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Cathy and Todd exchange quotes and mantras that remind them to stay in the moment, alleviate their anxiety, and prompt them to center their thoughts on gratitude. They discuss how they use these phrases and explore why our brains tend to fixate on what’s wrong rather than what’s already working. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction and the podcast’s motto. (00:00:37) Discussing Cathy’s meditation area, post-it notes, and the importance of quotes and mantras. (00:01:30) Mention of Michael Singer’s “The Untethered Soul” and its influence. (00:01:50) Introduction to the Zen Parenting in-person event focusing on teens: discussing the complexities and challenges faced by today’s teenagers. (00:03:00) Explanation of the event’s approach: Opening up conversations and fostering communication with teenagers. (00:04:15) The importance of understanding and accepting children as they are. (00:06:20) Discussion on neurodiversity and the challenges of labeling. (00:09:03) The significance of self-awareness in parenting and personal growth. (00:12:45) Diving deeper into specific quotes and mantras that inspire Cathy and Todd. (00:14:47) Delving into the mantra of “You are enough” and its implications. (00:18:07) Reflecting on the interconnectedness of life and the importance of perspective. (00:28:19) Exploring the idea of “letting go” and its relevance in various life situations. (00:34:20) The role of vulnerability in personal development and parenting. (00:42:16) The concept of “holding space” for oneself and others. (00:43:56) The importance of gratitude and its impact on daily life. 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

In this episode of Zen Parenting Radio, Todd and Cathy have a thoughtful conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship expert and clinical psychologist. They discuss Dr. Solomon’s upcoming book, “Love Every Day,” providing listeners with helpful insights into love, relationships, and self-discovery. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:28) Relationships and marriage with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (00:02:00) A popular college course on intimate relationships (00:06:10) Daily book format and personal growth (00:09:10) Exploring relational self-awareness: A key foundation for healthy relationships (00:15:20) The challenges of empty nest syndrome: Dr. Solomon and the hosts share their experiences (00:19:00) Tangled emotions and the transition of children leaving home: A deep dive into parental enmeshment (00:21:47) How seasonal transitions can impact emotional responses (00:24:38) Parenting Through Change: The Importance of Repair Strategies in Family Relationships (00:26:40) Discussed the importance of self-compassion and humility (00:31:47) Parenting, emotions, and nuance (00:34:07) Discussed the importance of discernment (00:39:00) Emotional dynamics in a relationship (00:42:07) Delve into the challenges and responses associated with male vulnerability and emotional expression within relationships. (00:48:49) Emotional Intimacy, self-awareness, and vulnerability in a relationship (00:55:00) Writing, trolling, and empathy (01:01:10) Creating lifelong relationships with children (01:02:46) Supporting teen and young adult relationships (01:04:20) Conflict and repair are highlighted as crucial aspects of relationships (01:04:49) Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s book is releasing on October 10th “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive” 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd revisit Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” (1989) and discuss how each habit can help us improve our relationships with ourselves and our loved ones. They also explore why a paradigm shift is the key to reducing anxiety and enhancing our understanding of others. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction: Aligning with Stephen Covey’s Principles (00:02:07) Everyday Parenting: Putting First Things First (00:06:00) Joining the Zen Circle: Community and Synergy (00:10:26) Family Mission Statements: Begin with the End in Mind (00:16:38) Empathy in Daily Interactions: Emotional Deposits in Relationship Bank Accounts (00:20:40) Reacting vs. Responding: The Power of Being Proactive (00:24:25) Control and Choice: Understanding Your Circle of Influence (00:27:14) Questioning Time: Prioritizing What Really Matters (00:30:06) Crafting a Family Vision: Aligning Goals and Values (00:40:06) Emotional Wisdom: The Principle of Think Win-Win (00:42:26) Interdependence in Family: A Nod to Think Win-Win (00:44:54) Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: The Undercurrent of Effective Habits (00:48:12) Understanding Perspectives: Synergize for Better Outcomes (00:52:00) Being Flawed and Beautiful: Sharpen the Saw for Self-Improvement (00:54:11) Continuous Self-Improvement: Another Look at Sharpen the Saw (00:58:37) Pre-Conference Activities: Synergize in Action (01:00:00) Wrap-Up: Connecting the Dots with Covey’s Principles (01:02:00) Final Thoughts: Implementing the 7 Habits in Parenting 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd talk with Jennifer Wallace about her New York Times Bestseller Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It. They discuss the definition of happiness and why parents feel so pressured to help their kids “succeed”. They also process the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivators, why interdependence changes our perspective, and why “mattering” is the key to family wellbeing. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:45) Parental pressure and the definition of success (00:10:45) The pressure parents feel to secure their children’s economic futures (00:12:30) Parenting and education in a rapidly changing world (00:15:13) Raising sons and promoting interdependence (00:19:35) Community building and gratitude (00:25:08) Maternal warmth and a strong work ethic can contribute to raising happy and successful children (00:26:07) The impact of values on well-being, including the difference between materialistic values and intrinsic values (00:28:33) The importance of open and explicit conversations about values and the need to understand how children perceive our communication (00:36:13) Parental love and valuing children’s efforts regardless of success (00:41:17) Jennifer discussed how kids talked about the struggles of their parents regulating their own emotions (00:43:00) Parenting and self-awareness (00:48:00) Emphasizing the importance of maintaining the mental health and resilience of primary caregivers when a child is in distress (00:50:40) The Importance of Deliberate Time and Vulnerability (00:51:15) Prioritizing Sleep and Balanced Living (00:53:11) The Pressure of Achieving in Academics (00:56:35) Achievement Creep and Its Effects (01:00:00) The Role of Mattering in Success (01:02:17) Closing Thoughts and Book Recommendation 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the differences between ADHD in men and women and the reasons why so many adult women are getting diagnosed today. They do a follow up about highly sensitive people (HSP), discuss the #GRWM craze, and share an 80’s commercial that will get stuck in your brain. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:07:45) GRWM, get ready with me (00:10:55) Societal expectations of women’s appearance (00:13:40) Societal beauty standards and their impact on women’s self-esteem (00:18:12) 80s candy bar commercials and earworms (00:20:10) What is the overlap between highly sensitive people and autism? (00:22:02) ADHD diagnosis and gender differences (00:25:26) ADHD is now being diagnosed more frequently in women, especially in the Gen X age group (00:26:10) Undiagnosed ADHD in women often leads to anxiety as the presenting feature (00:28:52) Our partner of the week What if World Podcast– a storytelling podcast for kids (00:29:07) Discussion about three types of ADHD: Inattentive, Hyperactive, and Hybrid (00:32:25) Women with ADHD may develop strong coping skills like list-making and reminders (00:36:22) Adults with ADHD may have a harder time recognizing their own challenges because of their coping mechanisms (00:37:31) Medication is one option for managing ADHD, but it’s not the only one. (00:40:00) Understanding how individuals arrive at their beliefs can lead to healthier conversations and connections (00:41:10) Labels and frameworks can help us understand and empathize with people who experience the world differently (00:49:00) Rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is a common experience among women with ADHD, leading to self-blame and self-criticism (00:50:45) Recognizing that individuals’ experiences can vary greatly helps foster empathy and understanding (00:51:30) Women often face unique challenges and safety concerns in various situations, which can be frustrating for those who care about them. (00::55:25) Jeremy Kraft, a contractor in the Chicagoland area (00:55:44) Get tickets for Zen Parenting 2024 Resources   Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy converse with Dr. Devorah Heitner, the author of “Screenwise” and her NEW book “Growing Up in Public.” They discuss the downsides and benefits of tracking your kids, whether it’s a good idea to read your kids’ texts, how to address the topic of sexting, and whether colleges are scrutinizing your kids’ posts. Her book is now available as of September 12th, and it’s a must-read! For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:50) Discussion about upcoming event, Zen Parenting 2024 (00:04:50) Cathy discussed Devorah’s book: “Growing Up in Public” (00:06:00) A discussion of surveillance devices and how parents and schools track children (00:09:35) Todd and Devorah have a brief conversation about nuance (00:18:55) Discuss the pros and cons of monitoring texts and online interactions with friends. (00:22:18) Dr. Devorah highlights the need to understand adolescent language experimentation and differentiate between typical behavior and more problematic language (00:26:15) Do our kids use the phone to call people that often? (00:31:20) Let’s take responsibility! (00:34:12) It’s important for kids to understand that life is a performance (00:35:01) Our partner of the week What if World Podcast– a storytelling podcast for kids (00:36:42) Growing up in the public eye (00:38:40) Discussion about body image (00:42:10) Discussion about posting children on social media and respecting their privacy. (00:47:45) Kids are coming out on social media (00:51:42) Privacy and consent are crucial when it comes to sharing explicit images or sexting, especially among teenagers (00:56:30) The double standard of sexting and sexual harassment (01:00:00) The importance of building strong self-esteem in kids to empower them to say no and not succumb to peer pressure is highlighted (01:01:50) Sex education is discussed, emphasizing the need for early conversations about body image, consent, and healthy relationships, rather than waiting until later in adolescence (01:07:00) A nuanced approach to addressing harmful behavior online is advocated, focusing on educating and supporting the entire community rather than scapegoating individuals 3 Ways to support us Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys   Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss the three different types of perfectionism and why trying to perfect actually backfires and leads to fragility. They discuss why our culture has overvalued the idea of being perfect, the importance of humanizing over humiliating, and they answer a follow-up question about highly sensitive children. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:15) How long do you let tantrums last for a six year old? (00:10:06) How normal is it for a six year old to have a tantrum? (00:11:20) Do you support a six year old’s fear without being pushy or passive? (00:12:48) What about a six year old who has verbalized thoughts like, ‘I’m a bad daughter’ (00:18:15) Comparisons can lead to unnecessary stress and a sense of inadequacy (00:24:30) What’s the difference between a toddler and a teenager? (00:27:10) Upcoming episode with Devorah Heitner (00:27:29) Where’s the line between doing things for her and letting her do them herself? (00:28:25) Discussion about perfectionism and how it can impact individuals (00:30:57) What’s the difference between other oriented and, socially prescribed? (00:34:06) They emphasize the negative effects of perfectionism, such as making individuals fragile in the face of failure and preventing them from admitting mistakes (00:39:07) Do you want to be with someone who’s such a perfectionist that you can’t let go? (00:40:34) Importance of recognizing that success stories are not the only valid narratives (00:45:00) Prioritizing Human Well-Being Over Economic Metrics (00:50:00) Significance of humanizing rather than humiliating children when they make mistakes, promoting empathy and understanding (00:52:22) Sponsor Spotlight: Jeremy Kraft – Chicagoland Remodeling Specialist (00:52:36) Discover Team Zen: Access Exclusive Parenting Content 3 Ways to support us Join us for ZPR 2024 Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys   Resources Zen Parenting 2024 Dad Holding Space for His Daughter’s Big Feelings Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the concept of being a highly sensitive person, and they explore how it feels to be a highly sensitive kid. They also address “ASK US ANYTHING” questions from listeners, offering guidance on how to talk to your kids about behavior modification charts in school (when they’re not used at home) and providing advice on how to relate to an irritable and uncooperative child. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:00) Zen Parenting Moment: “When I Was Your Age” (00:08:50) Balancing Heart-Centered Parenting with School’s Reward-Punishment System (00:16:45) Understanding Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) (00:21:30) Cathy shares her personal experience as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) (00:24:24) Emotional Sensitivity of HSPs (00:25:03) Our partner of the week Koko Sleep – Bedtime Stories & Meditations For Kids (00:25:03) Sensory Sensitivities in HSPs (00:25:30) Empathy and Intuition in HSPs (00:26:35) Depth of Processing in HSPs (00:28:15) Navigating Overstimulation (00:29:30) The importance of understanding your kids (00:32:30) Being highly sensitive is not an issue; rather, it’s a unique trait (00:36:00) What Is Neurodiversity on the Spectrum? (00:42:30) Cathy and Todd Discuss Parenting and Accommodating Children (00:50:00) Upcoming Zen Talk with Devorah Heitner and her Book “Growing Up in Public” Release 3 Ways to support us Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys   Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss Jack Kornfield’s advice for reducing anxiety, and how fear, history, and programming can make it more difficult. They process why back-to-school is particularly challenging for parents, and the simultaneous presence of joy and grief as children grow and transition. They are joined by Millie Hsi, a friend and member of their Team Zen virtual community, who shares her personal experiences and insights on coping with anxiety. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:55) Milli talks about her involvement in the community and her favorite part of community (00:07:28) Todd Introduces Anxiety and Emotional Well-being (00:08:09) Parental Role as the Last Line of Defense (00:10:21) Significance and Prevalence of Anxiety Today (00:11:00) Step 1: Learning from Jack Kornfield, how to deal with anxiety better (00:14:17) Importance of Naming Anxiety (00:16:05) Acknowledgment of anxiety as a human experience and the physiological and cultural reasons behind it are discussed (00:18:40) Personal Experience with Anxiety (00:22:53) Step 2: How to work through anxiety? (00:25:19) What’s the thing that makes you most anxious? (00:28:45) Step 3 The wisdom of insecurity (00:30:40) Our partner of the week Koko Sleep – Bedtime Stories & Meditations For Kids (00:31:30) Discussion about perfectionism (00:35:50) Shifting away from what you want to say to what you need to hear. (00:37:55) Step 4: How many of us do something like that when we’re being paralyzed with anxiety? (00:44:10) Step 5: Question your thoughts (00:50:40) Step 6: Find where you feel the anxiety most strongly in your body (00:54:47) Crying in front of your kids (1:00:00) The parts of us- Richard Schwartz Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy welcome Shaun Emerson and Chris Lozier, hosts of the If You’ve Come This Far podcast. They discuss why it can be difficult to discuss men and women’s issues without getting defensive, and why statistics may point toward progress, but reality still feels imbalanced. They debate the effectiveness of frameworks and personality tests in personal growth, and how labels can be freeing but also stunting. They process how knowledge is vital, but transforming our knowledge into practice is what really leads to meaningful change. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps   Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the many layers of Barbie and why it has become such a phenomenon and lightning rod when it comes to discussing gender differences. They share candidly about seeing each other’s perspectives, how to think critically, and how to bring our ‘whole’ selves into the viewing experience. They discuss why the movie is an existential crisis, a representation of girlhood and womanhood, and an absolute paradox all at the same time. This is a good podcast to listen to with your partner and/or family! For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:50) Existential crisis (00:10:00) Beta male (00:13:50) The Problem with the word “Woke” (00:17:18) The Bechdel Test (00:19:30) The Bechdel Test Statistics (00:20:47) Looking through men’s eyes (00:23:43) Todd’s initial impression about the Barbie movie (00:25:03) This is the Summer of Female Economics (00:27:08) Ccritical thinking (00:29:40) Having women at the center doesn’t equate to man-hating (00:34:20) Our boys are getting left behind (00:35:20) How do we talk about the truth without offending boys? (00:37:00) How do we have healthy masculinity? (00:44:44) Why do you think a man thinks he can’t be expansive enough? (00:46:30) The familiarity of girlhood (00:49:10) Why you are people looking at me this way (00:53:14) New Barbie: Not about man-hating. It’s a shift – women empowerment, creating the life they dreamt of as little girls (00:55:20) Navigating a situation and saying something (00:57:47) The paradox of Barbie and the men (00:59:09) What is the paradox of womanhood? (1:02:22) The importance of speaking your mind (1:06:00) Dads go take your sons to Barbie Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd & Cathy talk with Hunter Clarke-Fields, Author of Raising Good Humans Every Day- 50 Simple Ways to Press Pause, Stay Present, and Connect with Your Kids. They discuss Beginning Anew, find a thread, playing your own music, mindfulness, the messy, and not parentifying our kids. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (01:11:21) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:11:21) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (01:11:21) Todd Adams Coaching (01:11:21) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Cathy & Todd discuss how our early experiences dictate our life patterns, and how we can recognize these patterns and decide what helps and what hurts. It’s all about honoring the memories and traditions that mean something to us, while also letting go of what no longer serves us. They also discuss the legacy of Madonna and how she shifted the musical landscape for women, and Todd’s hot take on the best baseball player of all time. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps   Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd & Cathy talk with John O’Sullivan, Founder of the Changing the Game Project and host of the Way of Champions Podcast about his new book, The Champion Teammate: Timeless Lessons to Connect, Compete and Lead in Sports and Life. They discuss how to be a valued teammate, what it means to be a champion, and what it takes to connect, compete, and thrive in sports and life. What’s shared is applicable way beyond sports so it’s an important conversation for all parents, but it’s especially enlightening for those who are currently raising athletes. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:07:10) Changing the Game: What should you say to your kid at the conclusion of the game? (00:10:25) Pushing your kid into things instead of … (00:11:40) Don’t react; Respond: E+R=O (00:13:00) How to teach your kids to “show up” (00:15:45) How are coaching and parenting similar? The Trust Bank (00:20:00) Growth happens when u struggle. (00:25:00) Rule of one moment (00:29:00) The art of Coaching and Parenting (00:30:00) Kids’ identities are being built around sports (00:37:30) Percentage of kids who play college sports (00:40:30) Being intentional (00:42:30) Phil Jackson (00:44:00) Get comfortable being uncomfortable (00:47:00) Put in the reps (00:49:15) Relative age in sports ; what is talent ; help your kids find your passion instead of you finding it for them (00:50:50) Learning to surf (00:54:30) Being emotionally agile and channeling in a positive way (00:57:45) Sweeping the Shed (01:00:30) Modeling behavior and entitlement (01:01:30) Petting the Dragon (01:05:40) Belonging and psychological safety (01:08:00) John’s book and references (01:10:15) Alvin Iverson – quote on practice (01:11:21) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:11:21) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (01:11:21) Todd Adams Coaching (01:11:21) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy discuss how co-opted therapy speak can make “love” more like control. They specifically discuss Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend sharing texts where he says he is enforcing his “boundaries” when he is actually giving her rules and ultimatums. They discuss how life is messy and everything is nuanced, and how Maya Angelou taught that love liberates, it doesn’t hold. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:32) Three things (00:05:16) Tournament of bad (00:11:35) Cathy’s ZP Moment (00:20:30) Jonah Hill (00:59:15) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:59:15) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (00:59:46) Todd Adams Coaching (00:59:46) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy discuss the difficult, but also transformational quality of change and how it teaches us to grow and trust life’s patterns. They answer a listener question about how to view their daughter’s outbursts and challenging behavior, and they share and process three quotes from Season 2 of The Bear – starting with Richie’s thought-provoking quote, “I’m not like this because I’m in Van Halen. I’m in Van Halen because I’m like this… For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com Subscribe to our YouTube Page 🙂 Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:00) Three things (00:18:18) Ask me anything question about adolescent daughter who has outbursts of anger (00:33:00) Three quotes- I’m not like this b/c I’m in Van Halen… (00:42:02) I’ve learned to be better, and not perfect. (00:50:30) …because it’s been really inspired (00:58:48) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:58:58) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (00:59:02) Todd Adams Coaching (00:59:07) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Cathy and Todd discuss how to experience parenting challenges as part of the story rather than the entire story. They discuss how to zoom out and see the big picture, but also how to zoom in and experience compassion and connection with your kids. They process how to not take things personally, and how to recognize that we are all just watching our own movie. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Subscribe to our YouTube Page 🙂 Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:00:44) What’s happening? (00:09:40) The outcome is not the outcome (00:53:36) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (00:54:08) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy discuss how we can talk to our kids about spirituality and self-trust, and why role modeling and patience can be the most effective tools. They discuss how to deal with anger, how to talk to our kids about anger, and how to utilize difficult emotions for deeper self awareness. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:40) Ask us anything regarding managing tempers in the household (00:18:30) Spiritual Growth (00:48:16) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:48:16) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy Adams explore the themes of wonder, father-son relationships, vulnerability in parenting, and the enduring appeal of baseball in their heartfelt analysis of the movie “Field of Dreams,” emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathizing with parental figures and embracing the wonders of life. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:40:23) Who Smarted? (01:22:58) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:23:08) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Who Smarted?  

Cathy & Todd answer listener questions (about the practice of self-awareness, highly sensitive kids, and how to talk to our kids about every important thing before they graduate…) and they also discuss Taylor Swift, her popularity, and how she is connected to Full Catastrophe Living. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:08) Question #1- What are some self-awareness tools you’ve cultivated through your parenting (00:10:48) Question #2 How do I get my 8 year old daughter to calm down when she is dysregulated? (00:17:57) Question #3 Is it common when your child is graduating from high school to have this inclination to want to panic and “cover all the information you haven’t shared with your child yet (00:23:48) Full catastrophe living (00:19:59) Who Smarted? (00:39:29) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:39:39) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Who Smarted?  

Cathy and Todd discuss how codependency, enmeshment, narcissism, and lack of boundaries are weaved into Succession and the Logan family, and how we can be more self-aware about what we are role modeling and teaching our children. They also discuss the importance of internal and external validation and why no matter what happens to the Logan children, they will never be satisfied. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe, like and share our YouTube Page Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:08:56) Succession (00:18:29) I’m proud of you (00:25:42) Validation (00:33:32) Enmeshment (00:24:08) Who Smarted? (00:42:22) Disengagement (00:51:07) Boundaries (01:08:50) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:08:50) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted? This just in…don’t tell your children you are proud of them! SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH LOVE FORTNITE, BOUNDARIES & COMPASSION PODCAST #454 BOUNDARIES & ENMESHMENT- PODCAST #589 WOMEN & BOUNDARIES- PODCAST #590 CODEPENDENCY- PODCAST #680  

Cathy and Todd discuss how it’s not our kids’ job to support us, but we can encourage them to understand us. They also discuss the importance of self-compassion when parenting, why our boys need more male role models, and how to deal with change as our kids grow and graduate. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to our Zen Parenting Radio YouTube channel Give the gift of Team Zen with a gift card Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00) Intro (05:37) Raising Healthy Sons (14:28) Ask us Anything- How do I get support from my child without “parentifying” them (24:49) Who Smarted? (36:44) Graduation transitions (48:24) Outro Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Coaching Resources Ask Us Anything Who Smarted?  

In the Part 2 of our conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our kids a “lens” when it comes to porn and sex on television. He also shares why talking about sex becomes even more important as we age, why he doesn’t use statistics when talking to groups, and how the bottom line for every discussion is about respect and valuing our most important relationships. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps 0:31 Continuing conversation with your kids about porn 2:40 Ways humans respond to threat 11:00 Stats on people who are assaulted 20:53 Engaging in conversation with our kids 24:08 Who Smarted? 28:13 More stats 38:26 false reporting 50:46 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 50:20 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Building a Culture Of Consent and Respect: A Discussion with Mike Domitrz From the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411 Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted?  

Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our kids a “lens” when it comes to porn and sex on television. He also shares why talking about sex becomes even more important as we age, why he doesn’t use statistics when talking to groups, and how the bottom line for every discussion is about respect and valuing our most important relationships. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! About Mike Domitrz and the Center of Respect Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps 5:36 Rape culture principle 8:38 Conquering vs mutuality 13:38 transactional relationships 21:38 Meeting people where they are vs where they want to be 24:10 Who Smarted? 35:40 Discussion on porn 50:20 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 50:20 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Building a Culture Of Consent and Respect: A Discussion with Mike Domitrz From the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411 Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted?  

