momplex with Scottie Durrett

This episode is inspired by a story that really demonstrates a very common behaviour pattern amongst parents. This isn't about shaming parents at all, but I think it’s great to shed light on this behavior and really be honest and ask ourselves how does this actually benefit our kids? In today’s episode, I am talking about how we handle accusations that our children are involved in bullying. I get it, no parent wants to hear that their kid messed up. No parent wants to hear that their kid has behaved badly or gotten in trouble, but it's likely going to happen at some point, and when it does, how do you want to handle it? I explain the power of denial that often comes up in parenting, how honesty with yourself helps you face your own child’s poor choices and In this episode, we cover: Denying our child’s bullying actions [2:17] The power of denial [6:14] Denial impacts your kids more than you think [11:15] Getting comfortable with your own truths helps you face your children’s truths even better [16:49] Perfection is an illusion so don’t aim for it [20:58] Kids know they should face the consequences of their actions so teach them accordingly [25:59] Join Stressed to Success: https://scottie-durrett.mykajabi.com/stressed-to-success Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/durrett-scottie/45min Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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One day, if you put in the work, and you actually prioritize your well-being your life will change. You will wake up one day and all of a sudden you're in this place where you don't feel the need to reach out for external validation anymore. Why? Because you have peace and trust within yourself because you choose to put yourself first. But how is this possible? In today’s episode, I am talking about how the actions you take this minute will change the rest of your life. I talk about why you need to start making changes even if it feels scary, how your greatest obstacle is the story you tell yourself and why you have options and choices at the end of the day. In this episode, we cover: This is the start of the rest of your life [1:17] It’s time to change the habits that don’t serve you [7:45] Your greatest obstacle is the story that goes on in your head [14:43] What is holding you back and why? [25:14] Spread your badass energy and show up as the person you want to be [33:40] You have options and choices. Stop blaming and start learning [43:09] Face the truth behind why you don’t want to make the changes [48:14] Join Stressed to Success: https://scottie-durrett.mykajabi.com/stressed-to-success Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/durrett-scottie/45min Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode I am talking to my fellow mom and friend Taran Conwell. She has three beautiful kids and honestly folks she is out there burning the midnight oil! Taran helps Millennial Moms prioritize self care and hosts The Undomestic Mom podcast. During our conversation Taran talks about self care and why moms are worthy of self care, building your village and asking for help as a mom, why hiring someone to help play with her kids was such an important investment and how to go about finding mommy help! In this episode, we cover: Taran shares more about herself and how the pandemic pivoted her own business [0:59] Prioritizing yourself and knowing what helps you thrive [6:46] The importance of asking for help and dealing with burnout [9:07] Peace of mind is worth the cost [17:26] The impact of rejuvenation takes time but it feels great [20:13] How self care improved Taran’s relationship with her husband [23:05] Normalizing self care as a part of motherhood [32:06] How to find mommy helpers [35:06] Outsource the things you don't like [45:19] Connect with Taran: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/undomesticmom/ Website: https://linktr.ee/undomesticmom Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-undomestic-mom-podcast/id1566971746 Join Stressed to Success: https://scottie-durrett.mykajabi.com/stressed-to-success Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/durrett-scottie/45min Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Main character energy is all the rage these days! It refers to the idea of living your life as if you were the leading role in a movie. As the main character, your life according to your own terms knowing that the only person you have to show up for is yourself. The big question though is how do we as moms show up for ourselves and do we have main character energy? In today’s episode, I talk about why it is so important to view yourself as the most important character in your life! I share why it’s time to stop being on the sidelines of your own story, every day is a chance to evolve and change your story, how trust in yourself teaches kids to trust their own selves and why you need to trust your own choice and own voice. In this episode, we cover: Stressed to success - a self paced workshop [2:26] Everything has to start with you and connecting with yourself [8:16] What’s preventing you from believing you are the main character? [16:12] You get to rewrite your story and evolve [24:18] Trusting yourself teaches your kids to trust their own selves [32:58] Taking responsibility and starting the change now [39:12] You have to own your own choice, you don’t get to complain! [43:57] Join Stressed to Success: https://scottie-durrett.mykajabi.com/stressed-to-success Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/durrett-scottie/45min Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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The biggest dilemma a lot of moms face is asking for what you want and getting it. We’re told that’s exactly what we should do, but how do you do that? How do you tap into what really matters to you, and get the confidence to face your fear and actually ask for what you want? It can be really hard to do that when your own inner voice and inner monologue is stopping you at every single corner. In today’s episode I talk about how to harness your inner voice to become your cheerleader and not your sabotager. I share why our inner voice can be our own worst enemy, why trusting your gut directs you to the path of success and how you need to prioritize yourself and heal your inner voice. In this episode, we cover: Being your own worst enemy [1:37] Our inner voice was formed at a young age to impact the rest of your life [5:52] Your success and confidence is directly related to the narrative in your head [13:18] What is your inner voice really telling you? [19:15] You need to be a priority in your own life [28:56] How to heal your inner voice and build a relationship with yourself [31:18] When you don’t trust yourself you