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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Subscribe to Pop Culturing Description Cathy and Todd kick-off boundaries month by discussing internal boundaries and the clinical understanding of family enmeshment. They discuss how we take on other people’s emotions, why it’s hard for us to be happy if the ones we love aren’t happy, and how to take care of ourselves while we take care of others. Time Stamps 2:14 Zen Parenting Moment 6:48 Team Zen 7:31 Internal boundaries 22:52 Cost of individuality is too high 28:19 Role in the family 40:38 Guilt & shame arise 48:44 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling, Men Living & Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching We talk with our daughter Jacey who identifies as gay, her friend Grace who identifies as bi-sexual, and her friend Edgar who identifies as gay. They share their coming out stories, family reactions, and experiences that have been helpful and harmful. They discuss how to be an ally and advocate for the LGBTQ+ community and how to support your kids when it comes to embracing and understanding sexuality. 3:03 Tournament of bad 5:45 Zen Parenting Moment 12:40 Tournament of good “Call N Oats” 17:20 Creativity & Balance 25:05 Connecting with our teenager 37:23 Drivers License 46:05 Focus on your likes 49:21 Flat tires 59:53 Team Zen 1:04:20 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Todd and Cathy discuss Creativity and Balance, Part 3 of Empathy Volume Month. They discuss ideas and tools to take care of ourselves during uncertain times, and how to bring balance to our self-care and relationships. 3:03 Tournament of bad 5:45 Zen Parenting Moment 12:40 Tournament of good “Call N Oats” 17:20 Creativity & Balance 25:05 Connecting with our teenager 37:23 Drivers License 46:05 Focus on your likes 49:21 Flat tires 59:53 Team Zen 1:04:20 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about empathy volume and focus on how to turn down empathy to avoid burnout. They discuss the 3 types of empathy and how we can remain empathetic without exhausting ourselves. They also discuss Adam Grant’s new book Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know and how our ability to be “cognitively agile” keeps us curious and connected to the ones we love. 3:26 Zen calendar confusion 7:44 Zen Parenting Moment 11:36 Cognitive emapthy 15:21 Emotional empathy 21:58 Compassionate empathy 46:50 Adam Grant discussion 56:41 Team Zen 57:42 Men Living workshop 58:05 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Todd+Cathy discuss mindful caring as a kick off to their “Empathy Volume” month (how to turn it up and stay connected, how to turn it down to avoid burnout). They share three ways to make empathy a priority, and how having clear intention about what means the most impacts how you show up. They also discuss Dr. Robert Livingston’s new book about racism and bias called The Conversation, and how two-hit wonders are a real thing. 3:10 Zen Parenting Moment 11:29 Empathy Volume 22:08 2 hit wonders 28:57 Empathy volume part II 31:55 Team Zen 43:29 Men Living workshop 1:05:08 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving Cathy and Todd discuss the “messages and arrows” of our emotions, specifically that they give us the information we need to understand ourselves and teach our kids. Every feeling has an underlying reason, and the more we understand our emotional messages the easier we will see the arrows that point to what matters most. They share that February is “Empathy Volume” Month (Turning empathy up to stay connected, turning empathy down to avoid burnout). Listen to this month’s Zen Parenting Radio podcasts and join Team Zen for an in-depth discussion around empathy volume filled with resources, practices, and community (use coupon code Team Zen for one free month). 35:06 Team Zen 1:05:08 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving Cathy and Todd discuss how accountability leads to unity, and how impunity or justifying something deeply harmful leads to more divisiveness, not healing. They discuss how this is true with our government and the insurrection, and also when we have challenges in our partnerships, parenting, and friendships. Forgiveness is what we do for ourselves, not others, and comes after a process and practice of realizing that we can’t change what happened (it often takes a great deal of time). Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation, condoning a person’s behavior, justifying the offense, or denying or forgetting the impact on our lives. It means cutting the cord and taking back the energy that is rightfully ours while never forgetting the wisdom we gained. 35:50 Team Zen 62:10Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about how and why we grow and share specific colors that represent our stages of development (often referred to as spiral dynamics). They discuss how this effects politics, values, “fake news”, sports, leadership, and our need to belong. 7:57 Colors 62:10Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Rob Bell Podcast Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people. 2:49 How do I get my partner to… 25:21 Clip of the little girl… 62:10Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd focus on Me, We, and Everybody, a teaching of moral development (or Spiral Dynamics) taken from The Robcast. They share why this personal growth model (similar to understanding the chakras or the Enneagram) helps us see ourselves, relate to others, and understand how we all evolve (and regress) in different ways. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living 1:05:43 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss 1964’s Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer and why the adults dropped the ball in helping Hermy and Rudolph understand their specialness – BUT, it’s still a great holiday rewatch filled with joy, learning, and nostalgia. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living 1:01:32 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd reference a recent post by Dr. Alexandra Solomon about how we are doing a better job raising our girls to be leaders than raising our sons to be caregivers. They discuss how to raise whole sons who respect every aspect of their humanity, and how failing to do this hurts our boys and society. They also discuss the opinion writer who wants Dr. Jill Biden to drop “Dr.”, what Shawn Mendes can teach us, and how to talk about invisible labor in the home. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living 1:01:32 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss the difference between a “bottler” or “brooder” when it comes to negative feelings, and why being curious about feelings allows us to be less reactive and more compassionate. They discuss why darkness is not always bad, and why there is wisdom inside all of our emotions. 1:58 Charlie Rogers 24 hour walk donation form 7:11 Quiz 1:03:03 Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month 33:38 Care.com/Zen for 30% off your premium membership 1:03:44 Men Living 1:06:10 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss Susan David’s book and TED Talk about emotional agility and why the ability to be agile leads to healthy human beings. They discuss why we need the skills to deal with the world as it is, and why sharing our emotions allows us to pay attention to our values and notice what’s working in our lives and families. 8:34 Big Life Journal– Enter coupon code ZENPARENT for 10% off your order. 55:15 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss the double bind of “do no harm”, in that all decisions, even educated and well-thought out choices, may impact some negatively. They discuss the positive impact of empathy and the danger of gaslighting, and share Anne Lamott’s theories around hatred and self-understanding. 27:40 Big Life Journal– Enter coupon code ZENPARENT for 10% off your order. 1:07:20 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy interviews Todd, Frank Naugo, & Shaun Emerson discussing the relaunch from the Tribe Men’s Group over to Men Living. They discuss the resources available that will help men step up to make a more harmonious world. 27:40 Big Life Journal– Enter coupon code ZENPARENT for 10% off your order. 1:00:50 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources The Profound Loneliness of American Men- Podcast #429 Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how the election has provided a more sturdy foundation to rebuild trust, beauty, and a sense of self and community. They discuss how we can continue to do small acts of kindness, continue our activism, and remember to “sing while filled with our dreams and troubles”. 53:15 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss getting through difficult and vulnerable moments (like election day) and how self-compassion and mindfulness are key. They discuss coping mechanisms versus escapism, how to effectively breathe, and why we should check-in on our strong friends. 56:45 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and how Ezra Klein’s article in Vox used Maslow’s work to explain the importance of next week’s election. They discuss the importance of the election, what’s at stake, and why we need to remember our dignity, humanity, and interconnectedness as we move through this week and into 2021. 49:31 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout, and how we can better process and release the stress we experience. They discuss their interview on the Unlocking Us podcast with Brene Brown, and the seven things we can do to make a difference in our overall well-being. They also discuss why women experience stress differently than men, and why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are tools for healthier living. 1:11:35 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy+Todd discuss Cathy’s recent Zen Parenting Moment about how to guide our children with humility, and why spiritual narcissism can lead us to believe we have all of the answers. They discuss the HBO documentary The Vow and why in all situations we need to stay connected to our own inner knowing. 26:38 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 49:38 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon join Cathy and Todd to discuss why dominance isn’t strength when it comes to politics, partnership, and parenting, and why last week’s debate was so difficult to watch. They discuss the necessary breakthroughs for a successful marriage, and what it means to hold space for someone we love. Zen Parenting Moments Email Subscription Link Resources Dr. Alexandra Solomon Loving Bravely: A discussion with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #372 Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd talk with Rosalind Wiseman (Founder of Cultures of Dignity and author of Queen Bees and Wannabees) about her new book The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents and her “Tiny Guides” to help you quickly comprehend core social and emotional concepts. Resources Cultures of Dignity The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents- Enter Coupon code “DLPP25” for 25% off Social Dilemma Trailer Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss losing RBG and why we have to practice what she taught us rather than decide all is lost. They discuss how we can grieve and also be strong, be afraid but also find joy. They discuss the importance of mindfulness and share Author Michael Singer’s description of a strong heart. Time Stamps 0:48 What Dads Miss Workshop with John Duffy & Todd Adams Wednesday, September 23rd @ 7:00 PM 1:10 Try Team Zen– try it out for a month by coupon code “friend” 3:00 Yin vs Yang 5:38 Emmy’s 10:12 RBG 28:50 Michael Singer Quote 59:51 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss NFL player Dak Prescott’s willingness to discuss depression and why there was backlash. They process the yin and yang of emotions and why challenge makes us stronger, not weaker. They also discuss whether vulnerable pictures of our kids should be posted on social networking, and how the Japanese art of Kintsugi is a visual representation of falling apart and piecing ourselves back together more beautifully. Time Stamps 1:39 https://conference.happilyfamily.com The Happily Family Conference is a free virtual event that is life changing and global. It’s for parents who come together for a few days online, from over 187 countries, to learn how to raise resilient and connected kids in an anxious world. Cathy and I are presenting on racial justice, spiritual bypassing and why white parents need to talk about race. To get your free ticket go to https://conference.happilyfamily.com/ (that’s “happily like happily ever after”). It all goes live on Oct 5th at conference.happilyfamily.com” 2:24 What Dads Miss Workshop with John Duffy & Todd Adams Wednesday, September 23rd @ 7:00 PM 3:06 Parents posting pictures of their kids 12:22 Depression- Dak Prescott 35:54 Try Team Zen– try it out for a month by coupon code “friend” 37:06 Richard Rohr 56:49 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join Cathy and Todd to discuss the 2020 school year. They discuss the pros and cons of remote and hybrid learning, and why our educational goals from 2019 should not be our focus in 2020. They girls discuss what they’ve learned about themselves and education since the lockdown. Time Stamps 7:52 How are things different? 10:00 Do you want to go back to school? 17:50 Advice for students 23:20 Advice for teachers 29:08 Advice for parents 51:44 Breakout rooms/funny moments 57:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to find personal alignment rather than what our society calls “success”. They reference the 4 Noble Truths, Mel Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, the 8-fold path, To Kill a Mockingbird, the power of intuition, and how scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion. They also discuss the shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, and Cathy’s new book deal. Zen Parenting, the book, will be coming out next year! Time Stamps 0:36 Chadwick Boseman 5:45 Cathy’s Book 11:06 Finding Alignment 24:44 Eckhart Tolle’s take on inner and outer purpose 30:30 Life is suffering 39:58 Pain body 44:34 Life & death 57:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how to see this school year differently and how to accept and reframe our experiences. They discuss how figuring out something new will take time and patience (and self-care), and how children will learn a lot about self-regulation and how to go with the flow in a new system of learning. Time Stamps 6:22 Reframing and accepting 9:05 Blame 12:45 Accepting grief 25:00 Jazz and accepting change 30:00 Reframing school 39:00 Reframing kids 42:49 Reframing priorities 50:00 Daily practice 55:10 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Atomic Habits workshop Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation for kids, and discuss the harm of unachievable success in the documentary The Weight of Gold (about Olympic athletes) and The Go Go’s documentary (about the rise and fall of the band). They also discuss the true and false self, and the “Three Lords of Materialism” (coined by Chögyam Trungpa in his book Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism) and how they relate to our perception of success and motivation. Time Stamps 3:04 Back to school tips 5:45 Basics of motivation 17:56 New perspective on motivation 29:07 Lords of materialism 45:58 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss why understanding ambiguous loss, the dignity of others, and the humanity of teachers is essential as we navigate a back to school plan. This uncertain time necessitates reflective and respectful discourse, and a reminder that our kids are looking to us as role models in how to respond to a difficult and unprecedented event. Time Stamps 5:50 Ambiguous loss 23:44 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 33:33 Dignified and respectful discourse 42:44 What teachers want you to know 49:30 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #2 of a two-part series. Time Stamps 5:15 Summary 10:51 Right livelihood 23:45 Right effort 43:14 Right mindfulness 54:05 Right concentration 67:00 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #1 of a two-part series. Time Stamps 3:14 8- Fold path 11:54 Right view 22:41 Right motivation 36:33 Right speech 53:45 Right action 1:11:20 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver’s Last Week Tonight episode about conspiracy theories, and share the psychology behind why people believe tend to believe them. We also discuss how to have productive conversations with people who share and promote harmful pandemic theories. Time Stamps 4:50 Conspiracy Theories 13:12 So I Married An Axe Murderer 19:40 The reason why people believe in conspiracy theories 25:19 Cathy’s favorite quote – “this glass is fragile…” 41:44 Forrest Gump 51:03 What we can do 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss why building a strong foundation can get us through difficultly and uncertainty, and help us recognize what’s most important in crisis and calmer times. They share what a “strong foundation” looks like and why it’s an everyday practice. They discuss Eckhart Tolle, Richard Rohr, and why dark helps us understand the light (and vice versa). 3:40 Scripture (Matthew) 24:26 Cathy’s foundation 32:50 Row Row Row Your Boat 36:26 We forgot about the birds 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss why connection necessitates letting go of needing and focusing more on understanding. They share a story of connecting with their daughter and why knowing her well was the key to engagement. 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss the Zen parable about the monkey in the river and why it teaches us to find the aliveness of every moment, even if we are afraid or uncertain. They offer examples and analogies from The Karate Kid, Parenthood, Dead Poets Society and even High School Musical. They also discuss the importance of staying educated and continuing to integrate discussions about race into our parenting, and why we need to WEAR MASKS and demonstrate our care for each other and our communities. Looking for a trustworthy Financial Planner? Reach out to David Serrano from Edward Jones @ 815-370-3780 46:38 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how self-care is about building a life that you don’t need to escape from – by speaking up, asking for what you need, resting, and interacting with integrity. They discuss how we can practice this in partnership and parenting, and when we are discussing and learning about difficult issues like race. They also discuss what makes a great song and share some of their picks. Time Stamp 9:00 What self-care really is 18:04 Twitter vs facebook 23:57 Integrity 36:35 Glennon Doyle Snippet 46:38 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how self-awareness, vulnerability, and a willingness to listen upfront lead to authentic and connected conversations later. They discuss how this applies to race discussions, partnership, and parenting, and how cognitive dissonance and whataboutism get in the way of meaningful and productive communication. They reference So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo, Brene Brown’s podcast with the Duplass brothers, and White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo. Time Stamp 4:22 Truth is hard regarding race 25:30 Truth is hard regarding relationships 30:27 Truth is hard regarding parenting 53:34 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings) can run counter to being a listener and learner when it comes to race. They discuss how spiritual bypassing has become normalized and separates us from the issues we need to work through when it comes to social justice, partnerships, parenting, or our own growth and development. Time Stamp 35:16 Care.com– As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 1:17:00 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Bypassing-Spirituality-Disconnects-Matters/dp/1556439059 http://austinchanning.com/ https://www.facebook.com/beabridgebuilder/ Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss the protests and why self-awareness and being a student are essential when talking about race. They share who they learn from, why we need to speak up, and why dismantling racism in ourselves is necessary, difficult, and uncomfortable. Resources Leaders to follow: @austinchanning @luvvie @blackcoffeewithwhitefriends @mspackyetti @myblockmyhoodmycity @jlythcotthaims @laylafsaad @thegreatunlearn @rachel.cargle @maskchicago Books mentioned: White Fragility Between the World and Me and The Water Dancer How to be an Antiracist Just Mercy The New Jim Crow Heart Talk Articles and posts mentioned: 20 Actions that White People Can Take To Show up for Black People Right Now Kareen Abdul-Jabbar Op-Ed Rachel Rogers Trevor Noah 1619 Project Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss some of the questions from this New York Times article titled The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Time Stamp 41:05 Avid Painting & Remodeling 41:28 David Serrano Personal Financial Planner- Call him @ 815-370-3780 and say Todd & Cathy sent you. Resources The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss the highlights of a Freakonomics podcast titled Reasons to Be Cheerful as well as The Goop Podcast titled The Culture of Busyness. Some of the topics discussed were the negativity bias, loss aversion, and getting out of the way so our kids can become the people they are supposed to be. Time Stamp 7:53 – The news 27:32 Parenting 39:45 The role of essential workers 43:30 Which parts of Covid are going to stick 46:23 The culture of busyness 55:48 Cathy’s making planter boxes 1:02:52 One thing 1:04:50 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy interview Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group. They discuss the difference between the content (what is happening) of our lives and the context (from what energy are we dealing with what is happening. They also talk about the universe, death, toddlers, weed, and body intelligence in this real world example when Cathy and Todd’s 12 year old daughter interrupts the interview. To register for the free webinar this Thursday, May 14th @ 11:00 AM-12:30 Central, click here. Time Stamp 3:40 Content vs Context 7:17 3 ways of supporting somebody- Safety space, subject matter expert, context of consciousness 14:18 Taking responsibility- what does that mean? 21:45 Decreasing threatened response 24:17 Daughter wanting to go back to work 28:41 Care.com– As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 29:36 Body awareness 37:08 How do we use body awareness when we’re overwhelmed? 46:22 The universe is conspiring to help me 52:33 death 57:10 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Interview with Annmarie Chereso Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to experience messy and how messy, but necessary, conversations can cause discomfort and uncertainty. They discuss why others are not always bad or wrong, and how we can see the nuance and grey in every situation. They discuss how enlightening or self-aware moments can look different for everybody, and how a Good Will Hunting moment isn’t the only example of catharsis. 3:06 What’s messy look like? 6:37 Good Will Hunting Clip 9:03 Emotional labor 17:22 The toilet seat 29:09 Teeth Brushing 34:10 Team Zen 35:45 Examples of messy 37:30 Awakening 40:58 Short-term vs long-term 45:00 The word nag 52:40 How to fight 59:07 When kids don’t do what we want them to do 1:14:00Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss why hitting a wall is to be expected, and why it’s not a failure, it’s a recalibration. They discuss what walls can teach us and why adaptation and pivoting are important now, and after, the pandemic. They discuss why all feelings are acceptable, and why if we can be specific about what we are feeling, we will have an easier time moving through it. 4:20 E-learning- Highlights from Dr. John Duffy’s Podcast “Better” 12:34 Todd’s issue with closed doors 25:00 Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month 25:51 Tribe Men’s Group 33:30 Hitting walls 38:08 Letting go of belief 59:54 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy+Todd discuss Walt Whitman’s poem This is what you shall do and discuss how his wisdom is relevant today. The discuss what it means to “dismiss whatever insults your soul”, and why this relates to us globally and in our own families. They also share lessons from The Little Rascals and Dead Poets Society. Poem by Whitman “This is what you shall do; Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to every one that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men, go freely with powerful uneducated persons and with the young and with the mothers of families, read these leaves in the open air every season of every year of your life, re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem and have the richest fluency not only in its words but in the silent lines of its lips and face and between the lashes of your eyes and in every motion and joint of your body.” 1:01:05 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how we judge our own feelings and then instead of self-regulating, we get lost in a cycle of emotions. They discuss Mark Brackett’s book Permission to Feel, and his interview on Brenè Brown’s Unlocking Us podcast. They also share some ways we can monitor our emotions and show up for our kids, partners, and world in a more compassionate way. 56:30 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Brene Brown Podcast Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss vivid dreaming and why you might be feeling old griefs during this pandemic. They discuss why talking about your feelings and appreciating humor and joy are stabilizing. They share why Lin Manuel Miranda, John Krasinski, the Cuomo Brothers and Matthew McConaughey have been helpful over the last couple of days. Time Stamps 2:24 Taking it to 11 3:58 Dreams 14:35 Cathy cries 17:40 Book of Awakening Lesson- Give it a voice 22:40 Some Good News with John Krasinski 28:46 Just today (Cathy’s depression) 50:45 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oilZ1hNZPRM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QhpRP6tm8oc  

Cathy and Todd discuss creating new habits during the pandemic – for some this can add structure, and for others this can feel too overwhelming. They share the difference between people who are enjoying this time of shelter-in-place, and those who are working harder and taking risks so we all can feel safe and cared for. They also discuss the show Alone and why we need to take care of those who are by themselves, and why relationships are the things that matter most. Time Stamps   Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ElIf2DBrWzU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZWf2_2L2v8   Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss an article in the Harvard Law Review titled The Discomfort You Are Feeling is Grief. Grief expert David Kessler explains how we are all feeling anticipatory grief during this pandemic and how to find hope and meaning in our daily experiences. They also discuss how to pull inspiration from Caroline Ingalls (Little House on the Prairie) and the movie Castaway. Time Stamps 5:40 That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief 18:48 4 attributes of the best kind of empathy 25:49 Stages are not linear 28:37 Unhealthy anticipatory grief 33:43 Zen talk profoundness 41:14 Castaway Resources https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events