Cathy & Todd discuss swearing, its origins, and how to talk to your kids about its usage. They also discuss when and how to offer a heartfelt apology, and how to relate and understand other people’s experiences. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 2:31 Apologizing 16:18 Swearing 23:27 Why we swear 28:33 Parenting philosophy on swearing 29:36 Who Smarted? 36:23 Class & Vocabulary 39:40 Swearing and honesty 42:35 Swearing and physiology 48:06 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 48:06 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Pantene ‘Sorry, Not Sorry’ Commercial How To Listen To Each Other- Podcast #695 Swearing Is More Important Than You Think Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted?  

Cathy and Todd discuss the movies that matter most to them, and how they relate to self-awareness, integrity, and even parenting. They discuss how we can use pop culture to communicate and get to know our kids, and how their other podcast, Pop Culturing, is deep dive into Gen X movies and TV. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:14:23 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 1:14:23 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements 1:04:03 Pop Culturing Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Todd & Cathy discuss evidence-based ways to be an effective leader and how to teach and demonstrate leadership to your children. They discuss the importance of early and ongoing social emotional learning, and how everything begins with self-awareness. They also process Adam Grant’s research around give and take, why knowing your “why” is important, and why feedback hits differently depending on your background and experience. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:52 ZPR Moment on Feedback 15:06 Raising generous kids 20:04 The double bind of generosity for women Who Does What? Podcast #698 Women Aren’t Nags, We’re Fed Up- Podcast #495 Real-Time Emotional Labor- Podcast #440 Emotional Labor is an Unpaid Job- Podcast #405 1:03:42 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 1:03:55 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements 1:04:03 Pop Culturing Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Cathy and Todd discuss the research behind parenting styles and how it affects our communication and even our politics. They also discuss the “Tennessee Three” and how it relates to the difference between generations and how we are evolving (or not evolving) as people and as a country. They share a viral TikTok post from GradSchoolGramma that demonstrates what it really looks like parent in a self-aware, compassionate way, and mindful way. Click here to learn more. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:00 Feedback 3:27 New Team Zen Members 5:46 Zen Parenting Moment- Real, Vulnerable, Pay Attention 7:57 Parenting Styles 10:00 Authoritarian 12:24 Todd’s least proud moments 14:18 Permissive 15:54 Uninvolved 16:19 Authoritative 20:55 Tennessee Three 29:57 The well speech 38:57 Grad School Gramma 45:28 Four questions 46:40 Pop Culturing 47:43 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 47:54 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Cathy & Todd talk with author and educator Jessica Lahey about her book The Addiction Inoculation and the importance of Social Emotional Learning (SEL) when it comes to substance-use disorders, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence and regulation. They discuss the risk factors surrounding addiction and how genetics and culture play a role. Jessica shares what kids most need to hear from us and how we can create conversations about alcohol use, abuse, and the myths that don’t hold up to research. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Jessica Lahey (@jesslahey) is the author of the New York Times bestselling book The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jessica has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She currently serves as a recovery coach at Sana at Stowe, a medical detox and recovery center in Stowe, Vermont, where 100 percent of her salary goes to a scholarship fund for young adults. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 3:55 Who do some people have a problem with SEL in schools? 14:30 Risk factors for substance abuse 19:17 Are there differences in how best to support young men and young women? 24:14 How do we talk to our kids about addiction? 41:20 Telling the truth to our kids 46:20 Escaping and numbing behavior 49:52 The importance of modeling 53:55 Todd’s sister and genetics 100:45 Todd throws up & a discussion about rehab Resources The Gift Of Failure- Podcast #407 Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Daughters Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Cathy and Todd answer listeners question about what to do when life gets messy, unpredictable, and uncertain. They discuss movies to bring the family together, how to support our children who are dealing with friend issues, and how to figure out what “fair” means over and over again. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:55 ZPR Moment- Where They Are 13:38 Watching shows with 5th and 8th grade daughters 28:18 Have y’all watched Servant on Apple TV? 29:36 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 33:15 13 year old daughter struggling with new friend group 44:46 Is there anything more I could do as an expectant father? Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Daughters The Representation Project Common Sense Media

Todd & Cathy talk with Michelle Anderson and Lauren Massarella from The Sister Project. They discuss the hygge lifestyle (a Danish word that loosely translates as cozy, comfy, and overall wellness), parenting, birth, and women’s health. Cathy, Michelle and Lauren lost their moms to dementia, so they discuss what it’s like to care for someone with dementia and how to support them through the process of death. They discuss the pain and beauty of grief and how we can take care of ourselves and each other. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 11:16 Hygge 18:24 Embracing discomfort 27:00 How dads show up 28:32 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 40:06 Dimentia 54:30 Guilt 55:25 Death Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Daughters The Sister Project

Cathy & Todd discuss 4 invitations to being a positive parent. They discuss 1) What do we want for our kids? 2) Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (Intelligence Quotient) & BQ (Body Intelligence) 3) When we cop out 4) Discussion, not discipline. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 5:09 Preview of these 4 invitations 19:04 What is the definition of success? 31:05 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 34:56 The problem with wanting our kids to be happy 43:07 Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (intelligence Quotient) & BQ (Body Intelligence) 47:00 When we cop out 58:40 Discussion, not discipline 1:06:25 Avid Company- Painting and Remodeling throughout the Chicagoland Area   Resources Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters

Cathy & Todd celebrate their 700th episode by discussing the universal principles of Zen Parenting, the importance of civil conversation, and what has remained the same for the last 12 years. Part 1 of 2. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 7:25 The way we engage in discussion 16:50 Self-Awareness 29:57 Scholastic’s book- When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. 30:35 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 32:50 three different ways of being grumpy 38:18 Compassion 39:20 Being on-time 45:25 Mindfulness 51:09 Connection Resources Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters

Todd & Cathy discuss the different aspects of self-compassion and take the quiz to see who is more self-compassionate. They also talk about the movie Grease & Mr. Rogers. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:30 Guys/boys/everyone/y’all 7:15 Zen Parenting Moment- Whole 9:22 Grease 14:50 Self-Compassion basics 24:47 mindfulness 30:14 Scholastic’s book- When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. 30:52 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 35:45 Mr. Rogers 43:55 Self-Compassionate Quiz 54:30 Purple turkey story Resources Self-Compassion Test

Todd & Cathy share how their roles have changed over the years and who does what around the house. They discuss the importance of communication around household expectations, and how roles are supposed to evolve and change as the kids grow. The discuss how invisible labor can be overlooked and why not everything we “do” can be found on a checklist. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:15 Thumbs up to Spain 6:43 Brush, the floss? 10:40 Menu- look at it before? 14:00 If you want your partner to worry less, worry more 32:26 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 35:20 Who does what? Resources Household checklist  

Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship (available for preorder NOW, released on 2/28). They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience. Dr. Shefali is hosting a FREE Parenting Mastery Online Summit with 30 Global Experts (Cathy is one of them!). Click here to register. Connect with us! Dr. Shefali Tsabary Parenting Mastery Summit Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 6:40 Love or control/power? 12:29 Why kids lie to us 14:45 Punishment 19:04 Parental ego 26:24 Pinna.fm 36:48 Parenting industrial complex 43:48 Kids Psyche  

Cathy & Todd discuss how our children learn by watching how we live and how we react, and why owning our emotional responses creates connection and opportunity for learning. They discuss the difference between responding and reacting (especially when it comes to anger), why “do what I say, not what I do” doesn’t land well, and why comparing our childhood experiences is like apples and oranges. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 11:24 Zen Parenting Moment 14:40 Emotions- healthy or unhealthy? 23:13 Done. Not using busyness as an excuse 30:06 Pinna.fm 31:05 Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book 35:28 Serenity prayer and the dark days of parenting 47:10 Todd’s money baggage  

Cathy & Todd discuss how we handle trauma, why boys are falling behind in school, and why the emotional intelligence of fathers is essential for cultural change. They also share a personal example of conflict, listening, and repair, and why self-compassion is essential if we are going to communicate effectively. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 3:06 Zen Parenting Moment 3:26 Buffaloes & the cows 11:21 Banshees of Inisherin review 12:40 Women talking 17:59 Scott Galloway on Armchair Expert 30:15 Pinna.fm 31:14 Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book 32:06 LUFU Listen Until the other person Feels Understood    

Todd & Cathy discuss ways to engage in deeper conversation with teenage boys, and how every suggestion is helpful to all relationships and conversations. They also discuss Prince Harry’s new book Spare, and how he learned to deal with “hover monkeys” and “mind squirrels” when becoming an Apache helicopter pilot. While his experience is unique, what he learned is helpful to all of us. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:20 Six ways to encourage deeper conversations with teenage boys 27:08 Prince Harry (Don’t poke the bear) 33:26 Hover monkeys & mind squirrels  

Cathy and Todd discuss the passing of Cathy’s mom, Cathy’s recent diagnosis and surgery, and how they support each other in a crisis. They discuss their patterns of behavior, what they need from each other, and why showing up for each other in crisis can be difficult. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:00 Cathy’s mom’s passing 10:2 Cathy’s breast health 18:38 History of some of Todd’s bad decisions  

Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Cathy’s mom passed away yesterday, and we wanted to share this to honor her. We share some great stories and have some great laughs. Please listen and enjoy – and even more important, be good to each other. In honor of Mother’s Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids. We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to raising us in the 70’s – we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms! Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps  

Todd & Cathy share their experiences of what they find good, true and beautiful, and why finding and discussing these things makes life more meaningful. They talk about the joy of feeding the birds and squirrels, creating a comfortable sleeping environment, and why Todd is never late for a party. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 2:07 Good 21:29 True 27:51 Codependent vs interdependent 36:52 Beautiful Resources Thai commercial

Cathy & Todd discuss 8 peaceful things from 2022 and how to incorporate more peace and joy into 2023. They discuss the importance of music, why we need to embrace our creativity, and the TV shows they are watching with their teenagers. Morgan Harper Nichols Zen Parenting book Phil Stutz The Tools The Vow Drums Taylor Swift The Crown Stranger Things Severance Euphoria The Artists Way Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 5:32 The art and poetry of Morgan Harper Nichols 9:42 Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World 12:05 Self-compassion 25:03 team zen 28:24 Stutz on Netflix and The Tools by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels 29:59 The Vow, A Little Bit Culty, WTF is on my Mind?! with Marc Vicente – 33:10 Drums 38:06 Taylor Swift 41:31 Stranger Things, The Crown, Severance, The Drop Out, The Midnight Club, Euphoria 46:04 The Artists Way Resources  

Todd and Cathy replay their Pop Culturing episode on Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer is a 1964 Christmas stop motion animated television special produced by Videocraft International, Ltd. (later known as Rankin/Bass Productions) and currently distributed by Universal Television. It first aired Sunday, December 6, 1964, on the NBC television network in the United States and was sponsored by General Electric under the umbrella title of The General Electric Fantasy Hour. The special was based on the Johnny Marks song “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” which was itself based on the poem of the same name written in 1939 by Marks’ brother-in-law, Robert L. May. Since 1972, the special has aired on CBS; the network unveiled a high-definition, digitally remastered version of the program in 2005. Trailer: https://youtu.be/V87fsP5B05k Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps Resources  

Todd and Cathy offer 8 suggestions to make the holiday season more connective and less overwhelming. They discuss how to set boundaries, deal with grief, and find ways to limit social media and say no. They also discuss their new Team Zen app and the exclusive podcasts that will be shared on January 10th. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 5:59 Set boundaries 13:45 Be less surprised 19:11 Focus on control 27:24 Say no 28:13 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 30:52 Limit social media 33:34 Prioritize sleep 47:33 Know your #1 priority Resources Control PDF from the Conscious Leadership Group  

Todd and Cathy discuss their experience with the documentary Stutz by Jonah Hill and why developing life force energy is the first step toward any problem. They also discuss the importance of seeing clearly, how to deal with Part X, and why the movie Apollo 13 was an invitation to see and understand each other better. Connect with us! Tuesday, December 6th 12:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Tuesday, December 6th 7:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Stutz: A Documentary Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:32 “Share” Zen Parenting Moment 12:54 Possibility & Perspective 26:54 Life Force 27:49 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 41:08 Part X  

Todd and Cathy discuss how and why our kids trigger us, and how to lessen our reactivity and reframe our experiences. They also discuss the importance of gratitude and why we should learn to ride the waves and roll with the changes. Connect with us! Tuesday, December 6th 12:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Tuesday, December 6th 7:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 2:20 Zen Parenting Moment 6:11 Todd’s quick takes (Do not disturb) 12:21 It triggers your shame/guilt 17:38 It causes you to question your parenting 24:08 You are taking the behavior personally 28:19 You have an unidentified need in the moment (hungry/tired) 30:03 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 33:07 You feel your child is intentionally being disrespectful 41:41 You were already stressed/irritated 46:33 You expect they should know better 55:38 You feel a lack of control in the situation 58:25 Their big reactions trigger your anxiety or trauma 1:00:42 You didn’t realize the behavior was their way of communicating

Todd and Cathy discuss Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, specifically what it means to manage our “thorns” or inner pain that we react to our do our best to avoid. They discuss the paradoxical nature of life and uncertainty, and how our goal is to manage discomfort, not runaway or avoid. They share some of their mindfulness tools and a new definition of enlightenment. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 10:00 Thorns 30:03 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 41:35 Not going for a ride with your thoughts    

Cathy and Todd discuss how to help our kids discover intrinsic motivation (internally motivated because it feels good and right) instead of extrinsic motivation (external rewards such as grades, praise, fame). They also discuss MenConnect, a solution to the epidemic of lonely men, and how to make mornings calmer and more collaborative. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 8:45 Apologize for crying 13:47 MenLiving Connect 17:53 Calm mornings 21:52 Busy or not busy? 30:04 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 55:42 Night Ranger    

Todd and Cathy do a deep dive into the five essential parenting practices that Cathy shared in her Zen Parenting Moment Newsletter last Friday. They share how these practices create connection and meaning in the home and beyond. Connect with us! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 9:53 Practice self-compassion 21:18 Practice curiosity 23:49 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 34:56 Practice creativity 43:05 Practice listening 47:10 Practice openness