rely on the validation of others [38:31] Join Stressed to Success: https://scottie-durrett.mykajabi.com/stressed-to-success Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/durrett-scottie/45min Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This two part episode covers everything you need to know about the stress response and the role stress plays in our everyday life. It is so important to realize the impact that stress has not only on your everyday decisions and the results that you're getting, but also on your physical, mental and emotional health, presently, and in the long term. In today’s episode I talk about how we love to throw the words “I am stressed,” why we need to drop the casual attitude towards stress, and why the way we respond to stress says a lot about who we are. It’s time to find the root of your stress so you can face it, so you can heal it and use it. Stress management is the key to your health - period! There's no way around that. In this episode, we cover: We’re always in stress mode as moms [2:16] Chronic stress is serious not something to be treated casually [8:42] Being stressed is not a requirement of motherhood [18:50] Bottled up stress will rear its ugly head [25:46] Our response to stress says a lot about us [32:08] Join Stressed to Success: https://scottie-durrett.mykajabi.com/stressed-to-success Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/durrett-scottie/45min Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This two-part episode covers everything you need to know about the stress response and the role stress plays in our everyday life. It is so important to realize the impact that stress has not only on your everyday decisions and the results that you're getting, but also on your physical, mental, and emotional health, presently, and in the long term. In today’s episode, I talk about how getting accustomed to stress should not be the new normal. I cover what stress actually is and how it shows up in your body, how the flight and fight response impacts our stress response, the long term symptoms of living with stress, how being in fight mode is making you gain weight, and ways to better manage and cope with stress. In this episode, we cover: What is stress, and how does it show up in our bodies? [4:57] The fight and flight response [10:55] The long term effects of living with stress [18:35] Activating the parasympathetic nerve [24:31] The fight mode [27:41] How to get out of the daily stress response mode [36:45] Be aware of your triggers [42:01] Join the Slay Your Stress FREE Masterclass. Learn in 1 hour what took me years to figure out! Downlad the Freebie: 10 Ways to Manage Stress in Your Life Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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In today’s episode I talk to Jessica, my online mom friend who is also an accountability coach, wife and all around boss babe! Jessica is passionate about fitness and helping all women feel beautiful and confident from the inside out. During our conversation, Jessica talks about how her passion for health and fitness developed, why baby steps can help you achieve your overall goals, and why accountability is not a solo journey! In this episode, we cover: Jessica shares more about herself and how she got into fitness and coaching [7:20] How to start your health journey [15:35] Self improvement does not have to happen alone [21:50] Nourishment and your health journey [29:33] Practicing a good relationship with food and yourself as a mom [38:33] Jessica shares her tips for setting herself up for success [45:23] Don’t be afraid to indulge in me time [55:00] Connect with Jessica: IG: https://www.instagram.com/thefitlifewithjessica/ Website: https://www.thefitlifewithjessica.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fit-life-with-jessica/id1535890135 Ultimate Smoothie Making Guide (freebie): https://thefitlifewithjessica.mykajabi.com/smoothies Waitlist for next 21-day challenge: https://thefitlifewithjessica.mykajabi.com/how-to-master-intermittent-fasting-1-1 Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I have a confession to make. On this podcast, I have always preached authenticity and finding the why behind what you do. In the past, I have explained what has motivated me to start a podcast but in reality, I have been holding back a little bit. I have been filtering my voice and I realize it’s not only doing a disservice to myself, it also isn’t fair to you! In today’s episode, I really want to deep dive into the idea of fear and filtering yourself. Moms have so much to offer and sometimes it can be really hard to show up as our most authentic and unfiltered version. I talk about why your happiness is your responsibility, why prioritizing your own needs helps others respect you better, ad why you didn't become a mom to silence your voice and be a victim. In this episode, we cover: You can ask for everything you want and not have to hold back [3:36] Take a day off whenever [8:06] Your happiness is an inside job [13:19] Prioritizing yourself means others respect you [20:15] You are not a victim! [22:50] You are here on this earth to have more than one day off [32:59] You don’t have to justify the way you want to live your life [38:51] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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It’s crazy how in 2022 we are still having this completely nonsensical battle between stay-at-home moms versus working moms. I mean it blows my mind! Why do we as moms find every reason to battle each other when we are already dealing with so many other battles? In today’s episode, I really want to deep dive into this heated topic between stay-at-home moms and working moms. I don’t need to tell you that I think both equally have merit, but this discussion needs to be had. I share why you should instead turn inward and determine why other mom’s choices make you feel uncomfortable, how no mom know’s it all and why you should focus on supporting other moms instead. In this episode, we cover: Why are we battling each other? [1:46] Judgment during covid, vaccines, and going back to school [9:52] Ask yourself why do other mom’s choices make you feel uncomfortable [14:51] There is no mom that knows it all [21:14] Focus on support and curiosity [24:45] Is the battle with other moms or within yourself? [27:52] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I'm talking to you, the human, the woman, the person, not the mom, when I am asking if you feel connected to yourself. Because when it comes to the relationship you have with yourself, this is paramount. This is where you start everything, and it’s the origin for all of your thoughts, all of your behaviors, all of your actions, and ultimately, all of the results that take place in your life. In