The Dildorks

Relationships between metamours can be tricky, so this week we’re discussing the do’s and don’ts of connecting with your partner’s partner! Definition | Expectations vs. Reality | Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | Triad Dynamics | Motorcycle Story | The First Meeting | Jealousy & Inadequacy | Sharing Personal Info | Dating a Partner’s Ex | Maintaining a Friendship | Re-Establishing Trust Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering more questions about the duration of sex: how to deal when it goes on too long, how to ask for a round two, and more! Sad Cunnilingus | Meditative Headspace | Round Two | Help Them Finish | Kinkifying It | Overstimulation | Novelty Wearing Off | Reassurance | The Purpose of Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

A lot of people worry that the sex they have is “too short” or “too long,” so this week we’re answering some listener questions about the duration of sex! Misconceptions | PIV vs. Sex | Making Accommodations | When Sex Begins | Quickies | Increasing Stamina | “Normal” Stamina | Time of Day | Wandering Mind Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re discussing some of the intricacies of group sex – a type of encounter we’ll hopefully be able to have again someday, post-pandemic! Friendship Threesomes | Orgies vs. Play Parties | Chickening Out | Transcendence | Fantasy vs. Reality | Anxiety vs. Relaxation | Zoom Orgies | Structure & Spotlight | Self-Judgment | Negotiating | Hosting a Party | Sensory Issues | Too Big? | Checking In | Consent | Pulling Out Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Valentine’s week! In this episode we answer some listener questions about celebrating Valentine’s Day. Love is Art Kit | Clone-a-Willy | Long-Distance Celebrations | Polyamorous Planning | Does V-Day Matter? | Queerifying V-Day | V-Day Ideas For Kinksters | Bad Dates | Early Gifting | Fifth Wheel | Newly Out as Trans Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking to Eva Bloom – a sex educator, YouTuber, and author – about sexting, casual sex, desire during a pandemic, and more! Benefits of Sexting | Sexting w/ Cis Men | Walking Out | Masters Thesis | Spicy Flirting | Communication Improvements | Initiating Sexting | Compassionate Casual Sex | Queering the Straight Hookup | Setting Expectations | Filtering Potential Partners | Slut for Kindness | A Compassionate Guide to Sexuality and COVID-19 | Self-Comparison | Dual-Control Model | Casual Kink | Compassionate Casual Sex Virtual Workshop | Sex & COVID-19 Virtual Workshop Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

As we near the end of our twenties, we’re discussing how the aging process has affected our sexualities thus far, and how we envision our sex lives transforming far into the future! Feeling Like an Adult | Dysphoria & Aging | Queer Temporality | Women Aging | Are All Hot People Good at Sex? | Human vs. Trophy | “The Best Years of Your Life” | Spirituality & Magic | Age Play | Reclaiming Juvenility | Orgasm Difficulties | Testosterone | “Work” Orgasms | Utilitarian vs. Performative Sex | Disability | Acrobatic Positions | Community Connections | Sensual Pleasures Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

While our show is mostly about sex, it’s not the only type of intimacy that matters! This week we’re discussing how emotional and physical closeness play out in purely platonic friendships. Pandemic Anxiety | National Hugging Day | Intimacy & Trust | Intimacy vs. Touch | Gender & Friendship | Parental Influences | Saying No | Managing Expectations | Establishing Intent | When Feelings Develop | Jealousy | Queerplatonic Relationships | Touch Aversion Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What happens when your long-distance relationship isn’t long-distance anymore? This week we’re talking about the adjustments and changes that occur when this happens! Long-Distance Marriage | Introversion | Magical Vacation Time | Excitement | Communication Shifts | Phone Sex & Sexting | Family & Friends | LDR Skills | It’s Gonna Be Weird | Readjustment Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Since many of us are stuck at home right now, this week we’re chatting about household service tasks in D/s dynamics! Distance No More | Meal Planning | Does It Feel Kinky? | Dommy vs. Subby Service | Laundry | Executive Dysfunction | Gender Affirmation | (Dis)Ability | Hate Housework | Compliments & Rewards | Self-Efficacy | Task vs. Favor | “Slacking Off” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

So long, 2020! This week, we’re reflecting on how this hellish year affected our sex lives, what salacious goals we did and didn’t achieve, and what we hope to do in 2021. Holidays with Family | Pandemic Stress & Coping Mechanisms | Switching | Tickling | Rope Bondage | Chastity | Financial Domination | Cuckolding | Bratty Dominance | CBT | Blowjobs | Parties & Cons | Toys | Glitter Tops BDSM Gear | Best Sex | Last Year’s Goals | Next Year’s Goals | Chastity Photoshoot Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re celebrating Global Orgasm Day by answering some of your questions about orgasms! What Orgasms? | Global Orgasm Day | Strap-On Orgasms | Weaker w/ Partners | Sadness About PIV | Squirting vs. Orgasm | Cis Guy Squirting | Squirting Science | Sex Isn’t Over | Don’t Like Orgasms Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

