Emotionally Uncomfortable

Today on the podcast I’m talking about fear. We all have it, so how do we control it? How can we co create the life we DO want, while living with fear? How can we teach and support our children through their big emotions as well? This is a near and dear subject my heart because I witness so many children who struggle greatly with fear, anxiety and overwhelm that are not being taught how to manage it. And as a parent and a cancer survivor I know what it feels like to live in fear. During my diagnosis I was in a constant state of fear but along the way I discovered a few strategies that quickly shifted my perspective and allowed my body to calm down. On today’s podcast episode, I discuss: What fear is and why it’s essential to keep us safe everyday. How to identify ‘true’ fear and self sabotage. What questions to ask yourself when stuck in a fearful state of mind. Fear is healthy. It’s part of the human experience. The more we teach ourselves and our children how to identify, manage and co create with fear this is where we start to create a life we truly love. Hope on over to the podcast and listen. The Mom Is In Control Podcast is also available on stitcher. Warmly, Heather P.S. It takes a village to raise an emotionally healthy child. If you know another mama who could benefit from this podcast, please feel free to pass it along. Thank you in advance. Join the newsletter list at www.heatherchauvin.com

I have officially turned on the ‘explicit’ label on all my podcasts. This was inspired by Karen Osburn and her new podcast Women Wanting More. Click it out here. Those who know me, know my biggest pet peeve is lying and BS. I can’t stand it. I can smell it a mile away. I crave real, raw and honest conversations with real humans beings. Vulnerability is the way I like to live myself. If you’re not being real, than what are you being? I think culturally we are missing a HUGE piece that will solve a lot of our mental health issues. Getting real with self care. What is means and why it's so important. Today’s podcast is about real self care. This goes beyond the pedicures and closet full of the latest fashions. It’s about soul level self love. Compassion and discovering the essence of who you really are — and who you children really are. I list out a bunch of way to connect with yourself - that won't cost you a dime or take a lot of time. Come join the private FB group.

We are celebrating Canadian Thanksgiving over here. Unfortunately mine includes a head cold. Which means cooking with a cold. Don’t be jealous :) On today’s podcast episode I interview Kiva Leatherman from the WISE Women Network. I love Kiva’s real deal perspective on life, business and parenting so I wanted to ask her a few questions about what it’s like to go for you want AND be a conscious involved parent. Purpose beyond parenting. How to find it and why is it so important to feel connected outside of your role as a mother. What’s an inner calling and why is it so important to honours AND your child’s? Surrender. How does this allow someone to feel in control? I look forward to hearing your feedback about today’s episode. Warmly, Heather Chauvn UPCOMING WORKSHOP: NOVEMBER 5th Design The Life You Crave Workshop Kiva Leatherman | Wise Women Network Book recommendation: The Surrender Experiment

017: Did the school call you today? Not too many people talk about parenting as a spiritual practice - let alone how we grow as individuals once our children start school. I mean that seems to be when the ‘real world’ problems come to life, right? What do you do when your child has severe social anxiety? What do you do if your child has low self esteem and/or bullied? What if you’re getting calls from the school and no one is giving to ‘advice’ on how to fix the situation? Then what? Not to mention the jammed packed schedule. When do you even have time to care about these problems? HOW do you create time? SHOW LINKS: Book: The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Join us on the private FB group. UPCOMING EVENTS: Design the life you crave Workshop

So…. for the first time ever on the podcast I’m talking about how I shift my energy and make sh!+ happen on the days I don’t want to be a mom. On the days when I’ve put too much pressure on myself to do it all. A lot of people think because I teach others about parenting and feeling in control that I’m a perfect parent. That’s so far from the truth. I’m human too don’t forget. In today’s episode, I discuss: 7 minute game changing morning workout (link found below). What happens when you lose yourself to parenting and how to begin to find yourself again. How to get yourself out of a pity party and feel in control again. I use this technique on a weekly basis. Your action step for today. Before you start a pity party of why you can't doing something. Reconsider HOW to can accomplish it. Show links: 7 minute workout Join us on the private FB group.

Today’s episode is all about what it really takes to create emotional freedom. I talk a lot about emotional freedom because I believe it’s the foundation of happiness and success AND it's possible for anyone. Yes, anyone. If we/or our children do not have the tools and roles models to guide them towards feeling in control of their big emotions (anger, anxiety, fear and negative thoughts) they/we will not know how to overcome them — unless they learn themselves. Having a professional background in mental health I’ve witnessed people from all walks of life overcome adversity. So what makes them so resilient? Simple answer: Their lifestyle and their relationship to vulnerability and emotion. In this episode, I discuss: How to start feeling in control of your big emotions on a moment by moment basis. Why we get stuck in a label and diagnosis and feel like a victim. Why I stopped drinking coffee - even though it’s my favourite drink ever. My new meditation practice and how it has evolved over the years. Your In Control Action Step for today: Pay attention to how to feel after you eat certain things, what time you go to bed, who you hang around with, your thoughts. How much screen time you have. Write it down in a journal and also write down the emotion that shows up when doing these activities. Warmly, Heather P.S. Are you liking this new shift in emails and focus on helping you take action - so you can become the best version of yourself and support your children? Send me an email [email protected] Join the Private Facebook Group. Find me on Facebook

If you’re wasting time, you’re wasting your life. Being diagnosis with cancer taught me this. I get it, we’re all busy. Kids, work, errands… who has time for sex or self care? I will tell ya who. People who create the life they want. Have you ever wondered how the average successful (not burnt out) business woman and mother is able to have time for herself and cultivate deep relationships with those they love? She’s intentional about her time and her energy. And this is exactly what I’m talking about on today’s podcast episode - over on the Mom Is In Control Podcast. Click here to listen. In this episode, I discuss: How to prioritizing what’s important to you - so you can get out of overwhelm. Thriving Mindset: What you might be doing that’s keeping you stuck in a ‘never enough’ mindset. My 60 second nightly planning ritual that allows me to get a good night sleep. The addiction you might have that you’re unaware of and being aware of this will help your kids avoid this as well. In control action step: Take 5 minutes and write down a simple ‘time log’ for what you’ve done today. Are the direct actions you’ve taken today in alignment with how you want to feel and show up in your work and relationships? One step at a time, you got this. Warmly, Heather P.S. I want to hear from you. What was your greatest take away from today’s episode? Send me an email: [email protected]

Have you ever caught yourself in a situation when a child or someone you know is having a meltdown or trantrum and thought, now what? Have you ever wondered what to do in the midst of a meltdown when your child (or someone you know) is in the RED zone? How do you let them process these emotions without losing your cool? Or taking away their pain? In this episode, I discuss: What to do when your child is experiencing an overload of emotion (anger, anxiety, fear, jealous). How I kept my cool in a personal parenting moment. Enabling vs. teaching emotional responsibility. What’s the difference and are which one are you teaching? In Control Action Step: Observe yourself when confronted by uncomfortable situations. What do you typically do when a child or adult is expressing big emotion? Do you try to talk over them or do you hold space for them to feel it fully? Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village. Have a personal question or short you would like to share? Email me [email protected]

Personal development can become addictive, especially when you come to believe you can't move on until you are fixed or the problem is solved. I see women do this a lot and spend years in therapy. Perfectionism hits hard. Especially when it comes to their kids. NOTE: I'm a huge fan of therapy but there comes a time when you need to move on to the next level. LINKS FOR THE SHOW: Keep your ears open for when we launch our project with Huffington Post. Coming soon! ENROLLEMENT IN NOW OPEN for the Freedom Accelerator Experience. 10 months. Retreats. Transformation for your work, life and relationships. To apply email [email protected] and we will send you the application form. HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT THE SHOW. Leave us a kind review on iTunes. Subscribe to our podcast. Join the private Facebook group. Heather Chauvin FN fan page.

POINT 1: Prioritize and get clear on what matters to YOU and your business. Being true to yourself and run your business and life in a way that feels good to you. POINT 2: Get rid of the overwhelm in your business. Make it a priority to put systems in place that save your sanity. Get real with what you can handle and follow through with making the process easier. POINT 3: Eliminate life stressors by creating systems. Systems are key to success. If it works keep doing it. If it doesn’t let it go. Changing the way you eat, sleep, and workshop will help you making more money in your business and transform your life. QUESTION OF THE DAY: What can you delegate to someone else to give you more creative space to grow? CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: Let go of one thing that is no longer working in your business. Change it up. Find a new system. QUOTE OF THE DAY:: “ You can have it all, you just don’t have to do it all yourself.” Rachealcook.com FREE CHALLENGE: Firedupandfocusedchallenge.com Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village.

POINT 1: Get clear on your values and lead from that place. I see so many women lead from a place of fear and never truly feel in alignment in their lives. They value honesty and yet they are never honest with themselves. When you’re clear on how you want to raise your children, show up in your marriage, feel when you work — you can start to take actions that align with your values. POINT 2: Opportunities in life come with personal development, not with degrees. It doesn’t matter how much education you have or big your student loan is… happiness comes from within, now how powerful your position is at your job. We create the opportunities we desire. We create the energy we fuel within our bodies. We create our home environment but how we individually energetically show up. Do the work and show up daily. POINT 3: Stop, reassess and take different action. When something feels off, imbalanced, uneasy we need to STOP and reconsider what it is we are trying to achieve. If it’s just hard but we’re getting results, keep going. If it’s hard and you’re not getting the results you desire - redesign the plan and take different action. QUESTION OF THE DAY: What is it that you want to create? Lean in and trust the process. CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: What action do you need to take today? One that you have been resisting? Pick one person in your local community that you want to connect with. Reach out and connect to them. QUOTE OF THE DAY: “ When we are actually listening and taking action, that’s when the good shit happens.” Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village. Mark Newman: Ten Percent. Teach Your Kid To Meditate. www.members.heatherchauvin.com PROMO CODE: MOMISINCONTROL Receive 50% off. Have a personal question? Have a story you want to share send me a personal email [email protected]

POINT 1: The circle of I’m not good enough. Unconscious belief —> Thoughts —> Action —> Reality (want you want/what you don't want). POINT 2: Talk to your fear. What is your fear trying to tell you? Connect to your fear. Write fear a letter. Example: Dear fear… Why are you here? What are you trying to tell me? What do you need from me? POINT 3: Disrupt the system by taking different action. When unleveling your body is trying to keep you safe. Discomfort is natural. Keep going. Rest, listen and take small consistent action. QUESTION OF THE DAY: Are you letting fear run your life? CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: Connect to your truth and take one action to live your life from THAT place, not your fear. QUOTE OF THE DAY: “ If you are focusing your attention on what you do want, the Universe is listening.” Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village. TODAY'S SHOW SPONSOR Teach Your Kid To Meditate. www.members.heatherchauvin.com > PROMO CODE: MOMISINCONTROL Receive 50% off. Have a personal question? Have a story you want to share, reach out send me a personal email [email protected] HOW CAN YOU SUPPORT THE SHOW? Please give us a kind review on itunes, share with a friend or your community :)

POINT 1: Do what you need to do to make shit happen! The shame, blame and guilt game are easy to play. Try taking action instead of judging someone else for not doing something that didn’t meet your expectations. POINT 2: Your children’s successes are not yours. Their failures are not yours. It’s easy to forget that our children are on their own spiritual journey, with their own script. We are their guides, not their creators. POINT 3: If you don’t know how to do something. TEACH. We must teach what we want others to learn. QUESTION OF THE DAY: What is it in this person’s behaviour that I see (or want to avoid) in myself? CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: Think before you judge your child. Ask yourself - do they actually know how to do what I want them to do? QUOTE OF THE DAY:: “ If you want your children to do something. Teach them how to do it.” Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village.

006: Feel In Control Of Your Overwhelm. POINT 1: Stop what you’re doing and feel the overwhelm. Being stuck in overwhelm doesn't serve you. You spin and use your precious energy on being stuck. So stop what you’re doing and use that energy to focus on what you DO want. POINT 2: Write it all out. Brain dump. Dump it all out of your brain. Get rid of it. Everything. Pen to paper or write it on a note app on your phone. POINT 3: Top 3 priorities. No more than 3 things in the next 12 hours that will make the greatest impact on what you want to accomplish. QUESTION OF THE DAY: What are you doing to manage your energy everyday? CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: Change your overwhelm habits. Stop what you’re doing and feel it fully. Do a brain dump. Choose your top 3 action steps and DO THEM! QUOTE OF THE DAY:: “ Overwhelm is a sign things are out of alignment. That’s your cue to stop.” Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village.

POINT 1: Your desires are a sign. Listen. Desires come from source. Listen carefully. They get louder as time goes on, until the discomfort becomes painful. POINT 2: Ignite Passion In Your Life. Get clean on how you want to feel and start cultivating these feelings throughout your day, you will start to feel more connected to yourself, your children and life in general. POINT 3: Be intentional with your time. Set up your morning with intention. Use your time wisely. You only have 24 hours in a day. How do you want to be remembered? QUESTION OF THE DAY: How can you shift your attention on what you DO want? CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: Free write: What do I crave?… use this to help you get crystal clear on how you want to feel everyday. QUOTE OF THE DAY:: “ Create a life that fills you up or you will be too busy creating a life that drains you.” Like the Facebook fan page. Join Our Private FB Group - Mom Is In Control Village. FREE WORKSHOP (Aug 25th 2015) Feel In Control Of Your Parenting NOW: Create An Action Plan.

Email title: I grant you permission. What do you need to give yourself permission to do, be or have? Do you feel guilty for putting yourself first? Are you a people pleaser and have a hard time saying NO? Today we are going to change that. Register at www.momisincontrol.com/challenge to view the challenge video. STEP ONE: In Control Action (should take no more than 3 minutes) Action Step. Grant yourself permission. On a sticky note, Write yourself a permission slip. Feel free to write several of them and post where you see them most. In the car Next to your bed Bathroom mirror In the kitchen To see my own permission slip head on over to the Facebook Community. BONUS: Get the family involved. Have them write their own permission slips. STEP TWO: Share your In Control Action on social media. Snap a picture of your list and post in the facebook group, Instagram, Facebook and twitter. Use #momisincontrol @heatherchauvin Also, support the other women in the group. Create connection with other like-minded women. Let us know you completed the challenge. Register here for the FREE 30 day Mom Is In Control Challenge.

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In this episode we talk about what it's like to raise a highly sensitive child. How to support highly sensitive children. Understanding who they really are. How we can bring these tools into the classroom. Who is Sandi Schwartz? Sandi Schwartz is an internationally respected expert when it comes to understanding children and inspiring parents into their greatness. She brings over forty years of experience in the field of child development to her career as educator, author, radio show host, and captivating motivational speaker. Sandi combines the best of traditional wisdom with open-hearted awareness, delivering an uplifting message that empowers parents to interact with their children with loving, sensitive confidence. Visit Sandy at her website Facebook

In this episode we talk about parenthood, healing, meditation and finding your own practice. Elena’s journey from addiction. How to start your own unique meditation practice - when you don’t have time. How silence heals your body. Parenting and meditation. How it forms a deeper connection with your children. Who is Elena Brower? Mama, teacher and author of Art of Attention, Elena has studied yoga, meditation and healing with master teachers since 1997, and has been teaching since 1999. Known for bringing a resonant, relevant voice that speaks directly to your heart, Elena offers weekly asana and meditation classes in New York City as well as international trainings and retreats. She's taught the world's largest scale classes at the Museum of Modern Art, the Great Lawn at Central Park, the Eiffel Tower in Paris, and Montreal's Old Port, and has been featured in the New York Times, Yoga Journal, the Element Yoga for Beginners DVD series, ABC and NBC News. Elena's groundbreaking yoga workbook, Art of Attention, has been translated into 5 languages. Her meditation coursework and first film, On Meditation, are devoted to cultivating meditation as our most healing daily habit. For details, writings and schedule, visit her site. Enjoy current classes with Elena on Yogaglo.com Episode links: Omvana Yogaglo Art of Meditation Book and Meditation course

In this episode we talk about parenthood, healing, marriage and what whole living means. Why it's important to trust yourself when it comes to your health. What true transformation looks and feels like. How to support a partner who isn't living the same lifestyle as you desire. Who is Julie Piatt? A true creative artist, Julie Piatt aka “SriMati” is a plant based chef, singer songwriter, author, spiritual guide, and mother to four. Julie has spent decades finding the divine in all her endeavors. Living from a deep place of devotion she experiences the presence of God in all things; light and dark, in joy and in suffering. Through embracing a plant based diet, and embarking on a deep meditation practice, She healed herself of a large cyst in her neck, which doctors diagnosed as an incurable ailment. This experience proved to her the miraculous ability of the body to heal itself when supported with pure whole living foods and a true heart connection to the soul. Julie’s expertise encompasses a whole lifestyle approach to healthy, creative, and authentic living. Though her writings, recipes, songs and healing, she transmits her deep wisdom which is ever present in her food, her devotion, her relationships as well as in her transcendent, healing and soothing music that she creates with her sons who also happen to be her band. Julie just released her first book that she co-authored with her husband, Ultra Athlete, Rich Roll. April 28th Penguin Avery. It’s called THE PLANTPOWER WAY 120 family plant based recipes + Lifestyle guidance. The Plant Power Way Available for pre-order now HERE. Julie's website Twitter & IG: @srimati

From almost dying when she gave birth to her daughter to leaving her cozy corporate job to follow her burning desires. Amber Lilyestrom is a soul-based branding & business coach, writer and motivational speaker. Amber currently coaches new and established entrepreneurs in creating strategies to transform and launch their dream businesses. From idea conception to the construction of the business and all of its digital assets, Amber assists entrepreneurs in designing authentic brands that make an impact in the world. “ Feelings are important and we have to use those feelings to direct us in our lives.” Success Quote from Amber “ You need to give yourself permission to want what you want.” “ If you don’t believe in your own dream, how do you expect anyone else to believe in it?” Parenting AHA Moment “ What we have is this moment and if we don’t show up right now than what do we really have?” Interview Links Amber’s website www.amberlilyestrom.com Amber’s program Beautiful Brand. Beautiful You. Local Windsor, ON Vegan Cafe Carrots & Dates Cafe Kate Northrup Money A Love Story