From Betrayal To Breakthrough

Marriage counseling is often seen as a common response to experiencing betrayal in a relationship. However, there are several reasons why this approach may not be effective in addressing the aftermath of betrayal, and we'll discuss why this is the case in this week's episode. Dr. Debi had the pleasure of speaking with Beth Fischer, a certified PBT practitioner and a remarkable individual who found herself facing the devastating discovery of her husband's secret life. Beth's journey through betrayal and depression lasted for over two years, leaving her unable to see past her pain or envision a happy future. However, she found the strength to break free from her trauma cycle and not only reconcile with her husband but also create an amazing life for herself. Beth's story is truly inspiring, and her resilience in the face of such adversity is remarkable. She discusses the importance of finding the right support and community, as well as the transformative power of doing the hard work necessary to heal. During their conversation, they also touch on the topic of trust and how it can be rebuilt after betrayal. Beth shares her insights on how the person who betrayed you often changes in appearance and energy, creating a different feeling altogether. It's a powerful reminder that there is hope for healing and growth, even in the most challenging of circumstances. If you are currently navigating the painful journey of betrayal or know someone who is, we highly recommend tuning in to this episode. Beth's wisdom and expertise, coupled with her willingness to share her story, will undoubtedly provide strength and hope to countless individuals who may be facing similar challenges. Key Takeaways: [00:01:59] Why marriage counseling doesn't work. [00:06:04] The betrayer's why. [00:08:07] A to Z analogy. [00:11:14] Betrayal trauma and changing pasts. [00:15:11] The five stages of transformation. [00:17:18] Betrayed partners must prioritize self-healing. [00:19:49] Reasons versus excuses. [00:23:11] The real why. [00:27:41] There is hope for healing. [00:28:10] Betrayal can lead to transformation. [00:31:12] Betrayal changing your past. Memorable Quotes "When we talk about betrayal trauma, we're talking about somebody's past literally changing overnight. What they thought was real is now a lie. They have no concept of time anymore. It's wait a minute, you did what? Where was I? Wait a minute, that was our anniversary, and you were texting or calling or whatever it was. So, with betrayal and trauma, your past changes and that's brutal to the human mind." – Beth Fischer "I'm not buying that it was a lack of sex or that it was a bad marriage. I'm not buying that. I was in the same marriage. I didn't cheat. There has to be more to it than that. Now, back then I didn't have the words, so that ended up into a huge fight. Now I see very clearly, I was 100% spot on. He had to go figure out why, and I was not going to take any responsibility for it." – Beth Fischer Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Post Betrayal Syndrome (PBS) Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/ Free Gift Link: https://chaostocalm.coachbethfischer.com/c2c & https://aherosjourney.coachbethfischer.com/hero Where To Find Our Guest Website: https://coachbethfischer.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_family_needs_you/

One of the most common misconceptions is that betrayers can never change. But that's simply not true! While some may move on without any remorse, there are those who experience a profound wake-up call and make a complete 180-degree shift in their behavior. It's important to recognize that change is possible, and for those who choose to reconcile, it can be a pivotal moment of growth and transformation. Today, Dr. Debi discusses the misconceptions surrounding betrayers and their ability to change and shares personal experiences and stories of individuals who have experienced a profound wake-up call, leading them to make significant changes in their lives. Betrayal can be a catalyst for transformation, and it's important to recognize that not all betrayers are unwilling to change. Dr. Debi also explores the unique nature of betrayal and how it impacts our lives. Betrayal can leave us feeling shattered and questioning everything we thought we knew about ourselves and our relationships. However, there is hope. Through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, we can rebuild ourselves and our lives, emerging stronger and more resilient than ever before. Additionally, Dr. Debi touches upon the importance of self-care and the role it plays in our healing journey. She shares a practical tool that can help you get the sleep you need, an essential component of the healing process. If you've experienced other traumas besides betrayal, such as the loss of a loved one or a natural disaster, you may find this episode particularly insightful. We explore the unique challenges of betrayal and how it differs from other forms of trauma. Key Takeaways: [00:00:20] Reconciling with a betrayer. [00:04:52] Betrayal shatters and transforms lives. [00:06:04] Post-betrayal transformation. [00:06:39] Betrayal and transformation. Memorable Quotes "When that happens, it creates an entirely new relationship where all the rules are changed based on who you are, what you need, what you're ready for now. And it allows you to take a look at everything that you were and what no longer serves. You leave all that behind and you decide who you want to be, what rules you need, what values, what's important to you." – Dr. Debi Silber "Someone just asked me about this, and I thought it would help. He said, at night, it's really hard to sleep. I have a lot of nightmares. And it's so common when you're healing from betrayal. Everything you were able to maybe just avoid distract yourself from during the day comes out in full force at night." – Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/

Suicide is an intensely emotional event that affects not only the individual who chooses to end their life but also the survivors left behind. Today, we will explore the devastating experience of suicide and its profound effects on individuals and communities. Dr. Debi sits down with Alexandra Wyman, author of Amazon best-selling book "The Suicide Club," for this week's episode to discuss the sensitive and heartbreaking topic of suicide. Together, we explore the grief and unanswered questions that come with losing a loved one to suicide, offering tools, strategies, and support for healing. Suicide is a deeply distressing and tragic event that leaves a lasting impact on the lives of those left behind. The emotional impact, unanswered questions, feelings of betrayal, and stigma surrounding suicide make it an incredibly challenging journey for those navigating the aftermath. Alexandra discusses how, unfortunately, when it comes to suicide, the loved ones left behind can often be questioned, blamed, and shamed. This makes the healing process even more challenging. She emphasizes the importance of providing lots of love and support to those who are hurting, without judgment or blame. It is crucial for society to foster open conversations about suicide, provide support, and create a safe space for survivors to heal and find solace. Each person's healing journey is unique, and it's crucial to find the tools and resources that work best for you. Alexandra shares her toolbox of healing, including a suicide support group, therapy, journaling, exercise, meditation, and more. Remember, there's no right or wrong choice when it comes to healing. Explore different options and find what resonates with you. Join us for this important conversation and learn how to navigate the complex emotions surrounding this type of betrayal. Key Takeaways: [00:03:34] Legal action and custody questions. [00:04:05] Questions of blame and grief. [00:07:12] Setting boundaries and grieving. [00:10:31] Embrace emotions for healing. [00:12:00] Spirituality and questioning. [00:15:23] Dreams and connecting with loved ones. [00:18:39] Love and compassion and forgiveness. [00:21:27] Forgiveness as a healing process. [00:23:11] Forgiveness brings freedom and healing. [00:25:48] Finding something to anchor to. [00:28:41] Suicide support group, therapy, journaling. Memorable Quotes "And for me, what was most helpful was just people reaching out and saying, I'm thinking about you. I'm here for you when you're ready. That was great and comforting because at that time, what most people were asking is, what can we do? And I said, the one thing I want no one can do. I want my husband back here. No one can do that. So just being open and available without kind of projecting our own ideas of grief and what an individual would need based off of what we think we would need." – Alexandra Wyman "And I tell people now, work through, you know, it's horrible to work through those feelings, but it feels amazing on the other side. It really does. I felt lighter." – Alexandra Wyman Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Where To Find Our Guest Website: https://www.forwardtojoy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forwardtojoy/

Emotions are normal during healing. This is a key takeaway in this episode where Dr. Debi discusses the various emotions that individuals may experience when going through the process of healing from betrayal. She reassures everyone that these emotions are completely normal and to be expected. Yes, it's completely normal to experience a range of emotions when healing from betrayal. Many individuals find themselves feeling tired, experiencing outbursts of anger or sadness, or even having nightmares. Remember, these emotions are part of the healing process. Additionally, healing from betrayal is not just about who you want to become, but also about letting go of who you no longer want to be. This journey is an opportunity to shed the weight of what no longer serves you and embrace the person you are meant to be. The beauty of betrayal lies in the ability to rebuild anything and everything you desire. So, ask yourself, what are you willing to let go of? What have you outgrown? By answering these questions, you can pave the way for the version of yourself who's ready to show up. One of the most common questions we receive is, "Will I ever be able to trust again?" Remember, betrayal may shatter trust, but it is possible to rebuild it. Trust in yourself can be regained, it takes time, support, and the right tools, and we are here to guide you through the process. If you're curious about the answers to these questions and eager to learn more about healing from betrayal, make sure to tune in to our latest episode. Key Takeaways: [00:00:13] Emotions are normal during healing. [00:01:27] Letting go and rebuilding. [00:03:29] Rebuilding after betrayal. Memorable Quotes "When you're healing from betrayal, it's less about who you want to become. It's more about letting go of who you aren't." – Dr. Debi Silber "But not only can it be rebuilt, it can be rebuilt so much better, so much stronger than it ever was before. You need the right tools, support, and the right community to move through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough." - Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ PBS Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/ Trust Again 2.0: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trust-again/

Body betrayal is a concept that refers to the feeling of being let down or betrayed by our own bodies. It is a topic that has gained attention in recent years, as more and more people are struggling with various health issues, weight problems, and chronic illnesses. In this episode, Dr. Debi interviews Jenn Malecha, a Health Business Coach who supports health-minded professionals in taking control of their health and finding the missing pieces of their health puzzle. Jenn shares her wisdom and insights on how to break free from negative patterns and create a healthier, more fulfilling life. She emphasizes the importance of forgiveness in our lives and how it can be a tough, yet transformative journey, and highlights the significance of self-love and how it plays a vital role in building our health and correcting imbalances in our bodies. One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of slowing down and creating space for self-reflection. We often get caught up in our busy lives, neglecting our own needs and desires. But by taking the time to listen to our bodies and understand our unique needs, we can make positive changes and experience a greater sense of well-being. Join us as we discuss the rise of AI-generated headshots and the pressure to conform to unrealistic beauty standards. Our guest expert, Jenn, shares valuable insights on how we can reclaim our health and well-being by loving and honoring ourselves. Don't miss out on this empowering conversation that will challenge the way you think about your body. Tune in now and start your journey towards self-acceptance and self-care. Key Takeaways: [00:02:23] Feeling betrayed by our bodies. [00:03:48] Betrayal and forgiveness of body. [00:07:53] Unrealistic beauty standards. [00:11:19] Being authentic impacts your health. [00:13:11] Building a healthy relationship with our bodies. [00:15:33] Being present vs. Checking boxes. [00:17:07] Slow down and create space for presence. [00:19:40] Kundalini yoga and breathwork. [00:22:00] Listen to your body's feedback. [00:26:18] Alleviating symptoms and healing. [00:27:27] Stress impacts the body's systems. [00:29:41] Starting with food and sleep. [00:32:47] Personalizing your unique diet. [00:33:41] Listen to your body's needs. [00:35:59] Building our health back. Memorable Quotes "There's so many ways that our body is talking to us all the time. It's everything from the little aches and pains to the cravings to our energy levels. It's like being able to tune into your body at any point in time to understand what it needs and giving it that." – Jenn Malecha "It actually shows us the impact on the body over time that this constant place of busyness, always moving, always being like in this mild to moderate or high fight or flight stage, is having a drastic impact on every other asset of the body." – Jenn Malecha Links Mentioned In This Episode Free Gift Link (Food & Body Language Log): https://whb.tips/bbpfoodlog / https://gn180.isrefer.com/go/foodlog/pbtinstitute/ Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Where To Find Our Guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wholistichealthboss Website: https://wholistichealthboss.com/ Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/

Betrayal is a deeply painful experience that can have a profound impact on a person's life. It shatters trust, leaves emotional scars, and can lead to feelings of anger, sadness, and confusion. However, despite the devastation it brings, betrayal can also serve as a catalyst for personal transformation. This is evident in the awe-inspiring story of Suzanne Verbrugge. In this episode, Dr. Debi had the privilege of hearing from Suzanne, one of our rock star members at the PBT Institute. Suzanne has gone through an incredible transformation, moving through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough. Her story is a testament to the power of resilience and the ability to create a beautiful life even in the face of adversity. From the moment Suzanne joined our community, she dove headfirst into the work, and the results speak for themselves. We are truly in awe of her journey, and we know that her story will inspire you to take action and make positive changes in your own life. During the episode, Suzanne shares how she navigated her way through a challenging relationship and found the strength to not only forgive but also to start a new business. She talks about the power of community and how the support and encouragement from others played a crucial role in her transformation. Her story is a reminder that success is not defined by external circumstances, but by the love and resilience that resides within each of us. We invite you to listen to this episode and join us on an empowering journey of healing and self-growth. Key Takeaways: [00:00:07] Betrayal in a long-term relationship. [00:06:02] Starting a new life. [00:08:29] Discovery of an affair. [00:13:48] Betrayal and post-traumatic healing. [00:16:35] Sleep deprivation and its effects. [00:19:00] The covert narcissist. [00:22:15] Overcoming dependency on medication. [00:26:15] What is success? [00:30:39] Rebuilding is a choice. Memorable Quotes "I'm standing there, and I go like, what's wrong with me? Because I've never ever had anything, even a thought about that. And I said, I need help. I need help because this is not normal. My body went into shock. Everything went into shock." – Suzanne Verbrugge "That all the negative things you go through, transform that into something beautiful. Don't go into the negative, go into the positive." - Suzanne Verbrugge Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Where To Find Our Guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smverbrugge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/suzy.verbrugge Website: https://suzanneverbrugge.smugmug.com/

Using logic for healing betrayal can be a common approach for many individuals who have experienced betrayal. Logic is often seen as a tool that can help us make sense of situations, find solutions, and understand the reasons behind certain actions. However, when it comes to healing from betrayal, using logic may not be the most effective tool. In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of healing from betrayal and why using logic may be keeping you stuck. Dr. Debi explores how healing fully and moving through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough requires a different approach, one that goes beyond logic. Just like trying to do a home improvement project with only a hammer, healing from betrayal requires a variety of tools. Logic alone won't help you fully heal. To truly heal, we need to bypass the logical, rational mind and tap into what's underneath. It's about accessing our emotions and deeper inner wisdom. Moreover, to break free from the chains of resentment and pain, we need to ask ourselves important questions about our current situation and the potential for change. By telling ourselves the truth, we can begin the journey towards transformation. If you've been feeling stuck and logical reasoning hasn't been helping, this episode is for you! Discover the power of bypassing the rational mind and uncover what's truly underneath to aid in your healing process. Don't miss out on this empowering episode that will guide you towards a breakthrough. Key Takeaways: [00:00:39] Using the wrong tool for healing. [00:01:30] Using logic is not helpful in healing from betrayal. [00:04:29] Numbing, avoiding, and distracting. [00:05:07] Ask yourself honest questions. [00:06:59] Healing and happiness. Memorable Quotes "Being logical will keep you stuck when it comes to healing from betrayal. It is the wrong tool for the job. Healing from betrayal has very little to do with logic because think about it, you're trying to make sense of the senseless, right?" – Dr. Debi Silber "You owe it to yourself to do something really good with something really painful." - Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/

Many of us have spent years stuck in survival mode, barely breathing and holding our breaths. In this episode, we address this common struggle and offer hope for those seeking to transition from a state of fear and discomfort to a place of safety and deep cleansing breaths. Today's episode features the incredible Elizabeth Kipp. She is not only an expert in her field but also one of our certified PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) coaches who specializes in chronic pain and stress management, and her insights have truly transformed the healing journey for many of our members. Elizabeth shares her wisdom on breathing, stress response, and regulating the nervous system. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing that the greatest healer in your life resides within you. She believes that 80% of your healing journey is a collaboration between you and the intelligence within your body and the world. It's a powerful reminder of the innate healing potential we all possess. Throughout our conversation, Elizabeth provides practical strategies from her Rebuild Roadmap book, which is filled with incredible practices for anyone looking to rebuild. She explains how breathing and regulating the nervous system can have a profound impact on our well-being, especially for those who have been stuck in a state of survival for years. If you've ever felt like you've been barely breathing, holding your breath, or living in a constant state of stress, this episode is for you. Elizabeth offers guidance on how to transition from that place to feeling safe, comfortable, and empowered with each deep cleansing breath. I encourage you to tune in to this episode and discover the transformative power of breathing and healing. Key Takeaways: [00:01:23] The stress response. [00:05:08] Communication during triggers. [00:07:36] Dysregulation in the vagus nerve. [00:10:38] Shallow breathing and its effects. [00:15:35] The power of breath. [00:19:57] Getting your nervous system regulated. [00:21:33] Empowering self-healing journey. Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Links Mentioned In This Episode Elizabeth Kipp's Website: https://elizabeth-kipp.com/ Elizabeth Kipp's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizi.kipp/ Elizabeth Kipp's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethKippStressManagement/ PBT Institute Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "Actually, your body is your nervous system and your body are so smart. All you have to do is begin long deep breathing and you'll feel calm. It's not like you have to talk yourself into it. This is not a mind thing. This is not like an affirmation. This is an actual thing that happens." – Elizabeth Kipp "If you ask me, what is my mantra in this space? My mantra is the greatest healer in your life lives within." - Elizabeth Kipp

Let's explore the profound lesson that betrayal teaches us in this new episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough." Whether it's learning to love ourselves, setting better boundaries, or prioritizing our own needs, each betrayal presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Dr. Debi shares her personal experience and research on post-traumatic growth, revealing how betrayal felt distinct and prompted her to investigate further. She also shares one of our member's journeys of betrayal from her mom, which unknowingly affected her marriage. Through self-reflection and a commitment to change, she's now ready to make a change and prioritize herself. Many of us struggle with speaking up and prioritizing our needs due to a fear of shaking up those around us. This episode challenges that mindset and encourages you to embrace change, even if it means upsetting others. Remember, it's better to upset yourself than to sacrifice your own well-being for the sake of others. Join in now as Dr. Debi explores the power to write the script for how people treat us and the importance of seeking help in rewriting it. Discover the power of change and the version of yourself that is waiting to be created and discovered. Tune in for valuable insights and resources to support your own transformation journey. Key Takeaways: [00:01:36] Post-betrayal transformation. [00:03:35] Shaking up and upsetting. [00:05:23] Trust feels different than expected. Memorable Quotes "But betrayal gives you the opportunity to create a version of you that never would have had the opportunity to exist and be created had that experience not happen." – Dr. Debi Silber "That's what truth and trust feels like. There's no deception. There's no pretending that there's something that they're not or someone that they're not. They're just authentic and real." - Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/

