The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

If you are not a parent, this is pretty interesting. I think you can learn a few things here. If you are a parent, there's such a thing as too much parenting. The helicopter or enabling parent. Is there such a thing as "over-attachment"? I think so. In this short episode my wife and I dig into this touchy subject. I say touchy because parents are soooo sensitive to criticism. Check it out!

Do you know the fastest way to get the connection back? Or how about how to feel accepted and not judged by your partner? Listen here as I offer you a few tips to get both.   Shownotes: (1:50) Falling into Victimhood when you don’t feel accepted (4:12) The first step is to connect with yourself (8:40) The feeling of being accepted (11:25) Relationship School Event November 7th

Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you're probably feeling insecure and frustrated.   In this podcast, I cover the signs and symptoms of codependency, the history of the term, how it "works" and what to do about it. You'll want to check this out.   Shownotes: (2:10) What does co-dependency mean (8:35) Signs and symptoms of a co-dependent relationship (15:25) What can you do to avoid this in your own life (21:10) Action Step

There's a little known hack out there in the personal growth world about changing patterns, beliefs, and thoughts. Tony Robbins' entire approach is based on it.   It's called NLP.   I've never formally studied it. Which is why I had my friend Matt Brauning on the podcast to discuss how to change your relationship patterns.   Check it out. Shownotes: (2:40) Introduction Matt Brauning (12:45) How “choice” works in our life (16:20) How NLP can help you change your beliefs (23:50) Your struggles can also be your strengths (27:10) Changing problematic patterns (34:30) Dealing with fear in our relationships (44:30) Facing fears of public speaking with NLP (58:40) Final advice (1:03:30) Action Step HELPFUL LINKS Matt Brauning's Website Matt Brauning on Facebook Matt Brauning on Instagram Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR) Professional Certification Program https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/change-your-relationship-patterns-with-nlp/

Are there really any risks with falling hard for someone? You know, when you're just in the zone with this person and you lose track of time and space... Even though it feels so amazing (almost addictive), there are major downsides to the "honeymoon period" that are just underneath the surface, your relationship will be at risk unless you know what to look for.   Shownotes: (0:20) Introduction - action step (1:45) Is it possible to fall in love too fast? (4:50) What can you do when you’re In this position? (7:05) Action step

My friend Tami Simon, founder & CEO of Sounds True, shares her insights about the spiritual path and relationships. Her decades of interviewing the world's leading authorities on spirituality, wellness, and relationships shines in this podcast interview. From spiritual gurus to CEO's of major companies, learn why relationships are key to a brighter future.   Shownotes: (4:00) Introduction Tami Simon (11:30) Why Spiritual teachers don’t talk often about relationship (25:20) What has changed about spiritual movements in the last decades? (28:05) Is there more attention on relational development in spiritual teachings now? (29:15) Addressing relational dynamics in work environments (38:15) Relational dynamics between teachers and students (42:30) The paradox between accepting yourself as you are and striving to be a better person (47:35) Tami Simon current projects (53:00) Action Step

Do you ever wish your partner, or ex, would just change? I mean, if only they would, everything would be awesome, right? Not so fast. But... there is one thing you can do under the radar to get them to change. Check it out and listen in...   Shownotes: (2:40) Why trying to change your partner is almost impossible (5:30) What can you do to help others change? (8:15) Action step

It took Kimberly 6.5 years to heal her body and have sex without pain. Her vulnerability and knowledge is huge and she shares it all on this podcast. She did over 800 sessions with women working on their pelvic floor. Gulp. If you find yourself still in a freeze response after being hurt this morning, or from years ago, you'll want to check this out...   Shownotes: (3:00) Introduction Kimberly Johnson (7:00) Why Kimberly Choose to go deeper on Trauma work and Sexological Bodyworkers (15:50) Learning to work with your nervous system in a new way (25:00) Advice for listener to start working with their nervous system (38:25) How the way we grow and develop our nervous system impacts our future (45:15) About the #MeToo movement (52:55) Empowering people through getting to know their own nervous system (58:25) Creating a new world based on communication, respect and connection (1:03:25) Action Step

This week's podcast is all about passive people and walking on eggshells. In fact, there's a fun new term "Fragilizing". Listen to find out what the hell that means... Shownotes: (2:30) What is fragilizing. (5:50) About passive and fragile people. (9:50) Closing applications for DPIR (11:00) Action Step

Are you a caregiver who is on the verge of burnout? What is the difference between the central nervous system and the autonomic nervous system? What happens if I misread a person's face, especially my partner? Listen to this fascinating interview with Polyvagal theory's founder, Stephen Porges.   Shownotes: (1:45) Episode 116: Polyvagal theory, safety in relationships. (4:26) Why knowing how to read other people matters. (9:50) How our physiology affects how we perceive others, and how others perceive us. (17:50) Arguments from a biological perspective. (20:15) Co-regulation. (25:05) How learning can be affected by a teacher’s physiology. (27:40) Reading an audience when speaking in public. (32:15) DPIR enrollment. (34:10) Difference between the central nervous system and autonomic nervous system. (42:05) How stress affects to our bodies. (50:00) About depression. (55:45) About exercise. (56:50) How taking care of others can impact your life. (1:01:20) Final thoughts. (1:06:40) Action Step.

In this episode we explore your confidence. Why is it more attractive than looks? Or is it? Listen in as we quickly explore this terrain and listen for the challenge at the end. Shownotes: (0:40) Open applications for DPIR Program (9 month training) (3:30) What is confidence (5:10) Why confidence is more attractive than looks (7:50) Action step   https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/why-confidence-is-more-attractive-than-looks-relationship-school-podcast-episode-246/

For the 3rd time, we bring on polymath and human behavior master Dr. John Demartini. In this episode you're going to be confronted and learn a TON! Dig in and let us know what you learned.   Shownotes: (3:50) Introduction Dr John Demartini (5:30) The biggest human problem according to Dr John Demartini (7:40) Planning on money and relationships (12:05) Investing money in yourself instead of investing somewhere else (18:55) Saving 10% of your income (20:40) Why opposites attract (31:05) Physiological effect of negative self-talk (33:50) Social media and auto immune disorders and (37:35) Psychological ways to heal your gut (39:25) Why we repeat painful patterns (41:50) How the “Healer” type of people can get out of that perspective (43:50) How waking up and evolving can set you apart from others (51:20) Relationships where women assume the role of a mother and a maid (1:04:10) About delegating tasks (1:05:20) Final thoughts (1:06:50) Action step

Do you ever wonder why your children trigger you? What if parenting was designed to get you to grow up and become more fully yourself. In this enlightening interview my guest Dr. Shafali sheds light on her own journey as a mother and how parents have a big choice how they raise their children. SHOWNOTES: (4:40) Introduction Dr Shefali. (10:00) Learning not to give. (12:33) About parenting and raising kids. (16:30) The process of breaking out of the feeling of unworthiness. (18:15) Parents dealing with defiant children. (22:25) Shefali’s overall take on parenting. (25:25) About self-growth. (28:15) Dr Shefali’s lessons learned about herself while parenting. (34:40) Should parents stay married because of their children. (37:40) Why problems with masculinity are related with how boys are raised. (43:00) Action step.

The Youth Initiative High School in Viroqua, WI had the opportunity to ask Jayson 7 powerful questions. Check them out and listen in to hear his response to these amazing student's questions.   SHOWNOTES:  (3:10) When or how do you know if you and your partner aren't working and it's not because you're not communicating? When do you know it's time to breakup? (5:55) How do you learn to communicate with your partner (or a casual thing) what you like in an intimate way? Without hurting them or feeling weird about it? (8:50) How can I work on recognizing and strengthening my own boundaries? How can I work on recognizing the boundaries of others? (12:50) How do you know if you're ready for sex? (15:35) What does it mean for an individual to always experience detachment shortly after initiating a romantic relationship? (18:00) The only way I can make my family dynamic work is by completely disregarding what I want and what I need. Focusing instead on what my family member's need. I feel like they are not willing to be vulnerable and thoughtful of others so I feel pressured to be the compassionate, the vulnerable and the one that sacrifices things without expecting anything in return. How can I change that dynamic? (21:59) How to change your relationship with yourself?

In this episode we explore in depth what our signature course DPIR is all about.... Shownotes: (5:25) Introduction (12:00) Takeaways of being part of DPIR (20:30) Memorable classes and subjects of DPIR (28:30) Why DPIR is worth the investment (30:20) Final thoughts

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? These are questions you NEED to be asking yourself. Unless you’re perfect, your answers will expose the reasons why it’s a really good idea to enroll in the Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR)® course. Think about it. Even science proves relationships are the most important link to happiness. Failed relationships with partners, family members and friends are some of the most damaging events in our lives. Divorces and therapists cost a fortune! Don’t just clean up after unsuccessful relationships LEARN TO NAVIGATE THOSE HARDSHIPS IN THE FIRST PLACE! In this episode, Jayson breaks down all the reasons why DPIR® is so worth it and answers your questions about the course.

What happens when people get together and train and practice relationship skills together for 9 months? This does. Listen in as these 3 people share intimately about their journey, their connection with each other, and how they became relationship coaches. Shownotes: (6:05) Introduction Coaches (9:00) Bryce Bauer (11:45) Leah Gartner (16:50) Steve Srotir (24:10) Experience on DPIR (27:30) Personal traits that helps to be a better coach (39:45) Using what they learned on DPIR to help people (48:30) Experience of learning in a community of likeminded people

Do you know the difference between bad coaching and good coaching? There are four elements of good coaching and you’ll want to know what they are. SHOWNOTES (3:05) About good coaching (4:00) A good coach is a work in progress (5:30) A good coach has people on their life that challenge and supports them (6:30) A good coach wants you to get results (7:30) The client needs to take responsibility and be coachable to get results (9:45) Hiring a good Relationship Coach

In this 3 part series we explore relationship coaching. First, we start with "bad" relationship coaching and things you need to look out for when hiring a relationship coach. Then we'll dive into "good" relationship coaching. Be sure to pay special attention to what types of coaches not to hire in this one. Shownotes: (2:40) Recap on Series of episodes by men for men. (4:00) 3 Signs you’re dealing with bad relationship coaching. (5:25) Short Training. (7:15) Your coach is a mess in his/her own relationship life and it's not working on it. (7:20) Your coach is not learning constantly about their craft.

How do men shut down? What is the process?   Then, how exactly do they finally open up? What is it that has a man open up and share his feelings, his heart, his truth?   In this episode, Paul shares his story of opening up.   Eventually he found a career helping others open up.   SHOWNOTES (4:35) Introduction Paul Bashea Williams (12:00) About his book dear future wife (14:35) Experiences that causes Paul to close himself (17:35) How asking for help works on different cultural/social groups (21:25) Blocks men deal with on relationships (25:40) How men can open up and be more vulnerable (29:55) Young men being more open to personal development (31:20) Why men can be so hard in relationships

Want to hear the reason his first marriage didn't work out? He bought a house, had a successful job, and thought this is what she wanted. But, it didn't work. Hmmm... Michael was lost, confused, and going in the wrong direction. HIs story is similar to a lot of men. Listen in as Michael tells his story and how he turned it all around and finally found "success" in his 2nd marriage. We also cover the 5 myths, or illusions, of manhood. If you need a hit of positivity in the midst of challenge, listen to this one. SHOWNOTES (3:26) Introduction Michael Taylor (8:24) How being emotionally unavailable messed with his first marriage (13:55) The five illusions of manhood (16:54) How to handle conflict in marriage (22:35) Support and intimacy with other men (28:45) Therapy and help from men of different races (34:34) Optimism about racial issues

In this episode I interview a new friend Brandon Alexander and spontaneously it turned into a pretty intimate conversation about boyhood, manhood, sports and dance, fears, family, love, and connection. I think you'll dig it. - (2:40) Introduction Brandon Alexander - (12:00) Indoctrination of mancode is the same in all races - (17:00) Men in the dancing scene - (21:00) Lessons learned from not dealing with your fears and frustrations - (29:10) About the fear of rejection - (32:50) Choosing between stability / security and Passion / vulnerability - (41:35) About male intimacy

