From Betrayal To Breakthrough

In today's episode, Margaret talks about the betrayal of the body and how physical symptoms can sometimes uncover something deeper. She tells her story of how migraines took over her life despite taking the upmost care of herself and what she uncovered about her migraines when she dove deeper. Margaret Floyd Barry is a functional nutritionist, real food advocate, and the author of Eat Naked and its follow-up cookbook, the Naked Foods Cookbook. Having seen family members suffer the devastating effects of chronic illness from a young age, Margaret has long had the desire to help others find a better way back to optimal health and wellbeing. Through years of experience working with the most complex client cases, including reversing her own autoimmune condition, Margaret has established a powerful system for restoring health by addressing the root cause of illness. Today, Margaret runs Eat Naked Kitchen - a thriving private practice that supports clients in achieving true health and vitality through therapeutic diets and lifestyle changes. She also helps fellow practitioners build their own successful practice through Restorative Wellness Solutions - a 2-year certification program for qualified health professionals. In This Episode Mama migraine What is the intention of the symptoms? What is your body trying to tell you? Links Margaret's Website - Eat Naked Kitchen Margaret's Website - Restorative Wellness Solutions Margaret's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Elisa tells her story of childhood abuse, teen pregnancy, still birth, a near death experience, and more. Elisa talks about how she untangled life to build a sense of safety and security and how she turned her trauma into a wildly successful career. Elisa Stancil Levine spent her childhood in a canyon on the American River, upstream from the site of the California gold rush. She left school at sixteen and as a single mother in Sacramento earned a degree in library science and studied creative writing. Working with partners she remodeled sixteen historic houses and was home and garden editor and feature writer for Sacramento Magazine. At thirty-six she founded Stancil Studios, an award winning, nationwide decorative finishes company in San Francisco. Levine's memoir shares the story of "the making of a maker" and takes place in Northern California, Manhattan and Paris. When Elisa is not writing, traveling or consulting on color and pattern she and her husband spend hours immersed in nature, running and riding horseback on Sonoma Mountain. In This Episode Nature was safe and nature was free How curiosity saved her The dark night of the soul moment Getting the rage out Links Elisa's Website Elisa's Facebook & Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Bethany talks about why so many people find themselves repeating a pattern in their intimate relationships (often not a good pattern), why strong, high-achieving women end up with draining, narcissistic partners, what loving yourself looks like, and so much more. Bethany is a trauma-informed yoga therapist and relationship coach with over a decade of experience helping professional, high-achieving women heal anxiety, C/PTSD, find their power and skyrocket their confidence after divorce or toxic relationships. She helps navigate conflict and most importantly, co-create healthy relationships. She is a domestic violence and childhood trauma survivor who helps women triumph over trauma, break their cycle of emotionally unavailable men and attract the love they deeply desire. In This Episode Trauma-informed therapy practices Attracting an emotionally healthy partner Why we end up in challenging, narcissistic, gaslighting relationships Links Bethany's Website Bethany's Facebook A Free Gift from Bethany! SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Sarah talks about transcending trauma and building self-trust. Listen to learn how trauma can impact us and more importantly, how to heal it. Sarah Brassard is a teacher, author, trauma work, and life coach who melds wisdom traditions with deep knowledge of self-care practices, energy work, intuition, and spirituality to guide her audience to open up to new ways of responding to life. For 30+ years, Sarah has guided women from a place of struggle to one of grace, peace, and ease through her signature process of sacred self-care. As the author of Inside: A Guide to the Resources Within to Stay Connected to Your Truth, Even in Trying Times, Brassard details the self-care practices that sparked and sustained her own healing journey. This work inspired her to create The Tribe Inside, an online social community featuring video, audio, and workbook content for healing and growth at your own pace, and a group coaching program called Awaken The Healer Inside. She is also the host of annual online event the Trauma Recovery Summit. In This Episode Sarah's betrayal of expectations Everything is holistic Steps to rebuild self-trust Feeling where stress lives in the body Links Sarah's Trauma Recovery Summit Sarah's Website Sarah's Instagram, Facebook, & LinkedIn SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Juan talks about the three C's of love, how life emulates the military, and so much more. Listen to hear more about what Juan believes we all have in common and how it makes the world go around. Juan Lee is a transformational speaker, thought leader, and author. He has seen the message of love made so difficult that it is confusing. He removes the confusion by making it very simple. He neutralizes religions and makes the message of love universal. He finds the things that we all have in common instead of looking for things that divide us. In religion, the vehicle is God and the message is love. Apart from God, the vehicle is humanity and the message is love. We all have love in common. Juan shows how we first learn to love ourselves and then love others. He shows how to use love in every stage of life to product the fulfillment desired in life. Juan shows how to identify personal success making you aware of obstacles that cause growth, not failures. He gives the tools needed to operate in love so that you will never fail leading to peace and contentment. Love is for formula for a successful life experience. In This Episode Life emulates the military Love connects all the components in the system of life If you can share it with one, you can share it with the world Links Juan's Website Juan's Facebook, Twitter, & Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Dr. Elizabeth Cohen talks about her own divorce and the support she looked for to overcome her experience. Dr. Cohen is a clinical psychologist. She is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce. Dr. Cohen's online course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been. Elizabeth has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women's Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast and Good Housekeeping. Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her "Divorce Course" column. Dr. Cohen hosts the Divorce Doctor podcast where she interviews people about their divorce experiences. Dr. Cohen is the author of, Light at The Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You which debuted at #1 in Popular psychology on Amazon. In This Episode Are you going to stay stuck in your story? Identifying the anger Release the fight, flight, or freeze energy Stepping into vulnerability Links Elizabeth's Website Elizabeth's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Christy talks about how The Desire Factor can help you heal from betrayal and the thoughts, behaviors, actions, and habits that aren't serving you. She's talking all about how to create love, health and abundance, rather than arguing and limitations. Christy Whitman is a New York Times bestselling author and transformational leader. She has appeared on The Today Show, The Morning Show, TedX, and The Hallmark Channel, and her work has been featured in numerous publications and magazines. Christy teaches the Law of Attraction, energy mastery, and personal development classes, meditations, and private sessions to help clients feel more aligned with the Divine Design of well-being, abundance, and success. She currently lives in sunny Arizona with her husband and two boys. In This Episode What is The Desire Factor? 5 obstacles that get in the way of manifesting What do I want? Why? How? Master your own energy Links Christy's Website Christy's Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Twitter Christy's YouTube FREE Gift from Christy! SubscribeToDebi.com Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community

In today's episode, Dr. Brian Stenzler talks about his first experience with the Ultimate Life Tool and how it changed his life and his relationships. Dr. Brian Stenzler is an Ultimate Life Tool (ULT) Facilitator & Corporate Consultant, certified through the Y.O.U.Instittue (YTI, INC.). He used the ULT assessment along with his formal education and 23+ years of clinical experience as a family chiropractor doctor helping families create more health, happiness, and stronger relationships. Dr. Stenzler has an extraordinary relationship with his wife Brooke and 5-year-old son Zion. He has served his profession in numerous roles including President of the California Chiropractic Association from 2014-2016. He also sits on the board of directors for the Y.O.U.Institute. Early in his career, Dr. Stenzler was an adjunct neurology instructor for the New York College for Health Professions. Dr. Stenzler uses his vast knowledge of the nervous system in everything he does, whether it be adjusting patients, providing lifestyle advice, coaching people on overcoming emotional barriers, or speaking to large audiences. In This Episode Starting relationships with the ULT Attracting a new relationship with a vision board The five utilities Links Brian's Website Brian's Instagram & Facebook SubscribeToDebi.com Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Carmen Hunter talks about her entire healing journey post betrayal and divorce. She tells about all the different types of therapies and techniques she used to surrender to help and fully heal from it all. Carmen Hunter is the founder of The Institute for Functional Health Coaching®, Carmen Hunter Health LLC and the creator of the proven functional method of coaching Education, Preparation & Action ©. She has over 10 years of health coaching experience to include hundreds of chronically ill clients, running group trainings, and doing live and online webinars and presentations for other well-known wellness organizations. She has been educating and mentoring coaches and wellness professionals for over 8 years. Her number one focus with her clients is to empower them to listen to their instincts and intuition as she believes that no one knows you better than you know yourself. This includes how to make choices about your health, your business, your relationships and more. In This Episode Advice if you're losing sleep Brain spotting therapy – what it is and how it helped Neurofeedback was a game changer Validating your children through divorce Links Carmen's Website Carmen's Facebook Carmen's Free 7 Essentials Guide SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Dr. Brian Russell tells his story of his life altering event and how he overcame it through silent meditative prayer. Brian Russell (Ph.D.) is an author, professor, podcaster and a transformational coach for spiritually-minded professionals. His personal mission is to seek out, study, and embody the deepest truths so that he can share them compellingly, lovingly, and transformationally with others. He is the author of Centering Prayer: How Sitting Quietly in God's Presence Can Change Your Life. He is also host of the Deep Dive Spirituality Conversations podcast. In This Episode Feeling of disconnection Ran into a bank of love Open yourself up to love Links Brian's Website Brian's Instagram, Twitter & LinkedIn SubscribeToDebi.com Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Dr. Aimie talks ALL about trauma in the body. How trauma feels, how to recognize it, triggers and how to handle it all. Dr. Aimie is a Double Board-Certified Medical Physician in both Preventive and Addiction Medicine and holds Double Masters Degrees in Biochemistry and in Public Health. She is the leading medical expert on addressing stored trauma in the body through her signature model and methodology, The Biology of Trauma: a new lens that courageously uplevels the old methods of trauma work and medicine by reverse-engineering trauma's effects on the nervous system and body on a cellular level. Dr. Aimie specializes in trauma, attachment and addictions after having personal experience in foster parenting, adopting and then having her own health issues that were a result of childhood and life experiences. In addition to her medical studies that have included Functional Medicine Certification, she has sought out trauma therapy training since 2015. In This Episode Stress vs. trauma The issues are in the tissues Trauma is your biology not your psychology Your brains job is to make meaning out of an experience Links The Biology of Trauma 2.0 Summit Aimie's Website Aimie's Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, & LinkedIn Aimie's YouTube SubscribeToDebi.com Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Denise shares her story of childhood sexual abuse and talks about all stages she went through after – feeling helpless & shame, masking it all, finally facing it and feeling it all shift, and being able to overcome it all and share her story. Denise Bossarte is an award-winning poet, writer, photographer, and artist. Denise is a certified meditation facilitator and contemplative arts teacher. She is an information technology (IT) professional working for a large urban school district. Denise holds a BA in chemistry, an MS in computer science, and a PhD in developmental neuroscience. And she is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Denise spent her adulthood healing herself from the traumatic impact the sexual abuse had on her life. She is not a mental health professional. She is a Thriver who has traveled a healing journey and is able to share a personal, guided experience for readers to find and engage in their own journey to healing, to becoming Thrivers. As an unpublished manuscript, Thriving After Sexual Abuse was a quarterfinalist in the 2019 BookLife Prize Nonfiction Contest, Self-Help Category. In This Episode Feeling helpless & shame Staying busy instead of facing it When the shift happened Links Denise's Website SubscribeToDebi.com Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, we're talking all about how an unhealed betrayal from years ago continues to set you up for one betrayal after another. You have to dig deep to find out where your original betrayal actually took place. Listen to today's episode to hear more. Welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: Your betrayal could have actually happened years ago We have 60-80,000 thoughts a day – 80% are negative A classic sign of an unhealed betrayal Links Trust Again Intensive Waitlist Subscribetodebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Sharon shows us how we can change our thoughts & our programing in order to create peace, health, freedom, and happiness. Having spent years in ugly, violent, unhappy relationships - both intimate and friends - Sharon came to eventually understand that she was the one carrying the baggage that kept attracting those relationships. Once she delved into and questioned her underlying beliefs about herself she experienced a radical change. Now she shows (not tells) others how simple it is to make this change in their own life. They turn their unhappy relationships into ones that feel like chocolate for the soul. In This Episode Love bombing Question what you're believing If I'm the problem, then I'm also the solution Links Sharon's Website Sharon's LinkedIn & Facebook SubscribeToDebi.com Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

Have you been working hard to make changes in an area like your health, work, or relationships and notice that just about when that change starts to happen, you start to self-sabotage yourself? In today's episode, we're talking all about WHY this self-sabotage comes up just when things start turning around. Listen to today's episode to hear more. Welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: Keeping you in a place where you don't have to think Sabotaging your success Surround yourself with the right people Links Trust Again Intensive Subscribetodebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Zoe tells her story, what served as her inspiration to change, and exactly how she did it. Sometimes life strips away the person who you knew yourself to be. When you rise from the ashes you are given the opportunity to build something stronger and more powerful. Times of adversity build an inner strength that you can use in a positive way to rise to thrive. That's what Zoe did. This is her story. 2005 was her catalyst for change, to leave an unhealthy marriage and lifestyle and rise from the ashes. What started out as a journey of recovery became a journey of mental and physical strength to become a more powerful version of her. In This Episode Zoe's reason for change When your pain becomes greater than the fear of unknown Survival mode Physical strength impacting mental strength Links Zoe's Website Zoe's Facebook, Twitter, & Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

What would a shift in perspective do for you? I'm going to show you how dramatic your life can change when you go from being a cup is half empty type of person to a cup is half full type of person. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: The tail of the crying mom Leaving Stage 3 & entering Stage 4 What benefit am I receiving from this experience? Links Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Lois Hollis talks about how shame/guilt (not to be confused with shame AND guilt) was the root of all her symptoms – depression, anxiety, apprehensions, hatred, and anger. Lois Hollis, RN, BSN, REV. is a shame guilt educator, counselor, filmmaker. Lois shifts our opinion on one of the most taboo subjects, shame and guilt. As a trailblazer, she helped create one of the first Kidney Hemodialysis Units in the USA in 1966. Today Lois establishes shame guilt as an independent study. Her 50 years experience in health, 15 years research, and counseling bring NEW knowledge of these misunderstood conditions to release us from shame guilt blaming. Lois' first film, Out of Discord Into Harmony, was released in 2008 and teaches how to communicate with your inner self. Her new film I'M GOOD makes shame guilt visible. She shares 3 books. She was given a death sentence at 55 and now thrives at 77. Lois shows us how. In This Episode Personalizing your trauma filled experience What do you do about shame? Shame/guilt vs. shame AND guilt Links Lois' Website Lois' Now is The Time eBook SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

Finding it challenging to commit to new habits or goals? Here's one of my best hacks for making sure I do things that I want to do. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: Declare your actions to ensure you do it Building self-trust Healing from trust – start here Links SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Dr. Danny Brassell talks about why books and reading may be an effective strategy to help us heal from betrayal. A highly-sought after speaker, trainer and coach known as "Jim Carrey with a Ph.D.," Dr. Danny Brassell has spoken to over 3,500 audiences worldwide and authored 16 books, including his latest, Leadership Begins with Motivation. He is the co-founder of www.theREADINGhabit.com, the world's top reading engagement program. In This Episode The people that are rewarded, are the people that take action How books bring people together PS I Love You – what it means as the hierarchy of needs Links Danny's Website Danny's Instagram & Twitter Danny's Facebook & LinkedIn SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

254: A Dose of Dr. Debi: How Your Stress is Impacting You I see so many people coming into The PBT Institute with so many physical symptoms, illnesses, sicknesses, and even disease. All of it coming from stress. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: How your stress response works Stress and gut health Stress settles in your body impacting body composition Links Subscribe to Debi Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Sandy discusses how to use your betrayal to create a spiritual awakening. Discover true freedom by awakening new levels of awareness. Sandy is a spiritual teacher who supports conscious leaders in redesigning the unconscious mind that drives habits, patters and behaviors. Sandy combines the wisdom of Yoga Science, Eastern Philosophy, Ayurveda with modern day science to help high performers enhance their lifestyle. She's worked with CEO's, entrepreneurs, executives, healers, and authors. Sandy is the founder of Prosperous School of Self Realization, a 90-day leadership program and founder of Prosperous the Podcast. In This Episode Using pain to find purpose Making decisions based on external programming Masculine and feminine energy Links Sandy's Website Sandy's Podcast SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

When we're under stress, sleep is one of the first things that is compromised. And it's deep, quality and restorative sleep that helps us heal. Let's discuss combating this issue. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: Why sleep is crucial during times of stress Supplementation for quality sleep Improve your sleep hygiene Links Sleep Supplement PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Elizabeth discusses identifying the disconnect between what you're thinking and feeling about your vision for and the reality of your life. Elizabeth Tripp is a New York City based Lifestyle Design Coach and Spiritual Teacher. As a featured radio talk show host on TalkRadio. NYC, a Thrive Global Contributor, and a national public speaker, Elizabeth is recognized as a thought leader in spirituality, well-being, and prosperity. In This Episode Masking your lack of fulfillment Thoughts create reality The catalyst of transformation Links Elizabeth's Website Elizabeth's Facebook Elizabeth's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Sara Schulting Kranz talks about figuring out your truth, what it feels like to discover and know your truth, and grounding yourself in the process of it all. Sara Schulting-Kranz is an author, keynote speaker, trauma and personal leadership authority, wilderness guide, and expert in utilizing nature healing. As a multiple trauma survivor, Sara Schulting Kranz, like millions of others in this world, suffered from severe Complex-PTSD that almost took her life, and could have left her three children motherless. She navigated through her anger, pain, and grief while outdoors. Sara harnessed the healing power of nature through her own PTSD and intense trauma recovery, which included somatically healing through nature while practicing the art of forgiveness for herself, others, and the world. Now Sara coaches clients, leadership executives, and organizations on the necessity and benefits of using nature for mental and emotional health. You will find Sara speaking to businesses, corporations, and running executive leadership workshops, in addition to leading healing, transformational, and leadership retreats in nature. In This Episode Who are you as a human being? Respond don't react What is your truth? This is what your truth feels like. Feel the moments Links Sara's Website Sara's Instagram & Facebook SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Elena Mosaner discusses hypnosis as a coping mechanism for difficult life experiences – betrayal, heartbreak, and more. Mosaner is an ICF (International Coach Federation) certified professional coach, NGH (National Guild of Hypnotists) Certified Hypnotists, Certified Hypnotherapist and book author. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Creative Writing and Film as well as a Master of Science degree in Executive Coaching and Organizational Behavior. Throughout the last 15 years, she has worked with celebrities, professional athletes, high-level executives, and she has helped more than 1,000 people transform into their best version using hypnosis therapy and coaching. Mosaner sees clients from all over the world via Zoom and hold self-hypnosis and personal growth workshops a few times a year. She was featured by the NY Times, NY Post and ABC GMA as one of the top NYC hypnotherapists. She is a founder of AlphaMind self-hypnosis app. Learn more about her work on www.elenamosaner.com In This Episode What is hypnotherapy? Hypnosis for heartbreak How to practice self-hypnosis Links Elena Mosaner's Website Elena Mosaner's Facebook Elena's Free Hypnosis SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, we're talking all about managing symptoms without getting to the root cause of the problem. Could your anxiety, sleep issues, weight gain, and more be coming from an unhealed betrayal? Listen to today's episode to hear more. Welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: Symptoms tend to go away once you move through Stage 5 Suppressing the symptoms Change the root to change the fruit Links Subscribetodebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, J. Scott MacMillan talks about the 12 stages of the hero's journey that he walked through to take back his own life after years of holding himself back. Listen to today's episode to hear more about the 12 stages. Scott MacMillan is an author, entrepreneur, and certified NLP life coach. His coaching business, Hero Life, uses behavioral learning techniques, adult learning theory, and the hero's journey to help people learn new skills and apply critical thinking to daily life. Leveraging personal experiences and psychology expertise, MacMillan helps people overcome stuck periods, both in their personal lives and in business, to step into their true authentic self. Follow him at www.jscottmacmillan.com. In This Episode J. Scott's wakeup call Dissecting the 12 stages of the hero's journey Becoming your own mentor Calming the nervous system Links J. Scott MacMillan's Facebook J. Scott MacMillan's Instagram J. Scott MacMillan's LinkedIn Be the Hero of Your Life the Book SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, we're talking with one of our lead coaches from The PBT Institute, Michelle Silva Leber, about the shattering of trust and the process of rebuilding trust after it has been shattered. Michelle specializes in The PBT Community on the topic of narcissism. She is a TEDx speaker, an international bestselling author, the ROAR to Win podcast host, and President of Soul Shift, Inc. Known as America's #1 Resilience Expert, for over 25 years Michelle has guided people through Transformation after Trauma, Betrayal and healing core wounds. Welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: The fragile state after the shattering of trust How did I get here? You will move through 5 Stages to heal from betrayal Links June Trust Again Intensive Waitlist Subscribetodebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

Staying stuck is a choice. In today's episode, Byrdy Lynn Kelley talks about her childhood betrayal, how she got through it as a child, and how she fully healed from it over time. Listen to today's episode to hear how Byrdy's childhood betrayal turned around her life for the better. Byrdy is the proud mother of one son, who is attending college for industrial engineering. She is also CEO and Founder of REAME LLC, a real estate technology company, Melan Property Management LLC, a real estate management firm and BYRDYLYNN LLC, a private publishing company. Byrdy sists on the national IREM Foundation Board and actively volunteers with the Real Estate Associate Program. She holds a BA from the University of Texas at Arlington. She enjoys entrepreneurship and strategizing new ways to make a positive different in people's lives. She attends Alfred Street Baptist Church virtually and has been a member since 2013. Her greatest joy lies in seeing others become happy and self-sufficient, finding peace in their own stories. In This Episode Finding outlets to feel normal Rage after betrayal and trauma Giving pain a purpose Links Byrdy Lynn Kelley's Website SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Sinclair Kennally discusses 7 & 7 – the 7 common root causes for chronic illness and the 7 layers of consciousness where healing can happen. Listen to hear Sinclair walk through these 7 root causes and 7 layers and explain how you can start paying attention to them for yourself. Sinclair Kennally, CNHP, CNC is an award-winning expert on chronic digestive illnesses, CEO of DetoxRejuveNation.com, host of Your Health Reset Podcast, and survivor of complex chronic illness. She and her partner, Michael Spandel, specialize in resolving the root causes behind complex, chronic illness and digestive issues. Together, they've helped thousands of people to get their lives back. An award-winning sought-after speaker, SInclair has shared the stage with health and wellness luminaries such as Jack Canfield, JJ Virgin, Lisa Nichols, Sachin Patel, and Meghan Walker. She is also the cofounder of MeditationRx, a platform dedicated to people working on their health. Sinclair's mission is to help people to reclaim their health and rediscover their creative power, so they can be who they came here to be. In This Episode 7 common root causes for chronic illness 7 layers of consciousness where healing can happen The truth about "trusting your gut" Links Sinclair Kennally's Website It Starts in the Gut Summit PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Dr. Serena Sterling talks about her childhood betrayal of not being heard, what it led to, and how she recovered from it. Listen to learn about how your emotional feelings can turn physical and what you can do about it. Serena holds a master's in International Journalism, a doctorate in linical psychology, and is a certified Life Coach. Due to her own experience of overcoming chronic fatigue syndrome and finding ways to alleviate her own chronic pain from years of living with juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, Dr. Sterling learned advanced stress reduction techniques to assist others in overcoming their own health challenges. She uses her education, training, and experience in clinical psychology to help her clients understand why they're thinking, feeling, and behaving in certain ways and combines that with coaching to keep people accountable to their goals. She helps her clients identify, process and release the repressed emotions they've been holding onto, which allows them to alleviate their physical and emotional pain. In This Episode How emotional feelings can turn into physical illness Identifying pain that is rooted in something emotional or mental Acknowledging, identifying, and techniques to release your trigger Links Dr. Serena Sterling's Website Dr. Serena Sterling's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Jessica is talking about how criticism effects a relationship and primary and secondary feelings, fears, and emotions. Listen to understand why we criticize in relationships and what we can do instead. Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and has over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results with an integrative and comprehensive blend of psychology and coaching all in one. Her ultimate goal is to help people acquire the insight, learning, and practice to navigate the terrain of intimacy more effectively. With Jessica's assistance, through her online training, free content, and personalized coaching, couples and individuals transform pain and struggle into deep love, connection, and vitality. In This Episode How criticism comes across in relationships Primary and secondary emotions How to stop self-criticism Turning your criticism into a request Links Dr. Jessica Higgins' Website Shifting Criticism for Connected Communication Dr. Jessica Higgins' Podcast SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

In today's episode, Jennifer Lehr covers the relationship roadmap and how our different attachment styles impact how we show up in our relationships. Listen to learn so much about who you are and why you react and respond the way you do. Jennifer created WeConcile to help couples get free from pain and disconnection, and to again find happiness in marriage. She spent years working on her own issues, educating herself as well as studying and training as a couples therapist. In This Episode How to build intimacy & trust after betrayal What is attachment theory? The relationship roadmap Links WeConcile's Website WeConcile Quiz PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

Ep. 240: A Dose of Dr. Debi: Getting Messy in Order to Transform True transformation requires discomfort. Many of us don't want to be uncomfortable so we get to Stage 3 where we numb, avoid and distract- and we stay there. If and when you make it to Stage 4, that's where the real work and healing begins and it starts to feel messy. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! Today, we're going to talk about facing it, feeling it and healing it. In This Episode: Getting stuck in Stage 3 Where it starts to get messy in the healing process If it's looking really messy & feeling uncomfortable, keep going! Links Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

239: A Dose of Dr. Debi: PBT Lead Coach Talks About Building Trust In today's episode, we're talking with one of our lead coaches from The PBT Institute, Peggy Porter, about the shattering of trust, forgiveness, reconciliation, and what it looks like to take that leap of faith to begin the process of learning how to trust again. Peggy specializes in The PBT Community on reconciliation and forgiveness. She is an advocate and teacher in the practice of self-care, self-compassion and self-love. Welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! In This Episode: Forgiveness has so much to do with us, reconciliation has so much to do with another person Forgiving too early Rebuilding yourself How being in a community can help with rebuilding Links Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

238: A Dose of Dr. Debi: What's the ROI on Your Questions? At some point, asking yourself "why" does more harm than good. There comes a time where you're marinating in the why and it's no longer helping you on your healing journey. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! Today, we're going to talk about the ROI of your questions when trying to heal from a betrayal and what may be a better use of your time and energy. In This Episode: Asking yourself "Why did this happen?" Look at the ROI of spending your time & energy asking "why" Your energy could be spent better elsewhere Links Trust Again Intensive PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

It seems obvious. Of course, you're ready to heal! We go through 5 stages in order to fully heal. However, most people find themselves stuck in Stage 3. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! Today, we're going to talk about why it is so common to land and stay in Stage 3. In This Episode: Moving through Stages 1 & 2 WHY we get stuck in Stage 3 Moving past Stage 3 into 4 & 5 to truly heal Links PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

While we've been taught that time heals all wounds, that's not true when it comes to betrayal. I have proof of that. Over 50,000 people have taken the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz and I've seen many, many people who have been betrayed 15, 35, 40 years ago who are still struggling to trust fully. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi! Today, we're going discuss what an unhealed betrayal looks like. In This Episode: Most get stuck in Stage 3 out of the 5 Stages when healing from a betrayal This is what unhealed betrayals look like as it relates to your work, health, and relationships Do you want to take your unhealed betrayal forward with you? Links PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again Book From Hardened to Healed Book

People who undergo painful and traumatic experiences tend to suffer from chronic stress. Cortisol, a primary stress hormone, increases as a result. The higher amounts of this hormone in the body cause a drop in the levels of progesterone, a female hormone that is crucial for the regulation of ovulation and menstruation. When this happens, estrogen dominance occurs, bringing with it a myriad of symptoms, including lumpy and fibrocystic breasts, period problems, thyroid nodules, weight gain, and hot flashes. In today's episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, Integrative hormone and nutrition expert Magdalena Wszelaki shares with us some excellent ways on how she was able to restore her hormonal balance, so like her, we can also look, feel, and live better. About Guest/Topic Magdalena Wszelaki is the founder of Hormones Balance, a thriving online community dedicated to helping women balance hormones naturally. Magdalena is a nutrition coach, certified herbalist, a published bestselling cookbook author, speaker, and educator. She's got a long history of hormonal challenges. Her health crisis was the direct result of her highly stressful life in advertising - starting from autoimmune conditions such as Graves' and Hashimoto's Disease to total burnout and estrogen dominance. Today, she is in full remission and lives a symptom-free life. She has dedicated herself to teaching women how to find their sacred hormonal balance with her books, online programs, and education. In This Episode Who is Magdalena Wszelaki? [0:08] What happens when you have stress-related symptoms and what is estrogen dominance? [1:50] What can you do to manage your hormones? [13:16] …and many more Quotes "I think you can only improve your health when you look back at what has happened and then you know, say, hey, look.. I'm never going to this again, right? Or if I'm stressed and it's inevitable because a lot of times, we just can't avoid it then, I'm gonna equip myself with all the tools I know, that I've learned to really increase the sense of resistance in my body. That I've got a little armor on me, right?" [12:11] "When you start off your day with a lot of sugar and even if it's just a bowl of cereals or a bowl of oatmeal with fruit on it and drizzled with some maple syrup, well guess what? You're just giving yourself a sugar bomb. And the problem is that when you're already stressed out, you're already throwing your hormones out of balance with stress…remember that sugar is insulin and insulin is a hormone, too, so you're really adding to the fire." [27:37] "Pick something that you can really do something really, really nourishing, nurturing for yourself in time of stress…The truth is you don't just have to do everything...It's really one step at a time. Every small change matters." [31:09] "Making small changes like including quality Vitamin C, Zinc and Magnesium can make a huge difference in how you feel." [33:22] Resources Mentioned Hormones Balance Website Overcoming Estrogen Dominance PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness From Hardened to Healed: Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You LoveHealed or Hardened quiz

Sometimes, our relationships can hold us back from making crucial changes in our lives. We don't want to outgrow them, so we end up sabotaging ourselves: whether it be through food, drugs, alcohol, reckless behavior, and the like. My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I'll be discussing how you can stay connected with people who make you feel safe and comfortable while achieving personal growth and development. In This Episode Find out how sabotaging yourself begins Recognize self-sabotage and how it manifests Learn how to make changes that help you move forward Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here. Welcome to another Dose of Dr Debi. Today I want to talk about sabotage and I want to talk about a specific way we sabotage ourselves. This is something I see all the time. I see our members within The PBT Institute do it. I see friends do it. I see family members do it and I've done it myself. And I want to bring it up because if you know what you're doing here, you can you can make some changes that'll really help move you forward instead of keeping you stuck-it's all about moving forward instead of keeping you stuck. So, I did two TEDx talks. The first one was about sabotage: Stop Sabotaging Yourself, and I remember seeing this so often with a lot of clients back then, and it really got me thinking about how we sabotage ourselves to prevent outgrowing a certain relationship, whether it's with a partner, with friends, with relatives with whatever. It happens so often so I want to talk about it to see if you're doing this because if you are, I want you to know about it so then you can make some changes. What happens is, there comes a time where what used to work doesn't work anymore. What used to fit doesn't fit anymore. What used to make sense doesn't make sense anymore. It's like that little tap on the shoulder we get. It's like, "Hey, time to make some changes." And here's where we use things like food, drugs, alcohol, work, tv, keeping busy, reckless behavior to numb, avoid and distract ourselves from that voice, from that noise. Why? We don't like change. We have it all figured out. And if all of a sudden we address that we fear, well that's going to, invite all of these questions, all these questions will invite all this change all this change will shake up everything that I've figured out already. So, we'd rather not. Instead, what we do is, we use those things to numb avoid distract yourself. It's really funny, it's almost like (now I'm totally dating myself), but remember when you were a little kid if you're 50 and above, I guess, I don't even know maybe young people still do this, who knows. But, when I was little, if someone said something I didn't want to hear, you know, you stick your fingers in your ear and you're like; "La, la, la, I don't hear you. Well, when we use food, drugs, alcohol, work tv keeping busy, reckless behavior, that's the adult version of that same game. But, you can't very likely go into your boss's office and he or she is asking you to do something you stick your fingers in your ear, and say; "La, la, la I don't hear you." It really may not be the most mature thing, if you do that with your friends or your partner. So what we do is, we sort of stuff it, and we just handle it. But then there comes a time where the voice gets louder and louder. So the stakes get bigger and bigger. So if it used to take one glass of wine, now it's taking two. If it used to take a few cookies, you're eating a whole sleeve of cookies. If it used to take one show, now you're binge watching the whole series, One shopping spree, now it's double the price, whatever it is for you. And the stakes, the stakes get bigger and bigger and bigger until and unless you do something about it. Then there's that moment where you realize, "Okay, it's time to grow, it's time to change." What does that look like, what does that feel like? Now you're on this path, and you're exploring and you're doing new things. It's like a kid in a candy store, If you remember the first time you ventured into the personal development world or the world of spirituality or something that- it was just so new and interesting for you. You just took to it and you just kept going and going and growing and growing. But what happens is, the people around you may not. And then you're in sort of a little bit of an odd predicament here because they haven't changed. It's not them, it's you. You're changing, we can even see this, we even see this with changes in your eating habits here you were you had your food buddy, and you and your food buddy we're having nachos and margaritas and all of a sudden you're on this healthy eating plan. Well, two things going on with your food buddy now. They're worried, they're afraid. First of all, now they have to look at what they may or may not be doing right or may or may not be willing to do. And there's this little fear of abandonment- if you're o

Words are powerful and if left unchecked, they can cause self-sabotaging behaviors and thoughts. This is what happened to Kiko Ellsworth, but he is a living example that you can create a path of healing by getting to the core of who you truly are. Kiko's confidence eroded after hearing his dad say he couldn't do something. It led him to years of searching for external validation only to realize that self-worth comes from within, not from others. In today's insightful episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, he shares with us how harnessing the power of self-love changed his life. About Guest/Topic Kiko Ellsworth is an Emmy award-winning actor, producer, and director who has appeared in hundreds of television episodes, films, and commercials. Several years ago he dropped all his agents and managers, walked away from the entertainment industry to build a more fulfilling life for himself. He is now a Kundalini Yoga teacher and men's evolutionary life coach. He also teaches women self-defense and is the founder of an online school called Ma'at University. He hosted and emceed Evolving Men of Color, a one-day virtual summit that focused on teaching men of color to be more empowered and provided them with the tools they need to be more successful in every area of life. In This Episode Who is Kiko Ellsworth? [0:11] What happened to Kiko when he was 5 years old? [3:36] What was Kiko's life like and what did he do to change it? [6:34] …and many more Quotes "I did lots of stuff in my life but I didn't have me. I didn't have me. And so, you know, that was always an underlying self-sabotage feeling that I had. Just at, you know, right here in my shoulder, no matter what I did, what I accomplished, where I went, it was always right there." [5:18] "I never felt myself. I had to keep doing these external things to sort of build up an area inside of me that was like a black hole that they would never fulfill because I was constantly looking for these external validations, these external tools, these external things to fill something that I could only be fulfilled from the inside out not the outside in." [7:38] "No one's gonna give you the answer. The answer is going within….You've gotta figure this out. You go to do the work, that's the key. And there are no shortcuts. You are a champion. You are a queen, a king, an empress. You are the light. You are divine. You are the love. You are the power... Love is the only power and you are love, but you gotta figure out the love that is you…Once you figured that out you've got everything." [18:53] "While you are struggling, find the beauty. Find the love in the struggle. Because look, no matter what you feel about where you are right now, this is life. And once, you can establish certain truths, then you start build yourself out. Life is beautiful, no matter how you feel about it." [25:03] Resources Mentioned Kiko Ellsworth PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift

We often do things unconsciously to preserve our memories of precious people who have gone before us. Sometimes, remembrance takes the form of bad habits that we need to break. But how can you stay connected with your departed loved ones without getting yourself stuck? My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing how you can be intentional in incorporating new beliefs and behaviors into your routine while maintaining that deep connection with your loved ones. In This Episode Find out how people keep their pain alive Understand the root cause of some bad habits Learn how to get unstuck and move forward Transcription Hi there, welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi. So this was coming up within The PBT Institute with some of our members and I'm wondering if it's something that may be happening to you. I want to make sure I share it so this way, if it's something you're doing, you know why. Have you ever felt like you're stuck, you feel so stuck, you're doing the work, you're trying to change your beliefs, you're trying to incorporate these new habits into your routine and there is just something about it that no matter what you do, you cannot move forward? And what happens is you keep trying these new things, you keep getting aggravated and discouraged and thinking; "I don't get it. I'm doing everything, why am I still stuck?" Well here's something that I've found and this is my over 30 years of coaching. I have seen this come up a few times, and I'm wondering if it's something you may be doing. I remember years ago when I was working with someone and she explained this version of herself she wanted to be. Beautiful, fit, healthy, successful. I mean it was this amazing image. I asked her where she was right now, and she described herself and she wasn't really eating well, she didn't have the best belief system in place, she was settling for relationships and work that she wasn't really happy about. And she smoked cigarettes. I asked her; "What's up with the cigarettes? That version of you that you described, I can't imagine that version of you smoking cigarettes." She didn't know either, and she was really stuck so I started diving deeper and I said; "Tell me about your about your relationships." And she started talking and I know I'm probing deeper and trying to get to the root of things, and all of a sudden she starts talking about her mom and her mom passed away from lung cancer from smoking. I remember at that very moment, thinking to myself, Hmm, I wonder if she's smoking as almost to keep that bond. And that legacy going. So before I had a chance to stop myself, I blurted it out and I said; "Do you think you're smoking has anything to do with your mom?" And she looked at me, it was that deer in the headlights look and I know we're onto something. And I kept going and I said; "Well, would your mom want you to smoke? And she said; "Absolutely not." And we realized, she was grieving and mourning the loss of her mom and it was almost like if she kept smoking, that would continue that bond. So we don't want to break those bonds, if that's all we have left. So I shifted the conversation and asked: "What would happen if, instead of the bond, being that you continue to smoke, what would it be like if instead, in honor of your mom, you stopped smoking? So, it still had to do with her mom, it still had to do with that deep connection, but now she's doing something really positive with it instead of really something negative. It was the last cigarette she ever smoked. And it came up again recently where one of our members was stuck, just so stuck doing all the work, doing all the right things, and just stuck. And so I brought this up again. And it was a family issue going way, way, way back where playing a certain role, and acting in a certain way, would keep this legacy alive. And so then I asked; "Now that this person is on the other side, would they want you playing small would they want you staying safe would they want you not living the best of your ability and becoming your highest and best? "Well of course not." "So what if, instead of keeping that bond going by keeping those beliefs going, and even though that's all we have left with that person, we keep ourselves, sort of locked in our own cage because this is, this is what we have and we don't want to eliminate and, get rid of that bond we have with them. What if instead we did this in honor of them." It was one of those experiences again where I just saw her face light up. And I knew at that moment, that was one of the biggest needle movers that was keeping her stuck in Stage three, talking about the five Stages from betrayal to breakthrough. That's what was keeping her stuck in Stage three, and having her move right into stage four. I see this with so many people all the time. We're not staying stuck because we want to. Sometimes we need the tools, we need the resources. we need ju

Betrayal can run so deep that it can damage your self-worth for a very long time. For Felicia Searcy, who grew up in an abusive home, the betrayal of her family left her in emotional and social turmoil for many years. Her unresolved trauma made her feel inadequate and unlovable, to the point of depression. In today's insightful episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, Felicia discusses how she was able to rise above her story and heal from her old wounds. Drawing from her personal experiences and her expertise as a transformational coach, she is here to inspire others to turn their biggest crises into their biggest gifts. About Guest/Topic Felicia's purpose is her passion: to empower you to discover and express your best self as you create the life that you love. She is an award-winning transformational coach, international speaker, author, and minister who has helped thousands create a path for living their dream life. For over 20 years, Felicia has worked with people from all walks of life who are seeking the spiritual side of success. As a highly sought-after international speaker, she has shared the stage with powerhouse leaders like International Speaker, Mary Morrissey; Founder and CEO of eWomenNetwork, Sandra Yancey; and international motivational speaker, Les Brown. Felicia's proven "dream activation code" helps folks just like you, accelerate your results as you create a richer, more fulfilling life. In This Episode Who is Felicia Searcy? [0:12] What did Felicia go through? [1:52] How did Felicia's past experiences affect her relationships? [4:51] What led Felicia to make changes in her life? [13:15] …and many more Quotes "Seeing people who really go through the darkest, most upsetting times are truly the most joyful. I believe it's because they have the gift of perspective." [19:31] "When we harness everything that happened for us and we transmute it into, you know, first, forgiveness and deep compassion where forgiveness isn't even necessary any longer and then, take it and put it in service to that which brings us most alive that's when we're contributing at the highest" [25:22] "You do a spiritual by-pass when you think that you should be holy and noble. Well, what I invite you to do is that yes, you want to stay spiritual connected but don't deny the human experience. Don't deny the human feelings – there's sadness, there's anger." [26:23] "But I would make sure that I surrounded myself with people who can hold me compassionately but not walk down that rabbit hole of despair with me" [27:03] Resources Mentioned Felicia Searcy's Website PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift

A painful experience such as abuse, abandonment, or betrayal can have a profound impact on various aspects of our lives. It can leave us feeling stuck and full of self-limiting beliefs, or it can present an opportunity for growth and transformation. Ask yourself: have your experiences left you healed...or hardened? My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I will be discussing the healed-or-hardened spectrum, explore its possible manifestations in your life, and what you can do if you find yourself hardened. In This Episode Understand what "hardened" and "healed" mean Discover how it looks like if you healed versus hardened Identify where you are at in your transformation journey Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi. Today's question is: Are you healed, or are you hardened? This is a little bit of a preview of my upcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life you Love. So let's start with a few definitions. According to the dictionary "hardened", is to confirm in disposition, feelings, or actions. To be hardened to is to make callous and to toughen. So for our purposes, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're angry or bitter, it can mean that old baggage is just bogging you down. It can mean that limiting beliefs and behaviors have created beliefs that are keeping you stuck and preventing you from seeing things another way. So how do these beliefs show up? Well, they show up in almost every area of life. For example, you may see it in relationships, and it could look like this: A previous belief that you're less than, unworthy, broken, or not enough in some way has you settling for behavior you'd never tolerate if you felt better. A previously painful experience (like abuse, abandonment, or betrayal) has you believing that it's simply how relationships work, so you need to find a way to accept it. A previous experience with a toxic friend, boss, or coworker has you believing there's nothing that can be done about it, so do your best to accept the toxic behavior. Those beliefs keep you in a painful place, and the longer you stay in that spot, the worse it gets. Please know that I'm not saying to flee the minute relationships get uncomfortable; that's not what I'm saying at all. It's often the discomfort that helps us grow, and it can actually take relationships to the next level of trust and intimacy. What I am saying is that the belief that there's nothing you can do about it, or nothing better you can hope for, coupled with the resignation that prevents you from believing/saying/doing anything different, slowly hardens you. "Healed," on the other hand, is to make sound or whole. To make well again, to restore, and to correct. Using the examples above, here's how they'd look if you were healed versus hardened: A previous belief that you're less than, unworthy, broken, or not enough in some way had you settling for behavior you'd never tolerate if you felt better. It dawns on you that you are worthy, deserving, and lovable. You start by giving yourself all the love you may never have received in the past, so you realize how wonderful you are. From that space, you can't help but radiate love, because that's who you are. Since like energy attracts like energy, you can't help but attract that same love you've been giving others right back to you. A previously painful experience (like abuse, abandonment, or betrayal) had you believing that it's simply how relationships work, so you need to find a way to accept it. You've done your research; you've done the work to heal, and you realize that "even though it was done to you, it's not about you." While that time in your life was intensely painful, all you've done to move through it has created a version of you that's whole, healed, healthy, and transformed. A previous experience with a toxic friend, boss, or coworker had you believing there's nothing that can be done about it, so you do your best to accept their toxic behavior. It occurs to you that this was exactly the push you needed to either speak up or start that business you've been longing to start. You find your voice, and in doing so, you subtly change the rules around how people treat you. You simply don't tolerate toxic behavior, and the more you work to grow through it, the more you realize that you've been personalizing their behavior when it actually has nothing to do with you. You see it so clearly, and instead of seeing through the eyes of anger, you're compassionate, because you realize: "Hurt people, hurt people." It doesn't excuse the behavior; you're still not tolerating it, but you see where it's coming from, and it doesn't hurt you anymore. Where have your experiences left you? Not sure? No worries, that's what my newest book: From Hardened to Healed is all about. See, nothing is wrong or a problem unless it's preventing you from being,

Jealousy is nearly unavoidable in most relationships, and that's true in polyamory as well. Polyamory is when people agree to have multiple, simultaneous romantic relationships. You can imagine how jealousy may show up there—but you'd be surprised at how similar those experiences are in all kinds of different relationships. Dr. Joli Hamilton has long been fascinated by the concept of jealousy. It has featured in many of her life experiences, including her own polyamorous relationships, and eventually led to her doing her dissertation on the topic. In this episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, Joli talks about the importance of setting boundaries, investing in yourself, and taking the time to confront and understand your jealousy in creating a lasting and loving relationship, regardless of how many people are in it. About Guest/Topic Joli Hamilton is a research psychologist, an AASECT certified sex educator, a TEDx speaker, and a sex and relationship coach. She has a doctorate in depth psychology from the Pacifica Graduate Institute and is a professor of human sexuality. She is also known for her work on the archetypal experience of jealousy. Over the years, she has helped many of her clients improve their relationship skills, giving them the tools they need to meet the relationship's changing needs. She has opened over a dozen different business ventures all while managing her own relationships, pursuing a graduate degree, and raising and homeschooling seven children. Joli has felt all the wild highs and terrible lows that come with business ownership, marriage, divorce, and reinventing love from the bottom-up. She is committed to helping women create sustainable, soul-nourishing relationships without sacrificing their careers. In This Episode Who is Joli Hamilton? [0:11] Why study jealousy? [2:25] What is polyamory? [3:57] Her experience with polyamory and jealousy [7:46] Lessons from her polyamorous relationship [23:51] How to successfully address jealousy [26:28] Quotes "We can't just decide to start a whole new relationship structure with nothing behind us, with no background, no model...and polyamory is not for the faint of heart, right? If you're going to get into something where there's more than one love attachment, betrayal is like right there, jealousy is right there." [5:00] "One of the things that I tell people when they're going to have a complicated relationship, any kind of complicated relationship, is the foundation needs to be extremely secure. You need to be secure in yourselves and secure together. And if it's not then alterations to the standard model are probably going to bring big challenges." [17:12] "Would I change my polyamorousness? I wouldn't, because for me, that is the honest truth, that I fall in love with more than one person at a time...if I deny my own sense of falling in love, all that happens is I keep secrets, and that doesn't work for me, so instead I pull it out and it lives as a central part of my life that I stay very aware of." [24:39] "If we only measure our relationship's worth by its longevity, we're missing out on measuring all the things we learned, all the love that was had, and all the joy that we found while we were in it." [29:45] Resources Mentioned Joli Hamilton Website PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift

No matter how much we plan our lives, the unexpected happens, leaving us completely dumbfounded. When we're feeling lost and don't know what to do next, it can cause deep fear, dread, and anxiety. But while our state of confusion may feel as if it's a roadblock to getting to where we need to be, it actually serves a purpose for our breakthrough. It allows us to dig deeper within ourselves and search more vigorously for clarity. My name Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I will discuss how confusion can lead to new insights and possibly, an entirely different direction with opportunities that you could have never even imagined before. In This Episode Understand what happens when there's a shakeup in your life Discover why confusion is good Learn how what to do when you're in intense confusion Transcription Hi there and welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi. I want to talk about something today that I see a lot. It's something that, if you don't know it's coming, it can be a little frightening, maybe very frightening. But, if you understand it ahead of time, it can make you feel a little bit more comfortable. When I see people healing, I see this a lot. It's this intense confusion. We think confusion is a bad thing, it's actually a really good thing. Here's what I mean. Life as you had known it is going along and you know where to go, you know where to be, you have your routine mapped out, etc. It's sort of predictable. Everything is going as it's been going, and then all of a sudden there is this complete disruption of life as you've known it. And if that's not as big of a shake up as you need, what also happens is it gives you the opportunity to question everything. It's that intense of a shakeup that it wakes us up out of this numbness, out of this sort of stupor, that we may have been in, and it gives us an opportunity to ask ourselves questions like: "What am I doing?" "What am I feeling?" "What have I been tolerating?" We begin to look at what's working, what's not working, and all of these questions come up. It's intensely, confusing. But, that's good! Because what happens is, once the dust settles, it's going to allow for clarity and possibly an entire new direction that you never would have had access to, had that not happened. Insights that you never would have had access to, had that not happened. You know I love giving analogies so this is one that comes to mind. I write about it in Trust Again, where I explain how this confusion is a good thing. And it's kind of like this. Imagine you're running in one direction, you are just running and running and running as fast and as far as you can, like Forrest Gump running. You're just going, going, going, going, going. Then all of a sudden you realize; "Wow, I don't think this is the right direction. This no longer serves, I'm kind of done with this." Think about what happens. What happens is you slow yourself down. You turn, you pivot, and then you begin to move in a different direction until you pick up speed and now you're running in a completely new and different direction. This direction may possibly serve you so much better. That confusion that we feel that feeling like we had it all together, we knew exactly what we were doing, we had it all figured out and now it's like we can't even tie our shoes, like we can't fight our way out of a paper bag. We just can't figure any of this out. That's like the running in the one direction, the "wait a second, this doesn't serve, I don't think this is right. I don't think this is what I want to do, where I need to be. It's not in my best interest anymore." So you stop and you pivot and you redirect before you take off in the new direction that's going to take you where you're now ready to go, where it is that you're meant to be, at this point in your life. So that's what this confusion is about and I wanted to just to be sure to share that because I know how painful that confusion can be. I remember feeling it myself, I knew exactly what my life plan was, and what my business was and I had it all figured out. And then the betrayal happened, and my entire life as I had known it came to a complete crash. Everything that I thought I knew and I thought I wanted and I thought I had all figured out was completely destroyed. But in that complete and utter death and destruction of the old (and you've heard me say this) allows for the birth of something new. And when that dust settled, and when I started to see things a bit more clearly, when I was now in a mindset of willingness to say; "What the heck do I do with this, where do I go now what do I do?" Well, that's when I got the insight, and the idea for The PBT Institute. So, you are setting yourself up for amazing downloads and insights, and all kinds of wonderful things with this confusion. Although you may be in that place of confusion right now, (and I know how hard it is) stay with it, because when that dust se

When you have experienced a stressful event in your life, it is easy to get stuck in your worries or fears. Madhur-Nain Websters believes that you don't have to live this way. Madhur-Nain has discovered the benefits of Kundalini Yoga in calming the nervous system and retraining the "monkey mind." Now, she helps others use this technique to move forward with their lives and achieve self-healing. In this insightful episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, she discusses how meditative tools can free people from their negative thought loop and help them release their pain and attachments. About Guest/Topic Madhur-Nain Websters' life has been balanced by the traditions and practices of Kundalini Yoga. She has a deep love of humanity and a fascination with the human mind and human behaviors, which led her to her current career path where she uses psychology and meditation to enrich the lives of others. She received her Master's Degree from the University of Oregon and moved to California, where she became a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She currently runs a therapy practice in Napa, California. Her belief in the positive influence of meditation on a person's psyche and well-being plays a major role in her approach to therapy, and also inspired her first book, The Stressless Brain. One of her goals is to bring meditation and chanting—some of the basic tenets of Kundalini Yoga—into the mainstream. As a result, she has created over 45 singles and has produced 4 CDs. In This Episode Who is Madhur-Nain Webster? [0:11] How is the body impacted by stress and anxiety? [2:12] What happens when stress is ignited and anxiety is keeping it going? [4:19] How can yoga help with stress and anxiety? [8:25] What is Kundalini Yoga? [22:00] …and many more Quotes "Words are seeds and they can plant, and become weeds and they can, you know, take over our mind and we can loop in this reoccurring worrying thoughts, or they just decompose…and that's where we can get stuck, when we start looping." [08:01] "So, yoga is a meditation for your body...when you're doing breathwork and movement and you're holding a posture and you're bringing that focus of flow into your body, you're able to shift energy." [8:49] "Each yoga class is a little bit like a therapy but you're not talking with other people…it allows people to be on a journey of self-discovery and more awareness. When we are more aware, then, we can say, "Oh, wow! Look at how I behaved here, and how can I change that?" [9:25] "Quantum physics science says [sic] that, what we put out comes back to us tenfold. So when you bless your enemy when you bless those who've hurt us, which is easier said than done… it helps to heal you." [17:08] Resources Mentioned Madhur-Nain Websters' Website PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift

Betrayal has detrimental effects on the sufferer's physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Healing is possible, and there are five Stages every person must work through to fully heal. However, many people tend to linger in the third Stage; they get comfy there, get stuck, and have a hard time lifting themselves up to the next Stage. Hi, I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing the five Stages of going from betrayal to breakthrough—and why it is important not to get stuck in Stage 3. We will also tackle what you can do to successfully move through each Stage. In This Episode Learn about The Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough Discover what's getting in the way of Post Betrayal Transformation Find out how you can avoid getting stuck in your healing journey Transcription Hi there, another Dose of Dr. Debi. Today I'm talking about getting unstuck. For the past few years I've been teaching about the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough and just to back up a bit. If you aren't familiar, I did a PhD study that made three groundbreaking discoveries. One was that well we can stay stuck for years, decades, a lifetime and so many of us do, if we're going to fully heal, (going from symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome to this whole healed, strong, empowered state of Post Betrayal Transformation), both of those were the other discoveries, we will go through five now proven predictable stages. What's even more exciting about that is, we even know what happens physically, mentally and emotionally at every one of those stages, and we know what it takes to move from one stage to the next. That discovery was so exciting, because that was the moment we realized healing is predictable. If we are willing to do what it takes to move from one Stage to the next, we will predictably heal. So, in teaching The Five Stages and moving people through The Five Stages one thing has become incredibly clear. The most common Stage to get stuck in is Stage three. People stay in Stage three for a lifetime! I want to briefly go through what The Five Stages are so you can see which Stage you're in. See if you may be stuck in Stage three. Most importantly, I have something very exciting to share with you - a better way to move through it. So here are The Stages. Stage one is like a setup stage, and I saw this with every study participant including me too. If you imagine four legs of a table-(the four legs being physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) what I saw with everybody was a real heavy lean on the physical and the mental and really not prioritizing the emotional and the spiritual. What does that look like? It looks like we're really good at thinking and doing, not really prioritizing the feeling and being. We're in our head, we're not in our hearts. If we only have two legs of a table, it's easy for that table to topple over. That's us. Stage two, by far the scariest of all of the stages. This is the shock, D-day (discovery day), and it's the breakdown of the body, the mind and the worldview. This is like where that person you trusted takes the mask off and reveals who I've been this whole time. It's a complete shock. So, with that, we ignite the stress response and we're headed for just about every single stress related symptom, illness, condition, disease. Our mind is in a complete and total state of chaos and overwhelm-we cannot wrap our mind around the information we just learned. This makes no sense. And our worldview shattered. Our worldview is our mental model, the rules that govern us and prevent chaos (ex: don't go there, trust this person, this is how it works, etc.). Then, in one earth-shattering moment or series of moments, everything we've known to be real and true is no longer. The bottom has truly bottomed out on us. I remember one of my study participants saying about Stage two: "It feels like every negative emotion you can imagine, getting punched in the gut, and losing a child in a crowd, all at the same time." It's hard, it's horrible. So imagine if the bottom were to bottom out on you, what would you do? You'd grab hold of anything and everything you could to stay safe and stay alive and that stage three, survival instincts emerge. Stage three: It's the most practical of all of the stages. "If you can't help me get out of my way." "How do I survive this experience?" "Who can I trust?" Where do I go?" "How do I feed my kids?" It's that practical. Here's the trap. Once we figured out how to survive, because it feels so much better than the shock and trauma of where we just came from, we think it's good. And because we have no idea there's a Stage four and Stage five, we start planting roots here. We set up camp here. We figure; "Well okay, this is, I have to make this work." And we start planting these roots in this spot. We're not supposed to be here long, but we don't know that. Then, four things start to happen. The first t

What do you do when millions of people see and criticize your actions? Would you be able to take the flood of criticism and judgment? AdaPia d'Errico knows just how much of an ordeal this can be. Back in 2018, AdaPia went on stage to deliver a keynote speech in Los Angeles, California. She talked about her first marriage, where she betrayed herself by staying even though she was unhappy. It was shared online and became viral. The video reached 40 million views with 100,000 comments and 250 shares on Facebook. To her shock, people thought she had no good reason for leaving her husband. She was bombarded with hurtful comments and death threats, which led her to a very dark place. In today's episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, she imparts the importance of speaking your truth, overcoming your fears, bouncing back, and so much more. About Guest/Topic AdaPia d'Errico is a visionary leader with 20+ years of experience across countries, cultures, and both corporate and start-up environments. She's co-founded businesses, launched brands, and defined industries. She is a respected fintech entrepreneur, executive, and evangelist who brought real estate crowdfunding into the mainstream. In This Episode Who is AdaPia Derrico? [0:10] What is AdaPia's story? [1:35] How she moved through her trauma [27:40] …and many more Quotes "But if people don't hear the good enough reason that matches their expectation then, they'll lash out because there's gotta be something inside of them that's unhealed or that's broken or that's hurt or that feels betrayed, so that projection came on me in a massive way." [6:51] "I had to learn the lesson around honor yourself. You [sic] have to honor myself and keep saying what I need to say irrespective of whether someone's gonna continue to attack me because that's their issue." [19:34] "But if I can do it—and I'm really not that special, right? I'm not, I'm not a guru, I'm not enlightened—but if I can do it, anyone can make it through. We're not given anything that we can't handle and on the other side of it is our growth." [32:13] "You can do it. Trust yourself and if you can, like, trust yourself as in trust your heart, and trust what it's telling you because that's your power right there." [32:35] Resources Mentioned AdaPia d'Errico Website PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift