The Dildorks

It’s time for us to bust some sex-negative myths! Hear us take down the concepts of virginity, slutty loose vaginas, and immoral masturbation, among others. Open Vag | Loose | Hymen | Virginity | Pain | Sexual Skill | Sex Too Early | Self-Respect | Premarital Sex | Wedding Night | Masturbation | Relationships Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re already basically in love, but this week we decided to ask each other the 36 questions recommended by psychologist Arthur Aron for falling in love with a stranger. Romantic friendships for the win! Dinner Date | Fame | Phone Anxiety | Perfect Day | Singing | Mind or Body | Secret Hunch | Commonalities | Gratitude | Childhood | Life Story | Quality or Ability | Crystal Ball | Ambitions | Accomplishments | Friendship | Memories | One Year | Love & Affection | Positive Characteristics | Family | Sharing | Must-Knows | Admiration | Embarrassing Moments | Crying | Jokes | Regrets | Fire | Death | Advice Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There's penetration, and then there's PENETRATION. This week we're discussing some of the more advanced ways you can stick stuff in your holes, like using huge toys or perhaps more than one! Top of the Rock | Limits | Tipping Point | Double Trouble | Fisting Kink | Masochism | Fisting Workshop | Size Training | VixSkin Randy | “Progress” | Sliquid Silk | Sutil Rich | Tips & Tricks | Glass & Steel | Pain | Getting “Loose” | Dick Extenders | Size Queen | Communication | Double Penetration | Threesome Jokes | Dick Shape | How to DP | Fleshjack Dildos | Tantus Uncut | Two in One Hole | Muffing | Sounding Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing breath play, one of the most controversial categories of kink acts! Choking and smothering and facefucking, oh my… Examples | Jay Wiseman’s Risk Assessment | RACK | Andre Shakti | Savage Love Column | Mouth-Covering | Solo Play | Boundary-Crossing | “Vanilla” Kink | Conditioning | Fear Play | Endurance | Intimacy | Facefucking | Alley | Topping | Sadistic Facesitting | Tickling | Laughter | Trampling | Orgasm | Smoking | Dominance | Water | Collar | Corset | Communication Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ah, crushes: bane of our existence, light of our lives. This week we're discussing how we handle crushes, both unrequited and perhaps-requited. And also Kate talks to herself for a few minutes in the middle because of a tech mishap. Coworkers | First Crushes | Compatibility | Idealization | Fun | Unattainable | Traits | Unrequited | Motivation | Self-Improvement | Getting Over It | Dime | CBT | Compliments | B99 | Bipolar | Ruts | Leading Them On | Kink | LTRs | Mating in Captivity Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Feeling smitten and also kind of like your brain's gonna explode? Sounds like New Relationship Energy! This week, we're discussing the pleasures and perils of NRE. Hypomania | Duration | Frequency | Obsessive Thoughts | Exhaustion | Annoying | Journaling | Listening | Non-Relationships | Altered State | Two At Once | Dopamine | Slow Start | Love | Casual Love | Jealousy | NRE-Killers | Dealbreakers | Demiromantic | Demisexual | Imbalance Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ready to get thoughtful and a bit heavy? This week we’re discussing our mental illnesses – depression, hypomania, anxiety, and more – and the ways they intersect with sex, kink, and dating. Sex Drive | Bipolar Type 2 | Mania | Consent | Safe, Sane, & Consensual | Hypersexuality | Responsive Desire | Dysphoria | Thought Spirals | Performativity | Trust | Crying | Self-Harm | Hello Cruel World | Carly Boyce | Harm Reduction | Masturbation | Altered State | Check-Ins | Compatibility | Low-Pressure Intimacy | Depressed Doms | D/s Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to be compatible with someone – for love, sex, friendship, or all of the above? This week we're discussing the concept of compatibility in all its many dimensions! Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more... Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Your sexual fantasies are an incredibly intimate window into your soul, and that's the topic of this week's episode! Find out what we fantasize about, why, and how. Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This episode is short and silly because we were both too sick to think! We discuss our best and worst sex of the past year, assess how we did on our 2018 sex goals, and set new ones for 2019. Illdorks | Best Sex | Gender Euphoria | Sadists | Best Kink | Dry-Humping | Cocks | Just One More | Worst Sex | Challenging Assumptions | Sexual Identity | Pleasure | CBT | Relaxing Sex | Topping & Domming | Submission | Apologies | No Expectations | Hypno-Topping | Roleplay | Pickup Artists | Storytelling Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What kind of year did you have, sex-wise? That’s the topic of this goofy, uncut (lolol) episode where we wrap up our 2018 and touch on what we’d like to try next. No Second Takes | Gender | Phone Sex | Spreadsheet | Number of Partners | Dating??? | Locations | Hotel Sex | Rope Suspension | Sexperiments | Watersports | Kink Satisfaction | Bootblacking | Hypnosis | Kicking | Femdom | Being Stepped On | Wax Play | Tickling | E-Stim | Subspace | Roleplay | Flirting | Vixen Gambler | Uberrime Night King | Building Open Relationships | Love’s Not Color Blind | Mind Play | The Artist & the Pervert Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Once “Where do babies come from?” has been asked and answered, obviously the next question to tackle is: “Where do kinks come from?” This week, we’re theorizing on the origins of kinks! Japanese Whiskey | Narnia | Kinks As Hobbies | Breaking Bones | Authority Figures | Trauma | Baking | Childhood | Samuel Hughes’ Kink Identity Development Theory | Perception vs. Identity | Born This Way? | Velvet | Winking | Conditioning | Cultivating Kinks | Getting Rid of Kinks | Giving Someone a Kink Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

As it’s holiday time, this week we’re discussing whether or not you should ever buy someone a sex toy, our fave and least fave toys we’ve received as gifts, and our top tips for getting through the holidays. Christmas Music | Should You? | How to Know | Impact Toys | Favorites | Worst/Weirdest | Gifts for Anyone | JeJoue MiMi | Sex Nerds | Kinksters | RodeoH | Thanks, I Hate It | GenderCat | NYTC Carter | Holigays | Going Home | Buddy Up | Introversion | Walrus Piece | Trends Like These Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We have lots of feelings 'n' fantasies about objectification, whether the sexual kind or the kind where you literally take on the role of an object. This week we discuss this contentious kink! Fucktoy | Sexual vs. Literal | Favorite Toy | Holding Still | Exhibitionism | Service | Human Furniture | Cum | Sex Doll | Humanity | Voyeur | Implements | Loving vs. Degrading | Enough to Make You Blush | Kneeling in Spirit | Outfits | Reclamation | Topping | Oral Servitude | Dicks | Baseball | Feminist | Dominants | Aftercare Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

While together in Toronto, we sat down for a discussion of platonic kink! Find out what it is, why we like it, and how to partake of it responsibly. Reasons Why | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Low Pressure | Context | Emotional Topping | Jealousy | Non-Monogamy | Impact | Arousal | Negotiation | Aftercare | Crying at a Party | Post-Breakup Comfort | Aftercare Dad | Rope Suspension | How to Ask | Service | Little Space | Sports Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Get out your leather boots, straitjackets, and stethoscopes: it’s time to talk about fetish objects! This week, we discuss some of our fave sexualized possessions, and the role they play in our fantasies and sexcapades. Leather Belt | Fetish vs. Kink | Talismans | Corset Fetish | “I Wish I Was…” | Boots | The Slave | Bootblacking | White T-Shirts | Suits | Sleeves Rolled Up | Pantyhose | Bible | Leather Care | Associations | Service | Underwear | Latex | Masks | Posture Collars | Heels Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Hold your horses: this week we’re talking about orgasm control! We discuss forced orgasms, chastity, abstinence, and various other facets of this fascinating kink. Definition | Fanfiction | Consent | Asking Permission | Power | Signposts | Chastity | Sex vs. Kink | Pre-Sex Abstinence | Forced Orgasms | Beginner Tips | Mindfulness | Solo Play | Abstinence Movements | Conditioning | Quiet | Multiple Partners | Orgasm Difficulties | Funkit Toys IndieGogo | Dildorks Tote Bag Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Take a peek inside our minds as we discuss voyeurism! Learn about ways we've explored this kink, why we find it hot, and what voyeuristic fantasies we hope to live out. Porn | Watersports | Consent | Interest | Play Party | Introversion & Anxiety | Voyeurism for Beginners | Closet Photographer | Subtle Signals | Ghost Sex | Fake Sleep | Group Sex | Trust | Service Bottom | Sunglasses | Dark Odyssey | Sex Clubs | High Masturbation | Getting Caught | The Marketplace | Sex Doll | Teaching & Learning | Adding D/s | In Public | 2 Voyeurs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play: what it is, why we like it, and what kinds we want to try. Scary Movies | Fear | Trust | Roleplay | Knives | Hook-Ups | Anxiety | Humiliation | Confrontation | Eye Contact | Njoy Eleven | Nipples | Body Mods | New Kinks | Intoxication | Aftercare | Predator/Prey | Vampires | Bullying | Naked Heart Festival Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Friend of the show Dick Wound, of the Off the Cuffs and Being There podcasts, joins Kate this week for a goofy discussion of intense kinks ranging from knives to piss to sweat! Dude From the Internet | Knife Play | Fear Play | Death | Off the Cuffs | Kink Origins | Balloon Fetish | Sweat & Smells | Food | YouTube | Vomiting | Watersports | “Basic Bitch” Kinks | Impact Play | Being There Podcast | Recording Setup | Why “Dick Wound”? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we're bustin' some myths about our fave relationship style: polyamory! Hear us get sassy about hierarchy, infidelity, stigma, and more... Hierarchical vs. Not | Solo Poly | Not Serious? | Sluts | Sex at Dawn | Cake | Failure | Break-Ups | Cheating | Whoever You Want | Synced Cycles | Ersties Podcast | Getting Permission | Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | “I Could Never!” | Jealousy | Processing | Distraction | The 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy | Comparisons | Orientation? | Building Open Relationships | Poly Role Models | Poly Land | I Am Poly and So Can You! | Love’s Not Color Blind Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Got a flair for the dramatic? This week we're rolling out our thoughts on roleplay: why we like it, what kinds we like, and whether or not it’s a strictly sexual thing for us. Psychology vs. Sensations | Cultural Narrative | Flirting | Bullying | High School | Taboo | Non-Sexual Kink | Riddle Club | Flow State | Homework | Hysteria | Con Non-Con | Massage | Outsmarting | A Month’s Worth of Phone Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

School is back in session, so we’re discussing sex ed! Find out what we learned about sex in school – and what we learned, um, elsewhere. Skipping Health Class | Gender Segregation | Anatomy | Gender | Shame | Consent | Doug Ford | Emotional Maturity | Kink | The Clit | Books | Erotica & Fanfiction | Cybersex | Eavesdropping | Podcasts | Bear Bergman | Emily Nagoski | Allison Moon | Dr. Liz Powell | Andy Izenson | Aida Manduley | Mollena Williams-Haas | Sinclair Sexsmith | Caitlin K. Roberts | Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg | Takeaways | Uproxx List Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

You asked, we answered! This week, we address listener questions on topics ranging from awkward set-ups to platonic kink to dancing dilemmas. Hope this helps! Unsolicited Advice | Vanilla Set-Ups | Dating While Kinky | Toy Storage | Hiding Toys | Toy Cleaning | Platonic Kink | Friends with Benefits | Polyamory Stigma | It’s Called Polyamory | Building Open Relationships | Poly Role Models | Dominant Anal Play | Grinding | Professor Crush Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Impact play has left quite a mark on us! This week we discuss why we like pain, how beginners can get into spanking, and the answers to all your burning questions about hittin' and bein' hit. Pain Slut | Thuddy vs. Stingy | Psychological Motivations | Topping | Floggers | Lexan Paddles | Sweet Spot | Weal & Breech | Pervertibles | Punishment Spankings | Safe Areas | Communication Tools | Bruises | Self-Spanking | Phone Sex | Workshops | Thin Walls | Chronic Pain | Testing Implements | Russian Bears | Face-Slapping | Vulva-Slapping | Kicking | What to Say | How to Take More Pain Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sexting is a truly modern sex act. This week we discuss our favorite sext-initiation methods, secret screenshot-ogling, and most treasured emojis, among other sextual topics! No Limits | Access Need | Jumping the Gun | Consent | Casual vs. Dedicated | Screenshots | Selfies | Limitations | Words | Yes/No/Maybe List | Keeping It Fresh | Fantasy vs. Desire | No Babies | Violet Blue’s Book | Aftercare | Read Receipts | Sexting Prompts | Roleplay | Professional Sexting | Predictive Text | Emojis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re reflecting on butt stuff in all its delightful forms: anal sex, rimming, butt plugs, and more! Girth Enthusiasm | Butt Barometer | Pain | Nausea | Physical vs. Psychological | Vulnerability | Beginner Tips | Asking For It | Mess & Prep | Topping | Njoy Toys | Tantus Uncut #1 | Condoms & Lube | What If You Don’t Like It? | Double Penetration | Rimming | Spanking | CockyBoys | Danny Wylde | Butt Plug Shoes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we revisit one of our fave topics: hand sex! We describe how we’re feelin’ about fingers and fists these days, and then answer listener questions about hands-on pleasure. Hand Puns | Dysphoria | Morning Handjobs | Fisting | Vixen Randy | Sliquid Silk | The Butters | Assumptions | Surprise! | Skills to Practice | Positions | Infinity Gauntlet | Fleshlight Quickshot | Tenga Eggs | Foreskin | Long Nails | Hand Pain | Asking for Lube | Roleplay | Hysteria | “Taking Too Long” | Other Hand Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centered pleasures. Blowjob-Friendly Lipsticks | Sex Ed Workshops | Dysphoria | Aslan Jaguar Harness | BJs As Aftercare | Dommy BJs | Hysterical Literature | Receiving | Threesome Fantasies | Eye Contact | Blowjob Porn | Rimming | Samantha Fraser | “You Only Live Once” | Surprise Rimming | Deepthroating | Heather Harmon | Criticism | Receiver Skills | Dirty Talk | Sliquid Swirl | Liberator Jaz | 8 Fellatio Fears Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It's our 100th episode!! We celebrated by taking one of those weird 100-point purity tests to determine which one of us is sluttier. Any guesses?! Accountability | Who’s More Pure? | Dates | Dancing | Kissing | Positions | Birthday Hickeys | Strippers | Drinking | Drugs | Caressing & Fondling | Manipulation | Sauna-ing | Intercourse | Lube | Butt Stuff | Sex Workers | Masturbation | Exhibitionism | Crossdressing | Giveaway Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Here's our live show from the 2018 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit! We discussed the fine art of romancing sex bloggers, from DM-slides to consent practices to sex toy reviewing. Assumptions | To Flirt or Not to Flirt? | Flirty Fans | Mistakes | “Hi” | Consent Issues | Manic Sexy Dream Person | Negotiating What Gets Shared | Sex Toy Reviewing | Tinder Wingwomen | Peepshow Toys | The Butters | Coming Out as a Sex Blogger | Voices | Uncomfortable Questions | Unsafe Toys | Outlets in Tents | Different in Person Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Let’s talk gender, folks! This week we’re discussing masculinity, femininity, why they’re good, why they’re bad, and how we hope to see them change. Crop Tops | Gender Roles | Chivalry | Public Kink | Masculinity | Non-Binary | Public Bathrooms | Bowties & Snapbacks | Pain & Power of Femininity | Brendon Urie | Jack Harkness | Flamboyant Men | Brooklyn Nine-Nine | Toxic Masculinity | Consent & Desire | Toxic Femininity | Internalized Misogyny | The Future of Gender | Split Peaches | Binders | Body Hair Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing the intersections between group sex, public sex, and exhibitionism! Find out how to navigate a play party, what constitutes an orgy, and what group-sex activities we hope to try someday. Dildo Expulsion | Tapping Out | Gangbangs | Orgy Threshold | MGS | Negotiation | Spin the Bottle | Anxieties | First Times | Goofiness | Play Party Etiquette | Scheduling | Getting Consent | Saying No | Fisting | Jerkception | Advice | Kink vs. Sex | Spanking Motivations | #GroupSexGoals | Risk of Getting Caught | DP | Teaching Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We're joined this week by the lovely Marcia Baczynski, speaker, writer, coach, and sexual communication expert! We touched on consent, flirting, long-distance dominance, and much more. Good Girl Recovery Program | Field Guide to Consent | Flirting | Topping Without Toys | Punctuation | Saying the Big Scary Thing | Sharing vs. Negotiation | Vibrator-Shaming | Operator’s Manual | NRE | Desires Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What sex acts do you consider underrated? This week, we’re rhapsodizing the unsung heroes of our sex lives: fingerbanging, the thigh grind, making out, and more! What Counts As Underrated? | Eva from “What’s My Body Doing?” | Tinder | Making Out | The Thigh Grind | Thigh Harnesses | Knee-Dicks | Dry-Humping | Teasing & Sneaking | Roleplay | Hand Sex | Fisting | The Butters | Flaccid Dicks | Toys | Masturbating Together | Nipple Play | Dildo BJs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sometimes your sex life is about the sex you’re NOT having… This week we’re discussing dry spells, celibacy, and other sexless situations! Sexting & Phone Sex | Longest Dry Spell | Tinder, Etc. | Craving Sex | Date Activities | Sex Distress | Trans Stuff | Masturbation | What Helps? | Sqweel | Sex Education | Toy Reviewing | Deliberate Celibacy | Sexperiments | Introversion | Asexuality | Incels | How to Become More Attractive Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re picking the brain of writer and kink educator Sinclair Sexsmith! We touched on punishment, protocol, confidence, consent, and so much more. Power | Protocol | Check-Ins | Punishment | Submissive Playground | Consequences | Fears | Debriefing | Palette of Permission | Confidence | Receiving | Learning | Wheel of Consent Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to “come out” and why is it important to us? This week we’re telling our coming-out stories and discussing the intricacies of this rite of passage. Definition | Co-Optation? | Being Out | Bi Erasure | Kink | Biphobia | Trans | Poly | Partners | Mental Illness | Tattoos | Regrets | Advice | Parental Support | Paving the Way | Irrelevance Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, Bex is chatting with YouTuber and kink sexpert Pup Amp and educator and queer historian Pup Dane about their mutual interest: puppy play! Getting Started | Basics | D/s Dynamics | Pup on Pup | Play & Silliness | Headspace | Gear | Bondage | Hypnosis | Chastity | Scent | Training | Treats | Bonding | Studies | Community | Pun Game | Compatibility | Collars | Breeds Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate is joined by DJ Pynchon, blogger, author, and erotic hypnosis enthusiast, for a lively discussion about hypnotic amnesia, winking kink, and lots more! Mind Play | Media Influences | Puns | Misconceptions | Negotiation | Hypnotic Amnesia | Consensual Non-Consent | Company Name | Ethics | Therapeutic? | Face-Slapping Induction | Inductions | Scene Structure | Aftercare | Fractionation | Self-Hypnosis | Going Blank | Winking Kink | Hypnowink | Hot Sauce | Kinky Trifles | MindQuake Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex has been on testosterone for a whole year! This week, Kate interviews him about how his body, brain, and sexuality have changed over the past year. Greedy | Deciding to Start | Self-Injecting | Coming Out | Mania | Genital Growth | Body Hair | Fat | Face Shape | Body Smells | Social Energy | Assertiveness | Anger | Voice | Orgasms | Attractions | Porn | Fantasies | Advice Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we're having a risk-aware discussion of sex and altered states: doin' sex and kink stuff while drunk, high, sleepy, and more. Find out how we navigate these complex states and the scenes we like to incorporate them into! Consent Issues | Agency | Negotiation | High Sex vs. Drunk Sex | Trance | Consensual Non-Consent | Suggestibility | Pain | Masturbation | Harder Drugs | Sleepy Sex | Arousal Non-Concordance | Little Space Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we answer the question: how do you communicate well, and with love? Find out our “love languages,” our best tips for giving good compliments, and why we hate unsolicited advice from Twitter strangers. Communication Degree | Clarity | Empathy | Active Listening | Compliments | Love Languages | Problem-Solving | Texting | Strangers Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex just launched his new porn store as Billy Lore, so this week we’re talking about making porn! What’s fun about doing cam shows? Which porn stars do we admire? How did we pick our porn names? Tune in to find out! ManyVids Store | Porn Names | CherryStems | Hella Positive Pinup | Spit | PervCave Productions | Dip Films | Ciné Sinclaire | Apprehensions | Crash Pad Series | Bonus Hole Boys | QueerPorn.TV | Tina Horn | Beautiful Agony | Desirability | Exhibitionism | Cam Shows | Performativity | Cute Asshole | Jerking Off to Yourself | Dream Scene Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

CONTENT NOTES for this episode: consensually roleplaying as a little girl, little boy, daddy, mommy, or siblings; incest roleplay and actual incest; child abuse; adult baby roleplay and diapers; teenage sex; consensual and nonconsensual bullying; nonconsensual spanking; student and teacher roleplays; coerced sex; prison; homophobia and homophobic slurs; drunk sex; high sex; rape fantasies This week we're discussing a complex and controversial kink: age play! Find out why we think it's hot, some of the ways it can be problematic, and what extra emotional safety measures we recommend for these types of dynamics. Taboo | Incest | Bullying | Trauma | Spanking | Shame | Content Warnings | Nurturing | Corruption of Innocence | Puberty | Girl Bullies | Psychology | Break-Ups & Aftercare | Not My Ageplay | Regression | Other Littles | Mommy Doms | Events Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It's our traditional yearly 4/20 episode! Hear us get blazed and debate the merits of clone sex, impact toys as zombie murder weapons, and whether or not we'd fuck Buzz Lightyear, among other things. Clones | Zombie Apocalypse | Sex Toys | Googly Eyes | New Kinks | Muffins | Parents & Porn | Aliens | Monsters, Inc. & Toy Story | Workshops | Ideal Porn Scene Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re gigglin’ with sex blogger Mx Nillin about their ingenious blog series “Mx Nillin Fucks,” wherein they masturbate with various weird objects. This conversation was so fun! Girl Cock | Mx Nillin Fucks | Apple Pie | Teddy Bear | Safety | Absurdity | Peanut Butter Sandwich | Pool Noodle | Lube | Jell-O | Hard Limits | Clone-a-Willy | Tom of Finland Dual Dicks | Future Ambitions | Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking with Dawn Serra, sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and founder of the Explore More Summit! We chatted about parenting, play, self-acceptance, and more. Explore More Summit | Watersports | Curiosity & Play | Barbara Carrellas | Sex-Positive Parenting | MakeLoveNotPorn.TV | Karen BK Chan | Sinclair Sexsmith | Coming Out | Self-Love & Diet Culture | Interviewing | Fun Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In part 2 of our sex educator FAQ, learn how to get good at dirty talk, how we got so confident talking about sex, and what the Dildorks TARDIS would look like, among other things. American Idiot | Squirting | TARDIS | Dirty Talk | Yes/No/Maybe List | Sexting | Confidence Journey | Spicing Things Up | Normal | Sensate Focus BJ | Dark Odyssey | AltSex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.