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Cathy and Todd discuss the challenges of healing and why honesty and support are essential. They talk about how each of us are challenged to do hard things, and how not doing our own work leads to projection. They discuss how to talk to your kids about difficult topics like sex, and how living a “healthy life” means something different to everyone depending on their circumstances. Time Stamps 1:45 Conference keynote and performer Milck 3:23 Lessons from Cathy’s illness 6:00 Enthusastic Parker (Alec Baldwin from Friends) 24:19 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box 25:23 Question about how to talk to your kids about sex (need some book recommendations) 33:52 Quote from the Dalai Lama “Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” -The Dalai Lama 38:29 Sam Berns My philosophy for a happy life 47:26 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today 1:01:07 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tl_Qfj8780M https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xFrBfeKJoo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd+Cathy discuss Cathy’s recovery of the flu as well as an inspirational exchange between Sarah Silverman and one of her followers. Time Stamps 0:30 Cathy’s flu discussion   12:48 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box 13:44 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today 20:03 Sarah Silverman exchange 28:13 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Yup- Cathy has the flu 🙁 We’re gonna shoot for another one at the end of the week. if not, next Tuesday for sure. Sorry for the inconvenience. Keep truckin’ Todd https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd+Cathy discuss how to “let go” and “bring in” for the new year, and how to wake up to our lives in 2018. They discuss how Steve Bartman and Bill Buckner became the scapegoats for their perspective cities pain, and how we tend to project all blame on one person or event in our own lives. They explain why the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment work well together, and why humor is essential in the midst of challenges. Time Stamps 4:30 New Year’s comments 8:49 Steve Bartman, Bill Buckner 17:40 1+1=3 18:23 Mirror neurons 22:16 Care.com- go to www.care.com/zen to receive 30% off of premium membership 23:10 Soulful simplicity 26:20 Wake-up call & how to know when you’re “asleep” If your life is on autopilot If you never put yourself first If you’ve become you don’t recognize to please other people Do you chase some version of success that doesn’t resonate with you If you’re constantly self-medicating with food, shopping, alcohol, tv, phone, social networking, gaming, If you’re worn down, beat up stressed out and completely depleted. 41:22 Science of achievement vs the art of fulfillment 52:30 Clip of Kylo Ren as “Matt” form Saturday Night Live 55:39 Cheryl strayed clip 56:40 Macgill First Aid Kit www.macgillfirstaidkit.com Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaOSCASqLsE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQHmyBVcUl8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite things from 2017, and share why faith played a big role this year. They answer some questions posed in the Tim Ferriss book, Tribe of Mentors, reflect on growing up in the 80’s and 90’s, and share why they are hopeful for 2018. Time Stamps 0:00 Intro- reflection on 70’s and 80’s 4:52 Sick kids 6:45 Our 3 favorite things of 2017 36.12 Canvas People enter “zen” to reduce the price of an 11″ x 14″ canvas down to $0.00 51:17 Conference Partner HGNA Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy talk about how meaning relates to happiness and joy, and how this knowledge can make our holidays less stressful and our parenting more conscious. They also discuss the benefits of Forest Bathing and share why trees can be our best teachers. They discuss the benefits of being cold, the zen-ness of their rabbit, and the need for more optimistic TV shows and movies. Time Stamps 2:05 Forest Bath discussion 12:17 Without Your Permission 18:54 Meaning 26:00 Cathy’s tree conversation 28:17 Smokey the rabbit is a good meditator 38:38 Canvas People enter “zen” to reduce the price of an 11″ x 14″ canvas down to $0.00 40:10 Intelligence vs happiness 49:14 the benefits of being cold 53:45 Milck 56:10 Conference Partner http://www.lauralreagan.com/   Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pEcvteQo9g https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy talk with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Date Safe Project and 2018 Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker. They discuss they #metoo movement and what comes next – how does this change our behavior? How will this impact our relationships and society overall? How can it influence our parenting? Mike offers his expertise and support as we all navigate this ever-changing and uncertain time.   Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLg1k4I9fqk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd share how we can take care of ourselves and say no during the holidays without feeling guilt. They discuss Shauna Niequist’s book Present Over Perfect and why our decision to be good to ourselves allows us to be more present for the ones we love. They also discuss why discomfort and confusion during this time of #metoo is normal and necessary for change, and how we can be more thoughtful and self-aware about our choices. It’s awards season again! Cathy shares the Golden Globe Best Picture nominees. Time Stamps 2:55 Question from listener regarding husband’s worry about being unfairly scrutinized in today’s #metoo culture 12:15 Clip of our interview with Mike Domitrz regarding Charlie Rose and Matt Lauer 22:18 RX Bar 25% off your first order 23:01 Canvas People enter “zen” to reduce the price of an 11″ x 14″ canvas down to $0.00 24:00 Holiday balance 28:12 Lines from Psych 39:32 Awards season 47:38 Good News 49:32 Logic – 1-800-273-8255 Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMXQOp1FmZI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIjGDa_YFYA   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy discuss how inequality can lead to challenging and often unconscious communication, and they share some civil statements that women can use to feel heard. They discuss common unconscious double standards in private life and the workplace, and explain why the skit “Welcome to Hell” from Saturday Night Live was so thought-provoking. They share a moment from A Very Brady Christmas, some wisdom from Zen Parenting Conference keynote Mike Domitrz from The Date Safe Project, and a powerful speech from actor Jeff Daniels. Time Stamps 2:55 Jeff Daniels discussion 10:00 Promo of Mike Domitzr 12:10 A Very Brady Bunch Christmas 14:42 Hamilton review 17:27 #Metoo Discussion 19:57 Saturday Night Live Clip- Hell is real 37:29 Canvas People 39:30 John Duffy story of double standard 43:13 Big Little Lies Discussion 44:48 Eight Statements for Women to Practice You interrupted me. No. That isn’t funny That isn’t appropriate I already know that That won’t be necessary Leave me alone You’re making me uncomfortable Stop ignoring what I’m saying 58:55 Threads worldwide Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPHSXUS0_1c https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_FVh4Q5Su6s&t=12s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwlBxYyjrqM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1l26UFQ06eQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy discuss how they experience the world differently, and why understanding and respecting these differences lead to better communication. They talk about why connection is like nourishment, and why not connecting can make us feel uncomfortable mentally and physically. They discuss Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies and share which tendency describes their underlying motivation. They talk about the movie Wonder, owning our stuff, and why sexual assault allegations are uncovering a deeply-embedded systemic issue. Time Stamps 0:35 Owning our stuff/radical responsibility 7:55- The way cathy watched football/ sees the world 19:52 RX Bar 25% off your first order 20:51 Connection- tough family/work environment 23:35 Differences between Todd & Cathy feelings 24:42 Gretchen Rubin – 4 different personality types 29:43 Wonder Review 35:20 Canvas People Enter “zen” for a free 11″ 14″ canvas 36:15 Michael Vick bankruptcy 41:45 NPR Politics 50:10 Conference Partners- Ali Folz & Rick Morrison Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Todd and Cathy discuss Jessica Lahey’s The Gift of Failure, and discuss why allowing our kids to make mistakes will help them succeed. They also discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, why rewards and punishment don’t work, and why praising our kids for effort rather than outcome will lead to greater success and a healthier sense of self. They play a clip of a Hillary Clinton interview on the Dear Sugar podcast, a commercial about failure from Michael Jordan, and discuss Carol Dweck’s book Mindset. Time Stamps 1:50 Dear Sugar clip with Cheryl Strayed with Hillary Clinton 8:52 Discussion on The Gift Of Failure 24:00 Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation 25:00 Rewards 32:50 Are your kids average? 35:22 Modeling 40:27 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 41:23 Mindset- fixed or growth? 56:21 Michael Jordan Nike commercial 57:30 Habits of the “controlling” parents 60:30 Good News Stories 62:44 Our amazing partner for the ZPR Conference David Serrano – Call 815-370-3780 Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPFOlXo7UPI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Invitations, a book that shows us how to wake up fully to our lives. As a compassionate teacher and cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, author Frank Ostaseski supports the dying. His five invitations dive into the suffering, joy, and inevitability of death, and why embracing this wisdom will lead to a more mindful and compassionate life. Cathy and Todd use clips from Dead Poets Society and Star Wars to highlight his points, and discuss why this book empowered them to live with greater intention and meaning. Time Stamps 1:40 Introduction to The Five Invitations 10:44 Invitation #1 Don’t Wait 16:22 Dead Poets Society Clip 24:06 Invitation #2 Welcome Everything and Push Away Nothing 34:15 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 35:29 Star Wars Clip (Obi-Won and Darth Vader) regarding death 41:33 Invitation #3 Bring Your Whole Self To The experience 47:05 Invitation #4 Find A Place Of Rest In The Middle Of Things 53:49 Invitation # 5 Cultivate A Don’t Know Mind 57:15 Our amazing partner for the ZPR Conference Trinity Family Law Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sml6Z0TMx1k&t=704s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4F-xWjOeUc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVBX7l2zgRw   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Todd and Cathy discuss an article in Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” about emotional labor and the sensitivity surrounding this topic. They discuss how to have a productive conversation about what it really takes to manage a house, and why it’s not always true that men are “problem solvers” and women are “sensitive”. They discuss how they are challenged with this issue, how it’s easy to go on autopilot, and why this is an ongoing discussion and not a one-time conversation. They explain how this relates to gender issues overall and what we are all currently modeling for both our daughters and sons. If you find this discussion interesting, join Cathy+Todd for a one-time virtual class about civility and compassion (in the home and for the holidays), and why the way we talk to our loved ones extends into the world. Click here to register. Time Stamps :24- Discussion of the article- Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” 3:43 Discussion of the article Why do women get all attractive if they don’t want to be harassed? 11:29 The Break Up Scene & discussion 35:17 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 46:22 The Break Up Scene II & discussion Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKKyxmf_BR8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s OK for kids to change their minds and try new things, and why it’s important for adults to do this, too. They discuss how self-awareness is essential, and how self-forgiveness and understanding are also essential because we will always be a mystery (the great paradox!). They discuss the offensive gesture during the world series, how they managed their daughter’s crying episode, Byron Katie’s “The Work”, cranial sacral holds, and some humor from Anchorman. Time Stamps 0:00 Milck Announcement https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCnexOFOxCo 4:30 Civil & Compassionate Communication Over The Holidays 7:10 Screening of The Mask You Live In Registration is here. Trailer is here. 8:55 Taco town snl https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q312yavJw2w 11:55 Yu darvish response to racially insensitive gesture. 16:08 Rx bar- Go to www.rxbar.com/zen and enter “zen” for 25% off upon checkout 18:20 Self-awareness paradox discussion. 26:25 Find the good in grief 28:00 Daughter melted down in the car and how to deal with it. 30:25 Anchor Man Scene (In a glass case of emotion) 32:52 Cranial sacral holds 39:20 Byron Katie “The Work” discussion 42:03 Canvas People Enter “Zen” for a free 11” X 14” canvas 42:50 It’s ok to quit (or let it go) 52:34 Never give up & always let go 56:54 The benefits of looking up at the stars 61:14 Trinity Family Law (Sponsor of Zen Parenting Conference) Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5fmHCNfowbQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q312yavJw2w https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCnexOFOxCo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd talk with Roksanna Taghizadeh, an immigrant who grew up in Iran, became a refugee in Germany, and eventually made it to the United States where she became an structural engineer. She shares her immigration story, explains what it’s like to live in a refugee camp, and shares why the current political environment has been surprising and emotionally challenging. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s OK to be uncomfortable, and why focusing on what works and what we are grateful creates the foundation to deal with discomfort. They reference the Good Newspaper, and explain why good news can help us speak out about the uncomfortable news. Todd shares some wisdom from Simon Sinek about why cell phones shouldn’t be the classroom or the boardroom, and why will power sometimes isn’t enough. They discuss if it’s safe for Todd to drive with his knee, why we shouldn’t answer the phone in a movie theater, and a wise observation from Martin Luther King. Show Notes/Time Stamps 3:55 Comprehensive Clinical Services– Silver sponsorship for the Zen Parenting Conference 4:45 Getting uncomfortable with #Metoo(www.goodgoodgood.co) 16:20 Headlines of The Good News Paper 23:45 Canvas people (enter “zen” for a free 11″ X 14″ canvas) 27:20 Simon Sinek discussion on cell phones Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xj7YPOd0-ok https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss the power of #metoo (a hashtag for anyone who has been sexually harassed or assaulted) and why sharing stories and listening to each other paves the way for change. They also talk about the power of words and why inclusive language is not just about being politically correct, it’s about growth and understanding. They discuss software that allows parents to see how their children are doing throughout the school day, why children hold in painful secrets, and why Cathy won’t share her water bottle. Show Notes/Time Stamps 1:06 Cathy story about kids withholding 7:45 Auto insurance for our teenage children 10:40 Boyscouts of America announcements regarding girls 12:58 Cathy’s floaties problem 15:09 #Metoo 27:35 Hello Fresh Partnership Type in “zen30” for $30.00 off your first delivery 28:58 Todd’s “I’m glad I’m not a girl” story 41:08 Difference between husband/wife vs “friend” 45:50 Canvas People Enter “zen” to receive an 11″ x 14″ canvas to get your free canvas 47:45 “Class Dojo” discussion 54:32 Good Newspaper Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

On their 400th episode, Cathy and Todd discuss why they started Zen Parenting, how it’s changed, and why equality, compassion, and connection motivate them to keep going. They share their favorite Tom Petty songs, discuss why difficult conversations are essential, and explain how if we work together, we will soar. Show Notes/Time Stamps 2:50 Todd’s basketball story 9:16 Todd’s public service announcement regarding Equifax 11:40 Emerging Women Conference- Masculine/Feminine equality discussion 34:00 Cam Newton Discussion 49:26 Canvas People Use coupon code “Zen” for your free 11″x 14″ canvas 53:15 The evolution of Zen Parenting Radio 1:09.35 Tournament of bad 1:10.49 Tournament of bad II Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0zVvfzn1AY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of civility when we have different opinions or viewpoints, and offer some definitions and research from Brenè Browns book, Braving the Wilderness. They also discuss the Las Vegas tragedy – how we can make the unbearable bearable, and how we can give of ourselves to help others. They share who resides in their “brain trust”, offer some wisdom from Cory Booker, and discuss why we have dehumanized in the past and why rehumanization is essential for the future. Show Notes/Time Stamps 10:15- Belonging/Fitting In 11:58- Health hazards of lonliness 15:00- Todd’s brain trust 20:24- Cathy’s brain trust 29:24- www.CanvasPeople.com 30:42- Civility 39:23- Dealing with a kid who won;t clean their room 43:25- Brene Brown’s definition of civility 45:41- Tim Ferris interview with Cory Booker 47:27- Rehumanization 57:08 Wow Summit   Resources/Videos used on today’s show JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd talk with Danya Rosen, Executive Director of the Chicago Peer Health Exchange, an organization that empowers young people with the knowledge, skills, and resources to make healthy decisions. They train college students to teach a skill-based health curriculum (focusing on mental health, sexual education, and overall wellness) in under-resourced high schools across the country. They aim to reduce unplanned pregnancy and substance abuse by offering knowledge, support, and access to resources. The Peer Health Exchange has had a statistically significant positive effect on sexual and mental knowledge, skills, and help-seeking behavior. They are also located in the Bay Area, Boston, Los Angeles, and New York. Resources/Videos used on today’s show JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness, specifically the difference between “fitting in” and “true belonging”, and why listening and civility are our ways back to each other (this book discussion will continue next week). They also discuss a blog titled The Keeper and how it created an argument in one home, and why it’s an important discussion piece for any marriage. Todd shares a great Chicago story about how one person’s sacrifice lead to another person’s extreme act of bravery, and how we are all interconnected and modeling for each other. Show Notes/Time Stamps 1:13 Discussion of “The Trade” between Mike Kekich and Fritz Peterson where they traded families. 6:02 Braving The Wilderness discussion – by Brene Brown 23:18 Canvaspeople.com– Type “zen” for a free 11″x 14″ canvas (just pay shipping) 35:56- Team Zen 37:45 Question from a listener regarding the blog “I Am The Keeper” and her husband’s resistance to it- ideas discussed- masculine feminine, love language, emotional bank account   Resources/Videos used on today’s show JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Todd and Cathy discuss Simon Sinek’s definition of success and why momentum is the key. They talk about the best predictor of whether or not we will view our lives as successful (and it has nothing to do with money). They discuss why a man can be perceived as assertive and a woman is perceived as bossy, how the 2017 Emmy Award winners made some history, and why Oreos and seeing the movie IT are not great self-care choices for Cathy. Show Notes/Time Stamps 1:08 Reflections on Robert Waldinger’s Ted Talk- What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness 12:09 www.care.com/zen Care.com is the world’s largest digital marketplace for finding and managing family care. Find care for everyone in the family. Whether you need childcare while you’re at work or want to line up a date night sitter, Care.com is there for you. 13:17 Listener thinks Cathy demeans Todd 20:44 The strawberry incident 25:13 www.canvaspeople.com – Coupon code “zen” for a free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 26:15 Simon Sinek’s 10 rules for success 35:30 “It” Review Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZoP86TERtg&t=1896s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEAnYmpBxFw JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd discuss The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge about the millennial generation (otherwise known as iGen) and why they are different. They discuss how they were raised, how they think, and why they understand emotional risk more than physical risk. They also discuss They also discuss Brene Brown’s new release, Braving the Wilderness, and how it focuses on stepping out and speaking up, and how we can answer questions with civility rather than mistrust and disdain. They talk about how we can support our kids without being permissive, how we can teach our daughters to trust themselves, and why the Jedi know how to fight hate with light. Show Notes/Time Stamps 5:40 Todd struggles on whether or not to “support” his 14 year old in an awkward social situation. 17:22 Care.com/zen 18:04 Dad’s rules for dating his daughter 28:27 The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech 61:08 Wow Summit ’17 – Empowering moms raise happy healthy families Resources/Videos used on today’s show This dad’s ‘rules’ for dating his daughters are perfect for 2017.– by Evan Porter The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Foster Care & Adoption: Children are Waiting- Podcast #354 Wow Moms Summit Upcoming Events https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TcGKxLJ4ZGI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hibyAJOSW8U https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF2YVSoBSPg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd offer ways to practice and recognize self-compassion, and explain why our ego tends to argue against too much self-love (but why we don’t have to listen…). They discuss lovingkindness meditation, why it’s important to accept compliments, and how we can get to know ourselves like a friend. They also discuss Keyshawn Johnson’s decision to pull his son out of Nebraska football – was this decision too much or just right? They discuss their upcoming self-compassion class, their upcoming screening of Angst, and why it’s important for each of us to speak our truth. Show Notes/Time Stamps 4:06 “Angst- Breaking The Stigma Against Anxiety” Trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6jmIvebR_U&t=1s 8:44 USC long snapper Jake Olson who is blind makes his debut for the Trojans 17:00 Andy Bernard talking about the “good old days” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7qcFCTa1vw 18:40 www.kindsnacks.com/zen 20:18 Keyshawn Johnson removes his son from the University of NE 33:10 www.care.com/zen 34:15 Checklist for self-compassion 59:30 Zen Parenting Conference 63:03 Tree Of Life Chiropractic and Avid Company Resources Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection – Sharon Salzberg Loving Kindness Meditation Self-compassion class Screening of Angst  

Cathy and Todd discuss anxiety, how and why it shows up, and why it’s important topic of conversation in every home. They discuss their documentary screening of Angst: Normalizing the Conversation Around Anxiety on Monday, September 11th, 7pm, at York Theater. This movie is a perfect opportunity to open an important conversation and normalize what’s been stigmatized. It’s appropriate for kids 10+, and it’s highly recommended for all parents and teens. They share the wisdom of Michael Singer from his book The Untethered Soul, and what it means to have a “voice in our head”. They also discuss Hurricane Harvey, how to give, and why we need to stay focused on hope. Click here to get tickets to the screening of Angst at York Theater on Sept 11th. Show Notes/Time Stamps/Resources 1:20 Hurricane Harvey discussion 6:40 Text 909-99 “Harvey” To give $10.00 for aid to the victims of Hurricane Harvey 9:15 Hope- Andy Dufraine YouTube clip 9:53 Screening of Angst @ York Theater on September 11th. Tickets 26:22 Kind Snacks- 10 bars free by going to www.kindsnacks.com/zen 27:29 Helping children deal with anxiety 30:44 Trailer of Angst documentary 37:06 Clip from Michael Singer/Oprah Winfrey interview 47:22 Partner’s Corner- ‘Nspired– ZPR’s Website creator, Tree of Life Chiropractic Care, Avid Painting & Remodeling

Todd and Cathy reveal their three speakers for the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference, and explain why each of them is a force for good. They discuss candor, wisdom, kindness, and responsibility, and offer new resources that will help each of us live with greater clarity and intention. They answer a listener questions, and also discuss their NEW+IMPROVED website! Go to zenpopparenting.com to find all the podcasts, events, books, and resources that you’ve been asking for – all in one place! And get your early-bird 2018 Zen Parenting Conference tickets, a spot in Cathy’s How to Be Brave pre-conference workshop, and become a Zen Friend to support our conference scholarship program. Time stamps for the show… 4:20 Announcement of Cheryl Strayed @ ZPR Conference 8:37 Oprah/Cheryl interview clip 13:52 care.com/zen shout out 15:20 Announcement of Orly Wahba @ ZPR Conference 22:22 Orly Wahba Ted Talk clip 30:42 kindsnack.com/zen shout out 32:41 Announcement of Mike Domitrz @ ZPR Conference 36:19 Mike Domitrz interview clip 46:50 Question from listener whose dad comes to stay for 6 weeks during summer Resources discussed on today’s show Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 TED Talk – Kindness – Orly Wahba Why Cheryl Strayed Says Being Alone Can Be Empowering | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss fear-based thinking, what happened in Charlottesville, and how an abundance mindset can shift the way we relate to each other. They answer listener questions about a husband who doesn’t understand the challenges of busy motherhood, and how to manage, and hopefully reduce, an anxious home environment. Todd talks about his trip to New England with his daughter, and explains why this experience led to more authentic communication and connection. Time stamps for the show… 1:30 Discussion on Charlottesville 15:56 Todd discusses his experience of travelling with his 14 year old for aweek. 25:54 – question from a mom whose husband “doesn’t get it” 41:20 question- reducing anxiety in the household Resources discussed on today’s show https://zenpopparenting.com/shulte/ 11 mistakes I have made as a husband (and why I’m better for it) 10 Mistakes I Made as a Wife (And Why I’m Better For it) 158 Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss Caroline Adams Miller’s book Getting Grit, about what grit really means, and why we need to be thoughtful about the kind of grit we are using and promoting. They share some clips from her interview with Jonathan Field’s on The Good Life Project, and explain why self-awareness, compassion, and connection are essential in becoming a force for good. They also discuss the challenges with participation trophies or awards and offer new insight into why these are only a symptom rather than the problem. They discuss why giving our kids space to find their own grit is essential, and why humility, community, and confidence are essential in keeping our goals healthy and manageable. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss what a hell yes feels like, and why saying no is so important. They share an interview with Oprah on the Dear Sugar podcast where she explains how she learned to say no, and why a no can be the best decision for all involved. They also share why letting go can be just as important as holding on, and what it really means to be impeccable with your word. They discuss the proposed military transgender ban, and why proximity to people different than us will decrease fear, increase compassion, and create unity. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss why humans are like porcupines, and why it’s important to stay open and use “relational ethics”, when communicating with our loved ones. They discuss Andy Murray’s subtle equality comment after Wimbledon, they share a quote about compassion from Pema Chodron, and explain what Tim Ferriss means when he says, “Hard Choices/Easy Life”. They also discuss a bill that could affect teens who are caught sexting – teen expert Rosalind Wiseman explains, “We understand why adults don’t want young people sending these kinds of pictures but it’s dangerous and unethical for lawmakers to write and pass laws that can’t tell the difference between a sexual predator and a young person who is going through adolescence.” Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss how to have honest communication with friends and why it can be helpful to be “called out” by the people we love. They also discuss why our understanding of healing is oversimplified, and how it’s a daily action rather than a destination. They share a quote from Brad Pitt about toxic masculinity, explain the difference between shame and guilt, and discuss how marriage is handled on Friday Night Lights. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss how to embrace a challenging past by accepting it as a given rather than viewing it as a “gift” (which can sometimes feel inauthentic). This concept is taken from Sharon Salzberg’s book, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection, and it allows us to acknowledge our experience and move forward as a force for good. They also discuss how kids can be sensitive to clothing and why it’s important to find ways to keep them comfortable. They share why joy+sadness are a team, why trying to defend our emotional state can cause conflict, and explain why The Soupdragons I’m Free is Todd’s empowerment song. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd share a quote from Gutsy Girl author Caroline Paul about how we can use “micro-bravery” to handle our fear. They discuss why bravery can mean different things to men and women, and why it’s hard to differentiate between fear, excitement, and other strong feelings. They talk about ball players who get the “yips”, the movie Get Out, and explain why The Babadook represents repressed grief and anger. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss gender inequality and why Todd gets frustrated talking to men about this issue. They discuss why it’s difficult to understand inequality, how we can be better listeners, and why the impact can negatively affect women and men. They reference an article from the New York Times titled Talking to Boys the Way We Talk to Girls by Andrew Reiner and discuss how we can make changes in our own home that will impact the world. They answer a listener question about a challenging four-year-old, talk about their vacation and the Backstreet Boys, and share some movie clips. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss Mary Oliver’s poem Wild Geese, specifically this line – you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. They discuss that the things we love may not be cool or trendy, but sometimes embracing this uncoolness is the first step toward creating a more joyful home. They discuss Hamilton, the Backstreet Boys, and the most important scene from Revenge of the Nerds. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss how money contributes to happiness and how our relationship with money affects our feelings of success. They reference an episode of The Good Life Project called The Truth About Money and Happiness and discuss documentaries such as Happy, Born Rich, and the 1%. They also discuss how to talk with our girls about body image and why it’s important to find a new and true definition of beauty. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy’s dad recently passed away so Cathy and Todd share how he lived and what he taught them. Most importantly why culture literacy leads to a bigger heart and mind, why willingness is the key to a deep and meaningful life, and why we are all simply “walking each other home”. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss how to approach who’s busier in a partnership, and how to talk to a friend who thinks she’s busier than you. They discuss why “turning toward” is the key to a long-lasting marriage, and share some tips from author and relationship expert Esther Perel. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss why “figuring out” our partner will cause frustration, but why staying present with every new experience will create intimacy. They use a post from fellow coach Jayson Gaddis They discuss why it’s important to ride the waves with your partner rather than trying to control their emotional expression, and why unpredictability can be just as connecting as predictability. They share a recent miscommunication, explain why labeling family members is detrimental, and practice saying toy boat really fast without messing up. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss why freeing ourselves from needing to be right can shift the dynamics of a conversation, and ultimately, a relationship. They share a clip of Glenn Beck from the On Being Podcast where he explains why using fear divides, and why it’s time to come together and listen. They also share an interview from Tim Ferriss’ podcast about why treating all people with dignity is essential, and why we want all people to be just like us. This episode will free your mind (and as En Vogue says), and the rest will follow… Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd talk with Jodi Bondi Norgaard, founder of Dream Big Toy Company and the creator of the award-winning Go! Go! Sports Girls line of dolls and books for girls encouraging healthy and active play over fashion and body image. Jodi is a keynote speaker, entrepreneur, activist, consultant, and founding member of The Brave Girl Alliance, a think tank of girl empowerment experts. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss why teens and adults need buttons (or release valves) to manage their anxiety. They may rarely (if ever) use supports that are offered, but just knowing they are there decreases feelings of anxiousness. They talk about what it means to be “busy” and why busyness requires a sense of self-awareness and personal responsibility. They share a story about Canadians helping out with the National Anthem, play some of Kristin Wiig’s best SNL characters, and explain why allowing someone else to explain something can feel freeing and empowering. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy talk about how we can “comfortably hold our paradoxes”, and use examples from Danielle LaPorte to explain why this acceptance leads to wisdom. They discuss how to share information about your kids without feeling like you’re listing a resume, why allowing kids to share their viewpoint results in less and anger and more connection, and why 13 Reasons Why has become the most talked about show for teens. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy talk with Charlie Rogers, 17, about what it means to be a vegan and a steward of the environment. They talk climate change, carbon footprints, minimalism, education, and why it’s important to make choices that align with our souls – in our teens, and as parents. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. They discuss why the past shows up in love relationships, the challenges of hookup culture, and how to listen with the “third ear”. They also discuss why self-awareness is essential, and why offering compassion to yourself and your partner are keys to connection. If you are in a marriage or partnership, or if you are interested in having a healthy partnership, this is a must-listen episode. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s important to speak up in a relationship instead of “kick the can down the road”. They discuss why intimacy is created when a couple is willing to communicate about what matters, and how both sexes have been conditioned to not share their true feelings. They talk about internalized misogyny, why our beliefs and actions are not always congruent, and share a clip from Gone Girl about the myth of the “cool girl”. Todd shares some “quick takes”, they play a movie game, and they sing songs by Pat Benatar and Run DMC. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss internal vs external peace, and why internal peace is the key to contentment. They talk about “good enough parenting” and share why Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, believes that being good enough, is good enough. They offer an opportunity to join their monthly Zen Talks, explain their 10,000 campaign goal, and talk more about being a force for good and focusing on what matters. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to ride the waves of life, and why support can make our experiences more bearable. They talk about the Making Oprah podcast and why Oprah made Chicago and our lives so meaningful. They explain what E+R=O means, how we can all be forces for good, and why it’s necessary to update and expand our gratitude practice. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” and explain why Teen Vogue and Rookie Magazine offer smart and timely journalism for teens. They discuss why regret is “unskillful”, share perspective from This American Life and 10% Happier with Dan Harris, and play movie quotes that start with B. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss the importance of balancing studentship and maintaining your own perspective. Teachers are necessary and helpful in guiding us through life, but it’s also important to ground ourselves in our own identity. They also discuss why it’s vital to focus on women’s equality and awareness around women’s rights (or lack of rights). Gender equality for men is just as vital, but they emphasize bringing attention to the disparity. They answer a listener question about managing the tantrum of his son, they discuss Pear Jam’s Elderly woman behind the counter in a small town, and Todd shares some of his favorite movie quotes. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.