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Cathy and Todd discuss Michelle Obama’s new book Becoming, focusing in on some of the best pieces of advice for parents and kids. They discuss why we are always evolving, why growth never ends, and why we should allow our kids (and ourselves) to fail, pivot, and change. Time Stamps 2:23 Don’t rake your leaves 4:15 International Men’s Day discussion 8:00 The power of voices 15:06 Conference Sponsor Rita Hyland Coaching 16:04 “Becoming” by Michelle Obama 17:17 What Are you going to be when you grow up? 29:15 Failure 32:08 What if money was no object 34:11 Canvas People– To get your FREE canvas text Zen to 48-48-48. Just pay shipping and handling. This offer won’t last. Text Zen to 4-8-4-8-4-8. That’s Zen to 484848 34:49 Failure is temporary 40:22 Defining things for yourself 46:10 Becoming who you are never ends 47:34 Team Zen 48:14 Todd Adams Coaching For Guys 48:50 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 51:10 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYNShs6I4HU&t=37s http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss anger and how it can be productive, but also be destructive if not monitored. They discuss Pete Davidson’s apology and Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw’s willingness to accept it on SNL this weekend. They discuss how Bridesmaids and Pitch Perfect allowed the women to be the complex characters, and why Bohemian Rhapsody is so fun to watch. Time Stamps 0:00 Review of “Bohemian Rhapsody 9:55 Sex Ed for the 21st Century Virtual Presentation 11:02 I Am Evidence Screening 14:00 Liev Schreiber SNL Monologue 22:07 Pete Davidson Apologizes to Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw – SNL 33:10 Opposing view points discussion 43:55 Bridesmaids and Perfect Pitch Discussion of movies and women’s roles 48:24 “Permission” SNL Video 52:02 Different Types of Anger 43:05 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 1:07:17 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Team Zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_b1SbbSu6Y https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yw5JkXSm74Y https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAL0wZu4JUg&t=142s http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing. They discuss Dr. Bessel van de Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps Score, and his interview with Krista Tippet on the Being Wise podcast, and how trauma becomes lodged in our bodies and what we can do to move it through. Cathy and Todd share examples of trauma and disconnection from Million Little Things, 8th Grade, The Haunting of Hill House, and the way our current administration is dehumanizing immigrants and people seeking asylum at the border. And if you are reading this on Tuesday, Nov 6th – GO VOTE. Time Stamps 2:04 Team Zen 3:35 Million Little Things Clip 5:47 8th Grade Clip 9:55 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 10:33 Bring It Home Partnership Announcement for the 2019 Conference • YOUniversity: a podcast focused on the college transition for Gen Z and their parents • Campus Leadership Club: a weekly drop in coaching call for stressed college students • Little Seeds Journey: a mindful children’s book for kids, parents and educators 11:47 Voting, Migrants heading to the border, The Haunting of Hill House, Trauma 52:30 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show The Body Keeps Score– by Bessel van der Kolk M.D How Trauma Lodges in the Body On Being Podcast with Krista Tippett Bring It Home Partnership Announcement for the 2019 Conference http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, and why we need to be thoughtful about words we say and write. They also discuss why intimacy coordinators are being used at HBO, why Todd can continue to express himself authentically, and Dax Shepard’s interview with Brenè Brown. Time Stamps 4:05 HBO is changing sex scenes forever 9:31 Todd’s bad review 16:13 Blame & Superiority Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 53:55 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 54:18 Team Zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show Armchair Expert- Brene Brown Interview Stoller Parent Coaching Comprehensive Clinical Services How HBO Is Changing Sex Scenes Forever http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute. They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why pleasing everyone will exhaust you, and how our wounds can become our greatest source of strength and inspiration. Glennon and Abby are the keynotes at the Zen Parenting Conference on March 8&9, 2019 – get your tickets at zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps 15:40 Born to please 31:47 Wisdom comes from within 34:32 If you want to be miserable, meet others expectations 38:23 “Saying don’t cry is like saying don’t pee” 43:00 Have the wound, don’t be the wound 49:17 Having conversations with out younger selves 53:55 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 54:18 Team Zen 54:28 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead, and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be practiced, and how we can teach and role model leadership in our homes, so our kids