today’s episode, I am talking about one of the most important subjects ever - our inner dialogue and the way we talk to ourselves, because let’s face it, the inner voice that goes on in our head actually has a huge impact on our sense of self and identity. I share why we need to reframe the language we use in our day-to-day thoughts, why it’s important to step outside your zone of comfort, and how you can create the life you want by just changing the thoughts in your head. In this episode, we cover: Our life and everything that follows starts with the stories we have in our heads [2:03] Changing the language of fear and failure [7:02] Aligning the stories in our head with the person we want to become [14:01] It’s easy to stay in the zone of comfort, but it’s not always helpful [20:23] Tuning into your emotions and how it connects to your internal story [28:45] The impact of long term stress [34:09] You have control over your story [42:14] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Confessions of a shopaholic - move over, there’s a new kid on the block and she’s running out of steam. Mommy martyrdom is rife in today’s world, but is it really helpful? Spoiler alert -it’s not, and I am pretty vocal on the podcast as to why this practice needs to stop. Really the crux of my mission with the podcast is to create a platform where I'm able to show up for you and provide you as much support as I can, and help you feel seen and heard. One big topic is mommy martyrdom - a mindset where we are where one believes that self-sacrificing is so necessary, and it is expected. In today’s episode, I talk about why mommy martyrdom is a hoax. I share the power of showing up for yourself first in order to help others, why boundaries matter, and why your identity is more than just being a mom. In this episode, we cover: What is mommy martyrdom [2:35] Prioritize yourself first [6:41] You have the power to make the change [16:32] A loving relationship with yourself means a loving relationship with your kids [22:47] Motherhood is changing and gives more space for you to have an identity outside of being a mom [31:45] Working mom or stay at home - you all matter [37:11] The paradox of motherhood and how to fix it [41:36] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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When I think about a typical mom, I picture a woman running out the door, her hair in a bun, she's got a kid on a hip, four bags in her hand, she probably has earbuds in, and she's doing 35 things at once. And guess what? She's getting it all done. Amazing right? Yes! But is this multitasking supermom really sustainable? In today’s episode, I talk about why being a multitasking mom is not a desirable superhero trait. I share all the reasons why you need to reevaluate being a multitasking mom because in the long run it’s not realistic to ask that of ourselves, it's not helpful in the long run, it's really not sustainable and it’s not the example we want to set for our kids. In this episode, we cover: Being a multi-tasking supermom isn’t fun [0:48] Multitasking moms are just layering everyone's stuff on top of their own [6:46] This new normal isn’t actually optimal [12:24] We are capable of multitasking but we need to put boundaries around it [16:50] You might be missing out on the important needs of your family [20:32] Multitasking is not an easy habit to break but you need to prioritize [24:40] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Okay everyone, we’re getting real here and talking about the scary P-word - PUBERTY. Did any scary music play after reading that word? Listen, we’ve all been through it but actually being on the receiving end of your child’s hormonal journey is tough. I get it mama, you’re not alone! In today’s episode, I talk about how to handle your child’s puberty journey and how to best support your child as they go through this intense journey. I share why it’s important not to make the puberty journey about you the parent, how these new experiences can be frightening to your child, why you need to be transparent with your child about their changing bodies, and why your role is to be supportive at the end of the day. In this episode, we cover: Dealing with puberty [2:50] Your child is dealing with changes and confusion and fear is natural [7:58] Being supportive and patient will make the journey easier for everyone [15:44] The changes your child experiences during puberty [23:21] Tell your children the truth about their changing bodies [31:45] Friendships and puberty [40:26] Your child doesn’t need to feel the pressure from us [48:51] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are in the driver’s seat of your life and that means you need to lead the way. Now it can be tough as moms, especially, since we have a million and one things to do and not enough time to do any of it. How can we possibly sit in the driver’s seat of our own life when we have to help everyone else in their own life - especially our children? In today’s episode, I talk about the infamous participation trophy when it comes to children. Bottom line is that your child’s life is on them and they are the one that makes decisions every single day. And the harsh truth is that no one really cares about your except for you and obviously. So what are you supposed to do when all of a sudden life throws you a curveball all in the name of participation and fairness? Well in this episode, I share how a real-life experience with my child’s sports game made me rethink the way we try and make others feel comfortable, letting your kids experience life’s up and downs, why there are tons of extraordinary people out there including your child and how I really feel about the participation trophy. In this episode, we cover: You are responsible for your life [3:15] A real-life experience with my kid’s sports game [7:30] Giving your kids the space to learn about the wins and losses in life [20:30] Figure out what you’re extraordinary at rather than bringing others down [24:47] Losing is a part of life and that’s where the motivation happens [35:02] Participation trophy kills competition [44:18] your child can handle losing trust me [53:51] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Motherhood is demanding and it is so important as moms to focus on your mental health and balance, not only to survive and thrive but also to be at our best because we have the responsibility to guide and lead our little humans. In today’s episode, I am talking to Tori Humphrey, a mom of two with an extensive and incredible background in education, psychology, and counseling. She's also the founding member of Dreams 33, a remarkable nonprofit foundation supporting our foster youth in the country. She is a pillar of a mom who kicks butt and does it all! During our powerful conversation, Tori opens up and shares her own personal journey dealing with anxiety and how she shows up every day for her family. She talks about the beautiful journey of motherhood, advice for the challenges we face as moms, and how as moms it is possible to have a whole host of accomplishments and raise children at the same time. In this episode, we cover: Tori shares more about her own decisions to have children and how she got into her career [0:35] Learning to cope with anxiety, its stigma and how it shows up in life and motherhood [13:06] The reality of postpartum anxiety and some signs to look out for [23:39] Prioritize self advocacy and seeking support as moms [36:34] The biggest misconceptions around anxiety and motherhood [45:46] Tori shares how she shows up for herself every day [59:18] Connect with Tori: Website: https://dreams33.org/ Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marie Kondo sparked a global movement for a reason! There is something not only helpful but incredibly cathartic about decluttering. Decluttering doesn’t even have to be physical items, it can also mean clearing up whatever junk we have occupying precious mental real estate. As moms, we have a lot on our plate including caring for the household, our partner’s needs, our children’s needs, professional ambitions, and finally ourselves. If reading that sentence tired you out, you’re not alone. It is tiring to do all of this, and despite being supermoms, decluttering is imperative, and honestly is an act of self-care! In today’s episode, I am talking about the power of decluttering your physical environment and your mindset. I share the best tips for decluttering, why physical objects should not have power over you, and the power a decluttered space has on your mind. In this episode, we cover: Decluttering is spring cleaning for the mind soul and body [2:52] Start doing it now, don’t save it for later [8:09] Do not give physical objects all the power [13:34] Prioritize decluttering your space and time [18:59] Make a weekly recurring ritual for self-care [28:32] Clear your mental real estate [35:05] Your self worth is not related to your level of business [43:59] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Remember when we were in our early 20s and we could pull 3 back to back all-nighters and make time for weekend shenanigans, only to repeat the whole cycle all over again? Oh to be young and full of infinite energy. Fast forward some odd years later and energy is the last thing most of us mama’s can even think of let alone even dream of pulling an all-nighter. It seems that as moms we have energy, but only just enough to do our mom duties - but what does that actually mean for us? In today’s episode, I am talking about mom energy and where to find it. I share why your time and energy are precious and how you have control over it, why social media is not the answer, giving up our multitasking superpower, and why R&R is a priority for mom energy. In this episode, we cover: Everyone needs a life coach [2:02] Mom energy is precious [6:51] Social media is a black hole for time and energy [11:12] Mama’s need to stop multitasking [17:25] Sometimes being busy means focusing on R&R [22:23] There’s no award for the mama who sacrifices the most [28:39] Being nice to yourself prevents you from being resentful [35:45] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re doing something a little different today! Instead of just hearing my voice, I brought on a dear friend and amazing woman to share her own experiences in life, tragedy and motherhood. In today’s episode I am talking to Lydia Fenet, author of "The Most Powerful Woman in the Room" and the upcoming book (2023) “Claim Your Confidence". Having spent over 20 years in the charity auction world and raising over half a billion dollars for nonprofits around the world, Lydia is a big pioneer of helping others, especially women, get what they need and deserve. During our conversation Lydia shares her reflections one what she has learned throughout her life. She shares how a harrowing car accident changed her own life’s perspective, how you can make anything happen in life, why family is a priority and the importance of adopting an abundance mindset. In this episode, we cover: Lydia shares more about herself and her own journey when it comes to work, family and where she is in life [3:13] There’s no guarantee to anything in life (so stop worrying about controlling it) [10:51] Auctioneering at 24 and growing into your confidence [15:09] Discipline is the greatest form of self love [24:06] Motherhood is Lydia’s greatest accomplishment [27:49] Adopting an abundance mindset [33:08] The best piece of advice all mom’s need to hear right now [42:55] Lydia shares more about her books [46:01] Connect with Lydia: Lydia’s Book: https://www.amazon.ca/Most-Powerful-Woman-Room-You/dp/198210113X#:~:text=In%20The%20Most%20Powerful%20Woman,partnerships%20at%20Christie's%20Auction%20House Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lydiafenet/ Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Earlier this March my baby girl turned 15 and with this came the opportunity to pierce her nose. Yes, I let my daughter pierce her nose. Honestly, I thought she’d outgrow this request but she was very adamant and continued to advocate for the piercing and ultimately I gave in. On our drive up I started to realize, like many mamas out there, that my baby is growing up. I could either stop her and resist this growth or I could just enjoy the journey. Guess which path works out better? In today’s episode, I am talking about accepting that our kids are going to grow up. I discuss how we as parents need to give them space and guidance as they test their boundaries, know that our job description changes as our kids change, and accept that our kids are going to make mistakes but we have to let them know we are going to be there for them no matter what. In this episode, we cover: Our kids are growing into their own skin [2:14] As parents, we need to give our kids grace and space [5:35] Kids are testing their boundaries, you have to guide them but allow them to also make their own choice [10:58] At the end of the day, kids are going to do what they want [16:06] The job description of mom changes as the kid changes kids [20:28] You have to adjust your parenting rules and have that ongoing discussion [29:25] We need to support our kids and know they are trying their best [34:04] Your kids are going to mess up and that’s okay [39:19] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen up mama’s because we’re covering something that a lot of us feel ashamed to talk about, but I will tell you right now I'm going through this exact experience as we speak. I love my kids, and I know you love your kids too, but right now my kids are just straight up rude to me sometimes, and I'm not gonna lie, it hurts my feelings. It does not feel good and I don't really know where it's coming from. So I was happy to know that you also wanted to talk about this and hear about this because in today’s episode I am talking about dealing with unwanted behaviors from our kids. I talk about my own personal experience dealing with my kids' quirks and their spicy voices, why this is a natural rite of passage and how we can respond to this phase without losing our cool. In this episode, we cover: When kids discover their spicy voice and form their own new identities [1:54] I thought I was the cool mom [6:28] This is a natural rite of passage that has nothing to do with you [11:07] Teenagers are a self-centered different species and that's okay [15:22] Their pulling away has nothing to with their love for you [26:43] How to beef up your defenses without adding fuel to the fire [32:29] Their raw emotion means they can feel safe with you [38:52] Tips for dealing with your child’s behavior [44:55] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, I talk to my good friend and health coach Veronica. She is a fabulous person with amazing nuggets of advice to share with you! During our conversation, Veronica is so candid about her feelings as she explains how she initially struggled with the move and being a new mom, dealing with a husband whose career was thriving, and feeling like she was invisible. Veronica also speaks on why structure is so important to organizing her day, why running her own business has made her a better mom and In this episode, we cover: Veronica shares her experience living overseas, being a stay at home mom, and her role as a health coach [2:35] A day in the life of being a mom and a business owner. Veronica shares how she prioritizes her professional work and making time for date night with her husband [19:10] What inspires Veronica to show up every day and helps her stay motivated [26:01] You can make massive changes in your life without turning your life upside down [38:54] How to practice self-love [49:04] Figure out what you want to create [55:16] Connect with Veronica: IG: https://www.instagram.com/veronica_healthlife/ Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anything that you want to make happen in your life is a choice. You can choose to take the trip, you can choose to stay home, you can choose to attend the party and accept the invitation, you can choose to say no, you can choose to adopt a new habit, or you can choose to stay exactly where you are. It goes the same for everything and anything in life. Where you are right now at this exact moment is a combination of your upbringing, the things that happen that you have no control over, and the choices that you've made. Essentially any new habits, any new choices, and any new changes that you want to make are possible but you have to make space for it. In today’s episode, I want to share why I believe we all have choices, even as mamas, and more specifically I want to talk about my own choices! I discuss how all your choices have a ripple effect, how I decided to show up in the world on my own terms and conditions, why striking a balance was so important to me and why I was the best investment I could make for myself. In this episode, we cover: Your choices have lead you to where you are today [3:12] All your choices have a ripple effect [8:15] I am just a regular mama (trust me) [12:14] My working and academic background, and the desire to strike a balance [17:58] I chose to invest in my potential [25:15] Why not waiting was the best thing to do [32:02] Reconnecting with myself allowed me to show up for others [39:43] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anytime you have a new thing to do, whether that’s a new start of a new school year, or a new phase with your kid or a new job or a new home, any new adjustment in life, there's always a transition phase where you figure things out and try to balance it all. This period of change can be hard, but you just have to figure out how to manage your time and shift your mindset. But what happens when you don’t even know where to begin or you feel like you just can’t adapt to the change? In today’s episode, I talk about the adjustment period that happens right before something new takes place in your life. I explain why change isn’t easy but it has to happen, why you need to figure out what you want to in that moment in order to overcome obstacles, and why being tired is a perfectly valid excuse when it comes to struggling with change. In this episode, we cover: The thrill and stress of the adjustment periods in life [3:25] Change isn’t easy [7:02] Having the right mindset to make and sustain change [12:12] Common mommy mindsets you might be adopting [17:25] You cannot overcome change alone (even if you think you can!) [22:45] Why being too tired is a valid excuse [30:04] A positive mindset is not a magic wand [35:50] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the rush? I'm serious. Why are you rushing today and where are you rushing to? Even if you're listening to this podcast right now, I know you're probably doing one, two, maybe three other things at the same time. I see you, Mama, you know why? I am the exact same way. I'm always rushing minute to minute to minute, but I want to ask us why. What's the rush? We're not on some deadline and there's nobody clocking us or keeping scorekeeping pace, right. Really the only race we’re in is the one against ourselves and let me tell you, this race is not worth it. In today’s episode, I talk about how this personal rat race is not going to benefit us in the long run. I speak on why doing a million things at once actually puts you at risk for not being a safe mom, rethinking what busy actually looks like, you actually have more control over your time than you think and why joyful should be the default not stressful. In this episode, we cover: What are we rushing for? [2:10] A rushed mom is not a safe mom or a sane mom [7:56] Rethinking what busy, rushed, and accomplished looks like [12:59] We do have more control over the moments in our day than we want to admit to ourselves. [21:25] Making each moment connected, present and thoughtful [30:59] Break the either-or mentality in your head [38:01] Join the 30 Days to Be Challenge: https://scottiedurrett.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1122641 Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can be easy to push aside our thoughts and table them for another day. Better yet as a mom we can completely ignore them and pretend they don’t exist right? Wrong. Because while it may seem easy at first, sooner or later those emotions are going to catch up to you, and you're going to have to have an honest conversation about them and your feelings. In today’s episode, I talk about how we can use every single feeling that we have running through us to help us in everything that we are doing. I share why it’s time to make sure that joy calls shotgun - that means joy comes first! I speak on why our emotions all have a positive purpose, the mindset you need to adopt when it comes to emotions and how our joy makes us a better parents to our kids. In this episode, we cover: Joy calls shotgun! [4:11] (quote by @lenahaill) When we open up our eyes and ears to our feelings, we learn a whole lot about ourselves [8:26] How to shift our mindset when it comes to analyzing our emotions [15:12] When we dial up our joy, we can dial up our kids joy and this is how you can do it [19:41] The thoughts that you have on repeat are just habits, they are not the truth [24:44] Our desires keep us alive! [29:32] Resources mentioned: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KofiicPCutbLbWBTdm0XAQpSQ9idzfZw/view?usp=drivesdk Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being a mom does not require your ego. What is actually required is your heart. As a parent, it is our love, our loyalty, our support, our trust, and our confidence in our kiddos that matters most. Raising children is about reminding them that we think they're phenomenal - that is what we owe them and nothing else. When we allow ego to be an influence on how we're parenting, we focus less on helping them become the best version of them and instead prioritize them being a mini version of us- and let me tell you, that doesn't ever work out. In today’s episode, I talk about ego and what ego does when we're trying to raise our kids. The mom + ego + raising kids is an equation we must discuss, and we have to pay attention to it. I discuss why your kids have their own identities, why your job is to trust them so they can learn to trust themselves, and how you can actually learn a lot from your kids when you let your ego go. In this episode, we cover: Ego has no place in the parenting equation [0:53] Our kids are forming their own identity that started the moment they were born [6:51] Your job is to appreciate and support your kids [11:47] What your kids don’t need and what you’re doing wrong when you’re parenting [20:24] When you trust your kids, they learn to trust themselves [29:06] Cultivate a space for your kids to let their own dreams and curiosities shine [36:20] What would happen if you stepped back a bit from hands-on parenting? [43:01] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have attempted meditation a few times before in my life, but I always ended up quitting because honestly, I wasn't really ready and open to it, so it was hard to commit, making quitting was easy. I have embarked on this rinse and repeat cycle for many things, because I just never felt ready to commit to anything more and I have naturally felt the burden of life's stresses that have impacted my own energy. But now, I have reached a point in my life where things like mediation matter to me, therefore I'm making time for it. In today’s episode, I discuss why we make time for what matters to us, but it’s just about figuring out what that thing is. I speak on my experience with meditation and how it has transformed my life. Stress can never go away but you can create habits that bring you joy and a sense of feeling centered and why you need to exercise your habit muscles! In this episode, we cover: We make time for what matters for us, and how mediation has changed my life [2:41] You can’t completely avoid stress but you can practice habits that help you recover from stress [8:32] Judgment, finger pointing, and online trolls have their impact [14:11] Kindness meditation has transformed my life and it’ll transform yours [21:02] We have become so comfortable with stress that it is now part of our identity as a mom [28:01] You deserve an environment of peace and so do your children [35:51] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can be easy to lose track of our goals the moment we get deeper into the New Year. As a mom, I know you can have better and more consistent self discipline this year. If you're like me, you have your eye on some incredible goals and some things you want to achieve this year. To get on that path of success, we need to be looking ahead and going for the ultimate excellence, and I want to help you get started on that. In today’s episode, I discuss ways to develop some great commitment, willpower, and confidence so you can conquer your 2022 goals. I talk about showing up with willpower and discipline, why developing discipline should be a priority, and why it’s important to choose you over anything else (because in the long run, it is worth the most). In this episode, we cover: Prioritizing my own mental and physical health has helped me deal with life's hiccups [1:52] The New Year is about discipline and perseverance [4:39] We all have discipline within us [13:05] Our primate brain likes to work against us and prevent us from changing, so what can you do? [19:40] What narrative are you actually choosing and what does that look like? [27:49] Once you figure out the goal, here are the tips you can follow to set yourself up for success [31:46] You have to exercise your willpower and discipline [41:20] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my favorite quotes is “dreamed it then real lifed it” and honestly this quote has revolutionized the way I approach life and my own dreams. When I read something that moves me, it just knocks me over and it is life-changing. But how can you go about pursuing your dreams and goals when 80% of New Year resolutions fail by February? In today’s episode, I discuss how you can actually pursue your dreams. I share how your habits, including your behavior, can be changed to actually experience massive life changes but you only need to start one step at a time. The day I decided to believe in this quote, is the day my whole life changed. New Year’s is a day to set new intentions to feel the way we want to feel and we can start experiencing the life we want to live, and i share how you can get there. In this episode, we cover: We are what we repeatedly do [3:44] How to sustain your New Year’s goals [11:06] Set your own pace for your goals and ensure they don’t overwhelm you[16:17] Start small and set daily habits and find an accountability partner[23:55] Stop giving January 1st the power, you can have goals and a start date any time of the year [31:22] How to figure out what matters to you [35:54] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you start to allow those limiting beliefs to come back and settle in your mental space, the fear and the self-doubt and the sadness can feel overwhelming and even negative. In reality, the best way to tackle these limiting beliefs is to make space for the feelings and learn to hear what it’s trying to tell you. In today’s episode, I discuss why you can always learn something from your feelings, even the hard and sad feelings. I speak on why belief is the fuel we need to live our life every day and how it is the starting point to an unwavering mindset. When you believe in yourself, anything is possible, and I share my favorite tips for self-belief that you can incorporate on a daily basis, to overcome those limiting beliefs and to start believing in yourself. Get comfortable trusting your gut, turning to yourself for validation, and trusting that you know what your self-worth is. In this episode, we cover: Speaking from a place of truth and reality: how I tackle limiting beliefs [2:59] Make space for your feelings even if they are the hard feelings [7:42] There is magic in belief, so believe in belief! [11:46] It’s natural to want love and approval, but other people’s judgment does not equal your self-worth [19:45] It’s important to teach your kids to embrace self-belief [27:14] Tips for increasing your self-belief [33:25] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When was the last time you stopped to consider your own needs without worrying about someone else? I bet I know the answer, and it's precisely why I'm sitting here on the floor in my makeshift podcast studio to talk about this important subject. As a mom, it can be hard to even consider putting your needs first because it almost sounds selfish, but I want to change this mindset in you and me (because I struggle with it too). In today’s episode, I’m sharing the reasons why you need to take a moment to put yourself first. I explain how when you neglect your own needs you’re sending a signal that you value yourself less, and why if you don’t share what you’re feeling no one is going to understand because they cannot read your mind. Being a selfish mom is the best thing you can do for yourself and your kids to be the best mom ever, and in this episode, I explain why it matters and what you can do! In this episode, we cover: When was the last time you put yourself first? [0:50] Neglecting your needs means you value yourself less, but self-love is rewarding [4:42] It’s okay if you don’t know what to do with your free time it takes time to get comfortable with relearning what you love [13:45] The day you become a selfish mom is the day you become a better mom. Here’s what you need to do [22:56] Feeling sorry for yourself isn’t the best way to get the attention and validation you seek [31:29] If you don't share what you're feeling, no one will understand they cannot read your mind [38:44] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s second nature to apologize, whether we bump into someone on the street or we hurt a loved one unintentionally. As women especially we tend to say sorry more than our male counterparts, in fact, according to a psychological study conducted in 2011, women apologize more than men only because what men consider as “offensive” varies drastically from women. In other words, we as women feel the need to apologize for every little thing because we think we owe an apology, not necessarily because we want to apologize. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the reasons why you need to stop needlessly apologizing. Listen a genuine apology is important and necessary, but it’s when it becomes part of your daily vocabulary that it needs to change. I explain what got me thinking about this “sorry” phenomenon, especially as moms, why you don’t always need to say sorry, and how as mom’s we feel the need to tread lightly and deflect tension by just saying sorry. I get real in this podcast and you know what? Sorry, not sorry! In this episode, we cover: Sorry is just part of our vocab but you don’t need to apologize [1:03] Mom’s apologize for things that we want when we should accept that we want and need things [7:39] It can be annoying when you say sorry too much [15:59] Do you know when you need to apologize? [21:28] Over apologizing is an act of self-sabotage and justifies our limiting beliefs [28:24] Be self-aware of when you’re apologizing [35:22] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

'Tis the season for hot chocolate presents, and quality family time - it’s also the season for large family gatherings, schedule conflicts, and shopping madness. While this is my favorite time of the year, but it’s also one of the most stressful. In today’s episode, I’m sharing all the ways we can beat the holiday stress, be excellent moms and still make time for our own needs and desires. While you might feel like stress is just part of the package, in reality, it does not help at all. What stress ultimately ends up doing is working against us rather than working with us. I talk about how we can help manage our stress, be better prepared for it, and how we can not dread this whole holiday season. In this episode, we cover: Self-care is the key to managing stress [5:37] Holiday stress + mom stress is a recipe for disaster [9:50] You deserve your ideal holiday scene you just need to believe that you deserve it [14:26] Start setting, establishing and communicating your boundaries and limits [18:08] You are not responsible for managing everything and everyone [21:55] This holiday is not about obligations, it is about enjoyment and enjoyment starts with you [26:11] You have a responsibility to manage stress, don’t let the minor details overwhelm you and take away from the actual joy of being present with your family [31:24] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mistakes make us human, right? Yet for some reason, it seems much worse when our kids make a mistake, maybe because we think their mistakes are a reflection of our parenting. Kids are just like us, they're humans and they're trying to see what works in this crazy life that they're living. They're trying to figure out what doesn't feel good and what does feel good. As a mom It's okay to not think that your kids are acting perfectly all the time because you know they are human, they have mood swings, and they are unpredictable. In today’s episode, I’m talking about how to handle your children’s mistakes, especially when they messed up big time. I discuss how the best thing you can do for your child (even when they mess up), is to help them process the new emotions they are experiencing. In this episode, we cover: All the emotions you feel when your kid messes up are the same emotions they will feel [2:57] The new emotions kids will experience as they grow up can be difficult. As a mom you can help them process their emotions. [8:08] Society’s many labels for kids - are they helpful or problematic? [19:32] Being responsive to the situation not reactive when it comes to meltdowns and tantrums [28:30] Pick your battles and choose what is really important to hold them accountable [34:01] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays are coming, and while it is supposed to be a joyful time of year, it is also that time of year that is the most stressful. Planning for the holidays means you have to factor in all your mom duties and add all the holiday duties on top of it. While you may be a supermom, it’s pretty easy to lose your cool and freak out during this time of year (we’ve all been there). In today’s episode, I’m talking about how to keep your cool and not lose your mind during the holiday season, and during all the other times of the year. I share why mom rage happens and how to set boundaries and voice what you need to feel supported. There’s no shame in losing your cool but there are better ways of handling it so that everyone feels heard, supported and loved. In this episode, we cover: How to deal with triggers, not feel attacked and not lose your cool during some challenging moments. Why does mom rage happen? [3:53] Acknowledging mom rage means that you’re able to handle it better the next time a situation arises [13:10] Take care of yourself by setting boundaries that prioritize yourself and your own care [18:36] How to prioritize self care when you feel there aren’t enough minutes in the day [22:46] Setting boundaries and expectations for the whole family to ensure the whole environment is healthy and moves smoothly [29:31] Try to see and hear yourself from the perspective of your kids. Are you effectively communicating how you truly feel so that you are able to understand each other? [33:16] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself wishing that the universe would stop having it out for you, and would start working with you? What happens if I told you that this wishful thinking isn't going to solve anything. Instead, you need to understand that life happens through you, not to you. Let that phrase sink in for a moment. What happens when you take the time to fully understand that? Because what this phrase really means is life is happening in response to you, because of you. When you make that little word switch you shift from having a victim’s mindset to one where you understand that you have control over most of the situations in your life. In today’s episode, I’m talking about why having a victim’s mindset when it comes to life is not going to serve you. When you have a victim mentality, you feel that things are happening to you, no matter what you do and the universe is literally purposely working against you, when in reality that is not true! I share how you can overcome this mindset, deal with rejection, and how your approach to life impacts your children’s behavior and mindset. In this episode, we cover: Life is happening through you, not to you [1:36] Why seeking outward validation won’t help to deal with rejection, and what you should really do instead [6:11] How the victim mentality mindset can impact your kids [11:07] It is important to let go of this notion of perfection in all aspects of your life, including motherhood [23:25] All the decisions that you make, the actions you take, the behaviors you mimic, the beliefs you hold on to are all causing the life you’re experiencing at this moment [28:55] It’s time to imagine yourself in a world where you are enough and you are capable [35:59] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s no such thing as perfect, so why do we constantly feel like it’s something we need to strive for and achieve? It’s almost insidious how we believe we have to be perfect, and as mom’s that pressure only doubles. But let’s be real, especially as we move into the holiday season, can you actually be the perfect supermom? I am sorry to break it to you, mama, it just ain’t possible. In today’s episode, I’m talking about why perfection ain’t going to happen so you have to stop trying. That doesn’t mean giving up altogether, it just means you need to give yourself some grace and space! I cover how you stop celebrating the unique gifts you have, you forget your own superpowers and wins, and how you’ll always be in a state of comparison if you continue to aim for perfection. This time around, instead of aiming for perfection, ask yourself how you can show up for others and for your own self in the most authentic manner possible. Remember the world needs your uniqueness and your specialness! In this episode, we cover: It’s time to admit it - perfection is not possible and the more you aim for it, you start to miss out on the unique gifts you have within [1:25] Perfectionism prevents us from showing up as our most authentic selves [4:58] If your goal is perfection you are setting yourself up for failure [9:32] Downplaying our accomplishments because they don’t feel “special” or “unique ”[13:08] Strive for excellence, not perfection. Excellence gives your permission to stay curious, to evolve, and to be okay with failure - even when it comes to motherhood [17:46] As a mom when you allow room for error, you are teaching your children that they can make mistakes as well. Being perfect robs us of so many things and holds us back from achieving more [26:01] How to start moving forward away from the perfectionist narrative [31:03] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s nearly the weekend and you have what seems like a million social obligations coming up that all overlap. In hindsight, you overbooked yourself but you didn’t want to miss out but now you’re mentally rearranging your calendar to make things work. I hear you mama, FOMO is real, and it’s not new - whether you’re a mom or not as humans it is totally normal to feel jealous, envious, or even fearful of not being part of a social message. In today’s episode, I’m talking about FOMO - fear of missing out. What is it, where does it stem from and why do we constantly feel like if we say no or if we opt out we’re going to miss out on some life-changing event or not be like other moms? I cover how these perceptions can lead to thoughts of uneasiness and stress which in the long term won’t benefit you. As moms we already go through so much, we don’t need to fall for these false beliefs that we are missing out on anything. In this episode, we cover: What is FOMO and why does it stress you out so much? [1:24] Jealousy comes from feeling unsafe, insecure and rejected [5:07] Social media is fuel to the FOMO fire - what impact does it have on moms? [7:59] We’re projecting our insecurities and teaching our kids that FOMO is okay [15:53] Why FOMO has way more power than it deserves and downplaying the power of being a mom [21:36] Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter. It’s time to be proud of you [26:15] Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices