The Dildorks

What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, boundaries, “leagues,” dealbreakers, and more. Male Attention | Horrors of Singledom | Self-Judgment | Gender Differences | “Leagues” | Rejection | Insecurities | Chemistry | Wanting vs. Being Wanted | Monogamy vs. Polyamory | Friend of a Friend Matchmaking | Bad Standards | What ARE “Standards”? | Attractions Changing | Good Standards | Setting Standards | Preference vs. Fetishization Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts and feelings on various forms of size kink. Littleness vs. Age Play | Vore | Eating & Swallowing | Cannibalism (7:52–11:40) | Giantesses | Tinies | Toy Story | Human Size Variations | Kissing | Height Preferences | Gender | CNC | How to Emphasize Size Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a tattoo artist. Dildo Nerds | New Logo | Listened to Every Episode | Fifty Shades | Favorite Part | Separate Personas | Piercing | Tattooing | Alt Culture | Traditions vs. Colonialism | Flash Art | Kinky Tattooing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jessica Fern | Differing Compatibilities | Friendships vs. Romance | Dean Spade Essay | Building Your Own Escalator | Professional & Creative Partnerships | Social Media | Collars | Money Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic from New Zealand who has studied porn addiction discourse and the NoFap movement, about all of the above and more. Origin Story | Masculinity | New or Old? | NoFap Research | Homoeroticism in NoFap | Women on NoFap | Giving Pleasure | Eroticizing Self-Denial | Dust Breeding | Barriers & Tension | Sexual Fantasy | Male Pleasure | Flure App | Porn Dependency | “No Porn” Rule | Fantastical Fantasies | Vibrators | A Cyborg Manifesto | Solitary Sex | Making Sex | Female Orgasm | Queer & Trans People | Future Research Directions Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Humor is a big component of our sex and kink, but it’s not always appropriate during scenes. This week we talk about how and when to deploy humor to improve your flirting, domming, or subbing. Vibrators Dying | Improv Crushes | Take an Improv Class | The Excitement of Humor | Collaboration | Repetition | Tension & Release | Too Much Laughing? | Read the Room | Nothosaur Toys | Breath Play | Nerves & Anxiety | Aftercare | On the Same Page | Making a Top Laugh | Humiliation Play | Funny Kink Scenes | Commit to the Bit Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Watching porn while in a relationship can be more contentious than watching it while single; this week, we theorize on why that is, and answer listener questions about watching porn with partners. Is OnlyFans Cheating? | Economics | Insecurities & Anxieties | What Porn is For | Extreme Tastes | Watching Porn During Oral | Nothosaur Toys | Sharing Passwords | Porn Stars’ Appearance | Queer Porn with Straight Partners Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

With Valentine’s Day having just passed, this week we tried to figure out what “romance” actually is. Consistency | Autism & Aromanticism | Love, Inc. | Romantic Attraction | Friendship | New Relationship Energy | Media Love | Nothosaur Toys | What’s Romantic To You? | Reciprocity | Examples of Romance | Surprise | Spontaneous Kisses | Thinking of You | Vulnerability | Sex Games | Remembering Preferences Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What happens when a sex toy reviewer quits using vibrators? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss her recent break from using vibes, the reasons for it, and the results of the experiment. Why? | Vibrator Habituation | Research Questions | Sensitivity | Orgasm Threshold | Orgasm Intensity | Tools | Quitting? | Slowing Down | Sex Ed | How Long It Takes | Manual Stimulation | Hand Weakness | Mental Aspect | Flure | Readjusting | Withdrawal | Polyamory Clause | Natural/Intimate | Alcohol | Internal Spots | Libido & Satisfaction | New Techniques | Mood | Big Nut Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re answering listener questions on sex toys this week – and sharing some of our snarky takes about certain sex toy brands. Meeting People Where They’re At | Butt Plugs for Long-Term Wear | Njoy Pure Plug | Fun Factory Bootie | Lube for Silicone Anal Toys | Sliquid Silk | Sliquid Sassy | Sutil Rich | Sliquid Organics Gel | Should I Buy More Toys? | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Njoy Pure Wand | VixSkin Toys | Best Orgasms | VixSkin Outlaw | Eroscillator | Fucking Sculptures Double Trouble | Pressure-Wave Toys | Lelo Sila | Womanizer Premium 2 | Satisfyer Pro 2 | Toys for AMAB People | Lovense Edge 2 | Trans Affirming Wear | Ana Valens Article | Fun Factory Manta | Hot Octopuss Pulse | Micropenis Dildo | Uberrime Dildo Tip | Toy Cleaner | DivaWash | Songs About Sex Toys | Rachel Lark Song | “Bad Sex” Song | Lelo | Dick Tux | Owning a Sex Shop Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Watersports is a wet, wild, and wonderful kink! This week, we’re discussing piss play: what we find hot about it (and what we don’t), how we’ve incorporated it into scenes, and how to do it safely and with minimal mess. Why Is It Hot? | Comparison to Scat | Taboo | Intimate | Messy | Pissing on Command | STPs | Peeing Inside Someone | Bladder Control | Not Fresh From the Tap | Piss Cocktails | Roleplays | In the Bedroom | Age Play | Hydration Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Take a peek inside our brains: this week we’re recounting our favorite sexual fantasies from 2023, and setting some sex goals for the coming year. New Fantasies | Extortion/Blackmail | Alley Sex | Wet Dreams | Coworkers | Cuckolding | Quora Threads | Last Year’s Goals | Hump! Film Festival | New Goals Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ready to get incredibly nerdy about sex toys? This week we’re discussing the toys we loved most in 2023, as well as recapping the best sex we had in the past year! Standard Glass S-Curve | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Njoy Pure Wand | VixSkin Outlaw | RealCock | Tantus Uncut | Magic Wand Mini | Magic Wand Micro | Fun Factory Vim | Hole Punch Fluke | Uberrime Suavis | Lovense Toys | Miss Rose Paddles | LilFoxToyBox Lego Paddle | Twilight Meadow Creations Raido | Uberrime Fingo | Best Sex | Cage Sex | Chastity | SpareParts Deuce Harness | RodeoH Harness | Kate’s Bandcamp | Meet Billy | Vote For Us in the AVN Fan Awards! Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy new year! This week we’re discussing some of the big changes we experienced in our sex, kink, and dating lives this past year. How Was 2023? | Sex & Kink Changes | Flure App | New Things We Tried Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy holidays, friends! This week we’re answering listener questions about navigating sex, kink, and relationships around the holidays. Holiday Complaints | Seasonal Roleplays | Hometown Hookup | Long-Distance Relationships | Voice Memos | Pressure-y Grandparent | Polyam Sadness | Holiday Proposals | Gifts We’d Like Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It can be tricky to determine your sex/kink compatibility with someone you’ve just started flirting with, so this week we’re offering advice on just that. Favorite Pokémon | Sex Journalist Mode | When & How | Flirting Style | Red Flags | Text vs. In Person | Flexibility | Sex Talk Without Sexting | Questions to Ask | Giving Head | Sex Professionals Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate chats with Sage Monroe, a phone sex operator and consultant, about the ups and downs of the phone sex business. Getting Into It | Professional vs. Not | Boundaries & Limits | Self-Care | Financial Domination | Hypnokink | Adult Phone Actress | Authenticity vs. Performativity | Emotional Support | Connections with Clients | Taking Notes | Disability Accommodations | Dating Another Operator | Equipment | Multi-Tasking | Continued Popularity | Personal Sex Life | Power Dynamics | Submissive Operators | “Not Real Sex Work” | Perceptiveness | Keeping It Fresh | Consulting | Suitable Traits Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Since the month is almost done, this week we’re examining the practice of No Nut November and the community around it. Unfortunate Origins | Masturbation & Porn Addiction | Intentions | The Rules | Edging | Partners’ Reactions | New Desires | Risk Factors | Funkit Chess Set | The Big Nut | Kate’s Premature Ejaculation Song Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

If your libido’s low right now, you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about periods of diminished sexual desire and what we like to do about them. Montreal Trip | Out of Practice | Predictable? | Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski | Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire | Confidence & Competence | Novelty | Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel | Independence | Feeling Bad About It | Non-Monogamy | Different Drives | Meta-Communication | Accepting a Rejection | Reassuring a Partner | Reinvigorating Your Libido | Toys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever heard of Locktober, the month-long chastity challenge? Kate’s spouse mb recently did it (with Kate as keyholder) and in this episode, the two of them discuss the experience and give advice for potential Locktober newbies. What is Locktober? | Pandemic Popularity | NoFap & Porn Addiction | Committing To It | Benefits of Longer Lockups | Teasing | Begging | Deviceless Chastity | Finding a Keyholder | Keyholder Motivations | Physical & Psychological Effects | Sexual Touch & Orgasms | Lovense Edge, Gush, & Max | Trust | Coming Without Permission | Locktober Community | Polyamory | Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera | No Nut November | Wet Dreams | Advice for First-Timers | Kink3D Cobra Cage | Irritation & Infections | Benefits | Journaling | Distractibility | Gender | mb’s Hypnovember Tweets Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Halloween! This week we’re addressing some seasonal sexy inquiries, about fear play, haunted houses, Chewbacca masks, and more. Turned On By A Costume | Haunted Houses | Mask Safety | Fetish Dreams | Horny 4 Horror | Rickety Bridge Study | Slut-Shaming | Cringey Bloops Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering listener questions on erotica and fanfiction! Pearl Necklace Bondage | Finding Kinky & Trans Authors | Heckin’ Lewd | Nerve Endings | Re-Reading | Is Fanfic Just Better? | Influences on Desire | Consent & Safer Sex | Ella Dawson Essay | Content Notes | Moaning & Dirty Talk Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing our current relationships to erotica and fanfiction, since Kate just had a story published in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s new erotica anthology Sexy Strangers! Erotica vs. Real Life | Erotica vs. Porn | Non-Erotic Fanfic | (Not) Getting Paid | Fix-It Fics | Finding Stories | Picking Kinks for Characters | Hypno Stories | Dirty Talk & Sexting | Flirting | Psychological Turn-Ons | Fantastical & Supernatural | Omegaverse | Pet Peeves Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re back to talk about polyamory boundary violations some more this week. Cuckolding | Whose Responsibility Is It? | Downstairs DJ’s No Nut November Coin | Kink Rituals | Resentment | Partner Pursues Your Crushes | Fantasizing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It can be tough to recover when someone violates a relationship agreement in polyamory, but there are ways to prevent this from happening, or to repair after it does. This week we’re talking about boundary oversteps in non-monogamy. Can Polyamorous People Cheat? | Implicit/Assumed Boundaries | Disclosure vs. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | Kitchen Table Poly vs. Birthday Party Poly | Scheduling | When to Set Boundaries | Trauma-Informed Polyamory | Whose Responsibility Are Your Feelings? | A Monogamy Interlude | Metamour Resentments Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing some unique fetishes that have been posted about on the /r/Sex subreddit recently, including belly buttons, Speedos, and freckles. The Evolution of Fetish Discourse | Screenprinted T-Shirts | Objects & Clothing Items | Speedos | Disinterest | Belly Buttons | Body Markings Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Limiting one or more senses can have a big effect on how you experience sex and kink. This week we’re talking about sensory deprivation play! Using Blindfolds | Nidra Deep Rest Eye Mask | Anxiety | Blocking Out Light | Fear Play & Surprises | Phone Sex | Sleep Hygiene | Visual Overstimulation | Immersiveness | Facial Expressions | Newbie Tops | Hearing | Hypno Audio Files | Affirmation Noises | Pain Play | Wax & Rope | ADHD | Touch Deprivation | Taste & Smell Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There’s a lot of debate right now about sex scenes in movies and TV, so this week we’re discussing whether sex scenes are necessary, what makes a great one (or a terrible one), and which ones are our favorites. Content Warnings | Are They “Necessary”? | Sex vs. Violence | Fifty Shades of Grey | Real vs. Moral | Our Favorites | Porn vs. Movies/TV | Safety & Trust | Intimacy Coordinators | Consent On Set Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Being an online creator can feel quite exhibitionistic at times, and not always in a sexy way. This week we’re discussing the ups and downs of being very visible online. Not Doin’ Too Good | Personas | Social Media Woes | Infinite Possibilities | Online Boundaries | Prioritizing the Personal | Urgency | Morality & Art | Creative Burnout & Sustainability Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing “sex moves” that have been propagated by the internet, like the shocker, the rusty trombone, and the knee trick. Are “Moves” Helpful? | Licking the Alphabet | “Come Hither” Motion | Shocker | Shallowing | The Cone | Knee Trick | Kivin Method | Reacharound | Rusty Trombone | Doorframe Lean Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re parsing the differences between limits, boundaries, and dealbreakers – and explaining some of our own rules in each category. Definitions | Boundaries vs. Rules | Hard vs. Soft Limits | Dealbreakers | Changes | Relevant vs. Irrelevant Limits | “Bad” Boundaries | Coercion | “Genital Preferences” | Questioning Boundaries | Communicating Limits | Telling Them Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re discussing safewords again this week, including how to know when to safeword, how to safeword if you tend to go non-verbal during scenes, and how doms and tops can safeword too. Going Nonverbal | People-Pleasing | When Safewording is the Point | Mollena’s Story | Are Safewords Enough? | Post-Scene Conversations | Should I Safeword? | Doms & Tops Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Safewords are an important tool for many kinksters, so this week we’re discussing what safewords are, when they’re useful, and some tips on how to use them well. Consensual Non-Consent | What is a Safeword? | Stoplight System | Custom Colors | Beige & Green | Playing Without a Safeword | Genuine Distress Method | “Misusing” Safewords | “Ruining the Fun” | What Happens Next? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sure, we’re pretty sexual people, but are we social? This week we’re discussing our current thoughts on, and strategies for, socializing while the pandemic is still ongoing. Things We Like | Spending Time Alone | Higher Standards | Keeping Conversations Going | Our Struggles | Flirting | How to Reach Out | Real-Time vs. Asynchronous | People Who Aren’t Online Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing some more new-ish additions to the sex/kink lexicon, some of which we like and some of which we find baffling. Prejac | Infinity Baby | /r/prejac | Breeding, Breedable, Breeders | Situationship | Hit, Smash | Sniper Position Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, your two millennial cohosts debate and discuss the definitions of various sex/kink terms popularized by Gen Z. Feeling Old | Gooning | Simping | Gentle Femdom | Gatekeeping “Kinky” | Pleasure Dom | Girlcock, Boypussy, Etc. | Ghost Penis & Phantom Limbs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Billy just got back from kink camp (Dark Odyssey Fusion) as well as TES Fest, and this week he tells us about what it was like to do both of those kink events back-to-back. Justin McElroy on Gender Reveal | Operations Team | Comparing the Two Events | Space vs. Crowds | Bad Weather | Goals | Emotions | “I’m Working!” | Scenes | Lego Paddle | Communication Skills Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In light of Elon Musk recently declaring “cis” to be a slur on Twitter (it’s not), this week Kate is interviewed by her spouse mb about what it means to be cis and how her gender presentation has shifted over time. Cis Isn’t a Slur | Queer Femme Cis Woman | Getting Misgendered | My New Gender Workbook | Boyish Presentation | Cis-Het Male Gaze | Black Leather Chucks | Gender Census | Queer as a Gender | Permanent vs. Malleable | Childhood Clues | Pronouns | Girl Roman Roy | Roman Feminization Fanfic | Medical Treatments & Procedures | GrowYourClit | Internal Family Systems | Gamer Boys | Sex & Kink Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate chats with pro financial dominatrix and kinky comedian Lane Kwederis about findom and her one-woman show, Sex Job! Findom Beginnings | Improv & Theatre | Educating Clients | What Findom Involves | Financial Limitations | What’s Hot About It? | “Mesmerize” | Balancing Professional Identities | Fantasy vs. Reality | Shadow Side | Personal Growth | “Did I Do That For Money?” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Crying can be hot, challenging, painful, cathartic, pleasurable, or all of the above. This week we’re talking about our current relationship to crying, in and out of scenes. Crying Daily | Surprise | Making Yourself Cry | A Good Feeling | Fetishizing It | Seeing Others Cry | Gender & Hormones | Childhood Experiences | Looking in the Mirror | Emotions for Emotions’ Sake | Aftercare | Crying on the Phone Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Continuing our discussion of brats, “bad” subs, and “good” subs, this week we talk about how rebellion, humor, and colorful language can be worked into D/s scenes, among other things. “Is That an Order?” | Responses to “Make Me” | Bratty Doms | Humor & Laughter | Fun with Language | Finding Non-Bratty Subs | Punishment Concerns | Disrespectful Honorifics Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Some submissives like to be “good,” some like to be “bad,” some like to be “bratty,” and some prefer a combination or like to mix things up. This week we discuss the motivations and manifestations of these various orientations to submission. Good vs. Bad vs. Bratty | Psychological Motivations | Emotional Masochism & Humiliation | Childhood Experiences | What Do We Prefer? | “Disrespectful” Brats | Safewords & Check-Ins | Conflict | Beginner Brat Tips Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Billy is interviewed by his boyfriend Dee Darkholme about “free use” kink, a type of consensual non-consent… while planning a free use scene they’re gonna do after the recording! Definition | What’s Hot About It? | Hedonism | Negotiation | Activities Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re talking about our ever-evolving relationships to masturbation and how it all relates to self-love, self-compassion, and living a good life. Our Solo-Sex History | Truly Solo Masturbation | Neurochemical Effects | Goal-Oriented | A “Waste of Time”? | Flirty Sexy Energy | Time Off to Recharge | Doing Stuff for Content | “Assisted” Masturbation Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re (belatedly) celebrating Mother’s Day by talking about mommy kink – plus a decent amount of daddy kink thrown in for good measure. Succession Fanfiction | Humiliation & Meanness | Nurturing & Caretaking | Pro Dom(me)s | Mommy Issues | Popularization & Destigmatization | Incest Roleplay & Dark Ageplay (19:47–24:28) | Feelings & Vibes | Decisiveness | 24/7 vs. Not | Genderlessness | Are We Into It? | Campiness | Abuse | Freud Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re so excited this week to be chatting with Mollena Lee Williams-Haas, a kink educator, podcaster, author, and performer. We got into a fascinating discussion about how kink can help you reconnect with your body, deepen your intimacy, push your boundaries and heal from your trauma. Kink Doula | Reconnecting with the Body | Group Sex | Sustaining 24/7 Dynamics | Being the Bad Guy | Aftercare | Slavery (29:00–31:15) | Panda & HypnoStory’s Hypnokink 101 Class | Pushback from the Community | Having Nuanced Conversations | Where Do Kinks Come From? | Star Trek | Race Play & Racism (48:38–52:38) | Kink as Play | The Prime Directive | Having “No Limits” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate has a nerdy chat with Sleepingirl, an author, podcaster, and long-time hypnokinkster who has created numerous erotic hypnosis resources, including LearnHypnokink.com. Early Days of Hypno Fetishism | LearnHypnokink.com | Subject Skills | Milton Erickson & Utilization | Pacing & Leading | Consent in Trance | HypnoStory & Panda’s 101 Class | Meeting Other Fetishists | Long-Distance Play | Space & Silence | Creativity | Flow State | Mindfulness, Meditation & Magic | Quakerism | Six Days Asleep Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s that time again: this week we’re celebrating 4/20 by getting blazed and answering “highpothetical” questions about sex and kink! Tune in for a jam-packed, silly discussion of questions like “Would you want to be able to read your partner’s mind during sex?” and “What one kink implement would you take on a desert island?” Last Prisoner Project | Cannabis Amnesty | Destigmatizing a Kink | One Type of Orgasm | Museum/Theme Park | HypnoStory & Panda’s Hypnokink 101 Class | Speedrunners | Fanfiction | Guided Masturbation | Mind-Reading | Desert Island Implement | Scene From Fiction | Our Future Selves Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering random sex advice questions, like: Is it hotter to wear a suit, or sweatpants? How can you enjoy sex when you’re trying not to come? And does jerking off to Lola Bunny make you a furry? Facials | Fingering | Trying Not to Come | Dressed Up vs. Dressed Down | Lesbian Dating Men | Furries Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Billy is joined by his partner, Dee Darkholme, for a nerdy discussion of kinky roleplay: how characters get developed, which characters and tropes come up most often in their relationship, and how to make roles feel natural and authentic. Nerdery | Roleplayer Radar | Cringe & Campiness | Kink vs. Sex | Taboo | ADHD Benefits | Aliens | Age Play | Robots | How Roles Evolve | Fantasizing During Sex | Developing Lore | Authenticity | Motivations | Connection | Date Nights | Our Previous Roleplay Episode Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.