From Betrayal To Breakthrough

It's common to struggle with low self-esteem, confidence, and feelings of unworthiness-especially if we grew up hearing without the love and support we may have needed to create a strong sense of self. Add to that being blindsided by those we've trusted and it's definitely going to have us questioning ourselves, our worth, even our sanity. How do we regain and reclaim a sense of worth, confidence, and empowerment? That's what this episode is all about. In This Episode Learn about the 5-day free Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs challenge so you can kick those disempowering beliefs to the curb Discover how this challenge can help you create a new set of beliefs which will help you overcome your negative feelings Know why it's important to heal ourselves and avoid being stuck in betrayal Quotes "You can't change something you're not aware of." [2:21] "You will see the ultimate version of you, at your physical, mental, and emotional best, at your personal and professional best." [4:18] "We're like minds coming together, working towards a common goal." [5:06] "There's so much you want to do. But it's hidden under layers of fear, doubt, insecurity." [7:39] Resources Join the free 5-Day Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs Challenge The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Christine Howard is a sought-after speaker and innovative business leader. Her transformative products and coaching services books and talks are instrumental in awakening the radiance and power of women's true beauty and their ability to achieve their soul-centered calling, passionate in her commitment to inspiring the lives of women. About Guest/Topic Christine's work first began during her own transformational heartbreak, rising from a startling diagnosis of breast cancer followed by a painful divorce. Today she is widely known as an authority on radiant achievement, teaching, and speaking to audiences worldwide. This episode is all about growth, letting go, transformation, and self-care. In This Episode Learn about how experiences of betrayal can lead you to unexpected transformation Discover how to step out of chaos and live a radiantly fulfilling life Quotes "The stress I was facing in my marriage was part of what created the health conditions, too." [3:46] "I'd love doing quick writes as far as the journal, and I would sit down and have no particular - just what I was feeling, just connecting in, getting still and quiet, and then whatever came up writing it down." [11:26] "I stopped those emotions that hurt the denial." [16:55] "I was the biggest betrayer of me." [20:14] "That transformation is a reawakening of my essence." [27:37] "You don't have to have it all figured out. You don't have to know all the steps. You have to be willing to step into a higher version of you and use everything in front of you that you're going through, as an opportunity for growth." [29:33] Resources Mentioned Christine Howard Website Other Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Debi's Facebook group

Post betrayal syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Over 7,000 people at this point, have taken the assessment to see to what extent they're struggling. Lots of trauma but the good news is, it can lead to amazing transformation and that's what this episode is about. In This Episode Discover what transformation looks like Learn how we can feel a sense of peace and confidence when we heal Know why a person won't even realize what's happening by what they're doing because they're becoming Quotes "People come into this work with some sort of trauma or crisis, and they're doing the hard work to slay those dragons." [0:42] "It's such a beautiful thing to see and it's something I feel so privileged to witness." [1:56] "They've healed so much. They can't help but want to share this." [6:15] "I love that concept of death and rebirth. And it's only when there's that death of the old can there be that birth of the new.." [8:27] Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Palmer Kippola is an author, speaker, and functional medicine certified health coach who specializes in helping people reverse and prevent autoimmune conditions. She developed a framework called F.I.G.H.T.S.™ to help others beat autoimmune conditions, based on her 26-year battle to overcome multiple sclerosis. About Guest/Topic Palmer Kippola has done coursework with the National Institute of Functional Medicine, HeartMath® Institute, and Functional Medicine Coaching Academy. She founded Transcend Autoimmune - a growing Facebook community of people proactively seeking to reverse or prevent autoimmune conditions. In addition, she has studied under leading experts in nutrition, holistic health, energy, and functional medicine. Her life's work is to seek, simplify, and share science, stories, and strategies to help others achieve vibrant health through her 3 decades of experience, research, and client successes. In This Episode Learn science stories and strategies to help people heal and thrive Discover alternative modalities that can heal people physically, mentally and emotionally from a sense of abandonment Know how the F.I.G.H.T.S.™ framework is beneficial to overcoming autoimmune conditions Quotes "I'm so sorry. Please forgive me, I forgive you. Thank you, I love you." [12:13] "When we harbor these resentments and regrets, and this animosity and anger, and everything that we keep on our body, we know that those beliefs can drive our biology." [14:09] "What happens in childhood does not stay in childhood." [19:33] "There's nothing we need to learn how to elicit the stress reaction, but in order to heal, and the only place where you can heal is in the relaxation response." [25:18] "Sometimes we need a little help in working with somebody who can help us find the answers." [31:35] Resources Mentioned Palmer Kippola Website Palmer's Free Optimal Food Guide

Post-Betrayal Syndrome is A collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms common to betrayal. One common connection I see all the time is this; the link between anger and your health. In This Episode Learn the physical, mental and emotional symptoms that are so common to betrayal Discover how anger can impact your health How can one rebuild the self - coming back from abandonment, rejection, confidence worthiness, trust Quotes "Experiencing betrayal absolutely can leave you with PTSD triggers." [6:07] "So what I see is so often, it's like we're playing this game of whack-a-mole, you know, where we just were trying to tamp down one symptom or one emotion and then another one comes up." [11:38] "Nothing is left untouched with a betrayal. And it needs to be acknowledged, it needs to be validated." [14:35] "People are acting from their current level of consciousness." [16:53] "I'm worth so much more than this. I deserve to feel better. I deserve to look better. I deserve to live better." [17:22] "Staying stuck truly is a choice." [21:28] "When you can heal from something as devastating as betrayal, there are no limits." [22:14] Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Dr. Keesha Ewers is an integrative medicine expert, Doctor of Sexology, Family Practice ARNP, Psychotherapist, herbalist, is board certified in functional medicine and Ayurvedic medicine, and is the founder and medical director of the Academy for Integrative Medicine Health Coach Certification Program. About Guest/Topic After conducting the HURT Study in 2013, Dr. Keesha developed the HURT Model for understanding how past childhood trauma impacts adult health. This led to the creation of the You Unbroken online program for patients to heal their own trauma and the Mystic Medicine deep immersion healing retreats she leads at her home on San Juan Island, WA. As an integrative Medicine Medical Provider, she has specialized her clinical focus in digestive and hormonal health, and in reversing autoimmune disease. In This Episode Learn about "The Freedom Framework" Know more about how your mind and body can get rid of toxins Why it's important to watch your language How your mind responds to what you physically mentally and emotionally feed it Quotes "We are symptom managers." [3:49] "I think there must be different roads to the top of this mountain." [8:56] "People are very intelligent people, but they can also be very judgmental, and they can be very acerbic and acidic." [10:57] "I was thinking about this word autoimmune, and I realized I was attacking myself." [13:20] "There are all kinds of different experiences you're going to have that you won't be able to understand and unless you have by your side 24/7 - a well-attuned, well-adapted, well-attached caregiver to be able to help you navigate those things, and make up meanings that fit your level of development and your brain function." [19:46] "Everyone has their own unique puzzle, and you have to solve your own puzzle." [26:10] Resources Mentioned Dr. Keesha Ewers Website The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

What can you always count on? Change. It's in getting familiar with the unfamiliar, we're able to adapt and adjust when change comes our way. In This Episode Learn why change is consistent in any aspect of life Discover how change can bring about the highest and best in people How change can be the most natural although also one of the hardest parts of life Quotes "Life goes on and change goes on." [2:24] "It just struck me between the so many beautiful changes happening and then so many unwelcome changes." [4:46] "Every change at some level is in our highest and best good." [6:15] Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Teri Cochrane is an internationally known integrative practitioner and thought leader in personalized health care and longevity. She was a risk manager by trade, and soon became a risk manager for her children's health. She's developed her own methodology, "The Cochrane Method", which integrates a multi-level nutritional approach including biochemistry, nutrition, genetic tendencies, or biology, and counseling to develop personalized plans for her clients. About Guest/Topic Teri's children are her greatest teachers. Their health conditions led her to seek solutions to their health crises. They both recovered from life-threatening illnesses when she discerned the root cause of their imbalances, changing the way they ate to support their unique genetic blueprint. Today, her son is a happy and healthy 23-year-old young man who no longer suffers from asthma, eczema, or failure to thrive. He is a Junior Olympic Karate gold medalist, a talented musician, and a singer, and went to a top university on a full academic scholarship. While her daughter is now thriving at a top university, excelling in music, dance, and international policy. In This Episode Learn "The Cochrane Method" Know more about how Teri overcame her children's health challenges How people become empowered and informed through education The benefits of 45-day reboot to eating to your genetic blueprint Quotes "Our body is giving us a really deep and true signal - do something else, look at it differently." [6:05] "Our food supply has betrayed us because of the way that we have treated the food." [19:36] "I'm going to always have that as an opinion. And it's part of my kind of being my cup, my constellation of all sorts of information by which I will make an informed decision." [25:19] "The first thing is to start reading your food labels. I say if you can't read it, don't eat it." [25:52] "I really think that information is power and I also say that fear paralyzes the truth." [27:03] "Let's get informed. Let's start doing our research. Let's not be swayed by fancy marketing or a fear-mongering and there is hope, there's hope." [28:53] Resources Mentioned Teri Cochrane Website

Post betrayal syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Over 7,000 people at this point, took the assessment to see up to what extent they're struggling from. So many need heartbreaking details, but one came in and I thought would really help because it's something we see all the time: after all the betrayal we've been through, can people really keep their faith? In This Episode Learn where transformation comes in Discover the benefits of staying stuck and why does it happen Learn about mind-body connection when dealing with betrayal Quotes "We see betrayals showing up in every single area of life." [0:55] "Over time, these unhealed betrayals keep us sick, sad, stuck." [2:28] "Here's the problem - once we figured out how we can survive the experience, that's as far as we go." [3:31] "There's a version of you so confident, so healthy, so energized, so bold, so empowered, so awesome, that's just waiting to be worth it." [8:22] Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Certification

You have probably heard of mindfulness as a buzzword before, but have you ever taken the time to explore exactly what the mind is? Darrin Ford is a licensed marriage and family therapist, nationally recognized speaker and internationally recognized author, who is here today to share his knowledge about the utilization of mindfulness when looking for ways to heal. You can practice mindfulness while walking, sitting, standing, or lying down. By practicing weaving your mindfulness into your everyday activities, you can change the way you think, act, and react and find more peace. Mindfulness can help you be less reactive to your triggers and help you on your path towards healing. Darrin knows what it is like to be stuck in a trauma or addiction loop, and is here today to share his knowledge with you so that you can stop feeding into your reactions and start being more present. By adopting an observational relationship with your thoughts, behaviors, and habits, you can better understand your emotions and start to interject mindfulness to better suit your destiny. Time, consistency, and self-compassion are the keys to mindfulness, and with Darrin's help, you can integrate mindfulness into your daily life seamlessly. Are you ready to take the time to adapt mindfulness into your life? Share your history with mindfulness with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode How to recognize when you are not being mindful and become more present Tips on ways to incorporate mindful habits into your daily life Explore the difference between mindfulness and meditation The role of equanimity and neuroplasticity when it comes to mindfulness How to practice non-judgment by practicing getting to know your emotions Quotes "You start to integrate these small interjections of mindfulness into your life, in small little doses, not in these big formal old fashioned ways. That doesn't work for our busy lives, it's not functional." (6:22) "It's not that they wouldn't feel the emotion connected to the trigger, its the way that we react to that emotion would be different, or would be more constructive versus destructive." (14:59) "You are the observer of this moment. You are the thing that sees your thoughts, see your mind's reaction. You're the one who has the ability to see that and then once you see it you can make a choice. I'm not saying that's an easy choice, I'm not saying that when you choose not to react in the addictive, compulsive way, that you won't feel a lot of emotional distress. You absolutely will. However, that is what's needed." (22:30) "Emotions move us, they are an unconscious feeling that drives our thoughts. Our thoughts manifest into beliefs, our beliefs manifest into behaviors, our behaviors are practiced into habits, and our habits become our destiny." (24:33) Links Sano Center for Recovery Website The Mindfulness Academy for Addiction and Trauma Training Website Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/120 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Post betrayal syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Over 7,000 people at this point, took the assessment to see up to what extent they're struggling from. So many need heartbreaking details, but one came in and I thought would really help because it's something we see all the time: after all the betrayal we've been through, can people really keep their faith? In This Episode Learn the significant lesson that betrayal will teach Where to find support when dealing with betrayal trauma Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal Quotes "I've been through betrayal so many times I have no faith that I wouldn't find myself in another situation where betrayal is possible. And I just want relief." [1:16] "Repeat betrayals happen when you haven't learned the significant lesson that betrayal was there to teach." [1:28] "At a time where we need support the most, we're the least likely to seek it because we're embarrassed, we feel uncomfortable. There's so much shame." [9:03] "They may walk in with that trauma, but they are leaving transformed." [11:43] "There's just a version of you so healthy, so strong, so awesome. And we need to clear that up to the best of you can just show up." [12:19] Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Certification

Sue Mocker is an author, professional speaker, and hope consultant. Sue works in the spheres of healthcare, ministry, education, and business to make transformational changes in the matters of the heart. After experiencing both marital betrayal and familial betrayal, Sue did the hard work to find hope after healing and is here today to share her knowledge with you. Through her humorous and homemade stories, Sue is helping prove that while hurt people may hurt people, healed people can heal people as well. Sue wants you to know that there is a different way to think, be loved, heal, and grow by setting boundaries and honoring the level of treatment that you are deserving of. By getting out of denial, calling out the lies you tell yourself, and grieving the process of betrayal, you can take giant brave leaps to be healed in a deep way while healing yourself and those around you. You are worth it to take the time to seek out help and find strength in your healing. Are you ready to do what Sue did and discover what is really true? Let us know what healing options you are exploring in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode How to rewire your brain to believe and trust in your worthiness The importance of letting down your guard and learning how to just breathe Ways that you can enter into the grieving process intentionally and on purpose Gain insight into different healing techniques such as EMDR, hypnotherapy and more Tips for becoming more familiar about different healing modalities guided by hope Quotes "I accepted poor treatment, I accepted things that people should never be accepted for treatment for their body. But what I do know, and what I have learned, is that childhood trauma, childhood sexual abuse, totally distorts the brain, totally changes what you think about yourself, totally reorganizes things in a way that creates a belief system about love, and it distorts it all." (7:44) "I started believing and understanding that my childhood trauma actually is connected to healing from this betrayal." (10:15) "There are all different kinds of reasons as to why we feel inadequate, insecure, unworthy, in different relationships. And its always helped me in my next step, whatever I was ready for." (18:58) "You do have value. There is hope, and there are modalities of healing out there that you may or may not connect too, that you may or may not have heard of, know about. Just find an opportunity to be open for something to be shown to you that is your next step." (26:50) "Healed people heal people, healing people heal people, you don't have to be completely there, you don't have to have completely arrived, but you are worth it." (27:43) Links Hope Allowed Website Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/119 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Often when we think of health issues as a symptom of an unhealed betrayal we think on the grand scale of things, including cancer and heart disease. But did you know that everything from IBS, to skin issues, headaches, and chronic fatigue, could be a symptom of something greater? If you have experienced any type of health issue, there is a very good chance that an unhealed betrayal could be at the root of your symptoms. Inna Topiler is a certified clinical nutritionist practicing a functional medicine approach to health, founder of Complete Nutrition and Wellness, Host of the Health Mysteries Solved Podcast, and so much more. While Inna did not start out to work in functional medicine, it was after a slew of her own health issues and a disappointment with the traditional treatment she received, that her passion to help others get to the root of their underlying health issues and reclaim their health began to take hold. Today Inna is here to give us a look at the connection between your head and heart and explore the vital roles these connections play in your ability to live your life to the fullest. Chronic illness can be a result of your body betraying you, and it is only by directly addressing these unresolved betrayals that you can remove the physical manifestation of betrayal and start healing your betrayal through loyalty. If you are struggling with physical symptoms that you just can't make sense of, Inna wants to encourage you to look into your past betrayals, start understanding the connection between the mind and the body, and acknowledge your symptoms so that you can breathe healing towards it. Have you ever experienced a bodily betrayal? Share your story of perseverance and determination with us in the comments section of the episode page. In This Episode What to do when following your Doctor's orders doesn't make you feel better Learn what functional medicine is and how it connects with your nutrition The difference between functional testing and traditional medical testing Tips for healing after the betrayal of your body and the medical system Techniques to help you break up with your negative thought patterns and pains Quotes "I sought out a lot of conventional therapy at first, as a lot of people would, and I was really disenchanted with a lot of the disjointed care that I was getting. I was really frustrated because after months of seeing so many doctors I still had no answers at all. And I was angry, upset, I felt really lost, but this is where I started to feel betrayed." (3:10) "With his help, I embarked on this journey to balance my body. Now understanding what was happening, it was really really empowering for me." (11:28) "If there is anything going on in the body that normally may not be a problem, it will be an issue because of that weak immune system that we created because of the stress, which is really due to this old betrayal piece that people don't realize." (17:42) "We shouldn't be afraid to bring up the negative if we are doing it in a way that's controlled. Almost that we are highlighting it for deletion, that's how I like to see it." (22:34) "Once we feel it, the goal is not to blame it or make it go away. But rather we want to really acknowledge it and almost thank it, in a way, for showing up." (25:04) Links Complete Nutrition and Wellness Website Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/118 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

If you ask me, fear is the biggest reason we stay stuck in our lives. While fear is at the root of almost everything, it is only by understanding the differences between irrational and realistic fears and constructive and destructive fears that we can reach the power of transformational fear. Dr. Carla Marie Manly is a clinical psychologist, author, and advocate who is here today to help us understand the different types of fear, how to work with them, and how to minimize them so that we can take action in a way that serves us best. With a direct and honest approach with a dose of humor, Dr. Manly is here to help you navigate the soulful adventure into self-awareness. Instead of getting used to the voice of destructive fear that is prevalent in our society, Dr. Manly wants you to slow down and regain your power over your fear. When going through a betrayal it is easy to stick to what you know and stay in your pain because it is familiar. Through the application of Dr. Manly's strategies, you can start to strengthen the constructive over the destructive and stop giving your betrayal wiggle room. It is possible to overcome what is keeping you stuck, and with the help of Dr. Manly, you can gain insight into this challenging topic and find a way to focus on your optimal wellness. The feelings you are having are universal and nothing to be ashamed of. By pushing through the shame you can start on your journey to healing and the joy that has been in you all along. Are you ready to allow yourself the power of knowing that through perseverance you can find the other side of fear? Share what gave you the most hope from Dr. Manly's advice in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Discover the different types of fear and the ways that you can identify them How to listen to the many voices of fear when going through a betrayal Why putting something in writing can start to squash your destructive fear The importance of becoming a part of a collective of women for support Tips for managing your fear and pushing through your shame Quotes "Unfortunately in this day and age, many of us are being riddled with irrational fears, unrealistic fears, that keep us from change, that keep us stuck and immobilized in life." (3:05) "This is the beautiful part about destructive fear. Destructive fear does not like the light. Destructive fear does not like clarity. Destructive fear does not like written agreements at all because destructive fear likes to be able to be manipulative and sneaky." (12:56) "When we make goals for ourselves, when we put things in writing, it becomes much more understandable for the psyche. That is why so many of us will make wishlists in our heads or think in our heads and not want to put it in writing. Because the minute we put something in writing, we feel a sense of clarity and accountability." (19:04) "There is something beautiful and connective about being held in a safe place where you can hear other women's stories. Their lows, their successes, and know that if they can do it, I can do it too." (21:48) "Everything is to do with a reminder to the self when you get weak, that these are real things that happen. Is that in line with the kind of life I want in my future?" (26:20) Links Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website Joy From Fear by Dr. Carla Manly Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/117 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Most good comedy and humor come from the painful parts of life, but have you ever considered how finding the humor in a hard situation could help you heal? Paul Osincup is a humor strategist, TEDx speaker, and leading expert in the professional application of humor to reduce stress, build resilience, increase influence, and boost happiness. Paul believes in the power of humor in leadership and is here today to share how humor can enhance health and human performance. Paul is on a mission to increase global workplace happiness by helping others rewire themselves to find the funny. By implementing tools to help you laugh a bit more, you may be able to heal from your betrayal a bit easier as well. There is real power in humor, and if you need help getting started, Paul is here to introduce you to the world of humor and help you develop your sense of humor intentionally and strategically. Laughing is proven to reduce cortisol, boosts serotonin and oxytocin, and helps improve your connection with others. By spicing up the mundane things in your life that you have to do, laughter is possible no matter what you are going through. Regardless of what type of humor you like, you can encourage the presence of humor in your life by implementing Paul's simple and effective strategies. Are you ready to train your brain to look for humor in the mundane and painful? Share how laughter has helped you heal in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Humor habits that you can develop to improve your sense of humor Learn about the different types of humor and how to add them to your daily routine How to use laughter to heal from your betrayal and improve your health Strategies to help you take a humor break to achieve the desired outcome What to do if you are having an off day and how to purposely develop humor Quotes "Humor is not a talent, humor is a habit." (3:26) "Ultimately, like any other form of communication, I think humor can be used as a tool and as a weapon. And for me, I like humor that makes people feel good and makes me feel good." (7:34) "We studied the application of humor and just doing that exercise seven days, writing down three things you found amusing or funny each day, they found actually decreases depressive symptoms and increases happiness for up to six months." (17:02) "Humor is one of the things that actually starts firing in all areas of the brain, and so it does a lot for our overall feelings of happiness." (19:09) "Just because something is hurtful, doesn't mean it's not okay to laugh about it. And there is a really close connection between laughing and crying." (22:39) "Regardless of what you are going through… you don't have to hope for humor to happen. You can harness it and be intentional about it." (28:34) Links Paul Osincup Website Leading With Laughter TEDx Talk Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor Website Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/116 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Stories of burnout are becoming increasingly frequent, but the standard medical community often brushes away the symptoms. After experiencing her own personal burnout, Nikole Stanfield realized that she needed to help others improve themselves through the same personal development. Now an Intuition Coach who helps successful business owners and entrepreneurs stop feeling unfulfilled and work through their burnout, Nikole's passion is helping others love what they do. In this episode, we will discover the connection between burnout and self-betrayal, learn ways that you can start to decrease your overwhelm in less than 30 minutes a day, and discover how we can break free from expectations to find a more authentic version of yourself. One for all of the people pleasers, type a's and hard workers out there, Nikole's advice is not to be missed. The thoughts you have had in the past may have served you then, but by shifting your thought patterns you can start to go after what you really want and not what you feel obligated to do. While it may feel excruciatingly painful to say no to somebody, by pushing through the uncomfortable, you can start to say yes to yourself instead. Are you ready to transform from an anchor into a set of wings? Share your experiences with burnout with us in the comments section of the episode page. In This Episode Learn about the connection between burnout and self-betrayal What you can do right now to start relieving some of your overwhelm How to change your brain from reactive to reflective through meditation Ways to identify if you are starting to enter into burnout territory The importance of taking time to do something that fills up your cup Quotes "I'm an overachiever and have done so many things and have been super busy in my life, so this was a totally new place to be, and I had no idea what to do. I was terrified, and I didn't know how to move forward." (5:05) "That's where I feel like the betrayal came in. That I just ran over myself. And I didn't listen to anything I wanted or what was best for me." (9:49) "When you are an entrepreneur you start taking on all these things that you need to hustle, this concept, you need to make sure that you are wearing all these different hats… and it gets overwhelming, its too much." (17:07) "If it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for them. I don't have to fall on the sword." (21:39) "The important part is that you recognize that you are having those thoughts. So then you can say okay, maybe I want to journal about it. Or you talk to someone you care about who will just listen to you. Or you work with a coach, or you meditate on it. Whatever that is, you can start to see how often this guilt is showing up in your life or this phrase that you keep telling yourself." (25:06) Links My Intuition Coach Website Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/115 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Are you exhausted with all you are doing to be beautiful? With all of that effort, you could be betraying yourself by denying discovering who you really are. Diane Kazer is a former pro-soccer player turned functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner, courage coach, and holistic beauty expert. Your go-to-girl to break through anything despite what you have been through or been told, Diane is here today to stop the patterns of toxic beauty and put an end to the toxic stories we tell ourselves once and for all. The price of being beautiful is one of the biggest measures of self-betrayal, and Diane is here to help you release the toxic chemicals, toxic stories, and beliefs that are keeping you confined to your suffering, sickness, and sadness. By cleansing your body, healing your hormones, and igniting your life, Diane's tried and true method of healing can help you discover and appreciate who you are truly meant to be. Diane wants to show you the template of a healthier way of life so that you can cleanse your stories, heal your trauma, and ignite your purpose. If you are spending a lifetime trying to please others in the way that you look, feel, and live, you will never find the fulfillment you are so deserving of. Are you ready to get to the root of your beliefs so that you can start healing and believing that you are enough? Share what you loved most about Diane's framework with us in the comments section of the episode page. In This Episode What is toxic beauty and how it is engrained into our societies messages How to find a balance within the unrealistic beauty messages sent by society Gain the courage to face the darkness and integrate the wisdom of your story Why having a coach is the best way to navigate toxins and trauma and heal quickly Quotes "This is what we are taught, that if you don't have this perfect shaped face and nose and hair and body and butt and boobs, then you are going to "kicked out of this tribe". And what is this tribe? This tribe is called Instagram, this tribe is called Facebook, this tribe is called the magazines and the media and pop culture. And so when we don't follow the template we have this sense of shame and this shame is the self-betrayal that I want to talk about." (4:01) "There are three ways that we can self betray. And that is physical, emotional, and spiritual." (9:26) "There is wisdom in the wound, and in that shadow, you can find your light. But only until you have faced your darkness will you know your light, so it takes so much courage." (17:30)"You want to know what your future looks like? Look at your past. If you haven't healed it, it's going to keep happening." (22:44) "This needs to happen now. Look at our world, we need all of you, every single one of you to rise. And it starts with using your own eyes to undisguised yourself of who you think you are supposed to be." (25:15) Links Diane Kazer Website Non-Toxic Beauty Revolution Summit Killer Breasts: Overcoming Breast Plant Illness by Diane Kazer Join the Free 5 Step Masterclass Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/114 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jodi Cohen is one of the bravest people I know, and one of my personal heroes. After losing her son in a devastating accident only 18 months ago, Jodi had to deal with not only the betrayal of expectations when you become a parent, but also the ripple effect her family's story sent through her community. An award-winning journalist, best selling author, functional practitioner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, Jodi has combined her life experiences, training in nutritional therapy, and aromatherapy to create unique proprietary blends of essential oils that have helped tens of thousands of people. Jodi is all about gaining an understanding of post-traumatic growth and helping others focus on moments of clarity and relief. By getting out of the state of anger created by your mind and emotions, Jodi believes that you can get unstuck and heal in a real and authentic way. If you want to gain an understanding of the many layers of healing that take place, how to deal with outsiders and friends after a betrayal, or gain a sense of Jodi's strength and resilience, this is the episode for you. A topic that nobody ever wants to deal with, but that is so important to shed light on, Jodi is here to provide guidance, love, and most importantly, understanding. Do you know someone who would resonate with Jodi's story? Tag them in the comments section of our episode page. In This Episode Learn about 'tissue issue' people and how to handle their actions during trauma Why essential oils are one of the most immediate ways to calm your nerves and mind How to get out of the state of anger in your head and ground yourself back to your body Tips for creating your own essential oil recipe to help you move through trauma The importance of asking for help and relishing in the good moments in life Quotes "Who goes out there and publicly broadcasts that you are a hot mess? Who that loves you is going to do that when you are in your deepest darkest hour? It is someone who really liked external validation, really liked the kudos that she got from being able to say she was supporting me." (10:34) "There was nothing in between, it was almost like the volume was on mute, or the highest decibel ever. And so just trying to navigate that so that you had more options, more speeds than just super low or super high, by helping yourself kind of center and ground with the oil." (17:15) "Its almost like you have to feel safe to really release. Because I think anger is the top layer of fear and sadness, and its almost like a tough nut to crack. Once you can get through that anger, then you can get to the core of the issue, and you can start to release it and move out of it." (20:20) "There are always new learning and new skills and peeling off the onion." (22:32) "I want to make sure everybody knows that they are not alone, that there is no shame. This is not something that they chose, and that there are periods that will be better, this is not forever." (30:27) Links Vibrant Blue Oils Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/113 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Anna Cabeca experienced a hormonal betrayal by her body when she was diagnosed with infertility and early menopause at the age of 38. Refusing to lay down and accept this, Dr. Cabeca started on a personal wellness journey to reduce her menopause side effects, which resulted in the delivery of a baby girl three years after her diagnosis. After experiencing her own health successes, Dr. Cabeca began counseling others and has since changed the lives of thousands of women across the globe. With her Keto-Green 16 program, Dr. Cabeca can help you lose weight, feel more energetic, and gain the clarity and sense of calm that you have been longing for. When you feel like you have lost control, taking care of your body and your hormones are one of the top ways that you can start to regain your inner power. Today Dr. Cabeca is here to explain everything from hormones such as cortisol and oxytocin to the benefits of intermittent fasting and building up insulin sensitivity. By enhancing your physiology and hormonal control you can improve your quality of life, mental state, and more. If you are ready for strategies to help you make lemonade out of your life's lemons, this is the episode for you. Let us know what you found most interesting about Dr. Cabeca's knowledge and inspiring story with us in the comments section of the episode page. In This Episode How to know if your hormone imbalances are impacting your overall health Learn all about the benefits of intermittent fasting, glucose monitoring and more Why sugar is the toxic boyfriend that you need to break up with today What you can expect to feel when you adapt the Keto-Green 16 method The best ways to feel more in control of your life and gain more clarity Nutrition and lifestyle recommendations to help you get started on your health journey Quotes "When our body is having to make excess insulin, we become insulin resistant. And that increases our risk factors for diabetes, hypertension and Alzheimers and dementia." (12:39) "I've worked with thousands of patients and honestly everyone can do it, we are designed to do it." (16:31) "The piece that surpasses all understanding is nothing in my external environment had changed, but my internal milieu had changed. So the most important for me was this piece." (19:14) "This approach of creating insulin sensitivity, managing cortisol, and putting oxytocin in the winners circle so to speak, gave me my life back." (20:18) "It takes more than hormones to fix our hormones." (25:21) "Physiology drives behavior. So we have to heal the physiology in order, often, to get control of our thoughts and our mental atmosphere, and it does make a difference." (28:25) Links Keto-Green 16 by. Dr. Anna Cabeca Dr. Anna Cabeca Website FBTB 034: Dr. Anna Cabeca Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/112 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the energy? Everything in our world is made up of energy, including our own personal energy vortexes within our bodies. Dr. Ellen Albertson is a psychologist, registered dietitian, national board-certified health and wellness coach, reiki master and mindful self-compassion teacher who knows a thing or two about energy. Dr. Ellen uses the power of our energy chakras to help women get unstuck and find confidence, energy, and clarity. Dubbed The Midlife Whisperer, Dr. Ellen is here today to explain how betrayal can impact you energetically, and share ways that you can regain your balance and feel more grounded and in control. By connecting with your deep energetic wisdom you can start to trust your intuition, heal your chakras and implement self-compassion into your daily life. Everything from the way you dress to the amount of self-love you provide yourself can have a huge impact on your ability to heal. If you want actionable ways that you can start to reverse the energetic damage caused by your betrayal, this is an episode you cannot miss. All of the resources you need to survive are inside of yourself. Are you ready to harness the power of your chakras and start treating yourself like your own best friend? Share how you use the power of your energy and self-compassion to heal with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Learn about the seven main energy chakras and your personal energy vortexes How to utilize your chakras to connect and control your own energy and others Discover how betrayal can impact your energy chakras on multiple levels The importance of self-compassion and the role it plays when it comes to healing What you can do to heal your chakras after a betrayal and get back into balance Quotes "Think about all the cells in your body came from sunlight. Everything you've eaten has either come from a plant or an animal that ate a plant, so you really are an energetic being." (7:03) "In terms of betrayal, this can really be shut down, because this is where joy lives. So in terms of being betrayed, you kind of feel that whole connection with life force, feeling creative, feeling vibrant is really kaput." (10:58) "You can feel these chakras in your body. You are not able to speak your truth, you're not able to feel connected and communicate with people." (16:53) "We can heal and actually create something better, and everything is happening for your highest good." (19:10) Links Join the Rock Your Midlife Summit Dr. Ellen Albertson Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/111 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Zoe Niklas grew up enduring domestic violence, physical violence, emotional abuse, substance abuse, and sexual abuse. After multiple betrayals and traumatizing incidents involving both her mother and many stepfathers, Zoe harnessed her inner power and was able to break free at age 13. It wasn't until she was finally taken in by a new family that she was able to embrace the healing power of love and create the life she knew she deserved. Author of the book Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir, Zoe is the true epitome of taking trauma and turning it into a life of purpose. Today Zoe is here to share her encouraging, insightful and uplifting perspective with you so that you can understand that even your darkest days can be healed through the strength of true love. Throughout her journey, Zoe has used the power of the written word and theater to regain her memory, health, and happiness. From driving her mother's car at 11 years old after she had experienced a seizure while running away to commit suicide, to finding hope and healing in the vision of life that she knew she was destined to live, Zoe's incredible story is one of trial and triumph. You can make it through the pain you are experiencing. By taking action and taking control of the course of your life, Zoe is here to provide you with inspiration to get you the help that you need and stop your suffering. How does Zoe's story inspire you to take your biggest crisis and turn it into your greatest gift? Share how you related to Zoe with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode: Learn how Zoe made sense of a childhood filled with broken expectations Four steps to help you deal with your problems and overcome your trauma Ways to embrace your own worthiness and stop questioning your own worth Why you don't have to accept the victim mentality of being 'scarred for life' How to cultivate a vision of the life that you want and are destined to live Quotes "They never dissed me or said I was tarnished by my background. They loved me, and that love made me love myself." (14:51) "I heard a voice as clear as I am sitting talking to you, and it was like a man speaking in a megaphone in my right ear. And that voice said "get help now"." (17:33) "That's why I say that I am the luckiest person in the world because I knew what I wanted and I followed the way to get there." (21:47) "Never stop, never stop trying to save yourself, don't stop, keep going." (24:39) "I am sure there are kids out there that are just as hurt as I was, and I made it, and so I want them to know that it's okay. You can hurt and you can do all of those things, but you can make it." (27:39) Links Zoe Niklas Website Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir by Zoe Niklas Zoe Niklas YouTube Page Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/110 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Marie-Ève Bonneau lived for almost a decade with a devastating chronic illness that brought her to the edge of all that she knew. It took a re-routing of the brain and befriending her body again for Marie-Ève to stop the thoughts that were making her physically ill, and start embracing something entirely new from within herself. Now a certified facilitator of yoga and expressive movement arts, meditation and breathwork, writer, facilitator consultant, and initiation guide, Marie-Ève works to bring light to the darkness of those ready to transform difficulty into a path of awakening. If you have ever felt like the foundation of your life is crumbling, Marie-Ève's experience with turning grief into gifts is something you need to hear. By looking for the reason behind your betrayal, you can transform your mindset just like Marie-Ève and access your inner wisdom and the wisdom of the Universe. Everything from finding your calling through your crisis, taking time to be present with your feelings and how to start accessing your own heart space is on this episode as we explore how to shed, integrate and process into a new state of presence and beingness. Have you ever felt like your body betrayed you? Share how you related to Marie-Ève's story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Gain an understanding of Lyme Disease and other chronic illnesses The power of your thoughts and how to tune into something deeper than your mind How to rebuild trust in the health of your body and mind after betrayal Tips for harnessing your challenging experience into transformation Strategies that you can use to move the needle when it comes to your wellness Quotes "In those early days it did feel like my body was betraying me, it felt like the divine or maybe even life itself was betraying me, and I really had this sinking feeling that all bets were off." (4:11) "It took three years of very intensive treatment to finally make tangible progress, which felt like a miracle because I had tried to hard to dent the symptoms and nothing was working." (7:38) "Slowly but surely I started to feel like the clouds were parting, and my energy was returning, and I could function again." (8:24) "Instead of seeing it as a betrayal, that my body has betrayed me, I was able to shift that. And from a loving space, to actually attend to myself and attend to my body deeply." (13:13) "I started to orient around what I would call my center or my deepest truth, my inner essence. And then to learn to listen deeply and live in a state of reflectivity and connection and to move into the world from that place." (21:39) "Catastrophe or challenges that happen, whether it is an illness or something else, it is not a mistake. Ultimately it's not a betrayal, but that is actually an opportunity." (26:12) Links Centered Within Website Follow Marie-Ève on Facebook | Instagram Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/109 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Abigail Rebecca grew up in a devout Jehovah's Witness family. When she began to question the strict religious rules and conditions she was expected to live her life by, Abigail was rejected by her family and told that she was a 'bad association' for the family. Instead of going along with a life where she was never allowed to question things, Abigail struck out on her own and decided to create her own rules. This episode is filled with Abigail's unique and emotional story and sheds a light on what happens when you are betrayed by both your family and your religion. Now an international coach, speaker and host of The Whole Shebang Project, Abigail helps smart and independent women escape their soul-sucking corporate jobs so that they can live a fulfilled, happy and purposeful life without risking financial security and status. With her Big Change, Small Steps framework, Abigail is here to help you find your way to make a difference in the world while making millions doing it. If you feel betrayed by your religion, family or upbringing because you were taught something that intuitively didn't make sense to you, this is an episode that you can't miss. By making decisions based out of love and not fear and trusting your gut and the fact that you are destined for something greater, Abigail is passionate about helping you listen to your inner voice. A non-judgemental conversation about free will, questioning the other side of the story you have been told, and trusting yourself, Abigail is the expert you need to hear from. Have you ever felt betrayed by the false truths you were raised to believe? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Gain insight into life growing up in a devout Jehova's Witness family How to stop the victim mentality and avoid placing blame on others The power of tenacity, determination, and believing in yourself in adversity Why you should make decisions based on love and not based on fear How to ask questions of yourself and others to follow your gut intentions Quotes "Looking back on it, I was completely, completely brainwashed and immersed in this religion that was basically dictating who I could hang around with, who could be my friends, what I should wear, the kind of life that I should lead, the kind of person I should marry. And really held by this fear that if I didn't adhere to all the rules and the conditions… then eventually when the end of the world happens, that I would die." (4:35) "It's so traumatic because everybody that you love, everybody that you hold dear in the world, just goes away. And you are left in this world that you don't really understand because you haven't been brought up like other people." (13:28) "I just started to realize that actually what I was taught when I was growing up, around associating with the right people and being careful about who influenced your mind, that was actually right. But they were doing it in a really controlling way, whereas I discovered that actually, it was my choice, it was my choice who I wanted to associate with." (17:28) "They were doing this out of love because they truly thought it was the right thing. And I think the understanding around that, and not actually blaming them… that was the first thing, and then the second thing was really truly believing in myself that I was destined for more." (20:00) "If you are ever in any situation like I was, where you are in any religion or any cult where there is only one side of the story and you are not allowed to question and find out the other side, always find out what the other side of the story is. Because how can you make informed decisions if you only have one side of the story?" (26:46) Links Abigail Rebecca Website Join the Big Change Small Steps Facebook Group Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/108 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you. If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori's insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future. By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn't want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood. Are you ready to learn about you and your partner's personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other's languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Which personality combinations work well, and don't work well, in relationships Learn how high-stress situations can impact the way in which you communicate Why it is important to understand the different personality types of your partner Tips for each personality type to communicate in another personality language Discover which personality combinations are most likely to experience a betrayal Quotes "We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful." (3:37) "When you go through challenges in life, whether it's in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn't matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that's why this is so important." (11:02) "In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships." (27:15) "You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint." (28:29) "The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations." (30:16) Links Secrets To A Kickass Marriage by Midori Verity Midori Verity Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/107 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Holly Bertone was on the highest levels of financial management when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. After beginning the journey to recovery while becoming newly engaged, she was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease Hashimoto's less than a year later. While she expected support from the company that she had worked so hard for, Holly was met with accusations and dismissal. The experience of betrayal and bullying in the workplace lead Holly to write her book, Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease: Know Your Rights, Resolve Conflict and Reduce Stress. Since then Holly has become a sought after speaker, wellness expert, Amazon bestseller and President and CEO of Pink Fortitude. Today Holly is here to share her story of overcoming medical adversity, lessons learned from betrayal in the workplace, and how you can thrive in gratitude despite your past experiences. If you have ever experienced workplace betrayal, this is episode is filled with practical information that you can't miss. Holly literally wrote the book on your rights and responsibilities in the workplace when dealing with an autoimmune disease or another workplace betrayal, and is passionate about sharing her resources with everyone so that you own your place in the workplace. Have you experienced workplace betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode A look into the shifting of priorities after a lifechanging diagnosis or event Learn about paid leave during a health crisis, who to speak with for answers and more The importance of self-reflection and difficult conversations when dealing with betrayal Which offices you should be contacting if you are experiencing workplace discrimination How to make sense and peace out of your workplace betrayal and when its time to leave Quotes "I just felt this peace that breast cancer was my gift and that this whole life transition was my new gift in life." (5:45) "An autoimmune disease is, as they say, the gift that keeps on giving. Cancer kicked my butt temporarily, autoimmune disease was a much bigger, longer journey of kicking my butt." (8:24) "You're supposed to be in a management position, you are supposed to be supporting me, and I have legal documentation telling me that you are supposed to be doing this." (14:09) "There are not a lot of resources out there. I tried to find what I could, and its like navigating a sea without a map, you are just in this ocean and you can't even see land at this point." (19:20) "I guess I kind of divorced myself from that connection and said 'I need to stand on my own two feet during this process'. And I need to be my own advocate and I need to figure things out myself." (23:06) "I would not wish my journey on anyone, but I am so grateful that I have been able to go through it." (24:55) Links Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease by Holly Bertone Pink Fortitude Website Get Your Free E-Book Downloads Here Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/106 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

So often we forget to prioritize our own self-love and self-care after a betrayal, but these practices can hold the key to discovering who you are, how to come back to yourself and ways to stop putting other people ahead of you. Self-care is not selfish, it is self-preservation, and with the expert advice of our next guests, you can implement these self-love routines despite your busy schedule and start reaping the rewards. Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery are the co-creators of the Self-Love and Self-Care Symposium, a space dedicated to teaching you how to love yourself more fully, appreciate your unique gifts and take better care of yourself so that you can shine more brightly in the world. Tammy, a business strategist, and marketing expert, and Brooke, a connector and creative business strategist, work together to bring big vision to their clients and provide the fuel necessary to inspire, motivate and transform. These two self-care experts are here today to give you simple strategies to start giving yourself a little bit more love. By allowing yourself the right to say no, connecting to your forgotten child and putting yourself on your own to-do list, you can start to shine your light brighter in the world. Are you ready to embrace Tammy and Brooke's simple, easy and free steps so that you can figure out what you want out of your life and go after it? Share your self-love and self-care habits and wishes with us in the comments section on the episode page. In This Episode Why saying no and setting boundaries can be a powerful act of self-love Ways to prioritize self-care and cultivate self-love within your busy schedule Short and brief rituals that can help you get your day back on track The importance of starting your day with an uplifting gratitude routine How to check in with your inner child and have more fun along the journey Quotes "When you are saying no to something else, you are saying yes to yourself." (6:45) "For me, to be able to share authentically and connect deeply with another person is the greatest act of self-love." (11:25) "Just try it on like an experiment. Just because that works for me, it doesn't mean it is going to work for that person. But just trying to, maybe drive down a different road, you know? Just experiment with how the morning routine goes, because I really feel that the morning is how things set up." (22:38) "We're sharing all kinds of tips and methodologies, all to help you get back to a place of fully loving yourself more and really learning how to take care of yourself, how to tap into your intuition and how to feel good in your body." (25:24) "We believe that when you love yourself you can go out in the world and you can fully love with your whole heart and really share your unique abilities and talents with the world." (28:55) Links Self-Care and Self-Love Symposium Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/105 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Maggie Kelly is a mindful life coach, meditation instructor, podcaster, public speaker and awakener. After her son was born with cystic fibrosis, Maggie felt betrayed by her expectations of health for her son. Through meditation and mindfulness practices Maggie was able to turn introspectively to address her fear and dismiss her limiting beliefs. Despite what you may think, ultimately you are not in charge. It is only by giving in to this universal power and accepting that you cannot control everything that you can find true peace. Today Maggie is here to provide you with actionable steps so that you can illuminate the roadblocks inside of yourself that are standing in the way of living an envisioned and awakened life. By returning to the very foundational essence of who you are and what you are capable of, you can tune into what is around you and become at peace with the fact that nothing is permanent, both good or bad. Are you ready to take responsibility for your part in your betrayal and become okay with what happens when life doesn't fit your perfect picture? Share your thoughts on Maggie's story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode How to make sense and meaning out of a betrayal of expectations and health The role of meditation when changing your way of being and creating a shift Getting comfortable with the idea that nothing is permanent or lasts forever Why it's a good thing to question your thoughts and stop believing them as fact Investigating your role in your own betrayal by turning inward instead of outward Quotes "I think that it's important when we are talking about betrayal and having a breakthrough from that experience or coming out of the grief of having been betrayed, I think it is important for us to stop and be a little mindful as to how did we get there." (2:49) "I was living out constant and consistent never-ending fear, that that is what drove the show. The fear always drove the show and that's when I started to really get in touch with what that fear was about." (8:03) "Most of us believe what we think, and very seldom do we check it out with anybody." (13:16) "What meditation is about is for you to be able to notice that in that stillness your thoughts start to stray and take you away. And then in that noticing, bringing yourself back to that place of stillness." (19:23) "What's really important when you are thinking that you have been betrayed is for you to actually step back and survey the situation and ask yourself what was my part." (21:57) Links Sat Sang House Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/104 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Eva Medilek's life came crashing down when she found text messages on her husband's phone suggesting he was in love with another woman. What came next was a painful and messy situation, but through hard work and personal development, they were able to make the decision to do whatever it took to kill their old relationship and create a new one together. Now a relationship style success coach, Eva helps other powerful women create a meaningful life by becoming more vulnerable and intimate. Eva is proof that your betrayal can open you up to revealing your greatest gift, and is here today to share her story and wisdom with you. By staying in the present creation of what you can build, Eva is here to help you stop worrying about the past and start thriving in your future. Everything from the importance of personal development to tools that you can take back to your relationship is on the agenda today as Eva helps you close the intimacy gap. Passionate about what is possible on the other side of betrayal, Eva wants to help you refocus your energy and persevere through your pain. An inspiring story of forgiveness, trust, and intimacy, this is an episode you don't want to miss. Has personal development played a role in your ability to move through your betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode The importance of finding a therapist that works for both partners Why you need to stand in the power of the relationship you want and deserve How to have trust in your partner as a highly driven individual Why your greatest betrayal can reveal your greatest gift and purpose The role of your tribe and why you need to surround yourself with positivity Quotes "Once I realized that he was literally falling in love with another woman, my heart was racing, I just really wanted to collapse because I realized that everything that we were working to achieve could be lost. My marriage could end, and I could end up spending all of this time building this dream and end up alone again." (6:24) "Your investment is in the relationship, in the relationship that you are both creating together, it is actually not in the person." (12:26) "To use that drive to focus on intimacy, vulnerability, and connection in their relationships, and really rechanneling that energy and learning how to shift it." (19:35 "Diamonds are made from that pressure, and the fire, and that's where you can create something beautiful." (22:51) "I didn't want this to be hidden and under the rug, life is real and how we show up in life and handle all of the challenges that life brings us, we get in trouble when we try to hide." (30:10) Links Eva Medilek Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/103 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Michelle Eggenberger is an author, holistic stress and anxiety coach, doctor of oriental medicine, licensed acupuncturist, health coach and certified yoga teacher, just to name a few. After recovering from her own romantic betrayal and a string of health issues, Dr. Michelle realized that it was within her power to find a better way to live. Through this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Michelle realized the importance of prioritizing self-love and self-worth and has since been on a mission to share her message with the world. Living proof that you can manifest the things you want in life if you work to keep the mind, body, and spirit healthy, Dr. Michelle is here to help you allow the Universe to guide you to where you need to be. You have the choice to choose yourself and give yourself the happy life that you deserve. Making the decision to prioritize both your mental and physical health while becoming aware of how your thoughts affect you is key to becoming the architect of your own destiny. Are you ready to allow Dr. Michelle to teach you how to harness the power of your body through yoga, awareness and the mind-heart connection so that you can find joy after your betrayal? Share your self-love and self-compassion tips with us in the comments section on the episode page. In This Episode Explore the connection between the mind, spirit, and body when finding self-love Learn how your emotions are tied to your digestive system and overthinking your reality How acupuncture can help you circulate and move your emotions through your body Discover how your daily thoughts can manifest into physical emotions and reactions The importance of practicing yoga and nurturing the mind-heart connection Quotes "One of the reasons why when we have a romantic betrayal it is so powerful in our own self-worth and all that is because of the vulnerability factor." (6:05) "Slowly I started finding the strength to understand my self-worth and my self-love and what I needed to do to step out of that relationship, that that relationship was no longer fit for me." (10:23) "We are so perfectly done that our body, when we haven't been taking care of our mind and our emotions, our body will tell us." (17:31) "One of the things that happens when you start doing yoga as a real practice, you start going into the mind-heart connection. And that is where the real magic happens, for everything. That is where the real transformation and real healing happens." (20:42) "It's the thoughts that we create that will create the feelings that we experience, that will create the actions and the reality that we see." (22:48) Links The Energetics of Joy by Dr. Michelle Eggenberger The Energetics of Joy Website The Dharma Clinic Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/102 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Michelle Dickinson is a passionate potter who has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for eighteen years and is the author of the memoir Breaking Into My Life, a rare glimpse into a young girl's experience living with and loving her bipolar mother. Michelle has overcome years of neglect and confusion surrounding her mother's mental condition and is here today to share how she came out on the other side a vehement advocate for mental health and ending the stigma. Through her self-work and internal healing, Michelle has reached a place of forgiveness and determination to hold space in the mental health community and remove the stigma for those suffering and their caretakers. By transforming her experiences with her mother's illness from harmful to empowering, Michelle is making massive strides when it comes to providing help to those who need it. Michelle wants you to be courageous and take the first step towards healing, instead of pretending that what inhibits you doesn't exist. Out of your greatest messes comes your message, and this episode is all about transformation and gaining the confidence to choose the life you want for yourself instead of the life you know. You are not your past, and from this moment forward you have the power to create what you want for yourself and claim it as your own. Michelle is here to provide advice, hope and inspire your perseverance so that you too can triumph over what ails you. How has Michelle inspired you to take your painful experience and turn it into something positive? Share your thoughts with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Gain a glimpse into life as a child caregiver for an undiagnosed bipolar parent Tips for creating self-care boundaries and practices in the name of self-preservation Why you need to let go of the limiting beliefs you may not even know you tell yourself Signs that you need to look within yourself and do the hard work of self-discovery The importance of abolishing the stigma around mental health and providing help to everyone who needs it Quotes "Our needs were always on the back burner. If I had a bad day at school or there was an upset with a girlfriend, that didn't matter. What mattered was if she had what she needs. So I quickly learned how to hide my own needs and put whatever I needed on the shelf and really just focus on her." (6:07) "She kind of gave me permission to create that boundary and that space and love myself and take care of myself, when no one had ever done that for me." (12:00) "Self-care wasn't something that I grew up learning. I was having to learn how to create boundaries and care for myself, this was an act of caring for myself by doing that." (17:06) "You don't realize how these experiences from your youth and your relationship with your mother alter what you believe you can and cannot do in your life." (21:52) "I would want every child to know that they are perfect, whole and complete, just as they are, and that their potential is limitless. " (23:57) Links Breaking Into My Life Website Breaking Into My Life by Michelle Dickinson Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/101 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

I can hardly believe that we have reached the 100 episode milestone, and I know that you have learned a lot throughout the amazing array of guests I have been lucky enough to talk to. To celebrate I wanted to share with you the seven greatest lessons I have learned in the past 99 episodes, and provide you with a recap of some of the experts that may be worth revisiting depending on your topic of interest. My goal is to provide you with an array of tools and amazing insights so that you can take off your rose-colored glasses and start moving the needle on your healing journey. Everything from divorce to forgiveness and essential oils has been covered in the past 100 episodes, and I am here today to highlight those that are going to help you live a confident and resilient life regardless of your betrayal history. If you are ready to heal from your betrayal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am here to help you onto the path of true happiness. No matter what your betrayal you can come out on the other side, and it is through these seven greatest lessons that you can empower yourself to do so. Are you ready to rediscover the fire within yourself and find the lesson you need to learn in order to heal? Share some of your favorite episodes with us and let us know what topics you want to hear more of in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Recap the biggest takeaways and greatest lessons from the last 99 episodes Highlight the non-negotiable importance of support when dealing with betrayal trauma Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal Why you should choose empowerment instead of a victim mindset to achieve healing Tips for embracing resilience, transformation, and forgiveness when healing from betrayal Quotes "Those were the episodes that I feel really shared the depth and importance of relationships and possibility, so if any of those resonated with you, go on in and listen to those again, you will get so much more out of it." (17:49) "While it may be impossible to eliminate all of the stress from your life, it is possible to train your brain to handle stressful situations with more grace and ease by employing tools such as regarding your mind before a stressful event and replenishing yourself afterward, you can build up your capacity to cope with the challenges of life." (28:28) "There are so many different tools that we can use to heal and that is why hopefully I want you to listen and relisten so that you can find the tools that work for you." (31:57) "Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us including physically, mentally and emotionally, and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release the trauma, it can build up inside our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection." (42:49) "If you feel as though you wear a shield of protective armor that is hiding a fraud, its time to take off your battle uniform and live a life full of authenticity and happiness." (1:09:22) Links Breakthrough Essential Oil Healing Products PBT Institute Certification Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/100 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Darrah Brustein is equal parts teacher, connector and founder of Life By Design, Not By Default. After multiple betrayals in the business world including losing her job, embezzlement from her partners, and the lack of faith from her mother, Darrah came out the other side as the embodiment of the power of persistence. Now a prolific writer, co-host of a YouTube channel with Deepak Chopra and a profound speaker, Darrah is here to share how you can build a life of your own design. Darrah is passionate about sharing everything that got her to where she is today, from the benefits of business betrayals to embracing your failures and what she learned as a result. After being burned by the people she trusted and a system she believed in, Darrah harnessed her motivation to move forward and leaned into her intuition, and you can too. The true manifestation of effortlessness, Darrah wants to help you define a life that defines success for yourself, builds a career to help you fund it and attracts a network to support it. No matter the challenges you have faced, success is often right around the corner from failure, but if you stop at failure you will never reach it. Darrah is here to inspire you to create your zone of genius and keep moving forward while embracing the lessons the universe wants you to learn. Can you relate to Darrah's story of business betrayal? Head on over to the episode page and let us know what has kept you going or held you back in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Questions you should ask yourself if it seems bad luck is following your every move Ways to become comfortable with uncertainty and lean into whatever life throws at you Tips for following your intuition and how to use your past to embrace your future How Darrah was able to cultivate a dream relationship with Deepak Chopra Quotes "I realized that the narrative that I had been taught, and almost spoon-fed my whole life, of you know, kind of the American dream. Go to school, get good grades, get a job, get the house, and so on, happily ever after, was not working for me in any way, shape or form." (7:22) "Instead of doing the thing I did the first time and picking the thing that I already knew I was passionate about and trying to make that an enjoyable and fulfilling career, which didn't work. Let me try and reverse engineer this and try and find things that I am excited about doing and help me feel motivated and energized on a day to day basis and then become excited about the product or service as a result." (9:09) "It all came back down to the reputation and that we were building and building and doing it the right with integrity, and someone ripped that out from under us." (16:57) "I am a deep believer in where the current is taking you and where momentum exists organically is the cue that you are on the right path. And when it is not, and you are white-knuckling it and when you are swimming upstream is when you are not." (19:18) "Look for the evidence in your past to find even a tiny example of when things clicked and worked and how that felt, and let that even be a tiny example for you of how you can build more of that." (26:05) Links Darrah Brustein Website Follow Deepak and Darrah on YouTube Follow Darrah on Instagram Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/99 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Have you ever felt dismissed or ignored in the doctor's office? This can be a form of medical betrayal and can leave many people feeling confused and without answers. Dr. Tom Moorcroft realized the deep connection between mental and emotional symptoms and hidden infections such as Lyme disease and mold and has set out to bring the news to patients and doctors alike to help provide those suffering from the trusting care they deserve. It may surprise you that everything from your brain to your heart and your gut are connected. When you experience trauma, betrayal or are infected with a toxin that impacts your immune or digestive system, it can wreak havoc on your body and cause mood changes, sleep disruptions and a whole host of other mental, emotional and physical issues. In this episode Dr. Tom is explaining the science behind physical and behavioral changes due to an illness or infection, the difference between Pandas, Pans, and Polyvagal Theory, and what symptoms to be looking out for. Get ready to learn something on this episode as we dive into how your doctor's dismissal to the psychologist's office could be misplaced, understand how your gut is related to all systems of your body, and explore how to reconnect with your head and heart by healing the disease you may not even know you have. Just because your doctor may not understand the complexity of your symptoms, it doesn't mean that they do not exist. Once you are able to understand how the gut, heart, and mind are all connected, you can work to heal yourself from the inside out and give yourself permission to do the things you love again. Has a steal infection or illness impacted you or the ones you love? Share what steps you are taking to find a solution in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Different therapeutic approaches to become grounded in who you are How to step away from including your disease as part of your identity Understanding the connection between your gut, anxiety, and memories Helping to heal your emotions, brain, and heart by first healing your gut Altering the biochemical changes in your brain after experiencing a betrayal Quotes "A lot of people feel like they have been betrayed by the system. And it's not so much the system doing the wrong thing on purpose, it's often that their symptoms are so complex that they don't understand it." (2:38) "I'm not saying don't do therapy, don't do the medicines, but also once you do those things that are medically appropriate, also continue to look for the underlying cause." (8:39) "If we change what is going on in the gut, it changes our ability to create new memories, retrieve old memories, and also to deal with fear properly." (17:27) "Just because someone else is using different words and reacting to an experience different than I am, it doesn't mean that I am right and they are wrong or vice versa." (22:53) "As you open your heart and experience some more joy, your gut will open up." (27:39) Links Dr. Tom Moorcroft Origins of Health Website Empowered by Lyme Facebook Group Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/98 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Food can often be something we turn too after a betrayal in our to make ourselves feel better, which can lead to emotional and compulsive overeating. Stephanie Dodier has dedicated her life to helping women begin the journey of reconciling their relationship with food after betrayal and stop overeating. Today we are tackling everything from body neutrality to self-acceptance, self-compassion, and binge eating. Overeating is not a symptom of being broken. You are working through your betrayal experience and using food as a way to work through the pain. It can be a vicious circle, but by understanding what drives your desire to eat and tips on how you can work to become more present when you eat, Stephanie is here to help guide you through this phase. You can't change what you are not aware of, and by taking your compulsive eating as a learning experience you can work with your body to reconnect to acceptance. Have you or do you currently struggle with emotional or binge eating? Let us know where you are on this journey in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Emotional eating and what drives it Why it's okay to not have wired in will power The first steps you should take after bingeing Working with your body image and body neutrality What you can do at this moment to begin your healing Quotes "We have a betrayal experience, we feel pain, we then turn to food as a way of numbing that pain. Yet, we don't know that most of us are not conscious of that, and therefore we think we are broken, that were out of control, that we don't have will power because that's what the diet weight loss industry is telling us." (2:04) "What I am here to tell you is that same power that betrayal has on your life, it has on your food." (3:37) "It's an out of body experience. Because you are running away from the pain that caused you to binge. Like the pain that you didn't know what to do with, it's too painful so you are leading your body into that binge mode." (9:59) "Self-love is great, but what we really need is self-acceptance and self-compassion." (14:38) "What I want women to leave with today is that there is a positive that you can learn from your relationship to food and your body." (18:46) Links Stephanie Dodier website Going Beyond the Food Podcast Claim your Food Freedom Training Program Get your Food Freedom Score Dr. Gabor Maté Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/97 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Clare Dubé is a financial therapist and founder of Smart Chats, a financial service helping couples and business partners save their finances and their relationships. Clare is an expert in taking financial situations from chaos to clarity and connection due to her own family business betrayal, and she works zealously to help others from making the same mistakes. Unequal payments and draws in her family business lead Clare to start doing some self-work which prepared her for the ultimate betrayal of being cut out of what she was owed by her brothers, including her children's college funds. Today Clare is here to shed light on how to keep things fair, embrace your value and start creating some boundaries. If you have experienced a family or business betrayal and want to start looking at your situation with a different lens so that you can start to ease your pain, Clare's journey is one you have got to hear. How does Clare's story of resilience and turning your hardest pain into your greatest gift inspire you to stand up for yourself? Share your thoughts with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode How to look through other peoples lenses to forgive but not forget Tips for managing your feelings when a betrayal is never acknowledged How to use your betrayal as a motivating factor pushing you forward to success The importance of clear boundaries and how they can improve any relationship Why you need to seek clarity for yourself and others while speaking up and asking questions Quotes "It was when I started to really work very hard in this business and brought so much value to the business that I was starting to realize that shift was coming. It's not about my self-worth, it's the value I am putting forth in this company." (5:16) "Its really a deep dive that you have to keep questioning because you can't just accept the first answer, you have to keep on going." (7:33) "I could choose to be a victim in it or I could choose to roll up my sleeves, start my own business and use my value in a way that I knew was best." (11:42) "It has to become a boundary, it has to be a lesson learned and it has to be a reminder." (15:08) "If you have been betrayed, whether it is in business or relationships, everybody plays a part so question where you are, what part you played, and be a part of it. Don't take yourself out of the situation." (19:21) Links Clare Dubé Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/96 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Tommy Breedlove is on a mission to empower humans to build a legendary life. A men's mindset, relationship, and business coach, Tommy helps guide his audiences and clients to discover their zone of brilliance while living a balanced, meaningful life. An advocate for healing from self-betrayal through self-love, Tommy is bringing his amazingly profound mindset shifts to you to help you transform from a mess to success. If you want to gain a male perspective on self-betrayal, explore what it was like to take part in an intense group therapy process, or are just looking for a few tips on self-compassion and self-respect, Tommy is the guy you need to hear from. We only get so many spins around the sun, and Tommy wants to empower you to make the choice to find your purpose and live the best life you can. With an attitude of servitude, compassion and raw honesty, Tommy has turned his life around and is here to share his story and inspire you to do the same. Are you ready to do the hard work to have everything you want in life? Share this episode with a man in your life and let us know the response in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Tools to help keep you accountable when times get tough Why you need to give yourself the love and compassion you give everyone else The importance of talking about our darkness and knowing we are not alone Tips for carrying yourself with power instead of force How to become a better leader through empowerment and guidance Quotes "So many people loved me when I couldn't love myself, and it leads to just disastrous consequences." (7:32) "Out of fear and out of wanting to be accepted and out of feeling unloveable, if there was a list of 100 things not to do, I had probably checked off about 90 of them. And at 37 years old I almost lost it all." (11:53) "I still do the hard work each and every day to be the best human I can be. But all of that process started with those 2 programs and then it's just crazy what has happened in my life in self-respect, self-love, in my marriage, in my network, to my business, it's just been this beautiful thing because it has been this slow shift from fear to abundance." (15:35) "How many spins do we get around the sun? We don't know, so why don't we choose to live as happy and as healthy as we can while we are here." (17:23) "I don't want to change them, I just want to give them more tools to be legendary in their businesses, their careers, but just as importantly in their families and in their lives." (24:22) "It's not if life is going to happen, but when." (26:43) Links Contact Tommy at [email protected] Tommy Breedlove Website Legendary by Tommy Breedlove Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/95 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Did you know that patterns that may arise in your family, such as theft, cheating, and bankruptcy, could actually be being passed down throughout the generations genetically? Ariann Thomas has been exploring the connection between familial patterns and decisions for thirty-five years and helps her clients rewrite history and leave their past ancestors' burdens behind to change their own lives for the better. Ariann believes that by healing the roots that may have started growing centuries ago, you can create a life filled with health, abundance, and happiness for yourself and future generations. Today she is sharing exactly how patterns and predispositions can be inherited through families, how to recognize and break a cycle of genetic transfer, and gives us a look into what her clients experience when on a Shamanic Journey to find generational healing and internal peace. When you are able to go back and clear your patterns of betrayal from past generations, you can make way for a future full of healing and hope for the next. If you are open to the idea of rewriting history to change your familial decisions, clear out negative energy, and fill your soul with the happiness of the present, Ariann is here to help you take the first step on that journey. Have you ever noticed a feeling of a past burden or a common family disposition? Let us know how you can relate to Ariann's teachings in the comments section on the episode page. In This Episode Understanding the difference between nature and nurture in genetic predispositions Why you may be genetically inclined to pick a certain type of partner or career How to address traumatic experiences that have continued in the family for generations Analyzing the role meditation and mindfulness can play in repairing your damaged DNA What to do if you notice a pattern in your family behaviors that you want to change Quotes "Memories get passed down through our genes, into our children and our grandchildren. And they are triggered by actions that we see happening around us in our families." (5:18) "You may have a family history of betrayal, you don't have to play that out if you are trained differently and that betrayal gene is not turned on and expressed." (9:40) "Until you heal the wounds that we have inherited until you heal the wounds that create that pattern, the pattern will continue to grow, the pattern will continue to manifest in your life, and the pattern will continue to show up in your children and grandchildren and future generations." (13:07) "I always talk about healing from the roots, but this is like the real roots, back many many generations ago." (31:40) - Debi Links Free Healing Gifts From Ariann Ancestral Lineage Clearing Website Changing Our Genetic Heritage: Creating a New Reality for Ourselves and Future Generations Healing Family Patterns: Ancestral Lineage Clearing for Personal Growth The Female Factor: A Confidence Guide for Women Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/94 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

After being betrayed by what felt like 1,000 cuts, Rachell Kitchen was able to pick herself up and continue fighting. A survivor of extreme violence, divorce, drastic family health issues and even the murder of her father, Rachell is here to share her personal experience in the hopes of empowering you to move your life from chaos to clarity. Now a speaker, author, life and transition coach as well as the CEO of Level Up 4 Life Coaching, Rachell knows a thing or two about perseverance and the ability to bounce back. Today Rachell is an open book explaining how her series of betrayals showed her the importance of asking for help and avoiding destructive thoughts. Betrayals or large life transitions can often feel like too much to handle, and it is only by embracing some of the techniques Rachell learned at rock bottom that you can understand the cycle of change and dedicate yourself to showing up in that process. A beautiful example of healing past post betrayal syndrome and an advocate for never allowing yourself to be victimized, Rachell is here to help you flip that switch and start healing from your traumas. Are you ready to embrace a new recipe for healing and fight your way through the dark side? Share what you loved most about Rachells story in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Learn how trauma can mess up your hormones and wreak physical and emotional havoc Why you should get comfortable asking for help and knowing your worth Signs that you are on the right healing path by finding joy amidst the chaos Understanding the ripple effect of betrayal and how to focus on the positive lessons Explore the forgiveness process while honoring the power of self-love Quotes "It just really did feel like a series of betrayals by a thousand cuts, it was coming at me from every angle, and I really just felt victimized." (3:00) "You may not like what is happening right now at this moment, but look how rich your life is, look how abundant you do have it." (12:02) "You can decide how you like to show up for the day, in that situation, versus acting out and acting in a way that would not honor your values and how you would like to show up." (16:58) "My gift that God put me here to do is to share my capacity to love. And how do I do that? By what I do best, helping other women find theirs." (20:59) "You do not have to be a victim to your circumstances, you do not have to undervalue the power that you have within, and give the power to the obstacle." (27:48) Links Level Up 4 Life Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/93 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Corey Allan is a marriage and family therapist, author, speaker and licensed professional counselor with a Ph.D. in family therapy. He and his wife run Sexy Marriage, a podcast and online article resource that aims to help those experiencing difficulties in a partnership and provide resources to work through the dark days to experience more passion and trust in their relationships. Unfortunately, betrayal has become an increasingly frequent part of any relationship, and it is only by understanding the steps necessary to overcoming partnership betrayal that you can start making the steps that feel best for your unique situation. Corey believes that marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life. By learning how to trust yourself again, accepting the cyclical cycle of getting better and becoming a major player in your relationship for your own sake, you can earn back your free choice and start living a life that demonstrates that you are worth choosing. If you are ready to take the courageous step and ask yourself how your marital betrayal can be used for personal development, Corey is the expert for you. Are you ready to reanalyze what you thought maybe a dealbreaker in your relationship? Share what you learned from Corey in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode How to view your betrayal like collateral damage rather than a personal attack Individual and couple recommendations when experiencing a marital betrayal Things that can move the needle on your partnership recovery journey A peek into a general timeline for getting over shame, bitterness and more Tips for rebuilding trust in a relationship and yourself after a betrayal Quotes "If they will buy into the fact that the relationship was co-created that helped create the dynamic to where an affair would occur. But whoever it was that was betrayed, it is not their fault, it was a choice by their spouse, by their partner." (4:13) "I am the therapist that I don't hold people's hands, I come straight at them. I figure you are paying money to get the truth, so lets not sugar coat stuff, that's speaking to the best in people." (12:38) "This isn't about what was done as much as it is the result, which is their hurt, their pain, their sadness, their disappointment, their grief, their whatever. Because what was has to be grieved, it was lost, so now we have to create something different." (18:55) "Affairs are actually symptoms of something else, they are not the main thing, they are a part of the main thing." (22:33) Links Sexy Marriage Radio Podcast Sexy Marriage Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/92 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Tarra Bates-Duford has seen her share of betrayal through her career as a forensic psychologist, marriage and family therapist. She has seen first hand the effects of traumatic experiences and the symptoms of re-emergence. Today Dr. Bates-Duford is here to shed some light on her experiences working to stabilize families, navigate mental illness, and help patients recover from abuse in order to get back to daily functioning. If you have ever been curious about an expert's opinion on relationship advice for everything from couples to parents to siblings, Dr. Bates-Duford is your girl. All topics are on the table today, including how to confront yourself in the mirror and the best way to get out of that 'stuck' state. By digging deep and getting into your own truth, you can take initiative in your relationship and disentangle yourself from the pain you feel today. Have you ever experienced couples counseling? Let us know how it impacted your relationship in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Getting to your inner truth by confronting yourself in the mirror Finding relationship boundaries between your home life and work-life What to do when someone you trust betrays your sacred bond Recognizing unhealthy emotional and physical dependency The average timeline for couples working to repair a relationship after a betrayal Quotes "She found that she couldn't even meet herself in the eye because she knew what she was saying wasn't entirely true, she was trying to convince herself that this person wanted to help but couldn't help." (7:25) "Certain people will never put themselves in your shoes. You can still love them, but it doesn't mean you have to compromise yourself in order to prove that you are a strong and supportive family member." (8:01) "If someone else on the outside betrays us it's really not that big a deal because, at the end of the day, part of us almost feels like we are expecting it because we don't hold them to the same standard as we do a family member or romantic partner." (12:15) "Typically when people come into couples therapy it is at the point of brink, and most marriages won't survive at that point… you need to get in as soon as you start to have negative feelings." (21:00) Links Psych Central Blogs by Dr. Bates-Duford Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/91 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Antesa Jensen is an American living in Copenhagen who overcame her broken childhood and relationship with her mother to learn how to trust again after betrayal. Despite being told she was 'disgusting and needed to be cleaned' as a child and undergoing multiple medical procedures which felt like an invasion of trust, Antesa has worked to heal her relationship with herself and find validity in her experiences. Now Antesa works with coaches and clients to evoke real-time transformation and guide powerhouse trailblazers to trust and believe in themselves to find the life of their dreams. This episode takes you on a journey through the 'dark night of the soul' to understanding your own power to choose how to trust and make different choices. In the end, you may be victimized, but you do not have to feel like a victim. It is only by understanding that your truth is about you and making sense and meaning out of your experiences that you can find true healing. Antesa believes that the only way out is through, and is here today to inspire you to gain a willingness to feel all of your painful emotions and navigate your path to your true self-expression. Instead of numbing, avoiding or distracting, Antesa is proof of the power of facing your fears head-on to heal it once and for all. What did you find most inspiring about Antesa's story? Share your thoughts with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Understanding the freeze defense mechanism in situations of betrayal How to learn how to be vulnerable again despite the fear of betrayal Exploring the importance of presence and emotional intelligence Learn how to trust yourself again through validating your experience Why facing your challenges head-on is the only way to true healing and acceptance Quotes "The communication that I received was that 'you are dirty, and you need to get clean'. And that was the way that I was sort of lured into compliance." (7:52) "I didn't want anyone to know what my truth was because I felt like it had been prematurely taken away from me against my will." (11:08) "I was the one handling everyone else's needs, and I never ever even questioned what my own needs were, it was not a conversation that happened inside of my head." (14:34) "The body is a tangible experience of what is happening intangibly inside of ourselves, and when we are healing our heart it hurts. The only way out is through. You have to feel it." (21:52) "My coach, at the time, was somebody who I was initially disgusted by. And I think it is because she represented and embodied everything that I thought I couldn't have." (24:46) "You can't trust other people to not betray you if you don't trust yourself." (30:05) Links Antesa Jensen Website Follow Antesa on Facebook | Instagram Little Boy Standing in Water YouTube Video Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/88 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

After a betrayal, it is common to feel held by your grief and trauma, unable to break free and live your best life. Alyson Franz realized this, and after being trained in comprehensive energy psychology she created the Paradime Shift LLC to help people transform their lives with individualized programs to achieve major personal and life changes. She put the concept of life transformation officially on the map in Rhode Island and is here today to share exciting ways to move forward from the pain and grief of trauma. Alyson helps her clients find an answer on how to heal from grief when 'giving it time' just isn't working for you. She is here to help all of us realize the clue that there is something more to life, and learn how to release our trauma so we can walk around without the heavy burden of it day after day. Today Alyson is sharing her 4 Step Process for Healing from Grief and Trauma, her favorite forms of energy therapy, and the nine most typical barriers to healing trauma that she sees regularly. Plus, she is exploring the relationship she has with her mentor, dismissing myths about grief and trauma, and so much more. If you are ready to transform your life and stop being burdened by the pain and grief of trauma, this episode is for you. Have you tried any of the energy therapy techniques Alyson describes today? Let us know in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode Healing from grief using unconventional and unique ways Why people carry grief, trauma, and pain for decades The role that guilt plays in letting go of grief and how to begin to release it Differences between energy psychology and comprehensive energy psychology How time can help in allowing yourself to experience healing Quotes "Once I started to figure out how to heal my grief, I started to realize that what was underneath it was a lot of trauma from childhood" (2:47) "That just got me started thinking about healing and life and what is meant to be in a whole different way. And I hit the ground running and I've been running ever since" (7:32) "I could just feel literally an internal shift that I wanted and that's when I went, I need more of this stuff in my life. And I also realized I needed to become proficient in it so that I could share it with the world" (10:33) "I think we just need to be able to get out of our own way and look at guilt for the lack of value that it really has." (14:06) "Even though it might feel overwhelming, we are energetic beings, and we have ways to get to the root of the problem and release it" (19:10) "I believe that everything is meant to move us forward in life. So once you heal from this, once you do these first three steps you are going to be better than you have ever been before" (30:29) Links Henry Grayson PhD Your Power to Heal by Henry Grayson Get your Free Copy of The Grief Cure by Alyson Franz Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/87 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

What if your betrayal was the paying of a karmic debt from generations ago or a karmic imprint on your soul memory? Dr. Swan Montague was given three months to live over 17 years ago when a master teacher and healer appeared at her death bed instructing her to clear the seals on the realms of secret knowledge. After spending twelve years in total seclusion learning the sacred knowledge of the universe, Dr. Swan emerged as one of the world's leading experts on karma. If you are doing all the work that you can to move past your betrayal without success, a past life or karmic synergy may be the answer to finding true healing. Dr. Swan is here to help you identify your patterns, which of the three main roles you are playing in your karmic debts, and how to become okay with not being able to fix everything. By addressing your ancestral lineage as well as through our own souls' past lives both individually and as a group, you can clear your karmic history and get rid of the pain that has been plaguing you. An energetic and spiritual detox and a complete reprogramming are necessary to heal the unfinished business and trauma you have from this life or past life and pay your karmic debts. In the end, we are spiritual beings here to have a spiritual experience, and it is your challenge and opportunity to bring that spiritual experience together with your human reality to become a divine-human and heal your karmic past. Do you feel that karma could be playing a role in your current pain or past betrayal? Share what you learned from Dr. Swan in this episode in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Why it is important to clear and heal your past and future karma scenarios Understanding how betrayal can be a karmic debt from generations ago How to know when you have healed your karmic betrayal and moved beyond it Looking at the souls' journey through many lives and your own ancestral heritage Ways to get out of the cycle of playing the hero, victim or perpetrator Quotes "Everything is karmic, everything that is happening in our reality is karma. There's good karma and bad karma but basically we all come in with a certain amount of karmic rebalancing that we need to get through in this life." (2:42) "When we heal the trauma and we clear the pattern and clear the karma, our reality completely changes, because we are creating our reality all the time." (8:01) "We have all been our own ancestor seven or eight generations before, so very often we are playing out patterns in our life that were set up as we were our own ancestor." (14:37) "Once we heal that pain we can then observe, we can then witness and be very, very present emotionally with people going through trauma without having to be the hero, without having to fix them or rescue them." (19:53) "We are not here to save the world, we are here to be one with the divine and be in divine service and allow the divine to work through us in whatever way it needs." (21:28) Links Sacred By Swan Website The Book of Sahara - Jesus's Secret Wife by Dr. Swan Montague Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/86 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Sheila Sutherland woke up one day to find that her brain and body had betrayed her, unable to form full sentences and left with pain everywhere except her face and hair. The medical community had a lack of answers and an overindulgence of antibiotics which lead Sheila to venture out on her own and find healing on her own terms. With over 20 years of experience in the science and education fields, Shiela used her knowledge and the power of holistic medicine to heal her myalgic encephalomyelitis and find peace in the betrayal of her body. By making meaning out of your trauma and finding what works best for your own healing journey, Sheila is proof of the power of managing your behavior and responses to increase success in both your personal and professional lives. Through meditation, gut healing, kickboxing, nature and more, Sheila is here to provide tangible ways to help you live your life with the utmost happiness. If you are looking for tools on how to overcome a bodily betrayal or master this thing that we call life, Sheila is the guru you need to help you pay attention to your body and your mind to take back control of your body and your life. Have you ever dealt with a bodily betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Exploring the individual experience of PTSD and how it affects each person individually Tools to help manage your stress and anger through healthy emotional outlets The power of meditation when healing chronic pain and emotional trauma Ways that you can heal your gut and microbiome from the inside out How to reconnect with your body through meditation, nature, and self-care Quotes "As great as it was that they could put a name on it, the problem was that because it was so rarely diagnosed and not really studied, there was no medical protocol." (7:34) "I had a rather strong conversation with my doctor and said, 'I need to figure this out on my own'. Because unfortunately the traditional medical community doesn't really have anything for me for this, and I need to try something else because this isn't working." (9:29) "Meditation, like anything, is a practice. You have to do it on a consistent, regular basis. And in doing that my mind finally went, oh, so we can rest a little bit. And it started learning that there was another way to do it." (16:40) "Eventually it was, 'I have to let this go.' And it took time, it is not an easy, overnight process, but I had to get to the point of 'I can't keep holding onto this.'" (24:48) Links Reignite Your Purpose Website Follow Sheila on Facebook | Instagram Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/85 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Sheri Keffer's life came screeching to a halt when she found out that her new marriage to a pastor was filled with pornography, affairs, and prostitutes. Now a clinical sex addiction therapist and EMDR practitioner in addition to her audience of over two million people per week on her regular co-hosting gig at New Life Live, Dr. Sheri knows what it takes to heal and helps others realize that they are not alone, not crazy and can heal after sexual betrayal. The way men and women experience sexual betrayal is very different, and it is only by engaging in a total truth-telling process that you can work to heal yourself and your relationship. The physical and mental symptoms of betrayal can seem overwhelming, but when you equip yourself with the right boundaries and ability to see the truth for what it is, healing is possible. The process of rebuilding starts with you first, and it is Dr. Sheri's mission is to give betrayed partners a roadmap to healing and recovery. With tools like EMDR and therapy, Dr. Sheri is here to tell you that you are worth fighting for and it is possible to rebuild with or without the person that hurt you as long as you have the truth first. Have you or a loved one experienced sexual betrayal? How do you relate to Dr. Sheri's story of deception and healing through exposing the truth? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Exploring the shock after a marital sexual betrayal and how to find the right help Learn about betrayal blindness is and why it can be so powerful Why your well-meaning therapist could be doing more harm than good The importance of taking care of yourself and being in a truth-telling process How EMDR can help you connect your thoughtful and emotional brain Quotes "All of it hurts, but the more intimate, the more emotional, the longer that relationship is, the more compulsive the sexual behavior is. It is harmful to us." (4:59) "At some point, I had to wake up from this nightmare I was living in that I really didn't want to look at." (10:34) "A partner who is betrayed needs two things that are critical to heal, like two pillars, they need safety and they need the truth. And until they have those two things, a betrayed partner cannot settle into their body." (19:17) "The first step of recovery, whether you are staying with your partner or not, is recovery for yourself. Because you can't fight for that relationship if you are lying flat on the ground." (28:32) "We have to be very proactive in getting in front of good therapists that know what they are doing with sexual deception." (28:10) Links Get Your Freebies Here! Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer Brave One Blog Dr. Sheri Keffer Website Bravery After Betrayal Retreat Follow Dr. Sheri Keffer on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter IITAP Website APSATS Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/84 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is a physician turned relationship and intimacy expert who helps committed couples shift their mindset and find the emotional and sensual intimacy that they crave. After watching her nine-year-old daughter's zest and vibrancy for life, Alexandra realized that she needed to find that spark within herself again if she wanted to foster a healthy and happy life for her children. Many people view a long term relationship as a place where passion goes to die, but when you are able to shift your mindset and find peace within yourself, you can bring pleasure and purpose to all aspects of your life. In this episode, Alexandra explains how children of divorce can often share similar looming thoughts and feelings, how you can be inspired by prioritizing yourself and your connection with your partner and explores the uncharted territory of life after betrayal to be truly honest with the reality of your relationship. If you want to find hope in intimacy after betrayal, re-establishing your connection as a couple or find the courage to address the real issues within yourself and your relationship, Alexandra is the expert for you. How do you address your own internal betrayals that may be sabotaging your happiness? Share with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Common symptoms, fears and looming thoughts found in many children of divorce How to prioritize connecting with your partner as two sensual adults Addressing the lack of models and information when it comes to an ideal relationship Tips for creating a healthy, honest and romantic relationship after betrayal The importance of figuring out how you have betrayed yourself first Quotes "I knew that if she continued to grow up in my presence, living at home for another nine years, there was no way that she could sustain all of her radiance because there was a part of me that was uncomfortable and unsatisfied." (7:21) "Once we have a particular identity… it's like it ends out vibrations and then things happen that reveal that to us." (15:01) "When you want to be great at innovation, there are all kinds of people you might learn from, Elon Musk or whatever. The same thing in sports, in music, but when it comes to relationships, there really is a lack of models worth emulating." (20:25) "I want to be able to give people a sense of where to move towards no matter where you are starting." (30:42) Links Dr. Alexandra Stockwell Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/83 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Dr. Meg Haworth is a wellness expert, nutritional celebrity chef, transpersonal psychologist and best-selling author who is proof that it truly is possible to heal from anything. Having faced over a dozen chronic illnesses, survived childhood sexual abuse and getting struck by lightning, Dr. Meg focuses on holistic wellness solutions for those who have developed a chronic illness as a result of their adverse experiences. Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us, including physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release this trauma it can build up inside of our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection, and Dr. Meg is here to shine a light on your environment's ability to alter the core of your being. Chronic illness as a result of betrayal is something that many struggle with, but it doesn't have to be that way. If you are ready to heal your mind, body, and soul as one whole entity, Dr. Meg is here to help you find your enlightening power of choice and get to the next level of your healing journey. Have your past experiences resulted in a physical, mental or emotional illness? Share how you are working to release the past and move forward holistically in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Learn how to release your past experiences from your cellular memory Looking at the connection between the mind, body, and spirit to find holistic healing Explore the major link between adverse childhood experiences and illness How to shift your wellness journey through real food and trained professionals Discover what it is like to be struck by lightning and how Dr. Meg continues to heal Quotes "Most medical practitioners, they are always looking for what is wrong with you physically and how do we help that physically. But it was really the mental, emotional and spiritual issues that were beneath it all that were the biggest thing that unlocked the mystery of my own health." (3:23) "I knew I was spinning in anxiety all the time, I knew that I was a wreck on the inside and that the smiling outside didn't match the inside, I knew all of that. But I didn't understand how it was wearing away at my physical body." (7:28) "That question in that moment really changed the course of my life, because then I decided that I needed to take my healing into my own hands and look at some alternatives or complementary care that might be able to help me actually heal." (12:14) "You're looking at the connection between the mind, the body and the spirit, and the mental emotional and spiritual are really at the core of the experience." (20:18) Links Dr. Meg Hayworth Website Get Well Now by Dr. Meg Hayworth Get Well Soon Podcast Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/82 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

According to recent data, there are over 152 million Americans who are victims of narcissistic abuse. Narcissists can entangle themselves in your life and can cause a severe amount of trauma and betrayal. Narcissism and betrayal can lead to the perfect storm, and it is only by recognizing the red flags of a narcissist that you can set boundaries and heal yourself so that you don't become a narcissist magnet. Tracy Malone is the founder of Narcissist Abuse Support, a global resource that helps victims in over 145 countries heal after a narcissistic relationship. Whether it is a romantic partner, family member, friend or co-worker, narcissists thrive on getting what they can out of people, which is why the pain from this type of betrayal can run so deep. Betrayal is just part of the package when dealing with a narcissist, and the sad truth is that they will never change. By putting language towards narcissistic tendencies, understanding the stages and tendencies of a narcissist, and not sharing your shame story unless someone deserves it, you can learn how to protect yourself from becoming vulnerable to a narcissists' game. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, wanting to heal and get to the stage of 'no-contact' or are looking to understand the mind of a narcissist, Tracy is here to shine a light on a topic so many struggle with. Are you ready to break the pattern of narcissistic abuse and learn your own internal lessons so that you stop attracting or falling prey to narcissistic tendencies? Share your experience with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Red flags to look out for if you think you may be in a relationship with a narcissist Understanding the different types of narcissistic personality disorder and their traits The three stages of narcissistic abuse and how to get to the 'no-contact' stage How to heal from an abusive narcissistic relationship and move past your fear The importance of rebuilding trust in yourself to heal your trauma for good Quotes "They know they have got you. All they have to do is mold themselves to what you are telling them you are looking for, and they've hooked you! It's a green flag to them." (6:07) "Most people, sadly, get discarded, or leave a narcissist seven times before they are able to go no contact and never have to deal with them again." (16:10) "[Narcissists] can't really change themselves. They can go back into that love bombing stage, and they can act, but they are never ever going to be able to feel empathy." (18:00) "Abandonment is not just 'daddy left when I was six'. It's someone not being there for you emotionally who is in your life. So if you have been with a narcissistic partner, they have emotionally left you and you feel abandoned." (21:51) "If you don't do the work, you're going to hook another narcissist, you have to learn this lesson before you go out there, so let yourself have time to heal." (30:39) Links Narcissist Abuse Support Website Follow Tracy on YouTube | Facebook Group Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/81 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

More often than not, trauma gets stuck inside our bodies, and we need to get it out in order to begin to heal and move on. Devorah Steinberg is an LICSW, therapist, love coach and spiritual seeker who has dedicated her life to helping others reach their goals in love, spirit, and their life purpose. After a deeply personal spiritual journey helped Devorah find clarity, and true love, she created the Wise Woman Path to Love. Now, she is dedicated to helping her clients through online and in-person coaching in order to heal patterns of self-betrayal through mind-body approaches. Devorah believes in the ability of mind-body practices such as yoga, hypnotherapy, and bottom-up processing in order to help yourself get unstuck. When you can forgive yourself for the ways in which you betray yourself, you can trust your intuition and avoid heartache. It is all about the people, techniques, and healing that can help you move past your betrayal. Providing an arsenal of tools to reach out and try, Devorah is here to help you find what works for you and move from a place of darkness to freedom and light. Have you tried any of the practices or techniques Devorah discusses on this episode? Let us know your experiences in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode Recognizing and acknowledging your unconscious self-betrayal Specific mind-body practices to help unlock your inner potential Helping other women on the path to true love through a spiritual journey The crazy experience Debbie had during a yoga class and the best types of yoga for beginners Tapping, hypnotherapy, EMDR, and other effective therapeutic techniques Quotes "I started out with that deep draw to the mystical. And to what is going on at the core, at the seed, going deeper and deeper and deeper" (2:23) "If you are focused on just giving and there is no giving and receiving to the depth of that level of balance, guess what's going to happen? You're not going to receive" (8:29) "After 25 years of searching and literally feeling like I was banging my head against the wall, three months later everything changed" (10:50) "No matter how long you have been feeling stuck, wherever you are there is a place to heal. You are not forever bound to be in this place" (26:27) Links The Wise Woman Path Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/80 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

When healing from a betrayal there are endless ways that you can help yourself, including cleansing the spaces you spend time in. From your home to your work, Feng shui could be the answer to getting rid of past negative traumas and embracing a new version of yourself. Kim Julen is a Feng shui expert, psychic, angel card reader and love activist who helps others find harmony in their head, heart, and home. Creating a healing space in your home or office can work wonders for your mental, physical and emotional wellbeing. Kim is here to teach us about the process of Feng shui, which areas of your home can be affected by different types of conflict or betrayal, and how to create an environment that energetically supports what you want to have in your life. If your space feels like it is keeping you down, it is time to cleanse and neutralize your environment to get rid of the past betrayal and find peace. When you can utilize Feng shui to harmonize your workspace, home life and most importantly, your life, you can create a space that reflects the life you deserve. Which Feng shui tip are you most excited to implement in your space? Share how you are working to cleanse your environment in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Understanding the different types of feng shui and the role it plays in your happiness Tips to make your home or workspace energetically full of protection and confidence How to balance out the control in your house with your children or spouse The 5 elements of Feng shui and how to harness them to balance your environment Learn a Hawaiian prayer to facilitate forgiveness and why you should say 'I love you' Quotes "Doors are the voices of the adults. And if you have doors that are squeaking, get some WD-40 out and oil them because that will help calm down the complaining." (24:35) "I love you, I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you. And you will see it in different ways, I like to have the I love you first. Because on a soul level, we all really do all love each other." (26:56) "Really truly, forgiveness is really about loving yourself. It really isn't about loving the other person, but whenever that thought or that person comes into your mind if you are saying 'I love you', that's expressing love to yourself." (28:38) "If there is chaos going on in your life, most likely there is chaos going on in your space as well." (29:22) Links Feng Shui Freebie Finding Your Fiji Website Learn Why and How to Energetically Clear Your Space YouTube Video Follow Kim on YouTube | Facebook | Instagram Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/79 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro