momplex with Scottie Durrett

In this episode you’ll hear: How self-care has taken a back seat once her professional life got busy. However, she explains how she realized self-care should not be an occasional indulgence but a lifestyle we practice and what she’s doing to bring it back (0:47) The importance of working out on our mental health and cognitive capacities. You might not think this, but Elle Woods is the perfect example of living happily, confidently, and unapologetically. (4:11) How Scottie used to be a long-distance runner and how this cathartic act made her feel. While she is unable to do it now, she shares ways she finds a physical connection with herself and why it’s important not only for yourself but as a mom as well (8:41) Why exercise should be as common and habitual in your life as brushing your teeth. As a mom, it feels easier to find valid excuses to not work out, but it shouldn’t be an excuse to avoid self-care altogether (13:22) You can find the many mom reasons to not work out, but Scottie reminds you why you have to start appreciating and taking care of the body you have now. Prioritizing your physical health is a non-negotiable (19:12) Setting up a physical health routine is the best way to set a great example for your own family and kids. It demonstrates that you have boundaries and respect for yourself and in turn, they realize that they to can have their own boundaries and care for themselves. This creates an environment of mutual respect where everyone is happy and healthy (23:40) Life is too short, you are too much in demand and you are too special to be living unhealthily. You need to take back your life, stop projecting, and stop blaming others for you not making yourself a real priority. There is so much benefit to working out and prioritizing self care (28:33) Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode you’ll hear: Scottie talks about something near and dear to her heart - the incredible moms out there that function on autopilot. Speaking from experience Scottie shares how this “badge of exhaustion” is not something to brag about and why we need to rethink this approach. Boasting about who is more tired, exhausted, and busy isn’t really the type of competition you want to be part of, but why do we feel the need to compete? (1:28) You cannot be a functional human being, let alone a good mom, on lack of sleep. Scottie talks about how things like technology, constant streaming and even being “on” and available 24/7 is what is leading to this epidemic of sleep deprivation (5:35) Competing with our friends is a major reason why we, as moms, tend to overschedule ourselves with the mindset that we are living fulfilled lives (10:26) As new moms, and even as experienced moms, we throw things to the wall hoping that they stick but completely overlooking how anything affects us emotionally or physically. Scottie shares a personal anecdote of being a new mom and being told when things would be “worth it” (15:35) Instead of trying to prove to somebody that you're a great mom because of how tired you are, we should be figuring out how can we still crush motherhood thing and take care of ourselves at the same time (19:54) You can choose to change your life, readjust your schedule, and prioritize sleep because it is a basic life necessity. Scottie shares why this lifestyle change is imperative to not only being a good mom but a healthy and happy person. She explains why sleep deprivation is more dangerous than we think (23:29) Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode you’ll hear: Scottie talks about Mommy Martyrdom, an endemic that impacts moms all over! She shares why it’s problematic and how it negatively impacts your ability to be a good mom (0:50) Societal norms around motherhood focus on mothers being selfless, but this means there is an expectation for a mom to sacrifice her own needs, desires, and even health for the sake of “being a good mom.” Scottie shares her thoughts about Mommy Martyrdom and her own experiences of being a mom (3:57) We are human and we form our own opinions which is normal until these opinions pass off as judgment calls. Scottie discusses how judgment (both internal and external) play into the Mommy Martyrdom complex and her own experiences with comparison and this desire to be “perfect” (7:05) Why do we feel the need to judge other moms for the same experiences we’ve been through or are going through? Scottie shares the different ways mom judgment can pop up in day to day life (11:51) To be the very best mom you can be we end up torturing ourselves in the name of motherhood and as a form of competition with other moms. Scottie talks about this supermom complex and why is self-sacrificing equated with good motherhood? (18:32) Rather than judging other moms, Scottie makes a point about how we should actually learn from other moms and their experiences (25:15) Why Mommy Martyrdom is actually an active choice rather than a forced obligation (29:25) Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode you’ll hear: Scottie shares stories about her two amazing nieces who have grown up into incredible women and mothers. She explains how the anecdotes her nieces’ shares with her demonstrated that we all change as human beings - and being a mom is one of the biggest transformations a woman can face (0:49) After having a glass of milk spill into her lap on a long-haul flight by her daughter, Scottie explains how motherhood changes you. You go from being a single individual to an individual who has to care for and adapt to others. Scottie shares her thoughts about this gradual evolution from the “old” her to the current person she is as a mom today (5:34) These transformations can happen really quickly, and oftentimes as moms, we begin to neglect our own selves. Scottie describes how she felt about wanting to do more for herself and dealing with those feelings of guilt, missing out on the “old” life and how motherhood felt like putting on a new costume while overlooking her own desires (13:35) Scottie discusses the identity crisis many moms face. Missing the old you while simultaneously loving the new you! How can you keep your role as a mom but still reconnect to the version of you that existed pre-kids? (18:37) The steps Scottie took to help reconnect to herself and build an identity outside of just being a mom. She shares why making this commitment to herself is important and why the old her is not who she wants to be (23:07) Motherhood is difficult, and often you end up living in auto-pilot mode. Scottie discusses why she made the decision to live more mindfully as a mom and how it helps her as she navigates a new chapter in her life as a person and as a mom (27:57) Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the first episode of Momplex, a podcast hosted by Scottie, a southern belle who was born and raised in New Orleans. Scottie is a stay-at-home mom to 3 kids and lives on the West Coast. Momplex is geared towards moms like you, to help you step into your confidence and reconnect to yourself and the person you were before you had kids. Being a mom at this very point in your life is a magical stage, and you should be so proud of how far you’ve come. You'll hear: Scottie gets candid and explains how for a long time she was neglecting herself, and her own needs, dedicating herself entirely to her children. While her family is the most important thing in the world to her, over time Scottie realized she was becoming a serial people pleaser and this was starting to impact her negatively. She explains the catalyst that brought her to this realization (4:53) After dedicating her life to her kids, Scottie explains how the pandemic forced her to face her own self as an individual. Deep down she’d lost herself, and she knows this is common amongst many moms! She discusses how she got out of this rut and why it is important to be a person, outside of being a mom (9:15) Scottie shares her journey to self-realization, and how her new job enabled her to connect with other moms, ask deep questions and create her own world. (16:15) After her epiphany in 2020, Scottie explains how she heard this voice inside her head that encouraged her to step outside her comfort zone and discover new aspects about herself (19:58) Scottie explains why becoming an individual and growing into your own self makes you a better mom and human (24:24) Connect with Scottie: IG: @scottiedurrett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Momplex is the podcast that every mom needs in her corner. Hosted by Scottie Durrett, this show is all about navigating the beautifully chaotic world of motherhood while keeping your identity, ambition, and sanity intact. Whether you’re balancing a career, managing a household, or just trying to find five minutes for yourself, Momplex is here to remind you that you’re not alone. Each episode dives into real, unfiltered conversations about parenting, relationships, mental health, and personal growth—because being a mom is complex (hence, Momplex!). Scottie brings in expert guests, inspiring moms, and her own relatable stories to offer encouragement, practical tips, and plenty of laughs. If you’re ready to embrace the messiness of motherhood with confidence and connection, tune in to Momplex—your go-to podcast for thriving, not just surviving, in motherhood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices