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Todd and Cathy continue discussing Julie Lythcott-Haims’ book, How to Raise an Adult, specifically focusing on what our kids should know before they venture out on their own. They share a clip from Luvvie Ajayi’s TED Talk about the importance of speaking up, even when it’s uncomfortable, and why “keeping the peace” can keep us stuck in time. Todd shares a clip from a highly emotionally-intelligent father who understands how to reach his daughter, even while she’s under duress. Time Stamps 5:09 What if we taught all kids emotional intelligence? 15:35 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for the month of May 17:35 Luvvie Ajayi- Speaking Our Truth 29:50 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 30:06 How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims 30:56Coping with the ups and downs 40:43 Earn and manage money 48:18 Take Risks Resources/Videos used on today’s show What if we taught all kids emotional intelligence? She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you) Teenage Wisdom Podcast #420 Luvvie Ajayi- Speaking Our Truth The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom: Practical and Spiritual Steps So You Can Stop Worrying https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss a practical checklist of what kids need before they go to college written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult. The checklist offers intention and clarity, and recognizes that skills develop over time in a child-developmentally appropriate way. They also discuss why Todd wanted to play Cashflow for his birthday, and why financial awareness is necessary education for our kids. Time Stamps 1:10 Cashflow Board Game experience 7:04 Famzoo shoutout 7:33 Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for the month of May 9:52 Zen Store 10:35 How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims 18:36 Must be able to talk to strangers 27:32 Must be able to find their way around… 39:39 Must be able to manage their assignments, workloads, and deadlines 49:04 Must be able to handle interpersonal problems 54:51 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Race To Nowhere The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss the Super Soul Podcast conversation between Amy Schumer and Oprah about her new movie, I Feel Pretty. They talk about trusting your intention, why emotional labor is vital to the health of the family, and why accepting yourself leads to real confidence and a deeper connection with others. Free Month of Team Zen- All you have to do is enter the coupon code “May” to receive the discount. Time Stamps 2:44 Team Zen “May” Special- Enter “May” upon checkout to try out Team Zen for the month of May 4:55 The Well Northshore presents Dr. Therese Rowley- “The Unconventional Genius of Today’s Youth” 8:05 Intro to the Oprah/Amy interview 10:13 Trust your intention 24:45 Emotional labor 31:45 Amy being abused – what it’s really like 44:22 Loving yourself for who you are 49:45 Mom Translator 56:27 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/mom-translator/n12500 Happily Conference The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss the emotional challenges of American men and why this impacts every part of our society. Their guests, Frank Naugo and Shaun Emerson, discuss why men struggle with intimacy, vulnerability, and friendship, and why anger or numbness can become a default setting. They share clips from the Hidden Brain podcast titled How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men, and discuss how we can redefine what it means to be a man. Time Stamps 33:41 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 1:10:37 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:17:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show The Hidden Brain- The Lonely American Man- March 19th, 2018 The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching Mankind Project Good Men Project The Mask You Live In https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss “moral outrage” and how to use it to create positive change. They explain how society tends to value a clean and concise way of thinking, but how thinking out of the box or seeing the bigger picture can lead to greater compassion and connection. They discuss how to support a child who doesn’t want to share, why spaghetti thinking is as important as waffle thinking, and why wide open spaces are helpful. Time Stamps 5:32 Women, wine and wellness @ Tree of Life Chiropractic care 5:45 Moral outrage by Joan Halifax 11:17 Stepping into the discomfort when your child is sad 22:41 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 24:49 Thinking differently 41:46 Daniel Murphy paternity example 53:33 Four male archetypes discussion     1:00:15 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:08:20 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show Mindfulness, Waffles, & Road Rage Paternity Leave or Play Ball! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy welcome their friends John and Julie Duffy, hosts of the Better Podcast (formerly titled Undue Anxiety). They talk about Tony Robbins, the #MeToo movement, and why listening and respecting others is essential for real change. They discuss couplehood, family dynamics, and how we can live in joy but always leave room for the dark. Time Stamps 1:12 Introduction of the “Better” podcast 4:58 Discussion of Tony Robbins video 19:13 #Men’s take on #Metoo 20:49 Imbalance of power 27:19 Family dynamics and exceptions to the rule 29:58 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 31:00 Are women stronger? 34:15 How #metoo impacts relationships 1:00:15 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:04:10 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=74YILhy4RgE   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss how to recognize when we are showing up authentically rather than performing. They also discuss how to deal with a child who seems consistently disappointed, and why taking responsibility for our own behavior is key. Todd shares a clip about investing from Freakonomics, Cathy discusses the joy of Funko characters, and they offer some wisdom from Tommy Boy. Time Stamps :58 Cathy finds a new way of explaining something old 3:35 Tommy Boy talk 4:00 Quick take on investing- passive and active investing- played a clip from Freakonomics- The Stupidest Thing You Can Do With Your Money 11:25 Tommy Boy clip 12:36 Discussion on Funko 16:00 Jonathan Fields lesson of less show, more soul 25:34 Question from listener- My 7 year old is having hard time with disappointment from high expectations 41:32 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 42:48 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 43:55 When our children are disappointed 48:02- Tools to cultivate mindfulness after the awareness 57:54 Guys, looking for a coach? www.toddadamscoaching.com 58:32 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 1:02:29 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://freakonomics.com/podcast/stupidest-thing-can-money-rebroadcast/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1EyN9xTK94 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd & Cathy Discuss the 4 different types of fears as described by Iyanla Vanzandt, Dierk’s Bentley, Bruce Willis’ wine cooler commercial, Eddie Murphy’s single “Party All The Time”, and how we’ve all already done the hardest thing we will ever do. Time Stamps 1:00 Movie quotes quiz & other random stuff 4:40 Dierks Bentley tribute 9:04 Four primal fears by Iyanla Van Sandt 10:20 Fear of losing someone’s love or fear of being rejected 20:55 Fear of being powerless or helpless (fear of being unsafe) 26:55 To see if you qualify and get your free quote today www.healthiq.com/zen 28:12 Fear of losing control 39:22 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 41:19 Fear of not being seen as valuable, worthy, or necessary 44:15 Tying all four fears together 57:10 Guys, looking for a coach? www.toddadamscoaching.com 58:00 Looking for a like-minded community? Check out Team Zen 59:05 Paining or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. 59:20 Looking for a chiropractor? Check out Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care   Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd shares a story of a softball coach who proclaims “boys are stronger than girls” and what happened after that statement was made. They also discuss why focusing on too many things makes us feel overwhelmed and paralyzed, and why choosing one thing helps us take action and create real change (they share examples from MOMS Demand Action and from A Wrinkle in Time). They share how they created their women’s circle/men’s group, why we should speak up for others, and they play a new song by Lin-Manuel Miranda and Ben Platt called Found/Tonight (some proceeds go toward the March For Our Lives). Time Stamps 7:28 “Boys are stronger than girls” story 19:50 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 20:44 Focusing on too many things is detrimental 45:32 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 46:17 How to create a women’s circle and men’s group 1:02:00 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people. Time Stamps 2:52 Missing the window of time to do household stuff 9:48 How Do I Get My Partner To…. 32:24 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 33:44 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen Ancient wisdom from a young girl 50:48 Advice from Oprah to young women via Good Morning America 58:08 Taylor Swift makes Cathy cry 1:10:49 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YsvQ7SsEFdQ&t=97s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss Cheryl Strayed, MILCK, Mike Domitrz and all the goodness from the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss the most frequently asked question ZPR question, the Oscars, and how we can all become forces for good. Time Stamps 3:42 Moms Demand Action Inaugural Meeting on March 21st 7:00 PM @ Bethel Church 315 E. St. Charles in Elmhurst, IL 4:34 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 5:21 Cheryl Strayed 11:27 tangent time- When your partner is not on the same path 16:56 Back to Cheryl Strayed 24:18 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 25:08 Milck 36:50 www.Care.com/zen for 30% off your premium membership 37:44 Mike Domitrz 48:35 Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference 51:30 Oscars talk 57:07 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling 25:00 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events Early Bird deal for 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events Current MonthNo Events

Todd and Cathy discuss The Gentle Warrior’s Manifesto to Reduce Busyness from Courtney Carver’s book, Soulful Simplicity, and they discuss a Freakonomic’s podcast titled After the Glass Ceiling, A Glass Cliff, about why only 5% of Fortune 500 companies are run by women. They share why men and women eat Doritos differently, why we need to linger longer, and why Cathy loves Lionel Richie. Time Stamps 2:52 Discussion of After the Glass Ceiling, a Glass Cliff 5:20 Are women more likely to get a CEO job when the firm is in trouble? 9:12 A hypothesis of why this happens (the mother complex) 14:22 Do men and women eat Doritos differently? 23:59 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 25:00 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 27:10 Lionel Richie discussion 31:59 Gentle Warrior’s manifesto to End Busyness I will not say yes when my heart says no. I will measure more by what’s in my heart and less by what’s crossed off my list. I will prioritize love and health. I will ask for help. I will work with people who want my best, not my busiest. I will ask better questions so we don’t have to talk about how busy we are. I will not let my phone run my life. I will trade my FOMO for JOMO. I will create space for solitude. I will linger longer. Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show http://freakonomics.com/podcast/glass-cliff/ https://bemorewithless.com/manifesto/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy discuss the Parkland tragedy, and talk about why it’s time to take action to keep our kids safe at school. They explain how we can take on all pieces of the puzzle – common sense laws, mental wellness, and community/parent/school support – rather than fight about which one matters the most. They also discuss Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Brainstorm, and process how the teenage brain works and why it’s necessary for teenagers to take risks. Time Stamps 5:28 Parkland FL Shooting Discussion 8:26 Todd’s seeing the school shootings through children’s eyes 26:08 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 27:07 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 28:16 Dan Siegel’s talk“Brainstorm- The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain Risk Taking behavior Hyper-rational thinking Why we’re jealous of our kids 40:48 Teenagers “vomit” on their parents 53:52 Byron Katie’s “The Work” Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://everytown.org/ https://momsdemandaction.org/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kH-BO1rJXbQ&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing. Time Stamps 1:53 Quick Takes Never too late- Famous people who started their careers later than normal. 14:20 Zen Parenting Conference Partner – Young Living Essential Oils Nicole Whitlow [email protected] 15:45 Robcast Seatbelts & Snowflakes 32:00 Cathy’s story of shame spirals and discussion of emotions 41:02 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 42:17 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 48:57 Listen To Slowing Down 1:10:12 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show Can Youth Sports Be Fun AND Competitive? John O’Sullivan Says Yes.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy share some of the touching and funny Superbowl commercials, and they discuss a video of Will Smith explaining why fault and responsibility are two different things. Cathy shares some of her favorite self-compassion quotes, and they discuss why some quotes wake us up or resonate so strongly. Todd discusses his gullibility, he defends Taylor Swift, and he shares an aha from our Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker Mike Domitrz. Time Stamps :58 Todd defends Taylor Swift @ the expense of Quincy Jones/Gerry O’Keefe 5:05 Highlights of all Superbowl ads 14:46 25 days until the Zen Parenting Conference 23:31 Self love quotes that connects with Cathy 29:37 Todd shares the cost of his gullibility 33:10 Will Smith fault vs responsibility 38:44Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 39:50 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today healthiq.com/zen 42:48 Quote- Dear self- Today and the rest of my days…. 53:10 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCnawupUZOE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEePYLF9Uzs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of bravery and strength. They discuss what it means to be a strength-based parent and play a clip from Lea Waters, author of The Strength Switch. Todd plays a clip from the TED Talk podcast about how people with less money actually give more to those in need, and how exposure and empathy are the keys to greater giving. Time Stamps 1:54 Cathy’s awareness through her illness 14:40 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today 15:43 Todd’s advice to taking care of sick family members 31:05 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box 32:39 Lessons from Lea Waters & Strength Based Parenting via The Good Life Project 43:48 Hello Fresh Partnership- enter coupon code “zen” for $30 off your first week 45:01 Lessons from Paul Piff: Does Money Make You Mean? via the Ted Radio Hour 57:16 Good News Via The GoodNews Paper– enter “zen” for 15% off 59:11 Conference Partner Threads Worldwide 1:01 .01 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss the challenges of healing and why honesty and support are essential. They talk about how each of us are challenged to do hard things, and how not doing our own work leads to projection. They discuss how to talk to your kids about difficult topics like sex, and how living a “healthy life” means something different to everyone depending on their circumstances. Time Stamps 1:45 Conference keynote and performer Milck 3:23 Lessons from Cathy’s illness 6:00 Enthusastic Parker (Alec Baldwin from Friends) 24:19 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box 25:23 Question about how to talk to your kids about sex (need some book recommendations) 33:52 Quote from the Dalai Lama “Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” -The Dalai Lama 38:29 Sam Berns My philosophy for a happy life 47:26 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today 1:01:07 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tl_Qfj8780M https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xFrBfeKJoo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd+Cathy discuss Cathy’s recovery of the flu as well as an inspirational exchange between Sarah Silverman and one of her followers. Time Stamps 0:30 Cathy’s flu discussion   12:48 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box 13:44 HealthIQ Life Insurance– To see if you qualify and get your free quote today 20:03 Sarah Silverman exchange 28:13 Tree Of Life Chiropractic Care & Avid Painting & Remodeling Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Yup- Cathy has the flu 🙁 We’re gonna shoot for another one at the end of the week. if not, next Tuesday for sure. Sorry for the inconvenience. Keep truckin’ Todd https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd+Cathy discuss how to “let go” and “bring in” for the new year, and how to wake up to our lives in 2018. They discuss how Steve Bartman and Bill Buckner became the scapegoats for their perspective cities pain, and how we tend to project all blame on one person or event in our own lives. They explain why the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment work well together, and why humor is essential in the midst of challenges. Time Stamps 4:30 New Year’s comments 8:49 Steve Bartman, Bill Buckner 17:40 1+1=3 18:23 Mirror neurons 22:16 Care.com- go to www.care.com/zen to receive 30% off of premium membership 23:10 Soulful simplicity 26:20 Wake-up call & how to know when you’re “asleep” If your life is on autopilot If you never put yourself first If you’ve become you don’t recognize to please other people Do you chase some version of success that doesn’t resonate with you If you’re constantly self-medicating with food, shopping, alcohol, tv, phone, social networking, gaming, If you’re worn down, beat up stressed out and completely depleted. 41:22 Science of achievement vs the art of fulfillment 52:30 Clip of Kylo Ren as “Matt” form Saturday Night Live 55:39 Cheryl strayed clip 56:40 Macgill First Aid Kit www.macgillfirstaidkit.com Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaOSCASqLsE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQHmyBVcUl8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite things from 2017, and share why faith played a big role this year. They answer some questions posed in the Tim Ferriss book, Tribe of Mentors, reflect on growing up in the 80’s and 90’s, and share why they are hopeful for 2018. Time Stamps 0:00 Intro- reflection on 70’s and 80’s 4:52 Sick kids 6:45 Our 3 favorite things of 2017 36.12 Canvas People enter “zen” to reduce the price of an 11″ x 14″ canvas down to $0.00 51:17 Conference Partner HGNA Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy talk about how meaning relates to happiness and joy, and how this knowledge can make our holidays less stressful and our parenting more conscious. They also discuss the benefits of Forest Bathing and share why trees can be our best teachers. They discuss the benefits of being cold, the zen-ness of their rabbit, and the need for more optimistic TV shows and movies. Time Stamps 2:05 Forest Bath discussion 12:17 Without Your Permission 18:54 Meaning 26:00 Cathy’s tree conversation 28:17 Smokey the rabbit is a good meditator 38:38 Canvas People enter “zen” to reduce the price of an 11″ x 14″ canvas down to $0.00 40:10 Intelligence vs happiness 49:14 the benefits of being cold 53:45 Milck 56:10 Conference Partner http://www.lauralreagan.com/   Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pEcvteQo9g https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy talk with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Date Safe Project and 2018 Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker. They discuss they #metoo movement and what comes next – how does this change our behavior? How will this impact our relationships and society overall? How can it influence our parenting? Mike offers his expertise and support as we all navigate this ever-changing and uncertain time.   Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLg1k4I9fqk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Cathy and Todd share how we can take care of ourselves and say no during the holidays without feeling guilt. They discuss Shauna Niequist’s book Present Over Perfect and why our decision to be good to ourselves allows us to be more present for the ones we love. They also discuss why discomfort and confusion during this time of #metoo is normal and necessary for change, and how we can be more thoughtful and self-aware about our choices. It’s awards season again! Cathy shares the Golden Globe Best Picture nominees. Time Stamps 2:55 Question from listener regarding husband’s worry about being unfairly scrutinized in today’s #metoo culture 12:15 Clip of our interview with Mike Domitrz regarding Charlie Rose and Matt Lauer 22:18 RX Bar 25% off your first order 23:01 Canvas People enter “zen” to reduce the price of an 11″ x 14″ canvas down to $0.00 24:00 Holiday balance 28:12 Lines from Psych 39:32 Awards season 47:38 Good News 49:32 Logic – 1-800-273-8255 Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMXQOp1FmZI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIjGDa_YFYA   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy discuss how inequality can lead to challenging and often unconscious communication, and they share some civil statements that women can use to feel heard. They discuss common unconscious double standards in private life and the workplace, and explain why the skit “Welcome to Hell” from Saturday Night Live was so thought-provoking. They share a moment from A Very Brady Christmas, some wisdom from Zen Parenting Conference keynote Mike Domitrz from The Date Safe Project, and a powerful speech from actor Jeff Daniels. Time Stamps 2:55 Jeff Daniels discussion 10:00 Promo of Mike Domitzr 12:10 A Very Brady Bunch Christmas 14:42 Hamilton review 17:27 #Metoo Discussion 19:57 Saturday Night Live Clip- Hell is real 37:29 Canvas People 39:30 John Duffy story of double standard 43:13 Big Little Lies Discussion 44:48 Eight Statements for Women to Practice You interrupted me. No. That isn’t funny That isn’t appropriate I already know that That won’t be necessary Leave me alone You’re making me uncomfortable Stop ignoring what I’m saying 58:55 Threads worldwide Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPHSXUS0_1c https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_FVh4Q5Su6s&t=12s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwlBxYyjrqM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1l26UFQ06eQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZMA_LiYOW0

Todd and Cathy discuss how they experience the world differently, and why understanding and respecting these differences lead to better communication. They talk about why connection is like nourishment, and why not connecting can make us feel uncomfortable mentally and physically. They discuss Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies and share which tendency describes their underlying motivation. They talk about the movie Wonder, owning our stuff, and why sexual assault allegations are uncovering a deeply-embedded systemic issue. Time Stamps 0:35 Owning our stuff/radical responsibility 7:55- The way cathy watched football/ sees the world 19:52 RX Bar 25% off your first order 20:51 Connection- tough family/work environment 23:35 Differences between Todd & Cathy feelings 24:42 Gretchen Rubin – 4 different personality types 29:43 Wonder Review 35:20 Canvas People Enter “zen” for a free 11″ 14″ canvas 36:15 Michael Vick bankruptcy 41:45 NPR Politics 50:10 Conference Partners- Ali Folz & Rick Morrison Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Todd and Cathy discuss Jessica Lahey’s The Gift of Failure, and discuss why allowing our kids to make mistakes will help them succeed. They also discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, why rewards and punishment don’t work, and why praising our kids for effort rather than outcome will lead to greater success and a healthier sense of self. They play a clip of a Hillary Clinton interview on the Dear Sugar podcast, a commercial about failure from Michael Jordan, and discuss Carol Dweck’s book Mindset. Time Stamps 1:50 Dear Sugar clip with Cheryl Strayed with Hillary Clinton 8:52 Discussion on The Gift Of Failure 24:00 Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation 25:00 Rewards 32:50 Are your kids average? 35:22 Modeling 40:27 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 41:23 Mindset- fixed or growth? 56:21 Michael Jordan Nike commercial 57:30 Habits of the “controlling” parents 60:30 Good News Stories 62:44 Our amazing partner for the ZPR Conference David Serrano – Call 815-370-3780 Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPFOlXo7UPI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Invitations, a book that shows us how to wake up fully to our lives. As a compassionate teacher and cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, author Frank Ostaseski supports the dying. His five invitations dive into the suffering, joy, and inevitability of death, and why embracing this wisdom will lead to a more mindful and compassionate life. Cathy and Todd use clips from Dead Poets Society and Star Wars to highlight his points, and discuss why this book empowered them to live with greater intention and meaning. Time Stamps 1:40 Introduction to The Five Invitations 10:44 Invitation #1 Don’t Wait 16:22 Dead Poets Society Clip 24:06 Invitation #2 Welcome Everything and Push Away Nothing 34:15 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 35:29 Star Wars Clip (Obi-Won and Darth Vader) regarding death 41:33 Invitation #3 Bring Your Whole Self To The experience 47:05 Invitation #4 Find A Place Of Rest In The Middle Of Things 53:49 Invitation # 5 Cultivate A Don’t Know Mind 57:15 Our amazing partner for the ZPR Conference Trinity Family Law Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sml6Z0TMx1k&t=704s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4F-xWjOeUc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVBX7l2zgRw   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Todd and Cathy discuss an article in Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” about emotional labor and the sensitivity surrounding this topic. They discuss how to have a productive conversation about what it really takes to manage a house, and why it’s not always true that men are “problem solvers” and women are “sensitive”. They discuss how they are challenged with this issue, how it’s easy to go on autopilot, and why this is an ongoing discussion and not a one-time conversation. They explain how this relates to gender issues overall and what we are all currently modeling for both our daughters and sons. If you find this discussion interesting, join Cathy+Todd for a one-time virtual class about civility and compassion (in the home and for the holidays), and why the way we talk to our loved ones extends into the world. Click here to register. Time Stamps :24- Discussion of the article- Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” 3:43 Discussion of the article Why do women get all attractive if they don’t want to be harassed? 11:29 The Break Up Scene & discussion 35:17 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 46:22 The Break Up Scene II & discussion Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKKyxmf_BR8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s OK for kids to change their minds and try new things, and why it’s important for adults to do this, too. They discuss how self-awareness is essential, and how self-forgiveness and understanding are also essential because we will always be a mystery (the great paradox!). They discuss the offensive gesture during the world series, how they managed their daughter’s crying episode, Byron Katie’s “The Work”, cranial sacral holds, and some humor from Anchorman. Time Stamps 0:00 Milck Announcement https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCnexOFOxCo 4:30 Civil & Compassionate Communication Over The Holidays 7:10 Screening of The Mask You Live In Registration is here. Trailer is here. 8:55 Taco town snl https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q312yavJw2w 11:55 Yu darvish response to racially insensitive gesture. 16:08 Rx bar- Go to www.rxbar.com/zen and enter “zen” for 25% off upon checkout 18:20 Self-awareness paradox discussion. 26:25 Find the good in grief 28:00 Daughter melted down in the car and how to deal with it. 30:25 Anchor Man Scene (In a glass case of emotion) 32:52 Cranial sacral holds 39:20 Byron Katie “The Work” discussion 42:03 Canvas People Enter “Zen” for a free 11” X 14” canvas 42:50 It’s ok to quit (or let it go) 52:34 Never give up & always let go 56:54 The benefits of looking up at the stars 61:14 Trinity Family Law (Sponsor of Zen Parenting Conference) Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5fmHCNfowbQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q312yavJw2w https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCnexOFOxCo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd talk with Roksanna Taghizadeh, an immigrant who grew up in Iran, became a refugee in Germany, and eventually made it to the United States where she became an structural engineer. She shares her immigration story, explains what it’s like to live in a refugee camp, and shares why the current political environment has been surprising and emotionally challenging. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s OK to be uncomfortable, and why focusing on what works and what we are grateful creates the foundation to deal with discomfort. They reference the Good Newspaper, and explain why good news can help us speak out about the uncomfortable news. Todd shares some wisdom from Simon Sinek about why cell phones shouldn’t be the classroom or the boardroom, and why will power sometimes isn’t enough. They discuss if it’s safe for Todd to drive with his knee, why we shouldn’t answer the phone in a movie theater, and a wise observation from Martin Luther King. Show Notes/Time Stamps 3:55 Comprehensive Clinical Services– Silver sponsorship for the Zen Parenting Conference 4:45 Getting uncomfortable with #Metoo(www.goodgoodgood.co) 16:20 Headlines of The Good News Paper 23:45 Canvas people (enter “zen” for a free 11″ X 14″ canvas) 27:20 Simon Sinek discussion on cell phones Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xj7YPOd0-ok https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss the power of #metoo (a hashtag for anyone who has been sexually harassed or assaulted) and why sharing stories and listening to each other paves the way for change. They also talk about the power of words and why inclusive language is not just about being politically correct, it’s about growth and understanding. They discuss software that allows parents to see how their children are doing throughout the school day, why children hold in painful secrets, and why Cathy won’t share her water bottle. Show Notes/Time Stamps 1:06 Cathy story about kids withholding 7:45 Auto insurance for our teenage children 10:40 Boyscouts of America announcements regarding girls 12:58 Cathy’s floaties problem 15:09 #Metoo 27:35 Hello Fresh Partnership Type in “zen30” for $30.00 off your first delivery 28:58 Todd’s “I’m glad I’m not a girl” story 41:08 Difference between husband/wife vs “friend” 45:50 Canvas People Enter “zen” to receive an 11″ x 14″ canvas to get your free canvas 47:45 “Class Dojo” discussion 54:32 Good Newspaper Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

On their 400th episode, Cathy and Todd discuss why they started Zen Parenting, how it’s changed, and why equality, compassion, and connection motivate them to keep going. They share their favorite Tom Petty songs, discuss why difficult conversations are essential, and explain how if we work together, we will soar. Show Notes/Time Stamps 2:50 Todd’s basketball story 9:16 Todd’s public service announcement regarding Equifax 11:40 Emerging Women Conference- Masculine/Feminine equality discussion 34:00 Cam Newton Discussion 49:26 Canvas People Use coupon code “Zen” for your free 11″x 14″ canvas 53:15 The evolution of Zen Parenting Radio 1:09.35 Tournament of bad 1:10.49 Tournament of bad II Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0zVvfzn1AY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE  

Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of civility when we have different opinions or viewpoints, and offer some definitions and research from Brenè Browns book, Braving the Wilderness. They also discuss the Las Vegas tragedy – how we can make the unbearable bearable, and how we can give of ourselves to help others. They share who resides in their “brain trust”, offer some wisdom from Cory Booker, and discuss why we have dehumanized in the past and why rehumanization is essential for the future. Show Notes/Time Stamps 10:15- Belonging/Fitting In 11:58- Health hazards of lonliness 15:00- Todd’s brain trust 20:24- Cathy’s brain trust 29:24- www.CanvasPeople.com 30:42- Civility 39:23- Dealing with a kid who won;t clean their room 43:25- Brene Brown’s definition of civility 45:41- Tim Ferris interview with Cory Booker 47:27- Rehumanization 57:08 Wow Summit   Resources/Videos used on today’s show JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd talk with Danya Rosen, Executive Director of the Chicago Peer Health Exchange, an organization that empowers young people with the knowledge, skills, and resources to make healthy decisions. They train college students to teach a skill-based health curriculum (focusing on mental health, sexual education, and overall wellness) in under-resourced high schools across the country. They aim to reduce unplanned pregnancy and substance abuse by offering knowledge, support, and access to resources. The Peer Health Exchange has had a statistically significant positive effect on sexual and mental knowledge, skills, and help-seeking behavior. They are also located in the Bay Area, Boston, Los Angeles, and New York. Resources/Videos used on today’s show JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness, specifically the difference between “fitting in” and “true belonging”, and why listening and civility are our ways back to each other (this book discussion will continue next week). They also discuss a blog titled The Keeper and how it created an argument in one home, and why it’s an important discussion piece for any marriage. Todd shares a great Chicago story about how one person’s sacrifice lead to another person’s extreme act of bravery, and how we are all interconnected and modeling for each other. Show Notes/Time Stamps 1:13 Discussion of “The Trade” between Mike Kekich and Fritz Peterson where they traded families. 6:02 Braving The Wilderness discussion – by Brene Brown 23:18 Canvaspeople.com– Type “zen” for a free 11″x 14″ canvas (just pay shipping) 35:56- Team Zen 37:45 Question from a listener regarding the blog “I Am The Keeper” and her husband’s resistance to it- ideas discussed- masculine feminine, love language, emotional bank account   Resources/Videos used on today’s show JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Todd and Cathy discuss Simon Sinek’s definition of success and why momentum is the key. They talk about the best predictor of whether or not we will view our lives as successful (and it has nothing to do with money). They discuss why a man can be perceived as assertive and a woman is perceived as bossy, how the 2017 Emmy Award winners made some history, and why Oreos and seeing the movie IT are not great self-care choices for Cathy. Show Notes/Time Stamps 1:08 Reflections on Robert Waldinger’s Ted Talk- What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness 12:09 www.care.com/zen Care.com is the world’s largest digital marketplace for finding and managing family care. Find care for everyone in the family. Whether you need childcare while you’re at work or want to line up a date night sitter, Care.com is there for you. 13:17 Listener thinks Cathy demeans Todd 20:44 The strawberry incident 25:13 www.canvaspeople.com – Coupon code “zen” for a free 11″ X 14″ Canvas 26:15 Simon Sinek’s 10 rules for success 35:30 “It” Review Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZoP86TERtg&t=1896s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEAnYmpBxFw JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Upcoming Events 2018 Zen Parenting Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRT2C0_IrfE TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd discuss The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge about the millennial generation (otherwise known as iGen) and why they are different. They discuss how they were raised, how they think, and why they understand emotional risk more than physical risk. They also discuss They also discuss Brene Brown’s new release, Braving the Wilderness, and how it focuses on stepping out and speaking up, and how we can answer questions with civility rather than mistrust and disdain. They talk about how we can support our kids without being permissive, how we can teach our daughters to trust themselves, and why the Jedi know how to fight hate with light. Show Notes/Time Stamps 5:40 Todd struggles on whether or not to “support” his 14 year old in an awkward social situation. 17:22 Care.com/zen 18:04 Dad’s rules for dating his daughter 28:27 The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech 61:08 Wow Summit ’17 – Empowering moms raise happy healthy families Resources/Videos used on today’s show This dad’s ‘rules’ for dating his daughters are perfect for 2017.– by Evan Porter The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY Foster Care & Adoption: Children are Waiting- Podcast #354 Wow Moms Summit Upcoming Events https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TcGKxLJ4ZGI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hibyAJOSW8U https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF2YVSoBSPg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&feature=youtu.be  

Cathy and Todd offer ways to practice and recognize self-compassion, and explain why our ego tends to argue against too much self-love (but why we don’t have to listen…). They discuss lovingkindness meditation, why it’s important to accept compliments, and how we can get to know ourselves like a friend. They also discuss Keyshawn Johnson’s decision to pull his son out of Nebraska football – was this decision too much or just right? They discuss their upcoming self-compassion class, their upcoming screening of Angst, and why it’s important for each of us to speak our truth. Show Notes/Time Stamps 4:06 “Angst- Breaking The Stigma Against Anxiety” Trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6jmIvebR_U&t=1s 8:44 USC long snapper Jake Olson who is blind makes his debut for the Trojans 17:00 Andy Bernard talking about the “good old days” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7qcFCTa1vw 18:40 www.kindsnacks.com/zen 20:18 Keyshawn Johnson removes his son from the University of NE 33:10 www.care.com/zen 34:15 Checklist for self-compassion 59:30 Zen Parenting Conference 63:03 Tree Of Life Chiropractic and Avid Company Resources Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection – Sharon Salzberg Loving Kindness Meditation Self-compassion class Screening of Angst  

Cathy and Todd discuss anxiety, how and why it shows up, and why it’s important topic of conversation in every home. They discuss their documentary screening of Angst: Normalizing the Conversation Around Anxiety on Monday, September 11th, 7pm, at York Theater. This movie is a perfect opportunity to open an important conversation and normalize what’s been stigmatized. It’s appropriate for kids 10+, and it’s highly recommended for all parents and teens. They share the wisdom of Michael Singer from his book The Untethered Soul, and what it means to have a “voice in our head”. They also discuss Hurricane Harvey, how to give, and why we need to stay focused on hope. Click here to get tickets to the screening of Angst at York Theater on Sept 11th. Show Notes/Time Stamps/Resources 1:20 Hurricane Harvey discussion 6:40 Text 909-99 “Harvey” To give $10.00 for aid to the victims of Hurricane Harvey 9:15 Hope- Andy Dufraine YouTube clip 9:53 Screening of Angst @ York Theater on September 11th. Tickets 26:22 Kind Snacks- 10 bars free by going to www.kindsnacks.com/zen 27:29 Helping children deal with anxiety 30:44 Trailer of Angst documentary 37:06 Clip from Michael Singer/Oprah Winfrey interview 47:22 Partner’s Corner- ‘Nspired– ZPR’s Website creator, Tree of Life Chiropractic Care, Avid Painting & Remodeling

Todd and Cathy reveal their three speakers for the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference, and explain why each of them is a force for good. They discuss candor, wisdom, kindness, and responsibility, and offer new resources that will help each of us live with greater clarity and intention. They answer a listener questions, and also discuss their NEW+IMPROVED website! Go to zenpopparenting.com to find all the podcasts, events, books, and resources that you’ve been asking for – all in one place! And get your early-bird 2018 Zen Parenting Conference tickets, a spot in Cathy’s How to Be Brave pre-conference workshop, and become a Zen Friend to support our conference scholarship program. Time stamps for the show… 4:20 Announcement of Cheryl Strayed @ ZPR Conference 8:37 Oprah/Cheryl interview clip 13:52 care.com/zen shout out 15:20 Announcement of Orly Wahba @ ZPR Conference 22:22 Orly Wahba Ted Talk clip 30:42 kindsnack.com/zen shout out 32:41 Announcement of Mike Domitrz @ ZPR Conference 36:19 Mike Domitrz interview clip 46:50 Question from listener whose dad comes to stay for 6 weeks during summer Resources discussed on today’s show Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 TED Talk – Kindness – Orly Wahba Why Cheryl Strayed Says Being Alone Can Be Empowering | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss fear-based thinking, what happened in Charlottesville, and how an abundance mindset can shift the way we relate to each other. They answer listener questions about a husband who doesn’t understand the challenges of busy motherhood, and how to manage, and hopefully reduce, an anxious home environment. Todd talks about his trip to New England with his daughter, and explains why this experience led to more authentic communication and connection. Time stamps for the show… 1:30 Discussion on Charlottesville 15:56 Todd discusses his experience of travelling with his 14 year old for aweek. 25:54 – question from a mom whose husband “doesn’t get it” 41:20 question- reducing anxiety in the household Resources discussed on today’s show https://zenpopparenting.com/shulte/ 11 mistakes I have made as a husband (and why I’m better for it) 10 Mistakes I Made as a Wife (And Why I’m Better For it) 158 Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss Caroline Adams Miller’s book Getting Grit, about what grit really means, and why we need to be thoughtful about the kind of grit we are using and promoting. They share some clips from her interview with Jonathan Field’s on The Good Life Project, and explain why self-awareness, compassion, and connection are essential in becoming a force for good. They also discuss the challenges with participation trophies or awards and offer new insight into why these are only a symptom rather than the problem. They discuss why giving our kids space to find their own grit is essential, and why humility, community, and confidence are essential in keeping our goals healthy and manageable. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss what a hell yes feels like, and why saying no is so important. They share an interview with Oprah on the Dear Sugar podcast where she explains how she learned to say no, and why a no can be the best decision for all involved. They also share why letting go can be just as important as holding on, and what it really means to be impeccable with your word. They discuss the proposed military transgender ban, and why proximity to people different than us will decrease fear, increase compassion, and create unity. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss why humans are like porcupines, and why it’s important to stay open and use “relational ethics”, when communicating with our loved ones. They discuss Andy Murray’s subtle equality comment after Wimbledon, they share a quote about compassion from Pema Chodron, and explain what Tim Ferriss means when he says, “Hard Choices/Easy Life”. They also discuss a bill that could affect teens who are caught sexting – teen expert Rosalind Wiseman explains, “We understand why adults don’t want young people sending these kinds of pictures but it’s dangerous and unethical for lawmakers to write and pass laws that can’t tell the difference between a sexual predator and a young person who is going through adolescence.” Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss how to have honest communication with friends and why it can be helpful to be “called out” by the people we love. They also discuss why our understanding of healing is oversimplified, and how it’s a daily action rather than a destination. They share a quote from Brad Pitt about toxic masculinity, explain the difference between shame and guilt, and discuss how marriage is handled on Friday Night Lights. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd discuss how to embrace a challenging past by accepting it as a given rather than viewing it as a “gift” (which can sometimes feel inauthentic). This concept is taken from Sharon Salzberg’s book, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection, and it allows us to acknowledge our experience and move forward as a force for good. They also discuss how kids can be sensitive to clothing and why it’s important to find ways to keep them comfortable. They share why joy+sadness are a team, why trying to defend our emotional state can cause conflict, and explain why The Soupdragons I’m Free is Todd’s empowerment song. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Cathy and Todd share a quote from Gutsy Girl author Caroline Paul about how we can use “micro-bravery” to handle our fear. They discuss why bravery can mean different things to men and women, and why it’s hard to differentiate between fear, excitement, and other strong feelings. They talk about ball players who get the “yips”, the movie Get Out, and explain why The Babadook represents repressed grief and anger. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Todd and Cathy discuss gender inequality and why Todd gets frustrated talking to men about this issue. They discuss why it’s difficult to understand inequality, how we can be better listeners, and why the impact can negatively affect women and men. They reference an article from the New York Times titled Talking to Boys the Way We Talk to Girls by Andrew Reiner and discuss how we can make changes in our own home that will impact the world. They answer a listener question about a challenging four-year-old, talk about their vacation and the Backstreet Boys, and share some movie clips. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Bring It Home Foundations Course- This 6 part course will help you… Parent from more love and less from fear Use simple tools to drastically reduce drama in your family Integrate straight-forward and practical mindfulness techniques into your busy life Be the parent you truly want to be Bringit home.me and click on courses and enter “zen10” for a discount.   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.