can take it into the world. Time Stamps 1:23 Family meeting on certain people not picking up after themselves 4:54 Magic Coffee Table Video 13:07 Dare To Lead- 13:07 Can’t get to courage without vulnerability. Embrace the suck 31:40 Self-Awareness and self-love matter. Who we are is how we lead. 44:00 Courage is contagious 41:00 Team Zen- 53:04 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 53:15 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 53:28 toddadamscoaching.com Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_kXIGvB1uU http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids, in our partnerships, and even on-line – has the potential to teach compassion and deepen relationships. They discuss why stepping back is sometimes necessary, why stepping forward can be powerful, and why This Is Us leads to great family discussions. Time Stamps 2:13 Being Measured 4:30 Todd’s passive aggressive response to a kid was struggling 14:26 Story on the Arm Chair Expert podcast 18:02 Everything is human interaction 29:50 Dr. Appts/breast exams 34:51 This Is Us/Todd’s need to fix everything 43:16 Grocery store battle between three women 47:16 RAGE by Glennon Doyle 50:00 How men can support women regarding equality 57:13 Derek Black White Nationalist recovery 1:02:03 Team Zen- 1:07:16 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 1:06:35 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference Resources/Videos used on today’s show Holding Space: How Men Can Support Women’s Rage The Center For Nonviolent Communication Glennon Doyle – author, activist, philanthropist, creator of the online community Momastery, and founder and president of Together Rising, a nonprofit for women and children in crisis – who invites us to turn our RAGE to change every Friday from Oct 5 through Nov 23 by joining #BlackFridays. Together, she invites us to: Represent Act Gather Exit Here’s how: 1 Sign the petition to join the movement. 2 If you want to start easy, wear black in solidarity on Fridays. Tell people why, and/or post on social media with #BlackFridays so that other women can find us. 3 Go deeper by learning more here, where you can read more about the movement and find weekly each week until November 23. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss the history of not believing women, and why recognizing what we’ve missed and creating change can be messy and difficult. They share clips from a Hidden Brain podcast about how social proof and horizontal action play a role in the #metoo movement, the truth about Anita Hill’s testimony (click here to hear the “You’re Wrong About…” podcast), and why the Duke Lacrosse story became nationally known (click here to see the 30 for 30 documentary trailer). They share the history of “female hysteria”, and why recognizing our own biases and beliefs will allow us to be more compassionate toward ourselves and empathetic toward others. Time Stamps 17:57 Social proof 34:30 Horizontal violence 59:44 Team Zen- 60:36 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 61:11 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference Resources/Videos used on today’s show Hidden Brain Podcast You’re Wrong About… Podcast 30 for 30 documentary Trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss #WhyIDidntReport and why it’s important to listen, rather than assume we already understand, other people’s stories. They discuss the importance of hearing – women who talk about sexual assault, our spouses, our children – rather than assuming we already understand their experiences. They talk about questioning unconscious bias and share clips from a vulnerable and brave Charles Blow interview. Time Stamps 4:00 Story about the three folks at the airport discussing theology and trauma 8:50 Listen to women and talk to men 12:35 #whyididntreport 21:44 Todd’s sexual assault stories 25:00 I Am Evidence promo 31:05 What is consent? 34:32 Charles Blow’s experience on sexual assault 51:54 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 52:07 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 54:37 Team Zen- Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss how Todd wants to make his daughters watch the documentary “RBG” and how it’s not working. They also talk about a dad who wants to force his daughter to attend “optional” soccer practices. They talk about their own struggle of brand vs. mission for Zen Parenting Radio. Lastly they play a clip from the “flu” episode. Time Stamps 3:12 RBG discussion 11:45 Team Zen- 32:53 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 33:15 Brand vs. mission discussion 53:37 “flu” episode clip 55:08 Zen Parenting Conference Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd talk with Rea Frey about her new domestic suspense novel, Not Her Daughter. She shares the story behind the book, the conversation it has created, and why it makes the reader question the line between right and wrong. They also discuss modern-day parenting, the trauma of birth, and some real-life kidnapping scares. Not Her Daughter will be made into a major motion picture, and it’s made numerous top book lists for summer, including a shout-out in Us Weekly. Booklist proclaims, “Brings to mind Jodi Picoult…thought-provoking domestic drama.