The gifting season is upon us! This week we’re discussing what makes a great sexy gift, whether you’re trying to spoil a partner, a friend, or your favorite online sex worker. Gift-Related Panic | Love Languages | What Makes a Good Gift? | Usefulness vs. Frivolity | Surprise vs. Discussion | Dildo Size | Toxic Toys | Bottoms Buying for Tops | Sexy Gifts for Friends | Gifts for Online Sex Workers | Etsy Stores | Unicorn Collaborators | TwistedSyn | Lovecrafters Toys | SplitPeaches | SimplyElegantGlass | LVXSupply Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Kate got married last month, so this week we’re talking about the sexy and kinky dimensions of wedding traditions! Wife Life | Wedding Dress Fetish | Bridezilla | White Dress? | Dress Code | “Something Old…” | First Look | Tossing the Bouquet/Garter | Wedding Night Sex | Njoy Eleven | Chastity | Nerves | Gender-Neutral Terms Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, Bex chats with his partner Ashe (of Rose Glass Photography) about the ways they play with chastity in their relationship! Chastity vs. Orgasm Control | How They Got Into It | Fast Orgasms | Getting Into It | Devices | Butt Plugs | ADHD | Future Plans | Combinations | Non-Monogamy | Advice for Beginners Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking with Sinclair Sexsmith, writer, educator, and editor of the new book Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5! We touch on consent in erotica, the evolving definition of “lesbian,” disability representation in erotic media, and more. Alaska | Editing an Anthology | Fantasy vs. Reality | What is “Lesbian”? | Trans Representation | Mind Expansion | Pushback | Erotic But Not Sexual | Marketing & Messaging | Old Erotica Books | Underrepresented People | Disability & Chronic Pain | Generating Ideas Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Some people love being single, some hate it… Whatever your opinion may be, this week we’re discussing the single life! Election News | Bad at Being Single | “Are You Single?” | Friendships | List of Priorities | Stigmatizing Singlehood | Gender Dynamics | Couples’ Privilege & Amatonormativity | Pestered by Family | Bear Bergman Column | Dealing with Loneliness | Self-Love | Recovering From Breakups | Change & Growth | Attention-Seeking | Texting Exes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Kate got engaged recently (!!) so this week is a frank discussion of marriage proposals, engagement, and the various unconventional ways one can do these things! Big News! | Necessary Conversations | Why? | It’s a Trap! | Who Proposes? | Ritual | Surprise vs. Not | Love, Inc. | Emotional Preparation | The Ring | Financial Domination | Subverting It | Polyamory | Commitment Ceremonies | Collar | Minister Daddy | Free Choice Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Your sexual sensitivity can affect your enjoyment, self-esteem and more – so this week we’re discussing some of our best tricks for managing sensitivity-related issues! Ideas During Sex | “Shoulds” | Compared to Average | Sensitivity vs. Orgasm | Pumps | Weed | Libido-Boosting Products | Antidepressants | #OrgasmQuest | Monster Under the Bed | Testosterone | Dialing It Back | Indirect Stimulation | Increasing Sensitivity | Fantasizing | Vibrators | Feeling Guilty | Arousal Gels | Sexualizing Desensitization Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to be in a 24/7 D/s dynamic, why is it hot, and why is it comforting? This week we're discussing round-the-clock power exchange! Always Kinky | Horny All the Time?! | Intimacy & Interdependence | Organizing Principle | Self-Improvement | Moral Responsibility | Protocol | Conditioning | Risk Assessment | Off-Limits Areas | Blue Balls 4 Biden | Getting What You Want | Importance | When You’re Not Feelin’ It | Limited Bandwidth | Kink in Public Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re addressing some of your questions about boundaries, especially as they pertain to sex, friendships, and non-monogamy! Inappropriate Client | Episode Name | Nervous Partner | “Good-Natured Ribbing” | Anger | Intimacy Before Sex | Gone Horribly Wrong | Seeking Approval | Threesome Aftercare Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Setting boundaries is hard, but important! This week we’re discussing the tricky business of drawing a line in the sand, with romantic partners and in general. Yelling | COVID-Era Boundaries | Boundaries vs. Rules | Why They’re Useful | Ultimatums | Complications | Checking Back In | What Makes It Easier? | Sooner is Better | Bad Reactions | Being Nice | Bullshit Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How do you figure out whether a potential kink partner is safe enough and a good enough match with you before you do anything with them? This week we’re discussing the fine art of vetting! Casual Slapping | What Is Vetting? | Thresholds | Slut Referral Network | Consent Cues | “One of My People” | Social Capital | Direct vs. Indirect | Safewording | Storytelling | Pre-Emptive Domming | Framing Devices | Role-Modelling | Saying No | Making Excuses | Attachment Styles | Body Language | 2nd or 3rd Date | Disclosing Gender Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking with polyamory-experienced psychotherapist Jessica Fern about her excellent new book, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, & Consensual Nonmonogamy. Filtering the Monogamy Out | Origin Story | Structure as Security | Take Responsibility For Your Feelings | Clementine Morrigan’s Trauma-Informed Polyamory | Self-Regulation & Auto-Regulation | Parts Work | Common Problems | Taking Breaks | Giving Up | Ideal Relationship Styles | Having Your Shit Figured Out | Empowerment & Healing | Dealing with Therapists Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Crying is good for the soul, but did you know it can also be good for the libido? This week we’re discussing the kinky appeal of crying: cathartic sadomasochism, dacryphilia, emotional sex, and more! Other Catharses | Health Benefits | Masculinity & Vulnerability | That’s a Thing?! | Sadism & Emotional Topping | Emo Aesthetic | Ruining Something Beautiful | Sensual Pleasure | Feeling Cute | Good vs. Bad Crying | Sadness | Crying-Focused Scene | Bursting Into Tears | Runny Makeup | Unicorn Tears | Mezcal Negroni | Sixth Hour | Negotiation | Therapeutic vs. Therapy | Secrets | Tears in Sex | Medical Play | What to Do | Feeling Guilty | #BirthdayBruises Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about their recent forays into chastity play! Orgasm Control | Past Chastity Experiences | Cageless Experiments | CB 6000 & Other Devices | Boners | Coping Strategies | Sleeping | Handling the Horniness | Chastity Journal | D/s Dynamic | Keyholding 101 | Long-Distance | Devices vs. None | Emotional Effects | Duration Goals | Helping & Supporting | Financial Domination | Writing Assignments | Chastity for Vulvas | Fancy Steel & Neosteel | Gender Feelings | Decentralizing Dicks | Health & Safety | Playing Solo | Chastikey App | Advice for First-Timers | Twitter Thread Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re returning to the topics of subspace and topspace this week to answer some great questions from listeners about these phenomena! Switch Drag | Star Trek | New Partner | How to Tell | Dissociation | Explaining to a Partner | Straight/Cis People | Serving While Spacey | Keeping Yourself Out | Assault Survivor | Safewording | Reassuring a Dom | Taking Care of a Sub | Crying Afterward Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Subspace and topspace are two highly sought-after types of experience in the kink world – but what are they, and how do you access them? This week we’re discussing kinky headspaces! How Important Is It? | What Is It Like? | Topspace vs. Domspace | Surrender & Mastery | Spacey Interactions | Snapping Out of It | Aftercare | Continual Topspace | Hypnotic Triggers | Comedy Pacing | When It Hits You | Communication | Soothing Anxieties | Switching Within Scenes | Removing Distractions | Bondage Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing the intersections of sexuality and social media with Katrin Tildenberg, Ph.D., and Emily van der Nagel, Ph.D., two researchers and lecturers who just released a fascinating new book called Sex & Social Media! Sex & Social Media: the Book | Long-Distance Collaborations | Tumblr Ethnography | Tumblr Porn Ban | GoneWild Subreddit | What is Sex? | Future of Sex Online Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking to Aryn, an astrologer, podcaster, and sex and relationship coach. They fill us in the answers to our crucial sexual astrology questions, such as: Which planets govern your kink identities? Are all Pisceans bottoms? Is Capricorn the daddy dom sign? Queer Shorthand | Alternate Spirituality | Love & Sex Signs | Switches | Aries | Body Parts | Virgo | Capricorn as Daddy | Other Signs’ Best Qualities | A Chart’s Influence | Asking For Their Birth Time | Saturn Return | Queers vs. Straights | Chani Nicholas | Chris Brennan | Erotic Renaissance Podcast Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s our 200th episode! Join us as we discuss some other milestones in our lives – specifically our sex lives. 200!!! | Old Episodes | Sex Shop | Remote-Controlled Vibrators | Power Exchange | Fifty Shades of Kegel Balls | Wanting to Fuck Someone | Porn with Mom | Tasting Cum | First-Date Sex | “Pinch the Skin As Hard As You Can” | Sending Nudes | Strap-On Blowjobs | Oral Sex Party | Little Space & Alcohol | First Orgasm | Using Toys on Partners Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Conditions like ADHD can affect your whole life, including your sexuality and relationships, in really interesting ways! This week Kate interviews Bex about how his ADHD manifests and how he manages the difficulties that come with it. Recognizing it | Definition | Doesn’t Everyone Have That? | Diagnosis | Make It Sparkly | Dating Another ADHDer | Sex & Kink | Impulsivity & Surprise | Gender & Testosterone | Hyperfocus | Distraction During Sex | Disclosing | Cheating | Planning Scenes | Supporting a Partner Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Chronic pain can make your sex life tricky, but it doesn't have to ruin it! This week Bex interviews Kate about her mysterious chronic pain disorder, how it manifests in her sex/kink, and what makes it easier to handle. Pain History | BJ Interference | “Depression-Related Pain” | Disability Impostor Syndrome | Type of Pain | Impact on Sex Life | Intoxication | Hypnosis | Lucked Out | Caregiving | The Handy | Pillows | My Pain Diary | Liberator | Protocol | Topping | Sexy Accoutrements | Medications Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering your conversational queries! We explain how to deduce someone’s openness to chatting, ask questions people actually want to answer, navigate discussions when you’re low on spoons, and more. Intoxication | Want to Talk? | Yes, And | No Response Required | How Are You? | 50 Non-Pandemic-Related Questions to Ask | Social Skills | Stressful Questions | The Same Conversation | “What’s Up?” | Weird Questions | Low Energy Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to be good at conversation? We’re not claiming to be experts, but we have our preferences… This week, we’re discussing conversational skills: why they matter, how to develop them, and what to avoid. ADHD & Neurodivergence | Why? | Pick-Up Artists | Monosyllabic Conversationalists | Follow-Up Questions | Displaying Knowledge | Answering Your Own Questions | Reading Emotions | Nonverbal Communication | Body Language | Offering Options | Enthusiasm | Digital Cues | Silence | Loveland Therapy Fund Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Why do we sometimes call kink “play”? How does it relate to the games we played as children? This episode is a meandering philosophical discussion of the role of play in our lives – including our sex lives! Collarbone Play | Ass Play | Re-Watching | Recess | Play vs. Consuming Media | Critical Thinking | Childhood Sexuality | Capitalism | Repetition | Learning | Empathy | Non-Playful Play | Play Pretend | Vulnerability | Childhood Games | Healthy vs. Unhealthy Outlets | Needing Play | Roleplay | Challenges | Erotic D&D | Trans Justice Funding Project | Survived & Punished Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s a weird time to be celebrating Pride, to say the least… This week we’re talking about some ways you can access a little Pride magic even in these stressful times. Rocky Horror | Unorthodox “Churches” | #CelebratePrideQuietly | Going to Protests | Critical Resistance | You’re Wrong About Stonewall | Making Gay History | Two Headed Girl | The Offline Dating Method | Disclosure | How to Survive a Plague | Paris is Burning | Pose | Sense8 | An Unkindness of Ghosts | These Thems | Crafts | C. Murphy | Queer History | Desire Brainstorming | Finding Community | Media Audit | New York Toy Collective | Funkit Toys | Wet For Her | Queer Porn | How Can We Celebrate? | Non-Binary Inclusivity | “Looking Straight” | Center for Black Equity | The Okra Project | Chosen Family Law Center Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Hope y’all are doing okay in this very stressful time. This week we’re discussing how high stress levels affect sex and dating, from dissociation to guilt to trauma triggers. Time Management | Escapism vs. Information | Baths | De-Stressing Sex Toys | Solo Quickie | Illness Flare-Ups | Communicating While Triggered | Trauma-Informed Polyamory Workshop | When to Manage Stress? | Dissociation | Libido Guilt | Dating Apps | SexyDorkyQuarantine | Black Coalition for AIDS Prevention | National Center for Transgender Equality | Are Prisons Obsolete? | History Teaches Us to Resist Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re joined by self-made porn queen Gwen Adora to discuss how her online sex work business has changed in light of the pandemic – and how the online porn landscape is shifting more generally in these trying times. Sex Worker Label | Roleplay Videos | Slinky Porn | Work Week | Productivity | Customer Trends | Be Nice to Sex Workers | Pandemic Porn | Crews & Creativity | Caroline Calloway | Racism & Classism | Value | Skillsets | Normalization | Ashe’s BLM Products Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we talked with sex educator, columnist, and stripper Andre Shakti about how she’s transitioned her sex work career onto the internet in the wake of COVID-19. Hopefully you’ll find this useful if you’re thinking about doing the same. Also: Black Lives Matter, ACAB, stay safe out there if you can, friends. Pandemic Nudes | Pre-Pandemic Work Week | Government Assistance | Upkeep | Sanctuary Virtual Strip Club | Online Classes | Customer Etiquette | Patron’s Guide to Strip Clubs | Harm Reduction | Andre’s GoFundMe | Minnesota Freedom Fund | Brooklyn Bail Fund | North Star Health Collective | Black Lives Matter (US) | Black Lives Matter (Canada) Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Hope you’ve had a lovely Masturbation Month, despite the circumstances! This week we’re answering more listener questions about jerkin’ it. No Pants | “How to Masturbate” Video | Technique Lists | Vibrator Tips | Sex Training | Dysphoria | Quitting Masturbation | Roommate Troubles | Tedium | Comfortable Penetration | Guilt & Sadness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we had a great chat with authors and polyamory educators Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell about their 6-week online course, Unfuck Your Polyamory. We also got their advice on some of the polyamory pitfalls people are experiencing these days due to the coronavirus lockdown.Unfuck Your Polyamory | Couples’ Privilege | Media Representation | LDRs & Love Languages | Stress Levels | Communication & Bandwidth | Partner Imbalances | Harm Reduction | Online Group Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Masturbation Month! To celebrate, we’re answering some of your most pressing questions about what some people euphemistically call self-lovin’. Professional Masturbators | Masturbation Month | COVID Libido | More Satisfying | “Genital Sneeze” | Edging | Different Ways of Orgasming | Interdependency | Excess & “Addiction” | Vibrator Overuse | Toys with Partners | Using Hands | Partner Walks In Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re chatting with journalist, author, and theologian Tara Isabella Burton. Her forthcoming book Strange Rites is about how the “religiously unaffiliated” seek meaning and fulfilment through non-religious means – like sex, kink, and polyamory, to name but a few! Strange Rites | Chosen Family | Lifestyle Kink vs. Just For Fun | Perfectionism | Idealism | Intuitionalism | Embodiment | Consent | Unfuck Your Polyamory | Reconciling with Religion | Pain Rituals | Power Dynamics | Fulfillment Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by erotic letter writer, tarot reader, and oral historian Jamie Beckenstein to discuss the joys of sexy snail mail! Rail Mail | Personas | Why Snail Mail? | Touch | Exploring Fantasies | Space & Time | Tools | Handwriting | Language | Aftercare | Lessons Learned | Cis Men | Pricing | Trauma Survivors | Repeating Words | Dissociating | Sign-Offs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy 4/20! This week's episode is our annual Highpotheticals special, where we get high off our asses and answer sex questions sent in by listeners. Enjoy! Wonders of Weed | Kinkiest Vegetable | “Useful” Kinks | Personality Traits | Smoke a Dick | Additional Limbs | Sound Effects | Period Products | One-Offs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re back answering more of your COVID questions! Tune in to hear our thoughts on maintaining relationship momentum during the crisis, balancing different libido levels, and Skype date etiquette, among other things. Keeping Them Interested | Deeper Conversation | Video Date Etiquette | Partner in the Room | Classes & Events | Quiet Kink | FWBs | Sex Drive Discrepancies | Size Training | Upside-Down | Secret Dirty Talk Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Want to liven up your self-isolation with some sex and/or kink? We’ve got more suggestions this week than you can shake a dick at! Protocol & Ritual | Clone-a-Willy | Dress-Up Doll | Roleplay | Yes/No/Maybe List | Medical Play | Edging & Orgasm Control | Self-Tying | Leather Care | Recordings & Videos | Cam Shows | Custom Content | Phone Sex | Hypnosis | Curated Smut | Weird Music | History | Sex Toy Reviews | Surveillance Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by kink educator Carter Brûlée to discuss one thing the three of us have in common: being silly, playful, and giggly during sex and kink! Fire & Dessert | Srs Bsns | Ruining the Mood | Kink As Play | Sneezing | Giggle Check | Suffering | Tickling | Topping | Roleplay | Advice For Partners | Negotiation & Check-Ins | Giggling | Implements | Beginner Tips | Humiliation | Distance Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Wow, what a week. This episode we’re answering questions about the thing that’s on everyone’s mind – COVID-19 – and how it intersects with sex and dating. Hope you find this helpful and comforting, friends! NYC Health Brief | Sex Hygiene | Cancelling Dates | #PolyProblems | Metamour Boundaries | Touch-Starved | Hopelessness & Jealousy | “Clean Sex” | Breakups | Casual Love | Friends | Online Games Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.