The Dildorks

What does it mean to “worship” someone sexually? This week we’re discussing how body worship makes us feel (while giving or receiving), the various ways we like to do it, and even its spiritual implications. What Makes It Worship? | Devotion & Love | Sensate Focus | Clit Worship | Foot Worship | Roleplay | Beducated | Self-Esteem & Body Image | Love Languages | Use the Right Words | Long-Distance Worship | Worshipping Submissives | The Sublime Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

The names and titles we use in bed (or in the dungeon) can really affect how we feel about our partners and ourselves. This week we’re discussing kinky honorifics: the ones we use, the ones we don’t use, and the advice we have for other kinksters who are horny for honorifics. What Are Honorifics? | Affectionate Nicknames | Daddy | Princess, Etc. | Pet | Daddy, Again | Honorific Exclusivity | Queering “Daddy” | Non-Monogamy | Equivalents to “Daddy” | Finding Titles | Yes/No/Maybe List | Non-Gendered Honorifics | Introducing New Ones | Premature Honorifics | M/s Language | Mollena Williams-Haas’ Risk Story Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re returning to the topic of objectification to answer listener questions about dirty talk, dysphoria, combining this kink with other ones, and more!Degradation vs. Praise | Self-Esteem | Aftercare | Types of Objects | Dirty Talk | Our Fave Scenes | Fancy Shoes | Dysphoria | Chronic Pain | Race Play | Kink Pairings | Sissies vs. Bimbos | Impact Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re pleased to welcome back Kenton from Funkit Toys to discuss his latest project: the Random Encounters sex dice! Join us for a nerdy discussion of sex toy creation and the joys of sexual randomness. Origin Story | NoFrilldo | Dildo Fundraisers | Sex Dice | Survey | Clear Imagery | Outdoor Sex | Rooms | Mouth & Hand Stuff | Random Number | Toys vs. Tools | Instructions & Consent | Kinky Expansion Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Objectification can be so so bad or so so good, depending on context and consent. This week we’re discussing how consensual, kinky objectification relates to – and differs from – more mainstream concepts of sexual objectification. What is Objectification? | Feminist Arguments | Martha Nussbaum | Instrumentality | Denial of Autonomy | Inertness | Fungibility | Violability | Ownership | Denial of Subjectivity | Objectifying Doms & Tops | Alien Sex | “Pleasure-As-Byproduct” | Clinical Objectification Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re delighted to chat with Leigh Cowart, the author of one of our favorite recent books, Hurts So Good: The Science & Culture of Pain on Purpose! We discuss sexual and nonsexual masochism, some of the brain science behind pain, and the process of writing their incredible book. Hurts So Good | Recording the Audiobook | The Origins of Masochism | Sexual vs. Nonsexual | Lightbulb Moment | Hot Peppers | Polar Plunge | Hot Ones | Being Witnessed | Hook Suspension | Physiological Predisposition | Learning to Like Pain | Arousal & Pain | Focus | Pain Processing Techniques | Psychedelics | Subspace | Emotional Pain | Post-Fifty Shades | Spanking with Our Books Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing the ways service kink manifests in our relationships currently, and what our biggest service-related fantasies are.Teacher/Student Fantasies | Sexual Service | Day-to-Day Service | Initiating Service | Caregiver/Little | “Good Girl” Feeling | Dopamine Machine | Learning to Receive | Gratitude & Feedback | GSRM Coaching | Anticipatory Service | Good Service | Clarifying Questions | Remembering Details | Long-Distance | Housework | Oral Service Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sex toys for penises are seldom discussed, compared to their vulva-focused counterparts, so this week we’re shining a light on our favorite toys for dicks and how to use them! Stigma | Sexual Economics | Coolness | Simple vs. Complex | First Toy | Tenga Egg | Fleshlight Quickshot | Fleshlight STU | Penis Vibrators | Fun Factory Manta | Hot Octopuss Pulse | Cobra Libre | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Stroker Wand Attachment | Vibe Technique | Orgasm Difficulties | Lovense Max 2 | Gender-Affirming Toys | Balldo | Exo | Cute Little Fuckers | Mobility Issues | Bump’n Joystick | The Handy | Lovense Gush | Fleshlight Mount | Encouraging a Partner Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How can we use the idea of “archetypes” in our kink scenes? This week we’re discussing some of our favorite kinky archetypes and how we incorporate them into our play. What Are Kinky Archetypes? | No Punishment | Benefits vs. Limitations | Media Influences | Fanfiction | Submissive Archetypes | Teacher/Student | Masochists | Attractive Archetypes | Honorifics | Headspace | Non-Gendered Archetypes | Cis White Dominant Men Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

A lot of people combine sex with alcohol, but how can one do so in the safest and kindest way possible? This week we’re discussing the important intricacies of sex while tipsy. Harm Reduction | Consent | Arousal & Sensitivity | Lowered Inhibitions | First Dates | Intentionality | Booze vs. Weed | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Non-Drinker | Hangover Advice | Advantages | Pre-Negotiation | Flirting at Bars | Invoking #MeToo | Semenology | Serving Drinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex and kink adventures from 2021, and setting goals for 2022. Our Holidays | This Year vs. Last Year | New Things | Things We Did Less Of | Toys & Products | Best Sex | Last Year’s Goals | Chaturbate Bio Design | Next Year’s Goals | Fantasies | Silliest Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy holidays! We’re finishing off the year by answering some questions about penis size, lesbian sex, sex work, and other sexy miscellany. Scissoring | Dick Size Comparison | A-Spot Dicks | First Time with a SW | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Waiting for Marriage | Medical Issue | Medical Arousal Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re still pontificating about sexting! In this week’s episode, we share our thoughts on sending and receiving nudes, sexting in public, being a polite sexter, and more. Re-Reading Sexts | Sexting Etiquette | Stepping Away | Parentheticals | Masturbating vs. Not | Photo Consent | Text-Friendly Kinks | Public Play | IRL Awkwardness | Taking Nudes | Asking for Compliments | Partner Doesn’t Like It | Voice vs. Text | Replying to Nudes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Now more than ever, sexting is a key way many people are expressing their sexualities. This week, we share our current thoughts on, and approaches to, sexting! Skeleton Game | Assessing Sext Compatibility | Kink vs. Vanilla | Getting Sexy | Initiation & Consent | HotCherry | Dealbreakers | Face-Slapping | Subs & Bottoms | Parentheticals | Emojis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

If you know what figging is, then you know that this episode where we got figged during the recording is gonna be a wild one. If you don’t know what figging is… prepare to find out! Introductions | History | Method | First Impressions | Anal vs. Vaginal | Kinks to Combine It With | Safety | Transference | Snapping Off | Fermentation | The Enhanced Male | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Fun Factory Manta | Aftermath Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re answering more listener questions about consensual non-consent! More Negotiation Questions | Evaluating Limits | More Real | HUSTLER Hollywood | Rose Gold Butt Plug | Strap U Siren Harness | Guilt | CNC for Survivors | Kink-Aware Professionals | Public Play Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Consensual non-consent is a controversial kink, so this week we’re talking about how to do it in the safest, hottest, and kindest ways possible. Definitions | Safewords | Saying No | Medical Play | Intoxication Play | Agency & Oppression | Vetting Partners | Negotiation Questions | Playing Safely Without Safewords | Stakes | In-Character Safewords | Hustler Hollywood | Master Series Petite Stainless Steel Ass Lock | Kink Industries Anal Hole Spreader | Aftercare | Nervous Dom | Free Use Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing sleepy sex: how to do it safely and consensually, why it’s kinky as heck, and what additions can make it even kinkier. Definition | Consent | What’s Hot About It? | Morning vs. Night | Negotiation | Intimacy & Connection | Hustler Hollywood | Packer Gear Harness | Inya the Rose | “Just Laying There” | Topping vs. Bottoming | Sex Toys | Inducing Sleepiness | Safewords | Different Sleep Schedules Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Many people wish they were better at dirty talk, so this week we’re discussing some of our favorite dirty-talk tips and tricks! Revisiting | Separate vs. Integrated | Top vs. Bottom | Why Do We Like It? | Anxiety | How to Do It | Hypnosis | Leveling Up | Reading Aloud | Trying Stuff Out | Improv Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever been turned on by receiving or giving praise? This week we’re discussing the ins and outs of praise kink! Mean 4 Pay | What is Praise Kink? | Kink vs. Preference | The Power of Kink | Feedback for Tops | Praise vs. Service | Love Languages & Trauma | Brain Chemistry | Motivator & Reward | Calm & Connection | Praise as Humiliation | Types of Scenes | First Times | Solo Praise | Non-Gendered Praise | Non-Verbal Praise Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Fisting is an oft-misunderstood sex act, so this week we’re discussing the mechanics and philosophy of this much-revered form of hand sex. Misconceptions | Muscle Tone | Brain & Pain | Fisting Technique | Pain from Topping | G-Spot | Closing the Fist | Extra Stimulation | Numbing Lube | Discomfort | Does It Feel Good? | Crying | Toy Training | Intoxicants | Fist Size | Lube & Gloves | Arousal & Orgasm | Vaginal vs. Anal Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering sex advice requests from Reddit about masturbation, threesomes, vaginas, hookup etiquette, and more! Jerking Off After Sex | Didn’t Come | Partner Doesn’t Masturbate | Massage Boners | Vagina Disgust | Threesome Inequality | First-Date BJ Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Kate’s debut book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do is launching in one week, so this week Bex interviews her about the writing process, the philosophy of the book, and how she hopes readers will use it! Long Title | Why? | Experience Level | Narrowing It Down | Extreme Stuff | Intoxication & Sleepy Sex | Research | Fetishwear | Fragrances | Illustrations | How to Use the Book | Pen Choice | Hardest Part | Research Sources | Writing Process | Launch Party | Blurbs & Acknowledgments Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking with Mx. Nillin, a sex blogger, educator, and erotica author, about their upcoming anthology of trans and non-binary erotica, Heckin’ Lewd! Fanfiction | Heckin’ Lewd | Nillin’s Erotica Journey | Personal Experiences vs. Fiction | Blogging vs. Erotica | Own Voices | Trauma & Violence | Trans Representation | What is Trans Sex Like? | Aromanticism | Demisexuality | Sex Stress & Impotence | Strap-Ons & Balldo Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex just got back from Dark Odyssey kink camp, so in this episode he regales us with kinky stories and offers advice for folks considering going in future! Con Drop | What is Kink Camp? | Shyness & Anxiety | Interesting Outfits | The Hunt | Suspension Scene | Swing Sex | Birdcages & Sarcophagi | COVID Precautions | Socializing Again | What to Bring | Camping Newbies | Demographics Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Many people worry about their sexual hygiene and grooming, so this week we’re answering listener questions on these sensitive topics! Good vs. Bad Smells | Armpit Worship | Washing a Vagina | Don’t Like Their Taste | Anal Prep | Hygiene Supplies | Shaving the Butt | Kinky Shaving | Sweat Fetish | Toilet Paper Bits | “Pedophilic” Accusations | Injury or Illness | UTIs After Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Lots of people have learned new things about their gender and identity during the pandemic, so this week we’re discussing how to re-enter the dating scene as a newly-out trans person. Pandemic Self-Reflection | Returning to Dating | Taking Time Off | Managing Expectations | New Gender Roles | Media Models | Second Puberty | Other Trans Folks | Dating Cis People | Boundaries & Comfort | Practicing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

With the recent news about OnlyFans fresh in our minds, this week we’re discussing sex work stigma, financial issues in the sex industry, and how to be a good customer to online sex workers. OnlyFans | Supporting SWs Now | No Money Required | Sex Work Stigma | Becoming Their Favorite | Custom Clip Communication | Patreon Update | Are They Into It? | APAG Union | September 1st Banking Action Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by sex blogger and tarot reader Wendy Phillips of The Wench Works. We chat about blogging, self-esteem, and the intersections of kink and spirituality – and Wendy gives us each a heartfelt tarot reading about self-love. The Wench Works | Sexy Tarot Spreads | Self-Reflection | Developing Self-Love | Post-Pandemic Prep | Tarot Decks | Reading for Bex | AudioDesires.com | Kink & Spirituality | Reading for Kate | Little Girl Blue | Bex’s Better Bottoming Workshop Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Our guest this week is the sex educator and author Allison Moon! Her wonderful new book, Getting It, inspired this deep-dive discussion of casual sex. Getting It | Different Approach to Casual Sex | Gendered Assumptions | Communicating Desires | Modelling Behaviors | Is It Empowering? | Setting an Intention | Is Sex Inherently Good? | Platonic Touch | Hookup Apps | In-Person Attraction | Saying No | Enthusiastic Consent | Transactional Sex | On the Hook | AudioDesires.com | Slutty Empathy | Aftercare | Getting Laid on Recommendation Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re celebrating our 250th episode by doing something a little different this week: our partners, Ashe and Matt, put us in the hotseat to interview us about our show’s evolution, what we’ve learned these past 250 episodes, and more! How It All Started | Lessons from Guests | Changes Since Episode 1 | Dream Guests | Behind the Scenes | More Kink Talk | Another Format | Fan Interactions | Best Thing About It | Future of the Show | Quitting the Show? | Influencing Our Relationships | Listener Questions | Keeping Sex Sexy Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Many people get nervous about sexually rejecting partners, or get sad when someone sexually rejects them. This week we’re giving advice on common sexual rejection scenarios! Sex & Self-Identity | Period Sex | Responsive Desire | AudioDesires.com | Feeling Pouty | Kind Rejection Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Being rejected is hard, and rejecting someone might be even harder. This week we’re delving into the intricacies of romantic rejection! Soft No’s vs. Hard No’s | Rejecting a Date Nicely | Getting Over Rejection | Media Depictions | Letting Someone Down | Childhood Rejection | Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria | Comforting a Friend Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Navigating polyamory can be difficult even in the best of times, so this week we’re answering listener questions about non-monogamy! Polycule Crush | Converting a Newbie | Can I Kiss My Metamour? | What Type? | “Too Much Work” | Reopening Post-Pandemic Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering questions from the /r/Sex forum on Reddit, on topics such as threesome etiquette, strap-on psychology, and the definition of infidelity! WTF is Reddit? | Pegging | Sleeping with a Virgin | How Important is Sex? | Happy Ending Massage | Disparate Dick Sizes | About to Come | Squirting from Anal Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Talking to your family about sex can be awkward, but we’re here to help! This week we answer your questions on navigating various sexuality-related situations in family dynamics. Parents Don’t Like BF | Coming Out as a Sex Worker | Coming Out as Polyamorous | Queer Little Sister | Condoms for Little Sis | Sex Ed Additions | Kinky Uncle | Porn Star Sister | Bex’s Blowjob Class Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Lots of folks are struggling with libido issues due to pandemic stress, so this week we thought we’d discuss ways to rekindle your libido when it’s waned.Summoning Sex-Brain | When Does It Wane? | Responsive vs. Spontaneous | Motivation to Rekindle | How to Rekindle | Novelty & Flirting | Not Having Enough Sex | Partner’s Other Dates | Dysphoria | Newly on T | Bad Pain Days | Depression Meds Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Whether your ex is now your best friend or your sworn enemy, it’s evident that relations with exes can be tricky… This week we advised listeners on their various ex dilemmas! Party Full of Exes | Defining “Ex” | Staying Friends | How to Reconnect | Decoding Intentions | Sex with Exes | Worse Sex | Sex Toys | Go Away Please | Running Into Your Ex | Stop Bringing it Up | Writing About Exes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Hands and fingers and fists, oh my…! This week we’re talking about hand sex: how to do it, why some people are hesitant to do it, and what makes it feel so damn good. Fisting on Camera | What’s Fun About It? | Uniqueness & Personality | Proper Technique | External Fingering | Anatomy | Ergonomics | Lube | Penis Tips | Balls | Hand Pleasure | Other Hand Stimulation | Hands Only | Fisting Anxiety Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We talk about kink a lot, but what about fetishes? This week, we’re discussing what it means to have a fetish, what to do if you’re sexually incompatible with a partner, and why hooking up with fetishists is super fun. Kink vs. Fetish | Where Do They Come From? | Safety Pin Fetish | Media Influences | Playing with Fetishists | Incompatibility | Putting in the Effort | Watersports | Shame & Anger Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we discuss our ever-evolving feelings about casual sex, hookups, and one-night stands! Anxiety & Awkwardness | The Good & The Bad | Scarcity vs. Abundance | Demisexuality & Hookups | Romance vs. Intimacy | Negotiating a Hookup | Mismatched Expectations | Hookup Activities | Making Porn | Trans Pickup Tips | Getting Kinky Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering more listener questions about public sex, including sex in locations like fitting rooms, graveyards, and a moving car! Beautiful Days | Not Into It | Visible Bruises | Fitting Room Sex | Cemetery Sex | Road Head | Backyard Porn | Single-Stall Bathroom | Packing Under Clothes | “A Femme’s Guide to Hard Packing” | Dream Locations | Sex on the Beach | Makeout Point Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

With the weather warming up and vaccines being administered, we figured now would be a good time to talk about public sex, something we’ll be able to do again pretty soon! Getting Caught | Car Sex | Consent Ethics | Shock Factor | Tips & Tricks | Making Public Porn | Sex Kit | Weirdest Places | Bathroom Sex | Objectum Sexuals | Getting Over Anxiety | Public-Friendly Kinks | Nosy Neighbor | Remote-Control Vibes | Chastity Cage | Unexpected Spectator Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re revisiting the topic of masochism this week to discuss our current, ever-evolving relationships to pain, and our fave mental techniques for getting through intense masochistic scenes! Hurts So Good | Relationship to Pain | Self-Care vs. Self-Harm | Hopelessness | Chronic Pain | Rhythmic vs. Random | Stingy vs. Thuddy | Distractions | Practice & Processing | Easy Mode vs. Hard Mode | What is a Masochist? | Inflicting or Receiving | CBT Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy 4/20, y’all! One again this year, as is tradition, we’re getting high and asking each other silly sex questions. Enjoy! Two Strains | Last Prisoner Project | Outsourcing to Our Partners | Fleshlight | Common Misconceptions | Body-Swap | Animal Noises | Combo Sex Toy | Sex Room | Vanilla Partner | VR Sex | Trade Sex Lives Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re continuing our discussion of limits in kink! Can limits be a fetish? Can limits be toxic? Can limits be gently and safely pushed? That’s Not My Name | Safely Pushing Limits | Can Limits Be Unreasonable? | Mixing Up Partners | Can Limits Be a Kink? | Can Boundary-Pushers Be Reformed? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Your limits are valid! This week we’re talking about hard and soft limits in the realms of sex and kink: what they are, why they’re important, and how to set them clearly and kindly. “No Limits” | Boundary-Setting | Hard vs. Soft Limits | Gagging & Breath Play | Journal-Reading | How to Know | Feeling Guilty | Imbalance | Hard Limit vs. Need | Setting New Limits | Not a Limit Anymore | Complicating Factors Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What will dating be like after COVID? This week, we’re discussing how (and whether) to re-enter the dating scene after the pandemic. Tinder Plus | Single-Serving Friends | Twitter as Hallway | In Person vs. Texting | Pre-Pandemic Dating Life | Flirty Energy | Atrophied Social Skills | Gender Differences | Looking Forward | Casual vs. Serious | Higher Standards | Finding the Energy | Date Ideas Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re doing a deep dive on medical play! We talk about why we’re into it, what it can look like, and the various tropes and pitfalls associated with it. Vaccinations | Definition | Mad Scientists | When In Rome | A Higher Purpose | “Female Hysteria” | Bored/Tired Doctors | Structure | Calming Follow-Through | Real-Life Experiences | No Props | Condescension | Doctor’s Arousal | Speculums | Hypnosis | Eroticizing Access Needs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate is chatting with the Bearded Scotsman, a creator of erotic audio and ASMR files. We discussed consent, chivalry, “Tumblr doms,” and much more! Getting Into Erotic Audio | Reactions | Immersiveness & Helpfulness | Consent in Media | Tumblr Doms | Safety & Nurturing | Gender Dynamics | Inclusivity | Sexy Voice | Vikings & Victorians | Is Chivalry Dead? | Cringing | Self-Image | Scripted vs. Not | Dirty Talk | Putting In the Work Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.