The Dildorks

Kate recently came out as demisexual, so this week we’re discussing that identity: what does it mean, how does it manifest, and how does it relate to other concepts like sluttiness, responsive desire, and demiromanticism? Definitions | Romantic vs. Sexual | Identities | Oppression & Invisibility | Sex Industry | Attraction or Lack Thereof | Demiromantic | External Factors | A New Development | Dating Apps | Mid-Day Dates | Casual Sex | Anticipation | Romantic Topping | Responsive Desire | Sluttiness | Sex Dreams | Submission | Asexual Outreach Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Safer sex protocols don’t have to be boring or a mood-killer! Today we’re diving into our thoughts and feelings on condoms, dental dams, STI testing, and more. TARDIS | STI Panels | Compromise | Gloves | Elevator Speech | Pushback | Contraception | Cum | Myths | Condom Skepticism | Internal Condoms | Condom Tricks | UTIs | Gloves | Fertility Tracking | Vasectomy | IUDs | Dental Dams | Fucking Trans Women | Safer Sex For Trans Bodies | Kissing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Step back in time with us and let’s discuss 1950s household dynamics! Hear us weigh in on why this style of D/s is hot, complicated, and even potentially empowering. Paradigms of Power | Definition | Reclamation | Feminism & Choice | Modesty | Satisfaction | Mastery | Closeted Kinksters | House-Husband | Drag & Glamour | 24/7? | When You Don’t Live Together | M/s Language | Polyamory | Media Influences | Baby Steps | Clothes & Makeup Recs | Cultural Skills | Cocktails Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Home is where the heart is, and also (often) where the sex is! This week we’re discussing the ways home decor can interplay with your sex and dating life, from beds to lighting to lube dispensers. Suction Cup Dildo | Easy Access | Lube | Condoms | Beds | Smart Home | Hospitality | Art | Air Conditioning | Partner Pics | Between Partners | Amenities We Like | Celebrity Pillows | Lube Dispenser | Nursery Dungeon | Rope Storage | Bex’s Fundraiser | For Hire: Audition | Question Box Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever noticed how sometimes you can say a lot without saying anything at all? This week we're discussing the delicate art of non-verbal communication – in flirting, sex, kink, and more! Blushing | Skill Level | Reading Into It | Body Language | Proximity | Queer Intimacy | Cheating | Non-Verbal Consent | Pleasure | Overanalyzing | Cultural Influences | Saying No | Dysphoria | Screw Consent | False Negatives | Signs of Readiness | Kinky Invitations | Bex’s Fundraiser | Touchy-Feely? | What They Do | Crushy Voice | Subspace | Safewords | Practicing Expressiveness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex just got back from TES Fest, a thought-provoking kink conference in New Jersey. This week, he recaps what he learned there, and we discuss some kinky fantasies that the workshops brought up. Hotel Privacy | DM Training | Blood Play | Raven Kaldera | Risk Assessment For Masters | Real Service | Head Pats | Knives & Scarification | Sadism | Interrogation | Facial Torture | Mind Games | Drug Play Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Getting the ball rolling is hard sometimes, so this week we’re discussing the intricacies of initiating sex. What are the best and worst ways to do it – and what should you do if there’s an initiation imbalance in your relationship? Do We Initiate? | Direct vs. Indirect | When Does Sex Start? | Pre-Initiation | “Hey, We Should Talk” | Butt-Rubbing | Personal Space | Allusions | Responsive Desire | Escalating Touch | Other Senses | Massage | Rushing | Foreplay vs. None | Arousal vs. Consent | Imbalance | Power | Rejection | Saying No | Gender Socialization | Submissives | Circumcision Status Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re talking about body mods this week: tattoos, piercings, and how they interplay with our sex and dating lives. Tune in for tattoo advice, kinky feelings, and tales of piercings gone awry. One vs. Multiple | Lay of the Land | Sexy Feelings | Nipple Piercings | Cravings | Ownership | Kink | Roleplay | Partner-Specific Mods | Meaning | Regrets | Deciding | Designs | Finding an Artist | Visibility | Tatcalling | Needle Play | Branding | Disclosure | Impact | Asking Permission | Kinky Meanings Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Pride month! This week we’re discussing our favorite and least favorite things about Pride, from tutus and play parties to biphobia and cops. NYPD | First Events | Outfits | Play Party | Gatekeeping | Cops | Grassroots vs. Corporations | Professionally Queer | Pride Sex | Creeps | Consent | Kink | Your First Pride | Bringing People | Naked Boys Reading | Queer Liberation March | Fake Male Assistant Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Up, up, and away: this week we’re discussing our sex drives! What is the libido, what stokes it, what tempers it, and what can you do when yours doesn’t match your partner’s? Where’d It Go? | What Is It? | Responsive Desire | NRE | High/Medium/Low | Never Enough | Sex Begets Sex | Sex Industry | Boosting Desire | “Just Do It” | Testosterone | Toning It Down | Mismatches | Environment | Antidepressants | Asexuals | Polyamory | Talking to Doctors | Kink Drive | Punch in the Gut Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Do you see what I see? This week, we’re discussing the visual aspects of sex, and how the acts of looking and seeing (or not) play into our sexuality. MakeLoveNotPorn | Attraction | Arousal | Nudes | FaceTime and Skype | Eyes Closed | Anxiety | Enthusiasm | Watching | Romantic Sex | “Look At Me” | Fear Play | Helen’s Toybox | Blindfolds | Onoir | Glasses | Men vs. Women | Cultural Bias | Lighting | Phone Sex | Sex Spreadsheet Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Take a deep breath now: it’s time to discuss sex smells (and tastes)! We divulge our fave and least fave olfactory experiences during sex, our thoughts on our own smells and tastes, and more. How Important? | Mismatches | Artificial vs. Natural | Hormones | Preparation | Tasting Yourself | No Deodorant | Favorite Spots | Perfume: The Story of a Murderer | Bad Smells | Fantastical Fetishes | Dry Mouth | New Merch Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing what it means to be “good at sex” – physically, mentally, and otherwise. Blowjob Skills | Good At Sex? | Bad Chemistry | Communication | Knowing What You Want | Rhythm | Uncool | Comfort | Enthusiasm | Bad At Sex? | “Did You Come?” | Too Much Pressure | How to Improve | Porn & Cosmo | Are We Good? | Generosity | Room For Improvement | Notifications | Endurance | Impostor Syndrome | Ableism | Sex Hacks | Not Vocal | Signals | Bottomy Subs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

You asked, we answered: in this episode, we discuss queer etiquette quandaries, from pronouns to flagging to threesomes. Femme Flirting | Pronouns | Misgendering | Pre-Transition Photos | A Date? | Coming Out As Kinky | FWB Feelz | Workplace Flagging | Friend’s Ex | Fetishwear | Sex Party | Threesome Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate invited her partner Matt onto the show for an interview about sadism, hypnokink, productivity domming, and other aspects of their relationship! Dating a Podcaster | Topping For Catharsis | Sadism | Reassurance | Programmer Brain | Taking Notes | Sex Spreadsheet | Phone Sex | Hypnokink | Protocol | Productivity Domming | Sex Toys | Travel Sex | Sex Apps Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Warm up those vocal cords – this week we’re discussing sex noises! Hear us pontificate on our favorite and least favorite sounds, the best erotic audio mediums, and how we learned to let loose. Dudes | Feedback | Porn Audio | Solo Sounds | Active Listening | Learning | Gender | Performativity | Guidance | Factors | New Noises | Voyeurism & Exhibitionism | Favorite Sounds | Body Noises | Distractions | Memories | Bad Sounds | How to Start | Erotic Audio | Phone Sex | I’m Deep Throat Podcast | Forced Silence | Sub Missives Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy (early) 4/20, stoners! This week is our annual Highpotheticals episode: we’re gettin’ blazed and asking each other weird questions about sex, dating, and masturbating. Enjoy! Smoking Fetish | 3 Questions | Sex Toy Brands | TV’s On | Toys Personified | Cartoon Orgy | Famous Band | No Vibrators | Fictional Universe | Time Machine | Face Mask | Dong/Schlong/Wang | Shower vs. Floor | Sploshing | Silence | Pokémon | Sex Robot Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re digging into the comfort and excitement we glean from rituals and protocols! Hear us explain why we love these kinky traditions. Creatures of Habit | Listener Email | Protocol vs. Ritual | Pre-Date Rituals | Deciding Together | Too Many | Conference Protocol | To-Do List | Long-Distance | Airport | Day-to-Day | Service | Food | ‘50s Housewife | Daily Blowjob | Cleaning | Headspace Transition | Topping | Collars | Punishment | Public Play | Conflict | Check-Ins | Switches | Names | Personal Development Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We talk so much about sex that sometimes we forget to discuss non-sexual touch! In this episode, we’re getting into the fine points of cuddling, hugging, wrestling, foot rubs, and other types of not-explicitly-sexy touch. Hug Rejection | Wrestling | Dates | Touch Starvation | Gender Dynamics | Touch Barrier | Aftercare | Cuddle Parties | Goal-Oriented | Foot Worship | Feet & Gender | Family | Professional Cuddling | Nuzzling | Massage Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re busting more shitty sex-negative myths! Hear our hot takes on libido imbalances, biphobia, STI stigma, and more… Stereotypes | Sex Toys | Simple Dicks | Foreplay | What is Sex? | Sex Drive | Bisexuality | Changeable Orientation | Flagging | D/s Stereotypes | Mollena Williams | American Sex Podcast | Older Adults | Joan Price | STIs | Ella Dawson | Boners & Wetness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s time for us to bust some sex-negative myths! Hear us take down the concepts of virginity, slutty loose vaginas, and immoral masturbation, among others. Open Vag | Loose | Hymen | Virginity | Pain | Sexual Skill | Sex Too Early | Self-Respect | Premarital Sex | Wedding Night | Masturbation | Relationships Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re already basically in love, but this week we decided to ask each other the 36 questions recommended by psychologist Arthur Aron for falling in love with a stranger. Romantic friendships for the win! Dinner Date | Fame | Phone Anxiety | Perfect Day | Singing | Mind or Body | Secret Hunch | Commonalities | Gratitude | Childhood | Life Story | Quality or Ability | Crystal Ball | Ambitions | Accomplishments | Friendship | Memories | One Year | Love & Affection | Positive Characteristics | Family | Sharing | Must-Knows | Admiration | Embarrassing Moments | Crying | Jokes | Regrets | Fire | Death | Advice Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There's penetration, and then there's PENETRATION. This week we're discussing some of the more advanced ways you can stick stuff in your holes, like using huge toys or perhaps more than one! Top of the Rock | Limits | Tipping Point | Double Trouble | Fisting Kink | Masochism | Fisting Workshop | Size Training | VixSkin Randy | “Progress” | Sliquid Silk | Sutil Rich | Tips & Tricks | Glass & Steel | Pain | Getting “Loose” | Dick Extenders | Size Queen | Communication | Double Penetration | Threesome Jokes | Dick Shape | How to DP | Fleshjack Dildos | Tantus Uncut | Two in One Hole | Muffing | Sounding Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing breath play, one of the most controversial categories of kink acts! Choking and smothering and facefucking, oh my… Examples | Jay Wiseman’s Risk Assessment | RACK | Andre Shakti | Savage Love Column | Mouth-Covering | Solo Play | Boundary-Crossing | “Vanilla” Kink | Conditioning | Fear Play | Endurance | Intimacy | Facefucking | Alley | Topping | Sadistic Facesitting | Tickling | Laughter | Trampling | Orgasm | Smoking | Dominance | Water | Collar | Corset | Communication Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ah, crushes: bane of our existence, light of our lives. This week we're discussing how we handle crushes, both unrequited and perhaps-requited. And also Kate talks to herself for a few minutes in the middle because of a tech mishap. Coworkers | First Crushes | Compatibility | Idealization | Fun | Unattainable | Traits | Unrequited | Motivation | Self-Improvement | Getting Over It | Dime | CBT | Compliments | B99 | Bipolar | Ruts | Leading Them On | Kink | LTRs | Mating in Captivity Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Feeling smitten and also kind of like your brain's gonna explode? Sounds like New Relationship Energy! This week, we're discussing the pleasures and perils of NRE. Hypomania | Duration | Frequency | Obsessive Thoughts | Exhaustion | Annoying | Journaling | Listening | Non-Relationships | Altered State | Two At Once | Dopamine | Slow Start | Love | Casual Love | Jealousy | NRE-Killers | Dealbreakers | Demiromantic | Demisexual | Imbalance Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ready to get thoughtful and a bit heavy? This week we’re discussing our mental illnesses – depression, hypomania, anxiety, and more – and the ways they intersect with sex, kink, and dating. Sex Drive | Bipolar Type 2 | Mania | Consent | Safe, Sane, & Consensual | Hypersexuality | Responsive Desire | Dysphoria | Thought Spirals | Performativity | Trust | Crying | Self-Harm | Hello Cruel World | Carly Boyce | Harm Reduction | Masturbation | Altered State | Check-Ins | Compatibility | Low-Pressure Intimacy | Depressed Doms | D/s Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to be compatible with someone – for love, sex, friendship, or all of the above? This week we're discussing the concept of compatibility in all its many dimensions! Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more... Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Your sexual fantasies are an incredibly intimate window into your soul, and that's the topic of this week's episode! Find out what we fantasize about, why, and how. Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This episode is short and silly because we were both too sick to think! We discuss our best and worst sex of the past year, assess how we did on our 2018 sex goals, and set new ones for 2019. Illdorks | Best Sex | Gender Euphoria | Sadists | Best Kink | Dry-Humping | Cocks | Just One More | Worst Sex | Challenging Assumptions | Sexual Identity | Pleasure | CBT | Relaxing Sex | Topping & Domming | Submission | Apologies | No Expectations | Hypno-Topping | Roleplay | Pickup Artists | Storytelling Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What kind of year did you have, sex-wise? That’s the topic of this goofy, uncut (lolol) episode where we wrap up our 2018 and touch on what we’d like to try next. No Second Takes | Gender | Phone Sex | Spreadsheet | Number of Partners | Dating??? | Locations | Hotel Sex | Rope Suspension | Sexperiments | Watersports | Kink Satisfaction | Bootblacking | Hypnosis | Kicking | Femdom | Being Stepped On | Wax Play | Tickling | E-Stim | Subspace | Roleplay | Flirting | Vixen Gambler | Uberrime Night King | Building Open Relationships | Love’s Not Color Blind | Mind Play | The Artist & the Pervert Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Once “Where do babies come from?” has been asked and answered, obviously the next question to tackle is: “Where do kinks come from?” This week, we’re theorizing on the origins of kinks! Japanese Whiskey | Narnia | Kinks As Hobbies | Breaking Bones | Authority Figures | Trauma | Baking | Childhood | Samuel Hughes’ Kink Identity Development Theory | Perception vs. Identity | Born This Way? | Velvet | Winking | Conditioning | Cultivating Kinks | Getting Rid of Kinks | Giving Someone a Kink Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

As it’s holiday time, this week we’re discussing whether or not you should ever buy someone a sex toy, our fave and least fave toys we’ve received as gifts, and our top tips for getting through the holidays. Christmas Music | Should You? | How to Know | Impact Toys | Favorites | Worst/Weirdest | Gifts for Anyone | JeJoue MiMi | Sex Nerds | Kinksters | RodeoH | Thanks, I Hate It | GenderCat | NYTC Carter | Holigays | Going Home | Buddy Up | Introversion | Walrus Piece | Trends Like These Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We have lots of feelings 'n' fantasies about objectification, whether the sexual kind or the kind where you literally take on the role of an object. This week we discuss this contentious kink! Fucktoy | Sexual vs. Literal | Favorite Toy | Holding Still | Exhibitionism | Service | Human Furniture | Cum | Sex Doll | Humanity | Voyeur | Implements | Loving vs. Degrading | Enough to Make You Blush | Kneeling in Spirit | Outfits | Reclamation | Topping | Oral Servitude | Dicks | Baseball | Feminist | Dominants | Aftercare Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

While together in Toronto, we sat down for a discussion of platonic kink! Find out what it is, why we like it, and how to partake of it responsibly. Reasons Why | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Low Pressure | Context | Emotional Topping | Jealousy | Non-Monogamy | Impact | Arousal | Negotiation | Aftercare | Crying at a Party | Post-Breakup Comfort | Aftercare Dad | Rope Suspension | How to Ask | Service | Little Space | Sports Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Get out your leather boots, straitjackets, and stethoscopes: it’s time to talk about fetish objects! This week, we discuss some of our fave sexualized possessions, and the role they play in our fantasies and sexcapades. Leather Belt | Fetish vs. Kink | Talismans | Corset Fetish | “I Wish I Was…” | Boots | The Slave | Bootblacking | White T-Shirts | Suits | Sleeves Rolled Up | Pantyhose | Bible | Leather Care | Associations | Service | Underwear | Latex | Masks | Posture Collars | Heels Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Hold your horses: this week we’re talking about orgasm control! We discuss forced orgasms, chastity, abstinence, and various other facets of this fascinating kink. Definition | Fanfiction | Consent | Asking Permission | Power | Signposts | Chastity | Sex vs. Kink | Pre-Sex Abstinence | Forced Orgasms | Beginner Tips | Mindfulness | Solo Play | Abstinence Movements | Conditioning | Quiet | Multiple Partners | Orgasm Difficulties | Funkit Toys IndieGogo | Dildorks Tote Bag Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Take a peek inside our minds as we discuss voyeurism! Learn about ways we've explored this kink, why we find it hot, and what voyeuristic fantasies we hope to live out. Porn | Watersports | Consent | Interest | Play Party | Introversion & Anxiety | Voyeurism for Beginners | Closet Photographer | Subtle Signals | Ghost Sex | Fake Sleep | Group Sex | Trust | Service Bottom | Sunglasses | Dark Odyssey | Sex Clubs | High Masturbation | Getting Caught | The Marketplace | Sex Doll | Teaching & Learning | Adding D/s | In Public | 2 Voyeurs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play: what it is, why we like it, and what kinds we want to try. Scary Movies | Fear | Trust | Roleplay | Knives | Hook-Ups | Anxiety | Humiliation | Confrontation | Eye Contact | Njoy Eleven | Nipples | Body Mods | New Kinks | Intoxication | Aftercare | Predator/Prey | Vampires | Bullying | Naked Heart Festival Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Friend of the show Dick Wound, of the Off the Cuffs and Being There podcasts, joins Kate this week for a goofy discussion of intense kinks ranging from knives to piss to sweat! Dude From the Internet | Knife Play | Fear Play | Death | Off the Cuffs | Kink Origins | Balloon Fetish | Sweat & Smells | Food | YouTube | Vomiting | Watersports | “Basic Bitch” Kinks | Impact Play | Being There Podcast | Recording Setup | Why “Dick Wound”? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we're bustin' some myths about our fave relationship style: polyamory! Hear us get sassy about hierarchy, infidelity, stigma, and more... Hierarchical vs. Not | Solo Poly | Not Serious? | Sluts | Sex at Dawn | Cake | Failure | Break-Ups | Cheating | Whoever You Want | Synced Cycles | Ersties Podcast | Getting Permission | Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | “I Could Never!” | Jealousy | Processing | Distraction | The 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy | Comparisons | Orientation? | Building Open Relationships | Poly Role Models | Poly Land | I Am Poly and So Can You! | Love’s Not Color Blind Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Got a flair for the dramatic? This week we're rolling out our thoughts on roleplay: why we like it, what kinds we like, and whether or not it’s a strictly sexual thing for us. Psychology vs. Sensations | Cultural Narrative | Flirting | Bullying | High School | Taboo | Non-Sexual Kink | Riddle Club | Flow State | Homework | Hysteria | Con Non-Con | Massage | Outsmarting | A Month’s Worth of Phone Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

School is back in session, so we’re discussing sex ed! Find out what we learned about sex in school – and what we learned, um, elsewhere. Skipping Health Class | Gender Segregation | Anatomy | Gender | Shame | Consent | Doug Ford | Emotional Maturity | Kink | The Clit | Books | Erotica & Fanfiction | Cybersex | Eavesdropping | Podcasts | Bear Bergman | Emily Nagoski | Allison Moon | Dr. Liz Powell | Andy Izenson | Aida Manduley | Mollena Williams-Haas | Sinclair Sexsmith | Caitlin K. Roberts | Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg | Takeaways | Uproxx List Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

You asked, we answered! This week, we address listener questions on topics ranging from awkward set-ups to platonic kink to dancing dilemmas. Hope this helps! Unsolicited Advice | Vanilla Set-Ups | Dating While Kinky | Toy Storage | Hiding Toys | Toy Cleaning | Platonic Kink | Friends with Benefits | Polyamory Stigma | It’s Called Polyamory | Building Open Relationships | Poly Role Models | Dominant Anal Play | Grinding | Professor Crush Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Impact play has left quite a mark on us! This week we discuss why we like pain, how beginners can get into spanking, and the answers to all your burning questions about hittin' and bein' hit. Pain Slut | Thuddy vs. Stingy | Psychological Motivations | Topping | Floggers | Lexan Paddles | Sweet Spot | Weal & Breech | Pervertibles | Punishment Spankings | Safe Areas | Communication Tools | Bruises | Self-Spanking | Phone Sex | Workshops | Thin Walls | Chronic Pain | Testing Implements | Russian Bears | Face-Slapping | Vulva-Slapping | Kicking | What to Say | How to Take More Pain Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sexting is a truly modern sex act. This week we discuss our favorite sext-initiation methods, secret screenshot-ogling, and most treasured emojis, among other sextual topics! No Limits | Access Need | Jumping the Gun | Consent | Casual vs. Dedicated | Screenshots | Selfies | Limitations | Words | Yes/No/Maybe List | Keeping It Fresh | Fantasy vs. Desire | No Babies | Violet Blue’s Book | Aftercare | Read Receipts | Sexting Prompts | Roleplay | Professional Sexting | Predictive Text | Emojis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re reflecting on butt stuff in all its delightful forms: anal sex, rimming, butt plugs, and more! Girth Enthusiasm | Butt Barometer | Pain | Nausea | Physical vs. Psychological | Vulnerability | Beginner Tips | Asking For It | Mess & Prep | Topping | Njoy Toys | Tantus Uncut #1 | Condoms & Lube | What If You Don’t Like It? | Double Penetration | Rimming | Spanking | CockyBoys | Danny Wylde | Butt Plug Shoes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we revisit one of our fave topics: hand sex! We describe how we’re feelin’ about fingers and fists these days, and then answer listener questions about hands-on pleasure. Hand Puns | Dysphoria | Morning Handjobs | Fisting | Vixen Randy | Sliquid Silk | The Butters | Assumptions | Surprise! | Skills to Practice | Positions | Infinity Gauntlet | Fleshlight Quickshot | Tenga Eggs | Foreskin | Long Nails | Hand Pain | Asking for Lube | Roleplay | Hysteria | “Taking Too Long” | Other Hand Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centered pleasures. Blowjob-Friendly Lipsticks | Sex Ed Workshops | Dysphoria | Aslan Jaguar Harness | BJs As Aftercare | Dommy BJs | Hysterical Literature | Receiving | Threesome Fantasies | Eye Contact | Blowjob Porn | Rimming | Samantha Fraser | “You Only Live Once” | Surprise Rimming | Deepthroating | Heather Harmon | Criticism | Receiver Skills | Dirty Talk | Sliquid Swirl | Liberator Jaz | 8 Fellatio Fears Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.