The Perfectionism Project

In my membership, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, I teach the girls how to set an impossible goal for themselves. An impossible goal is an incredible tool for directing personal growth and showing us the work we need to do - but it requires a different approach to what we're used to. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 important reminders about your impossible goal so that you can get yourself unstuck and keep moving closer to the person you want to become. Regardless of whether you're in my membership or not, this episode is going to help you think about goal-setting differently and have you working towards your dreams like never before! In This Episode You'll Learn: The point of an impossible goal and how it differs to regular goals Why it's ok that you're not going to succeed from day one The importance of goal-setting in personal development How to stop yourself from quitting your impossible goal The power of documenting your progress towards your impossible goal and how to do it Featured In The Episode: Business Workshops in Brisbane and Los Angeles Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 14: My Goal For 2018 Episode 20: The Messy Middle Episode 29: An Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal Episode 44: Another Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal

As Tony Robbins says, identity is the strongest force in the human personality. In this podcast episode, I'm sharing how to upgrade your identity so it won't keep stopping you from getting what you want. I hope you enjoy it! In This Episode You'll Learn: How to identify the labels that are holding you back A practical process to upgrade your self-image and create a new identity Why changing your beliefs about yourself isn't denying the 'truth' of who you are Why having room for personal growth is not a sign of inadequacy How to feel empowered by a label without allowing it to keep you small What this process looked like for my 1:1 coaching client and how it helped her Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 87: How I Manage Anxious Thoughts Episode 106: Answering Your Questions About Self-Image

This episode has been a long-time in the making and I still can't quite believe I'm recording it. When I started my blog in August 2013, I never thought that I'd be able to get my business to a place where it could support me full-time - be here we are! Along this wild ride, I've constantly searched for resources and advice to help me figure out how to transition from full-time work to full-time entrepreneurship. I haven't had the confidence to take a blind leap of faith so I've scoured the internet for wisdom on how to navigate this uncertain time. And to be honest, what I found was a little lacking! So I hope that by sharing the nitty gritty of my experience I'm able to help you figure out when to take your own leap and how to do it. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why I started my blog even though I didn't feel confident How I balanced full-time accounting and growing my blog The investments that changed the trajectory of my business and career How I knew the time was right to leave my full-time job and then my part-time job Why resenting your day job will slow your entrepreneurial journey down What my finances have looked like throughout this process Why I was scared to go full-time in my business and how I overcame that fear My next steps now that I'm full-time in my business Featured In The Episode: Business Workshops in Brisbane and Los Angeles Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here Perfect Blogger 1:1 Coaching Service Tim Ferriss' Fear-Setting Exercise Episode 1: My Story (So Far!) Episode 3: Blogging, Self-Doubt + How To Get Started Episode 16: What To Expect When You Start A Creative Project Episode 24: How I Use Affirmations + My Affirmation Routine Episode 33: How To Balance Your Side Hustle With Your Full-Time Job Episode 49: What To Do When You Hate Your Job Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset Episode 78: Why It Will Never Get Better Than This Episode 107: What To Do When Your Loved Ones Don't Believe In You Episode 112: 5 Decisions That Changed Me + My Business Forever Rich Babe Academy Self-Coaching Scholars

If you're constantly reading books, listening to podcasts, watching YouTube videos and researching ideas but you're not seeing results - it could be that the way you learn is STOPPING you from learning as much as you can. In this episode, I'm sharing how to put yourself on a low information diet. This is a concept that was introduced to me by Tim Ferriss in The 4-Hour Work Week and I've been experimenting with it ever since. If you always feel like you need one more piece of information before you can take action, or you never spend time just being, this episode is for you. In This Episode You'll Learn: What a low information diet is and isn't Why more information isn't always better The real reason perfectionists get addicted to learning How I'm experimenting with the low information diet this month Why I haven't watched the news for the last 5 years What you can do over the coming 4 weeks to uplevel your personal development Featured In The Episode: Episode 39: The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Episode 94: Overcoming The Curse of Knowledge

This month was uncomfortable for me in so many ways. I resigned from my part-time job (woohoo!) which brought up a lot of fear and doubt around my business and the future. I put working out on the backburner which cost me mentally. And my brain couldn't help but serve up an endless stream of negative thoughts about everything I'm attempting - so that was fun! Tune in to find out what I got up to, the mistakes I made and what I learned. It's these kind of months that set me up for the amazing ones! In This Episode You'll Learn: Why I struggled so much this month with my mindset How I turn a bad day around Why I felt scared to leave my part-time job (even though I'm ready) Why it's ok to have uncomfortable, messy months My fears and doubts around creating in person events

Setting big financial goals will likely raise eyebrows from those around you. In fact, many of us shy away from money goals because we're scared that others will think we're obsessed with money, we don't have integrity, we're greedy, we're selfish and we've 'changed'. If you can relate, this episode is for you! In This Episode You'll Learn: My money goal and why people misunderstand it Why our money goals bring up fear about what others will think How to let it be ok that others are judging your financial goals Why I recommend setting clear financial goals, even if you feel resistant Featured In The Episode: Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset Episode 104: My Money Mindset Routine + How I Manage My Finances

Fear and doubt is part of personal development. If you're not scared and doubtful, it means your goals are already in your comfort zone. But that doesn't mean that dealing with fear and doubt is easy! In this episode, I'm talking about how we use confusion to protect ourselves from fear and doubt - and what to do instead. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why your goals shouldn't be 'realistic' The role of fear, doubt and discomfort in personal growth The life-changing realisation I had about discomfort + how it can help you The real reason you're waiting for clarity What to do if the next steps towards your dream life are researching and planning How to get out of indecision and get momentum Featured In The Episode: FREE Figure Your Life Out Masterclass Figure Your Life Out Group Coaching Program Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - join the waitlist Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 94: Overcoming The Curse of Knowledge Episode 103: How To Escape Indecision Fatigue

Our thoughts create our reality, and this couldn't be more true when it comes to money. Even though it really doesn't feel like it! In this episode, I'm sharing how to identify the beliefs that are creating your reality, how they create your reality and how to begin moving past them. I hope you enjoy it! In This Episode You'll Learn: Why your money beliefs are more important than any strategy or budget The money beliefs that are currently keeping me stuck How to identify the money beliefs that are creating your financial reality A self-coaching tool that will help you build self-awareness Featured In The Episode: Episode 26 of The Life Coach School: The Self-Coaching Model Episode 272 of The Life Coach School: Underearning Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset Episode 104: My Money Mindset Routine + How I Manage My Finances

Personal development is incredible, but it's called personal development for a reason. If you've been trying to get your loved ones interested in the self-help world - and it hasn't been working - I have a wake up call for you! In this episode, I'm sharing why preaching about personal development doesn't work. And what to do instead! In This Episode You'll Learn: Why preaching to others about personal development doesn't work What to do instead of trying to get your loved ones interested in self-help The life-changing lesson I learned from my Bikram Yoga teacher What to do when you judge others for not wanting to improve their lives Featured In The Episode: FREE Figure Your Life Out Masterclass Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - join the waitlist

If you've listened to The Perfectionism Project before you'll know that what I teach isn't how to 'overcome' perfectionism but how to create a growth mindset. I teach this way because creating a growth mindset is something positive you can focus on AND because if you're able to get into a growth mindset, your perfectionist tendencies will naturally fall away. But how do you actually create a growth mindset? I've shared my thoughts on this before but in this episode, I want to talk about the exact thoughts that create a growth mindset and a growth mindset project of my own. If you want to be more successful and actually appreciate that success, this episode is for you! In This Episode You'll Learn: How to create your own growth mindset project Why perfectionists never feel satisfied with their goals The exact thoughts that create a growth mindset + the thoughts that don't The power of asking yourself better questions How to skip over the self-doubt when you set a big goal Featured In The Episode: Mindset by Carol Dweck Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset Episode 57: 7 Differences Between High Achievers + Perfectionists Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes That Perfectionists Make

Perfectionism stops so many incredible women from reaching their potential - and that's especially the case when it comes to going live, podcasting, getting on video or speaking in front of a crowd! In this episode, I dive into the fears and doubts that stop perfectionists from showing up live and exactly what to do about them (since I've experienced them all myself). If you've been dreaming of putting yourself out there but find yourself scared of messing up, being unhelpful, going blank and not being qualified enough - this episode is for you! In This Episode You'll Learn: The fears I had, and still have, around podcasting, live streaming and public speaking Whether you should get a qualification to help you feel more confident What to do if you're scared of forgetting what to say The real reason you're struggling to figure out what to say Why I never edit 'mistakes' out of my podcast episodes How I feel before public speaking My best advice on how to ignore your doubts and go live anyway Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services Episode 16: What To Expect When You Start A Creative Project Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential Episode 94: Overcoming The Curse of Knowledge

May 2019 was an interesting and exciting month for me. The first half was filled with lessons about showing up, surrendering and letting go. The second half was filled with new experiences, new people and new information. I learned A LOT and am so excited to share the best of it with you in this episode. This month I welcomed 222 women into my monthly membership, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, I spent 8 nights in Cairns for Tony Robbins' Date With Destiny event, I spoke to 130 girls at a local school and then I was forced to let myself rest without guilt as I recovered from a cold. Tune in to find out what I got up to, the mistakes I made and what I learned. In This Episode You'll Learn: What I learned launching Perfectionists Getting Shit Done What I thought about Date With Destiny + whether I'd recommend it My biggest takeaways from Date With Destiny How I felt before my very first paid speaking engagement Why I gave myself permission to rest and recover without guilt How I'm going with my goal to write 3 quotes every day for 2019 An update on my personal development experiment for the second quarter of 2019 Featured In The Episode: Episode 115: Master Your State, Master Your Mind Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty

What if there were a few simple things you could do each day to make yourself feel more energetic, more motivated and more productive? Guess what… there are! In this episode I'm sharing easy ways for you to master your physical state so you can master your mind. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why you need to master your physical state if you truly want to master your mindset The best tips I learned from Date With Destiny about managing your physiology Easy ways to feel more energetic, motivated and productive Why you need to stop telling yourself that you're tired and what to do instead The difference between incantations and affirmations plus which approach I recommend How I'll be managing my state on a daily basis Featured In The Episode: Date With Destiny Date With Destiny Spotify Playlist I Am Not Your Guru - Netflix Documentary You can now listen to this podcast on Podcoin.

My favourite thing about being a mindset coach is helping my clients do things they never thought were possible. And helping them do those things in a matter of weeks. How do they get such incredible results so quickly? They learn how to take action before they feel confident. And that action then creates confidence. In this episode, I'm sharing how to take action before you feel ready. And what it really feels like to be pursuing your goals relentlessly. In This Episode You'll Learn: Where confidence comes from and why that's important What action takers *really* feel like when they're pursuing their big goals The power of action in creating self-confidence Why personal growth will always be uncomfortable How to get yourself into action before you feel ready Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services

I have a non-negotiable rule with my coaching clients - they must have one clear goal they're working towards. So always, without fail, we do that challenging task in our first call together. My clients want to set multiple goals, they want to set vague goals, they want to set no goals. And to be honest with you, I find myself squirming away from goals too. If we're in a fixed mindset, goals make us feel vulnerable. Goals might create evidence that we're not good enough - so we try to avoid them. But there's a very good reason that I insist my clients and the women in my membership have one clear goal to work towards. And that's what I'm talking about in this episode. Tune in to learn about the point of goals and why they're so powerful. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why it's important to have one clear goal, even when you're resistant to choosing one The sneaky ways that perfectionists sabotage their goals Why goal-setting and self-worth are not related Why I never set myself 'realistic' goals The difference between striving from ambition and striving from lack What will happen if you don't have goals Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services Get Out Of Your Own Way - Find out more and join here Perfectionists Getting Shit Done Episode 65: How To Pursue Multiple Goals At Once Episode 72: 12 Practical Tips For Setting Powerful Goals Episode 79: The Final Update On My Impossible Goal + My Goals For 2019 Episode 84: How To Escape The Self-Pity Cycle Episode 89: How To Turn Any Goal Into A Realistic Action Plan

When I look back on my life, I can see that there are decisions that changed the entire trajectory of my business and my life. Some of these decisions felt big and some of these decisions felt small, but all of these decisions made an impact. And that's what I'm sharing in this episode! Tune in to hear about 5 decisions that changed me and my business forever. I share why I made these decisions, whether it was easy or hard, the ripple effect it's had, how to make decisions, when to invest in yourself and so much more. I hope this episode helps you with the decisions you need to make! My new monthly membership, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, is now officially open! But the founding membership prices is only available until registration closes at midnight (EDT) on Friday, 17 May 2019. Visit samlaurabrown.com/membership to find out more and become a founding member. In This Episode You'll Learn: The power of decision and how I make hard decisions What investing in yourself really feels like and why I do it How I started my blog even though I was full of fear and doubt The process I went through to leave my full-time accounting job for blogging Why a monthly personal development membership is the best money I spend How I decided to invest in a mindset coach Why you have to let go of something good to get something great What's included in my new membership, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done Why I created my new membership and what it will help you with Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Learn more and become a founding member Episode 1: My Story So Far Episode 3: Blogging, Self-Doubt + How To Get Started Episode 24: How I Use Affirmations + My Affirmation Routine Episode 42: What It's ReallyLike To Invest In Yourself Tim Ferriss' Fear-Setting Exercise Erin May Henry Self-Coaching Scholars

This week, I'm running a FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge to celebrate the launch of my new membership - Perfectionists Getting Shit Done. For Day 5 of my FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge, I'm sharing the one thing you must do to create your dream life. If you haven't yet joined my Makeover Your Mindset Challenge, it's not too late! Make sure you go to samlaurabrown.com/challenge to sign up. And you'll get instant access to my FREE 10-minute Growth Mindset Meditation too! In This Episode You'll Learn: Why discomfort is necessary for personal growth The cost of playing small to avoid discomfort The importance of having one clear goal and why perfectionists avoid it The biggest difference between a perfectionist and high achiever What's included in my new membership, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done Why I created my new membership and what it will help you with Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Learn more and become a founding member FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge - Join here

This week, I'm running a FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge to celebrate the launch of my new membership - Perfectionists Getting Shit Done. For Day 3 of my FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge, I'm sharing 3 ways you're sabotaging your personal growth. If you haven't yet joined my Makeover Your Mindset Challenge, make sure you go to samlaurabrown.com/challenge to sign up. Day 2 and Day 4 of the challenge will be happening via email only, plus you'll get access to my FREE 10-minute Growth Mindset Meditation. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why perfectionists put so much pressure on themselves to succeed The true difference between a fixed and growth mindset Why I constrain myself to a small number of personal development teachers How to set goals when you're scared of disappointment The biggest ways that perfectionists self-sabotage when setting goals Why investing in your personal development makes such a big difference How and why I pay money for information that I could get for free Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Learn more and become a founding member FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge - Join here

This week, I'm running a FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge to celebrate the launch of my new membership - Perfectionists Getting Shit Done. For Day 1 of my FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge, I'm sharing my must-have mindset habits. I'm talking about the biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with personal development, my favourite habits, the difference between passive habits and active habits as well as how to create inspiring habits of your own. If you haven't yet joined my Makeover Your Mindset Challenge, make sure you go to samlaurabrown.com/challenge to sign up. Day 2 and Day 4 of the challenge will be happening via email only, plus you'll get access to my FREE 10-minute Growth Mindset Meditation. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why you haven't been seeing REAL results with personal development The biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with self-help How I invest in myself and why it gets me big results What a mental 'blindspot' is and how to finally see them The difference between passive habits and active habits The question that will switch you from passive mode into active mode My favourite personal development habits The journaling exercise that changed my life forever An assignment to help you take your personal development to the next level Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Learn more and become a founding member FREE Makeover Your Mindset Challenge - Join here

In this episode, I'm sharing a behind the scenes look at my personal development journey (and business) in the hope it will inspire you to work on yourself. I'm always honest in these episodes so there's no avoiding that April was a messy month for me. I spent most of April feeling confused, overwhelmed and extremely uncomfortable - which means I'm on the right track! Tune in to hear what I've been working on and get some inspiration to take your personal development to the next level. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why I feel like I'm going through an identity crisis right now The biggest investment I've ever made in my personal development Why I take action on new ideas the moment I have them The daily affirmation that is taking my business to the next level My plans to go full-time in my business The difference between passive personal development and active personal development Two exciting hires that happened this month Featured In The Episode: Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Erin May Henry Self-Coaching Scholars Date With Destiny Cairns 2019 I Am Not Your Guru - Netflix Documentary Manifestation Babe Dream Life Deluxe Episode 48: How To Be Your Own Mindset Coach Episode 99: Personal Growth Update March 2019 Episode 104: My Money Mindset Routine + How I Manage My Finances Episode 105: What A Six Figure Business *Really* Feels Like

When I first started my blog, I had zero confidence. And I really do mean zero! That's why I kept it a secret from EVERYONE in my life for more than a year. I doubted myself so much that the tiniest giggle from a loved one would have forced me to shut the whole thing down. I've come a long way since then, so in this episode, I'm sharing practical tips to help you create self-confidence when you need it the most - as well as the real reason it hurts so much when our loved ones doubt us! In This Episode You'll Learn: The most important thing you can do if your loved ones don't believe in you The real reason that other people's doubts affect your confidence Why you shouldn't expect your loved ones to believe in your goals What to say when people tell you that online businesses are a scam How to create self-belief so other people's comments don't affect you My personal struggles with what other people think Featured In The Episode: Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services

I love teaching ambitious women how to use their identity to create change, and in this episode I'm sharing some of my best advice with you! Tune in to discover why you keep sabotaging your success and how to create an identity that will pull you towards your goals. I first talked about this in Episode 26 of the podcast and since it's always one of my most popular episodes, I'm answering the most commonly asked questions I get about how to change your self-image. I hope you enjoy it! In This Episode You'll Learn: What self image is and why it's so powerful Whether to create a general self-image or one that's more specific The wording you must use when creating a new self-image My best advice on how to create long-term change that lasts How to uplevel everyday habits using your self-image The key to changing your self-image for good Featured In The Episode: Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 97: How To Upgrade Your Habits Using Personal Rules Tom Bilyeu's Youtube channel Tom Bilyeu compilation of his Top 50 Rules of Success

Ever since I started my blog in August 2013, building a six-figure business has been a dream of mine. Since my business will be crossing the six-figure mark this week, I thought now would be the perfect time to chat through what it feels like to finally be here. Like most people, I believed that having a six-figure business would mean more happiness, more time and feeling more organised - but this hasn't quite been the case! I'm so grateful for where I am but also wanted to share what can happen mentally when we achieve our big goals. I hope this episode inspires you to continue goal-setting and reminds you that there's no need to rush because you'll always be on the journey. In This Episode You'll Learn: My exact month-by-month revenue from July 2018 to now The biggest misconceptions I had about having a six-figure business Why I'm starting to focus on building a team in Brisbane, even though I could work from anywhere in the world What 'marketer math' is and why you shouldn't believe all of the revenue figures you read The problems I'm facing in my business at the moment Why I'm not yet full-time in my business and how I'm planning to make the transition Featured In The Episode: Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 58: 5 Signs You're Scared of Success Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal + My 2019 Goals

The way you think about money determines how you feel about money and therefore what you do with money. More money doesn't solve money problems (because fear of not having enough turns into fear of losing it). It's an abundant money mindset that solves money problems and I LOVE sharing what I learn as I do the work to create my own. One of the things I do to create an abundant money mindset is my money mindset routine. This inspired by Kathrin Zenkina's 'Money Mondays' but I've put my own spin on it. I can get a little nerdy with numbers (I do have a finance degree after all) but I've done my best to make this easy to understand! I hope this gives you some inspiration to be more intentional with your finances and a few ideas about what you can do to upgrade your money mindset. In This Episode You'll Learn: How my money mindset routine changed my life My exact money mindset routine, step-by-step from start to finish Simple journaling exercises that will transform your money mindset How I manage my personal finances and stay out of debt How I manage my company finances including what I use an accountant for The two metrics I track each and every week in my business Why I don't recommend creating an 'emergency' account and what to call it instead Featured In The Episode: Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Manifestation Babe Podcast with Kathrin Zenikna Rich Babe Academy The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo For The Love of Money Podcast with Chris Harder Abraham Hicks/Esther Hicks Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield-Thomas Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset

Being indecisive is costing you more than you realise. It's not just stopping you from creating your dream life - it's also draining you of precious mental energy! In this episode, I'm sharing why we stay in confusion (even though it's so frustrating) and giving you a practical exercise you can use to create massive amounts of mental clarity today. It's time to start creating the life you deserve. In This Episode You'll Learn: What creates indecision fatigue Why indecision and confusion keep us safe Why you can never make the 'wrong' decision How to use personal rules to reduce indecision fatigue Helpful frameworks for decision making (beyond the pros vs cons list) A simple exercise you can do today to escape decision fatigue Featured In The Episode: Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Figure Your Life Out - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 97: How To Upgrade Your Habits Using Personal Rules The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

I always help my 1:1 coaching clients to uplevel their morning and nighttime routine. How you start and end each day matters, and there's always room for improvement. Even for me! In a couple of days, I'm taking a group of ambitious women under my wing and teaching them what I teach my 1:1 coaching clients about routines. If you're interested in joining me for Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine, there's less than 48 hours to sign up. If you do, you'll learn how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Click here to join me and dozens of ambitious women for Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine. In This Episode You'll Learn: How a morning and nighttime routine reduces exhaustion, stress and self-pity Why I help me 1:1 coaching clients uplevel their routines The surprising way that routines allow you to create self-confidence and self-trust Why a consistent morning and nighttime routine will help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be How my morning and nighttime routine helped me to quit my full-time job for blogging Why I'm teaching ambitious women how to create their perfect routines with my upcoming workshop, Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine Featured In The Episode: Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine - registration closes in less than 48 hours Episode 84: How To Escape The Self-Pity Cycle Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Mistakes Perfectionists Make When Creating A Growth Mindset

At the beginning of my personal development journey I had some serious resistance around rest. I've always wanted to feel busy. And because of that, I've been experimenting with it for just as long (see this blog post from 2014). I feel like I'm now in quite a healthy place with rest - i.e. I actually allow myself to do it, without the guilt! I recently had two weeks completely off my business and was able to do so without even a twinge of regret. And my business continued to grow while I was away! Not only has forced downtime allowed me to create an identity for myself outside of my business but I've become WAY more productive and successful. When I have less time to get shit done I can't be as sloppy with it! In this episode, I'm sharing why perfectionists hate to rest, how to skyrocket your productivity levels and my own journey with guilt-free downtime. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why you believe that unproductive moment is a moment wasted What 'productive procrastination' is and why perfectionists love it The unexpected consequences of not allowing yourself to rest Why perfectionists self-sabotage with busywork How I build guilt-free rest into my busy schedule My recommendation for how to ease into rest Featured In The Episode: Episode 84: How To Escape The Self-Pity Cycle The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Episode 39: The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Episode 99: Personal Growth Update March 2019 Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make How To Stop Feeling Guilty About Not Studying On Weekends Ep #248: Superthinking on The Life Coach School Podcast

Perfectionism is created by the belief that if you can do everything perfectly, and look perfect, you won't have to experience the pain of judgement, blame and shame. Perfectionists aren't perfect people, they're people who feel ashamed that they're not perfect. The beliefs that create the perfectionist mindset run deep, which is why catchy reminders like "done is better than perfect" don't tend to change behaviour at a fundamental level. Our human need to avoid the painful emotion of shame can override even our deepest desires and causes us to get in our own way. Growing out of perfectionism requires a willingness to feel vulnerable. Alongside that, I've found that one of the most effective ways to evolve out of perfectionism is to focus on creating a growth mindset. In this episode, I'm going to be sharing exactly what that is, how to create it and the biggest mistakes that perfectionists make when it comes to creating a growth mindset. I hope you find it helpful! In This Episode You'll Learn: What the growth mindset is and isn't, and how it can help you achieve your goals Practical things you can do to create a growth mindset Why you need to have a growth mindset about creating a growth mindset Why detaching from the end result will actually allow you to achieve more Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Episode 45: 10 Signs You're A Perfectionist Mindset by Carol Dweck Carol Dweck interviewed by Tom Bilyeu Carol Dweck on Perfectionism Episode 59: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown Growth mindset examples in podcast interviews: Aisha Tyler on The Tim Ferriss Show, Katrin Davidsdottir on The School of Greatness, Ellen Bennett on Second Life, Tyler Hanley on Second Life Second Life podcast Losing My Virginity by Richard Branson Episode 57: 7 Differences Between High Achievers and Perfectionists Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset

March 2019 was an interesting and exciting month for me. The first half was filled with lessons and the second half filled with wonder (and even more lessons). I learned A LOT and am so excited to share the best of it with you in this episode. This month I relaunched my perfectionism course Get Out Of Your Own Way, spent a week in Bali on the Manifestation Babe Retreat and finally gave myself permission to take a break from my business - even if it was only for a few days! Plus there was plenty of other stuff going on too. Tune in to find out what I got up to, the mistakes I made and what I learned. In This Episode You'll Learn: What I thought of the Manifestation Babe Retreat in Bali + whether I'd recommend it My biggest takeaways from the MB Retreat An important lesson I learned while relaunching Get Out Of Your Own Way Why I gave myself permission to have a week off my business + the impact it had The consequence of neglecting my daily journaling practice (feeling stressed) How my goal to read 4 books per month is (or isn't) progressing My personal development experiment for the second quarter of 2019 Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services Episode 52: The 3 Stages of Personal Growth Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Manifestation Babe Rich Babe Academy Self-Coaching Scholars Tara Brunet Manifesting Your Dream Body by Tara Brunet J.Burrows Black Journal Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield-Thomas Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman Books read in 2019: Principles by Ray Dalio, Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss, Unstoppable by Maria Sharapova, Still Me by Jojo Moyes, Incognito by David Eagleman, Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, Losing My Virginity by Richard Branson, The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood

When you have a perfectionist mindset, the temptation is always to only do things you'll be good at or pursue opportunities that might succeed (so that you don't waste effort). While that may sound logical, it's a very limiting way to live life and will only end in dissatisfaction. In this episode, I'm sharing how you can use creativity to get yourself into a growth mindset (i.e. a mindset that will have you achieving more). Even if you don't view yourself as a creative person, I recommend tuning in! In This Episode You'll Learn: How to use daily creativity to get yourself into a growth mindset The things I personally do just for the sake of creativity 3 benefits of daily creativity (beyond what you'd typically think) Why you should do something for yourself before you do something for your boss How to begin a daily creativity practice What I've learned so far from writing every day in 2019 Featured In The Episode: Mindset by Dr Carol Dweck The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal + My Goals For 2019

Creating new habits can be challenging, but it doesn't always have to be that with! And the best news is that the answer isn't trying harder - you just need to change the way you're thinking about it. In this episode, I'm sharing the mindset trick I've used to pull myself out of habits that have eluded me for years. The simple strategy I share will have you creating success habits with ease. I'm so grateful to be able to share it with you! In This Episode You'll Learn: The power of personal rules / creating a minimum baseline How to create a personal rule for yourself Why personal rules are more effective than willpower The personal rules I have in my life that keep me organised and make me successful When to use a personal rule and how to choose one to get started with Featured In The Episode: Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 96: 5 Simple Ways To Feel Better Tom Bilyeu talking about bright lines

If you've been telling yourself that happiness will meet you further down the road (when you get X or achieve Y or marry Z), it will always be further down the road - no matter what your circumstances are. If you're not grateful for what you have, you won't be grateful for what you get. So in this episode, I'm sharing 5 simple gratitude practices that you can experiment with. Some of these I've learned from others and some I've improvised myself. Regardless, I'm sure you'll find one that resonates with you! In This Episode You'll Learn: Why practicing gratitude is one of the most powerful ways to feel better The simple gratitude practice I've been using everyday for 4+ years Uncommon ways to increase gratitude How your gratitude practice can deepen your relationships, even if the other person doesn't reciprocate A powerful gratitude practice you can use when you're feeling overwhelmed How I turn a stressful week around Featured In The Episode: The Five Minute Journal Esther Hicks / Abraham Hicks My blog post from 2014 about the gratitude practice I still use every day Episode 84: How To Escape The Self-Pity Cycle Podcast Episode: Failing on Purpose + Gratitude-Fueled Ambition

Waking up early is a powerful routine, but not for the reason you might think! Honouring a commitment to yourself is such an incredible way to start the day - regardless of whether that commitment is to wake up on your alarm at 5 am or 11 am! Over the years, I've heard a lot of advice on how to wake up early. But in my opinion, most of that advice fails to mention the mindset advice that matters! In this episode, I'm sharing how I get myself to consistently wake up early, even though I rarely feel like it. I hope you find it helpful. In This Episode You'll Learn: What being a morning person really means How to wake up early when you don't feel like it The true point of waking up early (it's not what you'd think) What 'responsible alarm setting' is and how to get started Why you find it easy to wake up early on some days but not on others How to create real motivation to wake up early Practical tips that you can start experimenting with today Featured In The Episode: Dream Habit: My habit course for perfectionists My Youtube channel Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 37: 10 Simple Ways To Optimise Your Morning Routine

I've definitely been guilty of procrasti-learning - that thing we do when we want to feel productive but don't want to risk the disappointment that might come if we actually get started. Researching and over-analysing are two things perfectionists are more than familiar with, so I thought I'd dedicate a podcast episode to them. And here we are! In This Episode You'll Learn: Whether you're suffering from the curse of knowledge When to get out of passive action and get into massive action The balance between learning enough and learning too much How to tell when you're procrasti-learning What a low information diet is and how to experiment with it Why I haven't watched the news in years Featured In The Episode: Episode 39: The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss: Lessons + Takeaways Episode 81: How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books Manifestation Babe Podcast The Life Coach School Podcast

In school, we're praised for being full of potential. But in the real world, potential doesn't matter - it's what you do that counts. In this episode, I'm shining a light on a seemingly positive belief that is holding SO many perfectionists back - and what to do about it! If you see yourself as someone who's full of potential but you're scared to attempt anything that might fail, this episode is for you. If you'd like to take your personal development journey to the next level, I invite you to join me in my course Get Out Of Your Own Way. It's only open for enrollment this week so make sure you join if you want me to teach you how stop procrastinating, overcome your fears and become your best self. You can find out more at samlaurabrown.com/course. Registration is closing strictly at midnight (EST) on Sunday, 10 March 2019. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why believing you have potential is causing you to self-sabotage What to believe instead Practical goal setting advice that will reduce your fear of disappointment Why your conscious desire to improve yourself is not enough to create change How to tell whether you're procrasti-learning The role of identity and how to create an identity that aligns with your goals Featured In The Episode: Get Out Of Your Own Way - Find out more and join here! Tom Bilyeu

In this episode, I'm sharing a behind the scenes look at my personal development journey (and business) to inspire you to work on yourself every day. For me, February was a really powerful month in so many ways. Tune in to hear some of the most important things I learned as I set about my February goals. It wasn't already easy! If you'd like to take your personal development journey to the next level, I invite you to join me in my course Get Out Of Your Own Way. It's only open for enrollment this week so make sure you join if you want me to teach you how to stop procrastinating, overcome your fears and become your best self. You can find out more at samlaurabrown.com/course. In This Episode You'll Learn: What to do when you fail at reaching a goal When to change a goal and when to persist What I'm learning from my goal to read 4 books every month The 4 books I'm reading this month and whether I'd recommend them Why I don't finish every book I read The constructive feedback I got this month about being interviewed on podcasts How I approach feedback so that I can remain true to myself whilst growing and evolving The power of coaching and what I talk about with my coach Why I love getting older Featured In The Episode: Get Out Of Your Own Way - Find out more and join here! Erin May Henry Episode 31: How To Read More Books Episode 81: How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books Episode 91: How To *Actually* Believe In Yourself Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal + My Goals For 2019 Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes Incognito by David Eagleman Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin Losing My Virginity by Richard Branson The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood

A student in one of my classes asked me how to tell when you truly believe a new thought. I thought it was such a great question that I wanted to dedicate a podcast episode to answering it! In this episode, I'm sharing how to tell whether you believe in yourself or not and practical things you can do to increase your self-belief (which will help move you into action). If you want my help to stop procrastination, overcome your fears and become your best self then make sure you sign up for my FREE 5-day perfectionism challenge - it's not too late! Click here to register. In This Episode You'll Learn: How it is that you can believe in yourself and NOT believe in yourself at the same time The real reason you're scared of what other people think Practical ways to use neuroscience and your brain to your advantage Why it's important to create a new belief before you can see the evidence to support it A simple thing you can do to make it easier to believe in yourself What cognitive dissonance is and how to get past it Featured In The Episode: Free 5-Day Perfectionism Challenge starting 25 February 2019 - Register Here Tom Bilyeu's Youtube channel Tom Bilyeu compilation of his Top 50 Rules of Success Evan Carmichael's Youtube channel (love his Top 10 Rules of Success series) Mindset by Carol Dweck Episode 52: The 3 Stages of Personal Growth Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset

Perfectionists LOVE feeling productive. And that's because we believe that if we do more, we'll be more. On my own personal development journey, I've had to untangle my worthiness from my productivity levels and learn how to get more done with ease. And in this episode, I'm sharing the practical things I'm currently doing to skyrocket my productivity levels. If you want to learn how to feel more accomplished, get more done and have more time for the things that truly matter - this episode is for you. If you want my help to stop procrastination, overcome your fears and become your best self then make sure you sign up for my FREE 5-day perfectionism challenge that starts on Monday, 25 February 2019. Click here to register. In This Episode You'll Learn: How to be more productive in less time The real reason that distractions stop you from doing deep work A tip to help you determine the most important tasks on your to-do list Why I've completely changed the way I structure my work day How to create a schedule that truly works for you Why I'm constantly experimenting with productivity The importance of detaching your self-worth from what you produce How to feel accomplished after every single day of work, no matter how many tasks remain on your to-do list Featured In The Episode: Free 5-Day Perfectionism Challenge starting 25 February 2019 - Register Here Dr Shannon Irvine The Mindful Strategist Journal

Goal-setting is a powerful personal development tool. It's what allows you to put your hands back on the steering wheel of life and direct it to where you want to go. If you don't take that big, inspiring goal and break it down into achievable daily steps, it's so hard to get anywhere! So in this episode, I'm sharing the simple 7-step process that will help you take your dream and turn it into a reality. I hope you enjoy it! If you want my help to stop procrastination, overcome your fears and become your best self then make sure you sign up for my FREE 5-day perfectionism challenge that starts on Monday, 25 February 2019. Click here to register. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why it's important to consider your ideal day before setting a goal Whether it's important that your goal is realistic A journaling exercise that'll help you be more creative and productive How to change your beliefs about who you are so your goal is easier to achieve The planning tactic I use to get more done each day and achieve my goals How to stop disappointment from not reaching a goal Featured In The Episode: Free 5-Day Perfectionism Challenge starting 25 February 2019 - Register Here Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 82: Your Ideal Day + How To Live It Now Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal + My 2019 Goals

If you're so smart why can't you stop procrastinating? That's what I'm answering in this podcast episode! Most procrastination advice teaches you how to manage your desire to procrastinate - but what if you didn't have that desire at all? In this episode, I'm sharing 3 surprising causes of procrastination so that you can increase your self-awareness and really begin to understand why you can't stop the habit that is causing you so much pain. I'm also sharing resources and practical advice to help you get out of procrastination for good - without all the resistance and struggle! If you want my help to stop procrastination, overcome your fears and become your best self then make sure you sign up for my FREE 5-day perfectionism challenge that starts on Monday, 25 February 2019. Click here to register. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why most procrastination advice doesn't create permanent change The real reasons you can't stop procrastinating, even though you *really* want to A 3-step journaling exercise that will motivate you to stop procrastinating Why you're actively stopping yourself from reaching your full potential How to reimagine your self-image so it pulls you towards your dream life Featured In The Episode: Free 5-Day Perfectionism Challenge starting 25 February 2019 - Register here Episode 73 - How To Stop Putting Things Off Until The Last Minute

Anxious thoughts are something that a lot of perfectionists experience. Even though I'm by no means an expert on this topic, I thought it might be helpful to share some of my experience, the way I look at anxious thoughts and the practical things I do to manage those thoughts. Anxiety can be a very serious and challenging experience for many, but in this episode, I want to help you reframe the way you look at your anxious thoughts. I'm also sharing plenty of incredible resources that can help you with this - I hope you find them helpful! In this episode you'll learn: How I personally manage my anxious thoughts Practical ways to feel better in moments of anxiety How anxiety protects us from vulnerability and life feeling 'too good' Why it's important not to identify as an anxious person How to reframe anxiety so you can still live your best life Featured in the episode: Brene Brown discussion with Oprah about foreboding joy Daring Greatly by Brené Brown Episode 59 - Daring Greatly by Brené Brown: Lessons + Takeaways Episode 26 - The Power of Self-Image Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza The Life Coach School Podcast - Episode 14: Overcoming Anxiety The Life Coach School Podcast - Episode 57

Principles by Ray Dalio was my business book for January 2019 (I'm reading one business book per month) and I absolutely LOVED it. Ray Dalio is referred to as the Steve Jobs of investing thanks to the innovations he's made in the finance industry, but this book was about so much more than the numbers. Not only were there so many incredible business lessons in it, but Ray epitomises the growth mindset and his approach to love is one that's focused around meaningful work and meaningful relationships at its core. And that's something I truly admire (and aspire to). This episode is not a review of the book, but rather the lessons I learned from it. Imagine that we're sitting down over a chai latte and you said - 'Weren't you reading that book by Ray Dalio? How was it?'. This episode is my answer. Featured In The Episode: Episode 31 - How To Read More Books Episode 81 - How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books Principles by Ray Dalio Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss Shoe Dog by Phil Knight Tom Bilyeu's book list Brooke Castillo Tim Ferriss

Another year, another set of lessons. Although 2019 is still young, I've learned a lot already! In this episode, I'm sharing a behind the scenes look at my personal development journey and my business in the hope to inspire you and also manage your expectations (because sometimes, progress can be SLOW). Featured In The Episode: Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Figure Your Life Out - join the waitlist here Erin May Henry Self-Coaching Scholars Tapping for abandonment/rejection - EFT with Brad Yates Principles by Ray Dalio Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss Unstoppable by Maria Sharapova Still Me by Jojo Moyes

I recently coached a client on escaping the self-pity cycle and wanted to bring this topic to the podcast as I know it's something that most (if not all) perfectionists struggle with. What's the self-pity cycle? It looks something like this - snooze your alarm, feel guilty for snoozing your alarm, rush to job you resent, feel sorry for yourself because you feel like a mess, go home and comfort yourself with Netflix and food, feel sorry for yourself because you're too exhausted to wake up early the next day, repeat. I've found myself in this cycle before - both when I was working at my full-time job and also once I'd left. Even though you might be believing that you need to change your circumstances to be able to love your life, that's not true at all. All you need to do is change your mindset. In this episode, I'm sharing a simple 3 step process that will ease you into a new way of life. Featured In The Episode Dream Habit 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 49 - What To Do If You Hate Your Job

In this episode, I'm diving into the differences between a scarcity money mindset and an abundant money mindset. And the reason I want to do this is because there's a pretty good chance that you *think* you have an abundant mindset when, in fact, you're living from a place of scarcity. Making more money isn't what will flip you over into an abundance mindset. If you don't intentionally create an abundant money mindset, you will go from being scared that you don't have enough to being scared that you'll lose it all. This work is SO important for that reason. Featured In The Episode Episode 67 - 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset Episode 79 - The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal + My 2019 Goals Manifestation Babe Podcast - Episode 62 Manifestation Babe Podcast For The Love of Money Podcast

Do you know what your ideal day looks like? Or are you just hoping that everything you're doing will add up to the life you want? For most people, it's the latter! It's so easy to get caught up in the short-term, without taking a step back to determine whether your goals are going to add up to what you want. In this episode, I'm sharing a simple journaling exercise that will help you clarify what you want and how to use this exercise to start living your ideal day now. The incredible thing about this exercise is that, more often than not, it reveals what truly matters - and most of the time, it's not what we'd think. Featured In The Episode Dream Habit Figure Your Life Out - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 24: How I Use Affirmations To Achieve My Goals

Today I want to go into how to make the most out of the self-help books. I have written a blog post about this before though it wasn't too detailed. I have been getting a lot of questions lately about what I do when I'm reading, how I remember it, and how I apply the self-help books. In the past, I've struggled to make a consistent time for reading. If you're wanting to read more books, I shared how to do that in Episode 31. I created this podcast episode to have as a source of reference for anyone who is wanting to go from feeling inspired by self-help books to experiencing the change that they can create. This episode is what to do with those books when you're sitting down to read them. Featured In The Episode Episode 31: How To Read More Books How To Get The Most From Self-Help Books Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferriss Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss Playing Big by Tara Mohr Principles by Ray Dalio Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss Unstoppable by Maria Sharapova Still Me by Jojo Moyes

Sometimes, what can be really powerful is doing a little reset and getting yourself organised - especially when you feel like you're in a slump or you're not following through with your plans and good intentions. In this episode, I'm sharing 7 simple steps to reset and get organised. You can do all of them, you can do just one of them - but these are the things that will really help you get organised and get some sense of momentum back. If you're wanting to stay organised and make it a habit, so that you don't need to do these resets often, make sure you find out more about Dream Habit. Featured In The Episode Dream Habit

For 2018, I set myself an 'impossible' goal. And that goal was to make $500,000 in business revenue (which was more than 10X what I'd ever made before). The point of this goal wasn't necessarily to achieve it, but to grow into the kind of person who could achieve, to learn to go after something all-out (even when it's not going to plan), to get comfortable with failure and to see what I'm capable of. And I have to say - setting this kind of goal, and working towards it for an entire year, has been completely life-changing for me! In this episode I'm sharing exactly how I went with my impossible goal. And I'm not just sharing the lessons, but also a behind the scenes look at my revenue, profit and expenses too (down to the dollar). I hope you find it helpful! To find everything I mention in the episode, be sure to visit the show notes.

So many of us spend our time working towards our goals and wishing things would be different so that we could feel better about our lives. But the truth is, it will never get better than this moment! Listen to this episode to find out why it's important to recognise that this is as good as it gets.