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss how kids can practice self-care and why a mental health day may reduce their anxiety and possibly decrease the odds of physical illness. They also discuss how couples can discuss balance and equity in the home, and how our society views female anger, specifically Serena Williams anger, during the U.S. Open. Time Stamps 1:30 Gemma Hartley’s book- “Fed Up” 2:40 Serena William’s US Open Final 10:02 Guys will say to their wives, “Tell me what to do” 17:20 “I’m going to give you a break.” 30:06 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 31:40 Team Zen- Finding balance between boundaries & Compassion 32:30 Is Your kid faking an illness? Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Boundaries and Compassion Todd and Cathy discuss boundaries and compassion, and how they are threads that run through so many questions posed by parents, especially during Team Zen conversations. They also share why discussing controversial subjects doesn’t need to create more controversy, and why understanding how Fortnite makes kids feel will help explain why the game is so popular. Time Stamps 0:22 Cathy’s apartment @ 454 W. Belmont 6:42 Serena Williams’ “cat suit” 12:13 Stef Curry 15:30 Inequality between Cathy & Todd via packing for a trip 18:42 Need furniture? Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, love seat, or chair when you use code ZEN at checkout 20:45 Vision Quest 23:09 Team Zen- Finding balance between boundaries & Compassion 42:13 Fortnite discussion 58:54 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise and 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speaker, about supporting/guiding a child through their first-phone experience. They also discuss recent movies such as 8th Grade, BlacKKKlansman, and the new documentary, America to Me, filmed at Oak Park River Forest High School. Time Stamps 4:34 America To Me Documentary 9:20 Need furniture? Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, love seat, or chair when you use code ZEN at checkout 14:26 8th Grade 23:23 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 24:00 John McCain discussion 29:12 Blackkklansman discussion 41:48 Team Zen 44:04 Devorah Heitner responds to an 11 year old who wants a phone (see below for special price for “Phonewise”) Resources/Videos used on today’s show Here is a link for Phonewise Boot Camp w/ a special price for Zen Parenting listeners Raising Digital Natives: A discussion with Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise Podcast #330 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQNZhs0QKq0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8lFgF_IjPw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aT0rYxs8DAE http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss the rituals and habits the set the tone for our days and nights, and why recognizing and understanding our power is the great success determiner. Time Stamps Go to http://zenparentingconference.com for the details… 7:54 Rituals 23:00 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 23:15 Need furniture? Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, loveseat, or chair when you use code ZEN at checkout 28:28 Power Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://zenparentingconference.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd announce their 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speakers. They share why you MUST get to know these amazing women, read their books, and get your early-bird tickets to the conference. They discuss the difference between FOMO and JOMO and why JOMO can help us lead healthier and more peaceful lives. Time Stamps Go to http://zenparentingconference.com for the details… 2:11 JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out) 9:12 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 9:38 Key notes Abby Wambach & Glennon Doyle 24:40 Need furniture? Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, loveseat, or chair when you use code ZEN at checkout 27:19 Key note Julie Lythcott-Haims 38:23 Key note Dr. Devorah Heitner 46:15 Team Zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://zenparentingconference.com Julie Lythcott-Haims: “Real American: Growing Up Black and Biracial in America” Raising Digital Natives: A discussion with Devorah Heitner https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It’s an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child – you don’t want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss Pixar’s Inside Out. See Soren dance below… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hspjA6gjmtQ Time Stamps Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Cathy and Todd discuss Episode 4 of the series We Are Man Enough where they process the #metoo movement, consent, why it’s important to listen to other people’s stories, and how men can support other men. Time Stamps 34:21 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 55:28 Team Zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show We Are Man Enough Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411 Date Safe Project https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss Brady Bunch, Serena Williams Wimbledon interview, how to deal with conflict, empathy, and finding out who you can count on for honest, yet compassionate feedback. Time Stamps 2:14 Silver Platters perform 3:39 Serena Williams from Wilmbeldon 6:36 Todd’s blog is criticized as sexist and racist 8:06 Barack Obama’s take on unhealthy masculinity. 15:08 Dylan Marron’s Ted Talk clip 31:13 Team Zen 34:09 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 34:32 Quote from Maria Shriver’s Book “I’ve Been Thinking” Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy discuss one of Toby’s quotes from This is Us, and explain why his wisdom could strengthen any relationship. They discuss how to love our inner child without letting it take control, and why there are always only two options, love or fear. They share wisdom from Richard Rohr and Gary Zukov and some humor from Friends. Time Stamps 2:42 This Is Us Clip 9:00 Todd’s birth family examples 19:18 Going into child 27:02 Fear vs love bucket? 33:18 Is it good to have our kids fear us? 46:08 Oprah and Richard Rohr clip 45:53 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy speak with Kara Valentine, co-Founder of Threads Worldwide, an organization that creates life-changing work for women around the world through the fair trade of artisan jewelry. Threads Worldwide was founded in 2011 to give back and weave together a community of women leaders and change-makers. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Threads Worldwide https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events

Cathy and Todd discuss a productive definition of hope based on insight from Parker Palmer and Howard Thurman. They discuss Hannah Gadsby’s Netflix Comedy Special and share why her bravery and willingness to speak up is leading the way. Time Stamps 7:49 Parker Palmer- The Growing Edge 23:06 Hannah Gadsby discussion 59:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Hannah Gadsby Netflix special https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events  

Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life. Time Stamps 6:49 Jayson’s blog that resonated with Todd- Clip 1 13:16 Jayson’s blog that resonated with Todd- Clip 2 27:04 Jayson’s blog that resonated with Todd- Clip 3 28:00 Understanding of The Relationship School 40:11 When women say “I was my husband was here to listen to this.” 56:34 White privilege/Toxic masculinity 1:05:25 Tim Ferris Questions Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://relationshipschool.net/ Smart Couple Podcast   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events

Todd and Cathy talk with Patty Monahan, founder of Our Whole Village, a company that specializes in family vacations and adventures. They discuss why travel is so important at every age, why we should teach our children to be global citizens, and why travel creates confident parents and strong families. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://ourwholevillage.com/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events

Cathy and Todd talk with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. They discuss why this book is rally cry for all parents raising exceptional children, and why it benefits every parent to listen and understand differences. Debbie also shares 18 powerful “tilts” or paradigm shifts that can change how we see ourselves and our children. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Differently Wired http://www.tiltparenting.com/   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events

Todd and Cathy talk with Josh St. Pierre, a 42 year old full-time soccer coach who is need of a kidney. Josh explains why live liver and kidney donation is essential and how to figure out if you are a match with someone on the registry. He also shares his story, starting with being diagnosed with kidney failure at 30, and why he is willing to ask for help and speak up for every person needing organ donation. If you’re interested in being a living donor, please call 312-695-0828 and say you’re interested in being a living donor on behalf of Josh St. Pierre. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Kidney Transplantation Living Donors The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events

Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss why allowing our darkness and discussing mental wellness is essential. They offer a recipe for fulfillment and share why we need to call women’s sports just “sports”. Time Stamps 2:50 Suicides of Kate Spade & Anthony Bourdain 4:04- Struggling with our own darkness 23:58 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for free!!! 25:14 Emotional Labor 52:40 Easy ways to make women’s lives more bearable 59:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Emotional Labor is an Unpaid Job- Podcast #405 Easy Ways To Make Women’s Lives More Bearable Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward by Gemma Hartley Pre-order link Recipe For Fulfillment: Feed your mind (20 minutes/day) Strengthen your body (20 minutes/day) Find a mission bigger than yourself Have a role model Know there’s always somebody worse than you that have oversome there obstacles- No excuses!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcUAIpZrwog https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e27DT3LemSQ&t=24s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss Abby Wambach’s graduation speech at Barnard and why it made such an impact. They share wisdom from Franciscan friar Richard Rohr about why it’s so easy to remember the negative, but so difficult to absorb the positive. Time Stamps 1:53 “Wild World” | Drew Holcomb and The Neighbors 10:35 Abby Wambach’s commencement message to women: ‘We are the wolves’ 18:44 Quote from Richard Rohr on the Rob Bell Podcast 38:17 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for free!!! 39:07 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Rob Bell Podcast link with Richard Rohr https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wtQqYW48sM   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJe40l2waxs     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd talk with Karen Brody, author of Daring to Rest: Reclaim Your Power with Yoga Nidra Rest Meditation. They discuss why women feel so much pressure to be productive, and why we need to redefine what rest really means. They discuss the power of yoga nidra, why it makes such a difference physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and why intention is an essential part of the process. Karen is also the creator/writer of Birth, a play about how low-risk, educated women are giving birth today. Since 2006 the play been performed around the world as part of BOLD, an arts-based global movement inspiring communities to create childbirth choices that work for mothers. Time Stamps 1:48 Why don’t women rest? 7:20 Redefining what rest means 9:44 Yoga Nidra explained 13:09 – The 5 different bodies of yoga nidra 21:30 Inention 29:04 Too busy for yoga nidra 34:38 Typical yoga nidra practice Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Robin Berman’s book, Permission to Parent, and also her interview on the goop podcast. They discuss how our brain grows on love, why group-think starts in childhood, and why continuing to seek the approval of your parents can be detrimental to your present-day relationships. Time Stamps 2:07 Maintaining connection with your child while holding your space 4:12 Serena Williams seeding of the French Open 7:07 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for free!!! 9:55 Intro to Permission To Parent by Robin Berman 11:21 Goop Podcast clip #1 Brain grows on love 32:51 Family Ties Talk 40:10 Clip #2- Staying Stuck 48:04 Needing the approval of your parents- Going back to a dry well 1:06:10 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Goop Podcast clip #1 Intro to Permission To Parent by Robin Berman The Mask You Live In – Trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd talk with International Best-Selling Author Charlie Donlea. They talk about each of his three books including his latest and greatest “Don’t Believe It” They also talk pop culture, Serial, The Making Of A Murderer, baseball, and Dungeons & Dragons. Won’t want to miss this one!!!! Time Stamps Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Charlie Donlea Don’t Believe It The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss intersectionality, a way of describing how multiple threats of discrimination exist when an individual’s identities overlap with several minority classes — such as race, gender, age, ethnicity, health and other characteristics. They discuss why we need to recognize our differences and listen to each other so we can begin to view experiences through a broader and more inclusive lense. They share how this can affect parenting and how it can shape our world view and make it easier for us to take care of each other. They share clips from Franchesca Ramsey and Laci Green, and recommend Kimberlè Crenshaw’s TED Talk titled, The Urgency of Intersectionality. Time Stamps 1:15 Women’s Circle for our 13 year old 9:20 Alexandra Solomon’s take on the Santa Fe shooting- toxic masculinity 15:46 Intersectionality- what is it? 54:00 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for the month of May 55:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show WTF is Intersectional Feminism??? The Urgency of Intersectionality https://hello-sunshine.com/ We need to talk about an injustice | Bryan Stevenson The Mask You Live In – Trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, & Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that are making a difference, and how we can all get involved to decrease the epidemic of gun violence that is now a public health issue. Link to Part 2: https://zenpopparenting.com/podcasts/434/ Resources/Videos used on today’s show To get involved, please visit https://momsdemandaction.org or email Sara Knizhnik @ [email protected] For even more information on how to get involved, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, & Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that are making a difference, and how we can all get involved to decrease the epidemic of gun violence that is now a public health issue. Link to Part 1: https://zenpopparenting.com/podcasts/433/ Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy continue discussing Julie Lythcott-Haims’ book, How to Raise an Adult, specifically focusing on what our kids should know before they venture out on their own. They share a clip from Luvvie Ajayi’s TED Talk about the importance of speaking up, even when it’s uncomfortable, and why “keeping the peace” can keep us stuck in time. Todd shares a clip from a highly emotionally-intelligent father who understands how to reach his daughter, even while she’s under duress. Time Stamps 5:09 What if we taught all kids emotional intelligence? 15:35 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for the month of May 17:35 Luvvie Ajayi- Speaking Our Truth 29:50 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 30:06 How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims 30:56Coping with the ups and downs 40:43 Earn and manage money 48:18 Take Risks Resources/Videos used on today’s show What if we taught all kids emotional intelligence? She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you) Teenage Wisdom Podcast #420 Luvvie Ajayi- Speaking Our Truth The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom: Practical and Spiritual Steps So You Can Stop Worrying https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss a practical checklist of what kids need before they go to college written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult. The checklist offers intention and clarity, and recognizes that skills develop over time in a child-developmentally appropriate way. They also discuss why Todd wanted to play Cashflow for his birthday, and why financial awareness is necessary education for our kids. Time Stamps 1:10 Cashflow Board Game experience 7:04 Famzoo shoutout 7:33 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for the month of May 9:52 Zen Store 10:35 How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims 18:36 Must be able to talk to strangers 27:32 Must be able to find their way around… 39:39 Must be able to manage their assignments, workloads, and deadlines 49:04 Must be able to handle interpersonal problems 54:51 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Race To Nowhere The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss the Super Soul Podcast conversation between Amy Schumer and Oprah about her new movie, I Feel Pretty. They talk about trusting your intention, why emotional labor is vital to the health of the family, and why accepting yourself leads to real confidence and a deeper connection with others. Free Month of Team Zen- All you have to do is enter the coupon code “May” to receive the discount. Time Stamps 2:44 Team Zen “May” Special- Enter “May” upon checkout to try out Team Zen for the month of May 4:55 The Well Northshore presents Dr. Therese Rowley- “The Unconventional Genius of Today’s Youth” 8:05 Intro to the Oprah/Amy interview 10:13 Trust your intention 24:45 Emotional labor 31:45 Amy being abused – what it’s really like 44:22 Loving yourself for who you are 49:45 Mom Translator 56:27 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/mom-translator/n12500 Happily Conference The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss the emotional challenges of American men and why this impacts every part of our society. Their guests, Frank Naugo and Shaun Emerson, discuss why men struggle with intimacy, vulnerability, and friendship, and why anger or numbness can become a default setting. They share clips from the Hidden Brain podcast titled How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men, and discuss how we can redefine what it means to be a man. Time Stamps 33:41 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 1:10:37 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:17:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show The Hidden Brain- The Lonely American Man- March 19th, 2018 The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching Mankind Project Good Men Project The Mask You Live In https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss “moral outrage” and how to use it to create positive change. They explain how society tends to value a clean and concise way of thinking, but how thinking out of the box or seeing the bigger picture can lead to greater compassion and connection. They discuss how to support a child who doesn’t want to share, why spaghetti thinking is as important as waffle thinking, and why wide open spaces are helpful. Time Stamps 5:32 Women, wine and wellness @ Tree of Life Chiropractic care 5:45 Moral outrage by Joan Halifax 11:17 Stepping into the discomfort when your child is sad 22:41 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 24:49 Thinking differently 41:46 Daniel Murphy paternity example 53:33 Four male archetypes discussion     1:00:15 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:08:20 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show Mindfulness, Waffles, & Road Rage Paternity Leave or Play Ball! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy welcome their friends John and Julie Duffy, hosts of the Better Podcast (formerly titled Undue Anxiety). They talk about Tony Robbins, the #MeToo movement, and why listening and respecting others is essential for real change. They discuss couplehood, family dynamics, and how we can live in joy but always leave room for the dark. Time Stamps 1:12 Introduction of the “Better” podcast 4:58 Discussion of Tony Robbins video 19:13 #Men’s take on #Metoo 20:49 Imbalance of power 27:19 Family dynamics and exceptions to the rule 29:58 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 31:00 Are women stronger? 34:15 How #metoo impacts relationships 1:00:15 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:04:10 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=74YILhy4RgE   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss how to recognize when we are showing up authentically rather than performing. They also discuss how to deal with a child who seems consistently disappointed, and why taking responsibility for our own behavior is key. Todd shares a clip about investing from Freakonomics, Cathy discusses the joy of Funko characters, and they offer some wisdom from Tommy Boy. Time Stamps :58 Cathy finds a new way of explaining something old 3:35 Tommy Boy talk 4:00 Quick take on investing- passive and active investing- played a clip from Freakonomics- The Stupidest Thing You Can Do With Your Money 11:25 Tommy Boy clip 12:36 Discussion on Funko 16:00 Jonathan Fields lesson of less show, more soul 25:34 Question from listener- My 7 year old is having hard time with disappointment from high expectations 41:32 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 42:48 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 43:55 When our children are disappointed 48:02- Tools to cultivate mindfulness after the awareness 57:54 Guys, looking for a coach? www.toddadamscoaching.com 58:32 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:02:29 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://freakonomics.com/podcast/stupidest-thing-can-money-rebroadcast/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1EyN9xTK94 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd & Cathy Discuss the 4 different types of fears as described by Iyanla Vanzandt, Dierk’s Bentley, Bruce Willis’ wine cooler commercial, Eddie Murphy’s single “Party All The Time”, and how we’ve all already done the hardest thing we will ever do. Time Stamps 1:00 Movie quotes quiz & other random stuff 4:40 Dierks Bentley tribute 9:04 Four primal fears by Iyanla Van Sandt 10:20 Fear of losing someone’s love or fear of being rejected 20:55 Fear of being powerless or helpless (fear of being unsafe) 26:55 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 28:12 Fear of losing control 39:22 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 41:19 Fear of not being seen as valuable, worthy, or necessary 44:15 Tying all four fears together 57:10 Guys, looking for a coach? www.toddadamscoaching.com 58:00 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 59:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 59:20 Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care   Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd shares a story of a softball coach who proclaims “boys are stronger than girls” and what happened after that statement was made. They also discuss why focusing on too many things makes us feel overwhelmed and paralyzed, and why choosing one thing helps us take action and create real change (they share examples from MOMS Demand Action and from A Wrinkle in Time). They share how they created their women’s circle/men’s group, why we should speak up for others, and they play a new song by Lin-Manuel Miranda and Ben Platt called Found/Tonight (some proceeds go toward the March For Our Lives). Time Stamps 7:28 “Boys are stronger than girls” story 19:50 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 20:44 Focusing on too many things is detrimental 45:32 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 46:17 How to create a women’s circle and men’s group 1:02:00 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people. Time Stamps 2:52 Missing the window of time to do household stuff 9:48 How Do I Get My Partner To…. 32:24 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 33:44 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen Ancient wisdom from a young girl 50:48 Advice from Oprah to young women via Good Morning America 58:08 Taylor Swift makes Cathy cry 1:10:49 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YsvQ7SsEFdQ&t=97s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss Cheryl Strayed, MILCK, Mike Domitrz and all the goodness from the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss the most frequently asked question ZPR question, the Oscars, and how we can all become forces for good. Time Stamps 3:42 Moms Demand Action Inaugural Meeting on March 21st 7:00 PM @ Bethel Church 315 E. St. Charles in Elmhurst, IL 4:34 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 5:21 Cheryl Strayed 11:27 tangent time- When your partner is not on the same path 16:56 Back to Cheryl Strayed 24:18 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 25:08 Milck 36:50 www.Care.com/zen for 30% off your premium membership 37:44 Mike Domitrz 48:35 Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference 51:30 Oscars talk 57:07 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling 25:00 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss The Gentle Warrior’s Manifesto to Reduce Busyness from Courtney Carver’s book, Soulful Simplicity, and they discuss a Freakonomic’s podcast titled After the Glass Ceiling, A Glass Cliff, about why only 5% of Fortune 500 companies are run by women. They share why men and women eat Doritos differently, why we need to linger longer, and why Cathy loves Lionel Richie. Time Stamps 2:52 Discussion of After the Glass Ceiling, a Glass Cliff 5:20 Are women more likely to get a CEO job when the firm is in trouble? 