Betrayal is a deeply painful experience that can shatter our sense of trust, security, and self-worth. Whether it's infidelity in a romantic relationship, deceit from a close friend, or betrayal in any other form, the aftermath can leave us feeling lost and broken. However, it is possible to rebuild and advocate for ourselves after betrayal. In this empowering episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough," Dr. Debi sits down with Attorney, TEDx Speaker, and Betrayal Recovery Expert, Lora Cheadle. Together, they dive into the topic of advocating for yourself after infidelity and discuss the importance of setting boundaries, redefining your identity, and trusting your truth. They explore how betrayal can change us, both for better and for worse, and how it uncovers the truth of who we are and our potential for growth and healing. Lora opens up about her personal journey of betrayal and the invaluable lessons she learned along the way. She offers powerful insights and strategies for navigating the difficult stages of betrayal and redefining your identity. Lora's message is one of hope and resilience, reminding us that we will be more than okay, and that we have the potential to create a life filled with love, meaning, purpose, and deep connection. Whether you've experienced betrayal or simply want to learn more about personal growth and healing, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for moving forward. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation! Key Takeaways: [00:02:18] Discovering self-worth after betrayal. [00:05:18] Living for me. [00:08:11] Redefining boundaries and pushback. [00:10:45] Prioritize self-care and set boundaries. [00:12:55] Choosing your heart. [00:15:20] Finding your passion. [00:16:44] Acceptance leads to growth. [00:19:59] Betrayal uncovers the truth. [00:22:01] Opportunity to transform through trauma. [00:23:23] Flaunting your fetish. Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Links Mentioned In This Episode https://loracheadle.com/betrayal-recovery-guide/ https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "I could be miserable and bitter, I could hate these other women, I could hate my husband, I could spend the rest of my life telling this story about this horrific thing that had been done to me, and where I was entitled to be a victim, I could test that story for the rest of my life, or I could actually start living for me." – Lora Cheadle "Living for me means I am the only one that is going to advocate on my own behalf. Nobody else is ever going to come in and say, 'Oh, you look tired. Why don't you go take a nap? I'm going to make you a cup of tea and hand you this book. Will you sit here and read?' That's up to me to determine what I need and to create that space and those boundaries to get it." - Lora Cheadle

Post-betrayal syndrome is a term used to describe the emotional, physical, and mental symptoms that individuals experience after being betrayed. Did you know that it affects millions of people worldwide? Over 80,000 people have taken our post-betrayal syndrome quiz. That's a staggering number! This syndrome encompasses a range of emotions and experiences, including constant regression, loss of personal power, extreme sadness, anger, anxiety, and an inability to trust. The statistics speak for themselves, it highlights the profound effects of betrayal on our lives and it's crucial to acknowledge and understand the impact it has on our well-being. The good news is that you CAN heal from betrayal, no matter how long ago it happened or who was involved. During the episode, Dr. Debi shares a heartwarming story of a member from the PBT Institute who experienced a significant trigger. By comparing her response to previous situations, she discovered notable improvements in her emotional resilience. We explore how you can do the same and celebrate every small step forward. Remember, progress is progress, no matter how small! Dr. Debi also emphasizes the importance of moving through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough. It's crucial to have the right tools, support, and community to guide you along this transformative journey. If you're feeling stuck, exhausted, or overwhelmed, don't worry! The PBT Institute is here to help you every step of the way. With their resources and expertise, you can find confidence, health, peace, and happiness on the other side of your healing journey. Key Takeaways: [00:01:08] Physical Symptoms of Betrayal [00:04:22] Weight gain and stress. [00:05:25] Healing from betrayal requires healthy eating. Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "These stats aren't from a recent betrayal. This could be something that happened decades ago. Your parent did something awful. The girlfriend or boyfriend who broke your heart in high school, whatever it is, that person may not know, care, even remember they may not even be alive. And here you are struggling. The good news is you could heal from all of it." – Dr. Debi Silber "While there are many very healthy ways to eat, when you're healing from betrayal, you want to use healthy eating in your favor. You want to use it as almost looking at it like, will this food choice get me out of ICU? And you're learning how to love yourself and nurture yourself, which is something that we absolutely do not do when we're healing from betrayal." - Dr. Debi Silber

Empowerment through financial independence is a concept that emphasizes the importance of taking control of one's finances and using money as a tool to create the life one desires. This idea is particularly relevant in the context of divorce, where individuals often find themselves navigating the complexities of financial separation and rebuilding their lives. If you're going through a betrayal, separation, or divorce, the added factor of finances can make things even more complicated. Today's guest, Mikelann Valterra, a Money Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker and Leader in the field of Financial Psychology, provides practical strategies and emotional intelligence techniques to help you transform your relationship with money, escape financial stress, and find peace and stability. Mikelann emphasizes the importance of knowing how money affects us on a personal level. Does money represent freedom or security to you? Identifying your money personality can help you make better financial decisions and ultimately design a life you love. We all make mistakes when it comes to money, but it's crucial to forgive ourselves and learn from them. Dwelling on past mistakes can hinder our emotional and physical well-being. Instead, let's focus on moving forward and creating a plan to improve our relationship with money. Mikelann reminds us that we are on a journey with money, and it's time to enhance and improve our relationship with it. By doing so, we can overcome obstacles and create a brighter financial future. If you're interested in gaining a deeper understanding of the psychology behind our financial decisions, tune in to gain insights on navigating finances during challenging life transitions. Key Takeaways: [00:01:49] The psychology side of money. [00:05:30] Fear around money in divorce. [00:09:54] Couples polarizing with money. [00:12:26] Changing money conditioning. [00:15:47] Creativity in meeting needs. [00:19:34] Willingness to try something different. [00:23:34] Financial forgiveness. [00:25:09] Enhancing our relationship with money. [00:29:00] Transforming Relationships After Betrayal. Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://www.seattlemoneycoach.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seattlemoneycoach/ FREE E-book: https://seattle-money-coach.mykajabi.com/how-to-stop-stress-about-money-create-life-you-love Memorable Quotes "One of the things that happens when women go through divorce is your natural money personality gets bigger and stronger because there's no, if you will, opposing force. There's no one else that's pushing on you to be any different than you are. And so, when women are really highly motivated by freedom and they go through a divorce, there's a lot of fear that they're not going to be traveling the way they used to." – Mikelann Valterra "I love saying that the art of planning your spending is the art of crafting the life you desire. So, if there is nothing more powerful than stepping into crafting the life that you most want and so learning how to plan your spending is really about learning how to architect the life that you want to create." – Mikelann Valterra

When we experience betrayal, it's an opportunity for us to redefine who we are and how we want to show up in the world. This is a sacred and personal time that should not be rushed or influenced by others' agendas. Take the time to reflect, heal, and rediscover your true self. In the latest episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough," Dr. Debi dive deep into the topic of redefining and rewriting the rules after experiencing betrayal. Whether it's a personal or professional betrayal, it's crucial to take this time seriously and be mindful of who you surround yourself with during this delicate period. It's also essential to recognize that tolerating abuse, whether it's emotional or otherwise, comes at a significant cost. We must prioritize our healing and well-being by seeking the right tools, support, and community to move through the five stages of betrayal to achieve breakthrough. At the PBT Institute, we provide a safe space for individuals to heal and transform their lives. Remember, redefining our lives, healing from betrayal, and embracing change are all within our reach. You deserve to live a life filled with confidence, health, peace, and happiness. We're here to support you every step of the way. Key Takeaways: [00:01:29] Redefining and rewriting the script. [00:04:09] Rebuilding after betrayal. [00:05:13] Don't tolerate abuse, seek support. Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "And I'm so proud of the ones who are diving in, doing the work and doing something really good with something really painful." – Dr. Debi Silber "If rebuilding is in the cards, rebuild right. If not, become your best. There's so much at stake by tolerating abuse. You need the right tools, support, and the right community to move through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough." - Dr. Debi Silber

Betrayal is not the betrayer's fault. This statement holds true in various aspects of life, whether it be in personal relationships, friendships, or even professional settings. Betrayal is a deeply personal and hurtful experience that can have long-lasting effects on the individual who has been betrayed. It is important to recognize that the responsibility for the betrayal lies solely with the betrayer, and not with the person who has been betrayed. In this episode, we are joined by Mr. Jay, a beloved Certified PBT Practitioner who works with betrayed individuals and betrayers. He believes it is an obligation to help others navigate through the stages and phases of betrayal or even prevent it from happening. He has a Master's Degree in Education, a Ministry Credentialed, a Certified Special Education Teacher, Author of a children's book, a Military Veteran, an Inspirational Public Speaker, an Activist, Wedding Officiant, and Adoptive Parent. Mr. Jay shares his knowledge and experiences in dealing with trauma and betrayal, emphasizing the importance of sharing, and learning from these experiences. He takes us on a journey through the different stages of healing, emphasizing the transformative power of personal growth. From feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to eventually experiencing life from a new perspective, he illustrates the profound changes that occur when we invest in our own healing. This discussion offers hope and guidance to those who may be in the earlier stages of their healing process, reminding them that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Listen in as Mr. Jay discusses the stages and foundations of betrayal and offers insights on how to potentially prevent it. Key Takeaways: [00:02:04] Preventing betrayal in relationships. [00:04:23] Whose responsibility is it? [00:08:52] Unattaching the story of betrayal. [00:12:02] Attitude trumps action. [00:14:23] Thinking about drinking poison. [00:18:00] Real forgiveness and healing. [00:22:23] Breaking generational curses. [00:25:10] Rebuilding after betrayal. [00:27:14] Coveting your energy. [00:30:16] Transforming and evolving relationships. Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/ YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/xfv8b4vb Memorable Quotes "It's good to share some knowledge and information. I always say what a waste it would have been if all the lessons I learned from my own trauma and betrayal, I would have took to my grave." – Mr. Jay "You are now changing the course of history and the future to ensure your children are not talking to a professional because of the trauma you gave them because you did the hard work. You're breaking generational curses. So, whether it's anything about merchandise or big, huge businesses, it could also be, you know what, I when I'm six feet under, I want to be talked about in a completely different way than I would have been if I did not do this healing." – Mr. Jay

When everything in your life feels chaotic and out of control, taking control of healing after experiencing betrayal can provide a sense of stability and empowerment and is essential for moving forward and finding peace. In this episode, Dr. Debi explores the significance of maintaining a healthy diet and engaging in regular exercise as a means of recovering from betrayal. By taking charge of what we eat and how we move, we regain control over our decisions and our bodies. She also underscores the significance of prioritizing sleep as a crucial aspect of the healing process after betrayal, and provides tips for creating a good sleep environment, establishing a sleep routine, and managing nighttime racing thoughts. Additionally, Dr. Debi emphasizes the need to take time for personal growth and improvement instead of rushing into a new relationship. Engaging in self-improvement, whether through physical fitness or personal growth, empowers you to become stronger and attract healthier relationships. By taking control of your healing, you can navigate the difficult process of betrayal and emerge stronger and more prepared for the future. Remember, healing is a journey, and it's essential to be patient and kind to yourself along the way. So, if you're looking for guidance on how to navigate the aftermath of betrayal and start your healing process, this episode is a must-listen! Tune in now to gain valuable insights and practical tips for moving forward with strength and resilience. Key Takeaways: [00:00:00] Prioritizing sleep after betrayal [00:03:30] The importance of commitment Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/320-a-mini-dose-of-dr-debi-strong-like-bamboo-2/ Memorable Quotes "It's not even that you can't sleep, it's that sleep isn't quality, restorative, reparative sleep, but that's one of the most important times to get some healing work done." – Dr. Debi Silber "The most important is everything in your life feels like it's completely chaotic and out of control. This may be the only thing you have control over. So, it feels good to grab the reins again, where you feel like, okay, you know what, everything else is so crazy, but I got this." - Dr. Debi Silber

Multiple sclerosis (MS) is a chronic autoimmune disease that affects the central nervous system. It is characterized by inflammation and damage to the protective covering of nerve fibers, disrupting the flow of electrical impulses between the brain and the rest of the body. MS can cause a wide range of symptoms, including fatigue, muscle weakness, difficulty walking, pain, and cognitive impairment. In today's episode, Dr. Terry Wahls, a leading expert on MS and an Institute for Functional Medicine Certified Practitioner and a Clinical Professor of Medicine at the University of Iowa, shares her personal journey of living with the disease and how she went from being in a wheelchair to finding breakthroughs in her treatment. Her story is a powerful testament to the potential impact of these changes on MS management and overall health. Dr. Terry's personal journey with MS and her subsequent research highlight the transformative power of diet and lifestyle changes in managing the disease. Her story serves as an inspiration for individuals with MS and healthcare professionals alike, encouraging a shift towards a more holistic approach to MS care. Through education, research, and advocacy, Dr. Terry is paving the way for a future where individuals with MS can take charge of their health and improve their quality of life through simple yet powerful changes in their daily habits. Tune in to hear her inspiring story of resilience and transformation and gain valuable insights into managing MS and finding hope in the face of betrayal by the disease. Key Takeaways: [00:02:23] Overcoming Multiple Sclerosis through diet. [00:03:43} Diet and lifestyle impact MS. [00:06:02] Impact of early life stress. [00:10:23] Forgiveness and its impact. [00:11:18] Healing trauma requires professional help. [00:19:01] Intense trigeminal neuralgia pain. [00:19:54] Mindset is crucial for healing. [00:22:09] Recovery was not possible. [00:24:45] Clinical trial for multiple sclerosis. [00:26:30] Hope and healing through lifestyle. [00:27:45] Multi-pronged approach for health. [00:29:06] A glimpse into daily life. Links Mentioned In This Episode Dr. Terry's Website: www.terrywahls.com Free Cheat Sheet: https://terrywahls.com/diet/ Dr. Terry's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drterrywahls/ Memorable Quotes "As I look back at some of my early traumas, and I had to go through a period of forgiving. I am forgiving the individuals who did hurtful things. But the biggest person I had to forgive was me." – Dr. Terry Wahls "We had also asked some surveys about quality of life. And we'd get a research MRI at times zero and times 24 months. And what that will tell us is your brain volume at the beginning and at the end, because one of my hypotheses, I'm very excited about this one, is that by teaching you how to improve your diet, we can get you to healthy rates of brain aging." - Dr. Terry Wahls

Title: From Betrayal to Breakthrough: Moving Past a Betrayal Links: Healed or Hardened Quiz Description Betrayal is one of the most painful experiences that anyone can go through. It can leave us feeling lost, hurt, and confused. The pain can be so intense that it can affect every aspect of our lives, including our sleep patterns, energy levels, and overall well-being. In this episode, host Dr. Debi Silber, a renowned psychologist, and the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute, where she helps people heal from the trauma of betrayal, provides insights on how to move past a betrayal. Moving past a betrayal is possible with the right tools, support, and community. It is essential to prioritize our healing and take the necessary steps to improve ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally. Remember that healing takes time, but with patience and self-compassion, we can come out on the other side stronger than ever before. Dr. Debi encourages you to join her and take the first step towards healing and becoming a confident, healthy, peaceful, and happy version of yourself. Key Takeaways: 00:01:00 Tips for improving sleep quality after betrayal 00:03:00 Importance of doing personal work before entering a new relationship 00:05:00 Importance of eating well and exercising after betrayal 00:05:40 Importance of having the right tools and support during the healing process Links Mentioned In This Episode Healed or Hardened Quiz Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "Why is it important to eat well and exercise when you've been betrayed? A few reasons. The most important is everything in your life feels like it's completely chaotic and out of control. This may be the only thing you have control over, so it feels good to grab the reins again where you feel like, okay, you know what? Everything else is so crazy, but I got this." – Dr. Debi Silber "There's a version of you who is so confident, healthy, peaceful, and happy on the other end of your healing, and we can't wait to help you get there." - Dr. Debi Silber

Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree, but added accounting and economics courses so she could sit for the CPA exam… and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans. In This Episode Secretive behaviors surrounding money Financial burden of divorce How to detect infidelity in finances Links Tracy's Website Red Flag Assessment The Divorce Money Guide The Divorce Roadmap All Access Pass The Divorce Roadmap Registration $100 off the Divorce Money Guide with Coupon code: PBT SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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Kristi is a certified matchmaker, dating + success mindset coach, and founder of KP Matchmaking. She has a profound passion for creating genuine connections, and her unique matchmaking process allows her clients to have fun while finding the one. Kristi strives to help clients create a life they love and realize their personal power and self-worth. She is a big believer in loving yourself before you can love someone else. In This Episode Guidance from a match maker Getting to stage 4 Self-love and acceptance Links Kristi's Website Kristi's Instagram Debra's Gift to You SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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317: The Betrayal of Motherhood W / Klara Sedlacek Klara Sedlacek empowers stressed and overwhelmed moms to transform tension into connection. She creates a safe and nurturing space where moms can offload, unstress and grow whole again. She uses clinically proven mind-body practice of taping (EFT), Matrix Reimprinting and Nature Oriented Wellness to Nurture the Now and Release the Past. She believes happy moms raise happy children and that our life-long journey is to "Forget what we were told, Before we get too old." In This Episode Releasing mother's pain Fertility and trauma Gender fluidity as a mother Safety in motherhood Links Klara's Website Klara's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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For over 15 years, Debra has been coaching entrepreneurs and executives to achieve more success with less stress. She helps them uncover and express their greatest strengths and skills, while healing unconscious parts and old traumas that block them from accomplishing what they want most in life. Prior to coaching, Debra co-founded 3 businesses and one national non-profit. She learned early on that people are the greatest asset of business, and relationships are the foundation for growth, both professionally and personally. She has a Masters in Leadership and Training, she's a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and a certified yoga instructor. Debra is the founder of The Success Solution, a system that teaches people to combine business brains with body wisdom, to achieve big goals in a way that actually feels good. In This Episode Emotions that cause physical pain Healing the nervous system The gift in betrayal Listening to our gut Links Debra's Website Debra's Instagram Debra's Gift to You SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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RTT Hypnotherapist and Mindbody Coach. Kate specializes in anxiety, fears, phobias and panic attacks. In This Episode Root cause of fear Loneliness and rejection Hypnotherapy Steps to releasing fear Links Kate's Website Kate's Instagram Kate's Gift to You SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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Tanya Cole-Lesnick has been a psychotherapist (licensed clinical social worker) and coach since 1995. She received her master's degree in social work from New York University after group therapy changed her life. She has extensive experience in outpatient hospital mental health, private practice, and wellness center settings. From those experiences over the years she has identified her most important focus—helping people to clear energetic clutter so they can focus on what matters most to them. She does this by helping clients to access and honor their truth, to change habits that don't serve them, and to heal faulty narratives so that they are living in alignment inside and out. Her work revolves around a combination of intimate therapeutic groups and individual sessions, as the sharing of inner worlds and being human together in a safe space—collectively and individually—is an incredibly powerful combination that leads to lasting transformation. In This Episode People pleasing and identity Learning to say "no" Second level boundaries Links Tanya's Website Tanya's Instagram Tanya's Gift To You SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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Dr. Vic Manzo is a Business and Spiritual Mindset Coach, Certified Pediatric Chirorpactor, Holistic Coach, 3x Author and Podcaster. He hosts The Mindful Experiment and Health By Dr. Vic podcasts. In This Episode What is emotional freedom? Breath Work Regulating our nervous system Mind Hacks Links Victor's Website Victor's Instagram Victor's Facebook Victor's Gift To You SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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At the age of 23 Danielle was hit by a drunk driver and sustained a life-altering injury to her brain. The medical world said there was no hope of recovery & told her to accept this life as her "new normal". Although her body was physically impaired, her spirit was strong & she refused to believe their diagnoses. Her mind was determined to recover…and she did! Through the power of what she refers to as 'Mind Control,' she attracted the mindset, techniques, and exact quantum healing technologies needed to fully recover. She has since built an international business, authored an e-book called 'Mind Control' and shares her life-altering experience with countless people around the globe. In This Episode Brain Injury Alternative medicine Observe, realize, control, create Finding joy in strategy Links Danielle's Website Danielle's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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Cindy is the founder of CindyTalks, a platform where she discusses healing tools and stories of hope for other trauma survivors. She engages with her readers through honesty, humility and a genuine care for those who have walked a similar path. Cindy is also the co-founder of a luxury event company, where she spends much of her time creating beautiful spaces for some of the most important events in people's lives. Her eye for style and design has won Elite Events numerous awards and spotlight features. Currently, Cindy and her husband reside in Seattle, Washington and are parents of four adult children. In This Episode Physical, mental, and sexual abuse Confronting your abuser The mindset of a pedophile Self-help healing practices Links Cindy's Website Cindy's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi goes deeper into her PhD study which lead to the discovery of Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT). In This Episode Not relying on time or new relationships to heal How to rebuild trust Post traumatic growth Using betrayal to create a new version of yourself Links What is Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT)? Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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In today's episode, Dr. Zoe Shaw walks us through various dynamics in dating and how to move on in life when we're faced with indecisive partners. Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, author, motivational speaker, podcast host, life coach and fitness fanatic. She is a mom to 5 and a wife. She is passionate about helping women who struggle in difficult relationships, especially that sometimes difficult relationship with themselves. After 15 years in traditional psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zoe jumped off the couch and now helps women using a different modality with a mix of virtual therapy, coaching services and programs, through a lens of psychology, faith and a dash of feminism, designed specifically for women struggling in difficult relationships. Dr. Zoe is the author of the Ask Dr. Zoe Column in the Grit and Grace Project women's magazine, She has been published in Oprahmag.com, Recovery Today magazine, Forbes and is a frequent contributor to Your Tango. You can find her in the media on Instagram: @Drzoeshaw and in most social places at the handle DrZoeShaw. In This Episode When does one become a forever fiancé? Romantic relationships as charity cases Perks of ultimatums "Red flags" and "desires" list in dating Links Dr. Zoe Shaw's Website Zoe's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Heather Russell is a wellness coach, life coach, and energy healer who is shaking up the industry with her unique approach to empowering women leaders, creators and visionaries. After working in corporate for over 20 years and working as a wellness coach on the side, she knows what it's like to experience the "hustle & grind" culture, which is a pathway to burnout, exhaustion and dis-ease. Lover of all things natural and "woo-woo", Heather has developed a four-phase process that helps her clients heal past roots, define a new future, empower confidence and authenticity, and super charge their motivation for consistent, inspired action. She also incorporates shamanic practices and EFT in her client sessions to provide a holistic and well-rounded approach to her coaching. In This Episode Shadow work Understanding our chakras The Vibrant Woman Summit Jobs, hormones, and relationships after 40 Links Heather's Website Heathers's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Rachelle McCloud, LCSW is a Mental Health Therapist and Emotional Wellness. Through years of successfully helping clients move their anxiety, depression and trauma disorders into remission, she has developed a program that empowers people to skillfully get rid of symptoms and heal. She is also the facilitator of the Facebook group called Releasing the Baggage of Anxiety, Depression and Traumatic Stress where she delivers free trainings on leading interventions that work well for getting rid of symptoms, not just coping or managing them. Her mission is to empower people to do their own healing work effectively, safely and skillfully. In This Episode High performance and mental illness EFT Tapping therapy Fight, flight, freeze, faint, or fawn Turning fear into hope and courage Links Rachelle's Website SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi talks about habits and activities we can bring into our lives to improve our emotional self-care. What we tell ourselves every day, the routines we stick to, and the people we keep close, all have a deep impact on our emotional self-care. Tune in to learn more. In This Episode The "feelings" check Have fun to reduce stress Express what's upsetting you Suffering in silence prevents healing Links Improving Your Emotional Self Care Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Former BBC journalist and public speaker C J Grace dealt with discovering her husband's adultery and then getting breast cancer—for the second time—by refusing the victim role and keeping her snarky, Monty-Python-style sense of humor. She has a BRCA gene mutation that increases her breast cancer risk. Although they may appear to be separate subjects, cancer may often follow or be followed by infidelity. CJ's new book, "My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity" is a candid comic memoir and uplifting survival guide. Her first book was "Adulterer's Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not." After receiving a copy, Arianna Huffington invited her to be a HuffPost contributor. A BBC broadcaster and voice-over artist in the UK, CJ later worked for China Radio International in Beijing. Now divorced and US based, her mission is to help people use adversity for positive change. In This Episode Breast Cancer and Infidelity Stress and Cancer Living in the present Revenge and laughter Being complete with or without a partner Links CJ Grace's Website CJ Grace's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi talks about turning guilt into success and happiness. In This Episode Guilt as a motivator Shame after we've betrayed someone we love Shame once we've been betrayed Self-love, self-forgiveness, and self-compassion Links How to Turn Guilt into Success and Happiness Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Aaron Ahuvia, Ph.D., is a Professor of Marketing and research psychologist at the University of Michigan-Dearborn. He has been ranked in the top 2% of all scientists in the world by Stanford University. Dr. Ahuvia is the world's leading expert on brand love, i.e., how love works when we love a brand, product, or anything else that isn't a person. In his new book, The Things We Love: How Our Passions Connect Us and Make Us Who We Are, he takes a deep dive into our mysterious, tangled relationships with loved objects and activities. He is also a leading expert on the psychology of happiness, focusing on how money, shopping, and spending influence our well-being. His work has been featured in Time, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Apple News, and Glamour, and he has been a guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show. In This Episode What is "brand love"? How objects connect us to people The Psychology and Boundaries of Love How companies betray consumers Links Aaron's Website SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi talks about embracing the new chapters of our life. Expecting the best, being courageous and taking action can help guide us through the unknown. New year, new you! In This Episode Expect the best scenario Doing hard and new things Nervous excitement From unfamiliar and scary to familiar and safe Links How to Embrace New Chapters in Your Life Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

David is an author, public speaker, and endurance athlete whose mission is to form more meaningful human connections through storytelling. His first book, Winning in the Middle of the Pack, discussed how to get more out of ourselves than ever imagined. With Cycle of Lives, David shares stories of people overcoming trauma and delves deeply into their emotional journeys with cancer. He continues to do Ironman triathlons and recently completed a solo 4,700-mile bike ride. In This Episode Emotional Aspects of Trauma Looking in the mirror and assessing who we are Creating a new life Forgiving ourselves Links David's Website David's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi talks about 8 Tips to Dealing with the Critics in Your Life. In This Episode Finding purpose Growth eliminates self-doubt Responding with kindness Criticism can be productive Links 8 Tips to Dealing With The Critics in Your Life Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Heidi Brocke is a Toxic Relationship Awareness & Healing Specialist. After 14 years in an extremely emotionally and narcissistically abusive relationship she broke the chains and turned her past into her passion; She left her 24 years career in healthcare to be the person she needed when she herself was trapped in the darkness of an unhealthy relationship to provide hope, healing, and freedom to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. Today she has helped hundreds rid and heal their toxic relationships and hosts the popular podcast, It's not Normal, It's Toxic-rid your life of toxic people - with over a million listens worldwide. She's an international keynote speaker, recipient of Empowering Women in Business of The Year award by Inspiring Lives Magazine, and has been featured in both Forbes and Time Magazines for the dedication given to her clients and for her work in the toxic relationship area. In This Episode Running away from a marriage The toxic personality Rebuilding the relationship with your children Is this relationship healthy for me regardless of what they've got going on? Links Heidi's Website Heidi's Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram Heidi's Toxicity Profile Analysis SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi talks about creating new plans, budgets, and intentions at the time of celebrating the holidays after betrayal. In This Episode Being intentional Planning and budgeting in advance Finding common ground with gift giving Seeking support Links Creating New Holiday Traditions After Betrayal Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode, David talks about leaving a relationship (abusive or not) when you may be dependent on your spouse financially, may be worried about custody, and so much more. If you're feeling stuck and trying to figure out how you can get out of an abusive relationship, this is for you. David is a Christian psychologist, author, speaker, podcaster, and Youtuber. He has written 16 books, including Enough is Enough: A Step by Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship, My Spouse Wants Out, and I Didn't Want a Divorce, Now What? His focus is helping individual spouses in marital crisis. You name the marital crisis and he has a book for it. He has a M.A. in Biblical Studies from Dallan Theological Seminary and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Western Conservative Baptist Seminary. He's been in private practice for 35 years. He has been married to the Blonde, Sandy, since 1982. They have 4 children and 4 grandkids (soon to be 5!) In This Episode: Co-dependency The kiss of death Being dependent on your spouse for finances Links David's Website David's Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

In today's episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi, Dr. Debi celebrates reaching over one million people with her TedX talk. What does this mean? It means that over one million people are healing and transforming after a betrayal. Let's keep the breakthrough going! In This Episode 1 million people are healing from betrayal 1 million people can avoid repeat betrayals 1 million people are getting through the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough Links A Milestone Helping Over One Million People Heal From Betrayal Visit The PBT Institute SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz