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Cathy and Todd talk with Rosalind Wiseman (Founder of Cultures of Dignity and author of Queen Bees and Wannabees) about her new book The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents and her “Tiny Guides” to help you quickly comprehend core social and emotional concepts. Resources Cultures of Dignity The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents- Enter Coupon code “DLPP25” for 25% off Social Dilemma Trailer Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss losing RBG and why we have to practice what she taught us rather than decide all is lost. They discuss how we can grieve and also be strong, be afraid but also find joy. They discuss the importance of mindfulness and share Author Michael Singer’s description of a strong heart. Time Stamps 0:48 What Dads Miss Workshop with John Duffy & Todd Adams Wednesday, September 23rd @ 7:00 PM 1:10 Try Team Zen– try it out for a month by coupon code “friend” 3:00 Yin vs Yang 5:38 Emmy’s 10:12 RBG 28:50 Michael Singer Quote 59:51 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss NFL player Dak Prescott’s willingness to discuss depression and why there was backlash. They process the yin and yang of emotions and why challenge makes us stronger, not weaker. They also discuss whether vulnerable pictures of our kids should be posted on social networking, and how the Japanese art of Kintsugi is a visual representation of falling apart and piecing ourselves back together more beautifully. Time Stamps 1:39 https://conference.happilyfamily.com The Happily Family Conference is a free virtual event that is life changing and global. It’s for parents who come together for a few days online, from over 187 countries, to learn how to raise resilient and connected kids in an anxious world. Cathy and I are presenting on racial justice, spiritual bypassing and why white parents need to talk about race. To get your free ticket go to https://conference.happilyfamily.com/ (that’s “happily like happily ever after”). It all goes live on Oct 5th at conference.happilyfamily.com” 2:24 What Dads Miss Workshop with John Duffy & Todd Adams Wednesday, September 23rd @ 7:00 PM 3:06 Parents posting pictures of their kids 12:22 Depression- Dak Prescott 35:54 Try Team Zen– try it out for a month by coupon code “friend” 37:06 Richard Rohr 56:49 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join Cathy and Todd to discuss the 2020 school year. They discuss the pros and cons of remote and hybrid learning, and why our educational goals from 2019 should not be our focus in 2020. They girls discuss what they’ve learned about themselves and education since the lockdown. Time Stamps 7:52 How are things different? 10:00 Do you want to go back to school? 17:50 Advice for students 23:20 Advice for teachers 29:08 Advice for parents 51:44 Breakout rooms/funny moments 57:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to find personal alignment rather than what our society calls “success”. They reference the 4 Noble Truths, Mel Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, the 8-fold path, To Kill a Mockingbird, the power of intuition, and how scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion. They also discuss the shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, and Cathy’s new book deal. Zen Parenting, the book, will be coming out next year! Time Stamps 0:36 Chadwick Boseman 5:45 Cathy’s Book 11:06 Finding Alignment 24:44 Eckhart Tolle’s take on inner and outer purpose 30:30 Life is suffering 39:58 Pain body 44:34 Life & death 57:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how to see this school year differently and how to accept and reframe our experiences. They discuss how figuring out something new will take time and patience (and self-care), and how children will learn a lot about self-regulation and how to go with the flow in a new system of learning. Time Stamps 6:22 Reframing and accepting 9:05 Blame 12:45 Accepting grief 25:00 Jazz and accepting change 30:00 Reframing school 39:00 Reframing kids 42:49 Reframing priorities 50:00 Daily practice 55:10 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Atomic Habits workshop Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation for kids, and discuss the harm of unachievable success in the documentary The Weight of Gold (about Olympic athletes) and The Go Go’s documentary (about the rise and fall of the band). They also discuss the true and false self, and the “Three Lords of Materialism” (coined by Chögyam Trungpa in his book Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism) and how they relate to our perception of success and motivation. Time Stamps 3:04 Back to school tips 5:45 Basics of motivation 17:56 New perspective on motivation 29:07 Lords of materialism 45:58 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss why understanding ambiguous loss, the dignity of others, and the humanity of teachers is essential as we navigate a back to school plan. This uncertain time necessitates reflective and respectful discourse, and a reminder that our kids are looking to us as role models in how to respond to a difficult and unprecedented event. Time Stamps 5:50 Ambiguous loss 23:44 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 33:33 Dignified and respectful discourse 42:44 What teachers want you to know 49:30 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #2 of a two-part series. Time Stamps 5:15 Summary 10:51 Right livelihood 23:45 Right effort 43:14 Right mindfulness 54:05 Right concentration 67:00 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #1 of a two-part series. Time Stamps 3:14 8- Fold path 11:54 Right view 22:41 Right motivation 36:33 Right speech 53:45 Right action 1:11:20 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver’s Last Week Tonight episode about conspiracy theories, and share the psychology behind why people believe tend to believe them. We also discuss how to have productive conversations with people who share and promote harmful pandemic theories. Time Stamps 4:50 Conspiracy Theories 13:12 So I Married An Axe Murderer 19:40 The reason why people believe in conspiracy theories 25:19 Cathy’s favorite quote – “this glass is fragile…” 41:44 Forrest Gump 51:03 What we can do 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss why building a strong foundation can get us through difficultly and uncertainty, and help us recognize what’s most important in crisis and calmer times. They share what a “strong foundation” looks like and why it’s an everyday practice. They discuss Eckhart Tolle, Richard Rohr, and why dark helps us understand the light (and vice versa). 3:40 Scripture (Matthew) 24:26 Cathy’s foundation 32:50 Row Row Row Your Boat 36:26 We forgot about the birds 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss why connection necessitates letting go of needing and focusing more on understanding. They share a story of connecting with their daughter and why knowing her well was the key to engagement. 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss the Zen parable about the monkey in the river and why it teaches us to find the aliveness of every moment, even if we are afraid or uncertain. They offer examples and analogies from The Karate Kid, Parenthood, Dead Poets Society and even High School Musical. They also discuss the importance of staying educated and continuing to integrate discussions about race into our parenting, and why we need to WEAR MASKS and demonstrate our care for each other and our communities. Looking for a trustworthy Financial Planner? Reach out to David Serrano from Edward Jones @ 815-370-3780 46:38 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how self-care is about building a life that you don’t need to escape from – by speaking up, asking for what you need, resting, and interacting with integrity. They discuss how we can practice this in partnership and parenting, and when we are discussing and learning about difficult issues like race. They also discuss what makes a great song and share some of their picks. Time Stamp 9:00 What self-care really is 18:04 Twitter vs facebook 23:57 Integrity 36:35 Glennon Doyle Snippet 46:38 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how self-awareness, vulnerability, and a willingness to listen upfront lead to authentic and connected conversations later. They discuss how this applies to race discussions, partnership, and parenting, and how cognitive dissonance and whataboutism get in the way of meaningful and productive communication. They reference So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo, Brene Brown’s podcast with the Duplass brothers, and White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo. Time Stamp 4:22 Truth is hard regarding race 25:30 Truth is hard regarding relationships 30:27 Truth is hard regarding parenting 53:34 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings) can run counter to being a listener and learner when it comes to race. They discuss how spiritual bypassing has become normalized and separates us from the issues we need to work through when it comes to social justice, partnerships, parenting, or our own growth and development. Time Stamp 35:16 Care.com– As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 1:17:00 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Bypassing-Spirituality-Disconnects-Matters/dp/1556439059 http://austinchanning.com/ https://www.facebook.com/beabridgebuilder/ Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss the protests and why self-awareness and being a student are essential when talking about race. They share who they learn from, why we need to speak up, and why dismantling racism in ourselves is necessary, difficult, and uncomfortable. Resources Leaders to follow: @austinchanning @luvvie @blackcoffeewithwhitefriends @mspackyetti @myblockmyhoodmycity @jlythcotthaims @laylafsaad @thegreatunlearn @rachel.cargle @maskchicago Books mentioned: White Fragility Between the World and Me and The Water Dancer How to be an Antiracist Just Mercy The New Jim Crow Heart Talk Articles and posts mentioned: 20 Actions that White People Can Take To Show up for Black People Right Now Kareen Abdul-Jabbar Op-Ed Rachel Rogers Trevor Noah 1619 Project Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss some of the questions from this New York Times article titled The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Time Stamp 41:05 Avid Painting & Remodeling 41:28 David Serrano Personal Financial Planner- Call him @ 815-370-3780 and say Todd & Cathy sent you. Resources The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss the highlights of a Freakonomics podcast titled Reasons to Be Cheerful as well as The Goop Podcast titled The Culture of Busyness. Some of the topics discussed were the negativity bias, loss aversion, and getting out of the way so our kids can become the people they are supposed to be. Time Stamp 7:53 – The news 27:32 Parenting 39:45 The role of essential workers 43:30 Which parts of Covid are going to stick 46:23 The culture of busyness 55:48 Cathy’s making planter boxes 1:02:52 One thing 1:04:50 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy interview Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group. They discuss the difference between the content (what is happening) of our lives and the context (from what energy are we dealing with what is happening. They also talk about the universe, death, toddlers, weed, and body intelligence in this real world example when Cathy and Todd’s 12 year old daughter interrupts the interview. To register for the free webinar this Thursday, May 14th @ 11:00 AM-12:30 Central, click here. Time Stamp 3:40 Content vs Context 7:17 3 ways of supporting somebody- Safety space, subject matter expert, context of consciousness 14:18 Taking responsibility- what does that mean? 21:45 Decreasing threatened response 24:17 Daughter wanting to go back to work 28:41 Care.com– As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 29:36 Body awareness 37:08 How do we use body awareness when we’re overwhelmed? 46:22 The universe is conspiring to help me 52:33 death 57:10 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Interview with Annmarie Chereso Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to experience messy and how messy, but necessary, conversations can cause discomfort and uncertainty. They discuss why others are not always bad or wrong, and how we can see the nuance and grey in every situation. They discuss how enlightening or self-aware moments can look different for everybody, and how a Good Will Hunting moment isn’t the only example of catharsis. 3:06 What’s messy look like? 6:37 Good Will Hunting Clip 9:03 Emotional labor 17:22 The toilet seat 29:09 Teeth Brushing 34:10 Team Zen 35:45 Examples of messy 37:30 Awakening 40:58 Short-term vs long-term 45:00 The word nag 52:40 How to fight 59:07 When kids don’t do what we want them to do 1:14:00Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss why hitting a wall is to be expected, and why it’s not a failure, it’s a recalibration. They discuss what walls can teach us and why adaptation and pivoting are important now, and after, the pandemic. They discuss why all feelings are acceptable, and why if we can be specific about what we are feeling, we will have an easier time moving through it. 4:20 E-learning- Highlights from Dr. John Duffy’s Podcast “Better” 12:34 Todd’s issue with closed doors 25:00 Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month 25:51 Tribe Men’s Group 33:30 Hitting walls 38:08 Letting go of belief 59:54 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy+Todd discuss Walt Whitman’s poem This is what you shall do and discuss how his wisdom is relevant today. The discuss what it means to “dismiss whatever insults your soul”, and why this relates to us globally and in our own families. They also share lessons from The Little Rascals and Dead Poets Society. Poem by Whitman “This is what you shall do; Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to every one that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men, go freely with powerful uneducated persons and with the young and with the mothers of families, read these leaves in the open air every season of every year of your life, re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem and have the richest fluency not only in its words but in the silent lines of its lips and face and between the lashes of your eyes and in every motion and joint of your body.” 1:01:05 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss how we judge our own feelings and then instead of self-regulating, we get lost in a cycle of emotions. They discuss Mark Brackett’s book Permission to Feel, and his interview on Brenè Brown’s Unlocking Us podcast. They also share some ways we can monitor our emotions and show up for our kids, partners, and world in a more compassionate way. 56:30 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Brene Brown Podcast Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos  

Cathy and Todd discuss vivid dreaming and why you might be feeling old griefs during this pandemic. They discuss why talking about your feelings and appreciating humor and joy are stabilizing. They share why Lin Manuel Miranda, John Krasinski, the Cuomo Brothers and Matthew McConaughey have been helpful over the last couple of days. Time Stamps 2:24 Taking it to 11 3:58 Dreams 14:35 Cathy cries 17:40 Book of Awakening Lesson- Give it a voice 22:40 Some Good News with John Krasinski 28:46 Just today (Cathy’s depression) 50:45 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Videos   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oilZ1hNZPRM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QhpRP6tm8oc  

Cathy and Todd discuss creating new habits during the pandemic – for some this can add structure, and for others this can feel too overwhelming. They share the difference between people who are enjoying this time of shelter-in-place, and those who are working harder and taking risks so we all can feel safe and cared for. They also discuss the show Alone and why we need to take care of those who are by themselves, and why relationships are the things that matter most. Time Stamps   Resources Tribe Men’s Group Events https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ElIf2DBrWzU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZWf2_2L2v8   Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss an article in the Harvard Law Review titled The Discomfort You Are Feeling is Grief. Grief expert David Kessler explains how we are all feeling anticipatory grief during this pandemic and how to find hope and meaning in our daily experiences. They also discuss how to pull inspiration from Caroline Ingalls (Little House on the Prairie) and the movie Castaway. Time Stamps 5:40 That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief 18:48 4 attributes of the best kind of empathy 25:49 Stages are not linear 28:37 Unhealthy anticipatory grief 33:43 Zen talk profoundness 41:14 Castaway Resources https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss a few ways to cope with uncertainty and why self-care and emotional well-being is the most important thing right now. Time Stamps 0:00 Tonglen breathing 18:30 Loosen the grip on structure and screen time Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Friend” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids about the uncertainty of these times, and why it’s important to focus on the whole rather than the individual. They discuss why it’s ok to let kids sleep and loosen up on your typical structure, and ways to help other people in need. Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss the impact of the corona virus, emotional labor, & Kramer’s attitude towards the gas gauge. Time Stamps 1:20 Corona virus update 18:13 Looking for an honest and smart financial advisor? Look no further than David Serrano. You can reach him @ 815-370-3780 19:09 Emotional labor 37:38 Taxation upon feminine products 47:44 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss how negative news cycles and uncertainty can leave us feeling tired and overwhelmed. They discuss how to take care of ourselves (it’s a practice!), and how to talk to our kids about their feelings and coping tools. Time Stamps 4:34 It’s OK to be tired 8:50 It’s not about the coronavirus 15:15 Busy 31:13 I’m tired 42:19 The two monks story Gratitude: The Short Film by Louie Schwartzberg 59:59 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cpkEvBtyL7M&t=4s Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy & Todd discuss the highlights and takeaways to the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference. Time Stamps 3:40 Pre-conference workshops 13:28 Talking to your kids about sex 25:22 Dr. John Duffy 31:39 Rachel Simmons 40:31 Gemma Hartley 42:31 Debbie Reber 44:50 Transgender & non-binary stories 52:10 Tony Porter 59:59 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources John Duffy: Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety http://MaureenMuldoon.com Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

  Time Stamps 4:00 Tuesday morning inspiration 12:05 Compassionate partnership 48:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss Elizabeth Gilbert’s Valentine’s Day post titled TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY). They discuss each one and how they can rewire the way we experience ourselves and the way we see the world. Time Stamps TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY❤️) 6:24 – 1. What’s that, my baby? You feel like you’re failing at life? But may I ask: By whose rules? And by what deadline? 10:02 – 2. Please stop looking for proof that you are wrong and bad. Don’t be in such a hurry to disown yourself. And please, for the love of God, stop trying to transform. Just sit here with me for a moment, and let me love you exactly as you are. And maybe get yourself a nice big glass of water. That usually helps. 18:52 – Conference Sponsor Spiritual Playdate 19:14 – Conference Sponsor Famzoo 19:46 – 3. You don’t need to show compassion or patience to the world right now. Why would I force that on you, when you don’t actually feel it? You don’t even need to be grateful right now. I love you so much, I will never ask you to do anything you can’t do. Just sit here with me, and know that you are loved, and let that be all we do right now. 32:27 Care.com/zen– As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality care for their children, aging loved ones, home and pets. 33:28 – 4. Stop trying. Does that scare you? Do you still have trouble believing how loved you are—even when you are doing nothing, producing nothing, improving nothing, understanding nothing? Can you sit quietly with me for a moment and consider the possibilities? 38:50 – 5. Can you find the courage and curiosity to live one breath at a time? Can you breathe into this very moment, right now? Because “right now” is the only place I will ever be able to find you. So meet me halfway, dear one, by taking the next breath. 43:20 – 6. You are not crazy or broken, sweetheart, but you do have a mind that requires constant, tender, affectionate stewardship. Good thing you have me! 48:21 – 7. I see how you much you fear solitude sometimes, but trust me: This is your medicine. Also, I have a secret for you: You’re not alone. It’s actually not even possible. 52:32 – 8. If it helps, sweetheart, you can’t possibly do anything wrong. By which I mean—you can’t possibly do anything that will lose me. 53:59 – 9. I’m right here. I have always been right here. I will always be right here. And I’ve got nothing but time for you. 56.18 – 10. Don’t worry about how everyone else is doing it. There is no “everyone else”. There is only you and me. And my name is Love. And so is yours. So let’s just sit quietly now, and know this truth together❤️ 1:05:08 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy & Todd talk about the new Taylor Swift Documentary, Shakira’s and J-Lo’s Superbowl half time show, and other powerful women. Time Stamps 3:54 Quick take #1 ERA Ammendment progress 5:10 Quick take #2 Shaq grieving over the loss of Kobe 9:18 Review of Shakira and J-Lo’s Superbowl performance 17:45 Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get started.” 18:45 Ms. Americana’s Taylor Swift 53:58 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 1:01:00 Rogers Behavioral Health Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy+Todd talk with Heidi Stevens from the Chicago Tribune, and Dr. John Duffy, author of Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety. They discuss having a moral compass, the current political climate, handling Facebook conversations, and of course, parenting. Make sure you subscribe to Heidi and John’s podcast, On Purpose. Time Stamps 1:12:43 Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources https://onpurposepodcast.podbean.com/ 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/07/podcasts/the-daily/weinstein-trial.html Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing. Time Stamps 0:58 Quick Takes Never too late- Famous people who started their careers later than normal. 13:18 Robcast Seatbelts & Snowflakes 28:56 Cathy’s story of shame spirals and discussion of emotions 38:29 Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get started. 44:32 Listen To Slowing Down 1:10:12 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd continue their discussion about wounds and triggers, and why parts of ourselves need to be acknowledged and validated. They discuss awareness and forgiveness, and why every trigger is an opening and opportunity to heal. Time Stamps 5:23 Wounds & Triggers 26:45 Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get started.” 58:39 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 1:01:00 Rogers Behavioral Health Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss childhood wounding and why it leads to triggers in adulthood. They discuss how healthy parts of the self can soothe the wounded parts, and why being triggered is like a replaying an old, painful event or message. Time Stamps 10:21 Wounds & Triggers 30:38 Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get started.” 57:08 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma The Untethered Soul 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss “relationship resolutions” for 2020, and why practice and self-compassion are essential when starting a new year. Time Stamps 5:37 Relationship Resolution 21:43 Hylands Earache drops 50:35 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MhlzFNA5qsk Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd interview Dr. Siegel’s newest book- The Power of Showing Up– How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become & How Their Brains Get Wired. Time Stamps 2:58 The Strange Research Study 7:16 Children adapt to their experiences differently 10:12 % of kids who are securely attached to their parents. 12:55 How well are we doing regarding older children? 17:12 Difference between attachment science vs attachment parenting 23:44 How trauma is like a dog bite 54:36 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources The Power of Showing Up 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Thomas Boyce’s book, The Orchid and the Dandelion and how all children can thrive if given the right environment. They also discuss neurodiversity, This is Us, some of the best movies of the year, and what’s in store for 2020. Time Stamps 3:24 Fallon Sherock- darts champion 9:32 Bechdel Test – biggest movies 13:30 Dandelions & Orchids- sensitive kids vs kids who are unfazed by their surroundings 31:31 You Are Light by Aaron Becker -Candlewick Press 32:07 This is Us- The 5th Wheel 1:02:23 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

It’s a double feature as Cathy and Todd interview the CEO of A Call To Men Tony Porter & Author of Raising Good Humans Hunter Clarke-Fields. Time Stamps 32:39 You Are Light by Aaron Becker 48:43 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources A Call To Men Raising Good Humans 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss why women are expected to take a man’s last name, and why this can be an important discussion and decision for couples. They discuss the meaning of Miss, Ms, and Mrs., why Queen and Slim and Marriage Story are important movies, and why Carol Spinney, the man who played Big Bird will be missed. Time Stamps 3:30 Sesame Street Carol Spinney dies 6:17 Maiden names 16:00 Fragile male ego 23:45 Ms, Miss, Mrs.??? 34:50 Hylands Earache drops 35:49 Queen & Slim 42:35 Marriage Story 48:43 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqpak5lFxvs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDnhh4NEi_U   2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss poetry, Frozen 2, The ZPR Holiday Calendar and setting an intention. Time Stamps 2:20 Hunting Ground Screening Announcement 5:30 A Prescription of Poetry to Help Patients Speak Their Minds 9:47 Otherwise by Jane Kenyon 25:28 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free.har 15:52 Idina Menzel, Evan Rachel Wood – Show Yourself 26:35 ZPR Holiday Calendar 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss the new film “It’s A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood” as well as a quick take on women’s menstruation. Time Stamps 1:48 More Female Athletes Talk About a Taboo: Their Periods 13:00 Hylands Earache drops 13:56 A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood discussion 41:45 Threads Worldwide 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships. Time Stamps 6:48 Foundation for Imago Dialogue 19:04 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free.har 27:22 Mirroring 35:05 Validation 41:29 Empathy 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources Relationship Problems? This Marriage Advice Will Make All Your Relationships Healthier Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Third Edition 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “feel felt” and how to attune to your partner and children. They also explain why it’s important to understand your child’s experience and not deny their reality. Time Stamps 23:00 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free. 56:05 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss Anna Quindlin’s quote, “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself”, and how we can help our kids understand this at an early age. They discuss the anxiety kids feel to do everything right, and why kids from high-achieving schools are now considered “high risk”. Time Stamps 19:48 Hylands Ear Ache Drops Hylands.com/ear-pain 35:55 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources Hylands Ear Ache Drops Hylands.com/ear-pain 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events