The Dildorks

Billy just got back from kink camp (Dark Odyssey Fusion) as well as TES Fest, and this week he tells us about what it was like to do both of those kink events back-to-back. Justin McElroy on Gender Reveal | Operations Team | Comparing the Two Events | Space vs. Crowds | Bad Weather | Goals | Emotions | “I’m Working!” | Scenes | Lego Paddle | Communication Skills Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In light of Elon Musk recently declaring “cis” to be a slur on Twitter (it’s not), this week Kate is interviewed by her spouse mb about what it means to be cis and how her gender presentation has shifted over time. Cis Isn’t a Slur | Queer Femme Cis Woman | Getting Misgendered | My New Gender Workbook | Boyish Presentation | Cis-Het Male Gaze | Black Leather Chucks | Gender Census | Queer as a Gender | Permanent vs. Malleable | Childhood Clues | Pronouns | Girl Roman Roy | Roman Feminization Fanfic | Medical Treatments & Procedures | GrowYourClit | Internal Family Systems | Gamer Boys | Sex & Kink Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate chats with pro financial dominatrix and kinky comedian Lane Kwederis about findom and her one-woman show, Sex Job! Findom Beginnings | Improv & Theatre | Educating Clients | What Findom Involves | Financial Limitations | What’s Hot About It? | “Mesmerize” | Balancing Professional Identities | Fantasy vs. Reality | Shadow Side | Personal Growth | “Did I Do That For Money?” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Crying can be hot, challenging, painful, cathartic, pleasurable, or all of the above. This week we’re talking about our current relationship to crying, in and out of scenes. Crying Daily | Surprise | Making Yourself Cry | A Good Feeling | Fetishizing It | Seeing Others Cry | Gender & Hormones | Childhood Experiences | Looking in the Mirror | Emotions for Emotions’ Sake | Aftercare | Crying on the Phone Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Continuing our discussion of brats, “bad” subs, and “good” subs, this week we talk about how rebellion, humor, and colorful language can be worked into D/s scenes, among other things. “Is That an Order?” | Responses to “Make Me” | Bratty Doms | Humor & Laughter | Fun with Language | Finding Non-Bratty Subs | Punishment Concerns | Disrespectful Honorifics Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Some submissives like to be “good,” some like to be “bad,” some like to be “bratty,” and some prefer a combination or like to mix things up. This week we discuss the motivations and manifestations of these various orientations to submission. Good vs. Bad vs. Bratty | Psychological Motivations | Emotional Masochism & Humiliation | Childhood Experiences | What Do We Prefer? | “Disrespectful” Brats | Safewords & Check-Ins | Conflict | Beginner Brat Tips Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Billy is interviewed by his boyfriend Dee Darkholme about “free use” kink, a type of consensual non-consent… while planning a free use scene they’re gonna do after the recording! Definition | What’s Hot About It? | Hedonism | Negotiation | Activities Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re talking about our ever-evolving relationships to masturbation and how it all relates to self-love, self-compassion, and living a good life. Our Solo-Sex History | Truly Solo Masturbation | Neurochemical Effects | Goal-Oriented | A “Waste of Time”? | Flirty Sexy Energy | Time Off to Recharge | Doing Stuff for Content | “Assisted” Masturbation Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re (belatedly) celebrating Mother’s Day by talking about mommy kink – plus a decent amount of daddy kink thrown in for good measure. Succession Fanfiction | Humiliation & Meanness | Nurturing & Caretaking | Pro Dom(me)s | Mommy Issues | Popularization & Destigmatization | Incest Roleplay & Dark Ageplay (19:47–24:28) | Feelings & Vibes | Decisiveness | 24/7 vs. Not | Genderlessness | Are We Into It? | Campiness | Abuse | Freud Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re so excited this week to be chatting with Mollena Lee Williams-Haas, a kink educator, podcaster, author, and performer. We got into a fascinating