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Todd and Cathy discuss the difficult, but also transformational quality of change and how it teaches us to grow and trust life’s patterns. They answer a listener question about how to view their daughter’s outbursts and challenging behavior, and they share and process three quotes from Season 2 of The Bear – starting with Richie’s thought-provoking quote, “I’m not like this because I’m in Van Halen. I’m in Van Halen because I’m like this… For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com Subscribe to our YouTube Page 🙂 Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:00) Three things (00:18:18) Ask me anything question about adolescent daughter who has outbursts of anger (00:33:00) Three quotes- I’m not like this b/c I’m in Van Halen… (00:42:02) I’ve learned to be better, and not perfect. (00:50:30) …because it’s been really inspired (00:58:48) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:58:58) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (00:59:02) Todd Adams Coaching (00:59:07) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Cathy and Todd discuss how to experience parenting challenges as part of the story rather than the entire story. They discuss how to zoom out and see the big picture, but also how to zoom in and experience compassion and connection with your kids. They process how to not take things personally, and how to recognize that we are all just watching our own movie. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Subscribe to our YouTube Page 🙂 Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:00:44) What’s happening? (00:09:40) The outcome is not the outcome (00:53:36) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (00:54:08) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy discuss how we can talk to our kids about spirituality and self-trust, and why role modeling and patience can be the most effective tools. They discuss how to deal with anger, how to talk to our kids about anger, and how to utilize difficult emotions for deeper self awareness. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:40) Ask us anything regarding managing tempers in the household (00:18:30) Spiritual Growth (00:48:16) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:48:16) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy Adams explore the themes of wonder, father-son relationships, vulnerability in parenting, and the enduring appeal of baseball in their heartfelt analysis of the movie “Field of Dreams,” emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathizing with parental figures and embracing the wonders of life. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:40:23) Who Smarted? (01:22:58) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:23:08) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Who Smarted?  

Cathy & Todd answer listener questions (about the practice of self-awareness, highly sensitive kids, and how to talk to our kids about every important thing before they graduate…) and they also discuss Taylor Swift, her popularity, and how she is connected to Full Catastrophe Living. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:08) Question #1- What are some self-awareness tools you’ve cultivated through your parenting (00:10:48) Question #2 How do I get my 8 year old daughter to calm down when she is dysregulated? (00:17:57) Question #3 Is it common when your child is graduating from high school to have this inclination to want to panic and “cover all the information you haven’t shared with your child yet (00:23:48) Full catastrophe living (00:19:59) Who Smarted? (00:39:29) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:39:39) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Who Smarted?  

Cathy and Todd discuss how codependency, enmeshment, narcissism, and lack of boundaries are weaved into Succession and the Logan family, and how we can be more self-aware about what we are role modeling and teaching our children. They also discuss the importance of internal and external validation and why no matter what happens to the Logan children, they will never be satisfied. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe, like and share our YouTube Page Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:08:56) Succession (00:18:29) I’m proud of you (00:25:42) Validation (00:33:32) Enmeshment (00:24:08) Who Smarted? (00:42:22) Disengagement (00:51:07) Boundaries (01:08:50) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:08:50) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted? This just in…don’t tell your children you are proud of them! SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH LOVE FORTNITE, BOUNDARIES & COMPASSION PODCAST #454 BOUNDARIES & ENMESHMENT- PODCAST #589 WOMEN & BOUNDARIES- PODCAST #590 CODEPENDENCY- PODCAST #680  

Cathy and Todd discuss how it’s not our kids’ job to support us, but we can encourage them to understand us. They also discuss the importance of self-compassion when parenting, why our boys need more male role models, and how to deal with change as our kids grow and graduate. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to our Zen Parenting Radio YouTube channel Give the gift of Team Zen with a gift card Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps (00:00) Intro (05:37) Raising Healthy Sons (14:28) Ask us Anything- How do I get support from my child without “parentifying” them (24:49) Who Smarted? (36:44) Graduation transitions (48:24) Outro Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Coaching Resources Ask Us Anything Who Smarted?  

In the Part 2 of our conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our kids a “lens” when it comes to porn and sex on television. He also shares why talking about sex becomes even more important as we age, why he doesn’t use statistics when talking to groups, and how the bottom line for every discussion is about respect and valuing our most important relationships. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps 0:31 Continuing conversation with your kids about porn 2:40 Ways humans respond to threat 11:00 Stats on people who are assaulted 20:53 Engaging in conversation with our kids 24:08 Who Smarted? 28:13 More stats 38:26 false reporting 50:46 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 50:20 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Building a Culture Of Consent and Respect: A Discussion with Mike Domitrz From the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411 Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted?  

Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our kids a “lens” when it comes to porn and sex on television. He also shares why talking about sex becomes even more important as we age, why he doesn’t use statistics when talking to groups, and how the bottom line for every discussion is about respect and valuing our most important relationships. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! About Mike Domitrz and the Center of Respect Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Who Smarted? Time Stamps 5:36 Rape culture principle 8:38 Conquering vs mutuality 13:38 transactional relationships 21:38 Meeting people where they are vs where they want to be 24:10 Who Smarted? 35:40 Discussion on porn 50:20 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 50:20 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Building a Culture Of Consent and Respect: A Discussion with Mike Domitrz From the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411 Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted?  

Cathy & Todd discuss swearing, its origins, and how to talk to your kids about its usage. They also discuss when and how to offer a heartfelt apology, and how to relate and understand other people’s experiences. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 2:31 Apologizing 16:18 Swearing 23:27 Why we swear 28:33 Parenting philosophy on swearing 29:36 Who Smarted? 36:23 Class & Vocabulary 39:40 Swearing and honesty 42:35 Swearing and physiology 48:06 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 48:06 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Pantene ‘Sorry, Not Sorry’ Commercial How To Listen To Each Other- Podcast #695 Swearing Is More Important Than You Think Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons Who Smarted?  

Cathy and Todd discuss the movies that matter most to them, and how they relate to self-awareness, integrity, and even parenting. They discuss how we can use pop culture to communicate and get to know our kids, and how their other podcast, Pop Culturing, is deep dive into Gen X movies and TV. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:14:23 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 1:14:23 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements 1:04:03 Pop Culturing Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Todd & Cathy discuss evidence-based ways to be an effective leader and how to teach and demonstrate leadership to your children. They discuss the importance of early and ongoing social emotional learning, and how everything begins with self-awareness. They also process Adam Grant’s research around give and take, why knowing your “why” is important, and why feedback hits differently depending on your background and experience. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:52 ZPR Moment on Feedback 15:06 Raising generous kids 20:04 The double bind of generosity for women Who Does What? Podcast #698 Women Aren’t Nags, We’re Fed Up- Podcast #495 Real-Time Emotional Labor- Podcast #440 Emotional Labor is an Unpaid Job- Podcast #405 1:03:42 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 1:03:55 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements 1:04:03 Pop Culturing Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Cathy and Todd discuss the research behind parenting styles and how it affects our communication and even our politics. They also discuss the “Tennessee Three” and how it relates to the difference between generations and how we are evolving (or not evolving) as people and as a country. They share a viral TikTok post from GradSchoolGramma that demonstrates what it really looks like parent in a self-aware, compassionate way, and mindful way. Click here to learn more. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:00 Feedback 3:27 New Team Zen Members 5:46 Zen Parenting Moment- Real, Vulnerable, Pay Attention 7:57 Parenting Styles 10:00 Authoritarian 12:24 Todd’s least proud moments 14:18 Permissive 15:54 Uninvolved 16:19 Authoritative 20:55 Tennessee Three 29:57 The well speech 38:57 Grad School Gramma 45:28 Four questions 46:40 Pop Culturing 47:43 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. 47:54 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Cathy & Todd talk with author and educator Jessica Lahey about her book The Addiction Inoculation and the importance of Social Emotional Learning (SEL) when it comes to substance-use disorders, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence and regulation. They discuss the risk factors surrounding addiction and how genetics and culture play a role. Jessica shares what kids most need to hear from us and how we can create conversations about alcohol use, abuse, and the myths that don’t hold up to research. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Jessica Lahey (@jesslahey) is the author of the New York Times bestselling book The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jessica has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She currently serves as a recovery coach at Sana at Stowe, a medical detox and recovery center in Stowe, Vermont, where 100 percent of her salary goes to a scholarship fund for young adults. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 3:55 Who do some people have a problem with SEL in schools? 14:30 Risk factors for substance abuse 19:17 Are there differences in how best to support young men and young women? 24:14 How do we talk to our kids about addiction? 41:20 Telling the truth to our kids 46:20 Escaping and numbing behavior 49:52 The importance of modeling 53:55 Todd’s sister and genetics 100:45 Todd throws up & a discussion about rehab Resources The Gift Of Failure- Podcast #407 Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Daughters Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons  

Cathy and Todd answer listeners question about what to do when life gets messy, unpredictable, and uncertain. They discuss movies to bring the family together, how to support our children who are dealing with friend issues, and how to figure out what “fair” means over and over again. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Ask Us Anything! Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:55 ZPR Moment- Where They Are 13:38 Watching shows with 5th and 8th grade daughters 28:18 Have y’all watched Servant on Apple TV? 29:36 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 33:15 13 year old daughter struggling with new friend group 44:46 Is there anything more I could do as an expectant father? Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Daughters The Representation Project Common Sense Media

Todd & Cathy talk with Michelle Anderson and Lauren Massarella from The Sister Project. They discuss the hygge lifestyle (a Danish word that loosely translates as cozy, comfy, and overall wellness), parenting, birth, and women’s health. Cathy, Michelle and Lauren lost their moms to dementia, so they discuss what it’s like to care for someone with dementia and how to support them through the process of death. They discuss the pain and beauty of grief and how we can take care of ourselves and each other. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 11:16 Hygge 18:24 Embracing discomfort 27:00 How dads show up 28:32 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 40:06 Dimentia 54:30 Guilt 55:25 Death Resources Ask Us Anything Virtual Class: Understanding Our Daughters The Sister Project

Cathy & Todd discuss 4 invitations to being a positive parent. They discuss 1) What do we want for our kids? 2) Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (Intelligence Quotient) & BQ (Body Intelligence) 3) When we cop out 4) Discussion, not discipline. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 5:09 Preview of these 4 invitations 19:04 What is the definition of success? 31:05 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 34:56 The problem with wanting our kids to be happy 43:07 Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (intelligence Quotient) & BQ (Body Intelligence) 47:00 When we cop out 58:40 Discussion, not discipline 1:06:25 Avid Company- Painting and Remodeling throughout the Chicagoland Area   Resources Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters

Cathy & Todd celebrate their 700th episode by discussing the universal principles of Zen Parenting, the importance of civil conversation, and what has remained the same for the last 12 years. Part 1 of 2. Link to Podcast Episode on our website. Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 7:25 The way we engage in discussion 16:50 Self-Awareness 29:57 Scholastic’s book- When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. 30:35 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 32:50 three different ways of being grumpy 38:18 Compassion 39:20 Being on-time 45:25 Mindfulness 51:09 Connection Resources Ask Us Anything Understanding Our Daughters

Todd & Cathy discuss the different aspects of self-compassion and take the quiz to see who is more self-compassionate. They also talk about the movie Grease & Mr. Rogers. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:30 Guys/boys/everyone/y’all 7:15 Zen Parenting Moment- Whole 9:22 Grease 14:50 Self-Compassion basics 24:47 mindfulness 30:14 Scholastic’s book- When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th. Preorder now. 30:52 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 35:45 Mr. Rogers 43:55 Self-Compassionate Quiz 54:30 Purple turkey story Resources Self-Compassion Test

Todd & Cathy share how their roles have changed over the years and who does what around the house. They discuss the importance of communication around household expectations, and how roles are supposed to evolve and change as the kids grow. The discuss how invisible labor can be overlooked and why not everything we “do” can be found on a checklist. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Emotional Labor Checklist This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:15 Thumbs up to Spain 6:43 Brush, the floss? 10:40 Menu- look at it before? 14:00 If you want your partner to worry less, worry more 32:26 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 35:20 Who does what? Resources Household checklist  

Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship (available for preorder NOW, released on 2/28). They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience. Dr. Shefali is hosting a FREE Parenting Mastery Online Summit with 30 Global Experts (Cathy is one of them!). Click here to register. Connect with us! Dr. Shefali Tsabary Parenting Mastery Summit Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 6:40 Love or control/power? 12:29 Why kids lie to us 14:45 Punishment 19:04 Parental ego 26:24 Pinna.fm 36:48 Parenting industrial complex 43:48 Kids Psyche  

Cathy & Todd discuss how our children learn by watching how we live and how we react, and why owning our emotional responses creates connection and opportunity for learning. They discuss the difference between responding and reacting (especially when it comes to anger), why “do what I say, not what I do” doesn’t land well, and why comparing our childhood experiences is like apples and oranges. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 11:24 Zen Parenting Moment 14:40 Emotions- healthy or unhealthy? 23:13 Done. Not using busyness as an excuse 30:06 Pinna.fm 31:05 Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book 35:28 Serenity prayer and the dark days of parenting 47:10 Todd’s money baggage  

Cathy & Todd discuss how we handle trauma, why boys are falling behind in school, and why the emotional intelligence of fathers is essential for cultural change. They also share a personal example of conflict, listening, and repair, and why self-compassion is essential if we are going to communicate effectively. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 3:06 Zen Parenting Moment 3:26 Buffaloes & the cows 11:21 Banshees of Inisherin review 12:40 Women talking 17:59 Scott Galloway on Armchair Expert 30:15 Pinna.fm 31:14 Stillwater and Koo Save the World Children’s Book 32:06 LUFU Listen Until the other person Feels Understood    

Todd & Cathy discuss ways to engage in deeper conversation with teenage boys, and how every suggestion is helpful to all relationships and conversations. They also discuss Prince Harry’s new book Spare, and how he learned to deal with “hover monkeys” and “mind squirrels” when becoming an Apache helicopter pilot. While his experience is unique, what he learned is helpful to all of us. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:20 Six ways to encourage deeper conversations with teenage boys 27:08 Prince Harry (Don’t poke the bear) 33:26 Hover monkeys & mind squirrels  

Cathy and Todd discuss the passing of Cathy’s mom, Cathy’s recent diagnosis and surgery, and how they support each other in a crisis. They discuss their patterns of behavior, what they need from each other, and why showing up for each other in crisis can be difficult. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 1:00 Cathy’s mom’s passing 10:2 Cathy’s breast health 18:38 History of some of Todd’s bad decisions  

Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Cathy’s mom passed away yesterday, and we wanted to share this to honor her. We share some great stories and have some great laughs. Please listen and enjoy – and even more important, be good to each other. In honor of Mother’s Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids. We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to raising us in the 70’s – we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms! Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps  

Todd & Cathy share their experiences of what they find good, true and beautiful, and why finding and discussing these things makes life more meaningful. They talk about the joy of feeding the birds and squirrels, creating a comfortable sleeping environment, and why Todd is never late for a party. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 2:07 Good 21:29 True 27:51 Codependent vs interdependent 36:52 Beautiful Resources Thai commercial

Cathy & Todd discuss 8 peaceful things from 2022 and how to incorporate more peace and joy into 2023. They discuss the importance of music, why we need to embrace our creativity, and the TV shows they are watching with their teenagers. Morgan Harper Nichols Zen Parenting book Phil Stutz The Tools The Vow Drums Taylor Swift The Crown Stranger Things Severance Euphoria The Artists Way Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 5:32 The art and poetry of Morgan Harper Nichols 9:42 Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World 12:05 Self-compassion 25:03 team zen 28:24 Stutz on Netflix and The Tools by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels 29:59 The Vow, A Little Bit Culty, WTF is on my Mind?! with Marc Vicente – 33:10 Drums 38:06 Taylor Swift 41:31 Stranger Things, The Crown, Severance, The Drop Out, The Midnight Club, Euphoria 46:04 The Artists Way Resources  

Todd and Cathy replay their Pop Culturing episode on Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer is a 1964 Christmas stop motion animated television special produced by Videocraft International, Ltd. (later known as Rankin/Bass Productions) and currently distributed by Universal Television. It first aired Sunday, December 6, 1964, on the NBC television network in the United States and was sponsored by General Electric under the umbrella title of The General Electric Fantasy Hour. The special was based on the Johnny Marks song “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” which was itself based on the poem of the same name written in 1939 by Marks’ brother-in-law, Robert L. May. Since 1972, the special has aired on CBS; the network unveiled a high-definition, digitally remastered version of the program in 2005. Trailer: https://youtu.be/V87fsP5B05k Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps Resources  

Todd and Cathy offer 8 suggestions to make the holiday season more connective and less overwhelming. They discuss how to set boundaries, deal with grief, and find ways to limit social media and say no. They also discuss their new Team Zen app and the exclusive podcasts that will be shared on January 10th. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 5:59 Set boundaries 13:45 Be less surprised 19:11 Focus on control 27:24 Say no 28:13 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 30:52 Limit social media 33:34 Prioritize sleep 47:33 Know your #1 priority Resources Control PDF from the Conscious Leadership Group  

Todd and Cathy discuss their experience with the documentary Stutz by Jonah Hill and why developing life force energy is the first step toward any problem. They also discuss the importance of seeing clearly, how to deal with Part X, and why the movie Apollo 13 was an invitation to see and understand each other better. Connect with us! Tuesday, December 6th 12:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Tuesday, December 6th 7:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Stutz: A Documentary Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps 4:32 “Share” Zen Parenting Moment 12:54 Possibility & Perspective 26:54 Life Force 27:49 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 41:08 Part X  

Todd and Cathy discuss how and why our kids trigger us, and how to lessen our reactivity and reframe our experiences. They also discuss the importance of gratitude and why we should learn to ride the waves and roll with the changes. Connect with us! Tuesday, December 6th 12:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Tuesday, December 6th 7:00 PM Central Glenbard Parenting Series featuring Cathy Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 2:20 Zen Parenting Moment 6:11 Todd’s quick takes (Do not disturb) 12:21 It triggers your shame/guilt 17:38 It causes you to question your parenting 24:08 You are taking the behavior personally 28:19 You have an unidentified need in the moment (hungry/tired) 30:03 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 33:07 You feel your child is intentionally being disrespectful 41:41 You were already stressed/irritated 46:33 You expect they should know better 55:38 You feel a lack of control in the situation 58:25 Their big reactions trigger your anxiety or trauma 1:00:42 You didn’t realize the behavior was their way of communicating

Todd and Cathy discuss Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, specifically what it means to manage our “thorns” or inner pain that we react to our do our best to avoid. They discuss the paradoxical nature of life and uncertainty, and how our goal is to manage discomfort, not runaway or avoid. They share some of their mindfulness tools and a new definition of enlightenment. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 10:00 Thorns 30:03 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 41:35 Not going for a ride with your thoughts    

Cathy and Todd discuss how to help our kids discover intrinsic motivation (internally motivated because it feels good and right) instead of extrinsic motivation (external rewards such as grades, praise, fame). They also discuss MenConnect, a solution to the epidemic of lonely men, and how to make mornings calmer and more collaborative. Connect with us! Join Team Zen Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 8:45 Apologize for crying 13:47 MenLiving Connect 17:53 Calm mornings 21:52 Busy or not busy? 30:04 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 55:42 Night Ranger    

Todd and Cathy do a deep dive into the five essential parenting practices that Cathy shared in her Zen Parenting Moment Newsletter last Friday. They share how these practices create connection and meaning in the home and beyond. Connect with us! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys 9:53 Practice self-compassion 21:18 Practice curiosity 23:49 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 34:56 Practice creativity 43:05 Practice listening 47:10 Practice openness    

Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of teaching both values AND safety, and why they work together to create an optimal environment for you kids. They also discuss the top 15 best parenting role models from pop culture and what made them so successful (a few are debatable…). Connect with us! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps: 0:24 Halloween costume talk 8:07 Todd not listening 14:05 Values & Safety 31:46 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off 34:16 Rules 36:08 Kids Taking pictures of their butt 44:00 Cathy shares when she got in trouble as a teenager 46:22 Pop Culturing parenting

Cathy and Todd discuss taking responsibility without blaming ourselves for everything that happens. They discuss how certain self-help books, groups, and cults have the power to convince people that they are “at cause” for everything that happens, negating how outside influences also play a role in eventual outcomes. They discuss the difference between reaction and response, why emotions like anger and envy can be helpful, and of course, Taylor Swift’s new album, Midnights. Connect with us! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12! Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys

Cathy and Todd discuss codependency, enmeshment, over identification, and other issues that can be layered and difficult to define. They share the importance of learning to say no, why boundaries are important in every relationship, and how paying attention and questioning can become a daily habit. Connect with us! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Step out of school and experience independent meaningful learning with Mosaic. Join Mosaic’s Day of Action on October 27th, Sign up and learn more at weareborntolearn.org Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys

Todd and Cathy are interviewed by their friend Dr. Alexandra Solomon. She ask them about how they met, their history, and the trials and tribulations of their couple hood. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Loretta J. Ross: Don’t call people out — call them in | TED ZPR/MenLiving Nami Walk Time Stamp 1:04:58 Avid Co./Team Zen/Todd Adams Coaching Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Todd and Cathy discuss John & Julie Gottman’s research around “bids for connection”, specifically how couples who acknowledge each other’s bids 86% of the time stay married and connected. They also discuss how music and pop culture helps us connect to our kids, and why acknowledging each other’s texts makes a big difference. Hurricane Ian Relief Organizations The Gottman Institute Bids for Affection Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys

Todd and Cathy discuss the practice of gratitude (specifically how to notice, savor, and express) and how it helps the brain pay attention to what’s working. They discuss the four noble truths, appreciating people’s quirks, and songs named after the bands that sing them. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys

Cathy and Todd discuss the wisdom of anxiety and why it’s a messaging system that reminds us to stay curious about ourselves and our loved ones. They process the difference between relieving and numbing anxiety, and how “healing” anxiety can involve getting to the core of our unconscious concerns and worries. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Join Team Zen All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys

Cathy and Todd talk with Sarah Edmonson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames from the A Little Bit Culty Podcast and HBO’s Documentary The Vow. They discuss how we can recognize cultish influence all around us – in the way we use language and jargon, in our communities and groups, and of course, our politics — none of us are completely immune to it. Those of us who consider ourselves seekers – or those of us who consider ourselves teachers, coaches, or healers – can pay attention to how power can distort, how a certain status, belief or community can make us feel more special than others. As parents we need to talk to our kids about this, how a relationship can initially feel good, but then become abusive, how we can slowly be pulled into something that initially feels cool, but then becomes uncomfortable – and most important, how we can teach our kids to question what doesn’t feel right, ask for help, and build a relationship with them where they know we are available to listen and support. Cathy shares how important Sarah and Nippy have been in her life, and how their decisions and dedication to help others continues to be inspiring. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World ZPR/MenLiving Nami Walk Resources A Little Bit Culty Podcast Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult That Bound My Life – by Sarah Edmundson HBO’s The Vow Documentary HBO’s The Vow, Part Two #IGOTOUT Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism – Amanda Montell Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships – Janja Lalich & Madeleine Tobias Cult Expert Steven Hassan’s Freedom of Mind Resource Center All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys

Todd and Cathy discuss Loretta Ross’ 2021 TED Talk titled Don’t Call People Out, Call Them In, about how the most effective activism begins with conversation, connection, and curiosity. They discuss how this applies to partnership and parenting, and how reactiveness and righteousness can get in the way of growth and change. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Loretta J. Ross: Don’t call people out — call them in | TED ZPR/MenLiving Nami Walk Time Stamp 3:30 Missouri spanking school policies 10:14 Zen Parenting Moment “Right Now, Today” 13:35 Loretta Ross Ted Talk 45:20 The parenting/relationship spin 59:35 Avid Co./Team Zen/Todd Adams Coaching Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources September 17th NAMI WALKS YOUR WAY CHICAGO WITH MENLIVING AND ZEN PARENTING RADIO Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Cathy and Todd discuss several conversations that were prompted by the We Can Do Hard Things podcast titled “Why are there no pictures of us?!?!”. They share how they communicate through nuanced and challenging conversations, and how to speak up while also respecting your partner’s perspective. They offer examples of difficult discussions and what lives underneath the discomfort. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Time Stamp   Zen Parenting Moment “Back to School” Avid Co./Team Zen/Todd Adams Coaching Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources Do you “Lose Yourself” in family pictures (and Todd’s hangover stories) Why Are There No Pictures of Us? We Can Do Hard Things Podcast September 17th NAMI WALKS YOUR WAY CHICAGO WITH MENLIVING AND ZEN PARENTING RADIO Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Todd and Cathy discuss the grief and joy of back to school, and why they are memorable moments in time. Todd helps Cathy process through why this time of year is especially hard, and they discuss all the personas and running tapes that live inside of us and want to be heard. They also discuss why it’s important to be gentle with ourselves and how doing our “best” can mean something different every day. Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Time Stamp 7:55 Cameo 13:05 Scottland & Periods 17:07 Zen Parenting Moment “Back to School” 35:24 Gentle 46:23 “Get Back to School Cathy” 1:01:10 Avid Co./Team Zen/Todd Adams Coaching Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources September 17th NAMI WALKS YOUR WAY CHICAGO WITH MENLIVING AND ZEN PARENTING RADIO Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s important for dads to practice feeling so their kids come to them with their pain and big emotions. They discuss why dads think moms are just “better” at feeling, and how kids can develop a trusted relationship, regardless of gender, if they feel seen and heard. They also discuss the importance of integrity and how we can use baseball stats to better understand our parenting. Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Time Stamp 7:38 Team Zen 8:22 Integrity 12:46 Ted Williams 17:36 Humans don’t mind hardship quote 20:11 Jayson Gaddis post on men feeling Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources September 17th NAMI WALKS YOUR WAY CHICAGO WITH MENLIVING AND ZEN PARENTING RADIO Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Cathy and Todd discuss Adam Grant’s research around why humans are fascinating, especially when it comes to parenting and partnership. They also discuss why optimism is essential and the beer-drinking games people play. Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Time Stamp Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources September 17th NAMI WALKS YOUR WAY CHICAGO WITH MENLIVING AND ZEN PARENTING RADIO Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Cathy and Todd discuss how to “practice” peace through embracing our anger and how gender can play a role in how we experience anger. They also discuss how they differ in their driving choices and how making decisions that make you feel peaceful are the best approach. Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Time Stamp   Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources September 17th NAMI WALKS YOUR WAY CHICAGO WITH MENLIVING AND ZEN PARENTING RADIO Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift

Todd and Cathy talked with Dr. Dan Peters, psychologist, author, and host of the Parent Footprint Podcast. They discussed the difference between anxiety, fear, and worry, how to identify “paper” tigers, and how to talk to our kids about real world threats and safety. Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting Radio Time Stamp Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements All things ZPR can be found on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. Resources Dr. Dan’s podcast “Parent Footprint” interview with Cathy Cassani Adams Stranger Things, Unanswered Questions Season 4 (Volume 2) The Best of Taylor Swift