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Todd and Cathy discuss acceptance and emphasize the importance of releasing old ideas and remaining open to new ones in order to figure out how to accept and move forward. They also discuss the reality of nuance and paradox, explaining why decision-making is not about finding the ‘right’ decision, but rather the right decision for right now. The also talk about Tim McGraw’s music and how it reminds us to be our best selves. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Monday Night Wildcard- Why did “Man or Bear” Go Viral? (all genders) Donate to MenLiving Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:04:38) Sign up for Cathy’s Substack (00:10:54) Acceptance (00:12:30) When couples lose themselves and blend (00:28:33) Kids doing it differently (00:29:02) Join Team Zen (00:32:07) When life doesn’t match out blueprint ** (00:41:03) Devil’s advocate on acceptance** (00:59:28) Painting and Remodeling Needs? Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss why necessary conversations are so difficult to manage and why and how we try to avoid them. They share examples of the experiences that lead to avoidance and offer insights into developing understanding instead. They emphasize why the most challenging and reactive conversations can be pivotal for relationships and lead to greater intimacy. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Monday Night Wildcard- Why did “Man or Bear” Go Viral? (all genders) Donate to MenLiving Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:01:40) Cicadas (00:06:35) Todd’s old man tendencies (00:11:40) Relationship talk (00:19:55) It’s not about the thing (00:23:20) The cost of not dealing with conflict (00:30:00) Join Team Zen (00:49:49) Empty nest coaches ** (01:07:30) Painting and Remodeling Needs? Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 (01:07:30) Join Team Zen 3 Ways to Support Us Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss Netflix’s ‘Love on the Spectrum’ and why the people and families featured make it such a good watch. They discuss the importance of loving, and liking, our children just as they are, and how this allows them to thrive, and they analyze Harrison Butker’s speech and why it was offensive in many different ways. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Monday Night Wildcard- Why did “Man or Bear” Go Viral? (all genders) Donate to MenLiving Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:12:16) Love on the Spectrum (00:30:00) Jamming on the Job (00:35:30) Just love your kid ** (00:02:08) Sign up for Cathy’s Substack (01:02:00) Painting and Remodeling Needs? Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 (01:02:30) Join Team Zen 3 Ways to Support Us Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss Gen X slang and intertwine the most popular phrases with clips from the most memorable pop culture moments. They discuss how language changes over time and break down the most popular Gen Z slang, offering suggestions on when to use it (or when not to). Todd and Cathy are hosting a live discussion about the “man or bear” debate on Monday, May 20th at 7pm CT through the MenLiving platform – all genders are welcome, see below for link to join. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Monday Night Wildcard- Why did “Man or Bear” Go Viral? (all genders) Donate to MenLiving Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:02:42) Join Team Zen (00:03:54) Sign up for Cathy’s Substack (00:09:38) Slang (00:36:40) Todd’s English class in high school ** (00:45:15) Gen Z Slang (00:46:00) You’re primitive ** (01:03:00) To Netflix and chill ** (00:48:32) Painting and Remodeling Needs? Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discussed the viral “man or bear” debate, addressing why many women felt compelled to pick “bear” and why some men felt hurt or angry. They discussed the importance of listening and empathy when it comes to other people’s experiences and how being defensive might be our initial reaction, but we can choose compassion and understanding. They also discussed why opting out of something we don’t want to do makes room for the things we do want to do. Todd and Cathy are hosting a live discussion about the “man or bear” debate on Monday, May 20th at 7pm CT through the MenLiving platform – all genders are welcome, see below for link to join. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Monday Night Wildcard- Why did “Man or Bear” Go Viral? (all genders) Donate to MenLiving Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:00:52) Sign up for Cathy’s Substack (00:01:42) Join Team Zen (00:06:11) Cathy opting out ** (00:22:46) Man or bear (00:35:06) Get curious (00:38:52) Power over ** (00:48:32) Painting and Remodeling Needs? Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids in the morning without being too annoying. They also discuss when to use Gen Z slang and when not to, and why not “needing” too much from our kids makes us easier to talk to. They also discuss Taylor’s new album, the movie Swingers, and why pop culture makes for great conversation with our kids. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Donate to MenLiving Join Team Zen Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:00:41) Swingers- movie and lifestyle (00:01:56) Risky Business (00:04:20) Join Team Zen (00:06:45) Actors who are good athletes (00:10:08) The movie “Swingers” and parenting (00:21:53) Todd’s challenges in the morning *** (00:25:55) Sign up for Cathy’s Substack (00:29:45) Understanding teenage slang words (00:47:08) Just be authentic *** (00:52:20) The Bolter by Taylor Swift (00:55:00) Painting and Remodeling Needs? Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Sign up for Cathy’s Substack Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of developing talents and the challenges of pursuing one’s passions. They also emphasized the need for understanding and empathizing when teenage boys lash out or question their belonging (they share an audioclip from Dr. John Duffy). They shared the difference between empathy and sympathy, and why it’s important to be really clear about what you need and ask for it. They ended the show by discussing the victim, villain, hero triangle and what it really means when you are ‘hero-ing’ someone. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Donate to MenLiving Join Team Zen Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:03:44) Passion vs Talent (00:27:14) Do our boys feel lost? (00:29:35) Join Team Zen (00:42:02) Empathy vs sympathy (00:48:25) Not letting it sit * (00:59:26) Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the distinction between weaponized incompetence and regular incompetence, exploring how gender norms and societal expectations shape these ideas. They engage in real-time reflection on how they navigate these dynamics within their partnership and parenting, and they stress the need for communication and flexibility depending on the situation. This is a good episode to listen to with your partner or friends! Lots of issues to discuss and process. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Donate to MenLiving Join Team Zen Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:29:15) Join Team Zen (00:39:25) Cathy “I’m good at this” * (00:50:44) Seeing vs needing * (01:03:48) Weaponized incompetence ? through the lens of making the bed * (00:59:26) Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss two factors that make parenting feel more self-directed and understandable. While it will still be messy, unpredictable, and tiring, at least you will feel more in your integrity while doing it! They also talk about listening skills, anxiety, NCAA basketball, and Beyoncé’s new album. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Donate to MenLiving Join Team Zen MenLiving Eastern Advance Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Intro (00:03:34) Tournament of Bad (00:10:24) 5 regrets of dying (00:15:30) The differences in the way we watch sports (00:29:06) The first secret to parenting (00:37:30) The second secret to parenting (00:38:05) Todd’s Starbuck’s story (00:40:11) Cathy’s late bus story (00:52:00) The 1 rule of parenting (00:59:26) Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss about how genuine curiosity helps our kids really hear us and value what we’re saying. The same goes for understanding each other in a partnership or empathizing with someone from a different gender perspective. When we’re open about not having all the answers, it paves the way for learning and staying connected. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Donate to MenLiving Join Team Zen MenLiving Eastern Advance Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Intro (00:19:31) Team Zen (00:21:27) Can’t throw water at a closed door (00:26:24) Having a conversation with your kids about Sephora * (00:40:42) The greatness of Caitlin Clark- the difference ways of greatness * (00:48:41) Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of emotional conversations with our kids and why we need to pay attention to how we experience and perceive what our children are telling us. They discuss what kids really need from us when they are emotional and how we can support them without absolving or absorbing their pain. They also discuss Friday Night Videos and commercials from the 80’s. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen MenLiving Eastern Advance Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Intro (00:12:54) The Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Conversations (00:20:40) Cathy’s experience of parents at school presentations (00:30:08) Team Zen (00:35:03) The two phrases that can help (00:40:08) What to do when they dump all of their day right before you go to bed (00:42:00) How to prep for the emotional conversations (00:58:48) Todd’s vs Cathy’s default (01:03:23) Jeremy Kraft Avid Co- Jeremy Kraft the bald-headed beauty from Avid Co – Painting and remodeling for the western suburbs 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd & Cathy discuss why it’s the ordinary moments that make us feel connected and content, and why what we end up missing are the simple things, not the big things. They also discuss the five things that make someone a Gen Xer, have a follow-up discussion about astrology and its usefulness, and Cathy talks about her new book RESTORING OUR GIRLS, coming in early 2025. Join Team Zen to hear Cathy & Todd’s talk about bringing genuine romance back into your relationship (3/18, 7 pm). For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen MenLiving Eastern Advance Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:01:22) ZPR Women’s March Madness Pool (00:08:06) Moment- Astrology (00:13:25) The warrior “bang bang” * (00:16:28) Tournament of Bad -Frustrations with kids and doordash (00:21:15) Workshop titled “Sephora Kids” (00:26:42) Team Zen (00:30:52) Restoring Our Girls Announcement (00:36:27) The Ordinary is the Extraordinary (01:00:05) Jeremy Kraft Avid Co- Jeremy Kraft the bald-headed beauty from Avid Co – Painting and remodeling for the western suburbs 630-956-1800 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss the stories we create about our lives and process whether or not we can reconsider our stories – not to deny reality, but to focus on what’s working rather than what’s lost. They also talk about role models for men, why it’s important to acknowledge every aspect of ourselves, what’s going on with Hall&Oates, and whether or not astrology is a science-based tool. Join Team Zen to hear Cathy & Todd’s talk about bringing genuine romance back into your relationship (3/18, 7 pm). For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources David Serrano Personal Financial Advisor Join Team Zen Monday Night Wildcard- True Romance (all genders) MenLiving Eastern Advance Jeremy Kraft from Avid Painting and Remodeling 630-956-1800 Time Stamps (00:09:45) Ghosts- (00:15:19) Travis and Jason Kelse- healthy masculinity? (00:26:55) Zen Parenting Moment brought to you by David Serrano Financial Advisor Services 815-370-3780 (00:30:39) Stories and meaning we create (00:31:10) Team Zen (00:43:32) Astrology (01:02:10) Jeremy Kraft from Avid Co – Painting and remodeling for the western suburbs 630-956-1800 (00:09:45) Zen Parenting Moment brought to you by 815-370-3780 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss why we struggle to show up as fully ourselves in groups, and how we can get better at noticing this behavior. Then Todd says, “I’m just not feeling it” so they move into a pop culture conversation that seems to be about nothing, or maybe it was about a lot of little somethings including Bon Jovi, the members of New Edition, why stuffed animals are important, how Cathy got their daughter to stop stealing her brush, why Cathy’s college friends are so funny, and the importance of capybaras, cats, interrogation videos and gorillas on Reels & TikTok. Join Team Zen to hear Cathy & Todd’s talk about bringing genuine romance back into your relationship (3/18, 7 pm). For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources David Serrano Personal Financial Advisor Join Team Zen Monday Night Wildcard- True Romance (all genders) MenLiving Eastern Advance Avid Painting and Remodeling Time Stamps (00:05:56) Bad Medicine (00:09:45) Zen Parenting Moment brought to you by David Serrano Financial Advisor Services 815-370-3780 (00:14:54) Cool it now (00:16:37) Kids love to correct us (00:18:42) Kids need to conform (00:20:49) Cathy’s meditation area (00:24:53) Cathy’s trivia (00:27:42) A discussion about Monkey (00:36:25) Cathy laughs hard (00:39:43) Favorite animals (00:28:22) The show is about nothing (00:50:15) Monday Night Wildcard- True Romance (all genders) (00:51:35) Join Team Zen (00:52:48) MenLiving Eastern Advance 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss how our upbringing shapes our current approach to parenting, share why some traditional parenting tricks fall short, and attempt to redefine romance—it’s not just about grand gestures, but the heartfelt intentions behind them. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources David Serrano Personal Financial Advisor Join Team Zen WHY TIME-OUTS DON’T WORK – WHAT TO DO INSTEAD MenLiving Eastern Advance Time Stamps (00:03:43) Zen Parenting Moment brought to you by Financial Advisor David Serrano (00:09:18) Why timeouts don’t work (00:15:13) The should of motherhood (00:28:00) David Serrano Financial Advisor Services 815-370-3780 (00:28:54) Join Team Zen (00:29:58) Drinking in front of our kids (00:39:09) Being romantic (or not) 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss an article from The New York Times titled, ‘Parents Are Highly Involved in Their Adult Children’s Lives, and Fine With It,‘ explaining that staying intimately connected to our older children has benefits, not just risks, and most young adults agree. They discuss the perspectives of previous generations and why things have changed, as well as why it’s easy to stay connected due to devices and the research around effective parenting. They also discuss the fascination with OOTD (outfit of the day) and GRWM (get ready with me) on social media and how we can talk to our kids about comparison culture and self-worth. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources David Serrano Personal Financial Advisor Join Team Zen Parents Are Highly Involved in Their Adult Children’s Lives, and Fine With It Time Stamps (00:01:52) Zen Parenting Moment brought to you by Financial Advisor David Serrano (00:03:11) Secret love commercial (00:15:38) Macaroni & cheese (00:20:54) Parents Are Highly Involved in Their Adult Children’s Lives, and Fine With It (00:26:44) David Serrano Financial Advisor Services 815-370-3780 (00:27:38) Join Team Zen (00:28:50) Todd’s stories generation comparison 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy talk with Author Nate Klemp about his new book, Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World. They discuss why technology is addictive and so appealing, and how it’s not our fault that we are attracted to screens and scrolling. They also discuss how being closed leads to polarization and conspiracy theories, while staying open reconnects us and helps us see the world in a new and more optimistic way. Nate shares his experiences with screen bingeing, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and meeting people who think differently, emphasizing the importance of being willing to have a conversation. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World Time Stamps (00:01:45) Defining open and closed (00:08:05) Why devices are good at holding our attention (00:9:50) 15 minute thinking in a room experiment (00:11:12) Screen seduction- It’s David vs Goliath (00:14:08) Gum surgery w/o anastesia (00:19:40) Two different ways to open (00:26:56) Acorn and the oak tree (00:30:47) David Serrano Financial Advisor Services 815-370-3780 (00:31:42) Join Team Zen (00:34:12) Psychedelics (00:51:40) Experience with the NRA 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss the explosion of online sports betting and why kids and teens are more likely to develop a gambling disorder than adults. They discuss the reasons why teens use it, how AI is being used to market at them, and how, just like weed, alcohol, and porn, it necessitates an ongoing conversation to make sure our kids understand how it works (not in their favor) and the possible consequences. They also discuss why setting boundaries is essential to practice true empathy and how the 2024 Grammys were a Gen X dream. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Time Stamps (00:03:04) Is too much empathy a bad thing? (00:08:05) Finding the middle * (00:17:27) On-line gambling (00:19:54) 60 minutes clip (00:30:00) David Serrano Financial Advisor Services 815-370-3780 (00:30:53) Join Team Zen (00:51:09) What parents need to know * (00:55:17 ) What the data suggests (00:58:12) What’s next * 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss the two types of messy conversations and explain why it’s important to know the difference if you want to connect with your kid. They discuss the awesomeness of Zen Parenting, 2024 and share some of the most important lessons learned. They also highlight the significance of knowing less, listening more, and discovering what ‘time well spent’ means. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:07:04) Messy Conversations (00:12:52) Statements/behaviors/beliefs that happen in a “closed/messy conversation” (00:28:26) Setbacks or failures? (00:29:11) Join Team Zen Circle (00:32:08) The good that comes from bad messy conversations 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

In Part Three of our three-part series with Dr. John Duffy, author of ‘Rescuing Our Sons,‘ John discusses why boys are more likely to experience school refusal, what they are learning from porn, why weed is their drug of choice, and offers some solutions to the boy crisis in America. Find Parts One and Two in the show notes. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:02:37) School refusal (00:10:17) Porn (00:12:39) HOCD- Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (00:14:51) Weed (00:18:30) ZPR Conference (00:19:02) Join Team Zen Circle (00:21:54) Juul (00:24:37) School shooter (00:28:30) Solutions (00:32:55) Conclusion 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

In Part Two of our three-part series with Dr. John Duffy, author of ‘Rescuing Our Sons,’ John shares why emotional intelligence is crucial for boys. He tells a story about one of his clients who took a gender studies class and explores the ‘Taylor Swift effect,’ emphasizing why boys need more of this kind of joy. Find Part One in the show notes and tune in tomorrow for Part Three. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:07:42) Ryan’s story (00:14:06) ZPR Conference (00:14:36) Join Team Zen Circle (00:21:45) Emotional intelligence (00:23:26) Taylor Swift Effect (00:28:04) Growing up looking through men’s eyes 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd interview Dr. John Duffy, author of ‘Rescuing Our Sons,’ discussing his book and the state of boys in America. In the first part of a three-part series, they explore John’s experiences while talking with boys during therapy, the reasons boys feel like they don’t belong, and the lack of male role models for boys today. Listen tomorrow for Part Two. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:02:43) Tournament of curious   3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the power of words and how their significance is subjective to the person using them. They focus on the necessity of being seen, emphasizing how the quality of our partnerships and parenting is influenced by our ability to truly see others. The discuss what it means to have a healthy relationship and share why anecdotal evidence may not always be conclusive. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:02:43) Tournament of curious (00:08:12) The Need to Be Seen Blog (00:026:14) See what I’m doing * (00:28:57) Kids rolling eyes* (00:31:25) Conference & Team Zen (00:33:05) The nuance of words… Healthy (00:53:15) The nuance of words… Abuse (01:04:35) The nuance of words… Empathy & Sympathy (01:05:59) The nuance of words… Celebration of life 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd share the best clips from interviews with their friends Michelle Icard, Dr. Devorah Heitner, Dr. John Duffy, and Dr. Alexandra Solomon (they are all keynote speakers at Zen Parenting, 2024, Jan 26&27)! They also discuss the heightened skincare of teens, why we need so many sweatshirts, and why conflict is so common in our most important relationships. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:03:44) Tournament of Bad (00:04:08) Golden globes (00:04:54) Water bottles (00:06:24) face cream * (00:19:01) Dr. Devorah Heitner (00:23:40) Michelle Icard (00:31:35) Owen O’Keefe * (00:33:49) Dr. John Duffy (00:36:46) Dr. Alexandra Solomon (00:38:47) Todd & Cathy’s disconnector types * (00:50:50) You’re losing me- Taylor Swift * 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s important to process how the holidays went before moving forward—what worked, what didn’t, and what can be repaired or celebrated. They also focus on school refusal after the holidays, emotional labor during the holidays, and answer a question about what’s most important when raising boys. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:40) Advice on raising boys (00:11:01) Purple turkey story (00:15:04) How did it go? (00:17:31) School refusal * (00:26:08) Zen Parenting Conference (00:26:36) Team Zen Circle (00:29:24) putting up the gate * (00:30:27) Cookie monster story * (00:36:38) Mom’s feel like they’re on an island 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship. They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:26:52) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:27:24) Team Zen Circle 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite holiday movies, what makes them great, and whether or not they are truly holiday movies. They share clips from the best movies and finish with the top 20 best holiday movies of all time. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:10) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:04:07) Cathy’s Moment- 4 reminders for the holidays (00:14:05) Litmus test for a holiday movie (00:22:22) Top 5 holiday movies (00:27:48) Team Zen Circle (00:28:54) Purple Rocket Podcast 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy talk with Michelle Icard, the author of ’14 Talks by Age 14′ and her new book, ‘8 Setbacks that Can Make a Child a Success.’ They discuss why we try to manage everyone’s emotions, the challenges of letting our kids experience failure, and how embracing these challenges can contribute to building their character and enabling them to navigate their own lives. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources Michelle Icard Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:13:04) Managing everybody’s emotions (00:19:45) Hero and rescuer energy (00:27:17) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:27:48) Team Zen Circle (00:28:54) Purple Rocket Podcast (00:34:50) Son with braces for 6 years * 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss gender norms and explore ways to validate, acknowledge, and challenge them. They also dive into the comedy of Nate Bargatze, highlighting its observational nature that prompts thought and reflection. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources 12/14/23 7:00 PM Rescuing Our Boys: A Q & A with Dr. John Duffy Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys Join Team Zen Attend ZPR Conference 2024 Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (Football) (00:08:05) Gender Norms (00:15:00) Fantasy trophy (00:18:58) Golden Tee * (00:24:48) Rolling towels (00:27:20) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:27:48) Team Zen Circle (00:42:15) Todd’s toe nails * (00:51:11) Masculinity * 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss how to create strong support systems for our kids, allowing them to have new and unique experiences and build relationships that contribute to their self-understanding. Teaching them about boundaries, encouraging them to ask for help, and making sure they know it’s totally okay to speak up if something feels off give them the confidence to trust themselves, even when you’re not right there with them. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Resources 12/14/23 7:00 PM Rescuing Our Boys: A Q & A with Dr. John Duffy Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:39) Rescuing our sons (00:09:45) Main topic- Strong support system (00:15:20) Growing up in the 80’s (00:23:55) Skylar’s experience of drama camp (00:25:38) Family & friends (00:26:58) Team Zen Circle (00:27:25) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:28:32) Mindfulness for beginners (00:29:42) Jacey in Italy (00:32:00) Be on your kids team * (00:39:54) Extracurriculars (00:43:16) Know your kids (00:45:08) How does our childhood direct our parenting * 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy dive deep into some quotes about gratitude and explore how to incorporate gratitude into our everyday and ordinary lives. They also answer some listener’s questions and play clips from Planes, Trains, and Automobiles (the best Thanksgiving movie!) and Nate Bargatze’s stand-up. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:12)- neurobiology of gratitude (00:12:21) JFK Quote (00:13:15) Listening * (00:25:35) AUA (Ask Us Anything) teenage boy not up for chores (00:31:44) Mindfulness for beginners (00:32:10) Team Zen Circle (00:32:35) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:36:52) Communicating with a 6 year old (00:42:53) Teenagers are shutting down as they get older 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd talk with Patrice Lenowitz, Executive Director of The Nurtured Parent, domestic abuse survivor, victims’ rights advocate, activist, and mother of Max, who tragically died of fentanyl poisoning in 2022. Patrice is now on a mission to raise awareness around Fentanyl Poisoning through legislation and education and to help parents understand why and how kids are exposed. She also talks about the importance of supporting our youth when it comes to trauma, anxiety, and depression, to decrease the likelihood of street drug usage to alleviate their pain. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:02) Patrice Lenowitz intro (00:03:13) Max’s story * (00:08:50) Where fentanyl comes from (00:16:43) Patrice’s resilience (00:20:15) Legislation (00:25:07) fentanyl test strips (00:26:32) warning for our kids (00:31:44) Mindfulness for beginners (00:32:10) Team Zen Circle (00:32:35) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference (00:36:12) Warning for our kids (00:37:24) why does fentanyl show up in other drugs * (00:42:09) Narcan (00:48:05) Talking to our kids (00:56:10) managing feelings (01:04:03) Takeaway * 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Picture of Max Picture of Max, Patrice, and Patrice’s mom DEA Fentanyl Parent Flier Legislation: NJ SJR128 Article: Governor Phil Murphy Signs bi-partisan resolution designating July 14th as Fentanyl Poisoning Awareness Day for State of New Jersey Article: The Agony of Losing a Child – Local Family Powers Fentanyl Poisoning Awareness PBS Spotlight News: Senator Menendez Press Conference – Fend Off Fentanyl Article: Atlantic County and State Leaders discuss fight against Fentanyl Fentanyl Poisoning Awareness Campaign: To learn more, click HERE Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss entitlement and how to better relate and understand our kids. They talk about the importance of intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation, why it takes kids time to change their behavior, and how to avoid using shame when communicating family values. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:37) Tournament of Bad- glasses/purse (00:05:57) Get him a body bag * (00:08:08) Entitlement (00:09:55) Michigan Marching Band (00:17:29) Examples of entitlement (00:24:47) Intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation (00:28:23) Grades (00:35:14) When kids want things (00:40:36) Controlling parents (00:42:33) Conformity versus independence (00:43:28) Two things blend in and stand out * (00:44:55) Todd’s drinking (00:47:14) Why kids get annoyed at parents * (00:48:32) Household chores (00:50:10) Making lunches (00:54:39) Summary 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the loss of Matthew Perry and the significance of Chandler and the TV show “FRIENDS” for our generation. They also share strategies for addressing anxiety with children, focusing on normalizing, accepting, and preventing emotions from becoming overwhelming. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:45) Emasculation & men (00:11:19) Anxiety (00:23:11) “Write it down” technique (00:26:35) Other anxiety minimization techniques (00:29:49) Bill Hader on anxiety (00:33:02) Zen Parenting Conference, TeamZen Circle, and Zen Parenting, THE BOOK (00:34:42) Matthew Perry (00:57:55)Friends trivia (01:07:45) Todd’s outro music (Friend’s Theme) 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss empathic listening and how to respond with curiosity and non-judgment when our kids ask difficult questions. Whether it pertains to conflicts abroad or everyday challenges, the capacity to listen to our children is something we can continuously improve over time. Additionally, our ability to understand our partner’s communication style and needs can help us avoid conflicts. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:55) Tournament of bad (00:04:16) Todd’s hot-take – college football players make amends after controversial hit (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RP26cxxnpOo) (00:05:31) Cathy’s hot-take – Taylor Swift movie. (00:09:08) Zen Parenting moment (00:15:28) Empathic listening (00:19:48) Difference b/w Cathy and Todd listening (27:09:00) Zen Parenting Conference, TeamZen Circle, and Zen Parenting, THE BOOK (36:36:00) What do we all want + listening tools (42:00:00) The sake of relationships, get curious (46:23:00) Reflective listening (53:45:00) Summarizing techniques (56:33:00) Todd’s outro music (The End by The Doors)   3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd exchange quotes and mantras that remind them to stay in the moment, alleviate their anxiety, and prompt them to center their thoughts on gratitude. They discuss how they use these phrases and explore why our brains tend to fixate on what’s wrong rather than what’s already working. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction and the podcast’s motto. (00:00:37) Discussing Cathy’s meditation area, post-it notes, and the importance of quotes and mantras. (00:01:30) Mention of Michael Singer’s “The Untethered Soul” and its influence. (00:01:50) Introduction to the Zen Parenting in-person event focusing on teens: discussing the complexities and challenges faced by today’s teenagers. (00:03:00) Explanation of the event’s approach: Opening up conversations and fostering communication with teenagers. (00:04:15) The importance of understanding and accepting children as they are. (00:06:20) Discussion on neurodiversity and the challenges of labeling. (00:09:03) The significance of self-awareness in parenting and personal growth. (00:12:45) Diving deeper into specific quotes and mantras that inspire Cathy and Todd. (00:14:47) Delving into the mantra of “You are enough” and its implications. (00:18:07) Reflecting on the interconnectedness of life and the importance of perspective. (00:28:19) Exploring the idea of “letting go” and its relevance in various life situations. (00:34:20) The role of vulnerability in personal development and parenting. (00:42:16) The concept of “holding space” for oneself and others. (00:43:56) The importance of gratitude and its impact on daily life. 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

In this episode of Zen Parenting Radio, Todd and Cathy have a thoughtful conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship expert and clinical psychologist. They discuss Dr. Solomon’s upcoming book, “Love Every Day,” providing listeners with helpful insights into love, relationships, and self-discovery. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:28) Relationships and marriage with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (00:02:00) A popular college course on intimate relationships (00:06:10) Daily book format and personal growth (00:09:10) Exploring relational self-awareness: A key foundation for healthy relationships (00:15:20) The challenges of empty nest syndrome: Dr. Solomon and the hosts share their experiences (00:19:00) Tangled emotions and the transition of children leaving home: A deep dive into parental enmeshment (00:21:47) How seasonal transitions can impact emotional responses (00:24:38) Parenting Through Change: The Importance of Repair Strategies in Family Relationships (00:26:40) Discussed the importance of self-compassion and humility (00:31:47) Parenting, emotions, and nuance (00:34:07) Discussed the importance of discernment (00:39:00) Emotional dynamics in a relationship (00:42:07) Delve into the challenges and responses associated with male vulnerability and emotional expression within relationships. (00:48:49) Emotional Intimacy, self-awareness, and vulnerability in a relationship (00:55:00) Writing, trolling, and empathy (01:01:10) Creating lifelong relationships with children (01:02:46) Supporting teen and young adult relationships (01:04:20) Conflict and repair are highlighted as crucial aspects of relationships (01:04:49) Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s book is releasing on October 10th “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive” 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd revisit Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” (1989) and discuss how each habit can help us improve our relationships with ourselves and our loved ones. They also explore why a paradigm shift is the key to reducing anxiety and enhancing our understanding of others. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction: Aligning with Stephen Covey’s Principles (00:02:07) Everyday Parenting: Putting First Things First (00:06:00) Joining the Zen Circle: Community and Synergy (00:10:26) Family Mission Statements: Begin with the End in Mind (00:16:38) Empathy in Daily Interactions: Emotional Deposits in Relationship Bank Accounts (00:20:40) Reacting vs. Responding: The Power of Being Proactive (00:24:25) Control and Choice: Understanding Your Circle of Influence (00:27:14) Questioning Time: Prioritizing What Really Matters (00:30:06) Crafting a Family Vision: Aligning Goals and Values (00:40:06) Emotional Wisdom: The Principle of Think Win-Win (00:42:26) Interdependence in Family: A Nod to Think Win-Win (00:44:54) Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: The Undercurrent of Effective Habits (00:48:12) Understanding Perspectives: Synergize for Better Outcomes (00:52:00) Being Flawed and Beautiful: Sharpen the Saw for Self-Improvement (00:54:11) Continuous Self-Improvement: Another Look at Sharpen the Saw (00:58:37) Pre-Conference Activities: Synergize in Action (01:00:00) Wrap-Up: Connecting the Dots with Covey’s Principles (01:02:00) Final Thoughts: Implementing the 7 Habits in Parenting 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd talk with Jennifer Wallace about her New York Times Bestseller Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It. They discuss the definition of happiness and why parents feel so pressured to help their kids “succeed”. They also process the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivators, why interdependence changes our perspective, and why “mattering” is the key to family wellbeing. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Timestamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:45) Parental pressure and the definition of success (00:10:45) The pressure parents feel to secure their children’s economic futures (00:12:30) Parenting and education in a rapidly changing world (00:15:13) Raising sons and promoting interdependence (00:19:35) Community building and gratitude (00:25:08) Maternal warmth and a strong work ethic can contribute to raising happy and successful children (00:26:07) The impact of values on well-being, including the difference between materialistic values and intrinsic values (00:28:33) The importance of open and explicit conversations about values and the need to understand how children perceive our communication (00:36:13) Parental love and valuing children’s efforts regardless of success (00:41:17) Jennifer discussed how kids talked about the struggles of their parents regulating their own emotions (00:43:00) Parenting and self-awareness (00:48:00) Emphasizing the importance of maintaining the mental health and resilience of primary caregivers when a child is in distress (00:50:40) The Importance of Deliberate Time and Vulnerability (00:51:15) Prioritizing Sleep and Balanced Living (00:53:11) The Pressure of Achieving in Academics (00:56:35) Achievement Creep and Its Effects (01:00:00) The Role of Mattering in Success (01:02:17) Closing Thoughts and Book Recommendation 3 Ways to Support Us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the differences between ADHD in men and women and the reasons why so many adult women are getting diagnosed today. They do a follow up about highly sensitive people (HSP), discuss the #GRWM craze, and share an 80’s commercial that will get stuck in your brain. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Check out Zen Parenting Weekend 2024 Video Montage Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:07:45) GRWM, get ready with me (00:10:55) Societal expectations of women’s appearance (00:13:40) Societal beauty standards and their impact on women’s self-esteem (00:18:12) 80s candy bar commercials and earworms (00:20:10) What is the overlap between highly sensitive people and autism? (00:22:02) ADHD diagnosis and gender differences (00:25:26) ADHD is now being diagnosed more frequently in women, especially in the Gen X age group (00:26:10) Undiagnosed ADHD in women often leads to anxiety as the presenting feature (00:28:52) Our partner of the week What if World Podcast– a storytelling podcast for kids (00:29:07) Discussion about three types of ADHD: Inattentive, Hyperactive, and Hybrid (00:32:25) Women with ADHD may develop strong coping skills like list-making and reminders (00:36:22) Adults with ADHD may have a harder time recognizing their own challenges because of their coping mechanisms (00:37:31) Medication is one option for managing ADHD, but it’s not the only one. (00:40:00) Understanding how individuals arrive at their beliefs can lead to healthier conversations and connections (00:41:10) Labels and frameworks can help us understand and empathize with people who experience the world differently (00:49:00) Rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is a common experience among women with ADHD, leading to self-blame and self-criticism (00:50:45) Recognizing that individuals’ experiences can vary greatly helps foster empathy and understanding (00:51:30) Women often face unique challenges and safety concerns in various situations, which can be frustrating for those who care about them. (00::55:25) Jeremy Kraft, a contractor in the Chicagoland area (00:55:44) Get tickets for Zen Parenting 2024 Resources   Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy converse with Dr. Devorah Heitner, the author of “Screenwise” and her NEW book “Growing Up in Public.” They discuss the downsides and benefits of tracking your kids, whether it’s a good idea to read your kids’ texts, how to address the topic of sexting, and whether colleges are scrutinizing your kids’ posts. Her book is now available as of September 12th, and it’s a must-read! For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:50) Discussion about upcoming event, Zen Parenting 2024 (00:04:50) Cathy discussed Devorah’s book: “Growing Up in Public” (00:06:00) A discussion of surveillance devices and how parents and schools track children (00:09:35) Todd and Devorah have a brief conversation about nuance (00:18:55) Discuss the pros and cons of monitoring texts and online interactions with friends. (00:22:18) Dr. Devorah highlights the need to understand adolescent language experimentation and differentiate between typical behavior and more problematic language (00:26:15) Do our kids use the phone to call people that often? (00:31:20) Let’s take responsibility! (00:34:12) It’s important for kids to understand that life is a performance (00:35:01) Our partner of the week What if World Podcast– a storytelling podcast for kids (00:36:42) Growing up in the public eye (00:38:40) Discussion about body image (00:42:10) Discussion about posting children on social media and respecting their privacy. (00:47:45) Kids are coming out on social media (00:51:42) Privacy and consent are crucial when it comes to sharing explicit images or sexting, especially among teenagers (00:56:30) The double standard of sexting and sexual harassment (01:00:00) The importance of building strong self-esteem in kids to empower them to say no and not succumb to peer pressure is highlighted (01:01:50) Sex education is discussed, emphasizing the need for early conversations about body image, consent, and healthy relationships, rather than waiting until later in adolescence (01:07:00) A nuanced approach to addressing harmful behavior online is advocated, focusing on educating and supporting the entire community rather than scapegoating individuals 3 Ways to support us Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys   Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy discuss the three different types of perfectionism and why trying to perfect actually backfires and leads to fragility. They discuss why our culture has overvalued the idea of being perfect, the importance of humanizing over humiliating, and they answer a follow-up question about highly sensitive children. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:15) How long do you let tantrums last for a six year old? (00:10:06) How normal is it for a six year old to have a tantrum? (00:11:20) Do you support a six year old’s fear without being pushy or passive? (00:12:48) What about a six year old who has verbalized thoughts like, ‘I’m a bad daughter’ (00:18:15) Comparisons can lead to unnecessary stress and a sense of inadequacy (00:24:30) What’s the difference between a toddler and a teenager? (00:27:10) Upcoming episode with Devorah Heitner (00:27:29) Where’s the line between doing things for her and letting her do them herself? (00:28:25) Discussion about perfectionism and how it can impact individuals (00:30:57) What’s the difference between other oriented and, socially prescribed? (00:34:06) They emphasize the negative effects of perfectionism, such as making individuals fragile in the face of failure and preventing them from admitting mistakes (00:39:07) Do you want to be with someone who’s such a perfectionist that you can’t let go? (00:40:34) Importance of recognizing that success stories are not the only valid narratives (00:45:00) Prioritizing Human Well-Being Over Economic Metrics (00:50:00) Significance of humanizing rather than humiliating children when they make mistakes, promoting empathy and understanding (00:52:22) Sponsor Spotlight: Jeremy Kraft – Chicagoland Remodeling Specialist (00:52:36) Discover Team Zen: Access Exclusive Parenting Content 3 Ways to support us Join us for ZPR 2024 Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys   Resources Zen Parenting 2024 Dad Holding Space for His Daughter’s Big Feelings Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the concept of being a highly sensitive person, and they explore how it feels to be a highly sensitive kid. They also address “ASK US ANYTHING” questions from listeners, offering guidance on how to talk to your kids about behavior modification charts in school (when they’re not used at home) and providing advice on how to relate to an irritable and uncooperative child. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:00) Zen Parenting Moment: “When I Was Your Age” (00:08:50) Balancing Heart-Centered Parenting with School’s Reward-Punishment System (00:16:45) Understanding Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) (00:21:30) Cathy shares her personal experience as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) (00:24:24) Emotional Sensitivity of HSPs (00:25:03) Our partner of the week Koko Sleep – Bedtime Stories & Meditations For Kids (00:25:03) Sensory Sensitivities in HSPs (00:25:30) Empathy and Intuition in HSPs (00:26:35) Depth of Processing in HSPs (00:28:15) Navigating Overstimulation (00:29:30) The importance of understanding your kids (00:32:30) Being highly sensitive is not an issue; rather, it’s a unique trait (00:36:00) What Is Neurodiversity on the Spectrum? (00:42:30) Cathy and Todd Discuss Parenting and Accommodating Children (00:50:00) Upcoming Zen Talk with Devorah Heitner and her Book “Growing Up in Public” Release 3 Ways to support us Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys   Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss Jack Kornfield’s advice for reducing anxiety, and how fear, history, and programming can make it more difficult. They process why back-to-school is particularly challenging for parents, and the simultaneous presence of joy and grief as children grow and transition. They are joined by Millie Hsi, a friend and member of their Team Zen virtual community, who shares her personal experiences and insights on coping with anxiety. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Join Team Zen Subscribe to our YouTube Page Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:55) Milli talks about her involvement in the community and her favorite part of community (00:07:28) Todd Introduces Anxiety and Emotional Well-being (00:08:09) Parental Role as the Last Line of Defense (00:10:21) Significance and Prevalence of Anxiety Today (00:11:00) Step 1: Learning from Jack Kornfield, how to deal with anxiety better (00:14:17) Importance of Naming Anxiety (00:16:05) Acknowledgment of anxiety as a human experience and the physiological and cultural reasons behind it are discussed (00:18:40) Personal Experience with Anxiety (00:22:53) Step 2: How to work through anxiety? (00:25:19) What’s the thing that makes you most anxious? (00:28:45) Step 3 The wisdom of insecurity (00:30:40) Our partner of the week Koko Sleep – Bedtime Stories & Meditations For Kids (00:31:30) Discussion about perfectionism (00:35:50) Shifting away from what you want to say to what you need to hear. (00:37:55) Step 4: How many of us do something like that when we’re being paralyzed with anxiety? (00:44:10) Step 5: Question your thoughts (00:50:40) Step 6: Find where you feel the anxiety most strongly in your body (00:54:47) Crying in front of your kids (1:00:00) The parts of us- Richard Schwartz Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd and Cathy welcome Shaun Emerson and Chris Lozier, hosts of the If You’ve Come This Far podcast. They discuss why it can be difficult to discuss men and women’s issues without getting defensive, and why statistics may point toward progress, but reality still feels imbalanced. They debate the effectiveness of frameworks and personality tests in personal growth, and how labels can be freeing but also stunting. They process how knowledge is vital, but transforming our knowledge into practice is what really leads to meaningful change. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps   Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Cathy and Todd discuss the many layers of Barbie and why it has become such a phenomenon and lightning rod when it comes to discussing gender differences. They share candidly about seeing each other’s perspectives, how to think critically, and how to bring our ‘whole’ selves into the viewing experience. They discuss why the movie is an existential crisis, a representation of girlhood and womanhood, and an absolute paradox all at the same time. This is a good podcast to listen to with your partner and/or family! For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:50) Existential crisis (00:10:00) Beta male (00:13:50) The Problem with the word “Woke” (00:17:18) The Bechdel Test (00:19:30) The Bechdel Test Statistics (00:20:47) Looking through men’s eyes (00:23:43) Todd’s initial impression about the Barbie movie (00:25:03) This is the Summer of Female Economics (00:27:08) Ccritical thinking (00:29:40) Having women at the center doesn’t equate to man-hating (00:34:20) Our boys are getting left behind (00:35:20) How do we talk about the truth without offending boys? (00:37:00) How do we have healthy masculinity? (00:44:44) Why do you think a man thinks he can’t be expansive enough? (00:46:30) The familiarity of girlhood (00:49:10) Why you are people looking at me this way (00:53:14) New Barbie: Not about man-hating. It’s a shift – women empowerment, creating the life they dreamt of as little girls (00:55:20) Navigating a situation and saying something (00:57:47) The paradox of Barbie and the men (00:59:09) What is the paradox of womanhood? (1:02:22) The importance of speaking your mind (1:06:00) Dads go take your sons to Barbie Resources Ask Us Anything If You’ve Come this Far Podcast    

Todd & Cathy talk with Hunter Clarke-Fields, Author of Raising Good Humans Every Day- 50 Simple Ways to Press Pause, Stay Present, and Connect with Your Kids. They discuss Beginning Anew, find a thread, playing your own music, mindfulness, the messy, and not parentifying our kids. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (01:11:21) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:11:21) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (01:11:21) Todd Adams Coaching (01:11:21) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Cathy & Todd discuss how our early experiences dictate our life patterns, and how we can recognize these patterns and decide what helps and what hurts. It’s all about honoring the memories and traditions that mean something to us, while also letting go of what no longer serves us. They also discuss the legacy of Madonna and how she shifted the musical landscape for women, and Todd’s hot take on the best baseball player of all time. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy and leave a review for Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps   Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd & Cathy talk with John O’Sullivan, Founder of the Changing the Game Project and host of the Way of Champions Podcast about his new book, The Champion Teammate: Timeless Lessons to Connect, Compete and Lead in Sports and Life. They discuss how to be a valued teammate, what it means to be a champion, and what it takes to connect, compete, and thrive in sports and life. What’s shared is applicable way beyond sports so it’s an important conversation for all parents, but it’s especially enlightening for those who are currently raising athletes. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:07:10) Changing the Game: What should you say to your kid at the conclusion of the game? (00:10:25) Pushing your kid into things instead of … (00:11:40) Don’t react; Respond: E+R=O (00:13:00) How to teach your kids to “show up” (00:15:45) How are coaching and parenting similar? The Trust Bank (00:20:00) Growth happens when u struggle. (00:25:00) Rule of one moment (00:29:00) The art of Coaching and Parenting (00:30:00) Kids’ identities are being built around sports (00:37:30) Percentage of kids who play college sports (00:40:30) Being intentional (00:42:30) Phil Jackson (00:44:00) Get comfortable being uncomfortable (00:47:00) Put in the reps (00:49:15) Relative age in sports ; what is talent ; help your kids find your passion instead of you finding it for them (00:50:50) Learning to surf (00:54:30) Being emotionally agile and channeling in a positive way (00:57:45) Sweeping the Shed (01:00:30) Modeling behavior and entitlement (01:01:30) Petting the Dragon (01:05:40) Belonging and psychological safety (01:08:00) John’s book and references (01:10:15) Alvin Iverson – quote on practice (01:11:21) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (01:11:21) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (01:11:21) Todd Adams Coaching (01:11:21) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything    

Todd and Cathy discuss how co-opted therapy speak can make “love” more like control. They specifically discuss Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend sharing texts where he says he is enforcing his “boundaries” when he is actually giving her rules and ultimatums. They discuss how life is messy and everything is nuanced, and how Maya Angelou taught that love liberates, it doesn’t hold. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com. 3 Ways to support us Subscribe to our YouTube Page Join Team Zen Buy Cathy’s Book Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World Other Ways to Support Us Ask Us Anything! Subscribe to Cathy’s weekly Zen Parenting Moment Follow us on social media Instagram YouTube Facebook Guys- Complete a MenLiving Connect profile Find everything ZPR on our Resources Page This week’s sponsor(s): Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements Todd Adams Life & Leadership Coaching for Guys Time Stamps (00:00:00) Introduction (00:03:32) Three things (00:05:16) Tournament of bad (00:11:35) Cathy’s ZP Moment (00:20:30) Jonah Hill (00:59:15) Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration. (00:59:15) MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements (00:59:46) Todd Adams Coaching (00:59:46) Zen Parenting Book Resources Ask Us Anything