In this episode, you'll find out "The top 5 things men want from women in a relationship." And, the #1 answer, and clear leader by far, may surprise you. No... it's not sex. Listen in to hear what men—who are willing to share their vulnerability—are saying they really want in a relationship. Ellen and I dig into what these brave men are bringing to the relationship conversation and consider what their responses point to. I also mention in the Podcast, Ellen and I are looking into mentoring a couples mastermind. We want to work directly with a group of couples who are serious about taking their relationships to the next level of fulfillment. If you're interested, lets us know! Send us an email at [email protected] with the subject line "Yes, I'm interested in the upcoming Couples Mastermind with Jayson & Ellen!" Shownotes: -4:40 What surveyed men said they want from women -9:05 Acceptance -15:30 Support -17:35 Communication -20:30 Presence -26:05 Honesty

This podcast comes from a blog post I wrote for Elephant Journal where I polled over 200 women on my social media channels wit this question: Hetero-women: What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership? Over 200 women responded. I got emotional reading them. So, guys, listen up and take notes. Soon, we’ll cover what men are saying they want in a partnership. SHOWNOTES (2:10) Top 6 things women want from men (3:56) Willingness (5:10) Emotionally availability (7:22) Presence (9:52) Honesty (11:18)Safety (12:20) Self-awareness (14:47) Action Step

In this episode we explore toxic masculinity and male sexuality. It all starts how we raise our sons. Check it out. SHOWNOTES: (0:15) Intro / Recap from last episodes (2:40) Why talk about toxic masculinity (5:00) #MeToo movement (8:28) Why men live in fear of being acused of toxic behaviors (10:10) Why closed and disconnected men display toxic behavior (12:33) What happens when we don’t teach our boys about sexuality (17:11) Understanding the factors that cause toxic behaviors

In this episode I explain how society and culture play an massive role in the indoctrination of men from a young age, which keeps their hearts behind a giant wall. From a young age, boys learn to repress and hide their emotions and their sensitive side in order to belong to the peer group, their family, and avoid rejection and abandonment.

Few experts have studied more marriages - and determined what makes those relationships succeed or fall apart - than Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Seattle-based couple and founders of the Gottman Institute are leaders in their field, using decades of case studies to help both new couples and long-term partners communicate, ask the right questions, and find the solutions to keep their relationships intact and running smoothly. On this episode of the Smart Couple Podcast, the Gottmans discuss their newest book on relationships, some of the biggest flash points for arguments and contempt among couples, and why mutual respect is critical for success in any partnership.  SHOWNOTES  Background on the Gottmans [6:00] Surprising Marriage Revelations [9:50] Why Money Creates Arguments [11:20] How to Ask Meaningful Questions [15:25] Insights Learned from Couples on Dates [19:30] Why Fun is Crucial in a Marriage [22:35] The Perils of Screen Use [23:50] The Impact of Attachment [25:40] Interpreting Body Language and Contempt [30:45] How Positive Couples Last [36:25] How the Gottmans Solved Their Marriage [39:20] The Importance of Date Nights [43:50] The Role of Respect in a Relationship [46:30] Advice for Young Couples [50:10] How to Find The Gottmans’ New Book [52:00] Final Thoughts and Action Steps [53:15] HELPFUL LINKS Learn more about the Gottman Institute Buy a Copy of the Gottmans’ New Book Relationship School’s® Survey Smart Couple Facebook Group Roots Community Get the Smart Couple Quote Book The Relationship School® Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page How to Leave A Podcast Review

We're up to big things over here! Listen in for some Smart Couple Podcast updates and an upcoming events download.   SHOWNOTES: Jayson’s Teaching A Kripalu Workshop In March In MA! [4:00]  Jayson’s Mini Conflict Workshop @ Yoga Pod In Boulder On Saturday, March 9th [7:00] Smart Couple Podcast Update [8:00] Why You Should Consider Becoming A Relationship Coach [9:00] Action Step [12:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast228  

Interested in a super useful and deeply moving webinar replay featuring a legendary couple, both of whom are couples therapist and bestselling authors? If so, you’re in luck!    SHOWNOTES:   Why Do Couples Fight? [5:00] Expecting Your Partner To Fulfill Your Unmet Childhood Needs [10:00] What Does It Take To Love Your Partner More Than Yourself? [19:00] The Importance Of Being Present [26:00] Applying The Still Face Experiment & Being Present To Adult Interaction [35:00] Turning Being Present With Each Other Into A Spiritual Practice [42:00] How To Inspire Change In Your Partner [45:00] How To Heal Insecure Attachment [50:00] Helping Your Partner Recover From Dysregulation [54:00] Why Caring For Your Relationship IS Self-Care [55:00] Learning What Your Partner Really Needs [1:07:00] Harville's Thoughts On Co-Dependency & Co-Regulation [1:15:00] When Only One Of You Is Willing To Do The Work Is There Any Point? [1:19:00]   Changes In The New Version of Getting The Love You Want [1:25:00]    Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast227  

 If you're serious about wanting to grow and become a better version of yourself you need to know how to ask people to challenge you. Don’t be afraid to get that super valuable feedback!   SHOWNOTES:   Send Us Feedback At [email protected]! [1:00] Why Challenge Is Essential In Partnership [2:00]  Escape A Stagnant Relationship With Challenge [4:00] How To Play The "Challenge" Game [5:00] Possible Changes Coming To The Podcast [7:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast226  

 Your relationship on shaky ground? Learn the five signs of an insecure relationship and some steps you can take to build the secure relationship we all deserve.    SHOWNOTES:   What Type Of Insecurity Are You Experiencing [3:00] Sign #1 - Not Emotionally Safe & Relaxed [5:00] Sign #2 - Not Feeling Seen [6:00] Sign #3 - You Don’t Feel Supported After A Fight [7:00] Sign #4 - You Don’t Feel Challenged [8:00] Sign #5 - You Feel Like You Can’t Express Yourself [9:00] Info On Upcoming Free Web Events [11:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast225    

In this episode, Jayson and Ellen speak with relationship mentors Gabrielle and Ted Usatynski about their spiritual journeys and how incorporating relational and scientific knowledge made each of them spiritually stronger than ever before.   SHOWNOTES:   Who are Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski? [6:00] Advantages And Challenges Of Spirituality In Relationship [14:00] Problems Ted & Gabrielle Saw In The Spiritual Community [23:00] Pros & Cons Of Devotion To One School Of Thought Vs Many [26:00] Ellen & Jayson Experience With Relational Problem In Spiritual Communities [32:00] How The Gabrielle And Ted Transitioned Out Of Their Spiritual Groups [36:00] The Pain Of Leaving A Spiritual Community [40:00] Increasing Your Personal Power Through Relationship [44:00] The Health Cost Of Being Alone Too Often [50:00] Ted & Gabrielle's #1 Tips For Listeners [1:00:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode featuring Ted and Gabrielle Usatynski at https://relationshipschool.com/podcast224  

In this unique episode, Jayson and high school student Evalyn Peacey exchange questions about small talk, screen time, online relationships and much more.    SHOWNOTES:   How Should Students Be Taught To Deal With Disagreements [5:00] Why Are We Supposed To Keep Things Shallow In Small Talk [6:00] What Are Some Methods To Get Couples To Open Up And Communicate? [9:00] Some Of Jayson’s Biggest Suggestions For Young People [11:00] Why Do So Many Young People Struggle To Communicate And Bond [13:00] How Can We Learn To Accept Ourselves Sooner [15:00] What Are Some Challenges Teen Are Facing In Their Relationships? [20:00] The Teens & Screens Issue [21:00] Where Are Young People Going For Relationship Help? [23:00] How Can Adults And The Relationship School Help Young People [24:00] Would Students Take A Relationship Class [29:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast/relationship-advice-for-teens-evalyn-peacey-smart-couple-podcast-223  

Author and researcher Warren Farrell unpacks his new book The Boy Crisis showing nothing predicts hardship in a boy’s life more than being ‘dad deprived’.   Who is Warren Farrell? [1:00] What Inspired Warren To Focus On Gender? [4:00] Why Is The Father’s Contribution To A Child’s Development Undervalued? [10:00] Research Findings On The Dad Deprived Boy [10:00] Connecting The #MeToo Movement To Raising Boys [17:00] How Boys Are Being Encouraged To Stay Silent [26:00] Defensiveness: Humankind’s Achilles Heel? [30:00] How Rough Play Can Help Teach Empathy [32:00] Why It’s Important For Boys To Learn Postponed Gratification [39:00] How People Are Responding To The Boy Crisis [42:00] What Is Warren Farrell’s Number One Message For Young People? [46:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Warren Farrell at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast222  