9:12 A hypothesis of why this happens (the mother complex) 14:22 Do men and women eat Doritos differently? 23:59 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 25:00 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 27:10 Lionel Richie discussion 31:59 Gentle Warrior’s manifesto to End Busyness I will not say yes when my heart says no. I will measure more by what’s in my heart and less by what’s crossed off my list. I will prioritize love and health. I will ask for help. I will work with people who want my best, not my busiest. I will ask better questions so we don’t have to talk about how busy we are. I will not let my phone run my life. I will trade my FOMO for JOMO. I will create space for solitude. I will linger longer. Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://freakonomics.com/podcast/glass-cliff/ https://bemorewithless.com/manifesto/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy discuss the Parkland tragedy, and talk about why it’s time to take action to keep our kids safe at school. They explain how we can take on all pieces of the puzzle – common sense laws, mental wellness, and community/parent/school support – rather than fight about which one matters the most. They also discuss Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Brainstorm, and process how the teenage brain works and why it’s necessary for teenagers to take risks. Time Stamps 5:28 Parkland FL Shooting Discussion 8:26 Todd’s seeing the school shootings through children’s eyes 26:08 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 27:07 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 28:16 Dan Siegel’s talk“Brainstorm- The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain Risk Taking behavior Hyper-rational thinking Why we’re jealous of our kids 40:48 Teenagers “vomit” on their parents 53:52 Byron Katie’s “The Work” Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://everytown.org/ https://momsdemandaction.org/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kH-BO1rJXbQ&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing. Time Stamps 1:53 Quick Takes Never too late- Famous people who started their careers later than normal. 14:20 Zen Parenting Conference Partner – Young Living Essential Oils Nicole Whitlow [email protected] 15:45 Robcast Seatbelts & Snowflakes 32:00 Cathy’s story of shame spirals and discussion of emotions 41:02 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 42:17 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 48:57 Listen To Slowing Down 1:10:12 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show Can Youth Sports Be Fun AND Competitive? John O’Sullivan Says Yes.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy share some of the touching and funny Superbowl commercials, and they discuss a video of Will Smith explaining why fault and responsibility are two different things. Cathy shares some of her favorite self-compassion quotes, and they discuss why some quotes wake us up or resonate so strongly. Todd discusses his gullibility, he defends Taylor Swift, and he shares an aha from our Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker Mike Domitrz. Time Stamps :58 Todd defends Taylor Swift @ the expense of Quincy Jones/Gerry O’Keefe 5:05 Highlights of all Superbowl ads 14:46 25 days until the Zen Parenting Conference 23:31 Self love quotes that connects with Cathy 29:37 Todd shares the cost of his gullibility 33:10 Will Smith fault vs responsibility 38:44Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 39:50 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 42:48 Quote- Dear self- Today and the rest of my days…. 53:10 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCnawupUZOE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEePYLF9Uzs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of bravery and strength. They discuss what it means to be a strength-based parent and play a clip from Lea Waters, author of The Strength Switch. Todd plays a clip from the TED Talk podcast about how people with less money actually give more to those in need, and how exposure and empathy are the keys to greater giving. Time Stamps 1:54 Cathy’s awareness through her illness 14:40 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today 15:43 Todd’s advice to taking care of sick family members 31:05 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box 32:39 Lessons from Lea Waters & Strength Based Parenting via The Good Life Project 43:48 Hello Fresh Partnership- enter coupon code “zen” for $30 off your first week 45:01 Lessons from Paul Piff: Does Money Make You Mean? via the Ted Radio Hour 57:16 Good News Via The GoodNews Paper– enter “zen” for 15% off 59:11 Conference Partner Threads Worldwide 1:01 .01 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0