discussion about how kink can help you reconnect with your body, deepen your intimacy, push your boundaries and heal from your trauma. Kink Doula | Reconnecting with the Body | Group Sex | Sustaining 24/7 Dynamics | Being the Bad Guy | Aftercare | Slavery (29:00–31:15) | Panda & HypnoStory’s Hypnokink 101 Class | Pushback from the Community | Having Nuanced Conversations | Where Do Kinks Come From? | Star Trek | Race Play & Racism (48:38–52:38) | Kink as Play | The Prime Directive | Having “No Limits” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate has a nerdy chat with Sleepingirl, an author, podcaster, and long-time hypnokinkster who has created numerous erotic hypnosis resources, including LearnHypnokink.com. Early Days of Hypno Fetishism | LearnHypnokink.com | Subject Skills | Milton Erickson & Utilization | Pacing & Leading | Consent in Trance | HypnoStory & Panda’s 101 Class | Meeting Other Fetishists | Long-Distance Play | Space & Silence | Creativity | Flow State | Mindfulness, Meditation & Magic | Quakerism | Six Days Asleep Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s that time again: this week we’re celebrating 4/20 by getting blazed and answering “highpothetical” questions about sex and kink! Tune in for a jam-packed, silly discussion of questions like “Would you want to be able to read your partner’s mind during sex?” and “What one kink implement would you take on a desert island?” Last Prisoner Project | Cannabis Amnesty | Destigmatizing a Kink | One Type of Orgasm | Museum/Theme Park | HypnoStory & Panda’s Hypnokink 101 Class | Speedrunners | Fanfiction | Guided Masturbation | Mind-Reading | Desert Island Implement | Scene From Fiction | Our Future Selves Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering random sex advice questions, like: Is it hotter to wear a suit, or sweatpants? How can you enjoy sex when you’re trying not to come? And does jerking off to Lola Bunny make you a furry? Facials | Fingering | Trying Not to Come | Dressed Up vs. Dressed Down | Lesbian Dating Men | Furries Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Billy is joined by his partner, Dee Darkholme, for a nerdy discussion of kinky roleplay: how characters get developed, which characters and tropes come up most often in their relationship, and how to make roles feel natural and authentic. Nerdery | Roleplayer Radar | Cringe & Campiness | Kink vs. Sex | Taboo | ADHD Benefits | Aliens | Age Play | Robots | How Roles Evolve | Fantasizing During Sex | Developing Lore | Authenticity | Motivations | Connection | Date Nights | Our Previous Roleplay Episode Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’ve both reviewed a LOT of sex toys, so this week we’re talking about the intricacies of sex toy reviewing: what makes a good review, how we test toys, and how readers can find reviewers whose opinions they trust. How We Got Into It | Sexy Video Reviews | Testing Process | Hey Epiphora | Bad Toys | Choosing Toys | Annoying Misconceptions | “Soft Skills” | Review Format | SEO-ification | Good vs. Bad Reviews | Reviewers’ Preferences | Number of Sessions | Testing Sessions | Brands’ Reactions | Finding Ethical Reviewers | Art vs. Sales Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Edging and denial go together very well, and this week we’re talking about both: why they can be fun, why they can be annoying and difficult, and how to do them well as a top and as a bottom. Eroticizing Celibacy | Bottoming vs. Topping | Punishments & “Failure” | Ruined Orgasms | Velvet Veronica | Self-Control vs. Collaboration | Edging vs. Gooning | Altered States | Disinhibition & Vulnerability | Long-Distance | Asynchrony | Long-Term Denial | Intensity | Getting Annoyed & Giving Up | Endorphins | How to Improve Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Depression can put a strain on relationships, but it doesn’t have to! This week we’re talking to our friend JoEllen Notte, an author and mental health advocate, about her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends & Family. “Are You Mad At Me?!” | How It Came to Be | Interview Process | Pandemic Changes | Check On Your Friends | Choosing Kindness | “Not My Place” | “Just Do It” | Overlap with ADHD | Interview Self-Care | Bringing Food | Postponing Difficult Conversations | Ring Theory | Taking Breaks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sometimes. paradoxically, it’s fun to suffer! This week we’re talking about suffering in a kink context: why we (sometimes) like it, how to do it safely, and how it differs from plain ol’ sadomasochism. Drug Shortages | Pain as Pleasure | Is Suffering Sexual? | Sex as Aftercare | Pain vs. Suffering | Emotional Suffering | Justifiably Having a Bad Time | Sensory Nightmares | Gender Conditioning | Soft Limits vs. Hard Limits | Safewords | Consensual Non-Consent | Tips for Tops | Fear & Sadism Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It can be embarrassing (or hot! or both!) to come at the “wrong” time. This week we’re talking about inopportunely-timed orgasms, why they can be sexy as hell, and how to navigate any shame or awkwardness they might trigger. Orgasm Control | Ruined Orgasms | Hormone Changes | Tampon in Science Class | Bathroom Sex | Premature Ejaculation Kink | “Try Not to Come” | Coming Untouched | Post-Orgasm Exhaustion | Coming While Giving Head | Wet Dreams | Nipple Orgasms | Vulnerability Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Roleplay is a big part of both our sex/kink lives, but what does it actually mean to play a role? This week we’re diving into the intricacies of playing a character in scenes. Full-Time Daddy-Domming | Trivialization of Roleplay | Performance & Acting | Archetypes & Stock Characters | “What Would They Do?” | Character Creation | Humiliation & Bullying | Robots & Aliens | Lore | Character Exercises | Plot Progression | Headspaces | Breaking Character Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Valentine’s Day to all who celebrate! This week we’re discussing the pros and cons of this “Hallmark holiday” and answering listener questions about Valentine’s celebrations. Sex Toy Retail | How We Celebrate | Romance Aesthetic | What’s the Point? | Why the Hate? | Celebrating Solo | Judgment | Misogyny | Gendered Narratives | Anniversaries | Obligation | Mismatched Enthusiasm | Friendships | Jerkmate.com | Year-Round Romance | Everybody Loves Raymond | Early Dating | Kate’s Worst Valentine’s Day Ever Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Even though we both make sex media, we’ve both felt pressured to “sanitize” what we do from time to time. This week we discuss professionalism, personas, posting nudes on main, and other aspects of this balancing act. “Professionalism” | Different Places & Voices | Getting Exxxplicit | Sexy vs. Educational | Developing a Voice | Hurts So Good | Boundary-Crossing | Exhibitionistic Thrill | Posting Nudes | Jerkmate.com | Sex Work Persona | Flirting Problems | SESTA/FOSTA | Payment Processor Issues Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Why are dating apps so bad?! This week, we discuss some of our issues with dating apps and (maybe) some ways to work around these problems. Fake Profiles | Dopamine Hit | Gamification & Capitalism | Everyone Seems Boring | Specific vs. General | Flirty vs. Explicit | Twitter | Jerkmate.com | Holding a Conversation | Munches | Grindr Dick Pics | Consent Paradigms | Pushing Boundaries Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Billy’s partner Dee Darkholme just got top surgery, so this week, the two of them discuss the process of deciding to get it, what the actual procedure was like, and how recovery has been. The Basics | Pre-Surgical Process | How to Decide / Being Non-Binary | Porn & Monetization | No Nipples | Doctors’ Assumptions | Binder vs. No Binder | Recovery Difficulties | Drains | Looking Forward | Clothes | Rope Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We both want to do more butt stuff this year, so in this episode we discuss our experiences with anal play, our reasons for wanting more of it, and our tips for doing it well. Pure Plugs | Our Butts’ Histories | Rimming | Why? | Enjoyable Experiences | Roleplays | CNC (27:08–30:14) | Hygiene Anxieties | Enemas | How It “Should” Feel | Anal Training Regimen | The Brainwashing Book Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What did we accomplish sexually in 2022, and what are our sex & kink goals for 2023? This week we’re discussing all that, plus our best sex sessions of the year. “Amateur” Porn | Best Sex | A Good Dick | Strap-On Sex | Coming from Oral | Ambulance Sex | Last Year’s Goals | New Goals | Anal Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex/kink/dating lives in 2022: new things we tried, new toys we enjoyed, new fantasies we couldn’t stop thinking about, etc. Biggest Differences | New Things | Cum | Phased Out | Sex Toys | Fantasies | American Horror Story | Dee’s Top Surgery Fundraiser Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we had a wide-ranging discussion about “picking people up,” pickup artists, social skills, the ethics of seduction, building confidence, and more. Solo Bar Dates | “If Books Could Kill” Episode | Social Rules | Control & Manipulation | Motivations | Dr. Nerdlove | Negging | Picking Up vs. Cruising | Meeting People in Bars | Lower the Stakes | The Offline Dating Method | Initiating Conversations | Helping People | Gathering Momentum | Continuing the Conversation | Ending the Conversation | Pickup Lines | Consensual Seduction Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How do you find kink implements that are both practical and pretty? This week we’re sharing our best tips for kink toy shopping, as well as sex toy storage. Impulsive Purchases | Mass-Produced vs. Indie | Fetishist Media | Sex Shops vs. Kink Shops | Vetting | Online vs. In-Person | Deciding on a Toy | Aesthetics vs. Function | Pervertibles | Sex Toy Storage | Charging Cables | Epiphora’s Toy Closet | Decorative Displays | Discretion | Dee’s Top Surgery Fundraiser Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we offer our best advice on shopping for sex toys, interspersed with some anecdotes about our wacky days working in sex toy retail. In-Person vs. Online | JoEllen Notte’s Superhero Sex Shop Tour | Suspiciously Low Prices | What to Know First | Deciding Whether to Buy | Versatility | Couples’ Toys | We-Vibe | Beginners’ Toys | Tenga Eggs | Turbo Glider | Orchid G | Dildos | Vibration Quality | Budget to Spark Joy | Unique Toys | Never Worth It Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Is it safe to use a banana, an electric toothbrush, or a wooden spoon as a sex toy? This week, we’re discussing makeshift and homemade “sex toys”! Why? | Defining Dildos | Our Experiences | Risk Factors | Funkit Toys NoFrilldo | Turbo Glider | Body Massagers | Fruits & Veggies | Risk Assessment | Electric Toothbrush | Clothespins | Hairbrushes | Spanking University Hairbrushes Video | Ice Insertables | Candle | Rope | Ginger | MacGyvered Fleshlights Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Not everyone gets horny in the same way or at the same pace! This week we’re discussing the difference between responsive desire and spontaneous desire, and how to be respectful of your partner’s desire style even if it differs from yours. Come As You Are | Responsive vs. Spontaneous | Consent | Sexually Relevant Data | Gender Differences | Different Desire Styles | Revving Up Responsives | Responsive4Responsive | Brakes & Accelerator | Kink vs. Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Navigating conflict is one of the trickiest parts of being in a relationship, so this week we’re discussing our best tools and techniques for having hard conversations with loved ones. Noticing the Need | Initiating a Conversation | Now’s Not the Time | Anger | Internal Family Systems | Taking a Break | Structure | Endings | Lingering Feelings Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing more behaviors that might be cheating, or might not be – like keeping your ex’s nudes, neglecting to use condoms, or crushing on a friend. Talk About It | Ex’s Stuff | Ex’s Nudes | Secret Crush | Emotional Connection | Sexting & Phone Sex | Intent vs. Impact | Threesome | Check-In After Bedtime | Safer Sex Protocols | Intoxication | Responding Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There’s a lot of confusion over what constitutes cheating on someone, so this week we’re discussing what we think cheating is, and what it definitely isn’t. Not Monkeypox | Define “Cheating” | Masturbation | Sleeping in the Same Bed | Porn & OnlyFans | Camming & Nudes | Curdled Ink Podcast | Jerking Off Together | Flirting with Friends | Fantasizing | Custom Videos Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re releasing this bonus episode, originally recorded for our $12+ Patreon supporters, on our main feed this week because Billy is out sick. Enjoy our discussion about exhibitionism, hypnosis, rough body play, and more! Hyprov | Exhibitionistic Beating | SELF+Jimmyjane | Vibrating Finger Massager | Nude Beach | Public Nudity | Rough Body Play | Gun Dildo | RealCock Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What the hell is squirting, anyway? This week we discuss our experiences with squirting, our theories on the controversies that surround it, and our favorite toys and techniques for making it happen. Hello, Billy! | Is It Pee? | Where Is It From? | UTIs | Is It Orgasmic? | G-Spot Orgasm | SELF+Jimmyjane Vibrating Slimline Massager | Jimmyjane | How to Squirt | Njoy Pure Wand | Fingers vs. Toys | Squirting on Dicks | Motion of the Ocean | Movie Magic | Full Bladder | Squirting During Oral | Hole Punch Fluke | KR Curve | Njoy Eleven | Chin Play Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re busting more bisexuality myths this week, like: Are bi people more likely to want to have a threesome? What’s the difference between bi and pan? And do bi femmes exist? Threesomes | Trans Inclusivity | Self-Definition | Bisexual vs. Pansexual | Stigma & -Phobias | “Straight-Passing Privilege” | Bi Femmes | SELF + Jimmyjane Vibrating C-Ring | Jimmyjane | Assumed to Be Bi | STIs | “Picking a Side” | Sitting in Chairs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Since it’s Bisexuality Day on Friday, this week we thought we’d bust some common myths and misconceptions about bisexuality and bi people. 100% Bisexual | Does Monosexuality Exist? | Comp Het | Blurred Lines | “Straight” by Hanne Blank | Behavior vs. Orientation | Identical Attractions | “It’s a Phase” | Gatekeeping | “I Kissed a Girl” | “Just Date Women” | Wider Dating Pool | Men | Promiscuity & Cheating | “Greedy” | Slut-Shaming | Gender Differences in Biphobia | Left for Someone Else Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Lately we’re both unenthused about doing kink with people we don’t have an emotional connection with, so this week we’re discussing the role of connectedness and intimacy in kink and sex. Camp Struggles | Demisexuality & Demiromanticism | What is Connection? | Fast Food Kink | Affirmation | Being on the Same Page | Authenticity & Honesty | Being Honored | Honey Play Box | Seduction | Crying | Romantic vs. Platonic | Edge Play | Getting Triggered | Roleplay Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How do our kinky tendencies affect other areas of our lives? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss how dominance, submissiveness, toppiness and bottominess can manifest in not-directly-kinky situations. “Daddy” Song | Dominant Tendencies | Submissive Tendencies | Advice & Guidance | Dark Side | Dating Vanillas | Making Better Decisions | A Doll’s House | Historical Lack of Knowledge | “Tradwife” Movement | Topping Tendencies | Stand-Up Comedians | Bartenders | TikTok Wood Chopper | Magicians | Vanilla(-Ish) Tops | Kinky Flirting | Switching | Cocktail-Domming | Balance | Bottom Guilt | Bottom Skills | Positive Reinforcement Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we revisit the topic of group sex: threesomes, foursomes, and orgies. We discuss how our mindsets about group sex have changed over the pandemic, and offer some tips on initiating and negotiating. How to Find Someone | Unicorn-Hunting | Healthy vs. Unhealthy Motivations | Predicting Success | Experienced People vs. Newbies | Vetting | Self-Reflection | Negotiation | Feeling Included | Communication During Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’ve both tried a lot of sex toys, and this week we’re talking about some of the weirdest ones we’ve ever encountered, from the Lelo dick tuxedo to the butt plug-shaped shoes. What is “Weird”? | Teddy Love | Lunabelle’s Teddy Love Review | Wake-Up Vibe | Lelo Tux | Lifestyles Tuxedo Condoms | Plug of War | Funkit Chess | Hole Punch Evolver | Trump Butt Plug | Ainsley-T | Tongue Cupcake Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We both love strap-on sex, and this week we’re discussing our fave harnesses and dildos and our top tips for giving good strap. Our Strap Experiences | Strap-On vs. Handheld Dildo | Strap-On vs. Dick | Pleasure for Tops | Strapless Strap=Ons | We-Vibe | Sili Saddle | Tenga Eggs | Practicing Alone First | “Pegging” | Harnesses | Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit | Tantus O-Rings | Beginner Strap-On Recommendations | SpareParts Joque | Aslan Leather Jaguar | SpareParts Deuce | RodeoH | Dildos | Godemiche Ambit | VixSkin Goodfella | Proprioception | Stamina Exercises | Positions | Liberator Jaz | Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re celebrating our 300th episode by talking about our “top 3” choices in a bunch of different categories! Pain Implements | Dirty Talk Lines | Fan Encounters | Fantasy Threesomes | Senses to Play With | Vibrators | Places to Do Kinky Things | Other Podcasts | Ways to Flirt | Surprising Kinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Privacy can be a tricky subject to navigate in sexual relationships, so this week we’re answering listener questions on the fine line between privacy and secrecy when it comes to sex and dating. Our Boundaries | Phone Access | Sharing Porn Info | Non-Monogamy Disclosure | Telling Children | Trauma Disclosure | Noisy Roommate | Hickeys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Femmes are somehow both erased and revered in the queer community. This week we’re discussing Kate’s femme identity: what it means, how she arrived at that label, and the joys and difficulties of being femme.Transmasc Fem(me)ness | Cis Woman vs. Femme | Femme vs. Feminine | Clothes & Makeup | Tattoos | Tomboy Side | Male Gaze | Straights Dressing Queer | Butch/Femme Dynamics | Butch is a Noun | Gaydar | Femme Invisibility | Gatekeeping | Pronouns | Asking About Pronouns | Femmephobia Follow the Dildorks: Patreon | Twitter Follow Bex: Website | Twitter | Instagram | OnlyFans | JustForFans | ManyVids Follow Kate: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Books | Newsletter | YouTube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we set out to have a discussion of creativity in kink, and it turned into a meandering discussion of that, Bex’s adventures at kink camp, our traumas, roleplay, boundaries and more.Bex’s Health | Classes as Aftercare | Suffering | Edge Play | Kink & Trauma | Screening Therapists | Turning Point | Seeking Sadists | Creativity Through Constraints | Flirty Roleplay | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Knowing Your Boundaries | Palette of Permission | Nipple Stuff | Being Known | Clit Trust | Learning | Cum Cocktails | Follow the Dildorks: Patreon | Twitter Follow Bex: Website | Twitter | Instagram | OnlyFans | JustForFans | ManyVids Follow Kate: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Books | Newsletter | YouTube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate’s spouse Matthew Bischoff returns for a discussion of kinky apps, sex machines, electrostimulation and other fun sex tech. Notes App | Dominance Technology | Sex Menu | Protocol Apps | Obedience | Streaks | Sex Toy Spreadsheet in Notion | OSSM | Fucking Machines | 3D-Printing Sex Toys | Heckin’ Lewd | Nanobots & Nerve Pathways | Electrostimulation | Self-Hosted Options | Buttplug.io Intiface | Video Game Haptics | Edge-o-Matic 3000 | VR Sex | Phone Sex | Scent & Taste Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Could sex apps, high-tech vibrators and sex robots ever replace sex with actual humans? This week Kate is joined by her spouse Matthew Bischoff, a technologist, app developer and cohost of the Absolutely Crushed podcast, for a discussion of sex tech. Sex Apps | Online Censorship | Hypnokink | Bluetooth Sex Toys | We-Vibe | Mozilla Privacy Audit | Cellmate Chastity Cage | Best Companies | Ana Valens on Dominatrix Simulator | Buttplug.io | Custom Coding | Music Vibes | Most Powerful | VR & AR | Educational Tools | Sex Robots Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.