Saying sorry is the default, socially acceptable response to conflict but it’s also a cop-out. Learn to respond in a way that leads to REAL repair so the kids in your life learn to do the same.    SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Shitty Advice To Tell Your Kid To Say Sorry [2:00] Are You Teaching Your Kid To Say Sorry To Let Yourself Off The Hook? [3:00] What Kids Who Only Say Sorry Become As Adults [5:00] Two Ways To Respond To Conflict That Are Better Than Just Saying I’m Sorry [6:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast221  

Clinician and teacher, Stan Tatkin, explains what scientific research is telling us about pair bonding, adult attachment, and how to avoid triggering unwanted reactions.   SHOWNOTES:   Who Is Stan Tatkin? [1:00] Info On Stan’s New Book ‘We Do’ [4:00] Going From Me To We Is Not About Codependency [6:00] What is PACT & Psychobiology? [10:00] Questions You Need To Ask Yourself If You Had a “Great” Childhood [19:00] Allostatic Load And The Intersection Between Health and Security [24:00] How To Start Hard A Conversation [34:00] A Psychobiological Look At Emotions & Hormones [41:00] Listener Question: How Responsible Are We For Our Partner’s Feelings? [49:00] Listener Question: How Does Stan Address Sexual Desire Discrepancies? [55:00]   To RSVP for the free lunchtime webinar with Stan Tatkin and Jayson Gaddis visit https://relationshipschool.net/wedo/   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Stan Tatkin at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast220  

In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships.   SHOWNOTES:   Why Interacting With Family Can Be So Difficult [1:00] Terri Cole’s Family Experience [3:00] The Importance Of Boundaries and Language With Family [7:00] Examples Of Managing Family Dysfunction Successfully [9:00] Strategies For Avoiding Unwanted Conversations With Family [14:00] Is It Okay To Just Walk Away From Shitty Family Conversations? [19:00] Taking A Break From Family And Avoiding Family Holidays Altogether [21:00] When Mom And Partner Are Competing For Attention [25:00] Family Drama Hotline info [29:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast219   Prepare for the holidays and join the free, Family Drama Hotline webinar hosted by Jayson Gaddis and Terri Cole on the evening of November 20th! RSVP at https://relationshipschool.net/hotline/  

THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING! Are you ready for all the family time? Start preparing now and turn your annual holiday drama into time you really enjoy.    SHOWNOTES:   Why Holiday Cheer Can Be Such Bullshit [2:00] What Role Are You Playing To Appease Your Extended Family? [4:00] Consider Cutting Your Parents Some Slack [6:00] Terri Cole Holiday Drama Hotline Info [8:00] Two Mindsets To Adopt For The Holidays [11:00]     For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast218   Prepare for the holidays and join the free, Family Drama Hotline webinar hosted by Jayson Gaddis and Terri Cole on the evening of November 20th! RSVP at https://relationshipschool.net/hotline/  

So you're dealing with a breakup. In this episode, Jayson offers a guided meditation to help you work this heartache out of your system.   SHOWNOTES:   A Guided Meditation For People Facing A Breakup [2:00] Is Your Past Pain Playing Into Your Current Heartache? [12:00] Choose Who To Talk To About Your Breakup Wisely [14:00] How Relationship School Coaches Can Help You Through Your Separation [18:00]     For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast217    To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado visit https://relationshipschool.net/embracingconflict/  

If your partner feels like a 'ball and chain’, you're doing something wrong. You can feel free to totally be yourself AND have an intimate partnership.   SHOWNOTES: A Question From A Podcast Listener About Giving Space [2:00] Intimacy vs Closeness [4:00] Why the 'Ball and Chain' joke is such bullshit [6:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode on taking space and being yourself visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast216    To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado, visit https://relationshipschool.net/embracingconflict/  

In this final installment of a three-part series on conflict, learn four things you can do post-conflict to repair the relationship as quickly as possible.   SHOWNOTES: Four Things To Do To Reconnect After A Fight [4:00] Embracing Conflict Weekend Info [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part three in this conflict series visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast215 To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado, visit https://relationshipschool.net/embracingconflict/. Use the promo code "smartcouple" before October 21st and get $100 off!

In part two of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson breaks down the two skills you need when you're in the heat of it and explains the different types of fights. SHOWNOTES: Embracing Conflict Weekend Info [1:00] Two Things To Do During Your Next Fight [2:00] The Three Types Of Fights [8:00]  To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado, click here. Use the promo code "smartcouple" before October 15th and get $100 off!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part one of this conflict series episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast214   

Few things can rip a partnership or friendship apart like conflict. In part one of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson proposes ten pre-conflict agreements to transform conflict from a threatening experience into a growth opportunity. SHOWNOTES: Why Learning How To Do Conflict Is Important [1:00] Ten Agreement You Should Make With Your Partner BEFORE Conflict [3:00] Learn How To Do Conflict Well At The Upcoming Embracing Conflict Weekend! [18:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part one of this conflict series episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast213

Weddings include a lot of really great traditions. But those old school 'in sickness and in health' vows suck. Find out how to do vows the right way.   SHOWNOTES:  Personalized Wedding Vows Vs Traditional Vows [2:00] Why You Should Revisit Your Vows … Over & Over Again [5:00] Good Vows Challenge Your Partner [7:00] Tell Us About Your Wedding Vows! [11:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Wedding Vows Dos and Don'ts episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast212

You've submitted questions. Jayson's got answers! This Ask Me Anything episode addresses feelings of inadequacy and mismatched sex drives.   SHOWNOTES: Why We Sometimes Feel We’re Not Enough & What To Do About It [2:00] What To Do When Your Partner Has A Different Sex Drive [6:00] How To Submit Your Questions [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Ask Me Anything episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast211

 Have a partner, friend or family member with an addiction? Feeling discouraged about their ability to change? Well, often times at the core of addiction ... is a relationship problem. SHOWNOTES: The Connection Between Addiction And Prior Relationship Issues [2:00] Tips For People Who Love An Addict [4:00] Why Trying To Help Save Them Is A Bad Idea [7:00] Addressing The Addict In Your Life Starts With You [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about addiction and partnership visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast210

Society often glorifies the caretaker to a saint-like status. But, it’s important to know when caretaking reaches the point of actually being more harmful than helpful.   SHOWNOTES: What is Caretaking? [1:00] The Caretaker Blindspot [4:00] Slipping From Being A Caretaker And Into Codependency [7:00] Action Step [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about caretaking visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast209

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? Are you spending a fortune cleaning up after your failed relationships? In this episode, Jayson answers your questions about DPIR® and breaks down why the course is so worth it. Click here to apply.    SHOWNOTES: Think About WHY You Were Anxious About Going Back To School [1:00] Some Important Questions You Need To Ask Yourself [5:00] You Have Room For Growth & That's A Responsibility [10:00] Some Things You Get In The DPIR Course [15:00] Let's Break Down The Cost To Join DPIR [26:00] Jayson's DPIR Money-Back Guarantee [32:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about the Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR)® course visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast208

According to professor and therapist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, engaging your partner in conversation about their past experiences is one of the best things you can do to keep your relationship sexy and exciting. Listen in to find out why! Who is Dr. Alexandra Solomon? [6:00] Alexandra Defines "Relational Self-Awareness" [8:00]  Are Some People Just More Interested In Self-Awareness? [10:00] How Gender Norms Encourage Defensiveness [13:00] Alexandra’s Theories About Why People Avoid Introspection [23:00] How To Start Investigating Your History [31:00]  Why It’s Never Okay To Use Stories From Their Past Against Them [37:00] Things Alexandra is Learning Her Own Marriage [40:00]  Why Self-Care It Vital To A Healthy Partnership [42:00] Relational Themes Dr. Solomon Is Seeing Working With Students [49:00 Getting Better At Relationship To Bring About Social Change [55:00] FREE WEB CLASS - Aug. 14th - CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dr. Alexandra Solomon visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast207