like you or validate you (or listen to your podcast) this wild phenomenon occurs: You become popular! Plot twist that makes you pause as to why for sooooo long you tried soooo hard and cared soooo much about being well received it never happened. Happy surprises + insights inside. In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied Presence of rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Leveraged, the only neuroscience-backed 1-1 coaching that gives you the abilities to control YOUR emotions and feel as put together as your life looks. To see if Perfectionism Leveraged might be the answer you’ve been looking for, go to https://courtneylovegavin.comIn this episode of Perfectionism Rewired podcast you’ll discover:How CLG's tiny and mighty changes add up to big impacts for Perfectionism RewiredMost shared Perfectionism Rewired episode in 2023 on SpotifyCountries to find other perfectionistic people with exquisite taste like yourselfWhat's Inside This Episode:00:00-Love Language of Gift Giving02:28-Special Holiday Gift Announcement For Perfectionism Rewired community02:43-Perfectionism Is The New ADHD03:17-Global Reach: Top NEW Listener Countries04:37-Most Shared Episode on Spotify "Why Am I Self Sabotaging?"06:04-The Significance of 99 Spotify Fans07:09-CLG Punitive Perfectionism IRL08:11-Looking at your own data without the drama09:15-Perfectionism Impacts 92% of Global Population11:09-What Happens When You're Present Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138Spotify for Podcasters, Unwrapped Report 2023 for Perfectionism Rewired‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Can’t seem to calm down despite taking deep breaths, memorizing ALL the coping skills + “knowing” what to do? Forget about those dusty generic strategies. Discover the HIDDEN self-regulation skill that no one's told you about until now! Get the relief, control and answers you’ve been longing for with tailored, effective emotional resilience methods that work for YOU.You’ll learn to recognize those subtle, personal cues that tell you stress is creeping in so you can take control. And the coolest part? You’ll learn how to combat it on the spot – whether you’re dealing with an annoying colleague who’s blowing you up on Slack, a last minute snafu in your rigorously relaxed vacation itinerary, or even a cranky mother-in-law (we all have one, don’t we?). Join CLG in making emotional poise and resilience your new normal.PS. If you're like WTF is Interoception listen to Perfectionism Rewired podcast Ep. 193 to listen go to: https://bit.ly/interoception411🌟Got Presence? 🌟In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied Presence of rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies and whole self-regulation, inside Perfectionism Leveraged, the only neuroscience-backed 1-1 coaching that gives you the abilities to control YOUR emotions, not just situations and finally feel as put together as your life looks.You ready to quit fighting against yourself and start enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create.? To see if Perfectionism Leveraged might be the sustainable solution you’ve been searching for, go to https://courtneylovegavin.comIn this episode of Perfectionism Rewired podcast you’ll discover:Why in the heat of crucial moments your meticulously learned coping strategies vanish when you need them mostMAJOR CLUES most doctors, therapists and coaches miss that are stifling your emotional regulationBiggest misconceptions about perfectionist learning self regulationThe simple way to strengthen your emotional resilience as intuitive, empowering responses in the face of dumpster firesHere's A Glance At Episode 194:00:00-Introduction01:23-What is self regulation02:09-Coping Strategies for Perfectionists03:17-Building resilience in stressful situations04:48-Why Anxiety Coping Skills don’t help with intense emotions06:11-What doctors, therapists and clinicians miss that stunt your emotional intelligence07:29-The Root of Effective Self Regulation Skills08:48-Why traditional self regulation approaches fall short for perfectionists10:23-How to build emotional resilience12:31-More effective approach to emotional self regulation for perfectionistsHighly Credible Sources Referenced in Ep. 194 Include:Goerlich K. S. (2018). The Multifaceted Nature of Alexithymia - A Neuroscientific Perspective. Frontiers in psychology, 9, 1614. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01614Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3Martini, M., Marzola, E., Brustolin, A., & Abbate-Daga, G. (2021). Feeling imperfect and imperfectly feeling: A network analysis on perfectionism, interoceptive sensibility, and eating symptomatology in anorexia nervosa. European Eating Disorders Review, 29(6), 893–909. <a...

Your Perfectionism does NOT work the way you think it does. Your brain predicts *almost* everything you feel, think, do, and when it gets it wrong, it's called a prediction error. Get up to speed on prediction errors and how learning a new language – interoception – to effectively interpret and understand your own emotions, thoughts and physiological responses will save your sanity and might just change your life.9.5 out of 10 Perfectionists need control in order to feel calm. Are you one of them? Upgrade control for embodied presence and get fluent in the only language that makes you FEEL EVEN BETTER than your life looks inside Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching + in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism. Get our stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedHere’s Episode 194 At A Glance:00:00-Understanding perfectionism for less anxiety and controlling01:33-Clearing Up The Myths + Misinformation About Perfectionism03:06-IRL Perfectionist Client Testimonial: Kelly Perfectionist Parent 05:27-Perfectionist Feeling Embarrassed At Work06:18-Misunderstood Perfectionist Fears07:21-Examining Sensory Data's Influence on Perfectionism09:28-Trippy Example of Brain's Prediction In Action10:07-This Is Poison to your progress 11:53-Why Interoception Is Pivotal Perfectionists13:01-Perfectionist Difficulties in Implementing Interoceptive Skills13:55-Importance of Perfectionist Interoception14:27-Are you Interoceptive Illiterate?15:52-Where Do Brain Predictions Come From?16:27-Who Profits from you believing in flaws, empower change19:06-Living according to YOUR values, harmonizing career-family-youHighly Credible Sources Referenced in Ep. 193 Include:Alexandria Meyer, Karl Wissemann, Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, Volume 15, Issue 1, January 2020, Pages 87–95, https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018Attwell D, Laughlin SB. An Energy Budget for Signaling in the Grey Matter of the Brain. Journal of Cerebral Blood Flow & Metabolism doi:10.1097/00004647-200110000-00001Barrett, L., Simmons, W. Interoceptive Predictions in the Brain National Review Neurosciencehttps://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950Jutta Stahl, Manuela Acharki, Miriam Kresimon, Frederike Völler, Henning Gibbons, Perfect error processing: Perfectionism-related variations in action monitoring and error processing mechanisms, International Journal of Psychophysiology https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijpsycho.2015.06.002Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3Ventura-Bort C, Wendt J and Weymar M (2021) The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Front. Psychol. 12:712418. doi: <a...

If you've ever felt misunderstood or frustrated bc what you're trying (psychotherapy, meditation, pushing through etc.) isn't working as fast or as well as you thought it would, this episode will make it all make sense. PS- Don't take my word for it. Hear real-life stories from perfectionists who had just about given up before finding Perfectionist Solutions.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Optimized you get 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that save you from living anxiously all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized"Your inner experience is always correct and valid. It's crucial to find support that acknowledges and works with your unique inner world as a perfectionist."-CLG episode 192 Perfectionism RewiredIn This Episode You’ll Learn:EPSISODE 192 TIMESTAMPS:01:13-Struggling with perfectionism? It’s not You. It’s…02:18-Playing the wait and see strategy out until a crisis03:27-How the Perfectionist Playbooks come in clutch05:00-When You Have Nobody To Turn To or Who Understands06:15-Inner Experience of Being A Perfectionist07:30-How complying with the rules to earn the reward, screws over perfectionists08:16-When Talk Therapy Makes Perfectionism Worse (IRL client example)09:54-Why Compliance Driven Support DOES NOT work for perfectionists10:26-When Deep Breathing Just Isn’t Cutting It. This.is.WHY11:12-Dangers of hierarchical support like doctor + patient12:54-Confused bc taking deep breaths is supposed to be relaxing13:18-What lies beneath the surface of perfectionism is what’s controlling it13:30-Why it feels like you're playing a game of whack a mole14:00-How Perfectionistic Habits are like the Golden Gate Bridge15:02-Love Researching, learning or self-diagnose? LISTEN UP15:44-If deep breathing is not enough, what is?16:30-The one thing that makes changes easy to do17:21-Surprising changes for Carly + her young kids with Interoceptive Awareness18:14-Practical Interoception tools so you can stay regulated even during hectic days19:23-Why Interoception Works for Perfectionism20:00-Secret Way Human Bodies decide how anxious or calm to be21:05-Sneak Preview of next episodeHIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES CITED IN THIS EPISODE:Adrián Yoris, Esteves, S., Couto, B., Melloni, M., Kichic, R., Cetkovich, M., … Sedeño, L. (2015). The roles of interoceptive sensitivity and metacognitive interoception in panic. Behavioral and Brain Functions, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12993-015-0058-8Asena Boyadzhieva, & Ezgi Kayhan. (2021). Keeping the Breath in Mind: Respiration, Neural Oscillations, and the Free Energy Principle. Frontiers in Neuroscience, 15. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2021.647579‌Duquette, P., & Ainley, V. (2019). Working With the Predictable Life of Patients: The Importance of “Mentalizing Interoception” to Meaningful Change in Psychotherapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02173Price, C., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in...

If you're juggling deadlines, hectic schedules and family responsibilities and feel like you don't have any time for yourself right now, this episode will help you YOU actually enjoy your holidays (and life!). Whether it's standing up to your in-laws with newfound confidence, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family, When you know you’ve GOT this, holiday stress has no hold over you and your life goes from lackluster to joyful real fast. Want to stop waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? If you're DONE being burned out by NYE, you’ve GOT to take advantage of the holiday special I'm offering inside my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized where you’ll discover how to stop stressy anxiety from creeping into your body + hijacking your mind so you're calm, present and JoyFULL. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

If you find yourself dwelling on a *mistake* you made for weeks, months (years!) or can’t stop feeling embarrassed/disappointed in yourself for “messing up” THIS episode will help you move forward and playfully break free from your own 'mistake prisons' Take a rare real-time journey inside the mind of a perfectionist (CLG) who JUST made a very public (very careless) mistake and explore the intricacies of dealing with rejection sensitivity, taking decisive uncomfy action and what all-or-nothing thinking has to do with it. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Make your life YOURS and actually ENJOY it along the way inside Perfectionism Optimized where you'll get cutting-edge neuroscience tools to stop stress from pulling you out of the present moment and we'll retrain the way your brain responds to mistakes so they can no longer f#ck with your Joy. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedEPSISODE 191 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired01:49-When you make gorgeous plans, but you don't follow through on them03:03-Exploring Rejection Sensitivity in Perfectionists03:17-CLG's mistake very publicly on the podcast04:19-Inside the all or nothing thinking going on in CLG's head05:00-Understanding how to navigate the complexities of your perfectionism06:17-Have self-awareness around perfectionistic tendencies but stuck in indecision06:38-Paper thinking = flushing the toilet in your head07:15-You think there's this one right decision out there 07:49-Constructing alibis for your "failures" instead of moving through mistakes08:15-What Perfectionism Comes Down To09:15-When you're mortified you made such a careless mistake10:01-Only when you hear how you talk to yourself do you actually know where YOUR best decision is11:08-Making a mistake is an opportunity to throat punch yourself11:25-How building up your capacity to make mistakes is like running stairs12:43-I made mistakes and I had a lot of really crappy thoughts about myself 13:30-Mindlessly going from task to task instead of gaining the skills to make a mistake + level up14:33-You stop giving power to the past it loses its power over you and you become the one in charge15:12-Calmly and confidently making mistakes is a skill15:58-The fastest way to figure out what's really underneath your perfectionistic patterns Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Mistakes are the scabs perfectionists love to pick, even if they make us bleed + leave a heinous scar that only we can see. Find out the top 5 reasons perfectionists are conditioned to be like moths drawn to the flame of mistakes, why overthinking mistakes feels like an addiction to your brain, the RIGHT way to handle mistakes so you don't keep making the same ones on repeat, even if you're in a high-stakes career where precision is a MUST. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Make your life YOURS and actually ENJOY it along the way inside Perfectionism Optimized where you'll get cutting-edge neuroscience tools to stop stress from pulling you out of the present moment and we'll retrain the way your brain responds to mistakes so they can no longer f#ck with your Joy. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the full episode to hear:How Perfectionistic patterns skew your ability to accurately see your mistakesWhy your brain is OBSESSED with overthinking every small mistake (hint, it involves dopamine)Getting more upset over a random TikTok comment than celebrating your big wins begins to make sense"Dopamine is not the feel good neurotransmitter. It's the predictor hormone. What makes us feel good is the certainty it brings. Obsessing over your mistakes. You know how you're going to feel. Yes, you're going to feel crappy, but it's the crappy that you can count on." - CLG, On Why Perfectionists Continue To Obsess Over Their MistakesEPSISODE 190 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired01:43-Cringeworthy Moment When My Obsession Over Small Mistakes Injured My Career02:26-When You Get 100 Gold Stars But All You Can Think About Is the 1 Nastygram03:05-Top Five Reasons Perfectionists Are Conditioned To Handle Mistakes Wrong04:48-How Mistakes Are Like The Weather 05:50-Penalized For Mistakes As A Kid + Stuff Taken Away06:25-The Correct Way To Obsess Over Mistakes 07:00-WHY am I obsessed with this every small mistake? I should be happy07:12-You believe the mistakes mean something deeper about you07:57-Your Reticular Activating System Is Trained To Fetch All Your Mistakes08:13-How Neurosculpting Rewires Your Pattern + Gives You Better Sources of Dopamine08:35-Your Career Demands Precision + is High-Stakes09:11-How To Turn Those 'oops' Moments into Enjoyable A-HA Moments Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover the simple technique that rewires your brain, empowering you to take control of your anxiety, worry and catastrophizing. Stay focused on this for 21 days and reduce your stress by 50%. Start now for a calmer, more present you.On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence from being fully in charge of your life, through the proven, science-backed tools in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the full episode to hear:Two biggest mistakes Perfectionists make with stress managementHow to customize your own 'Worry Window'Techniques for perfectionist parents + improving mental wellness in childrenResources Mentioned:BOOK: Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers for a deeper understanding of stress and its effectsPerfectionist Power Matrix of Prisoners, Hostages, Puppets + Owners: https://pin.it/7pei4sOEPSISODE 189 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired01:25-Tool Helps Perfectionist Parents and Kids with Anxiety Relief02:03-CLG's Journey with Anxiety + Panic Attacks03:37-Two Biggest Stress Mistakes Perfectionists Make 04:02-The Science Behind Stress and Perfectionism06:03-Unveiling the Worry Window Technique07:33-Power of Choosing When You Worry09:36-Customizing How To Stop Worrying Technique12:18-Impact of Paper Thinking on Panic13:23-Potty Training Your Perfectionism + Stress14:33-How You Get Your Unconscious Playing on Your Team15:16-Will Worry Window make me worry more? 16:00-Why Logicalizing Doesn't Work with Perfectionism and Anxiety16:52-How To Cut Your Anxiety In Half in 21 Days Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Catastrophizing: when worst-case scenarios dominate your thoughts, leading you away from reality, fueling fear and anxiety. Find out why this common perfectionist habit is not protective but actually poisoning your potential and how to stop catastrophizing. If you're eager to ditch the horror movie playing in your head, value your time & want to empower yourself with clear, calm thinking, getting in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the full episode to hear:Why Worry Won't Protect You or Prepare YouWhat makes catastrophizing especially addictive for perfectionistsHow to stop worrying about the future +why you want to aspaEPSISODE 188 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired01:01-Replaying The Worst Case Scenario On Repeat01:38-Brining You To Reality + Out of Living In Fear02:26-Secondary Gains + Hidden Benefits of Catastrophizing03:08-Why Worrying Won't Protect You04:18-Perfectionism Optimized heart surgeon client on panic + career progress05:23-Choosing Trust Over Fear06:03-Expanding Your Options by Integrity Inquiry06:34-Beauty of Present Moment Awareness07:33-Confronting Incongruence in Catastrophic Thinking08:37-Owning Your Choice To Stop Worrying About The Future09:14-How Catastrophizing Impacts Perfectionists10:30-If All You Want For Christmas is Calm11:39-Breaking the Cycle of Catastrophizing Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover how this ONE shift opens up the floodgates of your self-confidence and stops you from being a prisoner of yesterday's choices. Hear how Perfectionism Optimized client Porsha was able to go from "I HATE this about myself" to "I feel calmer. I've stopped shouting at myself" using this one neuroscultping tool and dive into the top 3 things perfectionists get wrong about self-acceptance that stop you from flourishingIf you're not where you think you should be, value your time & want to save years of second-guessing yourself, getting in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the full episode to hear:How resisting what we don't like about ourselves makes us the architects of our own sufferingWhy acceptance doesn't equal approvalHow to stop being a prisoner of yesterday's choicesEPSISODE 187 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired01:53-How Meeting Yourself Where You Are Heats Up Growth02:56-Your Self Awareness Ceiling 03:32-Awareness of A Pattern without Acceptance04:23-Keeping ourselves in a prison of conflict + tension05:14-LIES Perfectionists Tell About Self-Acceptance07:03-Ostriching Yourself: No truth no change08:14-Easy-Bake-Oven Instead of Using Full Range08:52-How Skyrocket Your Self Confidence + Self Respect09:29-Lie Stops Perfectionists Thriving + Flourishing10:11-Being A Prisoner of Yesterday's Choices11:33-How To Face What You're Dreading Without Self Hatred 12:14-Popular Push-Backs To Meeting Yourself Where You're At12:56-Acceptance Doesn't Equal Approval 13:18-How Self Acceptance Accelerates Your Progress14:42-Porsha Accepting What She Hates About Herself (client case study)16:36-Porsha's Diamond In the Mud17:00-No Longer Being War With Who You Are17:40-Benefits of Meeting Yourself Where You're At18:44-Special Announcement: Perfectionism Optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you Using Perfectionism or Is it Using You? Uncover who's in charge with the simplicity and effectiveness Intention + Impact Method™. Explore the hidden triggers fueling your perfectionistic tendencies, understand the connection between your brain's alarm bell system stress + perfectionism and learn to decode your physical, emotional, behavioral and cognitive perfectionism cues.If you value your time & want to save years of second-guessing yourself, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track You’ll leave more efficient, optimized and prioritized. If you know perfectionism is holding you back. Getting in here is non-negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:How Intention + Impact Method™ Takes The Headache Out Of Being A Perfectionist Why Understanding your physical, behavioral, emotional + cognitive cues takes the mystery out of your perfectionistic patternsWhat to Watch Out For When You're Stressed and how accumulated stress can exacerbate perfectionistic tendencies, turning them into weapons instead of tools for your growth.EPSISODE 186 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired01:30-The Intention and Impact Method02:15-Understanding the Role of Stress and Your Amygdala03:01-How Perfectionism Becomes a Weapon Defensive Mechanism04:02-Identifying Your Unique Perfectionistic Tendencies05:02-The Four Types of Perfectionism Cues06:00-Why You Never Want To Label Perfectionistic Behaviors07:11-Moving Beyond Autopilot Perfectionism08:10-Recognizing and Shifting Unwanted Perfectionistic Intentions09:11-Evaluating the Impact of Your Perfectionism10:16-Techniques for Staying Present and Avoiding Burnout11:06-How To Stop Being A Perfectionist At Work11:51-Neuroscience Behind the Intention and Impact Method Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Every single episode of Perfectionism Rewired is now digitally remastered and container store organized (complete with tags + categories) for your listening pleasure. Go beyond your podcast player's limited search and find the exact episode you're looking for at perfectionismrewired.com Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feel like you're always a thousand steps behind where you “should” have been? Procrastination for perfectionists is this invisible thing that no one sees or understands - and the longer it goes on, the anxiety moves in and then you’ve got multiple forces sucking the life out of you. Discover how to mute the constant noise in your head and melt away the pressure of avoidance.Want to stop procrastinating permanently forever using proven, science-backed tools that actually work? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:Two unique tools for immediate and long-term overcoming procrastinationWhy working through the struggle of procrastinating produces 6x faster resultsHow to deal with procrastination using your brain's neurotransmittersEPSISODE 185 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:41-Perfectionism procrastination03:21-The No. 1 Habit to Deal with Procrastination 04:53-Building Your Internal Commitment 06:25-Overcoming Procrastination with Unconventionally Awesome Methods 08:00-Overcome Procrastinating from the Inside Out 09:05-Practical Techniques to Take Immediate Action 10:19-Neuroscience Insights for 6x Faster Learning 12:25-How To Stop Procrastinating forever14:59-Cut Out The Suckage of Stop Procrastinating Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you overworking but feel like you're underperforming? Discover the remarkable story of Jordan, high-achieving lawyer who believed time efficiency was the problem, working tirelessly yet still falling behind. With his demanding career on the line, hear how altering perfectionistic perceptions and embracing playful experimenting strengthens your full stature of dignity as a fulfilled perfectionist. Want to go from Overworked to Optimized using proven, science-backed tools then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes careerHow experimenting leads to breakthroughs in perception and efficiencyWhy perfectionists overwork yet oblivious to their own underperforming"I don't have a time management problem. I had a perception problem." - Jordan, Attorney + Perfectionism Optimized clientEPSISODE 184 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:45-Jordan's struggle with a dynamic family and a demanding career02:48-Inefficiency Despite Working Long Hours03:15-Uncovering the root cause of Jordan's time challenges04:26-Experiments to loosen Rigid Perfectionistic Patterns06:15-Realigning Focus and rediscovering joy07:29-Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes career08:33-Addressing the Core of overcoming perfectionism10:07-Go from overworked to optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are You confusing self criticism with self improvement? Don't get it twisted, learn why self loathing's misunderstood nature of perfectionism and how to stop falling into the hidden traps it sets. CLG shares invaluable insights for Type-A overachievers who are tired of wasting time with ineffective conventional approaches that leave you stagnating + struggling with the same perfectionistic pitfalls. Listen for a IRL techniques *that actually work* in dissolving the I Hate Myself meltdowns. Ready to show up more powerfully for your family and want proven, science-backed tools you can use for generations to come? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:How your brain and nervous system can be rewired to change your self-perception on commandPlayful Strategies to break self-critical cycles and ease into a more nourishing sustainable approach to self-improvementWhy Psycho-Cybernetics Helps Perfectionists Create A New Self-ImageEPSISODE 183 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:30-The often-misunderstood Nature of Perfectionism 02:29-Dopamine's Role in Self Criticize Cycle03:44-How Self Criticism Perpetuates Your Worst Patterns04:17-When What Used To Work Stops Working For Ya05:20-Perfectionist Parents + Legacy of Self Loathing05:52-Techniques to Shatter the I Hate Myself Meltdowns06:17-Why Traditional Approaches Don't Work for Perfectionists08:24-Mistaking Criticizing for Deeply Caring09:00-When Being Kind To Yourself Feels Wrong (and that's okay!)10:06-Acceptance Does NOT Equal Apathy10:26-Visualization of Life Without Being Self-Critical11:34-Fastest Way to Figure Out What's Causing Your Perfectionistic Habits Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover how to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain inside the Drama Triangle to creator, coach and challenger inside the Winner's Triangle. Plus how to upgrade to the Empowerment Mindset where you shift focus from scarcity to possibilities, reactive to proactive, ensuring every decision aligns with your goals and visions.Ready to turn your perfectionism from a crippling force into powerful asset with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:How to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain to creator, coach and challengerHard work, guess work and framework approaches to empowermentSecret to redefining how you perceive and use your perfectionist traitsStep-by-Step Evolving Drama Triangle ProcessIdentify Your Triangle Role: Recognize when you're in the victim, rescuer or persecutor role within the Drama Triangle.Embrace the Winner's Triangle: Actively move towards becoming a creator, coach or challenger.Develop Self-Sovereignty: Start making choices that reflect your true self and living from an inside out approach.Implement Active Learning: Stop accumulating and start implementing.Focus on What You Want: Concentrate on your desires instead of fears or limitations.Open Up to Possibilities: Embrace uncertainty and see it as a playground of opportunities.EPSISODE 182 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:53-Drama Triangle Explained02:07-One Small Action You Can Take Right Now02:31-The Winner's Triangle: A New Perspective03:35-Visualizing the Winner's Triangle: Become a Creator04:05-Embracing Self Sovereignty and Overcoming Inadequacy04:59-Questions to Embody the Creator Role in the Empowerment Triangle06:23-Shifting Focus from Scarcity to Possibilities07:07-Rescue Ranger to Caring Coach08:08-Empowering Everyone through the Coach Approach09:30-Example of Hero turning into a Coach10:00-Evolving From Villain to Challenger11:59-What All Winner's Triangles Have In Common12:39-Agreements vs Expectations13:13-Perfectionism Rewiring Made Easy 14:21-Upcoming Episode Teaser: Overcoming Over-Giving in Perfectionists Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you choosing protection over connection? Gain insight into how perfectionistic traits affect relationships by understanding the Drama Triangle. Learn practical tools to shift from a fear-based mindset to mamba mentality as we break down the roles of Victim, Rescue Ranger (Hero), and Villain and how perfectionists play all 3 roles with ourselves!Ready to trade toxic stress for joyful success with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 181 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction 01:26-Choosing Connection Over Protection in Relationships 01:50-Two Powerful Tools for Empowerment 02:08-Understanding Power Dynamics in Perfectionism 02:33-The Drama Triangle for Perfectionists 03:36-Exploring Victim Mentality 04:25-Identifying Victim Signs in Perfectionists 07:15-The Role of the Rescue Ranger (Karpman Drama Triangle)09:33-Overcoming Hero Syndrome 11:05-Understanding the Villain Role 13:29-Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle into the Winner's Triangle16:17-Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle 19:08-Leveraging the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do you thrive under pressure? Find it hard to chill even while on vacation? Chronic stress is a silent affliction many perfectionists experience daily without realizing it. Discover sneaky symptoms of burnout, the subtle yet profound ways chronic stress manifests and how to recognize it in your daily life. Understand the science on why stress addiction = same impact on your neurobiology as drug addition and how to de-stress as a perfectionist. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewireListen to the Full Episode To Hear:How to identify the chronic stress in your lifeSneaky symptoms of burnout for perfectionistsThe impact of stress addiction on your mind, body and performancePractical strategies to build resilience and de-stress effectivelyEPSISODE 180 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-I'm So Stressed Out01:51-Take The Chronic Stress Quiz03:31-What Cocaine + Stress Have in Common04:50-Why Your Stress Isn't Relieved Yet06:06-Stress Cocktail + Why Perfectionists Are addicted to stress08:05-How Your Stress Tolerance Puts Your Health At Risk09:12-The Missing Ingredient in Your Stress Management 10:34-Impact of Burnout for perfectionists11:15-The Perfect Strategy For Staying Stressed Out13:20-Training Yourself for Patterns of Joy + Success Sources + CitationsBurton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Discover how he moved beyond band-aid solutions for being burnt out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person.If you want to make sure Burn Out NEVER HAPPENS TO YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewireListen to the Full Episode To Learn:Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your signs of burnoutHow adverse childhood experiences contribute to.over functioningWhat Kevin did step-by-step to go from from over-functioning stress addiction to rewire and redefine success on his own terms Resources Mentioned:Perfectionism Optimized: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body.EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%13:42-Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example? Sources + Citations:Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). <a...

From Rigidity to Flexibility: hear CLG’s personal journey of how she went from judging the crap out of herself at age 5 with raging rigid self-criticism to a flexible, curious, elevated perspective. And how she put into a process to make you turn decades into days. Take the hard work and guess work out of battling perfectionism by rewiring your autopilot responses through neurosculpting. This simple scientific method changes your neural pathways to permanently transform your most annoying perfectionistic habits from a weakness to a strength. If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the Full Episode To Hear:How neurosculpting is unrivaled compared to traditional methods in helping rewire perfectionistic habitsWhy harsh self-criticism is solved permanently through neuroplasticityHow to tell if your curiosity muscle is under-developedWhat works best for rapid change small changes daily over time vs sweeping changes at a Tony Robbins eventEPSISODE 178 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:24-Where Perfectionism Recovery Will Take You (spoiler alert it SUCKS, not worth it)02:01-CLG's Turning Point with Perfectionism03:14-The Ineffectiveness of Conventional "Solutions" for Perfectionists04:56-Going from Helpless Victim of Perfectionism to Victorious Perfectionist06:28-Introduction to Neurosculpting: The Revolutionary Approach for Perfectionists07:42-Perks of Neurosculpting + Incrementalism09:05-Fast Track Your Change Inside The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do your mistakes make you cringe? Say goodbye to the burnout of excellence and learn how to rewire your perfectionism for success without the stress. Discover the four transformative phases of permanent change, the role of your reticular activating system in changing perfectionistic habits, importance of novelty and playfulness in rewiring the brain and action steps to start correcting your perfectionist tendencies today!If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits so you can be joyfully ambitious, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why novelty is your ally and how to create it on commandThe Four Phases of Rewiring Perfectionism SimplifiedHow neuroplasticity is essential for rewiring perfectionist habitsActivate your brain's Reticular Activating System (RAS) to notice change and accelerate your progressStep-by-step to Sustainable Permanent Change1 Waking Up Phase: Recognize new insights and apply them, accepting it's a gradual process.2 Momentum Phase: Build intentionality and observe the impact of your actions.3 Make or Break Phase: Experiment, analyze + learn from experiences to solve and evolve.4 Habit Phase: Solidify new behaviors, knowing some old habits may persist but won't dominate or be your default5 Seek Guidance: Consider expert coaching like Perfectionism Optimized to gain solidified atomic habits"You're not just reprogramming a habit, you're reprogramming your response to life." - Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired Episode 177EPSISODE 177 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:23-The Perfectionism Dilemma for High Achievers02:41-Misconceptions around permanent change and mistakes03:18-Role of science in developing solid self-compassion04:19-Four phases of permanent change06:39-Going from feeling victimized by mistakes to seeing them as learning opportunities07:26-Your Reticular Activating System's role in manhandling mistakes08:22-Why Sustainable change is a process, not a one-time event.09:58-Creating Novelty So You're Brain Doesn't Get Bored11:06-How to Analyze Your Mistakes without Judgment11:59-Actionable steps to start understanding your own perfectionistic tendencies Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Think perfectionism is a dream killer? Discover the underlying reasons why we allow perfectionism to control our lives and how perfectionism can be both a shield and a sword. Commitment versus compliance and practical step to use your perfectionism as an asset. If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the Full Episode To Hear:Difference between being committed and being compliant.Unconscious Payoffs we get by being held hostage by our perfectionismHow to figure out what's actually holding you back and use your perfectionistic habits to acceleratePractical steps to use perfectionism as an asset.Step-by-step to Overcoming Perfectionism:Acknowledge the Choice: Recognize that being held back by perfectionism is a choice.Identify the Payoff: Understand the benefits you derive from your perfectionistic habits.Commitment Over Compliance: Commit to small, achievable daily goals and track your progress.Challenge Your Excuses: Recognize and challenge the changing excuses your brain offers.Seek Guidance: Consider joining programs like Perfectionism Optimized to gain structured support.EPSISODE 176 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:32-The Paradox of Choice of Perfectionism02:19-Reasons vs. Results: Psychological Gains of Blaming03:18-Understanding Why We ALLOW Perfectionism to Control Our Lives03:52-Payoff of Perfectionistic Habits04:37-Writers Block and Crippling Perfectionism05:00-Breaking Free from External Control 06:24-How Your Brain Distracts From Your True Goals08:22-Taking Charge, Staying Committed + Not Letting Excuses Drive Your Actions08:56-Building Commitment Incrementally with Perfectionism Playbook09:37-Actionable Steps for Aspiring Writers Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Find out exactly how you can use your Health Insurance, HSA and/or FSA to pay for coaching and how having ADHD, depression, anxiety etc can actually help you, with this step-by-step guide, Including a fill-in-the-blank packet you can take to your provider to get a prescription and letter of medical necessity for perfectionism coaching. My clients have used this packet and it's been approved 100% of the time. If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorResources Inside This Episode:Introductory Coaching Session (cost can be applied to all future coaching) here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/perfectionism-coaching-perfect-startComplete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance + HSA for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coachingDoctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescriptionStep-by-Step Process to Utilize Health Benefits for Coaching:Understanding Medical Coverage: If you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA), Health Savings Account (HSA), or Health Reimbursement Account (HRA), you might be eligible to use these funds for qualified medical expenses.Eligibility Check: All services by Perfectionist Solutions including health and wellness coaching and assessments, fall under the category of "qualified medical expenses."Seeking Reimbursement: Health insurance often operates with CPT codes, approved by the American Medical Association (AMA). Check if your health insurance provides reimbursement.Leverage Resources: Utilize the resources here to navigate the medical jargon and get the required approvals.EPSISODE 175 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction00:58-Health Insurance & Perfectionism Coaching 02:44-Traditional vs. Rooted Approaches to Perfectionism 03:16-FSA, HSA & HRA for Perfectionism Coaching 03:49-Health & Wellness Coaching: A Qualified Medical Expense 04:13-Reimbursement through Health Insurance 05:03-Navigating Health Insurance for Wellness Coaching 05:28-CLG's Mission: Helping Every Perfectionist 06:15-Medical Conditions & Perfectionism Coaching Benefits 06:55-Overlooked Medical Diagnoses & Their Impact08:19-Speaking the 'Medical Language' for Approvals 09:25-How To Feel Way Better Before Christmas Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Why do you want to take control of your perfectionism? The key is identifying your most important reasons. Then you can use them as your secret weapon to become failproof. How? With this simple tool. Master this tool and overcoming perfectionism becomes a no-brainer.If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:Why "Whys" are pivotal in rewiring your perfectionist tendenciesReasons why we as perfectionists often get stuck, avoid or quit when things get hardHow to start fail-proofing your perfectionism today!"When you make Perfectionism a villain, you put yourself in victim mentality. Perfectionism is not a villain. People only make it a villain when they are unable to educate you on how to own your perfectionism." - CLG, Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 174EPSISODE 174 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction + Recovering Perfectionist Battle Cry01:18-The Misunderstanding of Perfectionism02:22-Why Being A Recovering Perfectionist is a LIE03:09-The Mental Traps of Perfectionism04:15-The Pitfalls of Old Outdated Overcome Perfectionism Methods05:24-The Brain Behind Perfectionism06:55-The Power of 'Why' in Rewiring09:22-Practical Steps: Keeping Your 'Why' Front and Center10:59-Moments of Impact: Making Conscious Choices12:50-Real-life 'Whys' from Perfectionists Who've Taken Control14:04-How You Can Fail-Proof Your Perfectionism Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever wish you could just turn your feelings off? For years I wanted to be a robot bc I sucked at expressing emotions. Now I know what to do with feelings and can easily make space for emotions without drowning in them. Emotions can either propel or paralyze you, here's how to understand and navigate them as a perfectionist.Listen to the full episode to hear:Discover the two main ways society has miseducated us about expressing emotions and the pivotal techniques to unlearn them.Two essential questions to ask to get out of the emotional swap + get clearThe difference between self-compassion, emotional petting, reflection, rumination and more.Perfectionist tendencies and how they become unhealthy coping mechanismsHow Jamal + Veronica took control of their emotions and perfectionism so they co-exist in harmonyIf you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesEPSISODE 173 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction + Sneak Peak of Topic01:43-Two Major Misconceptions About Expressing Emotions 02:22-Dismissing Emotions vs Taking Charge of Your Emotions 03:28-Dangers of Black and White Thinking About Emotions 03:42-The Role of Capitalism in Controlling of Emotions04:06-Differentiating Self Compassion, Reflection, Discipline and Expressing Feelings 04:58-When Perfectionism Becomes An Unhealthy Coping Mechanism 07:04-Why Focusing On Present Rather Than Past Is Where You Find Answers 07:37-Differentiating Between Expressing and Explaining Feelings 08:06-The Pitfalls of Overexpressing and Underexplaining Feelings09:57-How Providing Context for Emotional Experiences is Key10:47-The Challenge of Underexpressing and Overexplaining Emotions12:45-How A Healthy Perfectionist Handles Emotions in a Better Way 13:30-Two Key Questions to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence + Feel Better Faster Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

The new science of perfectionism: revealed. Discover the profound impact of neuroplasticity on reshaping perfectionist tendencies, neuroplasticity defined (so simply a 5 year old gets it), what this looks like IRL and how your age influences your brain's ability to change + adapt. Listen to the full episode to hear:How your age influences your brain's ability to change and adaptWhy this works freaky fast to shift rigid perfectionist mindsetsImportance of curiosity + dangers of letting your inner critic continue to rampageIf you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesEPSISODE 172 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To Episode 17201:17-The Speed of Overcoming Perfectionism02:36-Visualization of Your Brain & Nervous Systems as a Power Grid04:15-Impact of Rigid Neural Pathways & Your Inner Critic05:47-Gaining Flexibility in Your Own Perceptions06:39-Creating Safe Environments for Brain Plasticity07:34-Increasing Your Brain Span, Preventing Dementia and Alzheimer's 08:55-Real-life Example of Client's Experience with Neuroplastic Change10:06-Neuro-Sculpting & its Benefits11:19-Bridge Between Neuroplasticity & Perfectionism13:03-Neuroplasticity: Age, Leverage & Your Tipping Point Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever felt you've achieved so much but still aren't satisfied? Too many driven perfectionists are never feeling good enough and struggling to maintain high-achievements without burning out. That stops now. Discover their root causes and the surprising reason why over-achieving lowers satisfaction levels for perfectionistic . Plus the only two questions you need to ask to determine if your striving is healthy or unhealthy.Listen to the ull episode to Learn:The most overlooked stage of change and growth (that even top performers miss!)Inefficiency of constantly overcoming perfectionist thoughts + what to do insteadWhen IS enough enough (how to tell)EPSISODE 171 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Unhealthy vs Healthy Striving01:39-Two Fatal Flaws of Perfectionism02:15-The Deception of Achievement02:55-Surprising Research Findings on Perfectionists' Satisfaction03:27-First Fatal Flaw of Achievement 04:02-Why Emotional Agility & Self-Esteem Are Required04:50-Power of Rewiring Your Perfectionist Mindset 07:06-Moving the goalposts 08:03-Energy Management in Perfectionism09:27-Two Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask 10:58-Unhealthy patterns perfectionists often fall into + how to break free13:11-Honoring Your Intentions vs. Achieving Goals Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

You might be a perfectionist if....Discover the hidden signs of perfectionism and how it's affecting your daily life.Listen to the full episode to hear:16 undetected signs of perfectionism decodedRecognizing the signs of perfectionism in your own behavior.How to leverage your perfectionism to get want you want (I lost 50lbs + have kept it off for 7 years)"I started to figure out THIS is actually perfectionism. Even though I never thought that I was perfect enough to be a perfectionist." - CLG-If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program The Accelerator ! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesEPSISODE 170 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction & The Invisible Language of Perfectionism 01:39-Personal Struggles with Perfectionism02:03-High Performance vs Perfectionism 02:24-Discovering the True Nature of Perfectionism 03:11-The Need for Practical Insights 04:03-Challenging Perfectionism Myths 05:35-Leveraging Perfectionism in Fitness 06:14-Brene Brown on Perfectionism (sidelines vs arena) 06:40-Surprising Signs of Perfectionism 08:30-Misconceptions and Blind Spots 09:17-Procrastination, Burnouts, and All-or-Nothing Mindset 11:05-Fear of Judgement & Holding Back 13:55-The Cost of Not Leveraging Perfectionism 15:20-Reputation, Approval, and Time Management 16:05-Envisioning a Life Leveraging Perfectionism 17:22-Invitation to the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you constantly battling perfectionist tendencies? Here's your chance to taste the deliciousness of perfectionism coaching, The Perfect Start Introductory Session. Whether you're confronting recurring patterns, want a 60 day plan to relieve holiday stresses or are super curious, The Perfect Start Introductory Session is for you. BEST PART: The entire cost of The Perfect Start Introductory Session can be applied to future coaching with CLG. Swoop to secure yours now at CourtneyLoveGavin.com/services TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction to October (CLG's favorite month)00:14-Announcing Single Sessions00:30-The Perfect Start Session Details00:45-Investment & Future Coaching Benefits01:06-Low Risk, High Value Offer01:37-Session Logistics & Pre-Call Questionnaire02:06-The Importance of Clear Intent02:46-Examples How Perfectionism Coaching Can Help You03:12-Overview of Available 1-1 Perfectionism Coaching Services03:29-Perfectionism Optimized Revamped Programs03:51-In-depth FAQs on the Website04:06-October's Unique Opportunity: Neuroplasticity Over Eyelash Extensions Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever catch yourself saying "just one more minute" ? Or struggling to shut down at the end of a workday when you haven't finished everything on your list? Me too. Listen as I walk you through a recent experience of rewiring my own perfectionist habits, the anxiety that came up, the tools I used and why taking control of your time as a perfectionist matters in the big picture. Listen to the full episode to hear:Simple 4-step process to stop perfectionist habits dead in their tracksHow to be more understanding when old crappy patterns pop-upPerfectionism Tax: What you're paying _ how to stop paying itThe one question that makes it clear what your best decision is when you feel torn"There's always going to be one more thing to do. We don't have a guaranteed one more minute in our life." - CLGIf you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 169 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To Perfectionism Rewired00:21-The Perfectionist's Dilemma 01:12-The "Just One More Minute" Syndrome01:49-CLG's Personal Journey with Hard Conversations02:13-Overcoming the Perfectionist Narrative + Process Perfectionism03:12-The Core Four Pillars: Person, Peace, Prosperity, Presence 04:47-Four N's: Notice, Normalize, Neutralize, Next Action 05:25-Reframing Your Perspective on Difficult06:03-Why You Must Have A Strong Foundation + Malibu Analogy07:25-Debunking Perfectionism Myths: CLG's Personal Experience08:07-What Perfectionism is Costing You Right Now09:05-Breaking the Cycle: How To Say No to "One More Minute" Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

We've all been there—facing a discussion we dread, a pit in our stomach, wishing someone else could do it for us. But what if difficult conversations could strengthen your relationships instead of being awkward? Discover how in this episode and empower yourself to handle any conversation, no matter how challenging. Learn strategies that work with your perfectionism to navigate tough talks without blame, frustration, being defensive or justifying.If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 168 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction & The Perfectionist's Guide00:50-Essence of Difficult Conversations 01:24-The Skill of Navigating Tough Talks 01:49-CLG's Personal Journey with Hard Conversations03:07-Evolving Your Communication Skillset 03:54-Why are Difficult Conversations Tricky? 04:15-Emotional Perfectionism & Its Role 05:25-Reframing Your Perspective on Difficult06:15-How To Discuss What Matters Most07:18-Importance of Visualization for Perfectionists08:07-Preparing for the Convo: Tips & Tricks 09:05-The Power of Not Over-Explaining 10:03-Making Difficult Conversations Second Nature 10:48-During the Conversation: Key Points to Remember 11:42-Conclusion & Invite to the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever wondered if you're being demanding or just making requests? Listen in to discover the secret to navigating relationships without the emotional toll and the key distinctions between demands + requests.If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 167 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To Demands vs Requests01:29-Impact of Demands in Personal Relationships02:55-Emotional Tax of Making Demands04:15-Perks of Making Requests05:10-Real Life Examples + How To Tell Recognizing Emotional Responses06:26-Boundaries & Handling Difficult Conversations07:25-Handling Demands from People You Love08:01-If You Crumble When Demands Are Put On You...08:26-Inner Confidence + Rising When Demands Are Put On You09:18-Building a Strong Foundation & Resilience Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Revealing THE silent source of your disappointments, stress + conflicts and how to stop this inner peace parasite in its tracks. Whether you're dealing with in-laws, work drama or disappointment with yourself this episode is a masterclass in dissolving disappointments + gives you actionable solutions to use for life along with holiday stress. Plus what Byron Katie told me about sadness that forever changed how I deal with disappointment. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 165 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To #1 Mind Parasite01:27-Powerful Tool Melts Holiday Frustrations02:20-Expectations = Disappointment03:09-Popular Toxic Beliefs of Perfectionistic Subconscious Minds04:03-How To Harmonize In-Laws During The Holidays07:12-Never Have A Difficult Conversation Again09:09-You Must Let Go Of THIS for Inner Peace10:13-Impact of Expectations on Perfectionists12:00-Beauty of Starting From Neutral14:04-Key To Productive Conversations Is Leading With This15:01-Three Areas To Look For Your Hidden Expectations 16:13-Composting Disappointments into Proud Momentum Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do you go above + beyond decorating and cooking during Thanksgiving all to make your loved ones happy? But end up feeling unappreciated and resentful? It's time to understand why. In this eye-opening episode, you'll find out how emotional outsourcing affects us as perfectionists, ways to break free from this pattern and how making daily deposits into your Core Four Pillars makes sure your holiday happiness never gets hijacked.If you want to say goodbye to holiday stress and in-depth personalized support for your own perfectionism, The Accelerator is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 165 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction Perfectionism Rewired and Understanding Holiday Stress01:42-Exploring Emotional Outsourcing02:36-Identifying the Signs of Holiday Happiness Hijackers04:23-Your Core Four Pillars for Optimized Well-Being05:46-Real-Life Healthy Thanksgiving Success of Accelerator client06:35-The Slot Machine Analogy08:36-Your No. 1 Stress-Busting Tool10:21-Science of Self-Care During the Holidays11:45-Solutions to Embrace Holiday Joy Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

The holiday season is the superbowl of stress, creating oodles of pressure and for perfectionists we can go into overdrive, causing burn out, extreme people-pleasing and going at such a warp speed we miss the moments that matter most. This is why NOW is YOUR prime time to get support so you're perfectionism is working for you and you can make this Christmas season the best one yet!If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win. Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 164 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction + Recap Holiday Perfectionism01:24-Striking and sharpening when the iron is cold02:37-How to stop holiday overwhelm before it starts 04:06-Preparing for Christmas Perfection is like training as an athlete 05:05-Challenges faced by people pleasers during the holidays 05:53-How To Make Perfectionism Work For You 07:16-Questions for You to Make this Christmas season the best one yet 07:50-Neurogenesis + why core four pillars work for perfectionists Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Holidays are when lots of perfectionists go straight into overwhelm....and you don’t need to be one of 'em! Today I'm getting you ready for the holidays so you can feel way better than anxious or obligated this season.NOW is when you want to make moves and create routines that restore your energy—get perfectionism coaching, nurture healthy habits that enhance and expand your life.When you’re already stressed in a holiday perfectionism sh!t show, anything you do will be significantly less impactful bc your stress response is activated, making your brain interpret information in warped way than it would if you were calm and centered.Beat stress at the holidays with this simple step-by-step I'm walking you through on the podcast and how to navigate difficult conversations with family members re: boundaries. Instead of being a helpless victim to the holidays, DECIDE now to make your holiday perfectionism magical and press play to listen to episode 163!If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win. Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 163 TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00-Introduction to Holiday Perfectionism01:25-Defining YOUR Priorities for the Holidays 02:50-Taking Control: Holiday Perfectionism 04:15-Identifying Your Resources for a Magical Stress-Free Season 05:29-Difficult Conversations + Boundary Setting06:00-Striking While The Iron is Cold: Resourcing Yourself Now07:24-How To Nix Stress at the Holidays Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Curious what exactly a perfectionism coach does and why you might want one?Why would you choose one over a general life coach, therapist, counselor, group coaching program, book, or course to address their perfectionism? In a world filled with perfectionism books, therapists, life coaches and group programs galore, you’ll uncover why a perfectionism coach could be your secret weapon and the 3 key benefits you only get with a perfectionism coach. Find out what they don’t want you to know about group coaching programs…like that unless you pay a premium, you’ll have wait for your turn to receive coaching and be influenced by others' problems.Get smart about spotting the pre-programmed scripts and limitations of general life coaches, therapists and counselors, and how to tell if they lack the first-hand experience and depth required to address the intricacies of perfectionism. Today's podcast episode helps you avoid perfectionism coach imposters. I'll show you all the ways having a real perfectionism coach will help you (and how the imposters keep you stuck in hopeless perfectionism tactics and programs).No more cookie cutter coaching or group coaching program cattle calls. You deserve better. And you deserve to quit wasting your money and time. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win. Let's get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 162 TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00-Introduction00:01:24-Why You'd Want A Perfectionism Coach 00:02:13-Limitations of General Life Coaches, Therapists and Counselors00:03:30-Group Coaching Programs and Their Drawbacks00:05:25-The Depth of Perfectionistic Traits 00:7:27-Advantages of a Perfectionism Coach00:08:27-Why Perfectionists Need X-ray Vision00:10:01 Leveraging Perfectionism00:13:10-Highlighting Possibilities Instead of Problems Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

“I just need to get through this quarter, THEN I'll....”“Explaining it takes too long + I really don’t have the time”“They rarely do it right anyways…”^^^ these are SUPER common things I hear from high-achieving perfectionists who are used to doing it themselves and figuring it out alone. This works… until it doesn’t. Until you burnout, are pulling insane hours or get passed over for a promotion.It doesn’t have to be this way. Delegating and resourcing yourself are skills that are REALLY different than the incredible skills of “figuring it out and flying solo”.Go from resentful to resourceful knowing the No. 1 misconception perfectionist's believe about resourcing yourself and how to dissolve this back asswards thinking. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win. Let's get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00-Introduction00:01:41-The Covert Nature of Perfectionism 00:01:59-Uncovering Your Back-Asswards Thinking 00:02:09-Solving the Wrong Problem 00:02:45-Shifting Perspectives 00:03:50-Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking 00:05:16-The Journey from Interested to Committed 00:06:47-Invitation for Perfectionists committed to excellence Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.